I am almost 65 and wiser. Saying NO now is just as easy as saying YES. It took me sometime to get this new mindset down. Life is short. I just realized that my life is more important now than it ever was. I spend time for me. On purpose. And I love myself for it!
I was glad to read a comment saying "you are not alone". I am feeling very alone in dealing with everything lately and it felt good to see someone else affirming that we are not really alone, and things may soon get better.
Hello Deb...this is a hard time. Being alone magnifies the worry and difficulties... I feel it’s overwhelming at times, so the idea of self care, and finding things that are a ‘happy place ‘ for me , definitely help lift those dark clouds. I hope you find your own happier places, and a sense of peace and comfort. Best Wishes 🌷
I used to say "No, it's mentally impossible for me." due to stress and anxiety that left me mentally tired. Then at 30, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis so I started saying "No, it's physically impossible for me." instead (as in : I'm too tired to do it). To my own horror, I noticed a TON of compassion that I cannot do something because I'm physically tired, but never received ¼ of that same compassion when I was mentally tired. This says a lot about how mental health is still not acknowledged and valued as much as physical health.
At 65 I am learning to say no. I have always done for others but others have not always done for me. Time to love myself more. I so look forward to your videos every Friday! Thanks so much!!!!
It's Weird! I know a lot of people are struggling with the pandemic effects... especially feeling anxious and lonely. I on the other learned from the isolation, that I am actually really introverted and need time alone to recharge 🤔😍 so in the midst of all the chaos of the pandemic, I actually grew as a person! I wonder if anyone else have experienced this? 😍❤
Hi Tina, Yes, I feel the same way. I learned that much of my extroverted, go, go, go busy-ness was to try to keep my anxiety and run on thoughts at bay. Now that I was forced to slow down and actually sit with myself I have gotten more motivated to find tools to deal with rather than push all of that stuff away. Huge growth! But I am still very much a work in progress and anxiety can be intense.
I've learnt exactly the same thing too. I knew I was an introvert and had to hibernate over the weekend to shed the stress of being surrounded by people all week. I too felt anxious and lonely for the first six months but once I made the adjustment I love it and have asked work to only go in two days a week. I am so much happier, relaxed and energetic. What's more I now spend more time with the people I love, family and friends, because I'm not so drained by being around people on public transport and at work. This is what I've been missing all my life.
I feel the same way! I’m always hesitant to say it bc i know so many are struggling. At first, the isolation was terrible (I have a 2yo) but now I feel like I actually know myself. I’m so grateful for the experience.
Yes! Me too! I’ve loved being home. I’m lucky that I’ve been able to work from home, but I’m less work stressed, I eat healthier, I sleep better, and I’m way more productive. I’m not looking forward to getting back to the office. I know things can’t go back to my pre-COVID habits, so navigating that is going to be interesting.
It’s been nothing but positive for me! I work for the state (California) and am ever so grateful that our governor wants us to continue working from home as much as possible! 🤩🤞🏼🙏🏻
While watching this I decided my affirmation for today will be “I am not alone.” It’s easy to forget this with the way the world is right now. If you’re reading this, you are not alone either! 💗
the main thing with the problem of saying no is that we have to integrate the idea that most of us are people-pleasers and that's something that it's hard to face about ourselves, unfortunately there's not a magic wand for it other than to practice by really feeling what is going on inside ourselves and than conscisously accepting to chose that by saying no we are freeing ourselves (every time a bit more) from past issues of co-dependance. Lovely video as always :)
Your watercolor is beautiful don’t change it. Remember you need to know when to stop. I’m so happy I found you a few months ago. Your life looks so calming to me. To me your life looks so peaceful. I live with an alcoholic who makes my life a nightmare. You are my happy place that helps with my anxiety. Thank you for doing what you do I wish you came on more often. My husband likes watching you too. My son is the alcoholic. Your life is blessed. Love to you and James
When I'd like to say 'no' to an invitation or request, I try to focus on what I am saying YES to . To more rest, more self time, study time, practicing art, relaxing time or quality time with a partner, friend, family member, or reading or whatever. So instead of putting the focus on saying 'no' or the idea that I am 'disappointing someone' I focus on the YES to whatever I need or whatever I like to spend my precious energy on. It makes me feel less guilty and the words will come without thinking. By being honest and genuine about your state of being, the other person will understand and maybe even be inspired by your natural self-evident self care. So it's not about saying 'no' to something or somebody outside of yourself, but it's about saying 'YES' to something inside yourself. Even if that something is just 'doing nothing'.YES feels much more powerful and joyful in your body and it opens your heart and that you will radiate out towards the other person. 🙂 (Does this make any sense to you?) Thanks for your video Wendy and lots of love to everyone here 🥰
I'm just discovering this too. A friend asked me if I wanted to join a group that was making a fiber piece. In the past I would have thought I have to say yes. Where does that come from?? I politely said it was a wonderful idea and I wish them the best with it. ah...it feels good to know I don't have to say yes to everything and not hurt someone's feelings.
