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@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 6 месяцев назад
When I said I don’t have a place to stay, I’m NOT homeless. I just traveled back to the US 4 days ago and I’m still in a hotel while I look for a house. Thats all I meant.
@user-ie3xu9vc5w
@user-ie3xu9vc5w 6 месяцев назад
😊 sorry you had to explain
@maryblue4587
@maryblue4587 6 месяцев назад
Hmmmm😂 you can come stay with me anytime 😂😊
@ut753
@ut753 5 месяцев назад
"From my car cuz I don't have a place to stay yet" sounds like not even a hotel...
@lisasykes624
@lisasykes624 5 месяцев назад
Air b&b it
@GodskidUr1
@GodskidUr1 5 месяцев назад
Even if you was in your car it's nothing wrong with that. Its still a shelter. I did van life for 3 years with my bestfriend traveling the east coast. And it was the most humbling fun exciting time of my life. 😊... Take my advice. Save that money your spending on hotels and make a bed in the back of your car . Shower at the gym ❤.
@make_emfall_inlovee
@make_emfall_inlovee 5 месяцев назад
“If he not calling you , texting you , ghosting you . He don’t want you !”
@Love2Love927
@Love2Love927 5 месяцев назад
& if I’m doing the same … I don’t want him either! 😂💯✌🏽
@tinyking11
@tinyking11 5 месяцев назад
It’s literally that simple. It’s not rocket science lol 🔥💯
@AnewMe012
@AnewMe012 5 месяцев назад
Pretty simple
@DanielleO-oq6mx
@DanielleO-oq6mx 5 месяцев назад
Or not interesse in you He don' t want you!"
@elizas1301
@elizas1301 5 месяцев назад
@@Love2Love927😂😂😂😂
@elizabethanne5121
@elizabethanne5121 5 месяцев назад
Another good quote is, "The egg doesn't swim to the sperm, never chase a man."
@inysiwetrust
@inysiwetrust 5 месяцев назад
i needed to fuckn see this
@claudettespence307
@claudettespence307 5 месяцев назад
Wonderful analogy ❤
@user-dk2ik7rt4f
@user-dk2ik7rt4f 4 месяца назад
Excellent point. NATURE!
@AL-8888
@AL-8888 3 месяца назад
😂😂😂This is GOLD
@olderwiser1017
@olderwiser1017 3 месяца назад
@elizabethanne5121 That's a very good one!!
@d.c.5033
@d.c.5033 5 месяцев назад
Waiting on that man that won’t give another man the opportunity to have me!!!
@beancountduck5455
@beancountduck5455 5 месяцев назад
Yes!!!
@user-cv4qr1xj4p
@user-cv4qr1xj4p 5 месяцев назад
❤❤❤
@Ladeebiz
@Ladeebiz 5 месяцев назад
GOLD!!!
@erica8657
@erica8657 5 месяцев назад
💯
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
Yeah it's rare isn't it
@tobealady.4490
@tobealady.4490 5 месяцев назад
Sit back and relax in your feminine energy like a flower and allow the bee to come to you. Nature literally teaches us how to behave in a very simply way. I’m a woman of luxury so I’m not doing anything not worth my time to even leave my backyard.
@JHW44
@JHW44 5 месяцев назад
Let’s start teaching this to our daughters. Find a man you can ask ANYTHING without him running away as well. It’s so peaceful!
@shanky_jayg-o8372
@shanky_jayg-o8372 5 месяцев назад
THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSS!
@tashameca
@tashameca 5 месяцев назад
Yesssss sooooo true!!
@shereent3121
@shereent3121 5 месяцев назад
That's how I remind myself to treat myself well. If it's something I wouldn't want my Daughter to deal with regarding a Man when she gets older, then it's not something I should deal with from a Man. I'd tell her to pick up the pieces, and put respect for herself above any feelings. Especially when children follow by parents examples, more then their words. I have to be a good example for her. Kids are not blind to their surroundings. We're taught to not fail, however we're not always taught how to catch up when we lose track.
@cierraword6056
@cierraword6056 4 месяца назад
Yesssssssss
@user-dk2ik7rt4f
@user-dk2ik7rt4f 4 месяца назад
Yes!
@queensun6059
@queensun6059 5 месяцев назад
👸never ever give a ghost a 2nd chance. intentionally hurtn u is pure evil👹. he'll do it again. guaranteed. bc he don't like u, he's only using u.
@Love2Love927
@Love2Love927 5 месяцев назад
💯💯💯
@DanielleO-oq6mx
@DanielleO-oq6mx 4 месяца назад
Ite true girl.
@LaetitiaMeyo
@LaetitiaMeyo 4 месяца назад
True
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
Thank you for that my ghoster had me so confused and managed to keep me enteapped for 6 years of back and forth cos you give them yhe benefit of the doubt thinking well everyone deserves a second chance -we all have baggage to sort out. Man they play you like a fiddle with their games of dangling -INVOLVING YOU BUT NOT ACTUALLY INCLUDING YOU BUT DRIVING PAST YOUR HOUSE IR AT YOUR DRIVEWAY AND YIU THINK -WELL THEY MUST CARE IF YHEY KEEP SEEKING ME. MAN THEY ARE JUST WEARING DOWN -BIT BY BIT -YOUR MIND AND YOUR CONTROL AND SELF ESTEEM DOWN -TILL YOUR CHASING THEM DESPARTE -COS THEY STARVE YOU WITH SILENCE AND HOT AND COLD SCENARIO -YOU GET FOOLED FOR YEARS WITH THEUR SECRET DOUBLE LIFE WITH OTHER WOMEN/AND KIDS THEY HIDE.
