People literally just think that LGBT+ means that everyone is attracted to the same gender. Well, there's still loooads of queer people who can have children in their relationship... Why are people so ignorant? If they hate on something, they should look it up at least
I saw a meme saying "you're here because your father wasn't queer". My father WAS queer. And a wonderful man. I lost him last year. Shut the front door, as OT says. EDIT: holy carp, this blew up! wow. to everyone asking: yes, i am fine. I'm actually glad he's not dealing with it anymore, COPD is a bitch and a half. Being born in 1952 he never had the words for it, but based on our many many many (drunk and sober) conversations, most likely some flavor of pansexual. "if we get along, gender doesn't matter. men can be pretty too" and secretly watching gay porn after I taught him how computers work :D I wonder just how many closeted people were in that town... especially under communism. If I had been around before 1989, they would've destroyed me because I can not shut up :D
Fun fact about that is that we started doing that in order to boost patriotic and nationalist feelings. So it was actually a form of indoctrination. But at the time it was like we've got to make people more patriotic, so it's all okay
I love how the drag queen fear is coming from the Catholic Church, of all places. Statistically, a Catholic priest is a lot more dangerous to your child than a drag queen.
My favorite trans joke actually came from a cis male comedian, Drew Lynch. "I don't know if I'll ever transition, but if I do, I know what my name will be. I'll be Rew, because it's Drew without the d."
@Lister Smeg ohhh, so you're one of those trolls where your feelings trump actual facts and reality. facts don't care about your feelings, honey bunches of oats. find a healthier way to get people to interact with you than provoking responses in youtube comments with statements you know aren't true.
My son came out as trans. My brother thinks I'm abusing him by allowing him to be himself because I'm OBVIOUSLY forcing him to believe what I believe 😑 he didn't care when my son was coming out as pansexual but he drew the line at trans.
You are not abusing him, you are being a parent! My brother said the same when my kid came out as nonbinary. I did the same thing that you did; I accepted and kept on being a parent. THAT is what being a parent is all about! Great job fellow parent!! ❤
That's sad to hear! But you are doing the right thing and I'm sure your son knows how lucky he is to have a parent as empathetic and supportive as you. Just to have the option to explore one's gender identity safely (no matter what kind of identity it may be) instead of having to hide it from a parent is so rare and wonderful 🌈✨ Hope your brother comes around when he sees how it benefits your son!
I stick to my fathers Choctaw religion mixed with my mom's celtic/Norse religion where being LGBTQA is not an issue at all. So yeah the cherry picked christ crap that was rewritten over and over is bs !
The best part is where they cherry pick a specific line that is only vaguely against something (usually not even in line with their point), or intentionally miss-translate something that originally meant like “don’t be a dick to everyone around you” and not at all realizing the irony of using it to hate.
i personally believe the universe is the "higher being" so like, god who? at least the universe is provably real 😭😭 but in the end, believe what you want, just don't use it as an excuse
the whole “biology” argument makes me want to rip out my hair. i’m autistic and my special interest is in biology, i want to be a biologist in the future, im also nonbinary and a lesbian. it’s so frustrating that they don’t understand the biology that they’re preaching
I mean, if they understood it, they wouldn't be preaching it. Although I wouldn't put it past some of them to _know_ what they're talking about but deliberately spout wrong stuff to further their own agenda (and maybe make money from gullible people).
im also autistic with a biology spinterest and i also lose my mind when people use biology as an argument, it's insane wait until they hear about snails
@@TryingtoTellYou I mean... IVF has been around for over 40 years now. There could be babies out there who are the second or even third generation to be IVF kids
16:45 My mom is an older lady. She's always been open minded, but she is, simply by age, a boomer. One time she said "I don't understand flying a flag showing that you're proud about being gay. I've never shouted that I'm proud of being straight." I just pointed out, "No one ever bullied you or hated you for being straight though." But unlike transphobes or homophobes, she listened and understood. It was just something new to her that she didn't understand.
22:41 actually if a homophobe touches a rainbow flag they do an anime transformation scene in which they dye their hair and divorce their spouse to move in with their European lover, so they have to be veeeeeery careful or they'll catch the gay
@@neurodivergentlyblog8882 I find that kinda funny tbh. I mean, the reason conservative religious people hate gay people is that they're having "sinful sex". But asexuals don't want to have sex at all! Isn't that a good thing? 😂 You can't have sex before marriage if you never have sex! But that's not enough for them. They're not satisfied until everybody on planet Earth is leading a christian, heterosexual lifestyle and procreating.
I was brought up in a Christian-based cult. I didn't even understand the "existence" of LGBTQ+ individuals until I was in my late teens because I was never "exposed" to it. Yet, somehow, my first girlfriend and I knew we were bisexual since we were 5 years old - we just didn't have the language to explain it at that time. The only thing that happened from me being kept from that understanding as a child was an enormous amount of self-loathing and loneliness (and bullying). I wasn't "magically" not bi just because I didn't know about it.
My favorite thing is that the "homophobic dog" memes (her name is Whitney Chewston btw) absolutely took off in the queer community. I and my friends send each other the one that says "I know what you are." and "you're gonna make me say the word." (in reference to the f slur) to make jokes all the time
The in-unison “byyYYYeee!!” was a wonderful was to finish the video. Looking back I don’t think all of the times I started yelling made it into the video! Hahah 💜
“Homosexuals can’t reproduce” Me glancing over at my toddler to make sure she hasn’t vanished into thin air 👀 (She’s definitely still here. I definitely still reproduced 😆😆)
no it's actually all the liberal marxist leftist commie gay queer agenda's lie to plant chips into your brain which makes you see a kid that's not actually there
I agree... my freinds joking about my girlfriend having more balls than I do (she is mtf and I'm ftm), is hilarious! Dont tell us we cant take jokes...😂
Oh hey ho th s squid, the homophob Higgs basher who tells people they are evil if their culture differs from his. I’m sorry him not white squid. I didn’t realize it would hurt you so much.
I make the same joke with my boyfriend (though I’m not mtf, he’s ftm). Whenever we have a argument (we only argue about dumb small things in like video games lol) I’m just like “yeah but I’m longer than you.”
@mudkipmatt3793 omg, that's amazing!😂 My girlfriend is mtf and I'm ftm. We basically do the same. I always say that I can chose how big my stick is is going to be and she just says, that hers at least is biodegradable😂 We love some trans jokes😂
16:56 I grew up around ONLY heterosexual people, had ONLY heterosexual relationships shown in the cartoons I watched and books I read as a kid, and was ONLY told I would grow up to be in a heterosexual relationship (with a man, because I am gurl). Heterosexuality was crammed down my throat from day 1. And yet, here I am, queer af and going around in circles thinking about a girl I went to school with almost a decade ago!
