I love this. My sis keeps sending me job ads but she doesn't understand why I m choosy. I'm always searching for people who understand me. Thanks. My first time and it's great here. Infp t
That an infp/infj ability to write anything in chronological order is factually impossible that putting us on a timeline only produces shotty work because we need it to be our own time & order to deliver the message we intend because it takes time to process what we think and believe in and put it into words to reach the masses or at least the audience we want to see and hear what we have to say. I wish I had known for at least a moment of my life before recently that from the time that I could really process thought and hold memory i knew I was special to this world..it's knowing that comes from the soul that you're different and you're special.. I wish that that could have been known and I wish I could have had it reinforced. It's so hard to know you're special and then be told you're not just to find out you were right the whole time if only people had just paid attention and listened the world could have already started to become & be that better place a long time ago because every NF I know is a spiritually gifted healer, seer, & teacher. If only we could have gotten the attention and recognition that we needed instead of all that help blending in with the background from the ones who don't understand us or by the ones that dislike the reflection they see of themselves while they're around us. Awareness education sensitivity and knowledge on how to protect our energy. A lot of us transmute energy we take negativity in we turn it into light we absorb others pain hurt sorrow and we give them back love acceptance and forgiveness. We are energetic sponges absorbing what is in the darkness to return it to the light to keep this world moving growing elevating and pretty much just sane. I am a very spiritually awoken extremely sensitive astoundingly spiritually gifted infp and I can see very clearly how more than one of me incite massive change and bring so much love into this world
@@dani_spacegaga7376 you are not alone. I have also been searching for that one job that will give me fulfillment. I have options which I have never gotten around to trying. I'm not in a relationship bcos I would hate for my partner to think a just making a fuss about something that's so dear to my heart cos I really will appreciate the support. I think you should try out different options until you find the one fulfilling job. I will pray your husband finally understands this. All the best to us all sis💖
The real struggle as an INFP is being a procrastinator and a perfectionist simultaneously ...then being fustrated with the end result as you know it wasn't what you're fully capable of... resulting in being self conscious about looking incompetent .... struggles
@@aena5995 hahaha I experience it on a daily, but being in my mid-20s and with responsibilities/deadlines continuously piling up I'm SLOWLY 'trying' to get it under control .... not easy!
Not always. I'm an INFP-T and I'm passionate about robots. I'm an engineer... Although, it's been difficult finding the right job for me right now. That's why I'm here.
I'm sorry. Every time people tell me "you're a hard worker" I know it's not true. I know myself, I know how much of a procrastinator I am. I will fake working a lot while not doing what I'm supposed to do. Like I'm doing right now, I should be studying for my super important exam I'll have to give next week. Instead, I'm on the internet, consciously and subconsciously trying to get away from my duties. This is the main thing which I feel divides me the most from INFP-T people. I'm lazy and useless as heck. I'm not like you guys, I *wish* I was like you. I'm a procrastinator in my very soul, and I feel like I can't escape it and I never will be able to change this part of me. I'm doomed to keep faking doing stuff even tho I hate it.
So what's on the other side of you doing the work, showing up, and succeeding that you don't want to face? You seem to acknowledge that you are consciously and subconsciously avoiding that.
@@MsDoryLinda Sorry if my previous message sounded like I wasn't giving the proper merit to your video, I forgot to mention it but I loved it. The only problem I have, the only difference I find between the other INFP-T and me, is the one I mentioned. Maybe I'm not and INFP-T after all... And about your question, I honestly don't know. Even when I try to put my best effort, I end up not doing half of the work I should do in time. And most of the times I don't even face the consequences, because I do all the work at the very last second and end up getting away with it, but I know it's not healthy behavior for me and for my work ethic, and it's not right towards the people who expect something from me and believe in me. I just don't know why I keep behaving like this. I'm so used to falling in the same way, that I ended up almost accepting it, even if I always feel terrible about it.
Now that I think about it, maybe it could be the fact that I consider "putting my best effort and failing" a worse outcome than "putting almost no effort and failing because of it". Or maybe I'm just making up excuses with myself to avoid accepting and correcting my defects. Sorry if I'm bothering you with this.
I didn't perceive any negativity, so no worries at all. I was asking you the question to hopefully prompt a reflection for what might be behind the cycle.
And you are not a bother. This is a safe space where we can all reflect and gain better self awareness. What do you feel would happen if you do your best and fail?
I'm finna cry reading all these comments. It's insane how it seems like I've found a community of individuals that understand me - that I can relate to so deeply. I've been feeling so alone and like something is wrong with me because of the RIDICULOUS procrastination habit that's ruining my life lowkey. It's like this: I know I have potential. I know I'm gifted. I know I'm talented and that if i really work towards that, nothing will touch me. But I still find myself stuck and stagnant because anything I start doing is never good enough. I have so many unfinished songs, poems, stories that I strongly believe would flourish; I don't wanna work for anybody else specifically because of the faith I have in my abilities, but this crippling perfectionism keeps me from doing anything. I'm growing so tired. I don't want to be this way anymore! Fellow INFP-T's, you're not alone.
You are not alone. I'm glad this feels like home. Together we'll keep supporting each other forward ✨ ❤ You can find the support you need here bit.ly/TheBaobabExperience
I am literally in tears right now. I share the EXACT same sentiments, word for word. I’ve spent my entire life feeling alone like no one understands me, no one gets it...I’m in complete awe right now
You're all my people ❤ thank you to you guys and Ms Dory Linda for making me feel like a real person and not a freak of nature. This resonates so much.
Right on! I consider myself a world-class procrastinator. I relate to what the community is saying. Any peeps with ADHD as well? (Blessings to us all every single one! :) Virtual hugs. The self-criticism I/we heap upon ourselves is so harsh. We/I wouldn't think of treating someone else that way. It helps when I remind myself to be present and be the observer or witness of my experience. And breathe into the physical response I'm having to the upset, which can create space from the ego and space for my/our higher self to come in.
@@MsDoryLinda May I ask, Did you have the procrastination problem and how should we do in order to solve the problem? I'm INFP and I have this problem at lot.
I am constantly feeling guilty because I feel like I’m lazy because I’m not where I want to be in life. But at the same time, I’m 34 and still not sure where I want to be lol.
I am in the exact same situation. Im 33 but I'm a mom and I've just been comfortable in that position for so long. I've only worked 2 jobs since I've have my kids and one lasted 6 months because I couldn't afford childcare while working and the other that I'm working right now is just temporary. I just can't figure out what I'm good at and what I want to do. I'm always afraid to choose what to study and do something that could make me unavailable to my kids. I use it as an excuse a lot. Its valid... however they are millions of working mothers that make it work. So why can't I??
@D M you just have to weigh what values will cause you to show up at your best. Each person's journey will look different. You can make a success of any path, but is that the path you'd pursue and find the most contentment in?
That’s exactly how I’ve been explaining to others how it feels to be me. We’ve got a strong sense of empathy thus, consoling others feels natural and rewarding. However, taking in that negative energy is exhausting and sometimes it gets to you. So yeah it’s a double edged sword. Hopefully we’ll master it.
one pattern i’ve noticed is that as long as a job takes away my freedom to work on my own time, or seeks to control and micromanage me, i lose interest really quickly and find myself dreading work. freedom and trust in my ability to deliver is the first thing i look for in an employer.
yes this is why I hate all part time jobs....they micromanage you and order you around, make you adhere to pointless rules. While I didn't resent the work itself, I came to resent all those jobs because of the management.
