I've Never Been This Angry Watching a Japanese Documentary. 

And probably the thought of "Oh, what else does she not like about me? What else should be changed?"

I dont have to imagine, my mom used to say to me to not laugh/smile with my teeth showing cause its ugly, but she did not want to pay for braces. In my home country when you are young the price is much lower than when you are an adult, so I needed to save up a lot to be able to afford it for myself. When I finally got a good job I did invisalign for myself, and my teeth is fixed, but it fixed nothing on the trauma. Its a feeling you dont forget and will always feel it even after the issue is fixed. Even today, I always check on my teeth and spend huge amount of money to upkeep it and still smile with closed mouth on pictures just to be sure. That little girl will remember. I can tell you that.

Hey at least the mom knows what she disliked in her kid. My mom says she hated seeing my face and she dont even know why.

@@tachibanariine I think both are horrible but the unknown is something humans feel automatically uneasy about. I hope you know that that seems to be a her problem not a you or your face problem! Take care, I wish you alll the best

your mother shoudve not bin a parent in the first place. where was your father in all of this?@@tachibanariine

Reminds me of the song Prom Queen. Just so sad..

@@JustAnotherCadet Also 'Mrs potato head" by melanie martinez. Very sad indeed

I can relate. My mother said that a lot to me as a child, to try to convince me into feminine beauty standards. I'm glad I no longer believe that.

yeah, my mom used to torture me with diets and excercise because I was chubby. I was litterally starving and in pain from 4 hr/day workouts. Since then I just gave up on my weight and how I look, and frankly, I feel better, and my weight dynamic is no different. I will just never put myself through that.

I’m surprised, I thought it was about corsets in Europe!

They need to lose their licence.

@@qwmx You both are barking the wrong tree there, buddies. They're just doing their job, that's all and it's the mother's responsibility who put her up there. You sound like you would blame the gun shop clerk, because the guy who robbed you used the gun that he happened to buy from there for this indented use.

@@IppoX90 So you mean that the mother is the guy who robs the shop clerk aka the doctor? Well, your comparison is lacking, because the doctor will not face any repercussions if he denies the mother :) He has the right to do so and also the moral obligation to do so.

@@thestablepirate doctors have a ethical obligation and in most of the world a legal obligation to follow ethical standards

same with american doctors castrating children to conform to gender delusions

This! Doesn't matter how much a person "fixes" themselves, bullies will bully you about anything and everything. It's not your flaws, it's their rotten personality and insecurity.

Bullies will not stop their bullying until they realize that they're jealous of other people, or they get into so much trouble that they get bullied for it in turn.

There certainly are some injuries and illnesses that can be disfiguring enough that plastic surgery for a child is warranted but in that case it should be required to have a mental health expert certify that you are suffering from that so much that it is necessary to do something surgically about it.

@@Marskilius its both tbh. if you look better than someone or worse in combination with their own internal/external issues.

Notice how she was the who one answers most of the questions for her daughter

The worst part is seeing how a lot of parts of the world has those problems but they're showing differently. In the US for example, you have minors' beauty pageants. A lot of mom of those little girls are being just as abusive pushing their insecurities and expectations on them. In Japan it's literally saying to their kids they're ugly and need cosmetic surgeries. In another part of the world it's gonna be something else... So many parents just completely suck.

Exactly this.

​@@hitbycarsThe old generation failing the upcoming generation.

Just using her daughter to ‘fix’ her own insecurities

Japan's ass backwards when it comes to societal norms Boggles my mind how one of the most advanced countries in the world can be so primitive when it comes to some really basic stuff

The same thing in South Korea. I can't believe how idiotic and sad this is.

@@voltaicangelo so you have to be 18 regardless of parental consent to get plastic surgery in South Korea? It’s more regulated than I think and that’s why South Korean’s gift for their adulthood is plastic surgery…

And to ad a cherry on top... tattoos are taboo in j due to die assotioation with yakuza... Don't get mys wrong. I love tattoos... but i never ever wan't to see that done to children. As well as plastic surgery. That's just inhuman!

