"I've been hit before" | Closer | CLIP 

10

10

10

10

10*****

Hope your husband gets better. Sending love ❤

Yeah but me processing emos is like this is y I hate humans. I really don't think I'm some psychic & I'm this highly intuitive person. It's just ppl do have patterns, histories, & holes in their stories that legitimately don't make sense. Start piecing ish together & then in my in short not permafd... Head, it's like ugh! Ppl r so FN predictable! How the f am I supposed to react then? Practice surprise face? Bc I feel nothing... I saw it coming before it happened anyways. Me moments & moments later: I really honestly have no clue y I'm triggered by certain things but I'm in the future now & wtf. Navigating to find my own core of things is like yeah. My ish must be deep deep. It's no where even near surface level.

@@ahhwe-any7434 Well there is an old saying that you can't cheat an honest man. We are all full of varying degrees of facade and suppressed emotion. I have a lot of work to do in that regard, but I do know that the more sincere you are as a person, the more able you are to detect sincerity or lack of it. It's sort of like how dogs bark at one person at the door and not another, they can sense energy and the emotional condition just emanating from each person, regardless of how that person's facade may fool people. The way to get more sincere is to be truthful with ourselves about our own true emotions. So when we let ourselves truly feel all of our actual feelings in totality, we increase our capacity to feel, and become inherently more honest. We are not lying to ourselves. I think mental illness comes from trying to suppress what is actually there, or judge it, instead of just allowing the emotion to flow and be released, like a baby does, which is a much shorter process. You can see how our grief and emotion is suppressed from birth until we are a mess as an adult. I am a work in progress but I have noticed this to be true in the emotional work I've done so far.

@@ahhwe-any7434 you're also very predictable, but you won't admit your faults to yourself when analyzing yourself, because you don't actually want to know and admit the truth, because the truth hurts. Just like people who suspect their partners of cheating don't want it to be true, so they rationalize their sad reality to a point where it hurts the least at that point and time. It's very easy to lie, to yourself and others, and to live in those lies. It's a lot harder to be genuine. And "genuine" is what your body wants, but what your mind walks around in chase of easier pleasure.

@@Bambim8 Well said.

Not anymore after the first time.

Interesting I never interpreted it that way. She seems drained and annoyed to me.

yeah she looks gaunt

she had it coming, women like this should be called out more for embracing this ho culture.

She looked like a woman who had been found out.

I 100 percent agree!

If you love them it hurts horribly, But I was lucky I guess, when my husband cheated I just bowed out. I'm not a man, but I know what its like.

Because people want what they can’t have. If they have a whole group of people they can’t have then that will just make them want them more. It is a sad fact.

@@caseyj779 weird. I don’t relate. I don’t understand most people.

Please tell me he’s your EX husband now

@@plaplaks Unfortunately, no. We have 2 kids. I forgave him. I do love him. It's so hard to walk away. I just want to make things work. But he made his choice too, and says he'd rather be with me. So for now it's just about my forgiveness and we try not to make it hard on each others hearts. No bitter revenge. Just peace & love.

​@@AlishaPurkishunny.....you don't deserve this shit....smfh women these days will endure any and everything bc of their love for a man, but hunny, what is there to love about him if he doesn't truly love you the same way back?

There's always that ex in the background somewhere. People who do this are usually narcs. They will keep one person in the loop to triangulate against. It's a manipulation tactic. My first husband had one and as soon as we divorced guess who he moved in? I'm just glad I didn't waste my life on an lie. I was 21 so I had no clue, but it pretty much kept repeating until I just put myself first and I am single now. Two of my ex boyfriends came back to try again WHILE they had a girlfriend. When I rejected them they married their girlfriends. I'd hate to be that woman that was settled for. I said nothing because the truth would be rather hurtful. Better for them to live in blissfull ignorance. The truth is ugly but I don't mind seeing it for what it is. Human nature is ugly in it's core which is why we escape into a fantasy. It's safer in a fantasy. ❤