I agree so much! I just finished my student teaching, and now I'm rethinking my whole career path. I loved teaching/interacting with my kids, and coming up with lesson plans. However, it often whittled down my personal time to maybe an hour at most a day for multiple, consecutive weeks, and I felt so micromanaged by all the bureaucracy that I'm now terrified to actually start applying anywhere.
Yeah, I'd say that hit the nail straight on the head for me. I'm also not a fan of bureaucracy in the workplace. I understand why it's there, I just don't like it. I'm not going to let you speak to me in a certain way just because you're my manager.
I’m an INFP - t and have done multiple courses. I can’t stick out jobs for very long because I get depressed and/or bored. I’m heading back to college now at 25 to become a psych nurse. :)
I'm 26, turning 27 this month and I've been a NICU nurse for 5 years and I've been feeling stagnant for the longest time. NOT THAT THE JOB IS BORING, it's a handful of a job. But I'm just not feeling like it's the job for me.
I'm an INFP, soon to be 30, and going back to University this month to become a language teacher.😅 Scary stuff, but I know that I will grow so much from it. We can do it!!
I notice I'm like this with watching shows. I'll start something and get bored and start watching something else. But then I know I'll have like 30 unfinished series waiting for me so I go back to the series I was watching for a while but then I get bored and don't want to continue the series I started earlier so I start ANOTHER series and the cycle goes on 💀
Hi! Fellow INFP-T here. I think I would remind my younger self that she doesn't have to do something just because people are doing it. I would tell her that she doesn't always have to keep up with people's expectations of her, because she has to learn about and do things in her own time. Another thing I would tell her is to not be disappointed with herself because she thinks she's "behind" some people, when in fact it's just about her tempo, which is a little different than others.
hi, im a 20 y/o INFP-T here and i am thankful that i found your comment. this is extremely relatable and this is exactly what i need to remember. thankyou so much! i hope your life is doing great! ❤️
Wow when I was in my 20's I was definitely lost! Like the tv show trying to get so real world Lol. Seriously though I was tell him 1. Go to therapist sooner to heal from childhood trauma to break from bad habits and thinking distortions 2. Invest time exploring who you are(habits good and bad) if your not happy where you are you have to change your habits. If you want to be where someone is, find out their habits and implement them. 3. Explore hobbies that excite and vibrate you, when you explain these to other people they say your eyes brighten 4. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Start small and realize that after it was done how scared you were and how you over thought it. Your feelings are just a mirror put up to your thoughts good and bad 5. Read more, you always have been interested in everything. It really shows when you speak
Goodness, your number 1 advice is THE biggest hinderance for most of us and we don't even know it. Knowing we can heal, develop and grow is the hope we should hold onto at any stage of our lives, regardless of how deeply imbedded those old narratives are. I'm glad you are so aware of these wonderful insights now.
@@Aliyaaaa no one said you have to. But a lot of people with this type of personality are like this because of childhood trauma or mental health problems. It doesn't apply to everyone :) Or some people just don't want to admit they need help.
This reminds me of all the jobs I left because I felt "incompetent" even though my bosses told me I was doing a good job.... the 20s were fueled with so much self doubt.
Worst for me was getting FIRED for being “incompetent” after I had literally worked my butt off (I had two jobs; my old part time, and new full time job. I was staying up until 1am and getting up at 4am to go to my full-time job) for an entire week. It truly insulted me like nothing else. Like hey just say what you mean and that you need someone else who has a more flexible schedule than I now have. That’d be fine, I don’t want to repeat that week. Don’t say I wasn’t working hard enough or good enough!!!
I relate to this so much! I'm currently 21 and quit a university organization last year that offered a monthly salary. I quit because I messed up quite a lot and while everyone else there told me it was fine, I couldn't bear letting everyone down. I felt like I was just ruining everything and causing trouble. I got so stressed and anxious about it so I quit.
it's reassuring to hear that INFPs take longer to find what they like to or want to do. I've tried things such as translating, interpreting, customer service, teaching and etc, but find that my stress levels go way up despite me loving people. Probably due to overthinking and anxiety. Will be in my 30s soon and kind of lost where to go from here.. but so many other INFPs in the same boat and for once i don't feel as hopeless about my future :D shall keep searching though definitely open to hearing what other INFPs have or are enjoying as their current careers for reference :D
Yes, it's definitely a journey. I have a free mini workshop coming up soon that might benefit you. You can register for it here if you think it aligns with where you currently are us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/2316032088576/WN_3oqQO0LWScCrOwLfUlj-JA
I don't have a career myself but I do know what I want to do with my life. I never had to concern myself with getting a job or an education or etc. It must be hell to have to deal with that stuff, especially for 1D Te folks (IxFx types). I wish everyone could just spend several months (or more) alone, away from the world. Just being in solitude. Not having to worry about getting a career or an education or what have you. That way you'll figure out what you're naturally drawn to. It's the best way, in my opinion. Unfortunately, most people don't get that opportunity.
I don’t have a career (yet) but I’m learning computer programming. It has the same logic as languages and it can also utilise your problem solving and creativity too. Try it out, there’s tons of free/ inexpensive ways to learn it online.
I have been working many jobs, always in direct contact with a lot of clients, teaching, tourism, sales, food and beverage, and the stress and anxiety of being in contact with people nonstop has caused me to have to stop for a long time. All this time for 10 years I was living abroad in a few countries taking life in, but I never found my calling as I had hope. I'm 31 now, and I'm taking this pandemic situation to really seriously search for a career that would suit me. But I honestly can't seem to find anything that really makes me excited, and since it's getting me down I've decided to take a break again and take entirely care of my inner self first. It's a long journey to find a job that suits us! I'm so happy to find that my mbti type can get me in contact with people who feel things so similarly ♡
I'm 21 and an INFP-T, I could say that I'm troubled at many things. I mean, my interest could shift from one thing to another. And that's the reason why I don't stay long at my previous jobs, I already resigned in my past two jobs. I want to do things *all at once* and when things falls short of my expectations, I already consider it as a failure, I already consider MYSELF as a failure. Yea, I'm troubled...in so many ways.
All that you're describing is a common experience for us here in this community. It only becomes troubling, I think, when we think we shouldn't be this way or when we don't know how to make the most of that disposition without becoming something different.
@Jason Casale Yes, explorers! My garage and attic are full of activities, past and present. My office is. And my career is full of things too. INFP-T to the tee. Just full of stuff. Some I got very good at then just quit. Didn't even feel bad about leaving some behind. Some of those I left, I feel terribly guilty because I lost interest too soon or held on too long. I've even quit a business I created for myself recently. That one has me churned up. Give yourself space and time in your natural clock so you can find the inspiration and execution as Ms Dory Linda points out. She put it in an excellent and succinct way.
I just want to be useful without routine, I get bored easily and start to lose my confidence, I think that I am not skilled enough to work somewhere, I overthink a lot and I am afraid of the life. I live in my imagination rather than in reality.
