Ways to stop obsessing over men fancying you. *Bye-bye male validation, hello self-worth !!* 

This is for me specifically ❤. Thank you

That is the one thing I have been doing

Wish i was able to read this a year ago

@@secilperkins its toxic advice

@@DAYSTAR-TV thats toxic asf

bless you lovely, we've all been there ❤❤❤❤❤

Ugh! The need is insidious isn’t it?

Lmao that's so true tho

Literally omg, i hate that.

I had one intentionally misgender me around a table full of friends. Five minutes later he's sitting with me and I'm trying to like.. Look good somehow, it's.. Pathetic

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This is so true! It’s super easy to have men desire you. Stop wasting your time, ladies. Those are immature boys who can’t see the person behind you. At the end of the day, you want a good person so you gotta be one yourself in order to attract one!

it might be easy for you but a lot of girls dont get it which is why they crave it so much lol

@@xxursolovelyxxXwas about to say the same thing but those girls need to understand they aren’t missing out on much. Truly

You don't need to archieve being considered as attractive. Telling others you need to archieve your worth is highly toxic. Everyone is worthy also with doing nothing at all.

"The right man find you and love you for what you are" is a Mythos and LIE ! So please shut the fuck up girl and don't LIE.😂

Fellas follow the same advice.

Well I’m 45 😂

@@lmusima3275she’s 26. I’m 46. 45 is ancient to her 😅

@@brentie2604 No please, I think men actually should cater a bit more to women. If you guys did, I think most of you would look better, take better care of yourself, dress nicely etc. This is currently not the case. Just look outside, so many women try their hardest to look beautiful and then you have men who are just there, completely careless of their appearance (except for a small percentage). So please, men, do cater your life a bit more to what women like, by listening a little bit !

Omg I feel this so much. You are not alone at all my lovely. 💘💘💘💘 Thank you for sharing so open and honestly. Lots of love xxx

19 yo girl here as well, and I can completely relate! I know we will learn to not feel this way anymore, wishing you the best of luck! You are so much more than your physical.

@@mistastealyogirlll lots of love lovely ❤❤❤❤ strong women !!💘💘💘

@@alessiasutherberry mixed sex schools literally DAMAGE girls' grades it's a punishment and should in my opinion be illegal less teen pregnancy and harassment but they won't split it because instead of attacking each other, they behave slightly better around the girls than alone and feral it's obscene

@@alessiasutherberry not to mention, pervy teachers complaining about being distracted by literal kids, so WHY not split it? or better yet, let everyone study 90+% of classes FROM HOME? the pandemic stuff proved it possible

Lmao 😂🎉😂nice one

😂😂this is so niceeee😂😂like seriously 😂

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This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

Same ❤

I love this comment so much you spoke facts

Not all men r the same though...let s not overgeneralise. There r good men out there and if we mature, we ll attract a mature one. Equal attracts equal. You r in a good path

You are so right

i feel like this comment is a little over exaggerated in regards to the vast general term of the 'men' population. i dont know what youve been through and what kind of men youve encountered because your comments sounds like its coming from a really hurt/agonised/frustrated person. i want to say great men exist. and they arent rare to find. a personality doesnt depend on gender, rather on a persons upbringing, moral belief system and character. like attracts like. be great to attract great. 💞

It’s much more comfortable

You are right

This definitely makes me feel better about my decision to not buy leggings and get loose clothes instead :) I was scared i'd feel ugly and regret it

you can still get those loose clothes in your favourite colours to feel cute for yourself@@selenadamman8417

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

We do have sooooo much to give! 🥰❤✨

@@alessiasutherberry Why y’all being so hateful towards men tho? Nothing wrong with trying to be s3xy for men when men try to be attractive for women.

@@ChrisSimpiamson3 we are healing from men , not being “hateful” towards them. think about it this way, your family constantly talks about your appearance & push you into being more like them. you’d obviously feel so drained and want to change. alessiasutherberry only wants to heal us not bash men because you too, are very important . you have a life to live & so do we🩵 we want to live it in a happy way instead of constant need for somebody else’s approval. also, “nothing wrong with being s3xy for a man” 😭 sorry this is funny. we don’t want to live our lives for the need of somebody else, okay? you may be traditional or consume media by someone who views women material but, trust me when I say this, no sane woman wants to live a life for somebody else. you will never, ever find that in a woman who has true intentions.

@@growlinda well said lovely 💗💗💗💗

@@growlinda so you dont want to be attractive to your partner ?