Also... I find tattoos are a way better method to uppen your self esteem ^^ ...only for adults though...

That's why social workers exist...😜

im suprised she didnt bleach her childs skin

​@@bloodnessxpaleness isn't as much of a beauty standard in Japan. I remember there was an annual contest at my daycare of "who tanned the most over summer vacation" (which is a bit fucked in its own right). The point is, no one's getting bullied for having darker skin. Maybe if they were black or blasian they could be, I honestly don't know how often that happens, but in any case that would be more racism than colorism.

Yes I'm curious because now her skin will grow around the scar... I'm very curious

Look at most Kpop idols who've aged some and you'll find your answer. They get procedures done sometimes as young as 12 since they have idol schools over there. They get plastic surgery before they debut as minors. Then they begin to age. Most of them end up being tossed aside by their 30s or 40s, depending. It's so sad.

I would say it's the least to worry about. If they allow it and if it seems normal to them, then it's not the first time when it happend. Imagine the psychological development of this child. Things like that stay engraved in your brain, experiences like this shape their opinions, afterall they learn from parents too.

You are fine just the way you are , don’t let anyone else say otherwise!

…you know 4chan is originated from 2ch…you know how Japanese Internet is way more cesspool than English circle Internet to some extent…Nobody want to be doxxed and got death threats…Joey said before in one of this video that he won’t make videos in Japanese because of the fear towards Japanese Internet, and the reasons I listed above and more reasons I didn’t listed… I don’t know your comment can change his mind or not but this type of videos are targeted towards his western audience. His purpose is not be a social justice warrior to fight against the dark side of Japanese society… Anyway nice try. Thanks for let people in the rest of world knowing how young ladies think about the traditional patriarchal society, Japanese society. BTW are you minor? High Schooler? You comment seems like you are undergoing bullying in real life and even on the Internet. If that is the case, please seek for public help and legal help/aid/service

@shiro_kuma3817 I'm kinda the same in the fact I've been insecure about how i look for ages now and have been struggling to accept myself for who I am

eyyy man hope yer ok

I agree with u shiro, he should prob do Japanese sub

It's sad how monolids are criticized in Japan, as a European I've always thought it looks very pretty. It comes to show that our beauty standards are always what we don't naturally have, in the West it is very popular to have surgery or use makeup to make you eyes look more thinner, while in Asia the opposite is true. Which makes all this so sad because that shows that plenty of people love thin eyes and plenty of people love big eyes. This should not be legal in now way or form and the mother saying nobody is pretty with monolids was straight out calling her own child ugly while she's actually not ugly at all.

And she's still young her Face will go through so mich changes as she grows up

And she’s only 9! She’s still growing and changing so things can change once she’s gone through puberty.

It’s one thing for a parent to be delusional, but it’s more twisted that there is a doctor out there that would perform this on a child.

In states, if the neighbor reported this case, the parents will be arrested!

You can tell from the mother’s face and body language, that she is insecure or has some sort of trauma or mental illness.

I love what she said.

She is so damn right.

at least the sinosphere aka east asia and vietnam is not as hardly religous as south asia and north africa as well as the middle east

colonialism has nothing to do with it, Korea wasn't even colonized by any western country, please stop generalising and talking about history if you are not an expert, I see it all the time and I die inside everytime.

I agree. Isn't it impressive how most of these bad things are hidden behind "good" intentions? It is very common to see cases of abuse coming with excuses like "I'm doing this for your good." etc

Every nation does this dude.

So he watches a documentary about one single parent whos done this and then acts like every single person in Japan finds it to be acceptable? I dont get the fascination with Westerners always wanting to generalize Asian people in such a wide degree its actually infurating being Asian myself.

Probably nearly every culture on earth has their own set of unattainable beauty ideals for women especially

@@Beatlefan333he never said that

@@votesaxon1 He literally says that Japanese society finds this to be acceptable, wtf do you think that could possibly mean aside from saying they either have no problem or are ok with it?

....Went a little bit too personal there, Jimmy.

