INFP Personality: The INFP Growth Cycle 

As an INFP, the idealism made me define my self as an alien

EVERYBODY LISTEN...do you hear that?! Right? I hear it too...an entire RU-vid comment section where every person's feelings are agreed with or comprehended without confrontation or judgement. I've never experienced such harmony in this (or practically any) forum. In a "room" full of INFPs, there seems to be nothing but a sincere mutual understanding between perfect strangers. Even the comments strictly aimed at complimenting his appearance are something I feel his discomfort with like it was my own (as an allegedly attractive male INFP I been complimented for my appearance more than every skill set, good deed, and accomplishment combined). I never realized how much I have truly longed for interaction with other INFPs, as I have none in my life. But during that video, my mind started racing with so many possibilities that I became distracted and literally mistook the voice playing in the background as my own internal thoughts. I recognized your voice as the dialect of my own conscience. I felt truly understood as the many others here who said as much--and that's pretty incredible when the audience is made nearly entirely of people who don't feel "understood". So...thank you. Also, I wish we all had a place to talk like this whenever we wanted. It's so rare that realizing I've been deprived of seems like a minor cruelty now.

“Throw yourself out there.” No 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 that’s terrifying

Last week was awful because of two jobs applications almost successful. I felt drained, but yesterday I watched the film " a Quiet place" and went for dinner with my mother. We talk and she knows I'm not made for office bureaucratic job even I tried. So I restart today applying to museums and organizing an exhibition, that's what I like to do.

i thought i had i problem. i really, really thought i had i problem. discovering about my personality explains me so much. i couldn't understand how other people didn't feel like me. and there were a lot of sad, low phases during my life and i always thought it was depression, especially when i had no friends. It was my fault having no friends - i love being alone and felt so safe, but craved friends at the same time. the thing is i thought i was depressed forever and unable to change it since ive been aware that i had this "problem" since i was like 12. "depression" was always in my mind. i wish my parents, my friends, everyone knew about this, about who i am inside. i wish they knew how much this changed the perception i have of myself. i accept me. i like me better now. i really do accept this amélie i have in me :)

I'm an INFP and it's really really crazy listening to your journey and being able to pinpoint so many various points in my life including where I am now. I've been so passively angry at so many people in my life for so long and Ive avoided forming new connections with people, instantly feeling disappointment with them (because if im disappointed from the start I think they cant cause me pain) but not even close to the disappointment within myself. Ive been hiding myself from the world and am so afraid to express myself because so many times in my life how Ive expressed myself has been criticized by my parents and others. I haven't taken TRUE responsibility for my own emotions, blaming others all the time. When you talked about changing enviornments to spark the change? I'm now 21 and leaving a small town in Florida for Chicago this January. I really just feel like Im on the brink of finally getting myself out there, doing whatever crazy thing my heart desires (well within reason) LIVING my life regardless of what others think of me. I deeply relate to this video and I hope my own journey will reflect the same growth and insight.

about throwing yourself out there e.g. trying to make it in music... publish a book... go to auditioms etc. infps are driven by the need to do something they are passionate about. but what has been a struggle is not the going out there part... it's getting the rigjt conmections to get u to the next e.g. gig, play, publisher etc. we are essentially creators and not marketers of ourselves. we need agents managers and just a good support group. if ur out there alone... trying to pursue ur passion.. it can really get hard. u get inside urself. beat urself up for taking a chance... and not being able to connect with ppl easily. not sure if im making sense lol.. im just typing away.

i never know about myers personality before.while im growing,i though tht im depress,have a conflict that i though every teenager will have to go through as a phase but still seems the phase like never ending.i always search to solve my inner conflict and i always think,why cant i be like everyone else?when i read the comments,we have the same stories and that make me feeling so calm and happy.hiii all INFP friends!!!Be strong!!!we can do it!!

