I Was S**ually Assaulted In a Korean Subway; This Is What People Focused On Instead 

I’ve had a similar experience at the grocery store and the same exact reaction. I was wearing a long skirt and a turtle neck. I was slightly bent over getting produce. A man pretended to bump into me and put his fingers forcefully into my lady parts from behind. It was painful because of the fabric. I froze, he apologized and literally ran away. I was so shocked by what happened and left my cart right were it was and left. Since then I’ve been super paranoid going out in public. Doesn’t matter what we wear it doesn’t stop vile men from assaulting us

I have literally just experienced this in Taiwan. Someone touched my breast and although I am from South Africa I have never been violated until I came to Taiwan and shared my story thinking it will help me heal but I am still having trauma from the experience but I am glad you shared your story. It makes me feel that there’s nothing wrong with the way I felt and still feel to this day. I also learned a very important lesson from this… no matter where you are you can be violated. There are perverts everywhere in the world so don’t let your guard down.

Some men have a nasty attitude towards women and it doesn't matter the country. The attitude is the same, and there is no excuse for it. I am glad you spoke up. Keep that courage. You inspire others to do the same.

A 6’7” guy at a former work place grabbed my ass as I was talking to him about work. I was so shocked and my immediate reaction was, I started punching him in the face non-stop until he was begging me to stop. Then, I told him if this ever happened again, I’m going to HR. He was super humble after that. He didn’t realize I was a tomboy growing up.

Korea has such a problematic society when it comes to welcoming foreigners and especially women there are too many of these cases and they get swept under the rug because the police don't give a minimal shit bout what you say even if you speak fluent korean, that's what I've heard from other people who had similar experiences

Well, I understand you girl I am also a girl from South African. My story is: I was living in Scotland in 2013 and one day I was traveling to Glasgow from Perth on a train. Then I noticed a guy sitting across just staring at me, I felt so uncomfortable then, after some minutes we reached final strain station in Glasgow. Well, I was like oh thank God I am out of the train, now lot of people were coming out to cross the road,since the traffic light were red then we waited with like lot of people coming out of the train. Me standing there not knowing this strange guy was behind me. When the light went green,he then grabbed me and just pulled me, hugging forcefully. I screened and cried loud and guess what people didn't even care only a young lady from Jamaica, shouted let her go! ( Will never forget that beautiful lady)Then he let me go,I was shaking and shocked. Well, people who know Scotland is cold,so I was dressed fully long coat with boats like covered for a snowy day. So, men bad behavior should not be justify by how we are dressed. So, sis I'm here with you and I know exactly how you felt. Never ever feel ashamed to tell your story. It's scary but we soldier on!

So sorry you went through this. The fact that you have courage to talk about this tragedy takes a lot of strength. Sending you lots of hugs.Stay strong sisi

Hey! Nolu. As a Zimbabwean father of two girls, I see my daughters in you and feel sad with the violation visited on you. That type of train abuse is apparently rampant in Japan and by trend, seems the Koreans do it as well. It's unGodly behaviour and should never be tolerated. It's therapeutic to share the experience as it helps you heal. God bless you. 🇿🇼

I’m sorry to hear your story. Thanks for sharing. It reminded me of an incident I once had in a subway station in Seoul in 2017, on a week day around 11am and I just pretended it didn’t happen and moved on. I was standing on an escalator, just one person in front of me and one behind me. The guy behind me grabbed my shoulders from behind and shoved me down with great force, I was so close to falling on an old women in front of me but I grabbed a hold of the hand rail and held on tightly to steady myself. She never turned around to see what was going on one step behind her. I just stared back at him as soon as I got off the escalator, he smiled and walked on as if he didn’t just attack me. I just sat down on a bench in shock at what just happened. Then I moved on because when I tell someone they remind me that I am a SAcan and ‘have it worse back home, so I have nothing to complain about’. How about stop excusing mens abusive behaviour . I still live in Korea, it’s important to inform each other to beware because yes reporting this sort of thing usually doesn’t do anything especially as a foreigner.

