INFJ vs ENFJ? How to Tell the Difference (16 Personalities) 

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ENFJs go around being super friendly and asking a million questions, not only because we like to get to know people, but mostly because we don't like to see people being left out :/

ENFJ: Is the young protagonist of the movie whom everybody loves and adores INFJ: Is the wise old wizard of the squad whom everybody loves and adores, but be dies in the end sacrificing himself

I’ve noticed ENFJs are crowd loving story tellers. INFJ tends to be great story tellers on paper.

As an INFJ who got 51% introversion and 49% extraversion i feel personally attacked by this video

INFJ : we think we are special and rare but we are depressed....😑 ENFJ : we might be depressed... but lets have some fun 🥳

INFJ: Do I even have a personality? Who am I?

I'm just a little bit in love with this man

As an ENFJ, I believe introverted thinking is a little more nuanced than you are stating. I almost always know my opinion, but I also feel that it is my role to suppress that opinion until I figure out what others are thinking. That’s not because I want to change my opinion to join the winning side. It is because I want to know what others think and why they think that way without being swayed with my opinion. I can see how people could misunderstand this as not understanding our own thinking, and honestly, there is a lot of value in understanding another viewpoint. But when push comes to shove, an ENFJ will make sure you understand exactly what they think.

ENFJ: the loud one, comfortable with anyone and everyone. A natural born leader due to them being a people's person, people tend to listen to them because of the charisma they have INFJ: loud but only within their inner circle of friends, can be a leader due to their insightful personality but doesn't like the idea of being in charge. Is also a people's person but at a much lower scale than ENFJs.

"Bugging everyone"?? I think you actually mean caring and checking in on people.

I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an ENFJ, our relationship dynamic is so fun to analyse because we are so similar but so different at the same time. Here are some of our differences: - I love deep conversations about the patterns and meaning of life whilst he likes more surface-level conversations where he doesn't have to think too much. - I'm an ambivert so I like to be social sometimes but I really need my alone time to recharge, whilst it seems like he feels more rested after being social. I find this so weird - I'm very open to him about what's going on in my internal world: my feelings, theories, ideas, dreams etc. because I feel like that's how I connect the best, whilst he isn't the most open about his personal experience. It's like he almost forgets to even think about the meaning behind what he's feeling, he's always more concerned about how to manage the feeling itself. - I feel out of touch with the external world, I'm so clumsy because I spend so much time inside my head, whilst he is so encapsulated by the external world that he just thrives and he achieves anything he puts his mind to. - I am very future-oriented and love to have super organised plans, but I struggle with the execution of plans because I feel overstimulated with the number of possibilities that I just shut down. Meanwhile, he is very present-oriented, still organised but tends to rush into the plan before thinking it through completely which can be problematic. I hope everyone who reads this has an amazing day

ENFJs are more prone to organize (manage) relationships, whereas INFJs are more prone to protect themselves in relationships.

Someone is upset. INFJ knows something is wrong and will stealthily try to figure it out in a way that doesn't further upset the other person. If they fail, they'll retreat into their own heads. ENFJ will directly ask what's wrong, will often persist when met with "Nothing is wrong", and will remain unsettled until the matter is addressed or solved in some way.

ENFJ SQUAD UNITE 🙋🏾 For once a video about ENFJ... I'm moved 😭 We need more videos about us on RU-vid !

INFJ: My enemies live and they are still out there in the night somewhere.... ENFJ: *[appears]* INFJ: Hey, I guess life ain't that bad after all.

I love how inquisitive and curious ENFJs are! I can find it hard to get to know them though, they are so interested in others that they can remain a mystery themselves. It takes persistence to get them to open up and allow themselves space to express how they feel, but when they do, their knowledge and insight is amazing. I think they are one of the most open-minded types and an INFJ/ENFJ friendship can be very meaningful 🙏

lol i’m an INFP and one time my ENFJ friend was asking me why i don’t question people’s motives as much as they did. i simply said “i don’t question you for asking a lot of questions.” that shocked them lol

I'm an infj with an enfj girlfriend and let me just tell you, it's a teriffic personality match. I'm not saying go looking for enfjs but they truly match your weaknesses perfectly. At the same time enfjs need someone like an infj to listen and psychoanalyze.