You're so good looking! Just thought I'd point that out :)

I really relate to this experience as a fellow INFP. I think it is a lot like grief, where we realise that the world we thought we knew was an illusion and we have to go through the stages of grief to acceptance of the true reality that we live in. As you say, whilst we are trying to fight against reality it makes it stronger. I think certainly we are weaker, as we are spending so much energy in trying to fight reality so we may struggle to cope. Also, whilst we are angry about the state of reality, we are probably sending out a lot of negative signals to the people around us, which could make reality even more harsh for us at the time. So learning to accept people with all their flaws, including myself, has been the biggest growth point for me. But also keeping myself healthy with self care has helped, because it allows me to gain energy so that I can access Ne easier and be more open to the world.

"you know when you're stuck so much inside your self, and you're lookin out at the world through that lense, it's not easy right" that hits hard😢

I'm INFP, I honestly just discovered this as previously I just assumed I had a personality disorder. I happened to notice in this vid, when Ive heard recordings of myself speaking, my tone and speech patterns are virtually identical to yours. Many, many times ive been told my voice is calming, Id be willing to bet you get the same all the time.

Hey there, thank you for sharing this. :-) As a fellow INFP, albeit in his late thirties, I can really relate to what you are describing. I grew up in a family of SJs, which meant that my upbringing was quite safe and secure on the homefront, but also that my parents didn't really understand who I was and what I aspired to do with my life. At school, only a few of the teachers seemed to understand me, and I was often bullied by the other students for being 'too smart'. It all added up to me trying to present myself as a more 'normal' person and leading a more 'normal' life, while secretly resenting the world for making me lead an in authentic life. Of course, the anger and resentment was in fact rooted in my own inner conflict between wanting to connect with others and be free to express myself in any way I like, while at the same time feeling very vulnerable and wanting to hide my true self from those who might want to critisize or judge me. But I wasn't able to see this clearly until I made a good friend, who saw how much I was struggling, and let me know that I was valuable just as I was - regardless what others might think. At first, it was very difficult for me to show my true colors without fear, and even today, I still feel that I have so much more potential waiting to be unlocked, but the breakthrough I had back then (and my subsequent realization that I was an INFP) has already allowed me to do so much more with my life than I dared to imagine back then. For instance, when I was in the school plays as a kid, I discovered just how much I enjoyed acting. But if it hadn't been for my good friend's trust in me, I might never have had the courage to sign up to be in a play at our local, very professionally run, community theatre. In the beginning, I got the tiny parts, but over the years I grew more and more interested in the finer details of acting and eventually I gained the trust of my fellow actors and the confidence to take on leading roles. Ironically, when I started taking my acting seriously as an art form, I also stopped caring about 'acting normal', because as I discovered, good acting is not about portraying 'perfect' or 'normal' people, but rather about truthfully portraying the many different ways - for better or for worse - that people desperately attempt to keep the mask of normalcy from slipping off their faces in the heat of an unusual situation. This is where we find both comedy and drama, and this recognition of both our beauty and our ridiculousness as human beings is what connects us to one another and hopefully makes us treat each other with greater kindness. It's amazing to think that I grew up admiring comedians and actors, who had the ability cast aside 'normal', inhibited behavior and connect with an audience through their performance, and that now I myself have experienced that special feeling of connecting directly with an audience through my performance. This goes to show that if we can stop blaming the bullies and threshold guardians of the past for how we feel about ourselves and dare to use our INFP talent for communicating truthfully, we can make a positive change not just in our own lives or in those of our friends, but in society as a whole.

Just came across this video. You articulated introverted feeling and it's dark side very well. I was existentially depressed for a couple years. I had set in stone values and I was frustrated with the world, but didn't realize how 'in' myself I was. Two and a half years ago I decided to buy a one way flight to Asia and haven't looked back since. Since I've moved and taught abroad I've put myself out there a lot. I've realized that what I needed to really express my introverted feeling and carry out my values was actually basking in novelty and experience the outer world. I definitely think that INFPS- precisely because we're so in our heads- need to be in a place of novelty, growth, and connection to really fulfill our Fi and nurture personal growth.

"A lot of the problems were coming from within you, and your inability to affect you outer world..." This encapsulates so much of my anxiety and angst that I have had for so long, and why I had my difficulties. But which I am now just realising my own (very personal, very eccentric, and very unique) correct tactics and strategies to come out of (no wonder I had problems lol). It is indeed a bliss to find one's way, after so long! Take care.