I'm bi, and graduated in 05, but I feel you on still thinking about certain girls I knew. Pretty sure most of them were straight, though. I was much too shy at the time to find out.
@@sweariefaerie9621 I grew up in a conservative area and had so much going on (school, mental health, stressful home life) that I didn’t even have time to think about my sexuality. I knew I liked guys because I found certain boys I knew cute and thought of certain actors as hot. But once I got out of school and did some research into different sexualities for a book I was writing, I found a label that I just liked and that was when I realized I was queer lol It also doesn’t help my situation that I met the girl I’ve been thinking about twice about 2 or 3 years ago and just suddenly realized how pretty she’s always been and that she’s STILL so pretty as a full grown woman. Before I moved to another state, I tried to send her a friend request so I could at least say hi her every once in a while. We used to be friends in school, not close, but she was on of the few popular pretty girls that was nice to me and was patient with my ADHD/autistic weirdness. Unfortunately, it wasn’t until AFTER I sent the friend request that I remembered a) I updated my FB name after I had changed my legal name and b) my profile pic was of a cartoon lesbian couple’s canon kiss, not me lol
Heterosexuality wasn’t crammed down your throat. You act as if that happened to you literally. Watching cartoons wit straight relationships is the norm. Is there a problem wit that??
@@GothboiKenzy yes straight people can be in media, does your smooth brain feel so good for knowing that? The problem was, they would smash together the most problematic couples like a toddler does when playing with toy cars and trying o simulate an accident because little child brain think its the funniest thing in the world. The hetero relationships that were crammed down my throat as a kid 9 out of 10 were toxic and problematic as HELL, but because it was a hot guy and hot girl it was supposed be a good couple. They never had anything in common, always argued, always played mind games, never trusted or communicated with each other, and where portrayed as “hashtag couple goals” the entire time. And no kid’s shows ever showed any alternative to cis and straight. No lesbians, no gays, no gender queer characters, not even any happily single people. EVERYONE had to have a partner (or at least a love interest) of the opposite gender by the time the story wrapped up. I read a book were a girl fell in love with a American Civil War GHOST and ended up SETTLING for a living guy ONLY because she helped the ghost move on to the after life. And it was set up to be a “feel good love story.” There were books girls HATED this one boy for no reason other than “he’s annoying” (which he wasn’t, he was just politely friendly) but she ends up in love wit( him by the end because he shows her he’s a “good guy” ONCE and all of a sudden he’s God’s gift to the world. And those stories involved MIDDLE SCHOOLERS! So yes, cishet WAS crammed down my throat as a child by children’s media. The ONLY time I saw trans gender or gay/lesbian characters was on freaking LAW AND ORDER because my mom watched it while I did my homework.
@@alexismyers6053 I ain’t reading all dat I’m workin out rn 💀💀anyways you take this stuff tooo personally that’s the problem. There’s no problem wit being gae but to say that straightness was crammed down your throat is the most privileged thing to say and you doing too much bro 💀
Canon Jesus would be crucified again if he were to ever resurrect. The guy was basically a socialist, he fought against those in power, he wanted equality and treated people around him with decency and respect no matter their class, he hung around with the sinners not those that deemed themselves righteous, he taught forgiveness and mercy, and he also was a Jew born 2,000 + years ago in the Middle East so there's a high probability he isn't the long haired pretty faced bearded hippy that is all over all the imagery of Jesus - which was actually based on the homosexual lover of Leonardo Da Vinci, because irony is just powerful here - so yeah, if Jesus were to come back, the ones who say they love Jesus the most while beating LGBT people down with their bibles, they would crucify him again.
@@TornAlchemist this is exactly what I throw in bigots faces nowadays. Do they really think if Jesus came back to Earth, He would want to hang out with the hateful people? No he would spend his time with the oppressed and the scared. They truly think Jesus would hate LGBTQ people when their own bible shows the opposite to be true in every single instance.
10:15 my favorite fun fact- when Shakespeare was writing plays women weren’t allowed to act in plays, so all female roles were played by young boys who could pass as women on stage.
They literally preformwd on drag and then there isna whole play about a woman pretwnding to be a guy and lets not start woth his gay jokes and innuendos....
Drag Queen Storytime: If you don't want your children to see drag queens, don't take them. However, you do not get to tell me how to raise my child and who we can accept.
I love drag Queens I love that these amazing fun people want to take time out of their day to read to children, they are just dressing up in fun clothes and educating kids what Is wrong with that? I bet they take their kids to Disney land and let their kids talk to strangers dressed up as cartoon characters and giant ducks, dogs, and mice.
The problem I have with it is that drag queens arnt trans some are yes but it's literally men dressing up to feel pretty but drag queens this specific name Is a SEXUAL/ADULT show and categorie
The irony is that anyone who disagrees with drag queen story hour could just... not bring their kids. It's entirely outside of schools. They literally mad some parents are making the choice their own kids to these events. And then they cry indoctrination 🙃
Jamie, thanks for this video. My son has been socially transitioning for a couple of years and is starting the process of seeking medical intervention now. He's still underage, but fortunately we live in a state where parents are still allowed to raise their own kids. I think of myself as pretty knowledgeable about trans issues and we are super supportive of my son, but even though I know the regret rates for transition and how much happier and healthier trans people are when they are free to seek affirming care, we (his cis parents) still feel some anxiety about him starting medical transition. We're more concerned about it not going smoothly than about him regretting it later, and about the risks inherent in any medical treatment. Having just had surgery on my back a month ago myself, I don't want my baby boy to have to go through the pain of recovering from top surgery. Especially -- and this is where I confess my sins -- if there's a chance he might not "need" it. He could just keep wearing binders forever, right? Yeah, I know better than that. But my Mom brain looks at the options for medical transition and focuses on the risks, the dangers, the things that can't be reversed. Even though I know the stats, when it comes to my own child, it feels a lot scarier. The only think I can think of that's more frightening than him medically transitioning...is what might happen if he doesn't. This video helps me envision a real person on the end of that road. Seeing you address this issue at this moment in my life is a great reminder that the medical interventions are a process, but that they are a moment in time with lasting, positive, life-changing effects. I want that for my son, and this video is going in my playlist of videos that I send to friends and family who want to better understand my son's identity and transition. Thank you so much. You're doing such good work.
I am with you on that, I have 2 sons that are socially living as the boys they are my oldest son has started his testosterone treatment, my youngest is too young still (14) when they stopped living as girls and became the boys they knew they were they also became happy and confident. We renamed them, yes they got to be part of the process, but seeing as when a child is born parents name thier kids it was the same concept! So far they have been fine, but my youngest who guess to high school has the group that calls him all kinds of things, they also flip out because he has a boyfriend who is adorable and has been so good to my baby for 3 years now. Truly having these types of shows where they can watch people making fun of the dumb assumptions from hate-filled fascist makes them more able to laugh it off as well.