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
ON TOP OF THAT -THEY TRAP YOU WITH PUNISHING YOU WITH SILENCE OR NOT VISITING FOR TWO WEEKS -TO GET YOU DESPARATE TO CHASE THEM AND GET TICKED OFF -WHEN YOU DONT FALL FOR IT -I WAS BETRAYED BY HIM BY TOO - BY HIM TELLING MY CLUB LIES AND GETTING THEM DISLIKING ME AND TURNING THEIR BACKS ON ME WITH HIM ATTACKING MY CHARACTER AND GOOD NAME BEHIND MY BACK.
@lisasykes624
@lisasykes624 5 месяцев назад
Some are empty and looking to drain someone 😮😢
@maelindasorel2873
@maelindasorel2873 5 месяцев назад
💯
@ikiasamuel181
@ikiasamuel181 5 месяцев назад
So I’ve been talking to this man for 2 years we made it official after a month! The connection was very deep and gave us both something neither of us had never experienced from a relationship. I’m still very much in love. I just recently found out he’s been talking to another woman. Never told her he was in a relationship. Calls her when he can and keeps in touch! My heart is hurting because I thought we were on a deeper level of understanding eachother. He did everything right! And was still doing wrong behind my back. Conversation is big but can also be manipulation. He always asked about my son, said he was go take care of us! Talk is cheap!!.. I’m so gone😂 I had one more relationship in me before I give up and focus on myself and child. The trust is GONE 🤷🏾‍♀️
@Pacifica74
@Pacifica74 5 месяцев назад
Wow sorry this had to be your reality. It's a great warning to us all that deep conversation can just be calculated manipulation! It's scary how you can't use anything as a litmus test against being played. Some men are just great conversationalists - with anybody and everyone! But when we encounter such a person, we think it's just us that inspire him to talk on a deeper level.
@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK
@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK 4 месяца назад
❤men especially blk men, do not want to raise or pay 4 another mans child. U need to improve your vetting. Is the action matching the words. Men see single mums as game!
@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520
@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520 3 месяца назад
Right it's sad and crazy. I'm so sorry that happened to you..this fools out here are a trip they tell on themselves eventually when they are playing games. Maybe some will really grow up one day..if not their loss..them actions speak real loud not just all that "deep talk". Smdh
@user-gu2pb7km8f
@user-gu2pb7km8f 3 месяца назад
Bc some m. will have deep conversations. to get u n bed 🛌. keep ur legs closed until marriage. not a guarantee. but weeds out the losers much faster.
@TiffanyMoore-ze2hs
@TiffanyMoore-ze2hs 2 месяца назад
The red flag for me is that you made it official after two years.
@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7
@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7 6 месяцев назад
I despise idle conversation. My time and innergy are valuable.
@smores8982
@smores8982 5 месяцев назад
💯 On point. Briefly dated a man who would only text “good morning have a great day, have an awesome day, have a wonderful day, have an amazing day, good night, good morning” over and over again. It became painfully repetitive - as to your point, we were not actually talking! He would just spit out superficial pleasantries. If I mentioned what I did for the day, his canned response would be “that’s great! Enjoy! Awesome”. It was very curt and once you receive that kind of reply, the conversation ends. I also realized he would never ask me anything further. When I do ask him how his day was, he would always reply “it was productive”. His texts were dry and he had zero personality. I could not stomach another “good morning” text from him. There were no meaningful conversations taking place other than what we did for the day. Oy vey.
@sensimania
@sensimania 5 месяцев назад
That's because you wasn't the only person that he was dating. Best believe that he was sending those same "copy/paste" messages to at least 3-5 other women. Probably bragging to his friends that he had 3-5 women on the go for ego boosting reasons.
@smores8982
@smores8982 5 месяцев назад
@@sensimania that was exactly what my intuition was telling me, that I wasn’t the only one. His texts were very generic and terse. I was very cautious because I noticed he gets all hot and heavy with kissing me but we never held hands, never once mentioned any feelings for me, becoming exclusive, deleting our dating profiles etc. I’m glad I didn’t waste any more than 1.5 months with the guy. It’s a shame though, very handsome man but zero depth and intellect.
@Love2Love927
@Love2Love927 5 месяцев назад
Same here but we parted ways by not talking or texting. We ghosted each other & I was glad. He had no compassion, no swag, no hobbies etc. No compassion for anything I said, there was no chemistry or attraction to him & seemed like everything he did was for his own validation purposes. I felt underestimated, until he started eating healthier & going to the gym on a regular basis. I knew I had been seen & heard due to him complimenting me & abt how my clothes fit 🙄 Yea that’s bc I’m conscious of my lifestyle & health, he WAS NOT @ that particular moment. But I’m sure he had found a new convo for the other women he was talking to to make himself look better & in a diff light. Also my energy & excitement had made an impression on him, had put some fire under his feet. But the devil is a lie bc anyone who seen him wouldn’t believe that he was NO WAY & NO HOW a fitness guru. Which is partly why I WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM. He didn’t look well kept, said he couldn’t fit/had to change clothes a few times to get dressed for our date 🥴 He’d kinda let himself go, he hadn’t been active, just been laying around & eating. He was attracted to me, but I’d always deflect when the hints came. He didn’t even look romantic 😂😂😂 I didn’t stay around & didn’t want to find out✌🏽
@Love2Love927
@Love2Love927 5 месяцев назад
This was all in a 2-3 wk period. If you’re an active person, you may also need an active mate or else it’s def not going to work. When I say active, I don’t mean an energized bunny. I mean healthy & exercises on a regular basis. Bc the non-healthy person will not understand why working out is so important to you.
