If You’re Waiting On God, I Have a Word For You 

What are you waiting for and what do you believe God is speaking to you in this season of waiting?

I also was barren for 5 years and had tests and surgeries that didn't help. I finally studied the bible and realized that most of the women in the bible also suffered from barrenness. When they prayed God answered and blessed them with children. I prayed and declared that God is the same now as He was then and declared if He did it for them He could do if for me. And He did!! I have 3 daughters and 3 grandsons. Thank you Jesus.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, and I’m not trying to be dismissive, but coming from ten years of a relatively healthy marriage and three lovely daughters… loneliness, rejection, frustration, and a feeling of barrenness or uselessness does not go away when you have a husband and family. The biggest lesson I’ve learned in marriage is that verse: “your maker is your husband”. No mortal man can satisfy your deepest needs, because you’re not made for man, you’re made to be espoused to the Lord. No human children can satisfy the desire to be fruitful, only fruitfulness for Jesus can satisfy. This is the most honest I can be about what a great marriage and great family has taught me : God is the only one that can satisfy, he’s the only one that can love you well, he’s the only one that can make you fruitful. Sing for joy, whether you’re single or married your maker is your husband!

God had me wait awhile to meet my husband. While I waited I wrote a children's book about a dad getting a miracle to be cancer free. I wrote this book before I met my husband. I learned how to fight the fight of faith for miracles. Then I met my husband and 5 years into marriage he was diagnosed with cancer and I had to utilize everything I learned while single. I even remembered the book I wrote about how God gives miracles and the dad who had cancer and got a miracle from God. Fast forward to my husband having cancer God did what I wrote in my book and got us a miracle. So you never know until after why you had to wait. It was probably training.

Years ago i was depressed...a little bird followed me on my walk and he kept singing and singing and i said "Lord, doesnt he know its fall, its cold, he should be heading south?" And the Lord said "he chooses to sing"

Lord I want my own family. My own home. I want to be a wife and mother. I promise I will give them to you. I will do it all for you. Be a godly wife to the Godly husband and bring honor to your name.

This is so hard. I can relate to what you’re saying. I’m 57 years old, never married, with no kids. I’ve ALWAYS wanted to be married and have kids. I’ve been a Christian most of my life and have been praying for a husband for almost 40 years. I hate being single with every fiber of my being. Even though I pray more than ever, being single has gotten harder, not easier. When will the rejection, loneliness, and sadness end?!? I have moments of peace, but they never last long.

Don’t focus on the waiting part. Focus on what God is doing while we wait.

Reading all these comments makes me feel seen and included in a community of women who seek thr Lord like I do. I have never felt a part of any group because my experiences have been very unique even as a child and I never could fit in. It brings me joy to see everyone holding onto God despite their trying circumstances. He is our faithful Father. In the right time, He will make all things happen for His glory and for our joy. Sometimes we are the reason for God to not work in our life and delay the blessing. We need to work on our inner man while we wait on His promises. I feel many don't do that, including me. It takes two to tango. God bless you all.

Been waiting for marriage since I got saved in 2009. Been trying to stay pure. Still waiting. I'm not lonely, just believe God for the gift of marriage

My son was diagnosed with a bowel disease at 8 years old.He was not growing and he was having painful and other symptoms that I won’t go in to but bad and scary for a child and for us. I also have bowel disease so I knew what it was right away.we went to doctor and he was diagnosed and got on meds but nothing helped.During the pandemic my mom really interceded for my son powerfully for 3 days in prayer. One day around this time we were driving somewhere in a dirt road going slow and directly over our car I mean directly like we could almost touch it, was an eagle (we have them around us but rarely see them up close) and in his talons was a dead or dying snake I knew my son though temporarily afflicted would be healed and God would give the victory About 6 months later his symptoms just disappeared. He’s 14 now symptom free and healed

I'm struggling with my health and doctors don't have answers. Please pray for me if you have a moment. Thank you. If you need prayers, let me know.

