I Was Bullied For Being a Homophobe 

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"A gay person told me about being outed as gay and outcast from their community, how can we make that about us?" - the creators of this story

“I don’t like cheese” is an opinion. “I don’t support people who like cheese” is an attitude. An opinion on your own preferences is harmless. An attitude on the preferences of others absolutely can be harmful.

The weirdest part? They never actually give any reason for being unsupportive.

I had a old friend who cut ties with me after he found out I was gay and now he acts like the victim 🤦

The whole "I'm just an innocent widdle girl uwu" voice makes me want to rip out my hair

"NOOO ! YOU CAN'T CALL ME OUT FOR BULLYING OTHERS ! THAT'S BULLYING !" - Bullies

The whole school being allies is the most unrealistic thing about this whole thing

Bigotry isn't a political opinion. It's an attack on other peoples' dignity and rights.

"did i do something wrong for saying that i dont support my best friend and implying hate her identity??" yes, yes you did.

Came out to a friend yesterday as non binary! I babysit for her, and she's religious, so I was worried she'd cut ties, or agree to use my preferred pronouns, but not in front of the kids. Instead, she was really positive about it, and said that it was really great for her kids to grow up knowing a trans person, and having that normalised. Thought I'd share that bit of positivity! 😊

I'm in the US. My trans kid just asked me and my partner (both trans) "when Trump gets elected again will we be able to be a family still?" That's the difference. Homophobic parents don't have to look their child in the eye and say "we'll always be a family even if some of us have to go to another country and some of us can't follow". No sympathy.

Intolerance towards a group of people is NOT an opinion: it's discrimination.

The friend was totally trying to come out to her

I had a homie who said they don’t support, and then followed it up with ‘but that’s because I need every dollar I can get’ and it turns out he thought support was exclusively 1) voting for LGBT+ supportive candidates (we were in high school marching band) and 2) donations to charities like the Trevor Project. They did actually support btw

I lost a friend last night. Last year her oldest daughter reposted a Facebook link leading to Matt Walsh. There are two American personalities named Matt Walsh. The one in question is an anti-trans commentator. When I saw her link, I silently noped out of that friendship. Last night, I saw her posts on Facebook and decided to ask how she'd been, and I truthfully told her I'm scared about the election. And from there it very-fast devolved into an argument about trans people. She called me sick and mentally ill. She had been there for me in 2012 at the griup home i was living at when i was 16. I'd spent nights at her house, hunted on her land with her daughters, given them Christmas gifts. It was like i never knew her, like she was a completely different person. I'm so scared that I'll never be able to express myself as a woman. I don't like this body and i dont wnat to live like this forever.

Fun fact: my friend asked me if I support lgbt+, I said yes, as I am apart of it, she never saw me the same again.

THERE WAS A HOMOPHOBIC AD PLAYING BEFORE THIS 😭😭

"Love the sinner hate the sin" is bullshit. You can't hate an integral part of who someone is while still loving that person.