There is no shame in freezing. It’s a survival technique and even though it can make us feel bad, it’s self preservation, therefore you did nothing wrong. All of the onus is on the abuser. We love you, and you give back to the world by sharing your pain with us. I was molested many time times growing up and understand your response completely. I am so disappointed in the people around you who failed to support you.

I hate that someone tried to invalidate your experience and your story. You had a right to tell your story. I am glad you made this particular story.

I lived in Korea 9 years! and the teacher's response is very Korean. ( save face and protect your country and culture) first many girls in korea wear short skirts all the time. , but this is what happens they will blame you and find fault with you rather than address the problems in korea, thats why Korean women dont report either. Korea had a protested a few years ago because men put cameras in the bathrooms and hotels. This is very common .This isnt an isolated case. many many girls foreign and korea are SA in Korea.

This happened me on a train in my home country, it was packed ,Every feeling you describe I have felt too. You question, is this really happening? Then you're in shock, then you're sick for not stopping it. You feel violated. Because I experienced this now, I am more aware and if happens again I will kick up a stink,, I don't care if the train is packed I swore I would scream. I guess your story triggered some people for whatever reason. Thank you for sharing.

This people are sick, i was touched or anything like that. This happened in Vietnam in a bus the man was sitted facing me, he had his hands in the pants, felt uncomfortable but just focused on my phone then he moved, saw white liquid where he was sitted and realized it was sperms, felt violated, disgusting and scared as if he did that directly to me. That was 3 years ago and still feel sick to my stomach.

South African here 🇿🇦 baby girl your feelings are valid and you deserve to feel respected and not violated! Thank you for speaking up and sharing your story. Just know you are loved ❤❤❤

Same thing happened to me on a crammed bus in Greece. Fortunately I was wearing heavy duty Doc Martens and stomped on his foot hard. He quickly disappeared. Just because we are from South Africa doesn’t make our experience any less valid.

I was upskirted at a grocery store right when covid hit. I was walking down the aisle and felt a guy slide his finger down my leg. I confronted him and he said he bumped in to me and it was an accident He apologized. but I literally felt a finger slowly run down my leg. I decided to continue shopping. I bent down to grab a box of granola bars and as I get up hes quickly got up from under my skirt. He took a video of under my skirt. i went straight to a manager and they called the store police on the intercom. Once he heard that he ran. The city police came and was able to verify that he took a video of me when they checked cameras. He used the covid situation to hide himself. He had on a mask and sunglasses. The next day I got on the train and a guy sitting behind me touched my thighs. I was so angry man. This is one of the reasons I was kind of happy I put on 60 pounds. Men bother me less. im preparing to start a weight loss journey for health and it scares me. However even while overweight men have harassed me just not as much. I have so many stories and I'm sure every women does. it makes me angry how men feel entitled to our bodies

Being a female girl or woman is an extreme sport! I pray 🙏🏽 you recover from that traumatic event

This lit happens everywhere, i dont get why people "glorify" Korea. They are humans too, none of them are these "perfect people" so of course its gonna happen there too. im just glad that u as well as others can come out and tell ur stories to inform and relate to each other

😔 Thank you for highlighting "frozen" You know I did n't know that is sexual assault, I guess I know sexual harassment but when you say sexual assault it sounds heavier and very serious. The worst part is I was in a grocery store (S.A) standing in a queue and I felt a weird sensation in my bum, I turned around and a guy behind me was... I don't know, but his penis was intentionally in bum, no sign of shock when I looked at him, nothing. I did n't know whether to scream or.. I was beyond shocked and "frozen" like you said. I ended up politely asking what he was doing. He just left me there. I stood there shocked trying to deny what happend. That "assault" word just seals it. I should have just screamed. It's more than 10 years now, I still hate how I reacted. Had I known before that these things happen in public places I would have reacted appropriately.

