If A Man Wants A 50/50 Relationship, THIS Is What He Means! 

I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.

50/50 just means, the man wants to save money for his actual wife. He wants a roommate with benefits.

As a man myself, this man is speaking straight up facts. Ladies, do not compromise on your relationships.

SheRaSeven1 talks about this all the time! Never do a 50/50 relationship. It is a scam and men will use and deplete you! Don’t do it!

They want a beautiful woman, but they don't realise how expensive it is to be beautiful, skin, hair, clothes, nails, etc. And they still want 50/50

When men do half of the pregnancy and child birth. I will be paying half of the money.

50/50 was the death of our marriage.

All true! Happend with my ex and I. Started 50/50 then he slowly just turned into a princess lol! I made most of the money, took care of the groceries and home. He could barely be bothered to walk our dog when I wasn't home. Then had the nerve to say things like "why don't you go put on some lingerie for me" 😅yeah- let me get right on that after cooking, cleaning, walking the dog and taking out the trash...oh also- wanna buy me some lingerie? Cuz I just spent all my money on our bills 😂😂😂😂

When people ask me why I'm single, its because of things like this

I can never love a man who wants 50/50. It’s business, period

I make 80k, own my own home, and will not have kids. Why would I go 50/50? Lol. I can afford to stay single. I don't need a second income to survive.

BALANCE!!! Thank you, Stephan. It's so great to hear someone else usimg that word. Equity and equality are different.

You are absolutely right! I got divorced because I couldn't stand being a woman and a man at the same time. Provide, be a mom, housekeeper, never again! Why do we need then a man? cook and clean for him?

I appreciate this video Stephan. You're right. When I worked, went to school at the same time, and picked up our children by myself, I was exhausted, and the hubby still expected me to be intimate, but I was exhausted.😟 Years later, the Lord changed things around, whereas I had to be a stay-at-home mom because of circumstances, and I eventually excepted my role, and understood the importance of at least one parent being home for when the children ( a few of them were teens by then) got out of school, etc. Speaking on behalf of women and stay-at-home homeschooling moms, a think a stigmatism is put on us, because we don't bring anything to the table financially, and we're looked at as less valuable by some of our children and our spouse. Without the wife doing a whole host of things, the husband wouldn't be able to even manage all that we do, plus work a full time job. When my son started acting up really bad, I told my husband that he needed to step up, because he had been taking a back seat too long as far as parenting, and that I was exhausted. He used to tell me that I was a superhero , so I told him that I'm not a superhero, things were just thrown on me and I just had to deal with it the best way that I could, but no more. I told him if he didn't step up I was going to leave and sign over custody to him for our son. He then said "well if you leave, then I'm not going to be able to work this job". That made him quickly realize that with me sacrificing to stay home, he was then able to go to work worry free, work overtime if he had to, and he wouldn't have to question who was going to watch the children, feed them, help with homework (the ones who go to school), keep the house clean, take care of the children when they got sick, etc. So no it will never be 50/50 , because if I were to be put on payroll for everything that I do, I would be making more money than my husband.😂

I was with someone (first relationship) where we went 50/50 on everything (including groceries) and he actually got mad when I said that I needed to get a second job in order to keep up my portion because he made more than me.. Get this.. He was acting mad simply because I wasn't going to have enough time to party with him and he felt like it wasn't fair that he was going to have to go out less. Can't make this up folks

I think this 50/50 convo would end if people would be real. As a man, you should do your best to provide for and protect your wife. If you can't pay all of the bills then cover the major ones at least. With that being said your wife has to be ok the lifestyle that your income can afford. If not then she should bring some income in as well and not pressure you or make you feel bad about what you can't do. Lastly, a woman who really loves you is not going to watch you continuously bust your ass and not try to help just because you are the man. This also applies to men when it comes to their women and any household duties. People who truly love one another work together as a team. What that teamwork looks like varies on their relationship.

If my grandfather had known that my Mom & Step-dad were going to go 50/50 on the bills, he would have had a fit!!!! I will NEVER go 50/50 with a man. It didn't work out for my parents & only means that the man is NOT 100% committed!!! THAT would be appropriate for a friend, NOT for a husband.

I dont agree with 50/50, but to be honest, most guys are not making $80,000 so that salary is a bad example. And if they are, in some cities like NY, LA, SF, that's not enough to support 2 people. That being said, we are not taking into account the current economic state of the U.S. You're very lucky if you're living somewhere decent where rent is $1,500. These jobs aren't even matching inflation. If single people are complaining about the cost of living, then how do you think a man who's trying to pay 70% to 100% of the bills for two people or a family of 3 or 4 feels? Social media has everyone thinking that a 6 figure income is are soooo easy to obtain when the reality is that they aren't. The middle class is fading away and the wage gap between the extremely wealthy and most regular people is getting wider by the second. We have to be realistic about how finances before we to go into the relationships. The economy is not designed for everyone to be a high earner. It's just not. Opportunities are dwindling. Just look on the job boards. They are listing fewer and fewer decent career opportunities.