There was a time in my life, in the 1950s , when we knew very little about what was happening world wide . As we had no electricity, if the reception was ok , Dad would listen to the BBC news on the radio run by two car batteries .We got the newspapers every two weeks and a whole Saturday would be taken up finding out retrospectively, what had gone on in the World. Thinking about and worrying about what is happening all over the World right now is too much for anyone's psyche. All in all it is overwhelming and as we can't do anything individually to fix the whole world we can fall into anxiety and helplessness. My remedy is to send metta out in daily chants and look at the prayer flags doing the same. My own little World is the only World I have the immediate power to change. Saying no to others is saying yes to yourself. What we have been taught is that this is selfish but that is an introject, someone else's moralistic idea. There is a big difference between being self responsible (responding to self), and being selfish. I would never think for one second that you are uncaring as selfish acts are. I love your new direction in your art It shows your talent and maturity. It's great you are being discerning and finding ways to develop and refine your creative expression. Lots of love, arohanui ehoa. Xxx
I think you are right about the fact that we get too much information now. I know that the tendency is that we need to know everything that goes on in the world, but I believe, that it affects our mental health ❤
Thank you Wendy. I remember the lovely little fantasy of we two living down the lane from one another. How we would visit and picnic in the summer or read cozily together beside an open fire. On some meta level this is how we are together, loving companions who are sensitive, who accept and support each other in our joy, creativity and in our struggles Lots of love.xxx
Tina yes it does affect our mental health and probably our physical health because stress does this. How can we not be deeply affected by the plight of those families in India right now. All is not lost though because we also have a great positive resource as a world wide community of creative sensitive people who express compassion, love and kindness in the World too.💖
@@janillingsworth7478 You are right! Luckily it's not all bad :o) we get so much positivity and love from little societies like this one we have right here!!
Oh, yes! A tree hugger since childhood...I used to tell all my troubles to an old Maple tree. Years later my Mom and I saw my little sis talking to the same "listening" tree. My Mom just sighed and said, "Yes, she does it too." Just before marrying way back in 1969, my Mom asked me to stop climbing trees for a bit as I was to merry in a couple of weeks. So, yes. A tree hugger, wood nymph from way back. I love trees! They are kindred spirits and kind and gentle healers of heart and mind.
very special to experience that someone of a different age in another country shares so many recognizable things. I am Dutch for 70 years and have been a widow for 7 years and have since then lived in France in an old farmhouse. i graduated from the academy of the hague in 2005 and did the academy graphic subjects much longer ago in amsterdam. I struggle with many feelings about everything. but above all whether I am good enough. since august i have finally been drawing and painting again and the inspiration comes up again. your experiences are very similar to what I feel. and your way of life also has many similarities. I think that is special to see and experience. i enjoy your videos. I'm now doing a reiki course through a website daily and it seems to bring a lot to me. we shall go on. the weather is very nice here and my terrain looks beautiful. greener every day.