I went through the same, basically, when I was only 15 and I used to live in Berlin, Germany. I was at the subway and there was a guy sitting right next to me ( he came after me ). The creep tried to put his dirty hand under my leg ( almost close to my but ). Just sliding his hand. Twice ! I noticed and immediately felt uncomfortable but stayed paralyzed and my next and most comfortable reaction was to get up and get off at the next station. I also didn’t spoke german properly and I was a kid. Now I am almost 30. Nobody knows about that and it doesn’t feel so bad like when it happened but now hearing your story, it’s absurd to know that so many women go through it. I’m sorry for what happened to you and I hope that you heal. Unfortunately we don’t know who are those creeps…

I just found your channel, I saw your other video on being ugly in South Korea and I think you are a strong & inspiring person. I hope more people can watch your videos. Thank you for sharing your stories, keep going.❤️

Your feelings are definitely valid. Your perspective should be that as a South African you can best know about how bad things can get if these issues are brushed aside and not addressed. You should not feel ashamed, and its unfortunate that the same issues we face in South Africa ( on a bigger scale) can and may be faced in other 'safer' countries. This also shows that its an issue with all kinds of people and not a particular nationality. Please don't let your guard down, keep educating us and may you be blessed and safe.

These things happen all over the world, but I hear it mostly from Korea and Japan that these things happen. But, something similar has happened to me in my home country, Austria, as well. And if you ask women, nearly all of them have been harassed at least once, most of them more than once. It's sickening how men nowadays think about women and think that they can do everything. Problem here, they can do everything, nothing happens. My ex for example, he was/is abusive, police came (but this is a story based in Finland now), they asked him if something has happened, he said no, and they left again. Also, I am living in Finland and have children from this person, he can still decide over my and the childrens life, by law. I can't move anywhere, without his permission, in- or outside Finland. I can, if I do not take my kids with me, but then they would be basically on the street. So men still have a lot of power over women and it is really time to change this and stand up, as many women are already doing. I just don't know what else can or needs to be done to hear us women. Edit: To the last part of this video, it resonance a lot with what you saying. Finland is ranked 2nd in domestic violence, and unfortunately I see and hear it so many times. And same, people tell me, yes it is normal here. No, abuse is not normal, that's also why I say: This needs to stop, we have to stand up, what we already do, as female community I mean. But what more can there be done I wonder?

I am so sorry this happened to you 🙏 Similar assaults (bum groped, genitals grabbed, boobs groped) have happened to me in night clubs in both London and Durban (I’m also South African). You absolutely have the right to talk about it and to be furious, or to feel anything you happen to feel. You were assaulted, you were abused, and it is fucked up and WRONG for any woman, or any person to be subjected to this treatment. We have the right to our own bodily integrity, we have the right to be safe. It’s also entirely normal to freeze - I did the first time too. The next time, you aren’t so shocked and disbelieving, so I stomped and punched…Sending love and hugs 🇿🇦 I hope you come to terms with it.

I read that so often that women just freeze when harrassed sexually in public. Too good manners? You can slap such a guy. Instantly. I also had such a harrassing in the subway. I just pushed him away and I could hold myself but he didn't stop it. I asked people to help me, but nobody helped. They just looked at me as if I just came from Mars. And it didn't end until I bate him off the waggon, when there was a station and the door opened. Then I turned towards the other passengers telling them: "I wish that you are the one to experience this next time. And then with knive-stabbing." I was more angry at them than at the guy actually. Of course nobody reacted, but I had it said and felt relieved. And I also know those excusations, people try to drag by to give you some of the blame, be it the very open t-shirt, your behavior or whatever, while you know, that this didn't matter at all.