@@FredMaverik Not really. These things should be studied to make surgeries less traumatic and stressful for patients, especially children. Although this child should have never gone through this surgery in the first place. Also, if anyone feels less alone because I was open in a random comment on a video, then at least I've done some good.

WAS IT PAINFUL???

Tbf the surgery that the girl in the video got wasn't invasive, it was more like a suture in the lid to create a crease. It can still be traumatic, but you don't even get sedated for it, much less general anesthesia. So when Joey freaks out about "SHE WOKE UP", no, the problem was probably that she wasn't sedated so she had very high anxiety. It's still deeply messed up that the mom forced this on her daughter, but Joey's sensationalist outrage content needs so much fact checking, I find it disrespectful to the subjects being discussed. Especially the girl, poor thing.

​@@destituteanddecadent9106 Many types of eyelid surgery have some form of sedation to keep the surgical area still. If she was not given at least twilight sedation, that is another layer of abuse this poor girl has experienced. It's not sensationalist outrage when people are freaking out about a literal child getting fully elective, invasive surgery. It is invasive in that the skin barrier is breeched and internal layers are accessed through a cut, not an orifice. Disrespect to the girl would require Joey to make fun of her in some way. He (and many others) are rightfully incensed that this child is experiencing abuse on a public stage. Elective, invasive surgery forced onto children does NOT need to be discussed respectfully.

how did the kid broke her nose so much

The laws are more complicated than how Joey is presenting it here... It's more nuanced, not as easy. Where do we draw the line between necessity and vanity? If we start with the distinction between purely cosmetic surgery and reconstructive surgery to rebuild certain parts of your face and body after an accident - that's relatively easy. Most will think the former is unnecessary and unethical to enforce on a kid, the latter is more necessary and should be legal. Consider next: orthodontics. Braces are often introduced at a younger age so that your teeth can move into place while your jaw is still growing. This is often a painful process and sometimes even involves tooth extraction. Can a child consent to that? Purely for the sake of looks? How about children born with disfigurements that severely impact their mental health and access to a "normal" childhood? It's easy to say "they should learn to love themselves. It's society that's cruel." when you're not the one going through it. The child might come out permanently and irreversibly traumatized into adulthood. So legally, where should we draw the line? It's once again easy to criticize edge cases where 99% of people will agree, for an easy cash grab, like Joey is doing. Somewhat harder to decide where to draw the line in legislation. A lot of people are going to be okay with braces and tooth extraction, because that's how they've been raised. But it's not critical thinking if you default to whatever society told you growing up, is it? This isn't meant to be a gotcha by the way, just wanted to illustrate the difficulties that the video was completely overlooking.

​@@destituteanddecadent9106 orthodontics is not just cosmetic by the way... crooked teeth can often have poor contact and pressure points when eating and it eventually leads to breaking teeth(I know cause I experienced it)

@@vladys5238 ik, that's why the line is hard to draw. Similar to what orthodontic procedures should be covered by public insurance, and what's just for the aesthetic? If it's not covered by public insurance (which is most of orthodontic treatment in most countries), does that mean it's for aesthetic reasons, and therefore unethical to do to a child?

I had a large mole on my chin that I had removed when I was 14. That mole was the first thing you noticed when you looked at me. I don’t think most people need any surgery, but I’d argue that procedure changed my life (particularly during HS).

Yeah that's pretty sad but ah well they do look very cute with make up tho

this is what media/patriarchy did to women all over the world. Even american women feel this way. There are even videos of 'going a full day without makeup' as if it's some revolutionary thing to do, which for them, in their psyche, it is.