YES! I totally swing from ENFJ & INFJ!

Yes- ENFJ feeling like their opinion is a very personal thing is so true!

ENFJ here- We're are like psychologists and sociologists who are obsessed with details and making people happy with our persona!

*thunderstorm outside* INFJs: No worries, I know how this‘ll end. ENFJs: Hmm I wonder how FJ is feeling during the thunderstorm? Good thing he’s not by the window.

I'm an ENFJ and I feel like I'm getting to know myself more when watching this. But I would definitely say that I have a lot of opinions and usually wants to express them when talking to someone, especially it's someone I care about, but at the same time I'm also very curious about what other people think.

Infj: beach and no people. (Relaxing without having to constantly subjugate own needs for a needs of the group) Enfj: family time! Family time! (This IS their need, plus, how could we let our family down? It's what we do....congregate) I know which I'd choose....beach! Lol

ENFJ here! I actually thought I was an INFJ until recently because I much prefer to be alone since people tire me the F out; turns out the wrong kind of people (those who take and never give back and use you as their personal therapist) will deplete all of my energy to the point that I don' even want to go out or text people back, but the right kind of people (the givers! the listeners!) will energize me and make me feel like I can stay up all night goofing around. We ENFJs really have to be careful to whom we give our time and energy to/towards. We're natural carers/nurturers and so we are so focused on helping people that we forget ourselves. My brother has always joked that I have psychic powers because I can tell what he's thinking and what he wants/needs; I'm just very attuned to people...too much so in fact. The biggest lesson I've learned has been to put myself first, voice my wants and needs, and stop trying to make everybody happy. Fights are very difficult for me because I need harmony and closure, so I have a hard time not getting to the bottom of an issue and resolving it right then and there. I've had to learn that sometimes it's better to breathe, take a moment, and just let it go....and again, stop trying to make everyone happy! Best example of an ENFJ is Monica during the thanksgiving dinner where she has to make individualized dishes for everyone and their different tastes...and nobody seems to care how long that whole process will take. On another note, my ex was an INFJ and it was a great relationship because we just got each other on a deep emotional level and we could sit there in silence and just hold each other. He was also very eager to make me happy and do a thousand little things for me; just like I did for him.

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I really enjoyed this. I am an ENFJ mother with an INFJ daughter. We think so much alike in so many ways we can finish each other's sentences. But after watching this video, we can really spot the differences! Stay cool and attractive! 😉

I’m an ENFJ...not afraid to put forward my opinion; in fact, ENFJs are fantastic at persuading people and getting people to see their perspective on anything. That is why they are known to be great leaders. In the vacation scenario you outlined, the ENFJ would have a well-thought-out list of reasons why their vacation spot is a better idea and would change their spouse’s mind.

Enfj’s are way more energetic than infj’s

My 4th grade teacher sent everyone home with a card and personal note at the end of the year. Mine said, “I’ll always remember you as the quite voice always asking... but WHY?”

-And once you start to pay attention... -Once you start to pay attention... (thundering) 1:59 this face is gold 👀 -Once you really start to pay attention to people... That wasn't supposed to be funny but I couldn't help but laugh.

Enfj: has a clear idea about what is the route that should be taken, blind to alternative options. Has the potential to boss people around.

*Frank: Interrupts himself to say "It's really thundering outside".* 🌩

i honestly think this may be fj's first enfj video edit: it is. also, i'm 100% not being a slightly passive-aggressive enfj right now :D

ENFJs seem friendly on the surface, but they often make passive-aggressive biting comments. Sometimes their criticism comes across so sweetly that it takes a minute to realize the insult. INFJs will either silently judge you or be very direct, depending on their mood. They tend to be sarcastic when irritated, and they don’t usually sugarcoat their words. ENFJs also prefer to be at the center of most social activities, whereas INFJs would rather limit their interactions. On the plus side, both can be controlling and quite bossy, if you’re into that sort of thing. : )

yeah my INFJ friend is hilarious when trying to download new software, and computer errors happen everywhere. "why cant we just click a button and make it work"

I’m an ENFJ and sometimes the INFJ descriptors are like my inner voice that I try not to admit exists.