DON'T LET ANYONE INVALIDATE/DISMISS YOUR TRAUMA

The way in they treat foreigners so differently in different countries. As you said, it is super normal in Korea for women to wear short skirts and shorts, especially during the summer. You were dressing as everyone else was, you were doing nothing wrong by feeling hurt and extremely uncomfortable with what happened. I also hear about the problem of men taking pictures of and assaulting women in Korea, it must've been so scary, I can't imagine going through that. I can't believe anyone would tell you that because you are in a different country that is generally safer than your home country, you should accept violence there too just because it isn't as frequent or common. You shouldn't accept any kind of violence anywhere. I shouldn't be okay with getting shot in another country just because in the U.S. gun violence is worse than in some other countries. That doesn't make sense. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Your video is very well made, I hope others who have been through this can find validation in this video and comment section, especially South African women or women who are being told to somehow be grateful in that situation.

Hey Nolu. I'm also a random person empathising with you but I hope you get yo a point of forgiving yourself for your reaction. Not to make this about me, aftet my parents divorced we were homeless and found ourselves having to live with a church friend. Being a single room apartment we'd often take turns sleeping in the bed with the man and on three occasions I woke up with my pants off and his hand rubbing on my back side. I reacted in the same way You're not alone and shouldn't punish yourself for not having thought of a reaction for something NO ONE should havr to experience. From one stranger to another, love you sis ❤

Your feelings are valid! Nobody has a right to touch you without permission, doesn't matter who you are or where you come from. Thank you for sharing your story and I am so sorry this happened to you.

I remember the incident when you spoke about it in your first few videos ❤️ I’m so sorry you went through this, no one deserves that at all.

Omg I had the same experience, not in the train but still, horrible😢 They did catch him and he got punished by the law. How horrible they shamed instead of supporting you! That's even more traumatic..

I’m so sorry this happened to you. In no way is this your fault. Unfortunately society is really cruel about SA. I had pretty much every thought you described after the fact. I had experienced a similar reaction when I did eventually tell someone 😢 it isn’t fair I hope you’re doing well

Sorry you had to go through that, my niece is thinking of making a move to South Korea. I will share this video with her. Be safe and I pray this never happens to you again.

Same thing happened to me at the age of 9 on a bus, i froze and stopped breathing, idk what happened to my body but i was strating to turn purple and i passed out. Once i woke up again, it took me about 2 hours to get back to normal, i was so weak i couldn't stand. It was very traumatic tbh and i wish that upon no one.thank you for sharing your story, i hope ur doing okay now

Nolu you were violated and your feelings are valid, I hope you are at a better place right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Love and light

I’m sorry anyone invalidated your truth! Thank you for sharing your story and bringing light to this! Korea is still an amazing country that I hope to visit someday but it’s important to share all aspects of traveling and living there.

So glad you spoke up here. No one has the right to imply you should stay quiet.

I've never been touched inappropriately in my whole life. You hear these groping stories from Japan and Korea soo often. It happens so often it even has a own name! Shame on them for how they handle, or most times don't handle this situation!

There's bad in every country and we shouldn't shame others for their bad experience in another country. That's not how you fix the issue. I'm so sorry people tried to invalidate your experience.

I think you'll do find in a place like Atlanta. Korea, Japan, and China dismiss crimes against black people. Also, the police will berate you as if your the suspect when you report them.

I'm sorry that you had to go through those moments of self doubt Nolu. You were violated and all the emotions you felt then and now are valid. Thank you for sharing your story again.

So sorry that happened to you and thank you for sharing. People have this illusion that Korea is so safe and it is to some extent, but that doesn’t mean these kind of things don’t happen. I hope you don’t have to go through anything like that ever again. Peace be with you dear.

I am so sorry Nolu. I hope with time you will be able to heal from this🌸

I'm sorry that happened to you. And even more sorry that people tried to silence you. F them! You're absolutely right! You should always speak out about injustice, especially when you experience it personally. I hope that you can heal from the pain and trauma of the situation. I pray you'll be abundantly blessed, be in health and prosper even as your soul prospers. 🙏🏾 💕 ✨

proud of you for posting this and you are absolutely right in that you have every right to feel the way you did. bottom line you were assaulted. the nerve to tell someone their trauma is insignificant. just nasty. hope you’re doing better❤ i find it so scary and concerning that these things happen and it’s normalized enough to where they don’t discipline or condemn the men who are actually committing the crime! it’s always womens fault. i can’t believe they didn’t remove that man from the train in that one account. stay strong you are beautiful and deserve all the love and support.