Your peony painting is so beautiful,. It’s like you could reach out and touch it. So soft and peaceful. You are so right about how precious our time is. I use to be a real people pleaser, at my own expense. As I have gotten older, I have become braver to say no, when I don’t feel like doing something for someone else. It’s my time and I want to be able to do what I want when I want and not feel guilty. My daughter would ask me to do things, she could do herself, and I say no now. It feels good.
I find saying no really really hard. Often will feel guilty when I have to say no. I beat myself up afterward to. I have to settle with the uncomfortable feelings and tell myself that it will pass. Been a very anxious week. We are in lockdown again and the news just really makes me feel so depressed. Sleeping through the night is a rare occurrence and weird dark dreams. Trying to stay positive - journals and watching wonderful videos...like this one to lift my spirits.
I say “no” by saying “yes”...”No, I can’t manage that right now cuz I’ve said yes to some other things that really bring me joy that I’m enjoying exploring right now.” It really avoids having to ‘splain or make excuses and it’s a positive, upbeat way to say “I’m busy making myself happy and less stressed” which is a good reminder to others to do the same. Love you, love your art, love your candor.
I love the water color flower with the light background it is so beautiful.... also the painting of the lady is beautiful and I am sure she will turn out fantastic....I love your art.
Dear Wendy, i am so glad to receive this next video and to know, that you are surching on and not question yourself (what happens by a lot of people). But it's so inspiring to learn how you manage your inner troubles without loosing your own path ❣ Greetings from a swiss woman 🌱
I liked the way you changed from acrylics to watercolor for your flowers. Freedom and flexibility is what I think is gained. Shifting things around (plans/routines) also really helps. I'm happy that you're moving forward and making progress-that's always a plus! 😊I see the progress in all that you do with your Art work -you paint beautifully!!!🌺
We love your wee chats ... we sit with our coffees and listen to what you have to say today :) most enjoyable ... thank you for brightening our daysssss! love from here XO
How interesting that 'no' is one of the very first words we all learned to say when we were babies... we all innately knew what we didn't want to do/see/eat/hear back then and had such a strong desire to express it! It's tough to do that as you get older and gain so much more empathy. I don't have too many tips on how best to navigate saying 'no' as a grown up, other than just to be kind and try your best to believe that the other party will meet / is meeting your 'no' with kindness in return!
I love your honesty and vulnerability in your RU-vid. I've been struggling with my own anxiety from this pandemic so starting an art journal and working on exploring watercolors.
Hello, Wendy, thank you for a beautiful video. On garden centres....I live in Scotland and haven't been to a garden centre for over a year because of the weirdness. I need to go, it's spring, and I have plants crying out for new pots, but I totally get what you said about feeling strange about going. I'm having to psych myself up to go, and it's only a mile along the road! Thank you too for your lovely openness and your beautiful painting process.
I am in the state of Georgia, USA. Lockdown wasn't so bad for us as you in the UK. So worry about family that my ancestors left behind there to come to America with all your restrictions. Love you and your work so much! Also, appreciate so much James' support of you and your work. What a blessing you are!
You show a little part of.... Your Life. Your love for Nature... Your pasión for drawing and painting...your love for human figure.. most of all special wonen.. fairies too... Art runs through your veins and IS coming out more and more... As you enjoy this.. your new...blessed studio. Thank you for sharing your work with us as It comes to Life... It IS a great although subtle way to trigger our little artist yo show Up out un the s World.. just like you are doing more and more each day...
I can never sleep at the full moon and new moon. April 26th we have an intense one in Scorpio. Time to transform. I am like you. With lockdown this past year I've become even more sensitive being such a homebody without all the noise of the kids. I was a substitute teacher. Credential in Art though. All i want to do is be in nature. My art is my happy place too and has saved me in all ways. Its so healing to be able to express your deepest feelings on a canvas. I love you and James. I feel we would have loads of fun just letting each other be. I spend hours alone just immersed in creating. Big hugs for being a reflection of the process of self love foremost. Love from California
Yes, I hear you, the full moon is too much for me most months... I'm so glad to hear that art has saved you too. I know exactly what you mean! Big love to you all the way in California! xxxx Happy creating!