It was the end of the day, and I was waiting for my bus with one of my friends when she began asking me random questions. All of a sudden, though, she asked: “Hey, have you heard of the LGBT+ community?” “Yes, I have. Is this the last question?” I replied. “No, but almost. Are you gay? Like, are you in the LGBT community?” “Do I give her my honest answer, or should I lie?” I thought. Maybe I should just tell her what I think will make her happy. But what if it’s not the right answer she wants to hear? I mean, she’s my friend. I’m sure it’ll be fine. After a quick pause, I gave her my reply. “Yes, I’m a lesbian!” She tried to hide it, but I saw the shock on her face. She smiled awkwardly, and said, “Oh… okay.” I had no idea what that meant. I thought of it as nothing more than an awkward and random conversation. We said bye to one another as she walked her way home and I hopped on my bus. Before I went to bed, my mind kept replaying my friend’s question and why she acted so awkwardly to my answer. Why did she look like she was hiding something, or what if she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore? Am I a bad person for being a lesbian? The biggest thing I couldn’t get off my mind was her awkward smile hiding her true emotions from me. I thought about it the entire night until I fell asleep, hoping it was just a harmless question and she’d forget about it tomorrow. I walked through the hallway, saying hello to my classmates and friends, and every time I did, they’d brush me off or give me a dirty look. I even had a few people ignore me and whisper something to someone else right in front of me and then walk away. Did I do something wrong? Why are people giving me these mean looks? Finally, I saw my friend who asked me the question the other day, and nervously said, “Hi.” She automatically replied, “Get away from me!” I backed up in shock. We were fine the other day! At least, I thought we were fine. “What!? What did I do!?” At this point, everyone had their eyes on us, waiting to see what would happen. “How dare you be a lesbian!” “What?! Why did you tell everyone!? I thought you were my friend!” “How can I be friends with someone who’s gay!?” She replied. “You’re a monster and a d-e! You just don’t fit in with the rest of us anymore!” At this point, everyone gave me a dirty look and agreed with her. It was like I had committed some kind of sin and didn’t deserve to be around everyone else. In an instant, I was the worst person in the entire school. the only thing I could do was run into the bathroom I cried so hard, so much, and so loud someone in the other stall heard me and told me to shut up. I felt so ashamed of myself for being gay. I hated myself for not lying and saying I was straight. I wanted to go home so badly, but there was no way I could. The rest of the day was just as bad, if not worse. People mocked me and called me “d-e”, which made me cry! I tried to tell them I didn’t choose to like girls, but I was still the same person they always knew. I had never felt so alone, so I decided I had to tell my parents what was happening to me at school. But would they yell at me for liking girls? Or worse still, they might hate me. I entered the kitchen to see both of my parents sitting there. Even though I tried to find the words to tell them I needed to talk, all I could find were tears. Both of them quickly stood up and came to the door where I was standing there to comfort me. My mom asked me what was wrong, and I began to explain. I told them the question my friend asked me the day before and then my answer: that I was a lesbian. To my delight, my mom and dad, they reassured me that it was okay to not be attracted to the opposite gender and to like the same gender; and it was not OK for others to be so rude and disrespectful towards me. Unfortunately, the kids at my school didn’t see it that way. My old friends would either turn their backs to ignore me, or worse, mutter mean words under their breaths as they passed me in the hallways. Their words would cut through me to my core. I would come home everyday, head straight for my room, and cry. My parents would ask, “Darling what’s wrong?” But I couldn’t bring myself to tell them how bad things had become. Over the next few months, my school life was miserable. No one was interested in hearing out my feelings. All they cared about was their own! Things had become so bad at school that my grades start to slip. I just couldn’t concentrate, and no one wanted to work with me or help me in class. Eventually, the school’s head had noticed something wasn’t right and called my parents in for a meeting. I was nervous, scared even, that my parents would be mad at me for me letting this affect my grades, but after seeing how bad things had become and how unhappy I was, they both agreed that the best thing for me would be to move schools and have a fresh start. A year has passed since I moved schools and I’ve made great new friends, all with different sexualities and gender identities. I’m still a lesbian, but now, I’m able to express my sexuality freely. I look back on that day my friend asked me about whether I was gay, and I realize now that she was never going to be a good friend, even if I’d lied and told her I was straight. The way my new friends accept different sexualities and gender identities, rather than turning them into a witch-hunt and isolating LGBT people, has made me feel so at home. I have learned that there will always be people who can’t accept you for who you are, but that is fine. Just because you used to be good friends with someone for years doesn’t mean you have to stay friendly with them if they’re homophobic. You deserve to live your life the way that is the most authentic to you. You don’t need to endure abuse from your peers, and if explaining won’t stop them from bullying you, you can simply cut them out of your life. LGBT kids are bullied way too often, and even though they might look fine on the outside, inside, they could be really hurting.

You can't convince me that the VA wasn't actively trying to make this girl sound as whiny and annoying as possible.

The way they lean into the phrase "personal preferences" is so rude and disrespectful. We don't have a choice!

This read like a tumblr fake story in an alternate universe where tumblr is used by homophobes and the stories end badly

"She said 'have you heard of the LGBT+ community?'" r/thathappened - no one would phrase it that way

What irritates me the most is how falsetto they make the narrator's voice, in order to make her sound like an innocent and unsuspecting child being persecuted for her beliefs. I've seen this attitude most often from fundamentalist religious homophobes, so it doesn't surprise me she's playing the victim. Assuming any of this actually happened.