Men, always remember that she can take 50/50 in the divorce but won't put in 50/50 in the marriage...let that sink in...

7 yr relationship was always Dutch 50/50 he was emotionally unavailable no love.

All this male and female penny counting. Ladies, keep your own place for a peaceful life. 50/50 is what friends do, best to keep the 50/50 boys as an acquaintance. Learn to make more money or live on less and don't depend on someone or let someone depending on you to pay half their rent, utilities, groceries, and vacations etc.

I dumped my ex 4 years ago. He wanted that 50/50 crap but wanted ME to do the most of everything. Saying "I'm not paying for a woman to be with me. Then tried to come back to me this year with that same mindset. Only I had met a "real" man. He didn't believe in 50/50. He was always in tune with my needs and was a provider. We had to give each other space due to me needing to repair some things within me. I appreciate him more now. Mr. 50/50 can stay in his lane. I'm going with Mr. 100.😊

Only desperate women will accept 50 ⁵⁰

My dad provided for my mum & 12 kids. Being a man. He taught my 6 brothers the same. Why do male species especially black men, find such a basic requisite so difficult.

In Africa there is no 50/50 African men are responsible ..❤.

I’m automatically grossed out hearing about the woman shoveling the snow… yikes I hope she left.

so happy that real men are stepping up to the plate. everything discussed in this video is 100% accurate. A Man and A Woman are two totally different beings and we are wired differently. By NATURE women are nurtures, patient, caring, soft and feminine. That's her dominant position.. and understand if a woman is operating out of her masculinity it's because 1. she feels that's her only option. 2. Her femininity was misused, mishandled or not cared for properly and last her guy dropped the ball. Men by nature are Providers, Protectors, Leaders and Planners. ofc within both parties both energies exist.

This is why I’m trying to leave my significant other because he wants to do 50/50 but I’m the only one who cooks and clean and he doesn’t. But I gotta work too? 🤣 fuck no.

I needed to hear this, especially the 1st part about starting out 50/50 and then me as the guy ending up still doing less.

50/50 does not exist in this planet. Somebody will always do more than the other.

50/50 is a joke, been married 27 years its more like 80/20.

100% this 50/50 doesn't work. R.C Blake's talks just about the same thing

Men will not benefit from a 50/50 relationship. If you want a home cooked meal after working 12 hour straight. Dont tell her she has to work as well. I promise you she will not have dinner ready every single night for you or havw breakfast made before you leave.😊

Men if you paying all the bills please get you an account and put some money aside just for yourself if something goes wrong in the marriage because you will look like a real fool if it goes Vice versa. Some of these women not all are secretly putting money away for themselves just in case you mess up where she not losing everything. Next debate is joint accounts and separate accounts. 😂

The man should be the sole provider if the woman is a stay at home mom and does all the housework. If there are no children and the woman is working the couple should split the bills pro rata, or in proportion to their income

Only weaker (Beta ) males complain about paying the entirety (BEING THE PROVIDER IN EVERY ASPECT OF THE WORD), especially if he’s not in full innerstanding of what it truly means to be a protector, Alpha male, provider, MAN in every aspect of the word.

My husband wants the 50/50 relationship but then since I earn more money than him, Im 70 and hes 30. Gosh I didnt realize he would be this broke after marrying him. Ive come to realize that 99% of the stuff we purchased for our home came from my pocket and all the stuff for my kids were also my purchases. It can not be denied that some men these days are starting to get weak and feminine rather than masculine, not all men wants to stand up and be the provider. My husband thinks SAHM are lazy and that women should be working. But with our situation, Im seeing him now as a financial burden to me.

He means he wants to use you for all your labor, all your softness, and all the status and social capital you give him in his career and society. Worse, he means that he doesn't value any of those things or think they are equal or worth compensating. In his mind, the only thing of value is actual money, but that won't stop him from expecting you to be his mother, maid, therapist, chef, personal assistant, escort and prostitute. RUN.

Most men earn way more than women, so how is 50/50 fair?

50/50 should only be talking after a divorce period..

Oh 😳 maybe he also wants Another woman for himself And another man for his woman That's an honest 50 50

I never dated an hour older man, even today in my 40s with my 15 years younger man I never paid anything.

Why wouldn't an independent woman want a 50/50 relationship? I think this is what confuses men. If you really are self dependent, then you should want to be responsible for half.