Dear Wendy. I’m going through tough times at the moment. So watching your videoes calms me and i love to watch you paint and hear your thoughts about life and so on☺️🙏🏼Thank you Dear Wendy. YOU ARE GOLD.
Oh, yes, I know exactly what you mean about saying no Wendy! Then I read a book which changed my life in that regard, because it wasn't only full of good ideas, but practical too, and gave easy and fun exercises to help integrate new ways - 'When I Say No, I Feel Guilty' by Manuel J Smith, it worked a treat, and sitting around our dinner table we used to practice the exercises with our kids. And it was around the same time that I heard a woman in a radio interview say, she'd learned not to should on herself. Blessings from the universe that arrived just when I needed them. I love it!
I feel a soul connection to you Wendy, part of me thinks how awesome it would have been to have a mom like you when I was younger and the other half of me wants to be you when I’m older ❤️
With Spring, oh tree hugger, you have broken out of the gloomy rainy winter, like we have, on the south west coast of Canada. and your only doing what comes naturally going to the Nursery to see nature growing. Hands in the soil, caring for plant and trying to make them the best they can be like yourself. I find when I am melancholy, sad anxious with stuff I haven't been able to get done. Going out into the world gives back inspiration and life itself. And I think filming your artist endeavours and success is rewarding and scary. Your sharing and performing and you give a piece of yourself away to us and we watch. We love you for it. Giving ourselves encouragement, for sure is what one of our needs are about in present day. Your Peony is a peony all feathery and brilliant. Don't forget you have that beautiful mermaid up above reminding you how good you are. Thanks for sharing
It’s amazing how decluttering your space can have a huge impact on your creativity. It’s like it literally makes space by letting go of old energy to bring in the new. Love your chats. I find them so interesting. I heard that even just cleaning your house has the same effect which makes sense really. I wonder if your anxiety was a reaction to you saying no. Just a thought because if it’s something you find hard it’s likely you will react in some way. Love you Wendy. You are such a breath of fresh air on you tube. Xx
When saying “NO” actually is better for the person asking, if we say yes when we really don’t want to do it! The doing becomes a burden it can’t go well! The kindness works both ways, for yourself and for them! Maybe if we see our actions from different perspectives we can lose the guilt! I think your morning starting earlier is working for you! As a social worker my clients benefited from re-direction when feeling anxiety and I find for myself, setting up a simple priority of one or two do-able tasks! Your art direction and attitude is a great role-model, and I can see it working! I liked the square ones until I saw the watercolor one, loved your drawing and watching you paint it! Blessed and safe days!
It has taken a ton of practice but what I usually say now is ‘unfortunately the timing is not right’ or recently ‘I’m on hiatus right now, will let you know when I’m available’...no more guilt
As you said, it is important to honour yourself and your time. I read a great quote the other day, which has stuck with me; 'you can either be a victim of your life, or the creator of it'. Sometimes a change of outlook is all we need to set us free of a burden. Have faith that you are shining your light and the universe is shining back at you xxx
I will, I promise 🤗 I have been reminding myself every night and every morning when I catch myself going to bed and waking up worrying about the next day and everything that's been troubling me. Reminding myself to be grateful for my time in this world. I lost a friend last year who was so lovely and such a bright light in the world. Now I try to think every day that I am so fortunate to be here on the planet one more day. One more day that she is gone. I try to honour her by bringing a fraction of the grace and warmth into the world that she brought into my life. When I have trouble sleeping I 'shhhh' myself and stroke my arm to block out the racing thoughts. Just like how my mum used to soothe me to sleep when I was a little girl woken up by a bad dream. It sounds silly, but it works! Taking a moment to pause the doubts and worries and show the same kindness to ourselves that we show to others 💓
Really loved your watercolour flower, you should put it as a poster on etsy☺ love also to see the ups and downs of your creative process, it's really inspiring... Thank you so much for your videos. Big hugs
Yes, there is a tree I hug sometimes - on a hill above our village. And yes, I had to learn to say "no" to a friend who didn't support me in a very hard time I had last year. I feel a little guilty about it but it feels right. I love your watercolor painting. Have a great week❤️