This is about someone's family teaching her that coping with the pain of a malpractice/cosmetic surgery is what makes people reach "adulthood" [in her family, upon being granted forgiveness for the foolish/childish things they did before Reaching Adulthood], and that other people who don't cope with this inconvenience/pain are not forgiven for their That's why this is something which concerns social workers, not RU-vidrs. The Rite of Passage [through cosmetic surgery] is when these people are granted forgiveness. There needs to be a full-blown reform to erase the "footsteps" which these people leave everywhere in the world where they go. It has nothing to do with Japan. This is about everyone's culture, and everyone's life: these "memes", including all religious body modifications, have spread MANY times in history until we Shut That Religion's Mouth (by breaking its jaw). If you've ever heard the term, "afterlife", you might be shocked to find out that it refers to "adulthood" after having gone through a rite of passage where one has been forgiven for one's "previous life". Once someone goes through that rite of passage, they become extremists whose only purpose is to promote this type of endangerment. It's a situation where there are enemies to humanity who are being targeted for execution, and as a result of the terror which they instill when they continue their lifestyles, nobody has been able to intervene yet (and these creatures keep reproducing as well).

Not a Japanese thing, just a woman thing in general. Women have been conditioned to lack confidence because those that were self assured in history either got killed for being uppity wenches or didn't find anybody to bed with because their partners felt demasculated and insecure.

​@@mothmos please don't blame men for women being insecure, no man has ever given a shit about women wearing makeup, women are their own worst enemies, women criticize and critique each other on looks more than men have ever done.

You are an amazing mother❤ God bless❤

Bruh, I get bullied for my name I get bullied for how I look I get bullied because of my low grades When I was at her age, I had to deal with my elder siblings and my Dad. I never thought of plastic surgery because it wasn't popular back then but god damn, if I was her Dad, I would leave the Mother and take the child away. The mother has no right to force the child into dangerous pastic surgery... Constant pain will become a issue for her when she grows up and if she still does surgery because of the Mother, then, she should leave the mother at the age of 16 or 18 to another relative for protection or to someone she can trust and count on. Mother like her is the reason why, dating and divorce is the reason why it is still happening. Im against Plastic Surgery, I want to look natural as possible. Let's outlaw and ban plastic surgery since, plastic is ban in some countries lol.

@@gakidomo9561 agree because the way the mother just said “oh you can fix that by plastic surgery” it’s already putting insecurities and pain that will develop with her later on in life. I just hope she realizes it sooner than later if she gets anymore surgeries

@taylorl9424 Yeah, fr, I literally went to Martial arts class back in Korea when I was getting bullied, move to Australia and still gets bullied for who I am lmfao. Guess what? I stand up for myself and I ingore them... Sure, they are females and girls and are different from men and boys but, the mother has no rights to play as a victim card and still pretend to be worried at her. By the looks of it, the mother is desperately trying to force her own child into plastic surgery and will continue to do so. I hope the child knows why people bullies her and why she isn't making any friends or progress lmfao... Also, this level of bullying is low... Come to think of it, why didn't they mention which school they were bullied? Why didn't they rock up to school during the interview? Why didn't they have a chat with the principle and the teachers? I'm Korean and this makes me sad...

@@gakidomo9561 Bullying, prejudice, and images of extreme standards will still make people want to change their appearances.

I saw that too. Creepy AF.

yea, i have seen it, very creepy and realistic

Ah yes. Human Form is there name of the short. I didn't sleep for 2 days because of it...

I saw that movie review. Those were fucking horrifying.

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now. Yes, the mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He lives in Japan for many years but still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and families.

funny thing is, hes completely fine with children going through sex changes.

​@@Pepe-dq2ib I think thats a different case

Bingo! 100000000000% agree. Some PS is fine if it is to fix cleft lips etc.

Whats interesting is that I got work done because I have cleft lip and palate and have still encountered some people prejudiced against me getting plastic surgery

​@tammyen they're stupid for that. There's a huge difference between elective surgery and medically necessary surgery to treat or fix medical condition. My goodness many people are dumbtards.

but they can go through sex changes?

​@@Pepe-dq2ib Who tf do you think is doing sex changes on children? This sounds like a US comment so do your research. That's illegal. The closest thing is that after many doctor approvals ,that take years to go through, that say you could benefit from that. If you are underage you can get puberty blockers which delay puberty. Nothing stops it from happening. If you decide that's not good for you or there's dude effects or whatever then you can stop taking them and you'll go through puberty and develop your biological physical characteristics. And this has nothing to do with plastic surgery.