@kstevenson232
@kstevenson232 5 месяцев назад
Currently going through this now met him on a dating app pursued me took me out on dates soon as we had sex a few times his consistency switched generic text messages with no depth less hook ups so I had a conversation to address what I was feeling and he made me feel like a groupie said I was emotionally attached and it’s always something with me so I haven’t reached out to him and he hasn’t with me but I’m feeling better about it I feel like if it’s always something then respectfully find less
@gonegirl9114
@gonegirl9114 5 месяцев назад
I recently met a man who came up to my job. We chatted a bit. I thought he was cool so I gave my number when he asked. The few conversations were concerning. He would be playing a video game on his phones as we’re talking. Then I didn’t hear from him at all that weekend. On Monday he called not really talking about nothing, certainly not making any date plans. Finally he hits me with the come over. Oh ok I know where this is going. I blocked him.
@gonegirl9114
@gonegirl9114 3 месяца назад
@@user-xr2dp9sw3z what are you talking about. He ate what? I’m a truck driver and so is he. No one was serving food. I bet you thought you ate with that comment though.
@elizabethanne5121
@elizabethanne5121 5 месяцев назад
Essentially, you are this man's placeholder and nothing more. Walk away with your self respect in tact. ❤
@AmericanDreamer
@AmericanDreamer 5 месяцев назад
true!!!
@aries81M
@aries81M 5 месяцев назад
I think we all know we just ignore signs 😂😂😂😂
@truebluewonderful1139
@truebluewonderful1139 5 месяцев назад
I'm 62 and I figured this out during the past ten years. You confirm it. It's logic. Girls should be told at the age of 15. And more of what you're telling us, not only this. It would've saved me from a lot of heartache, that's for sure. When I listen to your videos I'm regularly thinking 'if only I had known'. Man, it would've made life a lot less complicated. When you were abused and not loved as a child you need to hear this all the more, cause it makes you craving for love, so more vulnerable. Thank you for making girls and women wiser. ❤
@tracyhill4405
@tracyhill4405 5 месяцев назад
I have had only two relationship which were marriages and they were long term. Sitting down sipping on some hot tea. Now, my blinds are closed. Basking in my relationship with Christ . Single and celibate. Decorating my home, sewing, crocheting, cooking, and thinking about opening a business in the future. Even though, the male is interesting, attractive, mind boggling, charming, and an amazing creature. I am done. Jesus Christ is Lord.
@truebluewonderful1139
@truebluewonderful1139 5 месяцев назад
@@tracyhill4405 What are you trying to say?
@LUCKYME_777
@LUCKYME_777 5 месяцев назад
@truebluewonderful1139 😮‍💨if you had known, who’s to know if you would’ve prevented all the heartache and sadness? 😢sometimes we go through that to learn and choose to be wise to not repeat that mistake you know 🤷‍♀️ 🤔
@truebluewonderful1139
@truebluewonderful1139 5 месяцев назад
@@LUCKYME_777 After I figured out what a man does when he likes you, it became easy to make the right choices. So when I had known that at the age of 18, I could've made the right choices about men for the rest of my life. My father was a mean, abusive alcoholic and my mother didn't protect us. There was no love and I got the example of a bad marriage. Every man I met seemed to be kind after my father. I didn't know a thing about shallow and deep conversations, cause there were no conversations in my parental home. To me a longer shallow conversation with a man was new and already good. I didn't know better. I wasn't self-conscious. Had little self-worth. Figuring out why we had had a bad childhood took al my attention. There was no space left to figure out men and relationships. I changed after intense therapy. I've always been eager to learn. When someone had told me, when I was young, what a man does when he likes you and that a little positive attention from a man doesn't mean anything, or if I had read it, I wouldn't ever have forgotten. I don't expect you to understand, but I wrote this to make you see that it's different for everyone.
@arianamooon
@arianamooon 5 месяцев назад
Yeah its sad the older i get, the more i realize how badly i was treated, and how my parents really never spent time with me. So it feels amazing just to spend time with people, or when people help out, etc, it means so much more to those of us who didnt have it much. I see it, but i cant change it. Many heartaches and so many times my light and drive and peace was stolen into empty darkness.. time and time again.
@sparkle3000
@sparkle3000 5 месяцев назад
Why fathers are so important for little girls, little boys too around the world. 🌎 Thank you for your time.
@vanessam.2553
@vanessam.2553 5 месяцев назад
No offense but a lot of men arent teaching their daughters anything. Many of my friends grew up in a 2 parent home including myself and those conversations were never had.
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
​​​@@vanessam.2553Exactly. My father was in the home and a hard worker too and he didn't teach me NOTHING about relationships. I learned everything on my own left home at 17, and learned everything about boys, men, and players on my own! Let's not assume cuz we had a father present like we just knew, that's not true. You're right.
@DanielleO-oq6mx
@DanielleO-oq6mx 4 месяца назад
I m grew up with on, parent my mama my oldest sister and I had no daddy he was cheathing with a other woman idiot.🤬
@artistpr5386
@artistpr5386 4 месяца назад
Some of the fathers are guilty of the same things
@candace8167
@candace8167 3 месяца назад
@@vanessam.2553thank you. I was thinking the same thing due to personal experiences of keeping the father around…. I ended up having to play both roles anyway 😢😂😅😮
@jasminealexia
@jasminealexia 5 месяцев назад
Soo true! They not getting up off of ANY information no life stories philosophy spirituality no nothing. These guys are emotionally unavailable & 9/10 only in it for themselves
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
Yup so true. I'm currently experiencing this. And the only time they call is to ask if you can do something for them. Hell nah. Been there done that.
@hereisayana8207
@hereisayana8207 2 месяца назад
It's sad that I didn't realize these things from before
@no-qo2rc
@no-qo2rc 5 месяцев назад
Why don't the men who want just sex/friendship simply state this clearly? Some women want that, too. Does he prefer her to feel committed to him while he doesn't? Just say the truth, so things can be uncomplicated and relaxed.
@basicinfo2022
@basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад
This is why you should kindly refer them to an escort or sx worker when they pressure sx without commitment. Believe him the first time when he shows you who he is. They want a high quality woman for free and cheap.