Am sorry y'all 😔,❤️ sending love and a reminder that you are loved and heard ❤❤

I completely understand and resonate with you freezing in fear.

My mother was touched up , she taught me to “ kick them in the nuts or squeeze them tight”. I have had to do this once only. I’m in Australia and young men here and immigrant men are the same. Women are victims the world over. I often wonder what their mothers are teaching their sons, nothing. The fathers too. Girls have to be tough because of this and then men then say your a B…h! Well I wonder why? Stay strong Nolu.

Nolu, I am so sorry you went through that, and thanks for your transparency. Whether these things happen in South Africa you still matter and you deserve nothing but the best 💜

Forget about anyone that’s criticizing you for speaking up about it. You shouldn’t regret ANYTHING. including deleting the video. I know how it feels. Your brain is just scrambled and it’s so much to process. Even years later. I froze up as well. It’s just not expected. Whenever someone talks to you, invalidating your experience, just realize they’re BRAINWASHED to excuse such things. It has nothing to do with you. They could’ve been told the same things when something happened to them. You speaking up on this is bringing awareness. Especially for foreigners! I wanted to visit South Korea for years so I am very greatful for this video. Thank you so much for putting your experiences out there. It’s so important

Vile. Sorry you went through that, and grateful that you've had the courage and strength to talk about it. ❤️

I never thought about what it would be like in Korea. But now that I think about how those Korean women who run those nail salons here in the US are so rude and tend to be racist, I can see how and why this happened to you!

❤you will enjoy your life more when u care less about what other people think . I am so happy you posted this. I wish you well in your journeys!

That's common to us black women here in Turkey as well and it happen to me and I also just cried in fact I have cried many times men here in Turkey behave that way to black women even if you wear jeans that's why I avoid public transport here

Freezing is a very normal response I was grouped and at the time I froze I didn’t know what to do and I was angry at myself for not reacting you feel violated and angry. What you were feeling is not invalid I still get trauma when I’m in a crowded space

I am a Kenyan in the states, im 16 and in highschool, i always knew id face racism and my parents prepared me for it, but, assault from white boys, i was not prepared for that 😔.

I'm sorry you had to go through that and not feel you were in a safe place to be vulnerable about what happened to you. It's hard enough going through that but to go through that in a foreign country and everyone telling you to brush it off and you're making a big deal out of nothing is disturbing. You are strong and beautiful and I'm glad you are still around to tell your story. God bless you 🙏🏾❤

I am sorry you went through that we go through a lot as women and you should've been supported not shamed for your experience. I am glad you had that the courage to talk about your experience.

I’ve been assaulted before so I know that feeling, this happened to me on public transport. Thank you for sharing your story 🙏🏾

I have an older sister who went through something similar in South Africa. When she told us what happened to her, how it turned her from a bubbly person to a quiet person who battled with anxiety for months. It broke my heart to see her like that almost every day. To think that another human being who happens to be a man could do this to another human being is vile and inhumane. I am very sorry that it happened to you dadewethu, I hope your story encourages many women and those who have been in a similar situation to continue to talk and never be silenced! uKhuseleke noThixo akugcine emandleni.

I can only speak for myself as a Jamaican... if EVER a situation like that happened to me, no matter how big or obnoxious the person is, I'd turn around so fast with hot fiery rage coming out my eyes, stare the mother effer dead in the eyes and say; ' tek yu rass claat hands off my body'. Jamaicans are not afraid to defend ourselves or create a justifyable scene .. sometimes, the lion(ess) has to roar to defend its space. Blessings be with you

Thank you for sharing your story. I had a similar experience in crowded public transit and this video helped me come to terms with what happened. The situation was scary. It was easy to tell myself that it couldn't actually be happening or even after the fact, that it couldn't have happened to me. I was just left with an unsettled feeling after removing myself from the situation. I had the same exact reaction to yours, and I am also a foreigner in a different country. When you don't know the language it adds another layer of difficulty to the situation. I am sorry this happened to you too. Thank you for speaking up.