I'd like to let you know, being imperfect is perfect. People who point out your characteristics as bad are simply insecure with themselves, and projecting that onto you. As a teen, I said those things about myself, despite what other people told me. I dunno what changed, but one day, when I was in my twenties, I just looked at myself in a mirror and thought, "This is me, and that's fine." Here's hoping you reach that point for yourself.

Sounds like my parents too. I've been called fat and ugly as long as I can remember and my father used to call me a cabbage patch kid in a shameful and condescending way. You really learn to be ashamed about everything 😶 I will never understand why someone would do that to a kid, or anyone!

She sounds pretty reasonable to me. Excluding your interpretation of what your mother thinks of you, it just sounds like she's recommending a bunch of stuff that'll keep you healthy. Braces also aren't something you should delay with, crooked teeth only get more crooked with time.

There is no a law. That's the problem. Joey is severely misrepresenting the issue, it's frankly very frustrating. It's the lack of explicit legislation that leaves loopholes like this. There's the question of where to draw the line (should braces be okay? Should orthodontic tooth extraction be okay? How about fixing congenital disfigurements or reconstructive surgery after accidents?) that makes it complicated and nuanced to put it into legislature, especially compared to how much Joey is oversimplifying the issue here. This is shameful outrage bait. Low hanging fruit if you ask me.

​@@destituteanddecadent9106​ In my country there is a very defined line of what is plastic surgery or aesthetic surgery versus medical surgery because of our free health care system (free health care doesn't cover anything considered purely aesthetic). The same guidelines could be applied to minors when it comes to surgery. So making a law about it is absolutely doable. Here is how it goes: Anything that can cause health problems should be allowed, anything that is purely aesthetic shouldn't. For example, if a person loses a lot of weight and has excess skin, if this excess skin can cause rashes or hygiene issues it would be allowed, if it's just a bit of love handles as we call it, then it would fall under aesthetic surgery. So yes braces would be ok because there are long term health benefits to them (prevents cavities when teeth are aligned). Tooth extraction too (wisdom teeth can cause nerve issues, a misplaced tooth can cause abscess). Congenital disfigurement would be only if the disfigurement causes health issues (which should include most of the serious ones ), reconstructive surgery would also be good up to the point where no health issues are happening. I really don't think Joey is baiting anyone. Laws to define cosmetics versus medical surgery exist in other countries. It's been done, it's doable. It's also not Joey's job to present a bill to the japanese government with all the details - This is an opinion video, not a political debate. Stating your discontent with a situation is not a crime.

Yeah I think he misunderstood what was happening. (Unless the Japanese was different)

​@@TetsuoXLIhaving subject and object of the sentence roaming freely in it screw any chance of not having a misunderstanding among every conservation (it is bad enough when our minds play tricks on us grammar is overkill)

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now. Yes, the mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He lives in Japan for many years but still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and families.

milk

Oh my god

From the perspective or a Japanese, in a sense, you are. Not saying to think so is right, but it's often times much more realistic to change just one person than to change the environment which consists of dozens of people.

Not just in Japan. Many countries in Asia has this. I was personally told this by my school counselor in Indonesia when i was bullied.

​@@skymyuI am from Russia and I was bullied in school. My parents told me the same things: "if you get bullied then you did something wrong. Think about your behavior and change yourself". They were raised in USSR, like majority of my teachers, in a collectivist society where stepping out of line got you punished, even if it's a small thing, and this order of things is still deeply imbedded in our culture. My self esteem was already ruined by bullying, but my parents agreeing with me being wrong shattered it completely. Till this day I'm overthinking everything about my behavior and looks, and it's so exhausting

​@@HA-pu6ceit's not realistic to try and "change" anyone. What works is consequences. Regardless of the person, if there are consequences severe enough for bullying then one would hesitate to do it, they have to enforce these consequences. It first needs to be taken seriously, oftentimes they just shrug it off until something unfortunate happens then they pretend to Care rince and repeat again.