I have been wondering why am i like this? why people don't understand me? why people don'y put effort to think about the world like I do? I figured that I don't share my thoughts and my feelings with anyone, and when I do share, it won't be the full story, I'm just going to hide my thoughts and feeling from anyone, I love people but I fear judgement and criticizing, it's like don't mind me, not bad or good, I don't even comment or review anything,I feel like even if i tried writing it won't express what i truly have in my mind, and even when I say anything I feel that people don't really understand me. when i knew that I'm an INFP I learned a lot about myself and knew that there are people like me.. this video is a great help, thanks

been a Christian sense I was 12 and I was raised as an early kid to just behave. I was a quiet kid in school did not get in trouble. I am not really mean to people because my conscious would kill me. I'm comfortable expressing ideas with my friends but I don't force my beliefs on people hence I'm a Christian but I'm not a religious zealot who forces it on people. I try to just be an example by living my life. But with my friends I can express things. In regards to new people I'm typically guarded especially in public places. I'm social because i only hang with my circle but if I go to the bar im not very welcoming towards people trying to talk to me I tend to blow them off alot.

Beautiful video

i feel so cozy in this comment section

Just the reminder I needed! I had been inserting myself in uncomfortable places and classes as a way to grow, but have gotten away from it. I noticed, as scary and nerve racking as the situation would be at the time, I always felt proud and accomplished after the fact while thinking back on it. I've felt a stagnation lately, and I think its due to me sticking to my comfortable bubble. Time to get back out there, and writing this comment would be the first step. Thanks

I had this same realization about how my introverted feeling had been effecting my marriage for probably the first five years 😬 Had been blaming my husband for his over-emotionality, which freaked me out at the time causing me to retreat, but I finally figured out that he was that way, because I was giving him nothing to go on. Smh. I must say we've grown a ton in the last few years...so glad I didn't throw in the towel back then...I don't think I would have learned nearly as much about myself if I had given up.

If only there was a tether that connected everyone together then maybe there would be no pain or suffering in the world, only peace and acceptance. When you were talking about Fi that was the thought that went through my head. Now that I think about it you mentioned something like this in your INFP enneagram 9 video. Wheb I think of INFPs I think of a caterpillar in the process of turning into a butterfly. The INFP sees what it is, what it's authentic self is and is trying to find a way to express this and be who they truly are. Sadly the real world beats the caterpillar down, and they retreat to a well built cocoon. Eventually some INFPs learn to embrace their authentic self and emerge as a butterfly. Now they're no longer restraint to the ground, but are now able to rise above everything to see that it is okay to be different, and that everyone is special in their own way, and that no one should be tethered to the ground. This was what went through my mind, and I how I was able to translate that into text somewhat.

Great video. As an INFP male, I empathized with Brienne of Tarth from GOT a lot. She's perceived to be an INFP. As a child I was always precocious and as an adult, I'm well spoken, well mannered, well read and creative. We're walking contradictions. I love people but I have no interest in socializing. I love the human experience but I can't abide by our errors, especially when we refuse to fix them. I'm so happy you shared this. I'm subscribing in hopes that I can find support for men like myself. The world's been hard on us because we're on the opposite side of what a man is expected to be. I would not have it any other way.

I’m an infp but I use to get infp,j I can relate a lot to j’s but they get stuff done which is what I’ve been struggling with. I have been working on just putting my work out there and stop delaying it if it’s not perfect and that’s been the real struggle to stop overthinking it and just do. I’ve been doing it but I still struggle a bit. I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and I have so many amazing creative ideas that I want to share and help people with. I want to do videos but I hate the way my face looks on video. I’ve noticed that a lot of introverted types no matter how they look hate taking pictures or looking at themselves. Introverted actors won’t watch their own movies. I wonder why this is. I really need to get past this I’ve grown a lot in the last 3 years and friends have noticed how I’ve changed it’s a slow process but I’m making it more of an effort now. I’m becoming more self aware. Thanks for actually doing something to help people like us🙂

I am an INFPA and the only way you can perfect your life is through lots of experience. When an INFP gets to a point where they don't care what others think. Then and only then as a INFP will you win!

The way you described introverted feeling is the most accurate and concise i've heard yet, thank you.