Hi Wendy and everyone 👋. Yes, I'm a tree hugger. I have a beautiful old Hornbeam in my garden with gives off a beautiful energy. A walk in the woods near where I live is really healing and lifts my mood. The learning to say NO thing is really difficult. I'm just starting to suss it out at 54!. The guilt feeling is awful but if you say it in a kind way it should work out OK. I've learnt that if people give you a hard time about it they are probably not worth knowing. Still very hard though and easier said then done. I'm loving your watercolours Wendy. Have a lovely week and take care. Soft hugs back🤗💕🙏🧚♀️
Your tree sounds wonderful Helen, a real friend xx And yes, saying no is hard but I believe you are absolutely right, do it with kindness and it will be ok. Have a lovely week too! xx
I love your painting that is in progress. Her face and her hand are so expressive, it's the kind of sentiment I like. I'm also new at saying "no." I've been practicing saying it nicely where I defend myself in the best way. What I mean by that is that I try to protect my peace and make it a point that that's why I'm saying no, but at the same time I try to tell the person that they shouldn't take it personally because I have a different priority. I realized that people respect me more for it, especially when I don't look apologetic while I'm saying no, and I'm just very at peace with myself while saying it. This way it prevents them from insisting 😆. But I know that it can be a struggle and glad to hear I'm not the only one struggling...
You always giving me such good vibes, encouraging me to begin myself with painting and practising all kind of arts and get me feeling calm inside and at the same time inspirational. I love all you do, you are so authentic and everything comes so natural, I am always waiting to hear from you. Keep up your positiv work, thank you! 🌻
You are certainly not the only one feeling anxious. We are still going through a lot of stress with all that is going on in the world and how different things are than what we were used to. . I loved your term-- a soft panic-attack. I can relate... and to the guilt when saying no. Saying no is hard! It seems to work best when I can remember to not defend myself or give reasons, just stick with being polite and saying, "Thanks for the offer, that doesn't work for me." You talked about observing yourself feeling or thinking something, and that's a really helpful process-- when I'm able to do it, it gives me a little distance and I'm more often able to have some compassion for myself and question the thought or feeling. Also, I love the watercolor peony and watching you paint the new woman-face, seeing how she is coming to life. I find faces hard! So watching you helps me learn.
I found out recently that 'morning anxiety' is actually a thing. My partner suffers from it too. Saying no is getting easier, probably cos the last year has exhausted a lot of my patience and good will! Lovely video as always, keep hugging trees, I certainly will. X😊🌳
Totally love hugging trees :0) It was great watching you doing the watercolour pictures. I have no idea how they work, so it was fascinating watching how you worked them. I especially admire the shading on the hands. I kept wondering what you where doing? It is fascinating watching the lady become more alive each time you add another layer. Gentle enveloping hugs to you Wendy and anyone else reading my comment xxx
I only have 22 on my fb (family) so notifications are seldom Farming has taught/shown me the beauty in early risings, the many colours of a sunrise and peace in its silence. Now living in the city, the newness both exciting & scary Thank you again for your postings Authenticity always shines 🙏
Wow, that must feel so different to farm life. How wonderful. x And yes, authenticity does! So that tells me you are the same because it takes one to know one!! xxx
@@theunexpectedgypsy Yes very different, but I’m of the belief we should never stop learning and that often means stepping away from our comfort zone. Anzac long weekend here, enjoy your Friday ✌️
For me an polite excuse and a clear no are the best way to handle those situations without guild. I find that the guild comes in when I give explanations and think about the other person to judge the importance of my justification. What can be very clear and important for me can be no hindrance for someone else. So polite, but no explanations is the way the other person can safe time and find someone else and I don’t have to feel guilty. Thanks for another Vlog, Wendy. I am really enjoying them and watching them more than one time😊 sometimes, when I feel overwhelmed I watch RU-vid videos without the sound. Some RU-vidrs make Vlogs without music and I just hear the paper or brush strokes, I love that. It’s like spending time together without any talking, I find that very calming.