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what’s the book ??!

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

you are not alone my love ❤ we all get you and while that is sad it doesn't have to go on 💘 I hope you can find ways to be more relaxed when you are out and about xxx

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

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There's plenty of those, where have you been?

We need women who are not male identified to be in power.

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

It’s given me a new lease on life!!!

what the hell is dressing for men what is it supposed to look like

@@lifoxe id say say it’s dressing thinking about what they’ll like or what will attract them first, before thinking thinking about what just feels nice to you

What's dressing for men, when it's at home, if a man likes you he'll like you wearing a potato sack, it's not the wrapping he's interested in.

I completely agree!

you are moreee than welcome my love 💕💕

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

​@@EYRM9I have been getting in touch with God for a while, still connecting with Him

Bless you! You are not alone! I felt embarrassed about caring about male attention too. I felt shame for a long long time and still do sometimes. But it's not our fault as the women. I love how self-aware you are lovely... I can tell you a strong woman. Thanks for your open and honest comment. 🥰🥰❤❤

Wow the same thing happened to me! Most of my life I touched such a low level that I considered myself a “subhuman” because of this. I am waking up now and I want to heal this, for now I did babysteps but for sure with time passing I will be able to heal completely💘

@@RU-vidaccount50512 thank you for sharing your experience lovely. You deserve so much love and appreciation. Lots of love! 💗💗💗💗

@@RU-vidaccount50512Replying to both the original comment and yours…oh my god. I genuinely thought I was the only one. I never met or heard someone express around me that they felt like this and it made me feel like I was a special case. I remember in my freshman year of hs, I would look at every girl that would walk past me and say I’d rather be her bc she looked normal and could easily get an average bf whereas I couldn’t get anyone because I was too skinny and would always get rejected. Fast forward to today, I thought that I was healed but god once again has shown me that it’s a never ending process so tysm for your guys’ comments

same here! _uncomfortable_ is The word

I can't relate more to this comment. I have had a very similar experience to you my lovely. We've come far. ❤🥰❤🥰❤🥰❤ You're so intelligent!! xx

Objectification is Human Nature. You are delusional lol. And newsflash the reason why guys don't want you get to know you is because you don't have anything else to offer. If something looks and smells like a fish, then it is a fish, not chocolate! 😂 Grow up. Everyone objectifies everyone, women even objectify their own selves and so do you.

I'm so glad you started to distance yourself from people who objectify you! You deserve people who respect you as a person ❤

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

I am so glad you can be you in a way that feels care free. Sending all my love. ❤ ❤

TikTok is not a place to get an accurate view on anything tbh. Everything bad is heightened tenfold there.

@@hentai_lover6915 you could be right, but yeah, doesn't change the way I feel about men and society lately. It has been pretty disappointing.

right, except i never had a very nice viewpoint to begin with

yeah maybe get therapy and work on your issues instead of hating on men

I am so happy that you've found true happiness and love xxx💘🥰

Finally! I have found that decentering men will never be complete until a woman CENTERS GOD.

Yesss when I finally start focusing on my relationship with God I started to attract people who want me instead chasing guys that don’t want me .

You're Moniker say it all, decency has nothing to do with religion, I assure you, thanks.

Jesus frees us from passions, that is from attachments. It is true. Whoever the lord frees is free indeed. God bless

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

@@EYRM9this might shard but you need a job

Go you! 💗💗💗💗

I could only come up with funny. But now that I'm older and less quick-witted, I don't even have that! 😂 I think I'm empathetic though. I found one!

why is it so hard tho??? i want to let go of this validation but at the same time i find it so exiting . it feels almost like a drug and i feel so ashamed to admit it

@@angelis2125 It’s hard because it’s all we know and have ever known. Unlearning is harder than learning that’s what they don’t tell you. I promise you the validation you can get from yourself will fill you up like nothing else. You just set yourself free right there just by admitting the shame out loud to a complete stranger in a safe space. You can let it die now. You’ve got this 🫶

It is often associated with stupidity, carelessness, and alcohol. You are not invited here. Welcome to here.

@@angelis2125 To be real with you it’s possibly a trauma response from unmet needs in childhood. Possibly from male caregivers. Therapy is a good route to healing if this is the case. Eventually you’ll reach a point where you can validate yourself and then ironically everyone outside of you reflects that back to you the love you feel for yourself. For me it stemmed from feeling unworthy and now that feeling has left me the need for outside validation has left with it. Shame keeps you stuck so admitting it is the first step. By shining a light on the shame you can start to heal it instead of pretending it doesn’t exist or it’s not a problem.