This resonates with me, because barrenness is what I have seen in my life for years. After a short 'honeymoon period' in ministry, everyrhing came crushing down, family issues, no fellowship, rejection, isolation.. and unlike many single women, I don't have that vibrant fulfilling deeply satisfying ministry / career / etc.. no open doors, just grief. The often heard adminition to 'just be content in singleness and all the ways you can serve the Lord' is just so shallow and cruel. I cannot grab ministry opportunities by my own ability, any more than I can grab a spouse.. unless the Lord builds the house, laborers toil in vain. And yes, I am fully aware we need to be good stewards with our gifts. That is why barrenness hurts so deep..

Hi rita I just joined your page, im so glad you are letting God use you for the single and unmarried woman like me who feels forgotten and unwanted.

All I can say is your Defender song blessed me so much. A few days before we found out my husband was cancer free I had a vision of someone holding a giants head. Then I knew God defeated our giant. The day we were waiting to hear from the doctor my friend told me about your song Defender. Part of your song said "God comes back with the head of my enemy and calls it my victory " so your song confirmed my vision that the giants head was cutoff and we had victory. Then later that day we found out he was cancer free. He is our Defender! You never know how God will use you. So God used your song as my confirmation of victory over our giant.

Speaking of barrenness, for me now, it’s in the career world. I prayed for years for a husband and eventually I started to pray for God to release me of that burden if it was not meant to be. And I now have peace and it is so liberating. But at the same time, it was also about job situations while praying for a husband so there were multiple levels of barrenness. I have struggled and questioned how do I work in a secular, worldly environment and maintain my fellowship with Jesus. God ministered to me and reminded me of Daniel’s and Joseph’s lives and how both came into leadership in very secular and idolatrous nations because both always put God first. But they also very much made it known and understood publicly that God is first. And that is key for me and for my life. Being open to Jesus’s and the Holy Spirit’s promptings and sanctification and learning in wisdom, growing in discernment. Having a soft and pliable heart. It’s a daily journey that God fills our lives with reminders of His goodness and what He has done for us to give us encouragement for each stepping stone He places in front of us. Take one step at a time, not an escalator.

Thank you Rita... I've started watching your videos recently... as a single woman in my late 30's, your testimony has been an encouragement to me. Thank you for being obedient

Worship breaks the heavy yoke. I love that. Thank you for sharing ❤

Sing like you have when you don't - is because you do have it - you have the God who does the impossible. God is greater than all my problems. God delivers us from all our troubles.

My husband & I are praying for my health, finances, home & future children. Been wrestling with this scripture & taking comfort from it. ”So above all, constantly seek God’s kingdom and his righteousness, then all these less important things will be given to you abundantly. Refuse to worry about tomorrow, but deal with each challenge that comes your way, one day at a time. Tomorrow will take care of itself.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭33‬-‭34‬ ‭TPT‬‬ Thank you for your message Rita!

Hey Rita! I'm just so grateful for you. Just listening to you for these last few days has been so helpful to me. I've watched almost all of your videos. One time, you were talking about leadership. You said the way you exit is the way you will enter. I left my home country Liberia with so much burden on my shoulders and I entered America with them. I just thank God that He has used you to reveal things to show and bring clarity to all the chaos over the years.

Thank you for this encouragement. This is my story, too, I am in the same age bracket as you :) That desire isn't in my heart anymore, but I am still believing God for certain things. When encouragement comes from a 20-something year old telling me to "wait" and that she did, it's not relatable to me. I'm so glad that I found you here, because I have really been struggling with believing God.

One of the things that I struggle with most in scripture is that God eventually opens the wombs of ALL of those barren women, even if they are of exceptionally advanced age. One day when I was feeling particularly depressed about it and I was struggling with finding comfort in scripture, I started Googling barrenness in the Bible and eventually found a very old quote. It helped lift the cloud of despair and helped me stop seeing myself through the lens of barren = worthless. I hope it may be of help and comfort to others here. “Never may we write her Barren who is fruitful in good works.” - Reverend Benjamin Coleman, 1711

Just sing o barren woman! Worship Him! 🙌🙏

Fantastic production, 2 cameras, the lighting is soo good and the message is real. Even people who are champions find themselves with the kids gone, the spouse passed away and a season of aloneness. But your never alone, God is with us and he's a jealous God and wants us to himself most of our lives and all eternity.