As an INFP, I can relate pretty well to this talk. I have literally just been through the realization that just "fighting" the horrible behavior of some people one just makes them stronger, it just makes them fight harder and they care so little they're going to use every unethical weapon they can get hold of. I am now in the process of trying to instead cultivate more mutual understanding and empathy with other people - hard for an introvert as it involves being with people a lot and it is damn slow, but hey possibly more effective in the long run. I'm also not sure how I can control myself from crying when I'm talking about something I care, not that I want to hide my feelings, but a lot of people get distracted and end up thinking that I am "weak", undermining everything I am trying to build with them. Let's see.

As an INFP who lives in Jordan, i would say i do have a lot of things you said about yourself and i try a lot to change to be better to myself, i am going through things in this particular time and i take a decision everyday that i will be better to myself and try to change (for myself) i wish you all do what makes you feel better and happy. Peace from Jordan ❤

I have seen a lot of INFP videos, and most of them are relatable, but this really speaks true to me. This is a great reality check, thanks man.

Amazing words brother. I am an INFP who is a hip hop artist and aspiring public speaker but, like a few others in the comments, I am terrified of receiving unwanted judgement. I struggle a lot with being (or feeling) misunderstood, and I feel like I am a good person like I do everything in my power to always do, say and think the right things - and yet I always seem to be seen as selfish, stupid, irresponsible, childish etc. by family and others, and it really really hurts me. It makes me question EVERYTHING about myself, because I try to understand everyone’s side of things and when I do that, it makes me think maybe i really am all these things they say I am. And I find myself constantly fighting this battling between who I think I am and who they think I am. If anyone has some words of advice to overcome this obstacle I would appreciate it so much.

Thank you for sharing. I am the type that get stuck in the fi si loop too much. I get scared a lot having to express myself due to my negative past. Thanks for showing us the bravery to step back out into the world. For being brave and a heart for helping others.

It almost felt like you've been through the same experiences as an INFP, like me and many others in the comment section. Most of the days, when I look into myself I feel almost proud of my thoughts and how good a person I truly am. But on other days, I feel like crap and feel that I'm just different from other people and I cannot really work well in this world. I write short stories and poetry but I am always doubting the fact that people may misunderstand me or maybe people will make fun of me if I put too much of myself out there to read. I also fear the fact that I would not be appreciated for my work. I really feel that I am destined for great things in life and I deserve more for the person I am, but I don't really feel like working on myself sometimes and I am busy thinking about the world and people. By watching this video I realized that I've been growing all this time and maybe I just have to get up work on myself and change, leaving behind the past. Cause I think my memories are like a drug to me and I am obsessed with it and it affects my everyday. So, thank you, I think your content is purposeful and will actually help people and the world- and that's what we INFPs want to do in the end, right? :)

Thank you for these insights! INFP here as well... I'm currently trying to overcome problems with social anxiety and now that I watched this video, it made me realize a lot of the anxiety comes from judging the outer world. Like you said, seeing it through the Fi-lens... it's not easy to blend in and put yourself out there. Still trying to find a way to express myself in the right way.

Thanks. I think I am actually on the point of realizing that I just build a wall from the outside world because of messy it is. Now I am slowly removing the wall and trying to live like what you have explained.

fought with the Marines in Iraq in 2006, Somalia in 2008 and the devastation from the children who suffered in those dumpster fires, still have a profound hold on me.. its been like 15 years since the war and im legit still lost.. left corporate america 3 years ago, my family views me as a failure, academia , sports, etc all came so easy to me my entire existence... 142 IQ which led to utterly non-existent work ethic from ever manifesting in my youth... Had a decade long lucrative career post military as a financial advisor, but felt like i was being waterboarded every day doing my 'trade'. feels nice knowing y'all get it, but gotta be honest, i feel my enigmatic situation being this muscular, 6'5 'tough guy' my whole life who in reality is a INFP-T thru and thru makes life basically in surmountable smh

i really enjoyed this. i felt like i was listening to my own thoughts. im an enfp, but since im an ennegream 4, i rely heavily on my fi. i sincerely appreciate the infp males ive known in my life. i have always been drawn to their deep and sensitive nature and their ability to express how they feel without any shame or fear of "hindering their masculinity." i think the world could benefit from more souls like yours. thanks for being you, and thank you for having such good intentions for the world, others, and yourself. its so refreshing to know that people like you exist!