Honestly, the worst part about transitioning is the fact that most people who want to transition figure it out after they've already gone through puberty when it is far less optimal, and it's difficult to be confident that someone who is young enough to truly benefit from HRT during puberty will not regret their decision. Like, teenagers are already a pretty fickle bunch and pre-teens are more so and easily influenced, so it's difficult to know if you're doing the right thing for them by enabling their transition that early. If your child knows that their gender is not the same as their sex and they're dead set on remedying that, then your support is THE most meaningful thing you can give them. Even if you have some misgivings about surgery, that's fine. You guys can work through that together. Just knowing that you're there for them and you're willing to help them start that journey means the world to them. Also, top surgery is far easier to recover from compared to bottom surgery. Still, it's best to wait and see how much it is actually needed once the hormone replacement hits and there isn't a hormonal impetus to enlarge or sustain breasts. A lot of trans men experience considerable breast size shrinkage before undergoing their top surgery, particularly if they start it early because estrogen blockers are also a crucial factor for FTM HRT. While top surgery will still likely be necessary, the severity may not be as great as it could have been if HRT had been further delayed. Also, try to get a cosmetic surgeon for the process. The way they close wounds is fundamentally aimed at reducing and eliminating scarring. Unfortunately, this will mean a more significantly restricted range of motion during the recovery process because the sutures won't go through all of the layers of skin, it will result in less noticeable scarring once it has healed fully. With cosmetic surgeons, the ideal is to have multiple sub-cutaneous layers of sutures with biodegradable thread finished with surgical adhesive (basically what cyanoacrylate adhesives developed into) and adhesive-based wound closure dressings (similar to steri-strips) to add extra strength to the closure. Long story short: You're doing the right thing and you're a good mother. Your concerns are valid, your anxiety is valid. Talk through them with your son so both of you will be on the same page and you can work through them together.
@@mndlessdrwer Thanks for the kind words and for spitting straight-up facts! As an update, I no longer live in a state that allows parents to raise their own kids. I didn't move, but my state legislature held a special closed-door session to pass a law that prevents minors from accessing gender-affirming care, including HRT, even with parental consent and the recommendation of their medical practitioners. I'm livid. Fortunately, we were already pursuing HRT for my son, and he was able to start treatment just weeks before the law went into effect, allowing him to continue treatment under the grandfather clause. I know other families who weren't ready to start that part of the transition yet and ended up moving states. We would have done so as well if we'd needed to, but I also have an 18 year old who is in his final year of high school, and since we were able to get my younger son the care he needs (at least for now), we thought it best not to disrupt their education. On a happier note, my son is doing fantastic on T, and his voice has dropped enough already that he sounds almost exactly like his older brother. He's so delighted. He was able to come out to his aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents on his dad's side of the family, and everyone is on board (even my ~80ish yo, Catholic parents-in-law!) and they are doing a commendable job of using my son's correct pronouns. (He doesn't plan to change his name, since the one we gave him is gender neutral and he likes it.) My sister-in-law even commented at Thanksgiving that my son seems so much more confident and outgoing now, and it's true. He's really bloomed since starting T, and I feel so fortunate that we were able to give him access to that. As for future surgeries, he has actually told me that he's looking forward to having top surgery scars. He says he doesn't want to go stealth, he's proud of his trans identity, and he would view surgical scars as a badge of honor. He's even talked about getting a post-surgery tattoo across his chest that says "these used to be t!ts," lol. Pretty sure he's not serious about that, but it's a funny idea.
@@JadeStone00 Just wanted to say this was so wholesome to read and as someone with an unsupportive family, it makes me happy that there are trans people who are surrounded by so much love and support and who get to blossom into themselves and at such a young age! You're a great parent, and your kid is lucky to have you.
Jamie, our trans bi dad, being like “eh that’s what they do. Such boring :/“ while OT, our cishet ally dad, is like “NO. That is RUDE >:(“ gives me life.
Is OT cishet? I know they use any/all pronouns but I suppose that's not an indication of gender, and they always gave off bi vibes but that's not a whole lot to go off of.
@@nyx-nuri.08 well speaking as an nb person myself it’s hard to be straight if you’re not exclusively male or female however you have a point. I’ve just never heard of OT not being cis, hence the asking 😅
My niece once asked me the pronouns of a genderless slime creature in a roleplaying game, and I was so proud, both that she wanted to adopt the slime and that she's so open and accepting of topics I would have been utterly clueless about at her age.
Respect for your niece. My sibling and their spouse are pretty supportive of lgbt+ people, but sadly it's just never talked about around their kids. If one of their kids came out they would be hella' supportive, but I worry about the lack of embracing that now will do down the line. Especially when I know the grandparents who babysit them all the time are conservative Christians who openly demonize the lgbt+ community. As their cool, childfree pibling (non-binary sibling to their parent, but who is not out to the family) I find it is my responsibility to slip these little lessons in where possible. :P
Example of lgbtq+ friendly lgbtq+ joke : What do you call a gay detective? An ivesti-gay-tor Plays on words Another one, my personal favorite: How does a non-binary samurai slay their enemies? They/Them
10:03 shakespeare actually used the singular "they" on multiple occasions, even when the gender of the person being described was known, so he absolutely did "write about pronouns" :) also, if they feel so sure that shakespeare was 100% straight, they need to go watch doctor who
Also men playing women in his plays so its like the birth of drag queens and he had in twelth night i believe a love triangle with two women and a man. In fair the women was dressed as a man but still.
A man playing a woman's role that is pretending to be a man. Or anything from A Midsummers Night Dream. And the pseudonym of William Shakespeare. A penis was often referred to as a pike or spear. Or a Willy. And masterbating was referred to as shaking hands with a friend. Now, look at that name again. They weren't meant for the upperclass, but the poor masses.
@@ShaSha-lex didn’t the drag start in ancient Greece? The plays with the masks that people always use for theatre symbols right? Women weren’t allowed in theatre for a loooong time, and people have been ‘crossdressing’ for ages, but the gender tied to clothing depends on the region and the century lmaoo
@@AnEmu404 indeed they did though i remember Shakespeare actively made commentary on it with a group of characters I've always grouped as the actors in a midsummer night's dream. That being the guys such as bottom who put on a play and one commenting that he cant play a women because he has a beard and the bearded lady arrived in existence
I have friend who works as a teacher. She showed her students a documentary about a disabled woman wanting equality and dignity, and in class discussion one of the students summarised the documentary as “the woman wants everyone else to be disabled like her.” That has been stuck in my head for days now; it really speaks volumes about how certain folk view people that are different from them. Also, hearing it from a child is particularly depressing.