Hugs back to you ... .I have had horrible anxiety attacks more often...heart racing , sweating, shaking ...its terrible . The only way I have been able to get through them is to distract my mind by working in my art journal or other project . Some nights I am unable to sleep at all. Feeling overwhelmed has been my challenge . Thank you for sharing your struggles , it helps to know that someone else understands what you are feeling . ❤
I’m nearly 66 and still can’t say no! If ever I do I feel so guilty and then backtrack. It comes from feeling that other people’s needs are greater than my own. One day perhaps! Love your honest videos and the fact that you are so down to earth. Keep going! I’m sure we can all learn from your ongoing commitment to self care.
Your peony looks beautiful, looks like the one growing in my courtyard. I love how transparency and honesty. Getting up early has it’s benefits but having a lie in once in awhile is ok. I am 73 now and retired too so realized this past week that I have been waking up early too, sometimes way early like you at 4 am. Getting back to sleep is not always easy and sometimes really hard to get to sleep when I go to bed. I love watching you paint, the flowers are lovely and the latest lady is coming along nicely. Hugs and love .😘 Have a beautiful weekend 😘
I too had to say "no" last week for self preservation...and also felt guilty. Don't think I am going to change at my age. Just have to learn to deal with those feelings, it makes me who I am. You are a wonderful soul, who gives so much. Thank you. Also I love to see you and James together. We have been married 36 years and our youngest daughter painted a canvas saying "Happy Anniversary to a couple whose love and devotion to each other continues to freak the hell out of everyone who knows you!" long may it continue ....for you two too!
Good evening Wendy, thank you again for a beautiful utube video, saying no is so hard , not that good at that myself. I have been walking lots and I stand against a old 🌳 tree and let myself be ground, like in yoga we do a standing a tree to be ground. Sending lots of warm gently hugs 🤗 sending lots of love Teresa xx
Appreciate you sharing this window into your world. I am an artist too, so I can relate to everything you share. Beautiful artwork, so inspiring! Thanks for taking us along with you! 💗😄
I’ve really enjoyed watching you paint. The flowers are lovely. I also love the background on the pink one just as it is. It indeed sounds like we are all experiencing anxiety and missed sleep. I have to constantly remind myself to be mindful of my needs which has always seemed selfish, as I too put everyone else’s needs before my own. Very much trying to change that. My favorite time to create is early morning when my mind is fresh. Thanks again for taking us along and sharing your creative week with all of us. 🥰
Don't be to harsh on yourself... All life is a work in progress... The way I see it, once the progress is done with, so will be my life! 😉 Keep progressing, keep trying... That is what life is all about! It's a journey, not a destination! ✨🙏🧡
That's so true and absolutely what it's all about! I am definitely a work in progress and say this often to myself. x Don't worry, I will! Keep shining xxx
Soft hugs see yourself as freeing yourself rather than burying yourself in your art work 💖 Don't look too deeply into why you are waking up at unusual times just relax and remember all is well. I totally here you with regards to getting out by a certain time, I'm the same. I found taking my watch off helped so I could be free and not under the pressure of time. Obviously I can't when I am working but again I leave earlier to get in when it's quiet. You are doing great thank you for your honesty 🙏 also I love the pink watercolor flower I can see those combined with your fairy pictures too.. Big hugs have a fabulous week Namaste 🙏🌻
Oops I accidentally posted my previous comment before I'd finished 🤭 so what I wanted to say was that I get so much pleasure from the nostalgia that you stir within me through sharing your van travels and nature walks just by looking at the beautiful countryside and flowers and trees that bring back so many happy memories from my childhood. Also love the special relationship that you share with James and you are both so fortunate to have found your soul mates. 🥰