: ^ | “Everyone's mad at me for something I said.” : O “Have you considered apologizing?” : ^ | >: ^ (

I can't empathize with being bullied for being a homophobe, but I was bullied by homophobes as a young man. The bullying I experienced didn't involve dirty looks so much as four young, slur-taunting punks accosting me to take turns kicking me in the head and ribs for having seen me come from a gay disco

What kind of school did that girl go to where EVERYONE is pro-lgbtq+ and how do I get there? Yeah, this probably didnt happen.

The fact they had a child voice this, but there's no way this happened in a school at that age range. Middle or high school, maybe, but even the conversation feels fake and it reeks of "I'm the victim for being a bigot".

Often when I hear stuff like “I don’t support the gay community but I still respect gay people”, I would like those people who say this to replace the word “gay” with “straight” and hear how stupid that sounds.

I'm gonna be honest this video is downright dangerous, I watched it when I was much younger I think the year it came out and it genuinely convinced my young brain that the girl was the victim in the situation and that gay people were rude, mean and wrong.. it contributed a lot towards me developing a homophobic mindset for a few years and I'm willing to be honest about that because it's something I regret but also a viewpoint I held as a child and I'd like to think I've matured and moved well past that now, other children are and will be influenced by videos like that, it's very scary

“People don’t want to hear my opinions!” The opinions: I don’t believe you deserve basic human rights

I remember when RU-vidrs like StrangeÆons first reacted to this a couple years back. Her take that the friend may have had a crush on her is so relatable. Nobody just pops that question without a reason, and this would be such a soul crushing reaction.

Could you imagine if someone replied "no" to "Hey, do you support [insort minority race here] people?" A vast majority of people would rightfully flame the person who expressed opposition to such group of people.

I live in a Christian family and used to go to a catholic primary school and wile neither of them were directly anti-LGBTQIA+ (love how long the acronym is getting) there was naturally an element of “you can’t do this”. So when two other kids in my class said that they were lesbians I mentioned “I don’t think you can do that because the bible says so”. Now I’m a Trans Christian in secondary school and it’s an incredibly painful situation to look back on. Moving to secondary school, on the first day, I met a trans boy and after becoming friends with him i began to realise that being LGBTQIA+ was completely ok and I can’t even imagine where I would be right now if I hadn’t met him.

My family said stuff like "Oh it's not that we don't believe in same-sex marriage, it's that we think the govt should butt out of the institution of marriage" -- "We're not anti-gay, we have lots of gay friends!" -- "Love the sinner, hate the sin" -- "It's okay to be gay, just keep it to yourself." So, bearing that last one in mind, having just moved in with my girlfriend, I stopped speaking to those family. They didn't wanna hear about it, after all. :3

Being gay, lesbian, trans, etc.: An intrinsic and involuntary identity that is typically targeted by laws meant to marginalize us. LGBT+ is not an opinion or ideology. Being a homophobe: A choice to be bigoted. This is an opinion and an ideology. There is a HUGE difference and yes, you can have a different opinion about us queer folks. But you're not exempt from the consequences of having that opinion. You can't control how people feel about you when you make the choice to actively hurt them.

This is like something prageru would put out

I haven't watched it yet, but right off the bat I can say this. Bullying is when someone mistreats you for something you can't control, like being LGBTQIA, disabled, poor, or a different race; or for no reason at all. Being told that your discriminatory behavior is wrong, or being shunned for such behavior, is not bullying; it is the consequences of your own actions.

we all agree that this story never happened, but it's very interesting how as jamie said it reads like the reversal of a gay kid in school story. it happened almost exactly like this to me, when i was 13 i told a friend in confidence that i was bisexual and he outed me to the whole school. bullying got worse, harassment got worse. the difference is that didn't tell my parents, i only came out to them regarding my sexuality when i was 20, after coming out to them as trans at 18 and 19. i dont think the video was satire, i think it was a malicious attempt at reversing reality and i hope the creator got what was coming to them in the end

The idea that a friend asks that question, which sounds like she's 'testing the waters' to come out, on getting a negative response would then come out to EVERYONE ELSE at school is ridiculous!