As an INFJ who was raised surrounded by my ENFJ mom and brother, the conflict is true. 🥴 It’s thought-provoking, because I had this conversation with my mom recently where she said that she doesn’t think of me as someone who is particularly interested in other people. It struck me as so false, because I’m so often the person that others come to for advice and support. But compared to her, I really am not as interested in other people, or at the very least, I’m interested in a different way. This video does a good job of explaining why.

I can totally relate to this as an ENFJ. I'm always thinking about what people are thinking and their motives, likes/ dislikes, perceptions of everyone- including of me. And yeah, totally agree with having trouble being emphatic about my opinion. I just freeze because in my head I want to raise my voice and talk with my emotions- but also want to really avoid conflict :|

As an INFJ, the movie “The Sixth Sense” took me completely by surprise. I am never taken by surprise. I’m still bitter all of these years later 🤣

I am an ENFJ married to an INFJ. A big theme of our non argument is me asking "but what do you FEEL about ____" and him saying "Uhm, I don't know...." On point with your metaphor though, his observational skills for themes and details in movies at A+.

I am an INFJ haven a great ENFJ friend. We have similar interests and became friends through them. But what really keeps me thinking is that my ENFJ friend completely lives in the real world. She is like an anchor that does reality checks with me.

I am an ENFJ and what you said is exactly me. It brought tears to my eyes. I can't help thinking about the feelings of others that might happen after I did something (most on people I care), and I hope they would care about my thoughts too. my family is nice, but I always have to say what I want which is hard sometimes.

I am literally 49% ENFJ and 51% INFJ and after this video I am even more confused and have no idea who I am lol

As an aside, a lot of kpop leaders are either ENFJ/INFJ. Curious, very curious. They don't choose these roles either. They are chosen for these roles. 🤔🤯

I love and appreciate ENFJs a lot. Personally I am someone who struggles with social aversion and I really only focus on myself mostly, but I've been trying to change that. Watching ENFJs utilize their Fe the way they typically do is really inspiring. They're so kind and helpful. There's a lot you can learn from them truly. (I'm INFP 4w5)

True life story- Watching the movie “Parasite”: (ENFJ): Oh she must be an enneagram 8, that mom is a 4W3, that dad is a... (INFJ): “Shut Up” (*whispers under breath in a joking manner but actually serious) meanwhile totally shocked and sucked in by how the movie is turning out and the curve balls it’s throwing.

can you please do the 16 personalities at a sleepover?

man, i can't with those I and E sounds. I'm not native english speaker, I'm Finnish and those have completely different sound in Finnish language.. so half of the time i'm mostly guessing which type you're talking about :( ;D

As an ENFJ I really enjoyed this video! More ENFJ content plz!

"ENFJ are gonna be bothering everybody asking why are you doing what you're doing" Me how just ask a friend why he shared a post about cooking if he doesn't cook, if that makes him feel good: 👁👄👁

This is really interesting to me, cause I've related to both sides. Growing up through high school and university (5-10 yrs ago) I used to take these tests and be INFJ every single time. Everything felt exactly right when I read the descriptions. Then... I spent two years living and working at a remote biology field station. Living with 20+ crazy 18-25 year old reptile ecologists in a weird hybrid of a hippie commune, reptile house, and hostel. Eventually I became house manager, taking care of everyone and making sure shit got done. They called me "house mom". Every time I've taken the test since, I've been solidly ENFJ. I definitely relate to the ENFJ being able to react better to curveballs, that's totally a skill I learned at the field house. Strange how intense experiences can shift personalities like that.

Wow finally doing an ENFJ video!! thanks FJ Sooo how where you feeling making this video?

Me closest friend at the moment is an ENFJ. At first I thought "oh, she's too nice. there's no way we can get close." Then her weird side came out and I was like "oooh, now we jammin'!" We do think a lot alike but we're also pretty different. Me shut up and actually watch the video now. hahah

I don't know, as an ENFJ I would go to the mountains as understand the need of my partner, would just have a separate trip to the beach, even if shorter

I knew I was an ENFJ. Just a very introverted version of one. My myers briggs comes up with INFJ as a result EVERY TIME, however it's never been an exact fit. But the 'Fe' as a dominant function and 'Ni' as the auxiliary is perfectly explained here! Loved the movie analogy. Thanks for shedding light on these rather dark grey areas!

