Splitting Money 50/50 With Your Partner Is Not Fair! 

The mentality of "fairness" is destroying fairness...sorry!

A MAN PROVIDES YOURE A MALE

I run my own candle making business I don’t work there I own it. If I was to get sick my woman could easily run it with the help of the on site manager. It’s not much to it really.

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Very good point and thank you for your feedback! We'll put out a video soon that breaks down the various ways to split your finances together :)

Totally agree. Only children and the elderly are dependent on adults. I was a child till I became independent. I’m not a pedo, I won’t make a child my girlfriend/wife

It’s definitely important to know your boundaries and be clear about what you’re willing to accept and not accept in your relationship.

Wow. What makes you so special that you feel you are entitled to live off another person like a parasite when you are fully capable of earning your half of the relationship? Equality came with benefits but it also came with responsibilities.

@@daustin439 why would I sleep with a man or even respect him if he isn’t providing? I would rather have a roommate then

@@yudirsamakhlouf2955 if you are the kind of woman that f*cks your roommates - knock yourself out. What entitled you to live rent free?

Was your reason? Isn’t the house for two people?😏 how would you take it if it was revised to you? “I wouldn’t live with a woman who doesn’t pay for full rent or mortgage?” People like you want a man for their convenience

This! It’s so important to be with someone who aligns with you.

Cause it's fair. If they're planning on starting a family, then they should talk it over about if the man should start to pay more

EXACTLY, a woman will lose respect for a man that doesn't provide

We completely understand that every couple is different and each couple will do things according to what works for their relationship. For some the 50/50 split works whilst for others it may not. In our relationship we both do dishes, we both cook and do laundry etc but that's how we've built the relationship. What matters is a couple building their relationship in a way that works for them and being able to work as a team.

Factor who's paying for the dates, vacation, kids, extracurricular activities. gifts, etc.. usually, if not always, the man

The men….

Who’s taking out trash, Maintaining cars, protecting, fixing stuff around house, factor that too.

I just stated that. Whoever is doing all the domestic house work is simply not paying half the bills. Absolutely not.

Yes. Savings is a whole other question. Probably needs to be negotiated just after household expenses.

What we're talking about is the impact that a pay gap will have on a relationship such as affordability and lifestyle choices. It's really about making conscious decisions that you're both happy with

@@skilledfinances so the fact that someone under performs allows them to pay less than rent? It sounds very lazy to me so they can get a free ride. Nothing is free in life. If you’re not pulling your weight with me. Pull all of it by yourself. Because I will not be used.

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Do you mean “our children”? 😅 surely is both of yours

The partner is earning less income but she is still working the same hours as you… so you basically wants her to come back home after work and do all the domestic work by herself because she earns less? Sounds like a punishment 😂

Love this breakdown! With couple's finances, there are other nuances to consider, but overall, agree with these!

Why is it that the lesser earner has more resentment? In my case, the ex wife ended up making more and started resenting me. Imo, this is due to the idea that she carried a heavier financial burden. Idk, I always figured that it didn't matter WHO made the most money so long as one person didn't unilaterally start spending outside of their own means. Since we were married, and say IF I started making more, my mentality is that if I don't have, it means that WE don't have it.

@Mental_Alchemist but you are not illustrating my "scenario 2." You are saying "our money is our money." When I said the lesser earning partner would show resentment, would be in the case where there is a large disparity in income ie 50K/150K AND they still decide to go 50/50 on bills etc. When it comes to planning vacations etc the lesser earning partner would resent the fact that the higher earning partner has more of a Cushion and doesn't have to stretch finances. If you are with someone, they shouldn't have more financial ease than you IMO. People who think otherwise usually get resented.

@@JayLawson I see what you mean. In my case I wouldn't quite call it resentment. that would be too strong of a term. But I did think that there would have been more equity had we chosen to split the household bills and expenses based upon the percentage of income that we each brought into the household. That way I would have had more money to take her to nicer places and buy nicer things for her. I say that she had more resentment for me because I couldn't afford to do those things or pay for the same level of vacations that she could now afford on her own. I personally don't think that I would have felt that way if I had ended up being the one who made the most money. Unfortunately I could not explain that to to her in in way that she could receive it. She saw the extra money that she made after paying her 50% of the bills as "her" money and it is kind of hard to argue with someone with that mentality. Her thing was that I should have "leveled up" financially at the same rate if not faster than she did. I didn't even realize that she had a problem with this until I asked her to explain how she felt it was okay to have an affair.... 🤦🏿‍♂️ Smh The thing is and it may be an excuse I'll take that, but while she was in school and working part time, I was also working full-time making pretty decent money and still took on most of the domestic duties around the house so that she would have more time to study. I did not get a part-time job in addition to my regular job because we had a young kid at the time. We were not rich but neither were we worried about paying for the lights or the rent during that time either. There were times where she could not go 50/50 with me, but I held it down and didn't feel any kind of way about it. Tbh I really saw the household income (regardless of whether I made more or she made more at the time) as all kind of going to the same place anyway so I can't say that I was resentful.

@Mental_Alchemist It's unfortunate that she doesn't see your role in her "leveling up." You held her down when she was down, so that she could focus on school and as a result she was successful. It's sad to me that she doesn't recognize the integral role you played and now I wonder if she would have done the same for you. This type of thing makes men question going above and beyond, and highlights the old saying "no good deed goes unpunished."

Completely agree with you on the fact that it's about working together as a team.

When it comes to Couples Finances there are various ways in which a Couple may chose to manage their finances. You have the 50/50 split, Income split - which takes into account that individuals in the Couple earn different amounts, Joint style where there's no his or her money and the couple just joins their finances and various other methods. This is why it's important for a Couple to talk about what works for their relationship. We are currently in this situation as we had our baby in 2023 and Lindie is on maternity. But because we've always joined our income and viewed it as our money despite how much we each earn everything has continued as normal and nothing has had to change.

I'd suggest that the household and cost of ilving expenses should be split, possibly goroceries could be 60-40 or 70-30 because men usually have more food, but clothes, shoes, electronics, hairdresser? I would say on its own pocket, or minimum discussed and agreed for both... the "cost of be a woman" is women's problem and the "i need to be pretty for you" is just a manipulation. Pretty are those who goes with no make up nor dye through life... LOL!

My previous statement is obviously asuming that domestic tasks like cleaning, cooking, etc are also split 50-50.

The beauty with Couples Finances is that there are various ways in which a Couple may chose to manage their finances. You have the 50/50 split, Income split - which takes into account that individuals in the Couple earn different amounts, Joint style where there's no his or her money and the couple just joins their finances and various other methods. Couples can decide to take into account the things you mentioned when deciding to split expenses. The most important thing is having a conversation and coming to an agreement about what works for your relationship.

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As we highlighted during the Money Discussion, this is just our opinion on the 50/50 method. The 50/50 style is just one of the many methods that Couples may choose to use. We completely understand that what may work for one relationship may not work for another relationship which is why we always encourage Couples to have a discussion about this and decide what works for their relationship.

Hi @@skilledfinances thanks for your reply, I know that is what you think, but I wanted to see if there was another good reason behind of it I'm not seeing, like an in depp justification or it's just what you consider fair or not. If this is the case, fair enough too, just wanted to know and confirm that. Many thanks! This is an interesting topic that defnitively new couples worth to at least try to talk and imagine how it would be if they were livng together. Cheers!