Yeah, they totally took a story of a queer kiddo from those story time channels, rewrote it a bit with keywords, etc. and then published it. This is so silly. The whole story doesn't understand the difference of the betrayal of a queer kiddo whose friend told the whole school about it, leading to them being ostracised...

I kept hoping for a twist like "this is what happened to an individual who came out as LGBTQ, and how people treated them" but it kept getting worse and the twist never came 😭

I feel like some people don't understand that support doesn't mean throwing bricks at the cops at stonewall. When people ask if you support LGBT+, they're asking "hey, you don't have anything against LGBT+, right?"

i had to read the title 3 times before i realized it was a joke 💀

Like are we really supposed to believe that the whole school knew the main character was homophobic and they were all that supportive of queer people?

“I don’t support you but… I love you!” Bwahahaha. My aunt said that to me too-we are no longer in touch.

I had a friend once that came out to me as gay. Needless to say we couldn't remain friends after he told me; he's a great boyfriend though.

@4:41 I did this. Before I came out to my cousin, I asked his opinion on same sex marriage as part of a survey for my government class. This was 2013 or 2014, before it was legal in all 50 states. We come from a super religious family, with his mom being extreme in her views. He said “I support it. I support consenting adults loving each other and joining hands in marriage if they choose.” I came out to him and he was super supportive. Rest of my family… only my grandma was supportive.

Part of this video made me tear up, I recently blocked a friend for being homophobic and I’ve been fighting with myself on if I was in the wrong.. but I’m glad to hear that Jammie was talking about how it’s normal to have a guard when faced with someone who’s being homophobic

This is giving so mutch "is my frist day at gay high school, hope nobody finds out I'm straight" vibes fr 💀💀edit: OR THE CLOSETED SUPER STRAGHIT MEME TOO OMG- 💀💀💀

This really reads like one of those Jahovah's Witness cartoons that totally happen

I watched this with Mr. Atheist aka Jimmy Snow reacting to it and he brought up a good point. “What does it mean to not agree with LGBT?” The only way I can see it is not seeing LGBT as a valid way of being and treating queer people as less than human, whether you realize you’re doing that or not. We don’t get a choice what gender, sexual orientation, romantic attraction or lack there if we have. It’s not like I woke up one day and thought, “hey you know what sounds fun? Being a persecuted minority even more than I already am! I’m going to transition and date someone of the same sex as me!” That has never happened for anyone. I guarantee. It is not a choice and if anyone tells me “I don’t agree with you being queer” and we can’t find any common ground… I am cutting them out of my life. It’s really quite simple as that.

There's a difference between liking or disliking mint chip ice cream and being a crap person to a marginalized community. We all need equal rights, but we all don't need a certain flavour of ice cream (also mint chip all the way, what's y'all's favourite ice cream?) Edit: Holy crap I love all your flavour choices they sound delicious :)

> "Got called a homophobe by my best friend in our school :( " > "Tell us what happened?" > "My BFF called me a homophobe :( " > "Oh, but why?" > "Because I was openly a homophobe :( " > "While you were in school?" > "Yes, it was in school :( " As you said, this entire scenario feels like a queerphobe heard a queer person's negative experience when they came out, and the bigot tried to twist it into their own story instead... and did a horrible job at it lol

Omfg the “uwu I’m just a smol harmless bean” voice is so grating.

Not supporting gays is not an "opinion" like imagine you ask some dude if he supported women. Can you find a single logical difference? It's the exact same level of absolute tomfoolery.

"I QUICKLY BECAME HOMOPHOBIC" but like, y'know, in a relatable way where I'm the victim here

No one is going to beat you to death or refuse you the right to get married or force you into conversion therapy. All that happens is you get called out, so here's my tiny violin.

Her response to the initial questions reminds me of the Death Note memes "Hey, Light, have you heard of the lgbt?" "Yeah?" "So, do you support them?" *music kicks in Lights inner monologue: "Another question to test if I'm Kira...."

Tbh I'm kinda torn between "Of all the things that didn't happen, this didn't happen the most." and "Homophobe inserting themself into a twisted version of a Coming Out story for either pity points or to get others to start being homophobic as well." although I think it might just be both.

The conservative opinion that it's better to politely deprive someone of rights than to lose your temper trying to be considered a human being.