@zykira2010
@zykira2010 5 месяцев назад
You gotta be able to pick up the signs . It took a while for me to learn that .But men well some men not gonna blatantly come out and say it becuz of rejection . .So they would rather make it seem like they want more but they dont..Believe me men are dumb they always show theyre cards you just gotta learn how to pick up on what they saying and how they moving..some times they talk in code you gotta be able to unlock what they really mean
@karmenkompanyllcthinkoutsi1654
@karmenkompanyllcthinkoutsi1654 5 месяцев назад
@@zykira2010yes indeed
@jackimoon8284
@jackimoon8284 5 месяцев назад
I knew a guy who told me once that he told every women he ever slept with that he was in love with her bc once women believe that, even if the other signs aren't there to prove it- they have raunchier and more connected sex. Makes me sick that he thought he'd go ahead and just let me know lol.
@MZ_Red444
@MZ_Red444 5 месяцев назад
Actions are everything... nobody going 3 or 4 days without talking to who they want to be with
@kimberlymay9497
@kimberlymay9497 4 месяца назад
Literally dealing with this right now! Hot and cold I’m tired of trying to figure out what’s going on. My gut tells me it’s not right so I’m going with my gut. He’s blocked and deleted!
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
Yep been through thst stirm/battlefield/misleading you on -disaster-situationship -DONT YOU JUST DEPLORE THAT ENDLESS HOT SND COLD -GOING NOWHERE SCENARIO
@ShinySilverBunny
@ShinySilverBunny 2 месяца назад
Women have been gaslit for so damn long to Not listen to our gut and it's gotten us in alot of bad situations. I think the more women honor their own selves the better off we'll be. My peace is more important than having a dikk around me that doesn't do nothing!! Most of em are useless tbh. Keep your peace Sis!
@purpleorchid2622
@purpleorchid2622 5 месяцев назад
Ladies PLEASE listen This man is really giving the treasure of WISDOM,this is GOLD and will save us from months and years of heart aches and trauma and save money in years of therapy🙏🏼
@realestatecoach8626
@realestatecoach8626 5 месяцев назад
Too late!
@DanielleO-oq6mx
@DanielleO-oq6mx 5 месяцев назад
Thank you so much honey.
@cassandrarobins786
@cassandrarobins786 5 месяцев назад
Lol I figured this out very early in my 20s. If a guy hits me with the “how are you” and “how is your day going?” And he hasnt asked me actually personal questions, I immediately stop responding.
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
Good point, maybe I'll go with that. Been talking to this man for 4 yrs now and this is all I've been getting lately. I'm doing almost all the calling, all of the questions, all of the checking in. I'm in a long distance relationship. Maybe I should just let it go. 😢
@cassandrarobins786
@cassandrarobins786 5 месяцев назад
@@Lavenderspice942 omg, GIRL! Stop!!!! Re-read your reply as if someone else wrote it. Would you think that’s a guy that cares?
@rsvp89
@rsvp89 4 месяца назад
Thats tricky. Unless, he's in the military, y'all should be at the courthouse when he gets back. He should be, Sending you Flowers - at even walmart,ordering you food, virtual dinner , paying a bill(s), setting up an appointment can all be done online. FaceTime in his morning and calling you on his lunchbeak / bedtime... ​@@Lavenderspice942
@rsvp89
@rsvp89 4 месяца назад
​@@Lavenderspice942a man in love acts just like us when they are in love... long distance or not He's facetiming - constantly because he wants to see you. Don't apply pressure or remind him. That * quick fix ** ... is just to calm you down. Unless, he keeps it up 3months+ Other than that, He doesn't want to be the bad guy... maybe, he changed his mind or going thru something. So, he's distant waiting for you to break up with him.
@user-rj1vj5wk9f
@user-rj1vj5wk9f 4 месяца назад
When he said 'You talked, I listened" and 'I don't talk', I knew then he was only using me. What a sneaky creep.
@annette1982
@annette1982 4 месяца назад
When I was 14 my father told me and my sisters never to chase a man...if a man is interested he will come for you. This is so true...I will never chase a man. If he leaves, does not call, and is disinterested, so am I...I will move on ASAP. Recently I went on a date with a man who kept asking me to go out with him... OK...I did so BUT the sucker, as I was trying to make conversation, kept checking and scrolling through his cell phone. I said nothing and started looking at my phone too, when he spoke I would look up and go back to my phone BUT I had already made up my mind to dump his ass. LOL...he dropped me off and asked, "When will we get together again?" I responded...NEVER!!! Get outta here
@cassiejose1
@cassiejose1 3 месяца назад
Matching his efforts fr 😂😂.
@tjongejongeman8153
@tjongejongeman8153 5 месяцев назад
Or only talks about himself over and over....glad I quit the situationship I was in.
@originalmix2546
@originalmix2546 5 месяцев назад
yess, it's a red flag for sure.
@ramonaphillipsteach3284
@ramonaphillipsteach3284 5 месяцев назад
You are teaching, you are correct. You are not the one, or he knows that he is not ready for you. Let him go, no more ignoring red flags. We must accept reality. I use to be this person that ignored the red flags, I was my 20’s 30’s and still had a set back in my 40’s. Today I finally get it. I refuse to be with the wrong person. God will choose and confirm for me. In the meantime, I am working in me, my relationship with God comes first, then myself, then others. I did get therapy from childhood trauma. Today, I have support systems, coaching, affirmations, and educating myself with relationships coaches. We can heal ladies we can change, we can love ourselves, we do not have to compromise or settle.❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@savannahjolie2507
@savannahjolie2507 5 месяцев назад
Some women are introverts . I do not want to talk all day and all night. I do not want to be on the phone a lot either . I broke up with my ex because he was raised without a dad and was surrounded by only women. He was clingy, codependent and possessive. If he called and I was in the bathroom he wouldn’t hang up. We lived together and even at work he wanted to talk at least every 2 hours out if his 8 hour shift. He was too feminine emotionally. It was draining. Constantly talking to anyone fit me is draining and time consuming.