About the guilt saying no... I used to feel like that... really badly, to the point where I’d say yes (as you say, upbringing). Now, I am left with only slight remnants of that. I do have great difficulties leaving my abode... that’s been ongoing for many years now. The only positive from that is I’m possibly doing better than many in these lockdown periods. My recovery has been very slow. Still is. Some would say excruciatingly so. But, it IS recovery atleast. I’m happier now than I have ever been. I’m actually grateful for the years of deep depression and suicidal tendencies. I know that sounds weird, but I’m through the worst and I’m alive, and even beginning to be creative again, so I must be a very strong woman. Things can only get better. Famous last words 😂 But seriously... I know life will always have its ups and downs, some worse, some better than others, but I’m glad I’m still here and feeling generally positive. Well, that WAS a waffle wasn’t it. And no I’m not going to apologise 😂🤣❤️ Hope you get some good shut-eye soon 🌓
Thoroughly enjoyed this weeks vlog Wendy! You seem much happier as if something has shifted! Perhaps it's getting up early , so you feel you haven't wasted your day. Love your paintings and the progression, truly inspiring! 💗
Thank you for a lovely video, I love your watercolour peony and the background in the soft pink. It’s so relaxing watching you paint. I’ve also ventured to the garden centre and today met a friend for coffee....I felt nervous about it! Bizarre times xxx
That was such a lovely chat Wendy.🥰 . Weird as lockdown has been it certainly has had a positive effect on my guilt. I’ve stopped feeling guilty about chilling out. I’d actually forgotten about my guilty self until you reminded me 🤭. I retired 3 yrs ago and couldn’t let go of the guilt if I wasn’t doing ‘stuff’ all of the time. And I do struggle with saying no, but that has also stopped being an issue because of self isolation. It will be interesting to see if I slip back into old ways when life gets back to ‘normal’ !! Sending hugs back to you. It always makes me so happy when I see a new video to view from you. Thank you so much 👋🏼X
I look forward to your weekly posts here. Thank you for sharing about the anxiety as I have been having some issues with it too. I keep saying to myself these feelings won't last forever. Thankfully they don't even last all day! Mornings are when my anxiety is high. We have ll been impacted and not to sound too dramatic traumatized by these lock downs...and the state of the planet. I LVOE when you mention letting your light shine bright, thank you for those reminders too. You have inspired me to pyull out my water colors again...people always say water colors are hard to work with, I love htem and find them versatile....soft virtual hugs back atcha!
I love the peony watercolor . Just gorgeous! And the new logo is beautiful! I have had very similar sleep issues this week all the way across the ocean from you in Maine. Strange and unsettling times, for sure. As for the saying no to things issue...I have definitely gotten better at it with age but I still often feel the need to explain myself when perhaps just saying no is enough. Thank you for another warm and wonderful video. I hope we all are moving toward a more settled and peaceful future and videos like yours, give me hope that honesty, compassion, and kindness will lead the way.
I love the new logo! James is so good to you! (I love that about him) :) The watercolour paintings look beautiful, Wendy. Well done you!! Coffee cheers! Big Love and hugs from California. xxxxx
I want to tell you that you are loved 🥰 I thank you for sharing your time in the village. The Zinas are gorgeous. I find that during these times. I’m so excited for creating, but I’m so unwell.
Love the watercolor peony both in form and color! Mood swings during this challenging time does leave one rather confused and doing some self reflection. Luckily we usually bounce out of it! XO
I forgot to add something I've been thinking about while watching your video. All the weird feelings you've been having that probably have to do with the lock down, I remember one psychologist saying that artists feel much, much more deeply than other people. I'm sure you know that, we all do, but to me this simple truth helps so much sometimes because I get scared of some feelings I have or I get scared of how long it takes me to get over traumatic experiences or just unsettling experiences. And then I remember that it's because I can feel so deeply, and I dwell on the emotions and I have to thoroughly work them out until I'm really over them. And in time I started seeing this ability to feel deeply as a strength 💪... and now I just let the bad times pass because they always do... Another thing I was thinking about and practicing for a long time is just the idea that I can't always feel good and pleasant, even if I'm doing activities that I really enjoy. I think that most of us are under the illusion that we should always feel good when we do something we love and if we don't feel good, then we are guilty... I don't know if this is related to the above, but thinking this way has helped me get over this constant expectation that I should feel good whenever I want to 😂...