I mean... She's simplified an idea I had. If we can find some way to biologically paralyze someone from the waist down and fix it without causing harm, or any number of physical afflictions, we could theroetically use it to be more empathic. It's much easier to sympathize with someone if you've been in their situation.
Hi. I'm Autistic and also work with kids. I think something like that could be an opening for discussion. A response like, "is that what equality means? That everyone looks the same or does things the same way?" Could open the conversation up to improve understanding. Depending on the age group, they may already know about the Civil rights movement somewhat so, you could follow up with, "when Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was working for equality for Black people, did he want to change the world so that there was ONLY Black people, or did he want people to be treated the same and respected the same, and have access to the same things regardless of their skin color?" They'll most likely respond with, "he wanted people to be treated the same," because Black history is such a big part of our education (while disability education is sorely lacking), so you might follow up like, "well, this woman wants the same thing for disabled people that Dr. King wanted for people of color, to be respected and treated with kindness regardless of their disability. She doesn't want to be excluded or given, 'special treatment,' and she doesn't want to change everyone else to be disabled, she wants to be treated like a person and have access to the same things everyone else does. She just might need some help in order to do that."
@@evangonzalez7732 you don't necessarily need to sympathize with someone in order to empathize with them. This is where the dual empathy comes in: emotional empathy and cognitive empathy. Emotional empathy is feeling with someone and caring about the fact that they feel the way they do. Cognitive empathy is understanding WHY someone feels the way they do and putting value on it because it makes sense. I'm Autistic and I'm really strong in emotional empathy, but not so much with cognitive empathy. I don't often understand why something makes someone feel a certain way, unless it is something I have experience with, but I feel it with them and it matters to me if something is harming them. I also have a very strong sense of right/wrong and justice. All this to say, it's possible to care about how ableism affects people without having to experience a certain disability yourself. I have no experience with being a wheelchair user, but I do understand that it's not right that someone should be restricted in the places they have access to simply because they can't or struggle to walk.
16:53 this made me snort so loud, it's literally the exact opposite lol. I was getting a ride from my conservative grandma, and because it had stopped raining, I pointed out the rainbow. She then went on and lectured me about how God created the Rainbow as a sign that the Noah flood was coming to an end and that gays had appropriated it. I was literally just pointing out how pretty it was, i wasn't trying to make any statements on LGBT+ topics 😭
idea: "we arent brainwashing your kids" also them: makes the kids recite the oath of allegiance to a country, saying that they will support it even if its bad
@@chloesibilla8199 yeah somebody said under Allah (I think idk) and they almost got arrested."free speech" the government can't silence you. I don't think anymore
I talked to my partner about this thing yesterday, "Why is it that the whole friend group is always gay?" or "why everyone is trans or gay now, it wasn't like that back then" or "why is everyone in the comments of a lgbtq youtuber suddenly realizing they're queer?" Here's the answer : No, it's not the lgbtq pheromones in the air omitting from them - it's simple human nature. Humans look for community. You look for people who have similar interests or you have similarities with, to feel belonging. A group of friends usually has one or multiple interests that bring them together or their personalities or opinions match in a way. It's always something connecting them. So: It's because being queer is a similarity between them, they feel that they belong together. Why isn't it weird that in a group of straight people no one wonders why all of them are straight? It WAS like that back then - It just wasn't allowed. Why would you openly admit to doing something that is illegal, or will get you hurt, abused or even killed. You would much rather stay quiet and have a chance to live a normal life. Because of community - A lot of people never get to actually learn about the lgbtq, many are closeted and stay closeted for a long time because they're not in a good environment or just assume everybody experiences what they do because they were never taught that there's more than straight or cis identities. They're not being brain washed, they're being taught. I learned spanish in school, I'm not turning spanish now. I learned geography, I'm not a mountain. I learned about politics though, and I've realized my position there, that I didn't know I had! I also tried some food and realized I didn't like it. You are learning, and now that lgbtq is more openly taught about, more people learn and realize things about themselves that they didn't know.
it's like i can sort of detect other people who have similar struggles. It's like every single closeted queer person is born with rocks in their shoes, and some have more, and some have less, but we all learn to adapt to it because it's just what's normal for us. Eventually we learn to walk upright, if possibly a little slower, and to someone who doesn't have rocks in their shoes we look like we're totally comfortable. But no matter how we hide our discomfort, our gait will always be slightly different from other people's, and since we're so familiar with how someone in pain walks, occasionally you'll see someone else who is also walking a little differently from everyone else. Your'e right, it's not bullshit pseudoscience about pheromones, it's that having this rock in your shoes and being closeted or not even knowing it comes with so many *tiny*, seemingly insignificant hallmarks of discomfort, that manifest in our behaviors as slightly different mannerisms. And I, someone who is familiar with little quirks in someone's behavior, will be drawn to certain people because we can relate to each other. Maybe we'll even talk about the rock-not explicitly, because we don't know there's a rock, but in conversations that sound like "hey, are your shoes hurting any less than usual today?" And we don't really want to talk about it or dig too deep, because we've learned from our childhoods that it's really weird and gross to talk about your feet hurting around other people. And we just secretly assume other people's feet also hurt all the time. One day, someone in your circle is going to have experienced so much foot pain that they'll mention the rock to someone who doesn't have a rock. And instead of being like "ew, why would you say that?" They respond "what? my feet don't hurt all the time, I didn't know yours did." Or "you know you can just...take the rock out, right?" And when that light bulb flickers on, of course they'll tell their friends about it. of course everyone will want to walk in rock-free shoes, and it will be really painful and some of them might not *ever* walk painlessly because of the sores and blisters and calluses from hundreds of thousands of sharp, stabbing steps. For some, the pain of removing the rock is intensely painful, or too expensive, or carries a high risk of injury and infection. Of course, there are going to be purists who say things like "people who take their shoes off and pick out the rocks are disgusting," or "you were born with it, so why do you want to mutilate your feet to take out something natural?" They call people silly for being in such excruciating pain that they k!ll themselves, because they can't empathize with others. And what they do not understand is that just because a person without rocks has no reason to remove any rocks does not mean that people with rocks don't deserve to do so.