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THIS

They were calling Margo Robbie below average because they didn’t like Barbie- don’t even bother listening to them

@@jenbodhi1133 Yeah, I saw a video where men were saying she was "mid" in looks. I was like really, if she's mid then what are most of these men. They need to take a glance at themselves in the mirror. That's when I knew to never listen to men and their bullshit.

Aw thank you lovely 💗💗💗💗 we shouldn’t forget about that child inside us! So true!

I'm so so sorry to hear that you're feeling this way lovely. I can't imagine how tough it is. ❤Please know you're not alone in this, and reaching out is a big step. Be gentle with yourself, and maybe reach out to a therapist/a professional and in time, things can get better. You are sooooo worthy and loved xx💘💘💘💘

I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling. Remember, it's okay to take things one step at a time. Be kind to yourself, and if you need to talk, reach out to someone you trust. Maybe try keeping a journal to track each moment and your progress. I often find getting words down on paper makes me feel less overwhelmed. ❤ You're stronger than you realise, and you'll get through this. 💘💘💘💘💘💘💘 Also you always have this community! 🤗💘❤🥰💗

Yes:( also I hate it when I get myself together and get male attention I think they automatically think it's for them or like I need their validation when in actuality I disgust it ugh

I completely get you. You are so self aware and articulate babe! ❤❤❤ Also your therapist was so patronising - the worst advice. xx

@@sgal5632 I bloody understand this ❤

what kind of therapist is that lol

YEP. This is so true. I wanted their attention but when they hurt me, I used my beauty against them. It meant that getting into a committed relationship was hard for me, because I was used to being the pretty girl who was remote and unattached

Wow best video you've seen! Thank you so so much lovely! ❤I'm so glad you liked it:) I can tell by the way you've engaged with me that you are a beautiful soul and I hope that becomes more and more clear to you as time goes on. Thank you again for being so kind. Comments like yours keep me motivated. ❤❤ xxx

You watch videos like this and you scrape off your natural being of a feminine. What remains would be a shell of a masculine who may be unhappy. Do not scrape off your nature, build more around it. While at it, stop watching damaging videos like this here.

Go you! 💗💗💗

Women talk about red pill videos teaching misogny,making men soicailly men attractive ,men mean,to hate women,etc but you wanna do red pill video.

I had the same experience. I spent most of my life single. Better that way. There is no existance so bad that having a man can't make it worse.

Thank you for sharing this with me lovely. I am in awe of your mindset. Good on you !! ❤❤❤ xx

The brown hair really suits you well!

Women will love unconditionally no.wilomen will hate men more than love.

He gave you compliment.he said you look good with blonde hair.whatvis wrong there

So true

sorry how do you mean that ?

men will have s#x with animals, c0rpses (there's a reason why morgues prefer female morticians) and children lol. i've seen news headlines where a man had s#x with a goat, and we've all seen these politicians' dirty laundry on TV. male validation is meaningless.

from the words of adriana lima “it’s flattering knowing men desire me. But then i remember a man would also have sex with a Mcchicken. So I don’t let it get to my head.” 💋

Go you babe. 💗 it is so hard! Xxx

Thank you for being so so lovely. ❤❤❤❤❤ xxx

I completely get why you feel sad and annoyed. I think that is totally valid. Society lets us women down big time! I am sad and annoyed too. I waisted a lot of energy and drained myself trying to look perfect all the time. It is exhausting. The Barbie movie has really made us women come together and talk about this and I love it. 💗💗💗💗 Thank you for being so honest and commenting - you had some really interesting and important things to say! xxxx Lots of love xxxx

I get so sad and frustrated. If I even think about one aspect of beauty, for example hair removal. It makes me so mad how much time, effort, pain, and money women spend on removing something that is completely natural and acceptable on men. The double standard infuriates me, but I also have a deep seated need to be beautiful, so I continue to get my eyebrows threaded, shave, wax, and get laser hair removal done no matter how time consuming, expensive, and painful it is. Men don't spend nearly as much of their energy on their appearance, so they get to use their energy and resources on fun, interesting things.