@saharagold
@saharagold 5 месяцев назад
My God, how exhausting and needy.
@bonafide_forever
@bonafide_forever 4 месяца назад
Facts! All that talking and holding a phone gets irritating. 10-30 mins is reasonable. But going beyond 30 minutes continuously and for weeks/months gets suffocating. I’m just not on that type of time. Then don’t let the man start repeating old shit he already told me🤦🏽‍♀️ that’s a sign that yeah we’ve been talking too damn much. Well actually he does 85% of the talking. The other 15 I’m either concurring or interjecting. Like the conversations be good, don’t get me wrong, but NOOO just No. It doesn’t take all that to build a solid connection.
@Kari_Michele
@Kari_Michele 4 месяца назад
@@bonafide_forever This. Felt 💜🙏🏾
@andreawashington673
@andreawashington673 3 месяца назад
​@@bonafide_forever😂😂 I know rite 👍🏽
@Pacifica74
@Pacifica74 5 месяцев назад
You speak so plainly. Thank you. In this situation, for a man to change his pursuit to passive reciprocation that means he changed his mind about you or he changed his mind about his level of investment. Something changed, and you'll never know what it is.
@laylarahman11
@laylarahman11 5 месяцев назад
You'd be surprised how many men would want to know all those things and still not care about you. We are human beings, we are curious about people. It's normal.
@Coolct
@Coolct 5 месяцев назад
I agree this is true. I had a guy once that we would go out to date sometime sometimes I wouldn’t hear from him a day or two he wouldn’t text and he would call. It was very wishy-washy. I keep him him in a small box and while he’s barely texting, I’m on a date! 😅
@borotheluckylibra
@borotheluckylibra 5 месяцев назад
Man this brother knows 💯
@JesusLovesUsSoMuch
@JesusLovesUsSoMuch 5 месяцев назад
Being with a man who I believe truly loves me now is worlds apart from the men I’m now aware never did. A man who loves you will be OBSESSED. Of course not as in being a stalker, but he will not be satisfied within himself until he knows you in and out. A man who loves you wants to be ONE under God with you.
@Pacifica74
@Pacifica74 5 месяцев назад
I wonder what that feels like.
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
Yeah me too I wonder 🤔
@shanicrystal8671
@shanicrystal8671 4 месяца назад
@@Pacifica74 me too
@Kari_Michele
@Kari_Michele 4 месяца назад
Amen 💯
@maryanneville4397
@maryanneville4397 5 месяцев назад
This is exactly what my boyfriend does, nothing interesting the same old conversation everytime, he never tells me about his intensions and never wants to tell me about his plans for the day like if he has to do something it always seems to be a secrete and I find myself forcing it out from him, I really needed to hear this, you are soo right. If someone is meant for you these things will come naturally and not be forced
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
Yup 💯💯 But I'm sure he'll tell his buddy who he just got off the phone with how his day was going and what he's doing. What nonsense!!
@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK
@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK 4 месяца назад
Learn from his actions. He dont want u..h may want access 2 the cake. Leave & block.
@shanicrystal8671
@shanicrystal8671 4 месяца назад
I’ve promised myself that from now on I’ll only speak when I’m spoken to. I won’t text unless they text. And if they don’t then we just won’t speak. Can’t ghost me if I never made an effort to begin with 😅
@hereisayana8207
@hereisayana8207 2 месяца назад
Please get the book... " not your mother's rules " by Ellen Fein... it was the first book that gave me game and a better understanding about men including all of these videos. I don't benefit if you get the book also. God Bless... I promise it will teach you A LOT
@shanicrystal8671
@shanicrystal8671 2 месяца назад
@@hereisayana8207 many thanks for the recommendation I will have to purchase that!
@aprilslays0381
@aprilslays0381 5 месяцев назад
He calls, texts, stops by, and asks about my mom (now that she recently moved to the state we're in) and my kids everyday. He doesn't talk a lot, (he says he loves to hear me talk about any and everything) but we do get deep on multiple subjects. He'll even argue with me if I don't eat in a day. if get a migraine (I suffer from chronic migraines since I was 19yrs old) he says that it makes him feel some kind of way..(he feels hopeless cause he can't take the pain away) He always wants me happy and smiling as much as possible cause he said I deserve it❤ he's not perfect by no means, but I think while writing this I realized that he really cares🥰
@earthangel8399
@earthangel8399 5 месяцев назад
It's true.. con men give the best lines... actions really do speak louder than words... if he remembers things about you... he may like you... but probably for friendship... if he moves slow he's trying to know whether to date you... if he's quick to ask you out... he may try to bed you without trying to know you...especially if he asks to take you out at night
@Lavenderspice942
@Lavenderspice942 5 месяцев назад
Exactly! I've experienced this. This is very true. A woman should never be trying to a drag a conversation along or keeping up the texts, or figuring out what he's thinking, if he's really into you he'll just tell you himself.
@kathycoates4333
@kathycoates4333 5 месяцев назад
They can still ask, but they still have what their agendas, which is sex. Facts💯
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
That and to be able to brag about it to/compete with their mates.
@2611Lover
@2611Lover 5 месяцев назад
Straight facts!! They know if they want you and any question outside of that means he doesn't. Move on
@sweetgoldenbrown
@sweetgoldenbrown 5 месяцев назад
This is soooo true… this has been my experience… men are strategic and will say anything.
@InsightfulConversations-sw8ou
@InsightfulConversations-sw8ou 5 месяцев назад
True!My New man of four years now is not very talkative,very macho and laid back but during courtship stages he opened up!🎉
@iamsoohappy
@iamsoohappy 5 месяцев назад
I ain't it. 😂😂😂got it!