Sameee.. I am an auditor but is currently working as an admin staff under our audit dept head. I am getting bored and loney, although my boss is always praising me.. I felt like I should be doing more than just that.. However, I can't really do anything cause that's where I was assigned.. I'm kind of doubting myself whether or not I can also do what my co auditors do and if I am competent enough.. Some says that I should just enjoy it while it lasts.. And i'm trying to do just that.. But i'm still not feeling at ease.. Most especially because we got the same salaries and they are all busy while i am not.. 😅
What I learned from this video is: don't fight your natural way of being. Don't wish you were a judging type who does everything in a systematic way. Allow yourself to be as you are. Find jobs that will work with you rather than forcing yourself into roles that go against who you are and don't allow you to be your best self.
One thing I read the other day is that you dont need to feel good to take action. That not only motivation leads to action, but that also action leads to motivation. So for me its about JUST DOING IT, just at least get started, and from there, it follows. This procastination is very much linked to perfectionism, that if I dont get it just RIGHT, Im not even gonna bother DOING it, let alone start doing it. But that leads you nowhere and what you are left with is a chronic sense of shame of not living up to your ideals and goals. So, yeah, throwing away perfectionism does help and just START somewhere. (English is not my native tongue, I apologize)
Yes being willing to start somewhere and do so imperfectly is a god place to start. For most free spirited people external motivations don't usually drive or influence internal motivation to keep going. For them the scrip has to flip and they have to draw from accepting what is, and allow that to drive everything else. So it's the internal acceptance stance that then encourages the external satisfaction that then starts a positive loop to keep going.
I wish I could tattoo this comment on my mind so I start just DOING instead of thinking and feeling shame about ALL the things I gotta do but I'm not doing because... procrastination :(
I'm a guy with the INFP-T personality type. I've been in my current career for about a decade. In my 30s I already feel like I've stagnated and settled for mediocrity. I like the idea of being a writer like so many other INFPs however, trying to figure out what to write about is very difficult and trying to figure out how to make a living it from it seems near impossible. I'm honestly sick of working with other people. When I completed the online quiz it told me that I'm 97% intorverted just to give you an idea. I want to feel the joys of success. I want to feel like I'm doing something worthwhile. Just seems so difficult to do. Okay I've vented. Thanks for reading!
As INFPs we're definitely explorers and being in one place for too long can for sure make us feel stuck. One way I'd look at it is you're already experiencing success, having found something that you can apply yourself in for a decade. The joy, I believe, is in completing those phases and moving along when it's time. Which is where you are at right now. Have you come across Lauren Sapala? You can look her up here on RU-vid. I took her mini course in intuitive writing and loved her approach. She works specifically with INFJs and INFPs aspiring writers and I believe she just recently launched another course to teach the business side of things and how to make writing a viable career. I'd recommend her work if that's the route you want to venture into next. Do let me know how this progresses for you, if you can 😊
For the monetisation part : - if you want to write fiction, try putting it into an ebook (Kindle for example) and selling it on Amazon - if you think you would prefer writing non fiction, use Amazon affiliation program: you can write about your passions and put the corresponding links to buy stuff inside or at the end of the article. Learning SEO can help you rank your articles into Google's SERPs. Brian Dean is a good SEO teacher ; his tips work pretty well, from my experience.
I am a 22 year old INFP-T, I recently graduated with a business degree (my family pressured me). I did very poorly (I admit I procrastinated a lot because I felt too anxious and helpless), people treated me like I was stupid and useless. I felt like I was inferior to everyone else. Now I’m really trying my absolute hardest to find my way in life, but because of the pandemic there are too few opportunities out there, especially for someone like me.
Maryna I'm sorry you're having a rough time. 2020 is rough all around. Can you provide a little more content, when you say "finding my way in life" what are you aiming towards and doing at the moment?
Going through the same thing and I’m 25, the pressure is real and it’s been a struggle to not lose hope. But I do hope opportunities open up for you. All your efforts will be paid off for sure. Fingers crossed!
I'm sorry. Yeah it's not good to do what people pressure you to. That's why it's so important to have alone time. To get away from the world, spend several months alone.. And you'll figure out what you're naturally drawn to.
I did a similar thing, but after pursuing a business degree (for similar reasons) for 4 years I quit. Then I had a tough time working random jobs for a few years, but found a different career path that I was actually good at around 25 and did online classes in that area to get a degree and internship. Been doing really well fortunately, but I'm already thinking about switching again 😅 Just wanted to share to give you some hope, times are tough now but you still have plenty of time to find something that works for you. If anything I wish I quit the business degree earlier, but deciding to abandon that idea (and not fall for the sunk cost fallacy that I learned about ha) was one of the best decisions of my life
I take the position that we aren't meant to "fix" but embrace what is so we can learn how to best utilize what we've got. What usually tends to happen is, whatever we resist, persists!! That's why you'll hear me in most of my videos advocating for developing skills to "be" with what is, the duality of our being!
Im 19 as well, personally, I have experienced that being to idealistic isn't the problem, it is more how you use and live it, inside your bubble where everything is perfect or having awarness of the real world and based on that, start idealising the best and possible way.
I feel like I need to sit in a room with everyone in the comments and hear their stories because it's the "story of my life". I'm 34 and before this year I thought every single person was the same. Finding out I was an INFP wrecked me in Feb but also helped me understand myself and forgive myself etc. Even knowing, I still forget that we aren't all alike and judge myself harshly. It's the first time I've heard about the inspired/execute/rest cycle and I need to think more on that.
Welcome to the community. I know you'll continue to feel right at home here. Feel free to ask any questions and I know people here will be more than happy to chime in.
This honestly feels so good. I always felt like there was something wrong with me i couldnt finsih what i started and i was such a perfectionist, my parents enrolled me in so many programmes but i always quit halfway and i feel like im just existing in the world im not living like i am floating or something idk .And one day i came across a personality test and got to know i was an INFP-T and that led me here and after reading the comment section i feel like im finally home. A bunch of people who i can relate to who goes through the same thing i do and who understands me.....and i sometimes hate myself for being an INFP...ah im crying.
Welcome home 🏡 No room for or hating ourselves here. Just loving ourselves as we are and discovering ways to utilize what the world sees as our weaknesses which are actually our strengths.
I’m 19 and i quit college like 6 months ago. I was 1 month into college when it gave me so much anxiety to be there even though i was super excited that i got in. I quit right before i had to do a presentation. It made me feel like something was wrong with me since i’ve always struggled with speaking, like i’m just genuinely bad at it. But in these past months i came to the conclusion that that kind of environment wasnt right for me since i was really stressed out and anxious most of the time, plus i struggled to get to class, i probably skipped half of it. Right now im doing art and trying out new things. I’ve decided to listen to myself more and figure out what’s right for me, that i dont have to force myself into something im uncomfortable doing. This was a lot and i probably over shared but i just wanted to put this out there. You dont have to live by anyone’s standards or expectations. Good luck to other infp’s out there ♥️♥️♥️
I feel exactly what you're going through. Im 19 and being in uni gives me major anxiety. I'm shy and it's hard to speak infront of my peers without my voice sounding nervous/getting really low or my heart racing! Its especially hard when you're in a field the requires u to speak up & work with others🥲I like what I'm doing but at the same time I worry and get super stressed, nervous which makes we wanna quit school most times. Plus my procrastination makes it worse.🤦🏽♀️ I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I hope you are doing well 💓
I am 20 and I too quit my Dental college 6 months ago bcz of all the anxieties,stress, overthinking,uncomfort,hostel sickness that I majorly suffered with.