I (INFJ) am pretty good with new software because their user interface is usually designed to be intuitive, you can kind of predict how to use most of them from your experience with other similar software. What freaks me out is meeting new people and joining a new work environment etc...😨

the amount of times I've been confused about my personality type makes me think that maybe I'm not an infj afterall... then you identify as an infj 2 seconds later and then you tell yourself "wait...am I really?"

I (INFJ) used to have an ENFJ for a roommate. We got along pretty well and shared a lot in common in how we think and feel. We could have deep discussions on so many topics, I loved it. She's always surrounded by friends and joining social groups while I preferred to stay in our room.

Hey my boy FJ, I gotta be honest: your representations of ENFJs drive me NUTS. I'm not sure what your experiences have been with ENFJs but you often misrepresent us at best, and make us look like we're bad people at worst. For example, the way you kept saying "bugging" at the beginning of the video rather than noting that we care about helping others to be their best, or crafting harmony by understanding everyone in a room and the way they're all connected (we're systemic thinkers too! It's not just INFJs! We're just focused on different systems!) And that's how most of your ENFJ content is when you're doing sketches about all of the personalities. You've only gotten it right only a few times (at least in my experience, and I'm an ENFJ who's friends with quite a lot of ENFJs). We as ENFJs are super interested in this stuff!! We want to get to know people and MBTI or Enneagram are great ways to get a snapshot of how someone might be thinking so we don't have to "bug" people so much 🙄. But when I see my own type so consistently misrepresented I wonder how the other types see themselves in your videos? I'll have to read the comments more often to get a better picture. It sucks to not get much representation as ENFJs, and when we do get mentioned it seems to be an incomplete understanding of us and with a tone of annoyance in your videos. 😞 Hope you can see all the effort I put forth to struggle with sharing my opinions because I felt moved by the lack of ENFJ related content that is accurate. I don't want that content if it's gonna be a misrepresentation, though.

ENFJs: so how does this song make you feel? INFJs: haven't heard it yet, you seem to enjoy it which according to my calculations, means I am not going to like it because your taste is poor. ENFJs: excuse me???

Man he's spot on we INFJs definitely do not like change.

The last part, as an ENFJ, that really hit home. I hate sharing my opinions and make decisions, because I feel dumb and like no one will understand why I think that way and that it doesn't suit the mood of the group, so usually I just don't say anything and tag along with what others do.

I’m an INFJ while my husband is ENFJ so i really enjoyed this one! Pretty please do more ENFJ videos.

I'm INFJ and my fiancé is ENFJ. We work so well together 😊

the software is so true LOL i feel like i'm always complaining about the hassle of downloading something new or changing browser for instance, and my friend is like...what's wrong with you it's nbd

We get gold stars for being early right? Lol One thing I was just thinking is that ENFJ is like a collectivist ISTP. They build but with people. They put the hammer or the mud in the people's hands and get the group building a collectivized Ni vision rather than building it alone. And they use their voice to move others to action and to build each other up. It's pretty cool to have at least one really motivated ENFJ friend. They've built some impressive projects in group contexts. I'm always really happy to visit and see what new things they've developed. I feel the biggest difference between us is that I(INFJ) feel my thinking can be a bit more unconventional. Though I feel that's true for most people I've compared my mental thought notes with. I've always felt a bit embarrassed about it too especially when I get the glazed over look, even though it was the greatest epiphany experience for me on a personal level. Also it's often like I need permission to act on an idea or to motivate others, and ENFJ doesn't hesitate to call people to action, there's no waiting for permission with an ENFJ around, they are handing you the tools before you even think to ask.

It feels like you’re exposing me

Me at the cinema, 'is this going to be true sci-fi or am I going to have to explain why it isn't and how deeply that concerns me?