@walkaminutewithme4787
@walkaminutewithme4787 5 месяцев назад
Don't want you either if you ghost me
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
So true -I once saw a good caption -IF SOMEONE GHOSTS YOU -THEN JUST RESPECT THE DEAD AND MOVE ON -(SO WISE)
@brucellamarsh8409
@brucellamarsh8409 5 месяцев назад
I appreciate this guy. You speak only the truth sir. I wish I heard this 20 years ago.😢
@Olivia0585
@Olivia0585 5 месяцев назад
100% accurate! I don’t even want to talk to a man that has to figure out how to have a deep conversation. If they want to, it happens naturally. And, ladies, think more of yourselves. Keep your children locked away until you really get to know these men. We have to stop being stupid then blaming someone else and playing the victim. You cannot allow yourself to be careless. You are a valued rare one of a kind gem. Access should be heavily guarded to your children. Your the coach of your game. Do not let players on the field before their ready. It’s your job to watch YOU, don’t place that in anyone’s hands. Children are sacred and not just a random person to introduce. He needs to earn that right. If he’s a sneaky link… ACCESS DENIED, Sidepiece? ACCESS DENIed! Your not sure about how he feels about you… DENIED You don’t feel supported… DENIED. Stop letting yourself fall for the bull. All these tips are obvious when you truly love yourself and don’t have that man on a pedestal.
@bonafide_forever
@bonafide_forever 4 месяца назад
Jesus Christ…AMEN❤❤❤❤❤
@GoddessTera1228
@GoddessTera1228 6 месяцев назад
Adding to my notes and saved in my favorite so I can share with my daughter and son. I appreciate your wisdom 🙏
@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 6 месяцев назад
Awesome. Thank you so much
@ZenLioness
@ZenLioness 5 месяцев назад
Great tips! 💕✨ Just “wasted” 9 years of my life, and am finally starting to take advice like this seriously… my life has transformed so much already 🤗
@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 5 месяцев назад
You got this!
@lwinston5950
@lwinston5950 5 месяцев назад
Same wasted 7 years
@Nolababy4ever
@Nolababy4ever 5 месяцев назад
Most men know what they want from you the day the meet you.
@Kashmir-lt4cx
@Kashmir-lt4cx 5 месяцев назад
​@@Nolababy4everwow!
@tbunnyshy1
@tbunnyshy1 22 дня назад
He is so friendly in person at his job. We make and hold eye contact, smile big at each other, we hug, we talk. Introduced me to his son. He doesn’t call or text. I might just be a distraction I guess.
@SELEONORE
@SELEONORE 5 месяцев назад
Haha, luv when you said “sit your ass down and relax”. Yes sir! Needed this as a reminder! Thank you. And God Bless. Greets from the Netherlands 🇳🇱.
@fitp74
@fitp74 5 месяцев назад
For the first time in my life. I’m truly single. And no one to fight me or argue with me. The painful thing is. These men come into my life. Recently a man came into my life. At the time he came, I wanted space to think and to focus. I’ve warmed up to him. But it’s like pulling teeth. He doesn’t tell me anything and he claims he’s taking it slow. This man is also financially well to do. He hasn’t even tried to be loving or help financially. Mind you I’m very comfortable and I travel for work. I’m the one who ask him questions and he’s the silent one. I don’t mind having him as a acquaintance but to be honest I’m tired. He seems to be a healthy man who isn’t damaged, but he doesn’t ask deep rooted questions and this man is 12 years older than me. And nothing. We are both in the healthcare sector and can only talk to me at certain times. But he works at home whilst im on the facility.
@dreamceline2093
@dreamceline2093 4 месяца назад
That doesn’t sound enjoyable
@fitp74
@fitp74 4 месяца назад
@@dreamceline2093 lol which part? I’m in a better space and I don’t mind being truly single.
@rsvp89
@rsvp89 4 месяца назад
He's 12 years older ...mostly, afraid of rejection or being used again. Still, that sounds like a friendship / acquaintances. IF YOU LIKE HIM, invite to go bowling or bring him back a Keychain and be like " I thought of you "- wrap it up real nice. It's 2024, men have reduced women to objects. Messy Divorce scares them. He can buy sex or marry 25 years old to worship him - like DOORDASH. So, they aren't pressed ( putting in work) for relationship or marriage because there are women who come running when they call.
@ruthcook8599
@ruthcook8599 5 месяцев назад
MAN CALM THE FUCK DOWN 🔥🎯💯
@florentina875
@florentina875 5 месяцев назад
That is so easy. If he ignores you and doesn't text you as usually and or don't want sex with you. That man for sure don't like you at all. Love is a big word. 😊❤Be strong ladys He is right.
@mrsrkcarter
@mrsrkcarter 6 месяцев назад
Thank you for this I wish I knew this before I dedicated my time energy and money. But seeing this now and realizing this now you are absolutely right.
@thehumblehygienist2805
@thehumblehygienist2805 4 месяца назад
“Stop with all the stuff” 😂😂
@denisemorris3993
@denisemorris3993 5 месяцев назад
I don't believe that cause they always open up to me and then shut down and let me take overtime. I be quiet cause I'm not that into them then the minute I start paying them attention they just be there in my life not doing anything. Just taking up space but they will text if they see that I'm not texting or calling. I'm over it.
@flooredjustfloored
@flooredjustfloored 3 месяца назад
Doing too much! Wow! That's definitely one way to look at it! 😂 Thank you so much for this! I can start to see a common thread in all of your relationship videos: take accountability for who you allow in your life/space, and set and enforce boundaries.
@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 3 месяца назад
Yes. Thats a huge part indeed
@mrs.kittylarou4970
@mrs.kittylarou4970 5 месяцев назад
Wow! That was deep. I wish I would've really thought about this a long time ago. I would've picked better.
