If You're INSECURE & Trying To Seek VALIDATION From Others - WATCH THIS | Jay Shetty 

Catch yourself seeking validation, interrupt that thought pattern and replace it by giving yourself that validation you were seeking from others. Retraining your thought processes changes them over time.

To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. it's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.🙏🏽🖤💫

I use to seek validation from others, because I always felt my parents were too busy, and not emotional involved....no hugs from them or any encouragement and praise.... I have learnt to be happy within myself now.... Whilst I was looking for validation, very often these people used me.....I came to realise that I need to do what makes me happy....tough lesson to learn. I have a lovely husband and children myself.... 💖💖

YOU SEEK VALIDATION FOR THINGS YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"The only way a Culture Succeeds if Everyone Wants to Serve Everyone else" Love that, Service & Humanity go hand in hand

Friends....I am a Christian so commenting from that world view. Not trying to evangelize anyone. The coolest thing for me here is the bible teaches this very thing. We were built for service and the model for effective masculine leadership is that of the servant leader! I am 57 and have only been a follower of Jesus for about 20yrs. Made a lot of mistakes in my previous life. I've never been more fulfilled and satisfied. Worth investigating if you are drifting through life. Jesus was the thing I was looking for....and didn't realize it.

If you feel like giving up. Just remember: quitting will not take you closer to your goal. Push yourself up.

Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness! ~❤️Nat

The steps of insecurity:- *Comparison, *Compensation, *Competition, *Compulsion, *Condemnation, *Control.

I’m so glad that everybody is nobody to me so their validation means nothing😍🥳🧚🏾‍♀️ A compliment is nice but it doesn’t matter because only my opinion of me matters.

So I was just scrolling down in my newsfeed and this pop up, I click immediately because I know I needed to hear this!

Thanks Jay for your amazing content... To anyone who's reading this I wish you lots of love and positive vibes... May your doubts be replaced by certainty, your confusion by clarity, your sadness by happiness... Stay happy and blessed always 😇😇😇

Some people are blessed with knowledge. Like Jay Shetty. An asset to humanity

There is nothing like a mother's love, and nuturing. They speak life into her children with the ups and down in life. The sarifice they make for their children and the love is amazing. Thank you Jay for sharing. so amazing

I just realized this is part of what eats at me. And at the least exacorbates the concern and worry around job and earning, and fixing and knowing.... The "roles" we have created for ourselves do not actually serve us as humans or as spiritual beings.

Was told not to start my RU-vid channel on self-development by someone I thought would support me. Did it anyway! To anyone working towards their dreams, don't give up. Keep on going!

Very inspiring, everyone should listen to this.

Its painful to see so many people being selfish to people who were helpful to them

I usually always relate to people that you interviewed I’m so thankful you shared such a relatable story with us. 🙏🏽

Childhood memories are always memorable and beautiful

I watched this!! It was a Great conversation!! And it resonates to my situation so much ❤️❤️❤️. Thanks for an amazing conversation!

Wow, thanks for sharing and being so open. I experienced this as well and it really affected me. It's common to be bullied in middle school and people just hide it.

Both parents were not there when growing up. watched my cousins having their parents being there for them. Eventually, I shut myself up and just accepted it.

Totally admirable and this teaches a lot.

When I watch your motivational videos it makes my day better thanks for that everyone should listen to this video

Jay is amazing. A real model for young men and women

Ik no one's gonna read this....but still sharing... I am a confused teen..not sure about my career,all messed up, with poor concentration, overthinking issues..I am insecured as hell(So I didn't put my name:) ..even 2-3 years back I used to laugh with my FRIENDS(who now became strangers, they are kinda jealous and hate me pretty much). I used to chill at school...but Now I sit alone (sometimes doing my hw or sum reading, when everyone chatting outside in groups...) noone ever comes to talk to me if I don't go first.. *I used to be a good student, but now after pandemic I got addicted to phone and my grades dropped, so the friends who once flattered me, now don't even care to talk to me.. My looks are average, I never wear makeup..(ever, not even at parties).[..ac.I don't attend parties but even if I have to...I just sit at a corner..when everyone of my age grp is dancing.],I just want the real friends w whom I can share my heart out, (whom I never had actually)the so called frnds around me make me feel worthless , they talk to me nicely only when they need sth from me😞 and my self esteem is literally O, the relatives suck.... I used to be a happy,carefree kid...but now...I cry every night, ...I don't know what's wrong w me.I am ashamed of who I am....I am in this freaking loop of pathetic days...We often talk about being confident in social sites, even if we are not! In virtual media you got everyone's back, but at the end of the day, its only you, alone, with lots of possibilities, hopes, sorrows, worries, joys and a mindset which can make or break you into pieces