Exactly! People who don't learn always like... Oh it's just so more common nowadays. Its this fad. No! It's not! It's exactly as common as it was, but now there are safe places, and now it's not illegal, and I'm not going to lose my job for being found out most likely and if I do it's protected under law, and now I can actually get married, and all the other things that have changed between then and now. People aren't just deciding we're Queer or being turned we're feeling safer about being honest with who we are to the world
24:35 I'm a prefect in my school and I'm also a trans guy, my sister (senior prefect) and I convinced the teacher to let us make a student taught "gay day" or as it was called "diversity day". My gf and I taught a class about the history of certain racial or homophobic slurs, and why they're bad, my other two friends taught a class on different pride flags, two senior prefects taught about coming out and another senior prefect explained pronouns and gender. Despite the kids in my school not having the best thoughts of people who are different, every class I taught was respectful, or as respectful as a class of countryside 11-16 year olds can be when being taught about slurs and flags. I think a "diversity day" is a really good way to teach kids about people who are different to them, when their own environment isn't particularly diverse.
oh this seems so lovely, i would've loved to have something like this at any school i went to !! an inclusive principal sounds just heavenly oh gods i am so happy this is/was a thing somewhere :']
It always cracks me up how we get called "snowflake" and "soft" and overly sensitive constantly by the same people who completely loose their minds any time a black or queer person or a woman gets any level of media representation. Like, I watch Ben Shapiro vids and daily wire vids to laugh at them and because I'm a masochist, and so many of their videos are "Disney is too woke, theres a gay character" or "batman is woke because Gordon is played by a black guy". It's just unreal. Any time I'm watching a TV show or a movie I'm watching for entertainment and evaluating the media based on how enthralling the story is, and how dynamic and realistic the characters are. I have literally never once watched a piece of media and cared about the race, or gender/gender identity, or sexuality, etc. of any character. Yet, I watched Shapiro's review of the new batman and 80% of his commentary was "this character is black, and this one is a woman of color, and this one is queer, and i have no actual comment in the actual character development or depth because I'm an identity politics obsessed little snowflake bitch who wants all media to be carbon copies of dirty harry or leave it to Beaver"
Context: I was a cashier with a nametag that had "they/them" pronouns on it. Customer sees my nametag: "Are they making you put that on there?" Me: "No, I put it there." Customer grumbling: "Your generation is killing us." Glad I was wearing a mask because I was smiling and trying not to laugh. Like, sir, if 2 little words on my nametag are "killing" you, how are WE the snowflakes? 😂 (He didn't even have to use said 2 words at any point in the exchange lol.)
Plus Disney cancels shows that ‘aren’t their brand’ (cough cough Owl House) which while maybe it was a older audience it was also one of the more positive and well known lgbtq cartoon representation that wasn’t just a vague name or reference lol
@@Angela-fw4uy who cares. i think marriage is bullshit and i still accept people changing their last names. i'm not at all religious and i still don't go out of my way to tell people their god isn't real. sometimes things just won't make sense to you and you have to play along with it anyway. that's how adulthood works
I do like the fact that they are so adamant to not teach kids about LGBTQ+ so kids don't become gay but during primary we were taught about religion and I'm not religious. We weren't taught about being gay but I'm gay and trans
You guys hit the nail on the head when talking about it coming from a place of fearing education. I used to be homophobic in my teens cause I was raised in a Christian community. I literally thought the gays were stealing the rainbow from Christians lmao. Then I worked alongside several gay people at my job. Made friends with them. Wait, they’re just people like me? Immersion into a broader world forces you to question your upbringing, and that’s a good thing. I grew up and out of closed mindedness. It’s so frustrating to watch people choose to stay bigoted, especially in the Information Age.
It always kinda pisses me off when europeans make fun of americans for being failed by their education system, as if their government doesn't actively suppress certain learning because then people would stop voting against their own interest.
Oh its like someone I know at school his dad is the same age as all our grandparents so he hasn't had the most progressive upbringing and he met a gay couple and said 'you know what they're just normal' after having been kinda unsure about gay people. I think he has summed it up pretty well in that realisation that they're like him
@@ilikecheese775 Christians stole a lot of things from the Jews. Reading about the concept of the Messiah in Judaism and realizing just how poorly Jesus actually fits it was one of the final nails in the coffin for me not just with regards to Christianity but to all Jesus-believing religions.
Time Ghost explains this on their channel in their video about how the hate in Germany led to the Holocaust. Basically once you are able to humanize 'Them' they will become 'Us'.
I have it paused right at the part before he says the fun fact and this has me worried... Edit: Not as bad as I expected. Edit 2: I TAKE THAT BACK. I'd already heard of waffle stomping, but I managed to go a few years without hearing it.
I actually convinced someone to try and change their view! It was a japanese american man who was saying that being gay is wrong, and i asked him "why?" And he said "because they use being gay as an excuse to not have to deal with consequences" and i asked him what he was talking about and he said that when he was in school him and his friend would often get called very racist things and be bullied by this group of people who happened to be LGBT, and I said that thats horrible that something like that would happen, but if hes expirienced racism he should know how it feels to be hated for something someone else did, and as the smart man he is, he should know that even if that was horrible, just because it was someone doesnt mean it is everyone. He almost cried and said that he'll try to change his view, but it'll be difficult and I said that the fact he's giving it a shot is good enough for me. I was 12 at the time, this man was a 38 year old doctor. I changed the view of a full grown adult by just being kind. I know this story sounds very fake, so you dont have to believe me, but just think about how little that was to me and how big that was to him. Its worth it!
About the whole “now it affects my tribe thus I must change” thing… sadly it’s not always true. I came out as trans and my family doubled down on their hate!~ life is hell… it’s hard to keep smiling most days. Thank goodness for your videos. OT and Jammi are the few rays of sunshine in life. Hope you all have lovely days.
@@sophitiaofhyrule I got in contact with a 2SLGBTQ group near me and am getting good help and am even on a short list for housing. So things are getting better. And it’s in the same city as my specialist for transitioning so win win.
I get so upset when people act like Christianity and queerness are mutually exclusive. As a trans person who was raised by conservative, devoutly Christian parents, I have a weird relationship with my faith. I can say one thing for certain, though: Jesus is my homeboy and He loves me in all my trans glory. Thanks for the great video 🤎
Anyone who calls themself Christian but tries to get away with being sh-tty to queer ppl or women, just remind them of Galatians 3:28 "There is no Jew or Greek, slave or free, male and female; since you are all one in Christ Jesus."
My dad was a incredibly homophobic, and I know he has some of those views still(though he's working on it!) but in my family he's the most supportive of me. He stands by my decision to come out and nicknamed me Blue Jay since my name is James and my favorite color to dye my hair is blue. I'm a trans man, to clarify why the nickname is important
I'm 25 and live away from my family. My father told me when I came out that he may not have a daughter anymore but he does have a kickass son. Also I lived with my mother during high school, who is not supportive. So, fuck off with the transphobia, especially on this channel
My pop calls me brat to not miss name me yes he calls me Markus sometimes but most of the time it's brat. He's always said it and not in a rude way at all and its something I really appreciate
@random account This reminds me of what my older brother does! I live with my two older brothers, and they're both conservative. Despite that, they try their best to support me, even if they disagree with most of my opinions. My oldest brother doesn't have too much trouble calling me by my name (Noah), but my other older brother has a lot of trouble with it. Instead, he just started calling me Paul because he said it was somehow easier for him to remember, and he didn't want to deadname me. It might not be my actual name, but the effort is very much appreciated!