Love your videos! You are one deep infp hehe.. greets from an infp :)

I truly believed I had borderline personality disorder, until watching this video. Thank you, truly.

The sheer amount of community in the comments is amazing to see, and for the video I'd honestly admit to the fact I dont think I've ever met anyone else whom thought, acted, or described things almost exactly like me, and thank you for the extra guidance to the other infp's out there by getting up and putting in the effort for a video that's, what I imagine was, a hard topic to put together in a cohesive way. You did a great job ^-^

funny anecdote: a couple days ago i said to myself as i was listening to one of your videos, driving to wherever i was going, “I just love Infp’s, they really seem to talk in a way that helps me understand the concepts a lot better, like they’re speaking my language.” today, after watching months worth of videos across a lot of different channels, i can say that i put together my type before i even knew. you do such a good job at breaking this down for a lot of people, good on you. thank you

Thank you for reminding us how powerful we can be. I spend my adult life living in fear and anxiety, paralyzed daily for not being where I want to be. And it's a damning shame if I kept myself a secret to the world when I could be contributing something beautiful and meaningful to it.

Thank you for your video. It's really useful for INFPs. As a young INFP, I constantly struggle the restrictions of the external world and blame it a lot. However, I am now in my 20s. I gained more experiences and started to understand that I should take up more individual responsibility. Hope I could grow well as a mature INFP :)

It’s funny you mentioned go to the club by yourself 🤣 that’s exactly what I did. I hadn’t been out in years and one day I said fuck it! It seems it’s easier when i venture out on my own vs going out with friends. It’s harder to be vulnerable in front of ppl I love. But I am continuing my growth regardless 🫶🏽 thank you!

Best video I've so far to explain what a INFP is going through life!!!!!

I don't express myself as much as I want to.. It's very difficult for me to talk with other people, even though I've been with them for quite a time now like my office mates and relatives .. I don't like bothering other people 😩. I keep to myself a lot. But I have this notebook where I write all my thoughts whenever I can. Thank God I discovered this MBTI stuff, took the test, then discovered I am an INFP. 😊 I also have that thought constantly which is to strive to become a good human being, to contribute something good to the community. I thought I am "abnormal" because of the way I think and feel about things.. Well, I am just INFP.. it feels liberating to know that I have some people whom I can relate to. 🙌

Wow thank you for this amazing video! I feel like with INFPs being one of the rarest types and part of our journey towards self-growth being painful for many of us, it has been hard for me to express my feelings in a way that others could understand. Hearing everything you said and reading other people’s comments made me feel a bit more at peace knowing that I’m not the only one feeling these things.

Infps. My favorite in the opposite sex. I'm an enfp :)

Your voice seems like a therapy.. as an idealist its really hard for me to be a realist. I thought I'm just immature because of the many scenes and ideas that coming from my mind.. Now I'm turning 25 and I just learned my personality.. I'm wishing that by watching videos like this.. I'll make a self growth and see my potential as a woman.

I've heard we as INFPs aren't that socially compatible to each other but I believe it depends on people's level of maturity. I think matured INFP have the best ways to connect and relate to each other. Anyway, what makes you more attractive is your voice. At least for me, that is.

I finally am getting there. Trusting the Extraverted Intuition and getting out of my comfort zone and expressing my thoughts and feelings and ideas and accepting all of them whether or not I initially want to agree with them. I’m finally feeling at peace with myself because, yeah, I did have my own set of standards as to what a good person looked like and I was afraid to be anything else. I beat my true self down because that wasn’t something acceptable to society. But now I’m falling in love with myself and I’m less afraid now. I’m less likely to take crap from anyone. It’s been a beautiful journey and I feel like my soul is unchained. I am infinite and I am at peace. I am strange and ever changing but as long as I don’t lose the spark that makes me myself, I have nothing to fear

I'm 17 going on 18, and I can wholly agree that this was my growth. The outer world forced me to grow (in some ways good) to mature relatively faster than most. I would say that growing up with an INTJ sister and a single parent ESFJ mom was pretty rough. XD I Appreciate your take on this growth. Though you might say I'm a little bit on the unhealthy side of an INFP, I always found expressing myself in writing and walks alone to be refreshing. What did you do to "relieve yourself from the "outer world"?