We want that, we know that deep down. But we are affraid to admit it

50/50 killed my 15 year relationship

50/50 is not a choice for most people. The average American does not make enough money for one person to work. I don't know who these conversations are for. Also, if a woman has a college degree and she's so capable why would you want to sit at home and never make any money. Should a man just pay for your student loan debts trying to work multiple jobs. What is the purpose of education?. I don't think it's about splitting the bills down the middle. It's about putting in 100 /100 effort for the family to prosper, whether That is somebody standing home or going to work as long as some important work is being done.

50/50 relationships don’t work, that discount doesn’t work out too well for men in the end

I don't need 50/50, just fair share of responsibilities and chores, if there is no fair share then there is always one side that leaches on the other

its a turn off she wont respect u be a ma and provide theres warning signs ladies look out for them 👀

50/50 relationships actually is exactly what makes relationships work long term...The problem is that most people including Internet dating influencers does not understand what that means... By their logic 50/50 or fair trading means that both people are doing same exact tasks or exchanging same exact things 😆 Let me ask you this: Do you getting scammed every time when you go to starbucks ? Why not? You exchanging completely different things are you not? Lmao... Same exact pattern goes with relationships... An example of 50/50 relationship would be where a guy goes to work busts his arse there and pays the bills while women makes home a place where guy all he has to do is just chill and relax... (You can switch genders or whatever if that offends you lol,but you get the point of this example) 50/50 relationships simply means exchanging things of equal value and NOT just where both people does same exact things which logicly is just bad work distribution lol

This is my marriage right now. We are dead! No relationship!

well how about men get together collectively and use your bargaining power to demand changes?? if not, we are all going to be homeless and destitute because the wealthy men that can afford to pay 100% will continue to be greedy and take advantage of our economic situation until the kids will have to start working to help the parents with bills......which is happening here in seattle. I see many signs in stores saying WE HIRE 16 year olds....why? becasue rent and home prices are SKY HIGH out here, so many homeless people on streets, in shelters, or quielty sleeping in their vehicles....wont be long till the dog will have to start working......so how far we will allow them to take this?????

How to be a simp 101

looks like these guys didnt hear about 4b movement and celibacy yet.

😂😂😂😂😂😂 these internet influencers man I tell you

Yes..exactly..men make more..women..use more of their time..money..energy..😢..😢..women mental exhaustion..not attracted anymore..when treat a woman like cinderella..😢..true..right on..❤❤❤❤

The amount of simpsation in this comment section crazy😂😂

Let me sum this up....be alone men...even if you make 80k....be alone..it ain't worth it.

Young guys don’t listen to these weird dudes stack ya $ and do you until you find that one for you, you do not have to carry another adult simply cuz youre a guy a lot of dese dudes are pick me simps

I was paying for 80% of the things, but soon discovered she doesnt want sex before marriage, so now Im not paying for anything until marriage. Im saving my self for marriage, that includes my money too.

Equality doesn't mean women and men do exactly the same. It just mean they got equally validated in their strengths or what they offer. And what has somwone to offer is very individual doesn't matter if you are a woman or a man. Man and woman are supposed to compliment each other in order to form a solid team. That headline is rubbish because you don't know what someone means by that. It's you assuming on it with your personal understanding. To get an understanding what someone means by that talk with the person directly. It's so weird that people nowadays assume from one to all what others want, mean, think, feel etc. Fucking talk with another directly!

The minute you said it doesn’t work , you were not credible at all

Can't agree with my dudes view on this. 50/50 is simple as hell.

Why should a man pay all the bills? For some CAT? Naw not worth it. Cooking and cleaning does not even take 4 hours a day. Stop being lazy.

If a man is head of his household 100% leadership then his providership should be the same way as a husband and leader of his household If not married he should still be a provider at least

This guy is giving me strong SIMP vibes

100% is for a traditional wife. Traditional wives do not exist in the USA anymore. 50/50 is for modern women.

Wild. I'll just say this. Paying one hundred percent of the bills while having a woman there, possibly adding to the financial burden, essentially coasting through life while I take care of EVERYTHING. Doing everything I can to make sure the house is taken care of and extra for her materialistic needs. Or pay 100 percent of the bills while living alone and single as I have been for the past 7 going on 8 years. Yeah I'll take the latter option. Especially with how some of these women are in 2024.

50/50 means to me men provide the money and women provide the kids.

Nah im sorry bro I'm going to have to disagree on you on this one you outta pocket you either pandering to women. Or you just don't understand what's going on in modern relationships.. my parents was 50/50 when I was younger my mama wanted dare let my dad come home I have him do all the work . And my father told me.. people like this guy that spitting out this nonsense is going to be part of the problem. 50/50 works trust me

50 50 for modern women, men take full responsibility only for wifey.