It is probably not the same situation, still I hope you feel better and can move forward fully. 💖 I suffer from social anxiety and the fact of being in a completely new high school made me feel lost, the people where I live usually have a strong character and I am not like that, it was very difficult for me hard to fit in and ended up dropping out of high school by August this year, now I'm focusing on myself too, I felt like I wasn't ready, I left many things when the pandemic started and I am very prone to nostalgia and melancholy, so I am overcoming the process to start on this new path
I just turned 45 and I’m an artist and meditation teacher and enjoy working for myself. It’s taken a loooong time to get here because everyone said to get a “normal job”. Find what’s normal for you and go for it 👍🏾
Resonate with a lot... but 1 thing that I’m afraid of - if self employed (sounds great though), I would not be able to do anything. Just got lazy if nothing pushes me, no responsibility to other people
I’m afraid of it as well… If someone tells me to do something with a deadline, I’ll do it. I like to be helpful, so I always do everything as best as I can to please others. But if I needed to do something for myself only, I wouldn’t spend my energy to do it. I don’t think I would be able to be self employed, because I need some structure to rely on, have some ground to stand on, and if I could change this structure as I pleased (by being self employed, for example) I would just procrastinate forever.
That's so interesting... so do you think it's the responsibility to others or the structure in and of itself that drives you? If you structure your self employment in a way that you have to show up because you provide a service or product to people, is that the same thing in your eyes?
@@MsDoryLinda The structure keeps me on the right track, and the responsability to others makes me move forward. I think that if I was self employed and really believed that my work was important to someone... Maybe I could do it. But I would frequently have self doubts, like "is it really important?", "Am I really doing the right thing?"... And that would be really exhausting.
"...if I believed my work was important to someone...maybe I could do it..." You know reading your reaponse reminded me of a video I was watching the other day by Sunny Lernaduzzi where she was talking about a value of a $50 bill. She had one on her hand, tore it up, asked if it was still worth $50? Threw it to the ground, stepped on it and asked if it was still worth $50? The answer is, it did, no matter what rough treatment it went through. It didn't lose its value. If I was to translate that into the scenario in our conversation, would $50 cease to be $50 if it was shown to people who didn't know it was a $50 bill? Meaning is the value of who you are and an expression of that determined by others? What if they don't recognize what you've got? Is it enough if YOU recognize what you've got? An even more important question is, do you? Just something to think about 😉 Sometimes we have to be willing to peak behind the curtain and ask what's really hiding behind our thoughts, you know!
@@tedransome2388 aww thanks!! Also hello, fellow NF! INFJs and INFPs are really similar actually, even though our cognitive functions are completely different. But I know one INFJ irl and I'd say we're pretty similar. A few differences are that he tends to absorb others' emotions while I try to understand them and I do that best by trying to relate, or find a similar experience I had and try to understand how the person is feeling that way. Hes also a lot more organized than me, he makes plans for everything and I think he actually feels a bit anxious when he doesn't. I don't mind his plans but I usually prefer to just see what happens. Also he can literally predict the future. How cool is that!!!! Can all infjs do that?? Another major thing is that while we both worry about whether the other person feels like were annoying/a burden/if they hate us, my infj is a bit extreme in that, if i don't text him one day he'll think I am mad at him. And he constantly needs reassurance that i still want him to be my friend lmbo. And also I need to be extremely careful about what I say, if I say smt he doesnt like he will go cold and unresponsive... with me, if you say something I don't like and that goes against my morals, I will still secretly judge you, but I will mask that and try to still be nice and joyful. Another thing is that he shows emotions a lot more easily than I do. I don't know if this is how all INFPs work but I'm just gonna say how I work: so basically when I'm alone I will cry easily and show my emotions, but when I'm with others I will definitely bottle things up. For example, even tho Im good at drama, I literally cannot cry. But if I try at home i can do it in less than two seconds. But in the rare case that I do cry w others, I usually tend to let it all out and cry for hours. For example, one time my Chemistry teacher told me that I had to stick in some sheets... I am not joking when I say I cried for 8 hours straight. And the thing is I think what triggered it wasn't even what she said, it was the way she said it. Lmao, I feel so dumb "ooh i cried cuz my teacher said I have to stick some sheets in my book" djjdbd. But yh so these are the most evident differences I could think of😊 Some videos i feel capture the infp type really well are: - about being an introvert with a colorful mind INFP TPC - AURORA- through the eyes of a child live (shes an infp singer songwriter. Literally all of her music is peak infp lol) -fictional INFP characters volume 2 -INFP-"The Healer" -famous INFPs volume 1 and 2 If I can think of anymore I'll edit this comment😊😊 I hope this helped!! (Also, sorry for any grammatical inconsistencies, I'm not English)
@@vii6429 Hello =D I also think we're similar. Though, I feel like I get more attached to my INFP friends than they do me. You're correct about them with emotions. INFJ's with Ni and Se pick up on what the other person is feeling but might not completely understand it. While INFP with Ne and Si pick up on what the other person might be feeling and can relate because they have experienced it themselves. The planning thing is very very true haha. A couple of weeks ago I went camping with two of my INFP friends and their "planning" was doing absolutely no planning haha. I think I had 3 or 4 anxiety attacks. I think in a way we do have a weird ability to predict the future. That same camping trip we found out we couldn't burn wood for a fire. So, we drove back to town for warm blankets. One of my friends saw a 80$ portably heater and wanted to buy it. I had a bad feeling about it and told him not to. He didn't listen and when we got back to the campsite the heater didn't work! Even the instructions said that sometimes they just don't work. I have no idea how I knew. I also am great at picking out people that we shouldn't keep around. I have a very extroverted friend that loves to meet new people. Over the 6 years we have been friends, every time I've told her that I don't think we should have someone hangout with us that person in some way ends up doing something bad. Some have stolen from us, others have started drama and rumors. Haha you may be right about INFJ's worrying about it more. Even I just said that I think I like my INFP friends more than they like me haha. I also really don't like when someone doesn't respond to my texts but I can wait about a week before my feelings are hurt. That's interesting about how he reacts to hearing something he doesn't like. I react kind of like you, but it's because I'm either trying to figure out why they other person said it or trying to figure out how I actually feel about it. That's also really interesting, it's kind of the opposite for me and my INFP friends. They are always really open with me about their feelings. Where as I don't try to bottle my feelings but I spend so much time focusing on them that my feelings just don't come up. My thoughts usually are like this: "They are already going through so much, they don't need to hear about my problems. I'll talk to them about it when things get better" I don't think INFP's are more likely to cry with no one around though. I'll check them out, thanks! =D Also, your English seems perfect to me!
This is really me INFP-T with HSP. It is hard though. I wanna cry so bad every single day I can't stop overthinking. I keep isolating myself from others because of my HSP. When I do a job that need to be submitted, I work hard like crazy and ignore practical matter like eating, and rest. It is so exhausted to be honest. If I don't make it I feel so useless and self-blamed. Thank you for making this video. I feel like I made wrong choice career in my education. But, I can't turn back😭.
Being a mom is my "main job," as I'm also a writer and massage therapist. Relax, rest and recover is an essential part of daily life for an INFP. I think it's important to have people in your life who understand this need. When my children were young, it was so hard to ask for help in this effort; I remember telling them through a locked door, "Mommy needs alone time." They eventually understood that "alone time" wasn't "time out," but self care, which they are learning about now as older children.