@@ominouslightning I'm glad they aren't assholes and can respect you like that. My dad has called me Mark like once so honestly even little efforts make the world to me. My step mum was teaching my little sister who's 4 my name and she's four so she half way there some times it's mark or sometimes its my dead name but I'm not to bothered she knew me as my dead name for 3 years of her life. And my friends little sisters 6 and 7 call me Mark but my pronouns are what they get confused on the most 🤣. Which again doesn't bother me at least they are trying
27:20 From what I understood, the term "woke" was first used around the end of the Civil Rights movement by black people who basically said "Okay, they gave us those rights but we need to remain vigilent because they could very well go backward or attack us in other ways." I think it's a common misconception to think that "woke" means awakened to some sort of new state of consciousness and enlightenment common people can't reach (which the detractors will obviously see as coming from a place of pretentiousness), it's rather "Not letting yourself be put to sleep by sweettalking and false promises" and suggests everyone was awake (to an extent) in the first place.
It's so miserable how many parents force their kids to act a certain way (not just orientation or identity based, but interests, emotions, how to dress, etc. as well) due to fear that the children will be bullied. Instead of combating the actual problem, they choose to have their own kids change themselves.. Reality is that kids can be bullied for anything, regardless of how "normal" or "weird" they appear. Might as well just let them be themselves.
my parents worked so hard to make sure i wasn't bullied for acting too neurodivergent or queer (i.e. pressuring me to fit a mold as closely as possible), only for me to be picked on for my race
My dad when telling me as a teenager, that I should change my skinny jeans before going to a barbershop. Needless to say I don't go there anymore. They took too long and would have some person (the person wasn't coming to get their haircut, but talk), and it would take forever.
I'm cis, probably het and white and I got bullied because I was the weird kid due to having ADHD sometimes cons you just can't win. You know what got me through? Having parents who continued to support me even if they didn't understand.
The irony being that their kids are more likely to become the bullies, because others don't fit the mould that their parents insist everyone must fit in. "That boy is wearing a pink top." "That girl likes dinosaurs." "I can't tell if that's a boy or a girl." Even if they aren't outright bullying, they're less likely to be inclusive and more likely to make hurtful comments.
I find the whole "brainwashing your kids" thing pretty funny It's exactly the same as showing a kid a platypus and saying "look at these cool animals" but them the platypusphobes say "noooo my kid wants to have a beak and lay eggs"
I should ask transphobes if the platypus is a mammal. It is and hopefully that's what they'd say. Then I would need to reply with "really? basic biology says they're not bc they lay eggs".
@@eDoc2020while I get the point the only thing mammals need is to produce milk. You should find an animal with mammary gland that no longer produces milk for their young
In some cases kids do get brainwashed there’s a lgbt couple who had a kid and that kid came out as transgender like bro that doesn’t happen coincidentally.
@@GothboiKenzy it actually does. The fact that homosexual couples are legalized and more accepted and that trans peoples are being slowly more accepted isn't making an increase, it's just now kids feel more safe, unlike 100 years ago where you'd be beaten and arrested for even jokingly saying you were such things
16:32 “People aren’t proud of where they’re from” Go to Wales, go to a pub when any sport is on and watch. Go to any national holiday. It’s not just us Welsh who are very proud of out country. Go to any small country or any country that’s been oppressed in the past but are now free.
I would like to say about the David Tennant "kids trying to learn their ABC's" meme, I am a transmasc person (he/they) who works with kids. When I first met the kids a kid asked if I was a boy or a girl, all I had to say was "well, I was born a little girl like you but now I'm a boy" the kids had no more questions and just used he/him for me. I didn't need to explain everything about trans people for 4-5 year olds to understand, they just got it.
I was raised Catholic and I had this sweet nun in my catechism classes who basically was asking us all the time about what WE thought about Jesus words and I remember things like Jesus being a supporter of marginalized groups, paying taxes, not very fond of people amassing fortunes, loving everybody, modest about his own blessings, mostly respectful, don't judging because only God knows everything and all of us make mistakes, and only angry when people made a profit from religion… so… neat… as I grew older I disconnected myself from religion and I'm mostly agnostic, but those messages stayed with me.
Got asked in church earlier today that if we were to write a gospel, what would we say the most important stuff was to show people about who Jesus was, and my answer was just that he was one of the people. He was with us, he spent his time hanging out with thieves and prostitutes and he loved us all. The only people he ever really criticised were hateful self-righteous people like the modern day homophobic "Christians."
Exactly! The Christian community in my little town isn’t as supportive as it could be, but the vicar here is lovely. I consider myself agnostic and am soon leaving for university, but some of the actually good messages from the bible stay with me.
In my village, we have a small local baptist church. The son of the pastor recently came out as gay and now the pastor is helping educate people on the lgbtq+ community.
@@bearo8 Yeah, the whole point of Christianity is meant to be about love. The church I go to is just the most wonderful, accepting place and I'm so glad I found somewhere like that.
I'm sorry, but the "homophobic" dog and David Tennant made me cry laughing (also OT answering "NORMAL JAMIE, JESUS") lmaooo sometimes humor is the best coping mechanism for bigotry
Q: How do nonbinary ninjas kill people? A: They slash them This is one of my favorite jokes nb jokes and it doesn’t stoop down to the level of degrading others.
I like to think that making better memes requires levels of education, thoughtfulness, and creativity that are not compatible with this reflexive fear and blind anger.
On the bit about phobias: I love how you described it as not just a fear. It actually works this way for other "fear" phobias, too. I have trypophobia (fear of small holes), which is actually defined as a repulsion or aversion to those small holes, not necessarily a fear of them. I'm not afraid that the holes are going to do something bad to me; I just am repulsed by them and don't want to look at them.
@@Anonymous-kp3jf Yes, like it hurts and I want to throw up, and I usually have spasms. I don't think this is what homo/transphobia is like literally, but it is a good comparison to how it's not simply a "fear" of something.
@@maironelfstone896 ah let me weigh in as a psychology junkie on that last part of your reply: hate is caused by the fear of hurt. Anger is caused by fear. See amygdala, cortisol, trauma
i died of laughter when the David Tennant ABCs meme showed up. they tried to make a homophobic meme of David Tennant. the same David Tennant who's been wearing a rainbow shaped non-binary pin to lots of interviews just to show his support. plus he looks really cool with blue hair and some white eyeliner
@@gaxalee7392 He even said that if having chemistry with someone was the only thing needed for a relationship, he should have married Michael Sheen, who is half of one of those gay ships.