@originalmix2546
@originalmix2546 5 месяцев назад
same,. this channel is now one of my favorite discoveries among like few other really awesome ones. I wish I heard this when I was younger. It would have made a world of a difference, Seriously. 💯🎯
@hereisayana8207
@hereisayana8207 2 месяца назад
​@@originalmix2546I wish I could like both of your comments a thousand times
@sharonmetcalf5617
@sharonmetcalf5617 5 месяцев назад
Comfortable being single. I wouldn’t mind dating, when that time come.
@bhanidtharatiyanuwat3733
@bhanidtharatiyanuwat3733 6 месяцев назад
Right!!! This is so true . Thank you for opening my eyes. I see it now with the different in the relationships i had with men . 🦋🦋
@ilabadoni1647
@ilabadoni1647 5 месяцев назад
Your videos really cut into the heart of the matter. Wish you could share your story with us. Thank you for making videos from wherever you are and not from a studio.
@stephlm79
@stephlm79 25 дней назад
“Sit down and relax , sit down on your ass” 🙌😂
@Grateful4Lyfe1
@Grateful4Lyfe1 6 месяцев назад
Thank you for your wisdom and appreciate your channel. You speaking straight facts
@lonalis4224
@lonalis4224 5 месяцев назад
We make things more than it really is most women do. Most of these relationships started this way. Substance has to be in the conversation. I have actually told him myself the conversation he is having with me is meaningless. It's what he is not telling me is the problem.
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
Aww you have got that -so spot on
@tiff7138
@tiff7138 23 часа назад
Ohh I completely understand. Thank you for keeping real all the time. It’s very much appreciated, I feel like am becoming a better person because of your wisdom & knowledge. 🙌👍
@jacquelinegibson6181
@jacquelinegibson6181 5 месяцев назад
My father taught me this wisdom! He wants to know how you are!! He avoids deep conversations and doesn't avoid feelings. Excellent wisdom! My Mom has stage 4 cancer and even as a friend they should ask how are u??
@glenbutler9611
@glenbutler9611 6 месяцев назад
Thank you Konscious Kirk for your insightful words of wisdom! For many career women and millennials, your insight conflicts with today's ideology. They could save themselves much heartache if they would open their eyes and minds and close their legs!
@mcormick41
@mcormick41 5 месяцев назад
Maybe with most men; but what about the men that don’t know how to express themselves; men that do NOT understand nor do he knows how to communicate??? Please expound on this sir, because every man is different. Some are very immature. Life experiences will cause people to be difunctional; lacking in certain areas. Every situation is different. Please expound, sir. -Respek ❤
@Kimberly.T
@Kimberly.T 5 месяцев назад
If you date a man who doesn’t understand how to communicate……….you will have poor communication. If you date a man, that is very immature ….. you will have an immature relationship. If you date a man that is dysfunctional …… you will have a dysfunctional relationship. I have allowed myself to date men that were exactly how he described, and I made every excuse to hang on to the story in my head.🫠 The choice is ours on what we choose to entertain, but who he is is indicative of what our relationship will be.✨
@cancer_queen9881
@cancer_queen9881 5 месяцев назад
There's no excuse to not know how to communicate. That's a sign he's lazy. There's always been education to help with that. Women don't need to settle for lazy men or any man who is not functioning at the same level or above her.
@karmenkompanyllcthinkoutsi1654
@karmenkompanyllcthinkoutsi1654 5 месяцев назад
@@Kimberly.Tyou are so right.
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
THATS WHEN YOUR KIND ACTIONS WOULD SHOW YOUR TRUE LOYALITY
@hereisayana8207
@hereisayana8207 2 месяца назад
Watch more videos and you will see that the woman shouldn't be the one to help him open up.... the man is the hunter ​@@debbiemillo1556
@nataliemullings5320
@nataliemullings5320 5 месяцев назад
He is right, and that’s the reason I keep it short with no dates, no meetings, no gathering. Now after about a year, we can move it to the next level. Unless I know you my whole life, then we are all in. I love my boyfriend.
@ginaqueendiva7860
@ginaqueendiva7860 4 месяца назад
All this is so true I tried my best to keep the relationship going cause, he was trying to lead I didnt like it went over it in the video it made me realize maybe I was too masculine for him I don't like being controlled. Yes so true these are some good pointers new subbie here great content.
@tapreciousjones5435
@tapreciousjones5435 4 месяца назад
This popped up in my notification and I’m so glad it did. ~ If a man really wants you he won’t give another man a chance to have you. That’s it! So true!! 👏🏾 Tell the truth and shame the devil. #subscribe.
@Renee-vr6zq
@Renee-vr6zq 5 месяцев назад
This was so very informative, the truth hit my spine and shivered it’s way up lol like wow so profound yet so true. I’ve always wondered why some men “intentionally” set out and go out of their way/depth to mislead or manipulate women and get gratification from it. Have you already made a video on “why men intentionally distract women or manipulate women?” If not can I kindly make this a request? Thank you for this teaching knowledge is power. I don’t wish to be manipulated noted and received ✍🏾🤝🏾! Kindly awaiting your response I’m so intrigued. NEW SUBSCRIBER! Much respect to you Sir 🫡 from the United Kingdom 🇬🇧🤝🏾🙂
@originalmix2546
@originalmix2546 5 месяцев назад
yess, I second this ! Kirk, would you consider? 💛
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
I THINK IT COMES UNDER THE NARCISSIST CAREGORY. THEY DELIBERATELY MISLEAD YOU HIDING A WIFE OR ANITHER PARTNER AND MULTIPLE KIDS. SECRETS GALORE TO COVER-UP WHY THEY NEVER MAKE DEEP CONVERSATION WITH YOU TO HIDE THINGS. SOME LIKE TO FILL THEUR EGO WITH IT AND FEEL VALIDATED COS THEY DEEP DOWN ARE INSECURE BUR NEVER GO GET HELP FROM A THERAPIST. SOME LIKE TO KEEP YOU DANGLING BUT INTERESTED -SO THEY CAN HAVE OTHER WOMEN BEHIND YOUR BACK AND KEEP YOU OM THE SHELF FOR LATER (MEANWHILE SEND THE POOR WOMEN TOTALLY CRAZY WITH ALL THE HIT AND COLD -COMING AND GOING -NEVER KNOWING WHERE YOU FIT-IN AND THEN THEY TWIST IT ON YOU AS IF YOU WERE THE INSECURE/MIXED UP MESS
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
ALSO THEY DO THIS BY WEARING DOWN YOUR SELF ESTEEM IN WEIRD WAYS THST SEEM SO SINCERE BUT BLATANTLY MISLEADING YOU WITH CHARM/EXCUSES/LIES AND A DOUBLE LIFE
@Aponii50
@Aponii50 Месяц назад
Wow!! This right here is nothing but hard core facts. It hits like a brick upside the head. I don't know why it happened but it did. Won't ever happen again.