Yes! Mine would follow me even when I go to the bathroom and wait outside the door 🤣 It definitely takes a while to kick in that mommy needs a breather.
I'm 32yrs now and an INFP-T. I've worked I'm so many fields and feel competent until I don't. I get really depressed and burnt out because I have my own way of doing things and it doesn't match with the rest. I've learnt a few things though: a) I'm a quick learner. I can literally do anything I put my mind into. b) My timing is the best. If I just listen to my instincts everything just flows seamlessly. c) Liking to be alone isn't a bad thing.
That's a great observation. Trusting yourself and your gut is really important, I'm glad you've come to that place. When you say you feel competent until you don't, what's making you feel incompetent?
@@MsDoryLinda The fact that they're always new and different fields, so I compare myself with people who've been in the game for way longer and also studied for it.
@@MsDoryLinda Work that has a positive impact on the world. So I decided to apply for work at an NGO that does reforestation because the rate of deforestation where I live, Kenya, has never sat right with me.
Oh hi neighbor 👋 I'm originally from Tanzania 🇹🇿 🙂 So are you developing new skills here or mastering what you already know just applying them in a different area of work?
I'm in my 20s and can actually connect to everything you have said. Things bore me easily. Sometimes I have to keep my feelings to myself for fitting in and that shit hurts. Iam so thankful to you for posting this. Now I have some clarity about my feelings. If you can make another video on Infp careers ( ideal for them) then that would be great. ⭐
I'm so glad you found this helpful Rachna, and it has provided you clarity. I'm of the point of position that "ideal career" for INFP is a fallacy. I might have to actually make a video about that and explain further. But in short, INFPs are explorers and have the need to discover new territories so the best way to find satisfaction is in knowing the best work conditions and not type of job/ career. I cover a little bit of that in this short highlight "Best Careers for INFP Must-Haves! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bZ9YJpIgjI4.html Does that answer your query?
@@MsDoryLinda it's so good to hear someone more knowledgeable confirm what I realized only this year about finding a path: more than a specific job that would be ideal, what I and many need is a job that permits us to live a specific kind of life. It took so long to figure out since the whole world tells us we have to do a job we're deeply passionated by, and so we go through life feeling guilty, inadequate and defective for not being able to find that perfect passion for a job. We do not all work the same. Now that I know, I have the basis of a career strategy that will permit me to continue living the freedom I've lived through my 20s in Asia, and the lifestyle I want to continue forever (for now haha). I'm a bit stuck on what to do exactly even as I had hoped I'd have found my next career by now, but I think I've already made great progress. I mean, I'm actually thinking about going into long studies. That's an insane thought for me already! So I'll cut myself some slack and let myself float around a bit with these new ideas in mind ♡
I’m 20 years old and I’ve always struggled with finding what I want to do in life. If I’m being honest, I never had the ability to deeply think about my future because my early life was all about surviving. Now that I’m here, in college and progressing in life farther than I had anticipated, I realized that I don’t know what I want to do, but I know that I just want to create. I want to create art in so many forms and I want to be free to do that whenever I please, but I’m still stuck in this mindset that I have to have a secure job and that me longing for something else is lazy and irresponsible and I tried so hard to walk away from my idealistic dreams but lately I’ve been feeling like I want to break societal norms and this video was such a refreshing look into my life and how I can successfully conquer who I am and use it to live the life I have always wanted. Thank you so much for this video, it found me at the best time.
An INFP-T here. I'm 30 and just switched jobs, currently on my 8th one. With every job I feel like my hope of 'finding my place' strips away just a little more and I become cautious and even cinical. However my heart so strongly burns with passion to live and not to settle for mediocrity. But then all my explorations tells me (and of course others, because how can I forget what people think of me) that I can't commit, therefore I'm damaged or wrong. Thank you for your video, which ignited self-esteem and belief that I might just be fine and good enough😊
I would say, it’s ok to not have one obvious passion/ thing you want to do for a living. At the end of high school I felt like everyone knew what they wanted to do but me. It made me extremely depressed and fed suicidal ideation. You don’t need to decide what you want to be, just follow things that interest you and your path will lay down before you.
I would tell my younger self that your tendency to do well at jobs because you apply yourself WILL cause jealousy from others. They SEE your potential before you do.But take it in stride and keep going.
Having the ability to do things excellently with seemingly little efforts can definitely run some people the wrong way. So long as you celebrate yourself then that's all that matters 🙂
but be careful with jealous people, they can start a smear campaign against you, mobbing at the workplace etc to push you to resign and unfortunately, when it gets to that point, resigning is the best choice for your mental health and finding a workplace where you don’t get attacked because of your potential
@@FruityHachi Exactly, and THIS is why my original comment was career advice that I would've given my younger self. (Per the Title of the video) In the past I've encountered backlash, opposition and smear campaigns but in my younger days & due to my naivete...I didn't know WHY at the time. All I knew was that I was doing a good job. I didn't realize that my work was outperforming my coworkers...and sometimes my own supervisor. So the goal of my original comment was to provide insight to younger INFP's who may find themselves in similar situations and not understand WHY this was happening to them. But if you feel that you have additional career advice as to HOW to address these types of situations on the job for younger INFP's, then feel free to share that advice.
As an INFP-t, I jumping from one career to another, I am developed with self-criticism, I feel I am not worth enough, I feel i am lazy, I always blame myself working as an IT support, Wintel Engineer, Service Desk Engineer had developed my anxiety and depression, Then, I went to the counselling session, and in the progress of healing myself then right now I'm furthering my studies as counselling students at age 27
I’m currently studying to get into the IT field. While I’m 2 semesters away from graduating, I’m starting to feel exactly what you feel with self-criticism, feelings of unworthiness and laziness. Now I’m rethinking whether I’m even in the right field.
I am currently overwhelmed by the modern era of team work and zoom calls 🤦🏻♀️ my dream is to live in a hobbit house, drink matcha, read books, nap and have a garden 😫
i'm not 20. this video just randomly in my timeline and i just clicked it without thinking any longer because the infp things. then i read all the comments and started crying. thank you for all the advices, i never know those from anyone before. i want to embrace everyone and be thankful, it feels like everyone here understand me and it's nice to know that i'm not alone. i get my motivation back to keep going. thank you all
This comment section is gloriously amazing. It’s making me laugh and cry 😊 INFP you guys are ALL amazing ❤️ You have a purpose, but part of your purpose is to learn how to love yourself unconditionally and to understand your self-worth. I just turned 40 this year and I fully have comprehended this this year! I’m infp and I know this is the core to make you feel fulfilled and happy. Truly happy without others stepping on you. I think when you fully comprehend this and decide to make it THE priority, the rest will fall into place like relationship and career. Don’t worry and don’t give up if you’ve struggled in one or both areas 💝💖💘 you’ll find what you’re looking for! And FORGET everyone who tries to criticize you for liking other things not exactly like everyone else or doing things differently. Who freaking cares!! Do it your way and do it for YOU!! 💞
I'm a 27 year old INFP-T and my life was filled with overthinking, anxiety and self-doubt. I am currently trying to write my master's thesis (please don't feel bad about procrastinating for days or weeks I procrastinated and wasted a whole semester due to the psychological effects of the pandemics) but I really don't have a plan what job to pursue afterwards since I don't feel the connection to my studies anymore as I had in the beginnings. I am also doubting myself and my abilities because I did not really gain practical experiences like working or volunteering. I had many part-time jobs but nothing that could help me for my CV. That's why I always think I am under-qualified and noone would even hire me or if they do they would notice soon that I am not skilled enough to do that job. Doing something that has to do with arts would be my dream but my problem is I don't know how to execute and realize this dream. But seeing theses comments by other INFP-Ts is very refreshing and I hope that we can all strive for the better and lead a fulfilling life which alligns with our values and dreams. Wishing everyone here all the best
I feel like a lot of us INFPS struggle with excessive daydreaming/maladaptive daydreaming. And our parents or family want to force us into medicine, science, or law but our true passion lies with the arts like writing, reading, music, or other forms of arts. Like we want to make a difference in the world, we want to influence it in a major way. We don't just want to waste away our lives with a mediocre job and a mediocre life we want the BEST out of life, we want to live a EXTRAODINOARY life, and we want to live life to the FULLEST. But we also struggle with laziness, unmotivated, procrastination, meeting deadlines, and doing things at the very last minute. We were also called the "gifted child" as we were growing up but later entered high school/middle school/college and realized we have no fucking clue on how to apply ourselves, manage our time, deal with stress, or study properly. A lot of us also have anxiety and depression and constantly doubt ourselves, and feel like we're never doing enough.