This video made me cry >.> Beautiful!

You actually made me cry. You just explained a lot what I went through and I'm still not out of the woods yet.

I scored really high on the intuitive scale. I figure things out, see things, and wonder how I know it. I also have this wild imagination. I don't think most people have this same experience or understanding. So yes. I hold on to it.

Insightful. Like someone else in the comments said, your tone and speech patterns remind me of my own. Sometimes though other Infps come across quite differently. I wonder, has anyone ever doubted your type? They certainly have mine.

I’ve learned “life” and experiences are like jumping into a cold pool of water. Sometimes you just have to plug your nose and jump in. It’s not pleasant, but you will become acclimated. Might not ever be easy or completely comfortable though.

I took the Myers-Briggs tests over and over again and got various results but I resonate most with INFP.

This is exactly how my growth journey has been like so far. I also feel like the past 2 or 3 years is where I have grown so much, learned so much about myself, about others and the world; as well as learning things to improve my skills.

This has definitely been my process and it was right after high school that shift in my view of the world drastically changed and a new healthier, vibrant, loving way of being was my new focus. Balance of appreciating myself and my inner world and being more open to the world in front of me. A blessing.

Wow, thank you so much for making this. A lot of times I feel stuck inside my head and it makes me sad, because I see other people doing things I wish I could if I wasn't so fearful of rejection/judgement/whatever. Lately I've been realizing it helps me a lot to step out of my shell and reach out to other people, it helps me not be so self-absorbed and it lessens my anxiety. It's something that I'm still working on and it's difficult for me, but I can see the improvement in my mental state and my happiness when I do. This video helped cement some things I've kinda known subconsciously for a while. It just helps to hear somebody say it. And know I'm not the only one. Thank you.

Its honestly astonishing to hear you talk. It sounds so much like the way i think. Then reading the comments here from other infps is crazy how i just immediately relate. Its so comforting to finally fee understood and that there’s other people like me. Also, can we just agree how exhausting being an infp is😂🤦🏻‍♀️

Thank you! I feel like im begining to figure out how i need to communicate with others better. Instead of my perspective of them just not giving a shit, I realize i have to be able to openly communicate my feelings values boundaries etc.. And not speak in paraboles.. To communicate in general lol..in a straight forward not so deep way if i decide to connect my bridge lol but for me, just understanding that we all have baggage/toxicity whatever you want to call it.. and understanding that about others is how they have become who they are.. It makes it easier to not question why someone would react ..say in a rude way or recognize they hold their values because of their own life journey. Instead of judging them or getting "butt hurt" for others not holding my values on the same pedestal that I do. Doesn't make them bad people at all.. I empathize lol cuz i am often misunderstood. I have to change the way i communicate and learn how to communicate with the outer world if i want to embrace ... Idk the words lol but i can feel the feelings in my head from it

Thank you for sharing your understandings and experiences. It helped me to have a better understanding of what I was feeling. I can relate to what you have mentioned about, until you have been truly exposed to the experience of heart breaking disappointments. That compromises your core values of the universal aspects of humanity. Once you graduate from the negative feelings of blaming the world, you start to shift and evolve your reality into your true self at present. I am at a stage where I already did INFJ's door slamming and now focusing on boundaries.

once again I’m commenting on another video and saying that it’s such a beautiful things to find someone I can relate to this much! I find it difficult to be exposed to the world, certain people that I trust are okay though. While I know that going out and exploring and engaging with others will allow me to grow... but for now I just feel like I wanna grow by exploring myself by myself, or with the environment I love to be in. I would say, as an INFP, my own journey, my own mistakes that I did by my decision allowed me to know myself and grow even though these experiences were bitter and tough.... at least that for now...

Tremendously helpful yes. If I have commented before it isn’t because I’m chatty but I need to hear these things more than once. And wanna make sure I thank you.

Thank you, I'm infp and your explanation so resonate with me.