@@AlishaPurkis yikes girl you need to stand up, cuz he’s gonna do it again. If not now then 5 years from now. You can’t let bad self esteem keep you in situations that are making it worse for you. Trust me, if he fully admitted to you that he has feelings for somebody else yet is settling down with you instead just because, he’s going to end up resenting you in the near future. That sort of resentment could easily turn to violence. You let him get away with it once so now he knows he can take full advantage of you because he knows you won’t leave him. Do yourself a favor girl and leave this man. Imagine your daughter telling you that she’s with a man who openly admitted that he had feelings for other women. Imagine having to explain to your daughter in the future that you spent most your life being miserable and insecure over some guy.

Fr? A theather play?

Well he ends up taking her back and they stay married 😂

Actually he begs for her to come back to him 😂

@@ttt69420 actually it is the point. It shows that hate can be just as powerful as love. You still carry that person with you, and obsess over them. You’re not over them and you are held hostage by your own rage. So yeah it’s not easier 😂

@@amberviolet2236 No, it isn't the point. What you're stating is the reality. The point of wanting to know every detail is as previously stated in the original comment. It not working is irrelevant. The fact that it doesn't work is exactly why it's so self-destructive.

@@ttt69420 the point is that tactic is not successful. It actually creates a stronger attachment, which is demonstrated in the film. So again, my point stands.

There were only 4 actors in the entire movie.. 🤣🙈

That's the comment I was pulling for her to LEAVE HIM ASAP ("Because I'm a Fucking CAVEMAN"). And, then she doesn't even have to choose or feel guilty (or lonely) anymore. ("Now, you can Fucking leave"!) Thank You and Thank You ... for letting her GO! And, not making her stay to feel lonely or guilty for one day longer. (Without harming her ... kudos.) Now, they BOTH know exactly what each did WRONG ... and how badly they BOTH hurt each other. Beyond Repair. Irreconcilable Differences. He can't/won't change who he is. She can't change what she did. Sometimes ... it's just over. No going back. No more pretending or pretending ... nothings wrong. Can only hope they both learned something going forward. How could they not? Ending it right here.

It did

Thanks for the memories

It was adapted from the play (which was obvious at some moments), so give credit to the play.

😂😂😂😂

So clever

One of Fallout Boy lyrics has a line from this movie too

Maybe if you’re a shitty person

Speak for yourself, I’ve never cheated on anyone and I’m 35. I’ve been in several long term relationships. And I never will cheat.

​@@whitb62thank u for being the sane voice here, u were much nicer with ur words than I woulda been with this idiot that thinks every other Joe is a cheater like themselves

​@@whitb62Same and I'm 31. I could never put someone through this. Believe me, I thought about it when I got cheated on but I couldn't even go through with it. Just couldn't live with myself.

​@whitb62 u misses the point and stopped reading the comment (or maybe it was edited) OP said we've all been hurt and we've all hurt someone else - intentionally or not - that's a very true statement. OP did not literally mean we are all cheaters. And "playing" ain't always cheating it's simply wasting someone's time or using them to accomplish a goal or a million other things. . .

What does that even mean?

@@juliennesoniamalabomakong9021It means I found this response to be so random and over the top that it made me laugh but if you meant the caveman thing I have no idea

@@juliennesoniamalabomakong9021means a primate caveman brain i guess.

@@FacebookQueen He's being sarcastic. She's making out that he is focusing on the sex and nothing else (like a primitive caveman), and his response is mocking her and kinda being like, 'yeah, you're right, the issue is with me 🙄'

😂

Apparently for “poly” people it’s an amazing turn on 😂

@@GoOutside321 "poly" people call sex "love".

@@conatcha Well, funny how we don’t love to share our cars, clothes, children and dogs, why sex partners?

it is and it’s scary. because how do we then fall in love again when we’ve been so hurt?

@@conatchaso my partner whom I’m in a poly relationship with, single handedly nursed me back to health from chronic illness, blends my medicine into my food so I can’t taste it, takes me to the beach, massages my pains and makes me- after a life of pain and suffering feel like the most beautiful loved person anyone could. You know not what you say. So forgive you, but you are ignorant, and know nothing of our lives.