You're not alone sis i had similar and Worst encounters than this and you'll be suprised on how people side with the attackers on these issues even your own family this happened to you this is your truth speak it .

I’m very thankful that you did this. Of course bad things happen all around the world, but in my opinion, South Korea is like the “new” France, because it’s being highly romanticised. When in reality they are still so far behind mentality wise. You just have to look at their laws and how many years people go to prison for end!ng someone’s l!fe, it’s horrific.

I'm so sorry you went through that you of course you know had every right to feel the way you did. I would be furious about that situation too, but sooner or later justice will be heard and justice will be served

Anger is very important in realising what you should NEVER accept. How dare anyone try to silence you into not telling your story. I am glad you put it out there. You are helping every woman everywhere by spreading awareness.

This happened to me many times when I was young, I just brushed it off. I now I have 2 daughters and I have told them in a crowd to stand up for yourself. If a man touches them to tell them to piss off.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. The same thing happened to me in a crowded street when i was 12 years old freaking 12. I was wearing a top and a long skirt i was dressed like all kids dress and someone groped me from behind i couldn't even see who groped me cuz it was so crowded and my mom was right next to me but i was in shock and didn't know if i should tell my mom and i didn't tell her. At that time i didn't know what to do but i knew something wrong happened to me and to this day no one knows about this incident and i always felt guilty. I always thought i should have done something, screamed or told my mom should have done anything but it took me a long time to realise its not my fault. It's never our fault. It's not what we wear( i was a child) and sometimes we freeze it's natural we shouldn't feel guilty about it.

This is absolutely shocking and just reading all the comments about similar experiences is appalling. I'm sorry you had this experience and well done for the courage to share this, it may even help others. I'm a South African and although our country has issues, I have never had such happen to me in my 31 years living there. It was sickening of that person to even try to dismiss your experience.

I'm soo sorry that this happened to you. You are brave and courageous to talk about this. Those people who do these sorts of things are sickening and disgusting individuals.

Hello sis, always stand up for yourself because no one will save you but you! I support you.

I am sorry for what you experienced ❤️🙏🏾 Please don’t allow that experience to define you ❤

Your video randomly came across my suggested videos. I am so sorry to hear about that. And I hate that people tried to invalidate you. They still are in the comment section with "well this happens everywhere." Korea has a lot of social issues because of their rapid development after becoming free from Japanese Imperial rule. Not only that they are a patriarchal country that under reports sexual assault. So it makes it seem like Korea is a "safe country" when it's not safe. Especially for women and women foreigners. They need to face this issue and fix it. We don't need to be talking about other countries in the comment section, those people saying that do not care about you, women, and most likely just want to protect Korea's good goody imagine. I was rapped by my Korean boyfriend (I'm half Korean/Black). The authorities only offered me an apology because my BF loved to rape me while I was black out drunk. I speak Korean so it's not an issue of not understanding the language and I also have dual Korean citizenship. This is an issue for all women in Korea. Be safe my friends and Bless you Nolu. Be strong.

So glad you spoke up and shared your story

The same people we have to embrace here in Africa treat our people like sub- humans. But it's okay we will keep Praying for our haters. God is our protector where ever you are in this world know that He watches over you.

This is horrible am really sorry this happened to u No one deserves this😭

It makes me so angry hearing about the amount of abuse and trauma youve had to go thru. God it makes me insanely angry. I wish i could protect you ... I wish i could protect everyone who goes through this ...