Lol I'm 24... and I struggle with ALL of these. I just got a job where I get to work from home. My boss said we should take this quiz. Since I started truly learning myself, every time I've taken it, I've gotten INFP-T. This is so SPOT ON
At 35 I’ve just finally found what I really want to do...Teaching! Teaching what I love, started with yoga and also became trainer at my workplace. I’m receiving positive feedback every day, cause I love teaching and students can feel it!
Ah I recently found out I am an INFP. I’m constantly job hopping and I always feel so bad and Inconsistent because of it. Also my whole family have no idea how to understand/support me! I always feel misunderstood by them but your perspective makes a lot of sense. Thank you for this video!
Fellow INFP-T. I'm 28 and constantly feeling like time is 'running out' because I can't settle. It's so refreshing to know that other INFP-Ts are facing similar struggles and are supporting one-another so much in this comments section and hopefully beyond.
I have known that I test as an INFP for a very long time, and found that I was an INFP-T but still do not quite understand the "T". I write that as an intro to the only statement I am compelled to share: Of all the information that I have read and heard since the 70s, this one has left me no doubt about the fact that I am indeed INFP-T. I fit examples from public school in the 50s until today as I listened to you talk. From my refusal to turn in homework until I finally attended university in the seventies to evidence of my habits this day. I will add that no amount of advice would have had effect on me until sometime in the 80s when I finally realized something was wrong, but did not know how to ask for help, and still don't. Before then, I would have (and did) consider all such advice as excuses and quackery. That means that I was well into my thirties before I began realizing that I wasn't actually a lazy know nothing that could never catch on, despite my high GPA in college.
I'm glad you've received the confirmation that jas resonated with you internally. Perhaps now you can capitalize on your gifts with more ease and openness.
😅😅 I'm convinced the odd one or two dislikes are from the same person...and sometimes they invite a friend to do the same. I get the one dislike in any video I mention freedom from employed work. That must be the trigger for them 😄
Wow! I just learned about these personality types and I am an INFP myself! I was shocked all throughout this video how ACCURATE this is. I'm 25 and I thought I was alone that I was the only one who felt like this and I was discouraged and started wondering what was wrong with me because living in a world like ours it is hard to find our place. This video helped me so much! Thank you! 💕
I’m an INFP-T , i day dream a lot and I end up procrastinating but it’s in my day dreams taht I come up with the best ideas... I have studied architecture and through the course I realised I have good ideas taht come to me while i day dreams but I procrastinate a lot and don’t get the work done to show other people.. and have half assed sheets at the end of each Sem this stressed me out and I got burnt out.. not sure what I should do anymore.. because new ideas while day dreaming is what I’m good at.. currently going through a major health crisis which started cause of the stress I took.... people at college misunderstood me and I was ignored by the teachers and I did not feel validated as they failed to see me and my work or give credit... I helped my friends with their designs in college and they got the credit but I can’t help myself Edit: I’m 25 and lost, confused with a very bad health problem.
I'm sorry it feels rough. One thing you can take from this is knowing where the tipping point is with work so you don't cause yourself health issues. Day dreaming in and of itself doesn't seem to be what's holding you back. I'd encourage you to look into what's holding you back from just showing up? What don't you want on the other side of success?
Oh my god. I am an architecture freshman as well. I am literally going through what you are going and I feel so empty and numb and overwhelmed. I daydream so much as well. I just gonna cry cuz I can't believe I found people like you who are in the same situation as I am.😊😭😊😭
I will be turning 19 this year and still don't know what I want to be. The major that I chose is stressed me a lot, I feel like I want to get out from the college, but my Asian parents would not allowed me to do it. I just realized that I'm not good at teaching people, rather I'd like being the listener from being taught by people. Day by day passed until today. I have no motivation to do things, even the thing that I love the most; drawing. I feel so lost now, simply wake up in the morning and waiting for the night to come. If only there's something that would make me feel joy again, feel alive again... Btw, thank you very much for this video ma'am 🙏🏼
I'm an INFP - T and unfortunately, I feel like it's set me apart a lot in my life and no matter how I tried to express myself about the trauma and pain I was going through people would tell me I was lying and overreacting, and still do. I'm neurodivergent, have CPTSD and Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and this has been a struggle of mine to know what to do and where I fit in career-wise. Slowly but surely I've been working on my own on learning as much as I can about software and game development and 3d concept art and animation. Finding success while also being able to take care of myself and my disabilities would mean so much to me. Thanks for making these videos!
i’m an INFP-A and i am a certified vinyasa yoga teacher. everytime i teach a flow, i have this feeling of “I wouldn’t rather being doing anything else, this is my calling.”
It all resonates with me. I'm late 40's now, and I've spent a career fleeing from one job to another wondering why I was either overwhelmed or bored, and a job well done was never enough.
I never thought I will find my type of people on the internet.. but here I am whatever you said was exactly true but I just can't seem to find the right career I took science in my junior college and hated it but somehow passed then I took IT for my bachelor's degree those three years were full of depression I took 2 years of gap to completed the final sem that too only one subject.. in that gap years I worked for data entry, another year full of self depression finally I thought I want to become a video editor, did the course and left that damn job found a wonderful place to work, met good colleagues but the boss an asshole, got fired and now I am again at square one.... I got no idea what I want to do. and I get bored of things really quick so nothing stays for too long.
I'd start with reframing the experience you're having. You've had an opportunity to explore and eliminate what's not working. The next step will be to dig a little deeper and see what about those opportunities did not work for you. That will provide you a framework of what to avoid going forward. So start there. I've heard someone say it's not going around in circles but it's going upwards in spirals. Each next step in building off the ones before it.
Sooooo i have BPD and i thought it would be dumb to take my personality test bc well, yk but today i did and i just found out I'm an infp- t. I could NOT be happier, I've been demonized for me personality disorder but so many people have AMAZING things to say about us infp- t's and it's made me all smiley and happy. Coming to this comment section i can't believe i FINALLY found my people!! Did you know we are rare? Only 4-5% of the world has our personality type!