" I was bullied for being a Homophobe"- I'm failing to see the problem here.

Thank you for defining this, I broke up with a boyfriend of three years decades ago because he declared “I’m not homophobic I just don’t like gay people”

That video is an excellent example of the weaponization of civility. "I'm fine, I have all my rights, you are wrong for disrupting the status quo that serves me just because it doesn't serve you"

its a lot of these veiws that genuinely concern me, I live in a conservative state and when a trans girl in the UK was murdered the news covered it. It scares me that peoples response to this coverage was "even if you dont support their ideology murder is wrong" like what?? Unnecessarily bringing up that you don't agree with trans people in response to murder is grotesque and genuinely depressing that people cant see further than "murder is wrong, and trans people don't belong."

"MAYBE she's a lesbian, Janet" made me laugh harder than it prolly should've 3:25

This girl is confusing "being straight" with "not supporting gay people" LMFAO Gurl, you can't *not* support people and *support* people at the same time... ;-;

Yeah, here’s what really happened, based on how it’s framed… Gay girl says to friend, “Have you heard of gay people?” Friend: Yes. “Do you support them?” No. “Okay.” *Has just tried to come out to bestie and had her fears of rejection confirmed, proceeds to not say anything to any other person in the school and just tries to wait out till graduation when she can get out and start her life.*

Judging someone for doing something wrong is the right thing to do, not bullying. Being a bigot is wrong. Being gay is not. So one person deserves to be shunned, and the other does not

Intolerance towards any group of people for being born the way they are is discrimination, prejudicial, and wrong. Intolerance towards individuals who choose to do wrong (ie. harm others) is not discrimination, prejudicial, nor wrong. It's telling in this video that the friend called being LGBT+ a 'preference' rather than what it truly is, because it highlights the crux of why bigots feel entitled to judge "the gays." Those who created this video did not accurately reproduce any real-life conversation between the main character and her friend. Once a homophobe learns that it is natural, not a choice and does not cause harm (therefore not a sin), they begin to see the light. But in order to do that - to make that leap - they have to find fault with their "faith," which they perceive is a threat to their core being. It's too much of a challenge for some weak-minded and insecure people, and it's too big of a mental leap for small minds to understand that their faith does not hinge on one tiny part of the Bible - a tiny part that was only added in the last century to begin with. If they checked out older Bibles, they would realize that it does not say "Homosexuality is a sin." Rather, it says "don't have butt sex" for the same reasons it says "don't mix dairy and meat together" and "don't eat shellfish." All these things were listed together in the Bible because they were seen as commensurable. (I don't know about you, but I love me some meat with cheese, and I love shellfish.) People just didn't know about germs back then, and they truly believed that if you got sick it was your own fault because you must've committed a sin. We know better now. It's a shame that homophobes do not. They still cling to this antiquated, warped worldview and claim it's "against their faith" and that they are the ones being attacked. They are the victims if someone disagrees with their ludicrous opinion. If you continuously slap someone in the face for no good reason and they get angry about it, you don't get to cry victim. This sort of mentality is toxic, and this behavior is abuse.

"Am I a bad person for not supporting the LGBTQ+ community?" Yes.

it remember seeing that video 😭 at the end, her thinking she learned something when she didn’t 🫠

"Its not that i hate (minority group) i just dont agree with them and think they shouldn't exist"

That video is hilarious because her argument is "I just have a different opinion" but if it were an LGBTQ+ kid it would be "I just have a different identity". One of those is more hurtful to reject than the other. 'What I think' and 'what I am' are on completely different levels!

as a trans guy I've been waiting to ask my closer friends in my new school abt their opinions on the trans community before coming out so this genuinely makes me feel visceral reactions

I’ve seen the original video to see how bad it was years ago and I still regret it.

If someone is being bullied for being a homophobe maybe idk NOT be homophobic how is something like this allowed on youtube this is so cringe videos like this will make young people think like not only THIS is how we are BUT they will think its ok to be homophobic this whole cringey video is a total r/thathappened moment

This video seems like a pretty good example of an "apologia" Basically, an apologia is when someone makes up a story to make you feel apogetic for a hateful group, ideal, or just straight up a crime, as a excuse of sorts (which is were "apologia" comes from, it is Latin for "excuse") Apologias are considered a crime in several countries. Unfortunately for you guys, it isn't in the US due to freedom of speech, so people are allowed to say these kind of things.