I have no one else, but the Lord. In painful loss and when a long awaited desire I have is not been given to me, I look to see what He must be building. It can depend on my yielded spirit to His perfect will for me. Do I trust Him to care about what I care about...sometimes and sometimes skeptically, but eventually through prayers of tears and surrendered worship, I know He cares. When I see it His way I don't want the temporary trinkets I thought would fulfill. I want what He wants. Who else do we have, but Him in heaven.

This is seriously the one of the best messages I have ever heard! God gave me this scripture after giving me a definite God dream back in Jan 2000, I was enlarging the cords of a massive tent and then a baby was born on my chest and He showed me other things. When I awoke I knew it was a God dream and I asked for confirmation from His Word. I had never read Isaiah 54 before, but there it was in the Bible showing me the very thing I was doing in my dream working on a tent, strengthening stakes, lengthening cords etc. I was 26 and my family who aren’t saved were already saying it was coz I was saved I wasn’t married and in the church was made to feel there is something wrong with you despite the fact the Pastor wouldn’t allow me to court anyone…. So I thought, yes, it’s going to happen soon! Thankfully I got out of that church and over the 20 plus years since I have held onto that scripture, His promise for more children than the married woman etc etc. I have prayed and said that scripture more than any other, my biological clock has ended and I keep holding onto it. It has been a very hard and disappointing at times journey BUT I choose to SING. I love what Rita said God told her - just sing! Many times I thought I’d missed it, maybe the dream is over I did something wrong etc etc, but recently I decided no, I’m going to keep holding onto it and even if that means I die believing in faith and not see it happen that’s ok, because I’d rather be in faith than not believe and it happen. I now feel it is that I will become a foster mother and already have one beautiful child and God reminded me as a 12 year old when the Ethiopian famine hit and the song We are the World was popular, I wasn’t saved but I got on my knees and 8 said Lord, I want to love kids that no one else will love, the orphans the forgotten ones. That has been my cry for so long and then it hit me, if I was a mother to my own biological kids maybe I would never have had the ability or inclination to open my home to kids that need a home. So even though I have health problems now, I know the Lord will heal me and somehow open the doors for me to have a home for lost and broken kids in Australia 🇦🇺 God is good!

His proMises are yes and amen 🙏 don’t dwell too long with those whose lives are different and callings are different , that’s where the enemy gets us into comparing ! ❤ you are so blessed ! A voice to the nations Rita ! Don’t be deceived!

6:59 This. This right here is the honest internal battle I have had so many times with a struggle I’ve been having for years. Thank you for being so honest and blessing us with your encouragement

I love the honesty of Rita, sharing her doubts, frustration and sadness at times when she needed god to pull through. I think it’s more real to share like this, as this is what many Of us feel rather than get told a message from a preacher who makes out like it’s wrong at times to feel hopeless and that their life was blessed because they never gave up. When reality is some of the most faithful people still struggle. My advise is to not think your doing something wrong, keep hoping that god is helping you, whether you get married and have kids or not, it will work out but be honest with god, “today god I feel I’m angry with you because…help me…” I feel god wants to hear how we truely feel.

My waiting, and what I was waiting for is very similar to yours, Rita. I was ok and even at peace with it for a long time. Having been a Christian woman growing older in the same church, the people around me, had a different view. Sometimes people around you have a different expectation of what you ‘should have’ or ‘who you should have’. Sometimes it’s not even us, as women, who scrutinize what we have or don’t have. Sometimes our Christian society hold an expectation for what a ‘good’ or ‘blessed’ woman is.

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 13 years. I'm just so tired. But I promised the Lord that I would persevere and continue to try and hope and pray. But it's so hard. It's so painful.

This resonates with me as I also am single, no children, never married. I haven't been able to get a job in over six years but God has provided for my necessities. The way I deal with all this is by keeping eternity stamped on my eyelids, I remember that life is short, death is sudden and eternity is long. This world and everything in it is passing away and we have a great inheritance awaiting. I try not to shape my life and view of God and my circumstnaces on my desires, wants and feelings but on what what my mission is, which is to glorify God through obedience and to make Him known through evangelism. Please be encouraged ladies.