I usually burn out at jobs but I find moving around laterally, switching jobs internally, solves the problem. When I've made the circuit I can start again. I try to live a simple life and not be materialistic. This frees up my time and resources to let me pursue any other interests I have.
I can relate the video and the comments soo much. From childhood, I have always been a confused soul and always lost in my own imagination. When everyone around me know what career they fit properly, I don't know what course to take after a year when I have to apply for it. Being an INFP is hard and it gets more harder when some close people around you don't understand the battles we go through in our minds everyday.
I'm in my middle thirty's and I totalny agree. I'm an artist and I have been looking for my perfect self expression for my whole life. I have tried many different jobs (graphic designer, computer game artist, illustrator, e.t.c). Each of them taught me something, and I'm very grateful for it, but I feel the best while I work for myself, doing art I love, even though it doesn't gives me financial security. I struggle witch procrastinating while I work on commission project. Right now I should do illustration for my client, but instead I'm watching movies on RU-vid :) I don't have that problem, when I work on my own art. I can sit and carve linocut for 8 hours straight without getting up (which isn't good fot my back). And as a perfectionist I'm never really satisfied with my completed works... I love doing them anyway:)
This comment section is my comfort corner on the internet. Wow. It's like reading your own journal. I wish I could give you all a hug and a handwritten note haha. I hope we all can get through whatever doubts and challenges ahead of us. I'm in my early 20s and feel like I'm so left behind. Sometimes I feel like it's because I don't try hard enough to find a job. My self-doubt definitely plays a huge part in job searching. I have so many interests but it seems difficult for me to commit to one thing and finish it and it turn I feel guilty because I feel like it's all my fault that I'm not where a lot of my friends are. Sometimes I wish was more practical. Thank you Ms Dory Linda for giving us the platform to share our story and a place the keeps us grounded
All of this resonates with me. As an INFP-T, I have struggled with procrastination, and at the same time striving for perfection as I race to get things done. I also know that I need to keep a schedule because I tend to do better with one, yet, I procrastinate getting it started, and sticking with a schedule. I buy journals, planners, want to do vision boards, but then I worry more about the creativity of the vision board rather than the visions on the board LOL!
Yes perfectionism procrastination is a beast, a vicious cycle. I definitely do better with a schedule for guidance and using the 40/70 rule to determine when something should ship. Internal work focusing on the driver of the perfectionism has been a huge help for me. Has this hugely affected your life or just an inconvenience?
it’s the fact i’m 13 and watching this because i am already stressing out about what i want to do in the future. whenever i settle on something i want to work towards i start questioning my choice and in the end choose another job to try studying on.
The part that trips most people up is the illusion of having ONE job they think they'll do forever so they feel the pressure of "they better choose wisely". If you're a creative, intuitive, idea person, chances are you'll have several and possibly diverse paths. So when you are choosing, choose one you think you'd want to start with and know you will most likely explore other options down the road.
Im an INFP-T and a Certified Public Accountant, and i don’t wish an infp to pursue a CPA career. I’ve been in and out of jobs not lasting 2years in any of my job be in public acctg, private companies, and even government. My profession stressed the hell out of me. The routine, the fixed 9-5 or even longer working hours, the meetings, the paperworks. Gladly, now im working as a teacher and feeling more fulfilled and happy than when i held high paying audit jobs. Indeed, infp is not meant for a routinary office work.
I'm 35, and work in accounting right now. I somehow managed to get the position without any college degree, only internal recommendation since I was in another area of our company prior. I was so thankful to be able to switch to this department, but feel like I'm just not living up to where I should be. I procrastinate continually, I don't think I'm up to par, and I feel like a fake just barely making it all the time. It seems as though I could get fired at any moment, though my logic tells me that's an extreme and unwarranted thought. I worry that I got this opportunity to be in the department, but that I'll end up hating it because it's not even close to any of the creative jobs I would love to actually be doing, but don't have the confidence or talent to pursue. Someone stuck their neck out for me to get this new position, and I've been working here for half a year and feel my chest getting heavier. I don't want to let the person down if I switch jobs someday. They thought they were getting me in the door for a forever career. I just don't know where I want to be, and how to even get there. I had a recent opportunity to potentially become a tattoo artist apprentice, I just needed to submit a portfolio. I didn't have one put together, but I could have cobbled something to present within a couple of days. But I didn't. It's been two weeks and I still haven't moved to help myself. I find myself continually self-sabotaging and I get so frustrated with myself for it! :(
I'm a 35 yr old INFP-T and currently making a career path change. So much of what you say rings true for me. My current goal with this next step is to have the time to figure more of my own stuff out. I got so lost and overwhelmed in my last job and never felt like I could ask for help in the right way that I really need to step back and reassess how I am doing things.
I work as a kennel assistant for the local animal control shelter and have for the past three years since I graduated high school. I am rather thankful that I have a job that is very interesting, and while it has a rather consistent schedule, you never know exactly what you're going to deal with that day, so I have yet to become bored with it. When I face struggles at work, it's typically concerning people: either we have had a busy day and I'm overwhelmed and get no time to recharge; or there were rather mean people who are just extremely rude and I'm just feeding off that negative energy; or maybe I'm under the impression one of my coworkers or supervisors is upset with me because I was probably reading too much into their tone. Thankfully, the lines of communication are very open when it comes to the rest of the staff members (especially my supervisors), and after I expressed the anxiety and judgement I was feeling, I was reassured that they didn't mean it like that. So whenever I'm having a rough time and think they are upset with me, I just repeat their assuring words from prior conversations to ease my worries.
I wish I would have found this out so much sooner. I feel like I've spent my entire life feeling misunderstood and beating myself up for it. Thank you for clarity and understanding.
I am 67, retired now. I do wish I had heard this when young; all my life I was trying to squeeze myself into the wrong job situation. I did find the most satisfaction when working on my own business. And there are so many great comments here, very true for me. Thank you.
You had me in tears by 3:37. Last year I suffered from burnout because I was giving and supporting others while my own energy had been drained for years and I hadn’t allowed myself to recharge or ask others to stop please stop draining my energy. I felt so far gone from myself and couldn’t recognize myself anymore. Thank you for this video and explanation. I’m almost 32 and truly struggling to find a job that is worthy of my ideals and standards. I tend to be good at whatever I do because of the perfectionism but it brings me no joy. To the contrary. Whenever I feel like I am not learning or doing anything of value, I quit. I change careers desperately searching for somewhere to apply myself. Thanks for opening my eyes to the fact that being self-employed might actually be what is most in line with my personality. Thank you a million times.
I'm so glad you found this helpful. As a recovering perfectionist I can attest to the fact this trait robs us of many joys. That's why I was really passionate about developing the mindset program to help people like you and me to recalibrate out mindset and find joy and direction in our lives. Be on the lookout for when I open the doors again in spring to joining the program, if that would be of help to you.
I'm INFP-T and I spent years trying to succeed in so many different career paths and never feeling fulfilled. I know everyone says this is not a career or a goal to aspire to but now I am a housewife and I feel happy and purposeful, and raising my kids and my home is what I always wanted to do with my life. People say it's wasted potential because I did so well in school but I don't think it's a waste if it's what makes me happy. My husband is ISFJ-A and I feel like our personalities match up perfectly and we compliment each other well, and learning about personality types really helped us connect even more
I know exactly what you are describing here. I was a stay at home mom with my youngest until she was about 3 years old and loved it. And people used to ask me the same questions. Living in a society that derives our sense of value from what we have or do, is really difficult for many to understand when others don't measure things in the same way. I'm glad you have found contentment within yourself. That's usually the hardest part and you're there already.