Now I can confirm I'm an ENFJ for sure. The last part about my logical thinking and how awkward I feel when someone asks for my opinion is so spot on and I have a hard time when others don't even bat an eye when sharing their opinion so nonchalantly as if it were the obvious answer but that's me perceiving it that way. I can even feel attacked which is pretty annoying because it's prrrretty clear very few people would act the way I do. I can be ridiculously sensitive and considerate 🤦🏻‍♀️

Wow. Brilliant! I am an INFJ, was dating an ENFJ - never struggled more in a relationship to reach compromises (or indeed discuss differences, without the ENFJ seeming to feel attacked - and responding in that manner). You’ve explained exactly what the problem was - he basically wanted me to mindread his needs and then comply.

Is it weird to feel like I may have both personality types? I sometimes act like an INFJ, sometimes like an ENFJ, it all depends on my mood and the person I interact with. About the movie example, I'd say I'm definitely an ENFJ, but in the holiday example I am the INFJ.

The example with the movie is pretty accurate. Im an INFJ and I can accurately guess what will happen next in movies/series but I also add the thought: "Or they will do exactly what I dont expect them to do and surprise me:" And I hope that I'll get surprised. I really like shows that surprise me and where I just cant guess what will happen next xD

I'm going to be honest, didn't like the way this went for some reason. Perhaps I've got to learn not to expect too much. But with the movie thing. If I can tell the deeper meaning or purpose of the movie, (if story line will have value in real life) then I allow myself to absorb into the characters emotions. Any techniques that can earn me real life skills I.e. self confidence, esteem, relationships, social skills. Now that's a good movie. I have to learn something. Otherwise forget it.

I love how everybody I know tells me I'm an extrovert but I tested like 70% introvert. I do enjoy time with others in a small atmosphere but at parties within 5 minutes of contemplating throwing myself down the stairs as an excuse to get the hell out of there

Well this is confusing, I am halfway between ENFJ and INFJ 😂😂

I’m an ENFJ and, wow, you are on point. Especially the part about expressing our own opinions. You were spot on.

INFJ have serious boundaries and they police it fiercely. There value system is built on learning and using that knowledge in their environment. They feel a huge sense of responsibility for others and take the role a father figure😬As an INFJ when my value system is violated I wont just adapt because I have to compare the violation and see how much it will impact on who I am. It is like mixing ingredients. we are not separate from our experiences and actions, we take that into account when going through life.

Fitting thumbnail background for the storm outside! ❤️

Great video!! Been a fan for a long time and love your videos!! 😄 Total ENFJ right here 👋🏻 And I absolutely agree 😅

So weird how I was thinking about this and trying to find a video on it yesterday !

My appreciation and love for your channel Frank is steadily growing! It’s now one of my favourite corners of the internet 🥰 Thanks so much for all your work

It’s 3AM but for FJ I click anyway 👍🏼

As an ENFJ-T, the last point is sooo true. I freak out literally. I went through such a freak out decision time bananza just yesterday.. luckily, I decided to think about it fully. But I did call a few people after. Thinking part is still ongoing. 😂😂😂 Thank you for this. Love you loads.

ENFJ here. I find this absolutely fascinating. I just joined this group where everyone is an INFJ and I'm the lone ENFJ. Haha. I really appreciate this breakdown and it helps me understand how incredibly similar, yet different we all are. Thank you!

It’s fun to listen to your scenarios/explanations because I work pretty closely with an INFJ. I’m an ENFJ. We do these projects together and I see the curve ball freak out and the great future perception my INFJ friend has really well. He’s also an amazing union steward to rep us at work. It’s interesting to have conversations with him about certain situations and the people involved. And I find he’s pretty good at teaching. We’ve also done very productive work together. When it comes to tackling work, I’m cool headed about starting on a task, and while he may worry a bit over it in the beginning, we end up smashing it out together.

2:01 your reaction to the thunder is funny. Thanks for the videos, Frank

I'm an ENFJ and my friend is an INFJ, so watching this was very eye opening and also a little confronting but also funny as you totally pinned me haha, and my friend confirmed that he does in fact relate to a lot of what you said about INFJ's which was cool! Love the video!