If we talk it, feel it then we become it. I understand though because I don’t have a family,children or husband at 64. I use my creativity and further studies to give to myself. The “I am “ phrase is what we are telling ourselves daily.

"Lost journals of questions I don't have answers to." I have these too. I have been grieving recently the children I believe God showed ne that I dont have now and can't see how they can ever be. Thank you for encouraging me to sing like I have it when I don't and to trust that God has a bigger plan. I don't know it all and I cannot engineer what I think I should have and be. I return to worship to break the heavy yoke. I embrace my song and let the sound of Adonai resounding through me bring about His will for me.

Thank you so much for your candor. It is very encouraging to hear such authenticity and a spirit of wisdom

My Lord, Thank you for that beautiful explanation of Isaiah, 54:1

You do; when you sing. ☝🏽🕯️🌬️💫

Faith ,hope,love,trust,thats it

In tough times God teachs us to trust

Oh my, I completely understand this podcast. The struggle was so worth it! Trust God’s plan with your story! Look what the Lord has done ❤

I am 54 and recently felt that the Lord did not let me have a particular man in my 20s who would have been the perfect fit. Recently, for no reason, i remembered that man and deeply grieved for that missed opportunity and for never having met anyone else that came close after that. I am looking for a ministry partner for the next 2 years and after that - i will let go and prepare for aging alone. I have mixed feelings. Being alone means i can be mobile and have peace. But without a man - i feel that my wings are clipped and i cannot fly nor soar. I am reluctant to minister/travel alone. Noone in church talks about it - it is a silent, uncomfortable epidemic in the church. But i have to let go becos by a certain point/ age it is v clear - that i am called to be single.

Great video. It’s not just women that deal with this. Try being a 63 year old guy, loyally serving The Lord since my early/mid 20’s, & praying for marriage for close to forty years …all to no avail. To make it even more difficult, it seems like most married people in the Church (and the Church as a whole) treat singles (especially older singles) as second class citizens. Very sad.

Contending for the promise of healing for my husband's kidneys/bladder system. Then the devil threw a wrench in by trying to divide our marriage. Demonic strongholds from his childhood. Is not the Lord my deliverer?! Is He not our healer?! I will wait on Him. I will see the goodness of God in the land of the living. Isaiah 54 has been speaking to me through this time!

God kept putting this video into my feed so I finally clicked on it not expecting much. But it's exactly what I needed as I've recently had a punch in the gut about not having children. I love God's tender mercies. ❤😢

I have been waiting on God for the breakthrough in my life n family from the bondage if sins, faults, mistakes, devil works as im begging for new land n partner in HIM and through HIM....

You dont have to fight. Rest. God calls us to rest in what he has done. Many times we find our selves "barren" is because of us. We dont renew our minds to what God has given us and therfore making the process of what God wants to give you longer. It's not God. It's us.

When God gives you a promise just as He did Joseph ( confirmations through 2 dreams ) . He is doing a work in us to prepare us for what He promised and when the time is right it will come to pass. After 32 years I am still waiting for His promise to me. So many times I have been discouraged but He has always encouraged me . I can't deny that He spoke to me confirming His word by 2 witnesses. My time with Him in the morning is awesome reading His Word and worshiping. Isaiah 54 has always been an encouraging passage . God's Word does not return void but it accomplish what it was sent out to do. Though it tarry wait for it for it will surely come !!!

I relate with you tremendously and God led me to your site for such a time is this.

I've been waiting on God for almost 10 years. I've got an ear condition and some days it leaves me miserable. I've been praying and believing for healing, but healing hasn't come. I've been prayed for by many, many people. Most of which operate in the gift of healing, yet there has been no change. It's very hard some days to believe God wants to heal me. I have to keep believing, but I feel so burned out. It's been a long decade.

Thank you sister

Thank you for posting this. This is my life………God promised me when I was 21 shortly after being saved. I’m 40 now. I’ve wrestled with a lot of what you’ve mentioned. Why even make the promise. It hurts so bad. I’ve felt abandoned by God. I could have easily found a nice person to settle with…….but a small part of me knows that I have to continue with God. What else is there but him, but it still hurts.