@katohaung5115
@katohaung5115 5 месяцев назад
Thank you ❤ this open up my eyes ❤I like this man and all of a sudden he ghosted me and only say good morning 😢
@evalinesasheenemelgar1380
@evalinesasheenemelgar1380 4 месяца назад
Exactly the right words I needed, the right push at the right time. Definitely subscribing. Salute to you, sir! Keep waking up more daydreaming ladies.
@user-ch3qk9qf5n
@user-ch3qk9qf5n 2 месяца назад
Yes that true its shame it took me now to figure out what dating fully is but I grew up with no one to explain it to me but im thankful for people like you and others to let us know ❤
@vanessastritzinger912
@vanessastritzinger912 Месяц назад
This ish hit home Fr 🤦🏽‍♀️
@tynashatucker884
@tynashatucker884 6 месяцев назад
Thank you 🙏🏾. I needed this message !
@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 6 месяцев назад
❤️❤️
@NaturallyMsTea
@NaturallyMsTea 5 месяцев назад
Thank you for this!!
@andreabeach1246
@andreabeach1246 5 месяцев назад
Thank you I needed to hear this is a guide line and I'm observing body language just started to conversate will be listening for depth !! I appreciate this advice coming from a king!! ❤ 💜
@nikkigreen9570
@nikkigreen9570 6 месяцев назад
Amen 🙌 thanks I needed this ❤
@Justbu45
@Justbu45 5 месяцев назад
You are absolutely RIGHT
@EM-do5li
@EM-do5li 2 месяца назад
Thank you for your straight forward information and advice. It’s refreshing and so appreciated!
@ruthcook8599
@ruthcook8599 5 месяцев назад
DON'T NOBODY KNOW ANYBODY INTENTIONS 🔥🎯💯
@ingridthompson6512
@ingridthompson6512 5 месяцев назад
Thank you, Brother. Listening to this video on repeat.
@beancountduck5455
@beancountduck5455 5 месяцев назад
Thank you for this, I have so much more clarity now.
@ShechemIntegrativeHealth
@ShechemIntegrativeHealth 5 месяцев назад
Thank you hon, I hope it’s not too cold where you are at. I’m in the same boat, I am sleeping out of my car because I have not found a place “Yet.” It’s pretty cold so I will have the heater on. This is where you know who is in your life, and who is a true friend. G-D bless both of us, as we embark on our new journeys together. So thankful I stumbled upon your RU-vid page. Times like these makes me work harder by transmuting my energy. 🦁🙌🐾🐾🐾
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
HOPE YOU GET A PLACE SOON-BEST WISHES
@themaccabee8469
@themaccabee8469 5 месяцев назад
You are a blessing! Thank you
@Tezzybiz
@Tezzybiz 5 месяцев назад
Very True, That Simple ✨✨💯
@ayobfine
@ayobfine 5 месяцев назад
Always speaking the truth 💯👏🏼
@keyo3316
@keyo3316 5 месяцев назад
So much truth in this video.
@erikas9945
@erikas9945 6 месяцев назад
Nicely put. I needed this 😊 Happy new year to you!!
@konsciousKirk
@konsciousKirk 6 месяцев назад
Thank you. Happy new year to you too
@Che_4732
@Che_4732 5 месяцев назад
Powerful message!🙏
@heatherbaxter3843
@heatherbaxter3843 4 месяца назад
appreciate this ! Thank you for enlightening us this was helpful 💙
@user-dk2ik7rt4f
@user-dk2ik7rt4f 4 месяца назад
Great insights Kirk. Very, very important to pay attention to. Thank you.😊
@mikayugu316
@mikayugu316 5 месяцев назад
Subscribed!!! I'm looking forward to that video you mentioned at the end. You just helped me accounting/auditing the guys i've met that i have some hard time letting go. He ghosted me but i believe i already have my answer. Thank you for this one!
@debbiemillo1556
@debbiemillo1556 4 месяца назад
If he ghosted you -it doesn't change even years later -so don't ever feel regret to let it go -they should have respected you more to care enough -it's just cowardly
@user-ro7rp3dd3b
@user-ro7rp3dd3b 4 месяца назад
You’re the best! Everything you say…….just simply true ❤
@Imani799
@Imani799 5 месяцев назад
Thank you for the cold hard truth.
@realestatecoach8626
@realestatecoach8626 5 месяцев назад
I totally agree with you!
@jaianalynn3948
@jaianalynn3948 4 месяца назад
Ur the realist on RU-vid. Love this. Ooooo I needed this❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@danapenrod2946
@danapenrod2946 5 месяцев назад
Thank you for this message🙏
@WanderinLove369
@WanderinLove369 4 месяца назад
Much Love & Respect to you Brother ❤Strong message Thank you for sharing 🔥🙏🏽
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