“Women look down on 50/50 relationships but want half of the stuff after the divorce.” I saw this comment in the thread below and felt the need to repost it.

Since childhood I always knew I was never going 50/50 none of the women in my family have ever been expected to go 50/50

I dont care. Im paying all the bills i love providing for my lady.

None of that lol I cover it all as a man Tf

Everyone’s situation is unique. It’s a conversation that you should have.

Equality v Equity learn the difference

This guy is specking Wisdom 👑 🙏🏻🗽

I agree about women being in our minds. Mine is always going. Well said.

Very well said.thank you Stephan for your great insight on this video

You're having this conversation with the tackiest versions of 50/50 in mind. This is a bad faith discussion. You're simply discussing a bad version of 50/50 which is no different than a bad version of a traditional relationship. My friends don't get so focused fighting against what you disagree with that you forget how common it is for traditional relationships to fail. Whatever your relationship structure. It has to be a version of it that is quality and mutually beneficial. There is no known relationship structure that satisfies the majority of men and women. If there were, we would see that be the most dominant relationship structure while lasting successfully. Respectfully, I don't think you all have a good understanding of a healthy "50/50" partnership.

Finally, I feel understood.

What if both make equal and even so, high income? Say $130K each. Why wouldn't that be 50/50?

lot of bums in this comment section

As far as I'm concerned, Pandora box is open and there's no closing it again. They're going to have to get used to 50/50 this is the world they wanted.

50/ 50 can work and does work..communication is key..of course - one makes more .Pay more..RICH people pay more taxes..Again - know person U dating or going to b in a relationship with ❤

He paid for the mortgage because he mad twice what i made....and i was expected to pay for EVERYTHING else, no exceptions. He wanted me to pay $1000+ per month on groceries, i was suppose cook and clean, and if i didnt want to i needed to pay to hire someone to do it, because he wasnt going to do it..." why am i still worrying about food?"....i was working extra shifts as a nurse in order to pay all the utilities for a FIVE bedroom home, as well as a gardener and pool guy...every week id come home, have to dump water our of the trash cans left on the curb, or come home to dirty dishes with a full dishwasher because he just COULDNT do any of that....ALL for me to be called LAZY if i took just a mental or physical break for more than one day. And i was STILL called a gold digger, or that my expectations of men were "ridiculous". Any of his friend's wives who ere stay at home mothers, it was "they got so lucky, they should be living in a trailer park somewhere and theyre living such a lavish lifestyle"....i could go on and on, makes me sick so glad im out.

True story ..the other day at 3 am we sleeping and i guess the fridge flew open and everything came crashing down..the wife wasnt behind me with the a.r. butt naked like i was...what happened to 50/50 when she thought there was a break in and i had to possibly fight for our life?...she was in the room waiting for the all clear😂

Yall read all these books but the bible. Women worked

This man is the REAL deal!!

Yes!! ❤thank you for saying this

Economics

Fam a 🤡

Stephan thanks for this video.

How many procent is acceptable for a woman to pay per month. I we are going to buy a house eventually i would love to invest my money too. So i wanna know what is good for the balance of masculine and feminine energy in the relationship. We also have a house keeper. Ofc we still do things in the house and garden but yeah🙈

It's really bad for 50/50 if one partner lacks perspective, meaning they want 50/50 of what they think needs to be done or what they typically do. Ignoring what the other partner thinks needs done or typically does. So that probably ends up being more 70/30. I do find it true that women tend to gravitate towards caring for kids because (depending on culture) women are often raised taking care of siblings or at least being told of all the dangers to little ones and dangerous people in the world. So many men are oblivious and will even be dismissive when informed. We have to prevent something bad from happening and too many men are okay with chancing it just so they can relax. I know that protection can easily turn into control and it could be just preventing consequence, but a consequence cannot be a physical danger. Nothing to learn if you are X_X. I often hear that men are protectors. Only to danger straight in their faces. Women are preventing dangers, and in that sense they are also protectors. Again, typically. I think it's part culture, part evolution. Our female ancestors have had to go through hell.

I think the term 50/50 leaves too much to interpretation, its just much easier to say you want things to be balanced in whatever form that takes. Matching each other's energy, devotion, and love. I see WAY too many relationships around me where one spouse is doing almost everything while the other just enjoys the free ride.

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I think the term 50/50 goes over a lot of people's head's whenever someone hears the term 50/50 they automatically assume it has something to do with money. Money will not keep a relationship strong if that was the case the divorce rate probably wouldn't be what it is. If you really think about it for a relationship to get to a healthy 100% Both people have to bring 50%

😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣 This shit makes me laugh. Everyone dealing with something and usually its some BS drama they came with in their own head. take your percentages and opinions and shove 'em you know where!!