Incredible,as I was experiencing a sharp pain on my ovaries from years of being diagnosed with endometriosis, I had a thought, Lord.. Is it your will for me to have a child, I'm 32 no potential husband... and then this video began to play next on my feed, i had never read this verse in Isaiah and the first sentence you said pierced my heart soul and mind. you have no idea how this has touched my heart greatly 🙏🛐💯 knowing this is the Lord speaking at that very moment. This week was another confirmation through another pastors video praying over women with these conditions in their reproductive organs. I know the Lord has spoken and is bringing healing and has heard my concerns, my heart and my desires. Thank you Rita ♥️🙏

Fast and pray, Isaiah 58. Generational curses are real and Jesus died to save us and that allows for a repairing of the breach.

This is so sad. Waiting on God and nothing for decades. Something I've learned is that we're not married in heaven, its not necessarily the "meaning of life" depending on how you see it. Bringing heaven to earth is etc. I think its fair to go out there, live your life, busy yourself in a good way, and you will more likely meet someone special out there but also not just stay at home and wait.

Wow thank you so much for this word. I needed it today. God bless you. All I have to do is worship ❤

This is such a profound message. You are making so many things clear in my life. Thank you 🙏

Exactly what I needed to hear! Ive been standing for my marriage after 2.5 years of separation. I realize I've been more focused on not having my husband and it's been depressing the past 2 weeks. God gave me a word last year after fasting & Praying for 21 days. I KNOW God is at work. I'm a walking testimony to that. I have a fear of completely letting Go in fear that God would take away my husband completely. But just like God restored me... His will is to restore my husband, marriage and family! I want to be able to press in and find my joy in the present moment for me and my kids through Him.

I love your perspective! ❤

Rita thank you for your transparency in sharing. At almost 67 and “yet to be married”, everything you said resonated with me. God has filled my life in so many ways, but the heart of what you shared resonated deeply and brought comfort. God bless you.

I feel like this is something the Lord has taught/been teaching me the past couple days to rejoice and give thanks to him instead of focusing on the dub stuff but being in his presence and realizing you have all that you need even if you don't have it yet

I was married ,divorced now,marriage is not all that good better to be single and have peace than be in a horrible relationship... 16 years now no regrets ,happy with JESUS

So good Rita, thank you for sharing your heart and journey. I had a word this week about wrestling for what God put in my heart many years ago - and while I have children, I still have some promises that I have long waited for ( tho think children and a hubby would be the most difficult one to navigate) I've never listened to your podcast before and there it was - God has reminded me to contend and worship like I have the promise already. He's tricky like that :)

I’ve been exercising this very thing… praising God & still singing because I really do have everything. 😅 Glory be to God!!!

This episode sounded more like opinions based on a passage, rather than the context and meaning given in proper commentaries. I feel for those who are single and childless, but after a cheating wife ruined our house, finances and spirits, then a bout of backsliding........now single for 20 years, I see the great blessing of being single and childless. The married with kids are blessed in a different way. The apostle Paul really gives insight to heading towards heaven without the concerns of a wife/husband/children. He has so many blessings standing around us and we focus on what we DON'T have.........pretty shallow of us as Christians. A great night at work, a filling breakfast and a super comfy bed to be in, good clothes, a great church family.........it splits me open with joy at the TONS of blessings I have. Hosea 4:6.."My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge"

Thank you so much for making this video, seriously.

Thank you for this video , obviously God is doing something with a lot of us in this season because it seems as if so many women in this time desire marriage and it’s not coming for a lot of us. Sometimes I do believe it’s judgement on our land. Because that’s also scripture but I’m not 100% sure. All I can do is submit and surrender

My friend adopted. There are tons of babies and children all over the world that need someone.

Love this! Thank you for being transparent and for sharing your beautiful heart.

Thank you SO much for this message! It resonated with me on many levels. The Lord has challenged me over the past year with the verse from Hebrews 11:6b, which says, "he that comes to God must believe that He is AND that He rewards those who earnestly (diligently) seek Him." Faith is that there is harvest and reward even if we never see any evidence in this life.

