Three fundamental principles of healthy, happy, harmonious relationships were first formulated and proposed by the creator of dialectic-behavioural psychotherapy, Marsha M. Linehan. I supplemented and modified them taking into account domestic realities.
Principle 1: Relationships should be worked on.
What does it imply? Is it possible to build happy relationships if we do not engage in them? Yes. Under what conditions? In what conditions should partners be similar, and in what ways should they be different?
Signs of a healthy relationship. What should exist in a happy relationship? Signs of a bad, pathological relationship.
Principle 2: The balance between wanting to/should
This is about how the responsibilities of a couple are distributed.
You may have a bias in the direction of "should" if you have a deep sense of guilt; difficulty in expressing your anger; difficulty in understanding your needs.
Principle 3: balance between giving/receiving.
Here, I talk about how not to be intrusive, what is a co-dependent style of relationship, how to behave so that you are respected and the partner does not lose interest in you.
1 апр 2019