Victim blaming, great!

​@@mehakverma7043okay, let's blame the cheater then. What exactly does that do for you? They're going to carry on living their lives and here you are sulking and falling into a downward spiral of hatred and depression. Well, good luck with that.

@@parth281995 Betrayal is the last circle of hell. It's the absolute worst thing you could possibly do to someone. I'm not saying stay stuck in a hopeless relationship, I'm saying LEAVE instead of going behind their back to sleep with someone else!

The double standards

Right?

@@queeneliane7745 exactly sis. With a prostitute at his hotel but she's the called the who're.

While I get your point, he only effed the woman. She was emotionally and physically cheating him for over a year.

@@ADcrackerjack I have a point. You have no point. Don't engage further with me if this is your level of reasoning and logic.

As a woman, I have been cheated on by every man I have ever loved ever I hate to tell you this, but men prefer to cheat more than women and if a man does it they’re a stud they’re excepted if a woman does it they’re a slut. I don’t understand the standard and I never ever will. I never cheated on the men I loved but every single one of them cheated on me I would’ve done anything for my daughter, I did do everything including give him the house that I owned. I walked away. I gave him my car. I gave him the house. I gave him everything. It was my house. I took my daughter and I left because he cheated on me over and over and over and then he called me crazy When I called him, I am so tired of men whining about women. What about men that don’t support their children ever I’m so sick of men making excuses for how pathetic they are. I’m sorry, but I don’t trust men I never have and I never will My father cheated on my mother. I have never had an honest man in my life, and my son is a not a very good man either… even though I raised him as a single parent, and I taught him he never puts his hand on a woman… he became an alcoholic and an abuser. What is it with men women want to treat them so good and they just don’t appreciate it. They want to own women. They don’t want to respect them. They want to own them.

Why? If I remember correctly, he was cheating on her long before she cheats on him.

Nah that ain’t it. If it’s directed at the woman then as she should she cheated. If it’s the guy you’re talking about he is only doing that to hate her forever and close the relationship

Name of this movie, please

This is the most be scene I’ll remember him for. He was so brilliant, the look on his face, great acting.

Just goes to show what an amazing actress she is

@@irishmarie9892 I think this movie was very depressing!!!

Who???

@@Embrace-BB Natalie Portman who plays Jane Jones in this film. She won an Oscar for Black Swan?

Ikr I’m like high af rn but I can’t stop watching

did you wach the movie?

no@@ansaksa

Dude watch it, the movie is so good.

It's a porno w/ Jessica Parker but w/ more words 🌠. And that Harvard perfume person, I think, is a stripper

RIIIIIGHTTTTT RIGHTTTT

You’re here after Jammy’s reference 😅

Same

Two different industries targeted for two different populations. Now all bollywood movies are shit but most are

Agreed. But the acting (except ranbir, who did act as per the director, if we forget about the toxicity of the character) and intensity to convinve audience about the reason was not there in 'animal'@@chamchamz98

This has nothing to do with love or romance. It shows the opposite. Selfishness really.

Nah it's because women are always the victim, even when they're the culprit. Remember that.

​@@Jason-wl5zm 🎻

Мне всё равно, я просто вычёркиваю человека из жизни.

LoL this is not bipolar or manic.

Yeah I’ve always found her miscast in this role. I know she replaced Cate Blanchett but Julia was the weakest link in the cast

Closer

Closer

Cause real people talk with real language? That includes the “bad” words

she’s famous cause of those big ol teeth. they’re insured for $30mill

No. Ur a sad story.

I know, right? I mean, I know it's supposed to be raw and all but... why are people glorifying Clive's character? He is just as toxic and flawed as the rest of them.

That's ridiculous. It's a movie.

​@@yeshv1989Na! We tell others how to greev loss of loved ones who are not dead! 😮 he needed to never luve her. 😅 The unknown is a slow death. 😢

Be afraid