u/ta-friend-dateissue I treated my wife's friend to some fine dining while my wife was out of town and now my wife thinks I dined inside her friend. Plus one update. #reddit #redditupdates #redditstories
OP made a mistake by having a “dinner date“ with a woman other than his wife and without her knowledge. As a man, I know I would be very upset if my wife had a dinner date with another man without my knowledge. There are things you just do not do when you are married
My sentiments exactly. As a married man I would never ever do what he did, no matter how good and pure one's intentions are. Even with the purest of intentions and absolutely no ulterior motives of cheating, it still just looks bad and sends all the wrong signals to everyone else. Especially nowadays when things get posted all over social media. Bad move. He should have just stopped at a fast food drive-thru and kept it brief and cordial.
@@DistortedDan_ Why should he shut up? He is perfectly reasonable. Yeah, he should've probably told her something about the pictures, but otherwise it was perfectly fine.
Op made mistakes but it's pretty obvious he was just Bing nice. Also of he was cheating do you think he'd of allowed the pictures? He let her know it was all transporting the issue here is more Amanda imho
Yeah this is not over, she still is mad at him, just put in the back burner Dude is indeed clueless, his biggest mistake was the: ''we are already here, we might as well'' when they got to the restaurant other than that, the 2nd biggest problem is the mom and her insecurity projecting, thats not healthy, and i can see it creating problems in the future.
@@JustinAdamson270 im not tho? Im not saying hes a bad guy, im just saying u gotta think before doing something, after seeing the restaurant his brain should have go: ''Man this is too fancy for a casual meal, lets go look for a dinner'' thats it
Dude could of want to any fast food place drive-thru for a quick meal but went to a fancy restaurant and then stayed for over an hour dude has to be thickheaded.
Basically, OP is in trouble because he has no ill will or ulterior motives, and didn’t see it as anything beyond having dinner with and being friendly with his wife’s friend. Basically, it didn’t seem like a problem to him, because he wasn’t doing anything sneaky. His wife’s mom then decided that he’s cheating, and wife ran with it. If wife is still mad, it might be a good idea to completely cut off seeing any of wife’s friends, because he’s not allowed to be who he is with them - a generous and friendly person - and doesn’t want to get crucified for being nice.
OP had one job: drive Amanda home from the airport. That turned a into stop at a drive-through so Amanda could pick up dinner to eat at home, by herself, later. Instead, OP took Amanda out to dinner at a fancy restaurant. OP, you took another woman out on a date. That's why you are in this fix now.
ehhhh OP is either playing the victim or incredibly thick. Granted, I can see how someone could do something like this out of generosity and not intend to overstep boundaries. But, by the same token, how thick can you be. You "communicated" with your wife by telling her that you were going to get dinner - she probably thought that you meant say McDonalds or some normal restaurant, not a fancy Italian restaurant. And the context? A single friend with her husband at a fancy Italian restarauant? Saying "Wow we have so much in common and idk why I'm not friends with Amanda"? Dude, OP isn't necessarily the AH, just an incredibly thick and slow idiot but c'mon man, you really gotta use your brain at least once. Also the victim card is well overplayed. Wifes reaction was completely justified. OP trying to downplay the whole incident is just shifty as fuck
@@danieldimov8625 It's not about being nice, it's about reading a room and thinking ahead. Today everything can be twisted out of proportions and used against you, no matter the intention.