The start of your video with all of the beautiful flowers and vibrant colors oh spring time, so refreshing! What inspiration I'm watching your video while I'm working and I want to stop and go paint with you!.....xoxo💙 from Canada
The NO topic...very big in my life! ;) I learned NOT to say as a child (not in a physical harmful way!), because others would feel bad if I did. So I grew up thinking I could only make people happy by doing what they want. I am currently learning to drop that toxic thinking/behavior. It is still hard and I still feel guilty..but it gets better the more often you practice. The example I was given (feeling dried out and exhausted most of the time) was: "you can´t give water to a thirsty person if your waterbottle is empty". That made totally sense to me. I have to come first, so I feel good. When I feel good, I can then decide to help (or not to) someone. So simple but yet so hard...anyway, loved this video and especially the watercoloring! :) Stay happy and healthy ♥
I think your watercolor peony is absolutely perfect! It looks like a peony to me not a rose so I think you've nailed it. And I love the background and everything about it. You're doing fine and yeah I think that's smart to change medians once in a while when one doesn't seem to be working and just let it rest for a while. Take care love your work love having you post you're one of the few delights of my
I'm catching up with the videos I don't had time to watch. And it's so cool, because I missed quite a lot, but now I watch round about 20 minutes every evening and I love it. You are my little series at the moment. It's really wonderful. I love your videos they are inspiring and calming. Thank you! Lots of love from me to you and James! And I'm also a tree-hugger 😊💜🌻
I find transitioning difficult. Moving from sleep to wake, wake to sleep, work to play, play to work.It was helpful when I identified that. What I'm doing to help myself with things, and to get to work easier in the morning--while working with that problem with transitioning, takes place the day before. Before end for the day, I tidy my space. I gesso some paper and stretch it, get it completely ready for my morning art exercises (right now it's fruit and veggies). I take a look at what I'm going to work on. Today it's eggplants. I look at a lot of images and maybe do some sketches. Then when I sleep, it's percolating. My morning is much like yours, with the yoga, then when I walk to my work table, I don't have to do anything but sit down and paint. Once I start it's easy to keep going, wind down with the next day prep, repeat.
Aloha Wendy! I look forward to your everyday lives, even if it’s a bad day or a good positive day! I do have my off days as well, but I just keep going, do whatever I can control, and I don’t worry about the little that I can’t control! Thanks for having coffee with me!! Virtual hugs to you!! Mahalo.. Twyla
Thank you for this beautiful video! Love the new painting!❤❤❤ Hope you and James have a restful and fun weekend! My anxiety is up too, don't like it either!!! 😕
Hi love your videos as always.I am terrible at saying no to families it's the guilt aspect...but life is too short and I will have start to think like you...saying NO is actually saying YES to yourself I love that and never thought of it that way so thank you have a lovely weekend.....by the way it's like visiting an friend and I love that...Shine brightxx
I’ve been having issues sleeping the last few nights as well. When I don’t sleep properly, I’m totally dead the next day plus mood swings unfortunately. Hope you get some rest :)
Same in my part of the world, Racine, Wisconsin. Waking up at random early hours, unable to go back to sleep, for about a week... what on Earth is bugging us? The Leonids? 😂 Love your ramblings and watching you paint, so relaxing after a busy day at the Nursing Home. 🥰
Tracy here, .....Earth lovin, root sucking, tree huggin freak!! I digress, yes I find percolating is absolutely necessary, and yes cold coffee is how I end up drinking it as well, I do draw the line after 3 hour old, LOL
Hey Wendy you've come to be my art teacher that I get to hear about your life every week as you create. And can I say a mega yes to the guilt factor that follows saying no. Had that experience two weeks ago. Sigh... I suppose more growth needed in that area.