You are enough, you are cool ,you are a real man a man that cares that is hard to find . Thank you for helping us x

Needed to hear this, thank you 💙💙

I love this and I love you Jay!💛 thank you for making a difference everyday!

Thank you Jay, for being so transparent and frank , it's so beautiful , helps me to connect the dots in my life as well

Thank you for sharing! I’ve been needing this ❤

Wow….this hits so hard. For different reasons, but with the same outcome. Strong=feminine and masculine = fear. Fear yet what I pursued. Validation. I have been service focused my life as well, but sometimes, maybe frequently, as a sacrifice of self. Bless you all for your journey!

Seriously it touches my heart that my tears come out from my eyes😭😭

This is a great life lesson for all of us men.

That part about not being seen and man or woman 🧡 at the end of the day we are consciousness 🧡

Thank you for posting the video.

okay I am pausing this half way through and I gotta say wow this is good! I've been subscribed for a while now and I have skipped some videos but this is very inspirational! I shall consistently start watching your videos more

Thank you for sharing Jay!!!

His dad was emotionally absent. Same thing with mine. Came from a good family but that one element can cause havoc in adulthood. I struggle with confidence in doing anything new. My dad didn't talk much to me but I knew he was always watching and judging. I feel like everyone is doing to same thing today. Its Debilitating.

I know you know better now Jay Shetty absolutely love you

I love u I feel like you are part of my family thank you for doing this ❤

I’m glad I discovered this. I related to this a lot.

I always love and admire his speech my favourite speaker Jay genius.

14mins in and my mind is blown. Thank you! 🥰

Needed to see you today. Thank you. Subscribed to save myself.

You know, growing up, I used to really struggle with trying to fit in with the cool, popular crowd at school. I'd bend over backwards to be part of those "wonderful" friend groups, thinking that would make me cool by association. And when I entered the workforce, I fell into the same trap - laser-focusing on becoming the perfect candidate that employers wanted, rather than staying true to who I really was. 🤔😵‍💫 But I've since realized that the more I chased after values and personas that weren't authentically mine - essentially becoming a people-pleaser - the more insecure and uncomfortable I felt in my own skin. It's such a delicate balance, trying to honor both society's expectations and your own personal principles. But I've learned that the key is to really invest in developing your intrinsic self-worth and inner growth. The more I've worked on becoming the best version of myself, the more confident I've become. Like the more I embrace my authentic self, the more good things and opportunities seem to gravitate towards me. It's like I've become a magnet for positivity. That's when i realize "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."🙏❤‍🔥💯

Thank you Jay!

That was lovely. Thank you!

Thank you so much for sharing ❤

I appreciate your experience 😌

This channel just does wonders for my mental health. Any other channels like jay shetty out there that you can recommend?

✊🏽😇 This video should also change others lives too!

Great speech ever

That lady has a beautiful soul.

Thank you Jay this video helped!

Awesome 👍🏼❤️ thank you

love it!!! Whoever is reading this, I'm sending you magic, empowerment, and belief in yourself. May all of your dreams come to you NOW!!! xoxo Milana :)))

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.

Sounds like ur mum was pretty amazing and inspiring.

today i subscribed bcoz i am enlightened by you jay guru ji 🙏🏽🙏🏽

“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ” ― Simone Weil ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RU-vidr💜

My admirable speaker Jay genius

Awesome speaker my favourite Jay genius l love his speech very much.