What you say regarding “struggling/fighting against the world” resonates so strongly for me... I’m hoping to cultivate further awareness regarding my dominant and auxiliary functions to help bridge the gap to being a more extroverted thinker, but it just feels so daunting to me at this point! I find life and the world such convoluted things at times; it feels so much easier to just exile myself into my proverbial cave lol. Ughh so frustrating!

I can feel and Read what other people are thinking , I struggled so much because of it but now I have learned to handle my emotions quite well and I treat people according to their personality..

This is a good explanation of Introverted Feeling. I can really relate to this as an INFP, what I want now is the ability to take the dive with things I want to do. Im not afraid of failure, but there isnt much that I do that makes me happy while i do it, i depend heavily on other's opinions of whether or not what im creating is good (Music, Writing etc). None of it ever gives much happiness until i know it has affected someone positively.

OMG! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I needed this so much. My world has been falling apart and I've been so lost. I'm ashamed to say I have been contemplating suicide for the first time in my life, yet I knew it wasn't an option because I have two beautiful boys I could Never leave. Plus the love of my life committed suicide, so I KNEW it wasn't an option. A few days ago I literally said to myself; "Well, I'm just going to hurt and feel like this for the rest of my life because I don't know what to do or what is what or who I am anymore.. About a week ago I watched my first personality video and it just happened to be mine, INFP. I dont know if I was crying more because I was overwhelmed or crying because FINALLY someone was talking like they GOT ME. UNDERSTOOD ME. That Never happens! Which lead me to your video. Sorry for the novel, I'm just SO grateful for the time, effort, realness and heart you poured into this. I can't Express that enough! I am 27 about to be 28 so I'm praying this is also my mini life crisis or something. But you have given me the strength to lite my fire inside again and just get this shit done. When I barely had the energy to get up or eat every day. So Thank You Again! Please make more RAW videos like this. We Need them!

Probably the best explanation of what happens right now inside my mind. Thanks for sharing it, I so needed to hear this.

Time is depth and motivation doesn't need to be effort, it can be a pleasure when you do it from your softest softness its a luxury an hand held soulful endeavor, the softer you go in the hardline world the more of a buffer you create to help you make it, put yourself around the right people who support working softness they are out there, learn the words working/effortlessness, things need not be hard(the secret to thriving as an INfP) the moxie that softness brings!LOL

I have to say thank you so much on how you have explained how an infp feel and how we think,and react to our environment around us. Thank you!!!!. Sincerely an INFP, Kara Farias

My God... This is like my main problem..It helps so much to see it and hear someone speak about it..

Your voice is very soothing

But to recognize that your pain is no ones fault and that the world is not at fault is extremely painful - because then you have to turn the gaze to yourself, to your own excrushiating wounds - and vulnerability - and this can sometimes be too much. Especially if you have grown up with people telling you that it is wrong to be vulnerable and sensitive. Then you turn your gaze to yourself, and all you can see is "wrong".

Thinking and feeling more would be so helpful for the world. Seeing people who can be fairly smart allow themselves to be led by a toxic trend or a way of thinking is sad. More people need to think for themselves and ask if they even believe what the media is telling them.

Lmao, I wrote a heavily thought out paragraph and then accidentally clicked on another video. In summation, great video, I relate. I've realized: eternity is real, and we have two choices: to remain separated or to become unified.

This is very helpful! I'm so glad I came across this. I sense I'm going through a turning point and sometimes I question if this is right or if I'm turning into someone I'm not supposed to be. Now I have more peace as this video served as confirmation that I need to trust the process. No rush since premature deliveries and arrivals can be problematic. Yeah I don't want that. I've had enough of fighting in my life😅 Thank you for sharing your INFP growth journey and providing comfort by doing so🙏🏾

Nonviolent communication ftw

BREAK THROUGH! wow thank you.ive been in lock down for too long and i think your right i need to open up and get out and just be around other people like go out to a club and listen to music.. thats a good start i can work with that. Thank you.

As an INFP, I kinda talk the same way as you do. The only difference is that you can talk that way in front of a camera while I can only talk to myself, murmuring ideas and stuffs. LOL. I hope could be as confident as you are. Despite your good looking face you still has this kind, warm and gentle aura that emanates from you. Thanks for sharing us your thoughts.