Good message!!! Thanks for sharing. I've been divorced a year and am older. It's a difficult season yet His presence in my life is so strong and real!!! The God moments far outweigh the difficult moments day by day. He is faithful!!!

No matter where we are in this life we must learn to be content in the Lord -- yes and it is very hard sometimes ! but after a while... I realize wherever I go whatever I do I am never alone..... but this don't mean to stop asking and requesting God's favor

God Bless you Rita, thank you, good word!

Wow, I’m so thankful I came across your channel for such a time as this. I lean not on my own understanding but knowing God Will Fulfill His Promises to me even if they don’t look the way I thought they would. You have no idea how your words have penetrated my heart. ❤ Thank you.

I was barren for 6/7 years, I had one late miscarriage and now I have a daughter. This journey has been nothing short of interesting, good and bad and very bad.

Thank you so much for the message 🧡🥹

Thank you. I needed this. May God bless you

Thank you Rita for the word of encouragement. My harvesting time is now after bareness. Amen

Grown sons to be added to the family of God, put on Christ through baptism. Stand on His promises. ❤Singing❤

This is helping so many main stream American Christian women.

Wow This is amazing, Not long ago, I unofficially released my first music worship album (only posted on my RU-vid), and the Lord told me I would be a mother, but I am still singing in the midst of hunger, longing, and despair. I praise God and thank Him for leading me to hear this, for making me clearly understand the reason. Bless you.

Thank you Rita, I really needed this ❤

Waiting for kingdom collective of worship musos & singers to collaborate a live worship experience recording of compositions for God. It will change atmospheres and bring His deliverance and healing. My songs and heart are being refined until His perfect timing for release to the S African community and world. Thank you for prayers.🎉❤😊

It is not a coincidence that I stumbled upon this video. I literally heard God gave me this scripture while going through a miscarriage. Our God is beyond great. Im brewing a testimony and will be back to help someone else. God bless you all

Thank you. Amen.

A single person usually gets involved in a Singles Ministry so they can get out of it. Having been a Singles Leader in ministry, it's a very hard ministry at times.I've seen Satan pick off numerous believers by bringing them the wrong relationship to people who were having a tough time being alone and/or waiting. Being in God's Word on a regular basis usually made a big difference in the singles success during this unique time in their life. Like I said - sometimes a very hard ministry. God is faithful.

Yes I am waiting on getting.friendships.

God gave me Isaiah 54 on 11/29/2019 when I first read it I cry like a baby but I’m still waiting on the Lord

I am 54, alone, jobless, struggling financially, weary. I just don't know what God is doing, I don't know what to do to fix my life. My life is barren. I am so confused.

Definitely feel like these have perfectly timed for the cry of my heart… this one… speaks to this current season I’m standing in.

Thank you so much Rita! Such a timely message and reminder!

Thank you for sharing your testimony, it was like a ray of hope. What touched me was you never gave up on God those are words I repeatedly say to myself self time and time again. I am blessed with a daughter and two wonderful sons who are adults now. God knows what I'm praying for. Thank you once again.

Hi, 👋🏼, thank you so much. I needed this message 😢I been crying for couple hours now. Gb u hun

Years ago I was going through some stuff . I did everything I knew to do and one day I heard a word saying to me “ I’d rather hear you sing “ .

I'm 21 years old. I got saved at 18. These last couple years have been hell, I don't want to be single. But I don't know if I can continue this celibacy. I feel like I should be allowed to get married, I'm trying to trust God while I wait for him to bring me to my husband. But DANG. This is hell.

Love this.

I'm 46 years old and have never been married. God gave me 2 children (niece and nephew that i adopted at birth) to raise and love. When i started my non-traditional mothering journey in my early 20's i had to trust God to provide for me. I never thought in my head that i would get married, because i didn't want to ask someone else to walk this journey with me. AS years go by, there were times i would panic and think I won't be able to have my own children if i don't get married soon. But the Holy spirit always calms me and i remember that God has a different plan for my life.

I love you Rita ! I am this woman ! But Gods promises are yes and amen ! 🙏❤️lol 😂your funny about what you said , I understand , I hear you ! 🥰 we must wait on The Lord.

So good! Thank you for releasing this word!

Very encouraging. Thank you.