Just took the personality test earlier today and I gotta say that this video has actually helped me realize some things about who I am and how I maybe shouldn't be too hard on myself. It's probably going to take a while until I'm fully able to not be so hard on myself, especially when it comes making art. I will legitimately lose sleep over the smallest mistakes that most people tell me they didn't even notice. Realistically, I should be proud of my accomplishments this past year like improving my drawing skills, finding my art style, losing a ton of weight, etc. However every step I take towards improving never feels like it's enough. In my mind, everything I do sucks and I'm hoping to eventually change that outlook.
I'm finding myself checking out all these videos about INFP-T (that which I am), to feel better about myself, or to understand what's going on, or find some help. I'm completely lost at the moment. I turned 25 a month ago, I graduated in a Translation degree at university, yet I REALLY DON'T feel like doing anything close to translation. I dropped out of a Masters degree in literature that was depressing me at the highest. I have all these dreams and aspirations and ambitions, but I have zero motivation to do anything. I want to try to get my head into acting, but I just stay in my room not doing anything. I feel like there’s a lot of things I could do and I am capable of doing. I have this ideal version of myself in my head that I know I can be if I just tried. But I don’t try. I just can't discipline myself and I'm wasting my time. Thank you for the video, I thought it was well put together, but I'm not even sure if I can incorporate advices and help at the moment.
This is such a huge help! I just graduated college for engineering and have been at my new job for about a year. When I was in school I actually loved engineering (I think most INFP's would think of it as being way too technical to interest them). But in school, assignments vary a lot and I was able to pursue personal projects I was passionate about on my own timeline. Like you said Inspiration, Execution, Rest. I landed a great job at a big company but I felt like all my passion for engineering vanished. Now I realize the job is just a perfect storm of bad aspects for an INFP-T: very time sensitive, very beauracratic. The negative self talk especially can be a real struggle in that environment. I felt like I was going crazy for struggling so much, now it makes sense! I am incredibly lucky to have a great supervisor who's been very supportive since I'm new and still learning. I'm going to stay at this job to save up, because long term I think you're right that self-employment is the main option that will work for me in the end. Thanks again, this really helped a lot
Yes, most of the time the misalignment is with the work environment and not the type of job. I'm glad you found something you're passionate about and you can now work towards doing working the craft in a way that aligns with you best.
This video and the comment section feels like a big hug for me which i desperately need right now . Seeing these comments made me feel that I'm finally understood and I'm not alone who's like this. I'm 23 yrs old , graduated with a good degree but barely . I've never accomplished anything, i always procrastinate and telling myself whatever i do won't be good anyways so I just don't do it . I kept doing this for 5 years, doubting and being hard on myself till the point i lost all the confidence I have left. I lack patience and consistency. I always start doing things then get frustrated early on and just give up , cause I end up daydreaming about the end result and don't consider the work I have to put . Like when I first started losing weight and showed really good results, I gave up midway and went back to the start point . When I see people who are gifted and talented, I wish I can be like them without acknowledging their dedication and hard work they put in . The thing she said about being hard on yourself and negative self talk is so true to me , cause i always see the bad in me , I don't know how to express myself or thoughts in a healthy way. From when I was young , all I do is day dreaming about my life and imagine things .but since I started working and meeting different people, I realized that I live in a bubble out of this world. Right now I work 2 jobs , having social anxiety , everything overwhelmes me till the point I cry everyday. I feel that I'm lost, confused, useless and everyone around me seems to have it all while I'm being inferior to them. And i can't get out of this cycle. Yesterday i cried to my mother for an hour and didn't know what to tell her ! I just wish someone to tell me that I'm okay and that it gets better .
Everything resonated indeed =D. The neccessarity for rest and acknowledgment for self evolvement is something I been seeing the last 2 years. I am 28 years old now. One of the struggles I think we INFP-T has is self doubt.
Thank you so much for sharing this, I'm 21 now and I'm starting on my journey to get where I want in my career. Although I'm still at the beginning, the most important advice I'd tell my younger self is to NEVER do 2 jobs, because you NEED TIME TO RELAX. I can't stress this enough.
Hi, once again...this video nailed all the problems I face as a twenty year old. Super relatable. Thank you for the insight. It feels like I have a person to share my thoughts. Honestly, people don't understand me, including my parents. I always thought that i am not in the right mind but now I know I am just different from the rest.
I just found out that my personality has been designated as INFP-T. At 33, I'm over not understanding why, what if, and how. I don't know where this information will lead me, I just know I'm grateful to be here.
Oh my god. I can't tell you how beautiful everything here is. From the video to the comment section. I relate to everything so much and boy, was I about to tear up listening "You don't acknowledge yourself"
When u said about people not understanding why you could only have two clients, I could only do two clients max as an aromatherapist and some days I would run out at the end of my shift feeling trapped. I felt like a freak, didn't stay working there long... I put my energy in my 20's and 30's into being the best mum I could, felt overwhelmed at how much I felt I had to fix, felt I should also have been working and home educating, also had a partner dealing with mental health issues, I'm now 40 and having to tell myself it's not that you didn't work and have failed at self employment, you have done your best in your career as a mum and supportive partner and now you need to find your way to support you, your success, your creativity and learn how to thrive just being you....
Oh you nailed every single point! I'm turning 32 soon and I'm just too hard on myself. I always feel lazy and feel like I'm not doing enough, while since age 17 I'm working the whole day, now I have two jobs + I'm studying + still doing Chores at home (when I'm not too tried for this) and still I constantly have the feeling I'm not doing enough. We really should not be so hard on ourselfs!
We really shouldn't. I used to feel the same until I started tracking my day and logging in all that I did to then realize I put in a lot of hours. I provided myself proof I wasn't lazy 😆
I need this! Thank you so much. I'm 18 and an Infp-t. I'm really struggling right now. I don't know anymore what to do with my life. It feels like i killed my own self. I used to dream big but now things has changed. I'm just 16 when i lost my mom and things start to change slowly since then. That's the biggest downfall and that i never wanted to happen. But it happened so soon. She was my best friend and she always know what i needed. I still couldn't think of any reason why she had to leave. Since then my life keeps falling apart. Right now, i've found my people but because of college i have to be far away, and it just feels the same with my mom. It feels like a big part of me is being taken away again. And it really really aches my heart. I want to know why everything has to be like this. Uuuuhhh i think i overshared, sorry i got carried away. Btw, thank you to your channel Ms Dory Linda! How i wish i can afford to have a talk with a mental health professional just like you, i really need it that's why i'm here. I think i'll come back here often. Thank you so much!💖
You definitely have not overshared, this is a safe place and we'll hold a safe place for you to unburden and find some relief. When you say you lost your mom, has she passed away or just no longer involved in your life?
@@MsDoryLinda she passed away when I was 16, and because of that I have to take responsibility of the family. As I am the eldest child here in our home, because my two elder sister are far from us for their studies too. Thank you for replying😍
20 year old INFP-T here :) These are definitely things I have noticed in myself before but this was a really good reminder, thank you! Definitely see myself as lazy despite other people not seeing that 😅