I hear you! The beauty double standard can be sooo maddening. Women just don't get a break. At the moment I keep reminding myself to do what makes me feel good and confident. After all self-care is about looking after our needs, not society's expectations. 💘💘💘💘💘

wow, your insights just helped me realize a feeling i've had about this relationship to a man i have rn. at times i feel inferior to him, but really i think i just want to be like him. he's super intelligent and grew up being told how smart he was, so has no doubts in his intellect and speaks so confidently. i, on the other hand, grew up with my beauty being the trait that was always encouraged, even though i was intelligent (but not book smart), and i was always made to feel dumb by my male peers. i wasted my first two years of college trying to be the hottest girl on campus (it was a tiny college) because i knew that if i couldn't excel academically, at least i could be the prettiest, most desired young woman there. i've doubted my voice, my intelligence, my ability to convey my opinions on things for my whole life because we girls are trained to be agreeable, non-confrontational (which often means not sharing or having an opinion), and to dumb ourselves down to seem more relatable. actually, this last point, i think is something that makes us really strong as women--we are more interested in making connections with other people instead of compete w/them, which is why we use linguistic tools like girly-girl talk in order to make each other feel safer around each other. i love that i can feel safe in my ineloquence without some dude mocking me, and be able to be understood and have an intelligent conversation that sounds like it came right out of clueless. but anyway---i'm finally making an effort to reclaim my intellect and restarted college. in a way i feel like i'm behind compared to men, and other women my age who weren't wasting their energy on sexual attractiveness growing up, because i've spent so much of my 20s trying to look hot but i'm finally feeling safe and confident enough to pursue this intellectual journey and i hope to have the unearned confidence of a white man someday soon.

@@cloflomonster thank you for sharing!! You put into words whats I have always felt I'm sure you will be successful in your journey!! 👏

Men will attracted to women.how is it cheap.

Be the woman YOU want to be. Also drop everyone else because whether they value or not you don't need anyone's validation.❤

I love that comment ❤

@@euamoovoceyes yeah I guess. Many women are brainwashed from young to latch onto limerence of that sort, via programming from stories, movies, etc.

Same here girl haha

Because women are lied to that a relationships takes your pain away.

@@thehouseofmillie you're so right, I needed to hear this and so do so many other women. Hopefully the girls of today don't get the same level of programming we all did.

@@pendafen7405 Check out a lady called Melanie Hamlett she dives into this as well in more detail.

wise words my lovely x❤🥰

I am so sorry that you experienced this my lovely. It must have been so heartbreaking. You don’t deserve that from anybody especially not from your parents. Nobody deserves to be body shamed in anyway. I am so so happy to hear that you are healing from this experience. Please know that you are so deserving of love and appreciation. Sending the biggest hug your way xxxxxx❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for this comment! ❤ I am so happy you've had this powerful realisation! It sounds like you've done some really meaningful self reflection work. Proud of you! x❤

Aw thank you so much for commenting lovely! 😘💜🥰 Go you!

I strongly support you ❤👏🏻👏🏻

Oh my gosh - I really really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty. I see your strength. You are a beautiful soul - your ability to self reflect and share your truth is admirable. Please know you are not alone on this journey - you have me and this RU-vid community by your side. xx 💗

@@Doyoujustlovethepain 💗🥰

This might sound hard, but you don’t need love, you need God, and God will give you everything that is good for you. A man/woman will love you for your physical look/ charisma/ money/ intelligence….. or all the temporary things to fill things that THEY need. They will only love you if you meet their needs, and might leave you anytime. But God will never leave you because He loves you for who you are, whatever you are and no matter what your past is. In fact, God doesn’t need you, you need Him.. yet He cares for you more than anyone that you love does. Also Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” _ John 8:12 “Make every effort to enter through the narrow door, because many, I tell you, will try to enter and will not be able to.” _ Luke 13: 24 “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their lifewill lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” _ matthew 16: 24-25 “Be enthusiastic to serve the Lord, keeping your passion toward him boiling hot! Radiate with the glow of the Holy Spirit and let him fill you with excitement as you serve him.” _ Romans 12:11 "But I say to you, anyone who stares at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." _ Matthew 5:28

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Spot on sir, i am glad that people in general(regardless of gender) are focusing on other things in life as well as just how they look!!

Do I accept myself? - you are right - that is the most important thing ❤

Facts

Aw thank you lovely! You speak so much truth and wisdom! I want to watch your RU-vid video on this!! 💫✨❤

just keep looking at videos like this, you can do this, eventually your brained will rewire itself even if you struggle to believe it, just keep listening.. it will take time, but is not impossible. come on i believe in youu :) accept that you envy your friend, accept that you feel ugly sometimes, accept things how they are and how much time you have wasted, and slowly move on! theres nothing to be ashamed of, your reality is just a result of society's ideas, dont let them win!