Yoh sisi, thank you for being strong and sharing this. Phephisa❤ I can't imagine having to go through this, sharing it and then getting more negativity from the public ❤ Never allow them to invalidate what happened to you ❤ Siyabonga

Sorry 💞 and shame on those people who tried to shame you 🌻

And you're not being dramatic. Worldwide, women are treated badly. Your feelings are valid. And it doesn't matter where you're from! Don't let idiots on the internet try to shame you. Men need to change their behavior.

Fight, flight or freeze is human reaction. Girl, I've been there and when your body freezes, it's just.. When you know, you know. You cannot describe what happens. You don't even know yourself what's happening or why it's happening. Let alone that you can explain to others what was going on. Yes, South Africa might be unsafe but the Koreans denying your right to feel unsafe just because you're from SA is the most toxic thing I've ever seen. I love the good of Korean. The food, music, aesthetics. The goods are really good, but truth is, when things are bad, they're really BAD bad. Sexual assault, gender inequality, toxic hierarchy, toxic competitiveness, racism, fatphobia etc etc. It's just wayyyyy too much.

This type of thing has happened to me more than once. It’s horrible. It’s people who are sick. There needs to be laws and enforcement in every country to protect women, men, and children from any sexual abuse. This is not ok on any level. Thank you for speaking out. You are brave.

I just came across your channel, I have been watching so many videos of black South Africans living in SK I have nothing to say, besides thank you for sharing your story 💞

i'm so sorry you went through this 🥺

I'm sorry about your experience, you had a right to voice out how you felt about that situation, and you shouldn't have taken down the video. This will really help other women who still think of coming to South Korea.

Your feelings are ALWAYS valid and you have every right to feel angry about being violated. Your body is YOURS. Period.

This was EXACTLY what happened to me when i was 13. The exact scenario it was a subway all congested. I was standing holding onto those handles and someone just out of a sudden did something like this he grabbed me and left soon i couldn't even process i couldn't fathom out how cuz i did a full 360⁰ rotation and checked who it was no one stood approximately SO NEAR to me to do that perhaps it was a stop and that mf left soon immediately after doing that. It wouldn't have bothered my 19 yr old self but it was a big deal for that 13 yr old me. That day i was going on an outing with my family i remember half of my journey got spoiled because of this i was so raging and thinking "how tf could they ruin my day like that". I get it i feel you and i am sorry to hear this more strength to you

You have a good thought process. Considering all the possibilities around your decision making. Providing a good explanation also.

I’m so sorry you went through this. Sending strength to you Nolusindiso❤️

Sorry you went through that Nolu, so terrible, I wish you healing ❤

Hey, I am so sorry that happened to you! Assault is NEVER ok!!

I feel so sorry for you that is a dangerous situation to be in when you want someone to help you and there is a feeling of isolation, your feelings are valid and no one have a right to violate you no matter where you are this should be taken seriously.I just hope countries all over the world would take matters like this more seriously.

It’s okay! I was at school and some guy put his hand my butt. I asked him to stop, he didn’t. He did it again I told him, don’t do that; later on he stoped but he laughed while passing me

The gaslighting is just as disgusting as the assault itself. Nobody should ever try to discredit a victim's experience and I'm so sorry this happened to you and that you had to resort to a facebook group to get support. I had a similar experience on a train in China and I was stunned to discover that it was an older man... It's bad enough that women can't feel safe in public spaces, but we also can't feel safe sharing our experiences. Thanks for using your platform to share an extremely vulnerable situation. It has not gone unnoticed. 💗Peace

Am sorry this happened to you 😢 and you have everything right to share your story!!

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you and can also totally relate to your story. A similar thing happened to me on a very packed bus in Seoul. It was in the winter, I had a coat on covering my bum but that didn't stop the creepy old guy standing right behind me rub his crotch against my bum/back until he got a boner ... Just an average life of a woman in this world, I guess 🙃

As a man hearing this and reading the comments I am really shocked and surprised how common this is. Sometimes we all live in our own world and the experience of peopel other than oneself (Race, Gender ect) is never known.

I'm so sorry to hear about this :(

Well said beautidul Nolu . What you experienced was a violation. Thanks for speaking up.