Me and my best friend make some amazing gay jokes aimed at eachother here's some : Me: I take it that you had Pan-cakes for breakfast and made them in a frying pan ?? Her: how did you get to school today riding a bi-cycle Me: no you know I walk every day Her: did you walk with someone Me: No and I know where this is going Her: So then you walked all Bi-yourself It's stupid af but it's also funny lol
My friend made a wholesome meme of arachnophobia “why don’t you wanna touch him?” *Points at a spider* “I have arachnophobia...” *five seconds of silence* “why don’t you want spiders to get married? Why can’t spiders express who they are?” “Dude... no......”
I'm a Christian and I can vouch for 'the whole point is just to be a nice person and look after each other.' Yes, that's exactly it. The whole point of Christianity is that it's meant to be about love. Christianity to me means loving and accepting others unconditionally.
It's sad how many "christians" don't understand this. Saw an article just today about a group of parents suing a school over a curriculum they use to teach tolerance and reduce bullying. One of the mothers' arguement was that according to her evangelical Christian beliefs, "not all kinds of people deserve my child's empathy"
This is what I was taught growing up as a Catholic. I am now an atheist but still find this as the basic moral ground for everyone and it's strange when I see others in my own family have diverged from that path.
Not Christian at all but the part that gets me is that, as far as I know, God and Jesus only ever talked about love and forgiveness and tolerance, and anything that isn't that was just random people saying things that go directly against what was preached, and I'm just sitting here thinking that obviously those people were lured away from a good path by Satan why are you listening to them listen to your god! If the devil has any influence in the world then it's through those kinds of people.
4:03, That hit me in my gut. for most of my childhood I was so uncomfortable, and then I came into middle school where I was able to have access to a much larger amount of media, and I was actually able to *learn* about all of these different sexualities and genders, and I was able to figure out why everything I did made me feel so *weird.* Having knowledge about the LGBTQIA+ community didn't *make* me LGBTQIA+, I already was, and when I learned the words and met people with the same experiences as me, it was like fitting myself into a well worn glove. (I am AroAce (more specifically asexual cupioromantic) and genderfluid. so you can probably guess just how weird my childhood felt) And on the other hand, my brother was exposed to the exact same media and people I was, but he's still a cis straight man. sry if this was a bit of a rant, I just always explain things in the most detailed way possible :P
It's like what the LGBTQ+ community did with the clip of the interview between Julian Onziema and Pastor Sempa where the iconic meme "Why are you gae" comes from. That interview is a fucking trip and I cannot believe how patient Julian was through the whole thing. The way to turn something that was originally hurtful into a symbol of power is to subvert it and then own it.
@@TryingtoTellYou bisexuality is definitely real. If you are attracted to more than one gender in a romantic or intimate way then you are bisexual or mspec (multiple sexuality attraction, ei. Pan) Since my mum is attracted to men and women (not sure about nbs) then she is bisexual and she is bisexual because she identifies as such.
my favorite trans jokes are as follows; - "I like your name!" "Thanks, I picked it myself!" - "Wow, CisFriend, did your MOM pick your gender for you? smh" - "Sounds gay, I'm in"
Around the 14:00 minute mark, Jamie mentions younger folks he knows being more tolerant & I just want to add as a parent to a soon-to-be-tween, I too am astonished by hoe accepting & open the kids are these days when it comes to members of the LGBT+ community! I do NOT live in the most progressive area of my state (though I live in the Northeast, so my state as a whole is rather progressive compared to the rest of the USA), but my kiddo has at least 1 transgender kid in her class, and no one batted an eye when they ended 1st grade as one gender & came back as a different gender for the start of 2nd grade. This year, one of their new teachers is non-binary and has asked to be called "Teacher XYZ" (vs Mr./Ms. XYZ), with they/them pronouns. In 3rd grade, when 'crushing' & 'dating' began, having boy/girl couplings & girl/girl couplings was totally fine. (Boy/boy still seems to be somewhat taboo, however). Kiddo's in 4th grade now, & the kids have already begun to explore identities such as bisexual, pansexual, queer, gay, lesbian...and sadly, while their peers are accepting, I'm told there are a number of girls who don't feel comfortable telling their moms/parents that they think they may be lesbian or bisexual, which just breaks my heart. I've made sure to let my kiddo know that attraction can fluctuate & how she feels now might change, and that doesn't mean she was 'wrong' before, and it also doesn't mean she's locked into one identity & she shouldn't ever be worried about it changing or letting people know it's changed (if she even feels it would be their business anyway). I've been told I'm a horrible parent, or that my kid has been Mo Less Ted (?!), because "6-7-8-9 year olds shouldn't even HAVE an idea about sex stuff!" & this baffles me so dang much. Like, don't most straight people know they are straight fairly young? Why is it all of a sudden a 'sex thing' if someone identifies as queer instead??! It doesn't make it any more 'sexual' than a 6 year old that knows they 'like' someone of the opposite gender? I just don't get it. I'm so glad that things seem to finally be headed in the right direction (ie., live & let live, dang it!), and that it was better for Jamie's generation than it was for mine, and even better for the newer crop of kids, but it also bums me out that we have such a long way yet to go. Won't it be nice some day in the future, when we no longer even HAVE to 'come out', because people are no longer just assumed to "straight until told otherwise"? Ah, a girl can dream...
Right though. Watch someone come under here tho and be all offended at the fact that we aren't allowing them to say offensive things. Loke the logic of these people who say this shit is so contradictory. They'll get all defensive on anyone that talks about inclusion and be all whining and offended at the fact that we aren't allowing them to OFFEND other people by not being whiny dicks. 😂😂😂
I remember once I asked my mother about Islam because we had some transfer students who wore hijabs and I just wanted to know why. My mom then took it upon herself to tell everyone she knew that I was Muslim and that the school system had brainwashed me into religion. I just didn't know anything about it and I wanted to be respectful to the girls in my class. It's just odd that learning about anything other than AMERRICAAAA 🇺🇸🇺🇸🦅🦅 immediately means that our youth is being taught to be these "terrible things" when we should be allowed to learn of our differences. She always taught me that I should be accepting and loving of other people unless they subscribed to ideals different than hers. She always told me that I could follow any religion I wished but if I so much as mentioned anything other than paganism, I was a religious nut that wanted her dead or something
It's actually weird how many nationalist pagans there are . Is there like a pipeline I don't know about? My parents were hippies but my father wound up getting pipelined and now he's like extremely conservative. There's something going on here.
@@chloesibilla8199 Yeah, it's called "saying so much comically dumb shit nobody knows if you're deadass but repeat anyway." See also: Alex Jones and the Gay Frogs
it's crazy; somehow it is easier for parents to reject and push away their kids than it is to learn a little bit about them and LGBTQ issues in general.