I'm also from Central/Eastern Europe and also have a short curved nose. Couldn't stand to take any photos of my face because of it, I was so convinced it was ruining my whole appearance. Took me a long time to get used to it and admit that that's how I look and that it's a trait that got passed down for dozens of generations, and it actually felt great once I did. But with how seemingly pretty common plastic surgery of that kind is here (especially among celebrities), I see how a person develops this sort of thinking.

American obsession on sex and race is scary. Even their political beliefs have more care than children getting gunned down on a weekly basis😬

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now. Yes, the mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He lives in Japan for many years but still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and families.

Japan has always had harsh beauty standards even before any western interference.. They aren't trying to look like anyone else, they have their own "look" they're trying to achieve, and it shows on their posters/media/etc.. Japan has also showed hatred to those who are "exotic" too, ie those who are Hafu, and then those who are gaijin. It goes both ways unfortunately

Joey has to check the fact before posting. He shouldn't do too much youtuber things“negative contents earn more money”. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now and leads wrong. Yes, the first mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He also misunderstood Japanese and what was happening in the documentary. From the second girl's story, her mother is exact opposit to first mother. She was absolutely against her daughter's plastic surgery. She pulled a kitchen knife on herself and told her that if she didn't stop, she was going to take her own life and apologizing “I'm sorry that I gave birth to you with the face you don't like, but I won't allow you to do plastic surgery.” So now the second girl realized how awful she hurt her mother. But he kept saying mother's problem same as first example. I like his channel, but sometimes bad posts have misleading like this. He lived in Japan for many years but he still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and Japanese families if he wants to talk about real Japan.

I don't usually like it when people blame things on social media but this is clearly made worse by the comparisons with people on social media (and magazines and TV before that).

then you go and vote for rights to children getting sex changes...

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now and leads wrong. Yes, the first mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He also misunderstood Japanese and what was happening in the documentary. From the second girl's story, her mother is exact opposit to first mother. She was absolutely against her daughter's plastic surgery. She pulled a kitchen knife on herself and told her that if she didn't stop, she was going to take her own life and apologizing “I'm sorry that I gave birth to you with the face you don't like, but I won't allow you to do plastic surgery.” So now the second girl realized how awful she hurt her mother. But Joey kept saying mother's problem same as first example. I like his channel, but sometimes bad posts have misleading like this. He still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and Japanese families if he wants to talk about real Japan.

Her mom is awful. Have you watched the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills? Yolanda Hadid is on it for a bit (that I'm aware of) and she let one of her daughters only have a pinch-sized bite of birthday cake during the daughter's birthday party so she wouldn't get fat, and told a makeup artist to fix that daughter's eye makeup because she looked "too Chinese". Seriously messed up.

Hey I like your story and the fact you feel so comfortable in talking about it. I'm happy your motm wanted you to feel included but 100% should have done it in another way. Very happy about your pov on this ❤

you say all that, but vote for children to be able to get sex changes.

@Pepe-dq2ib you and your argument is irrelevant

AffinityShadow, you rant on! It's what I would have said, but better.

Me too! I had extreme dumbo ears, got bullied alot and when brushing thru my hair they would get caught on the brush which hurts. I was 9 too when i got the surgery. I had to do multiple interviews with the doctor and therapist ALONE without my mom to determine if it was my own choice and not my mothers choice!

​@@Sherrycake I like the fact that you are wearing large elf ears while saying that. Kind of feels like you are embracing ears that stick out while still feeling happy about having regular ears in your day to day life.

Thank you good sir/mam

perfectly said :)

Very well said, and thank you.

*older relatives

If I had the money I'd have changed my nose when I was 20, I'm 30 today and it's so silly to me this has ever been a concern.

if people aren't such pusses about surgery in general, they would already be under the knife already.

It's not really a thing that is actually happening in any western countries. In the UK and US it is currently illegal for anyone under 16 without express parent and doctor consent to get any plastic surgery. Trans people have a medical condition which may necessitate some form of body altering surgery.

I thibk you mean cosmetic surgery, plastic surgery is skin grafts/breast reduction/anything not to improve appeeance

@@TsukiNoInu93 yeah, you're right

@@jarotheboar8398 no problem, a lot of people use the term plastic surgery for cosmetic and plastic but it makes discussing the issue very hard.