Thanks FJ! I love both types. I’m very interested about ENFJs. I hope to hear more of your thoughts on the type. 🙏😊✨ Big fan of this channel!

As an enfj I relate to you saying asking questions all the time. I was surrounded by people for a while who didn’t have a clue how to answer my questions . Even some people I dated . The responses were “oh I never thought about that “ “no one has ever asked me anything like that”

I recently discovered that one of my best friends is an ENFJ (I am INFJ). We have always gotten along very well, and when I first met him he was interviewing for a position at my company and almost the moment we started talking, I knew I wanted him to come work with me. Our relationship has grown past that working relationship (but is not romantic). He helps me focus outward, and I know him well so when he lets himself get dragged down by things, I can sense it and will pull him back up. Even when we don't talk, we have conversations with each other. He knows I love him even though I have never (and would never) say this out loud. He has a lot of interests, but he knows I am always there. He makes me feel like he'd be there if I wanted to do any grand scheme. It's awesome. He's awesome!

My mom is an ENFJ, and I’m an INFJ. We are very close, and love to have long heart to hearts, but I often find that I need to “tone myself down” around her. Most people think I am quiet and mellow, but she thinks I’m intense and exhausting - I think this comes from her struggle with the Thinking Function. When I’m trying to engage her in real world problem solving, she can’t hear my affirmations of her feelings. My language that affirms her, which is usually enough for most people, goes in one ear and out the other. She can’t hear my affirmations when I’m challenging her on a people-oriented decision; so Frank, what you’re saying here makes a lot of sense. Something I’ve noticed, that you didn’t cover, is inter-personal conflict between these two types, arising from our mutual drive toward personal perfection. INFJ’s feel this drive intensely, to the point of inappropriate guilt, but we tend to process it internally… I’m not really sure why. But because of this tendency, my mom thought, for years, that I did not have this intense drive. She thought I was morally lazy. In fact, when I look for external affirmation from her by saying something like “I feel so guilty when I say no to someone about hanging out,” and instead of assuring me that I have no need to feel guilty, that it’s my decision (which is what I need to hear as I’m processing) her pre-programmed assumption is that my guilt is probably based on truth: that I don’t care about the people who want to hang out with me, and I should find a way to hang out with them. She jumps immediately into problem solving, to help me find a way to hangout or reschedule, which makes me more stressed and guilty, and I retreat to my room. :) I’d love to see a video going deeper into how various personalities, especially INFJ’s and ENFJ’s, approach guilt. If you have one already, please let me know. Thanks for the video!

Oooh yay, a thunderstorm!!! (Great thumbnail). Sadly, I don’t have any ENFJs in my inner circle but this might help me find some. Looking good, and relaxed, FJ. Hope all is fab in Francisville. 💖

I knew the differences and STILLLL CLICKED just to see that beautiful Ni explainations ❤️ the examples were so spot on! Make more like thissssssssssss!!!! They're so educating!

Yaaay, ENFJ content! It's seems so rare on YT! Thanks Frank! I would LOVE to see a video about ENFJ/ENFP relationships. My best friend is an ENFP; we've been in a friend romance for 7 years now, and I've never experienced such an easy, intense connection with anyone before. We often joke we share a brain and heart: we finish each other's sentences and feel the same way. The ease with which we understand each other is fascinating, I'd be very curious to hear what you have to say about that specific pair!! Keep up with your awesome content, it's always a great pleasure to watch you impersonating the 16 personalities, you're always spot on! I just wish there were more ENFJ "serious" content, like this video. I hope there will be more coming! 🤸‍♀️🌟

Good one bro!! :) And, both types are doing "both of these things" big time. But surely, and mostly, one type a little "more" of this than the other. I can "see" myself in both fully. But we are all different in expression of course.

Okay but can we stop thinly veiling the ENFJs as annoying 😂

OK, the people have spoken! Any fellow ENFJs interested in doing a type talk? I’m thinking of getting 5-6 of us together to talk all things ENFJ for a soon-to-be produced RU-vid video.

I’m ENFJ and my sis is INFJ. This describes our struggles so well! Thanks for putting so much thought and time into making these videos 👌🤓