Thank you so, so much! This really helped me a lot. Bridging that gap between the inner and outer world is what I have focused on learning the past few years and I have become much better at it. Though it really takes time and patience with yourself and belief that there is nothing wrong with you. It's just a matter of learning how to communicate. So thanks for voicing that so well.

Wow what you are saying is so true. I'm INFP. I really think I needed to hear this. Well articulated and insightful. Thanks.

These videos are so helping me so much I can’t even put it in to words. Thank you so much for making these videos

Geez! My first comment in your channel although I've been watching your videos, listening to your ideas and experiences for some time now. This one especially and other circumstances have given me the courage to start contributing here. I've been working as a teacher and I think that despite bureaucracy and stuff, I've been able to learn useful skills like sharing more what I know and sometimes what I feel and experience, for example. There's still many things I want to do like becoming a more financially independent person and even if it's tough I know I can do it. Thanks for reading me!

Hello Matt! As an INFP, I love your interpretation of the MBTI personality types! I've just read your book and I think as I define myself better with it, and see others clearer, I sort of understand what happens around me, and I don't take things on my heart as hard as I used to. So I wanna thank you for this! And the next step will be to understand how to talk better with the types, cause I have a lot of clashing with other people, and it's so hard for me. AND I also have a question for you: what do you think about getting along as an INFP with other INFPs? Maybe we could have a longer conversation about this someday, if you are interested in talking with another INFP guy about future goals and stuff. Best regards, a desperate hikikomori INFP boy.

this video sums up my struggle all this time

As usual, I struggle to put words on exactly what I felt watching this, but holy moly, I sure felt it deep.

Dude, you really get it, thank you sooo much!! I am crying right now, because I feel so misunderstood and it is just so healing to hear this and have someone emphatise with it. You nailed it bro! Thanks!

Great video 🤟🏾🔥❤️

Hi, fellow INFP here! Thank you for sharing! I appreciate your wisdom, and I love listening to your voice. I am also somewhat soft-spoken and like when others can be too, because it shows gentleness and control. You are also very attractive, just saying. You do the facial hair just right ;)

Very helpful channel for those interested in MBTI, particularly INFP development.

Watching this video, I found myself finishing your sentences. It's so nice watching videos or talking to people who are truly riding the same wavelength. Very wonderful video. ♡

dude. this is spot on. thank you so much!

Wow, I get you. No specifics, but when you talk about certain scenario, visuals would come up. Thank you

I think infps fight the world because they feel the world isn't accepting them. We are not akward or dreamers, we are simply infp and the struggle we have to connect with the world comes from this chaotic creativity we have. On the inside is insane creativity (witch we can see only if we know we are infp) on the outside is dreaming, akwardness, softness ;D. People see the outside but can't grasp our chef d'oeuvres inside. If we didn't know we were infps, chances are we would just believe that what people see on the outside is what we are. Now i don't mind feeling 'different' cause i know i'm also full of good ideas :D

For me, changing myself is a problem. Not because I can’t, but because I can and I will. I don’t want to change but every time someone says something to me that isn’t even a problem, e.g. I’m childish, I come back the next day as a completely different person. I hate it and I want it to stop. On top of this, I saw a comment below that was basically the same but I’m mentioning it too because it happens to me a lot as well. I feel super uncomfortable showing my drawings to other people unless they are on the Internet because then they don’t feel as real as real life. I’m most uncomfortable showing my best friend because of one time last year when she questioned something I drew that linked to the darker side of my imaginary world. I felt like I was being judged and I have protected my sketchbooks from her since. I don’t want her to leave me, I guess? She is my only friend at my new school. One day she was at my house and opened my “forbidden drawer of artworks” and found my worst vent at the time. I was legit scared. The only person I have shown all my artworks to (or digital, anyways, my traditional stuff seems to stay secret) is my dad. Sorry for ranting on this random RU-vid video! 😅😅

I have been stuck in my own world for a long long time, I would say for like 10 years or so because I feel like who am I to judge people base on my ideal? But I’m trying to overcome this idea, I am trying to put myself out there and stepping out of my comfort zone