My dad was pretty homophobic and transphobic until I came out. He has a gay brother, but my uncle is very much a narcissist and so for the longest time my dad's only close exposure to a gay person was a narcissist who built his entire personality around "my family hates me for being gay" when no, your family is meh about you because you're self-centred and purposefully made your divorce from your wife as messy as possible despite being the one who wanted it. Despite that being his personality, his now-husband is a man my whole family is fond of. But yeah, took until the kid whose idea of a good time is playing board games and whose entire personality is based around "what if we weren't bags of dicks to each other." for him to fully kick the homophobia.
12:49 When I was in elementary school and they’d give us stuff to colour however we wanted, I’d go through phases with how would colour them. I went through on phase in fourth grade where I would colour everything rainbow. (Normal, right? For a little kid to like colouring things rainbow?) and my parents didn’t see anything wrong with it. But at the end of the year they would display a bunch of our art in the hallways for a few days before we could take it home. One parent saw that I had a bunch of stuff coloured rainbow and got super pissed about how this catholic school was indoctrinating children into the lgbtq+. BRUH. It’s a fourth grader that colours stuff rainbow.
I was the same way, people would ask me what my favorite color was, and I couldn't decide so I felt I had to use all of them so none of them would be sad.
@@thisgoddamusernamestoodamnlong omg me!! I did that!! I just couldn't pick one color, I could actually never pick one favorite of anything, still can't. Ended up aroace so the only thing I ever picked was NO
@@racheleden9008 I thought it was because my nb sibling told me it was made by a gay couple. Edit; actually I think the one they showed me was the one with the subtitle “Is not fond of the gay community” so it’s a bit more obviously ironic than the one in the vid.
@@Shoyren it's probably ironic homophobes could never be creative enough to use a photo of a dog, and they will never be funny enough to do that either.
Somehow this unlocked a memory. So, when i was younger, i remember reading a book and they mentioned a gay couple. They weren't really relevant to the story and they were mentioned maybe two pages long. But at the end of the book, there was a comment from the author, justifying his decision to put a gay couple in there (he basically said that gay people are underrepresentated (especially in Kids books) and that its perfectly normal to have a gay couple in a story. Basically he responded to the argument "statistically there arent THAT many gay people in the World. Thats unrealistic!!" and said its stupid). And i distinctly remember that i was very confused why someone needed to clarify that. I didnt realise homophobia existed. And as a child, the homophobic stuff confused me way more than the queer stuff. They are just trying to find a "valid" reason to be homophobic, and thats not cool
God I remember having an argument with my conservative uncle about how “Homosexuality is wrong!” And I got too emotional and accidentally used the word “choice” and my uncle jumped down my throat about “so you ADMIT it’s a choice then!?”……..😩stupid homophonic uncles- and he even tried to say “but I’m not homophobic- I have gay friends!”………well ok then!🤷♀️😅🙄
I really needed this today. My transphobic coworker was particularly vile towards me this morning, insisted I wasn't trans, and went so far that I had a panic attack in line to get coffee before my shift. It's been over ten hours sense and I'm still shaking, crying off and on, and exhausted. This has just been one of many things he's done or said that made me uncomfortable or not felt safe to be around him. And the kicker is that he's a white cis gay man who does drag. Unless you're trans, you don't get to dictate what is or is not transphobic or who is and isn't trans. I'm still trans even if I have size H melons that I can't get removed or can't wear a binder. I'm still trans because I AM trans. Nobody else gets to decide that but me. I am trans enough just because I exist. This video made me laugh and it helped me have the will to actually eat. The whole situation this morning resulted in me not eating for over twelve hours and I'm hypoglycemic so it's not the smartest decision but....I feel like I'm rambling, sorry. Just thanks. Seriously.
Here's a piece of medical information I think all trans men should know: Cisgender men can have a condition known as gynecomastia. Literally a cis man growing breasts. It's actually a lot more common than people think, especially mild cases or if the man is overweight. It's a lot like the discourse around "what is a woman" where there's 0 way to define a woman that excludes trans women without also excluding some cis women. Saying men can't have breasts is also saying millions of cisgender men aren't men!
Just want to second the above comment(s) and hope you are doing better now. Im so sorry you had to go through that panic attacks are horrible (i have had so many) however just know most of the time it is a way of our bodies trying to defend ourselves when it think its in danger. Certainly doesnt detraft how horrible it is to go through tho. If i may, some things that help with anxiety/panic ive found has been using a paper bag to breath in to (so you get co2 to your brain and reduce the feeling of wanting to pass out) and if you get something hot or cold.... Cold tends to be better as more of a shock, like an ice cube or icepack and put it on the back of your neck/temple and try to focus on that, it really helps as it gives you something to even for a moment direct your brain to something other than what is going on internally, and can be enough to bring you out of it sometimes. these techniques are science based with how our brain works but obviously everyone is different but hopefully, if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future i really hope this helps x stay well and remember no one really knows anything except you and the only person who really know you is you. Also sorry for the long message.
@@yabadeedabadiii Those are usually my go to things to help but I didn't have access to any of it during the initial panic attack. I was with my roommate in line for coffee when I saw the messages (which I screenshot so he couldn't deny he'd said them to me). I was so embarrassed because a lot of people saw it happen but the barista was really kind and hugged me and wrote a kind message on my cup lid which made me tear up every time I saw it over my shift. I appreciate the reminder on how to help with panic and anxiety attacks, and you're right. My body was reacting to a perceived danger, and honestly I've never felt physically safe around him so now I feel on wary but at least I only work with him one day a week. Thank you for being kind.
@@lostinmymind8147 Thank you for being kind. I know there are more people who are kind and supportive and seeing messages like this do help me feel not so alone. Thank you.
fun fact about the homophobic dog: most if not all of the images are satire made by queer people!! there is also a string of images where the dog learns to not be homophobic and comes out as bi! its probably my favorite meme lol
6:45 Oh, yeah! I do remember seeing a few memes like that floating around Facebook… The funniest one (to me) had a semi-thin and nicely dressed man washing his hands in the first image, with a more muscular and shirtless guy in the second about to enter the cage of a full-grown grizzly bear. The caption on it said something along the lines of, “which one’s a real man?”, or something similarly toxic. I was like: sooo… good hygiene… vs dangerous stupidity…? 💁🏻♀️
20:50 The real question is what's with homophobes/transphobes and bring dogs into it. Like leave doggo alone! She didn't deserve to be the face of your bullshite! The fact she lives a gay couple is both ironically funny, and sad.
We have two children and they're growing up learning that it's ok to love the person you love. We have male/female, male/male, female/female and a trans male/female couple in our friends group. The trans man was giving birth to their baby before they transitioned and the woman in this relationship was even able to breastfeed the baby. It was an amazing experience to see how strong relationships work. My oldest child is correcting friends at school, when they claim that only heterosexual relationships are right. Of course, in their own way with the words of a first grader, but I'm really proud. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