@@TsukiNoInu93 yeah, makes sense

Not to sound too nosy, but what specifically did they say about your looks ?

@kairos_fluent the most common thing is that I'd just get called "美人" (bijin). I was often asked if my light brown hair hair colour was natural, and when I'd reply it is, that would get an "いいね~" which I always found a funny one because it's considered a very plain colour at home. Other than that and eye colour, I can't really remember too many specifics. Some people would insist I looked like celebrities that I don't look like at all. 美人 was always the word that made my ears perk up, especially when it was following 外人 (gaijin) and I was the only White girl standing there...

@@genevieveleblanc9205 Ah I see, I get why they would say those types of things.

And you're misunderstanding *him* The mother talked negatively about her own appearance, apologized for giving her child her features, and then pulled a shocked pikachu face when the daughter got plastic surgery. Mom 100% caused the issue.

when you live in a society where there is a standard of beauty and its weird not to have something that everyone else has it'll always seem like a good idea to pursue it even at the cost of your health. especially if you can afford it. the gaslighting/peer pressure is real.

You're confusing a rhinoplasty with a septoplasty. A "nose job" is a rhinoplasty and only affects the shape of the outer portion of the nose. If it affects breathing, it's affecting the septum and is thus a septoplasty.

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend and leads wrong. Yes, the mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He lived in Japan for many years but he still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and Japanese families.

Joey also misunderstood Japanese and what was happening in the documentary. From the second girl's story, her mother is exact opposit to first mother. She was absolutely against her daughter's plastic surgery. She pulled a kitchen knife on herself and told her that if she didn't stop, she was going to take her own life and apologizing “I'm sorry that I gave birth to you with the face you don't like, but I won't allow you to do plastic surgery.” So now the second girl realized how awful she hurt her mother. But Joey kept saying mother's problem same as first example. I like his channel, but sometimes bad posts have misleading like this.

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now and leads wrong. Yes, the first mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He also misunderstood Japanese and what was happening in the documentary. From the second girl's story, her mother is exact opposit to first mother. She was absolutely against her daughter's plastic surgery. She pulled a kitchen knife on herself and told her that if she didn't stop, she was going to take her own life and apologizing “I'm sorry that I gave birth to you with the face you don't like, but I won't allow you to do plastic surgery.” So now the second girl realized how awful she hurt her mother. But Joey kept saying mother's problem same as first example. I like his channel, but sometimes bad posts have misleading like this. He still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and Japanese families if he wants to talk about real Japan.

Joey has to check the fact before posting. “the④ most high numbers of plastic surgery is Japan”? That's wrong. Here's the ranking.①South Korea②Argentina③Brazil④Colombia⑤Greece⑥US⑦Germany……⑭Japan.　There's an another ranking①US②Brazil③Japan but this doesn't include countries like South Korea which has huge numbers of cosmetic surgery doctors. In Japan, antiageing like botox injection and laser hair removal is popular and is main numbers. This documentary picks it as Japanese trend now and leads wrong. Yes, the first mother is sick. But it's very rare case. Still plastic surgery is a negative image in Japan. If most Japanese parents watch this documentary, they would react like him. He also misunderstood Japanese and what was happening in the documentary. From the second girl's story, her mother is exact opposit to first mother. She was absolutely against her daughter's plastic surgery. She pulled a kitchen knife on herself and told her that if she didn't stop, she was going to take her own life and apologizing “I'm sorry that I gave birth to you with the face you don't like, but I won't allow you to do plastic surgery.” So now the second girl realized how awful she hurt her mother. But he kept saying mother's problem same as first example. I like his channel, but sometimes bad posts have misleading like this. He lived in Japan for many years but he still has to learn more. He needs more close Japanese friends and Japanese families if he wants to talk about real Japan.

its the western standard of beauty that got popularized in their country.

kids can be the worst.

Another thing is the normalization in beauty shaming in asian culture. Since a baby is out of the womb, theyre constantly corrected and pointed out their every flaw. Its fucked up and is the reason why eating disorders are so prevalent amongst asians