Noone but now he is perfect 😊☺

I was also bullied all my life and I have always felt insecure........

Gratidão por compartilhar conosco.

Everyone is special, pls be strong ❤

Well his momma's skin care routine definitely did him good! 😊💚

Nice Video, I always thought why would I need others validation, I myself approve I am good but still I had insecurities flowing in , But after following meditation and diverting the energy to doing productive things than unnecessary overthinking and depression , I feel a lot better , I suggest you doing the same .

My issue is not that I don’t know that other people matter. My issue is that I feel I don’t matter. My girl left me a week ago. And I am realizing how cling on to her memory, because I am so scared of not have her love anymore because I don’t see why and how other people would ever love me again like she once did.

I don’t even want to see the start of 2023 😤😤

your book just got translated in persian\farsi in my country and im so proud of you , i just saw the book a couple of months ago ,was reading something else already so i didnt buy it but you are amazing just wanted to say that

That’s exactly where I’m at today feeling all the above 3 but I’m working on it so Thank you Jay ❤️❤️

I am deeply moved! Thank you Jay❤🙏

Such beautiful eyes Jay Shetty!

That's my same story ...it was all my mom...❤❤❤

Love you jay♥️

Im trying to help my beautiful, amazing, perfect husband to realise his own worth as a man. He is the most important person in my world and my best friend. But telling him that doesn't make it so, in his mind, or fix all of his problems. I love you Timothy, and you are enough ❤️ ♥️ ❤

Many people are bullying others according to the different issues of others even we Buddhist don't care the different colors,skins,shapes and so forth because we recognize it's all just illusion and the most important is be honest, kind-heartedness,loyal, understandable,undifferentiate, compassionate and understanding the base valuable of all human beings equally.if my English is improving then I must motivate others around the worlds because I studied about ancient science over two decades.the ancient science is just mind blowing even without fluent in others languages then I have no idea 💡 how share with others around for everyone gain be more peace of minds one by one.

Amazing wow!...

So true

Inspiring...

Hi Jay and everyone on here, validation from others can be a difficult habit to break for so many people right? We all have insecurities - but it's how we cope with them and what we do about them that really counts. It's interesting to hear about your background Jay and the life you have now... its inspiring

thnk u

As a child singing with my mom and my dad teaching my lessons l love very much

A gente só imita,quem a gente admira. Interessante!! :)

I do the same for my son...

Thanks for your talk about service. I agree that if everyone in our community served everyone else in the community, that would make the world a fantastic place. Jay, the "motivational music" in the background is very annoying. If you cut that out, or only had it at the beginning and the end, that would make a vast improvement!

He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's

I'm sorry, this just feels like it's actually about how his mother just wasn't enough...As a kid he didn't feel man enough because he didn't believe his mother was enough to teach him stuff. It's really sad

Great video Jay, but I feel like people just over analyze their situation now a days which just makes things worse.

i was fired by a woman for being too fat as a boyfriend option. but another woman liked chubby men and asked me out so she wanted to hire me instead of fire me

Good for you mate, some of us didn’t have mothers at all. We had to figure it out ourselves. Without Jesus we wouldn’t be here.

🙇🏿‍♀️🙅🏿‍♀️🙅🏿‍♀️What it means if I’m not jealous of things in general or materialistic things or someone’s career I only get heated and very jealous of that SP that I see or date at that moment! I don’t want to feel that Feeling! I know self love and self worth is important and it might be a key ! but every other person who can potentially be my SPs type it’s like an enemy to me it’s danger alert to my brain ! I really wish I wouldn’t care at all ! I hate that I have this feeling it’s uncontrollable and so heated I wish I could fix it once and for all

I wish if he could listen and understand this..

So I was looking ahead to see what why we're insecure or not what a purpose was I would say that number one I'm the first thing of playing pressure tonight I feel pressure to be in my own well I think I should be on my own I would be happier it's just working really hard and then my kids just I don't know what's going to happen when I work a full-time job and then my kids too....

Thankyoi sir

I hardly ever feel good enough