@running2348 also, believe me, at your age all those things matter a lot, cause it is when we try to find our place in society. But as you grow up older, youll realize that all that youre trying to do is to find the validation you never got from your family, your parents. is not really about her or you, is about how your parents made you feel growing up and how they make you feel now. do shadow work :)

@@Monxtv hey sorry for late reply i read your comment it made me very happy and comfortable I'll work on myself as you said :) thank you for taking your time to write this. More love to you ♡

I am so sorry to hear that my lovely. You don't deserve that. I hope you know you don't owe your mum anything. You are worthy exactly as you are. ❤❤❤

The reason you couldn't care less what Men think of you is because you are not attractive and have no personality that is admirable and are very manly.

Bless you lovely. You are not alone with this. I get you. ❤️💗

This is so so useful, thank you so much for sharing lovely xx💘💘

Do you mind if I share this with everyone in a video soon? SO VALUABLE ! ✨🥰🥰

that's so useful, thanks

wow! such wise words! thank you for this insight lovely 🥰💘❤

Aw I am so sorry to hear you are going through a break up - they are so painful. Sending all my love your way lovely. xxx ❤❤

me too, same boat xoxo good luck on your journey

Love that we're here for each other!

Hey Charlotte! I clicked on your channel out of curiosity, and I just want to say we have very similar RU-vid subscriptions 😭😂

@@Erandy_ I just looked and we really do 😂 hiiiii 👋🏼 lol

Bless you! I am so so happy to hear that this video has helped in some way! Honestly I completely understand what you are going through, it is sooooo hard to detach from pleasing the male gaze! You are amazing for standing up for yourself. Thank you for reaching out and for being so honest and sweet. Sending a big hug your way ❤❤

I'm truly sorry to hear about the hurtful comments from your husband. You deserve to be appreciated and loved just as you are. Please know that you are not alone. You always have this community that care about your well-being and happiness.💘

You touch my heart, I appreciate it Alessia❤

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Maybe for you white women but black don't crack!

Can I firstly just say, good for you for going to therapy!!! It's so so wonderful to hear that you're becoming more aware of the thought patterns that have been affecting you. It sounds like you've been on a journey to rediscover yourself, and that's a beautiful thing. It's true that worrying about others' opinions can be quite draining, and it's liberating when you begin to embrace your authentic self and enjoy connecting with people without the burden of constant self-monitoring. Your beautiful spirit shines through, and I'm glad you're finding your way back to a more genuine and fulfilling experience with socialising. 🌟

Thank you so much for your kind words 🫶

@@maarinaa lots of love lovely xx💘🥰

Bless you🥰❤️

Thank you so so much babe! ❤ Lots of love x

I couldn’t agree more! The incels are gonna lose their sh*t!

@@anonymousa-uy1hk 💞

Thank you for this💗💗

aw that is the exact vibe I wanna give off! thanks lovely! 🥰🤗xx

Hey lovely. I bloody love that you feel other features like personality are more important. It is so hard to come to this realisation - it took me ages. 🥰 I also get the gym panic thing. I find gyms a very hard environment to ease into. It feels like your body is on display xx

Bless you! I am so glad you found my channel! Welcome! ❤ We have each other now:). Thank you for reaching out xxxx❤

Well if it makes you feel better, realistically people will still treat you nicely as long as you don't look really deformed or something. If you're an attractive girl or boy, aging isn't gonna make you look so ugly you'll face social prejudice

Yeah, I’m 17 and I’ve slowly stopped caring. It’s freeing. I don’t hate men but it is exhausting trying to root your confidence in their attention

Thank you lovely ❤🥰🤗

I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling lost. I can totally relate to that feeling. I know you'll find your way, you're clearly a very lovely soul, good karma is on your side. Thank you for reaching out and spreading so much love. ❤❤❤xxx

So much love to you too lovely🥰

I'm glad it helped you! Thank you for your comment! :)

I am sorry to hear that you have struggled my lovely. Please know you can always pop on RU-vid and comment your thoughts/stuggles. We have a great community here. Us women need to look out for each other. ❤❤❤

Thank you lovely. ❤❤ big hug xx

Aw I am so glad you found my channel! Welcome! ❤ Sending a big hug your way xx ❤