She thinks she ate while she just threw up.

I recently moved into a house near a pretty rural-feeling suburb and I have seen lots of signs against LGBTQIA+ people. It’s a new school and I’m trying to pass as male, but I’m freaking terrified. I hope it all goes well! 🤞

This animation is why we need LGBTI+ education in *all* schools at *all* levels. I think it's a deliberate reframing of LGBTI+ kid's experiences of homophobic / biphobic / transphobic bullying to create false equivalency. Very telling how they talk about having different "preferences", as that's what a lot of homo/bi/transphobics believe it to be.

Judging someone for their personal opinions and beliefs is not comparable to judging someone for the biological way they are

Nah, I'm never respecting people who say I can't exist

All I keep hearing is a hypocrite who wants to be exclusive and maintain privilege, but can't handle when the shoe is on the other foot. Although it is ideal to have majority opinion being an inclusive and safe one. So that's a good thing in this very trite and contrived animation...

Ive only just started the video but taht title is still wacky as WAIT NO NOT THIS ANIMATION 😭😭

"Am I a bad person for being evil and immoral? ... No, that can't be it... My evil and immoral cult leader says we aren't."

Jammi: trying to peacefully speak peacefully to the child with facts and logic. Me: *swearing and getting pissed at some random child who probably doesn’t exists*

The way I still hate her voice years later

CELEBRATE!!!! I AM GETTING BABYS FIRST BINDER!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH thank you for the videos! It really helped me to come out to my sibling:)

i remember seeing Sam Collins talk about this and me thinking this story seems really really fake 😭😭 maybe because I live in Texas and we have a more “i don’t care” attitude over here in a sense that there’s still a lot of ingrained homophobia, but I can’t imagine an entire school turning on somebody for being homophobic even today

Being homophobic or bigoted isn't a matter of opinion. An opinion is, "Welcome to the Black Parade isn't the best MCR song." Not "Homosexual people don't deserve rights." Bigotry and hatred are beliefs. Homophobes believe we aren't human. Opinions are harmless and easier to change. Beliefs can hurt and take a lot more work to change.

I remember watching the original video a LONG time ago. At that time, I had no idea what LGBT even was, so I was mainly just confused when watching it. But now that I DO know, yeah the video's pretty messed up and incredibly manipulative in my opinion. "I mean I TOLERATE gay people. I just don't support them or think they should have rights! Why is everyone so mad at me? I'm the victim!" It tries to paint LGBT people as the "bad guys" when LGBT people the ones who actually get bullied and discriminated against in the real world by homophobes. (I also think it's strange that the character never really elaborates on WHY she "doesn't support the LGBT community.") It's like whoever made the original video took gay people's real-life experiences and flipped it to make the the homophobe the "innocent" one, with the intention of manipulating its audience into turning against LGBT people and thinking we're all "bullies" who need to be punched down. It's absolutely sickening.

The baby voice when she victimizes herself is quite telling. She's a model narc

"preferences" , ah yes, i too prefer being gay and trans

Honestly when they compared not supporting LGBT to having different political views. that also just brings up how homophobes will make being trans a "political discussion" Like no I 'm not being political being me, also human rights is not political it's basic decency that for some reason is no longer extended when you realize that you are not the gender you were assigned at birth.

The Click would definitely stamp the square “Things that didn’t happen” on his bingo card, for this video. All of her peers already had strong opinions on LGBTQ, but this is the first time she was asked about her stand on it. Sure. Too bad the writers of this fiction didn’t place her as a newly arrived member of the school. More believable.

I mean I did ask (sort of) one of my old friend's what they thought of being queer and she replied with homophobia and I didn't get in touch with her since (closely anyways). I'm also autistic and extremely direct so that could be why I asked in such a manner

My best friends family is very conservative. I came out to her one day and she said she couldn't support the community because of her parents, but she accepted me. She said that, personally, she doesn't think it's wrong. She's one of those people who is forced to not support, like she isn't going to tell people to stop being apart of the LGBT community