*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these RU-vid videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together. Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc. ... *READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:* I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions. Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration. I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation. I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability. ... *HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH* Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense. This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months. If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes). These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my RU-vid videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship. If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me. I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path. I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations. I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required. By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations. I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together. RU-vid is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material. Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions. ... *SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:* The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time. Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday. If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time. IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.
So grateful for this video jordan. Thank you for sharing this with us. For me my childhood and teenage years were the most traumatic especially my teens,as this is where i experienced a lot of sadness pain and grief loosing my grandad at 11 then my mum at 13. I wasn't particularly close to my mum but we did reconnect breifly before sadly she lost her battle to cancer and it just got worse from there. Had no idea how to process that grief apart from drinking taking drugs infidelity and of course anger. Thankfully I've been able to get some clean time and with the help of the 12 steps and your videos aswell as other usueful videos on RU-vid ive began to peel back these layers and work on my inner wounds. God bless and thanks again. You truly are a diamond 🙏💙
What about the role of siblings in the emotional development. I had the parents showing up very differently for my other siblings. I was the eldest and I don't think they were stable in their relationship when I was very young. But my entire emotional experience as a child was also being triggered by seeing these 2 younger ones being treated very differently and it really led me to isolate and shaped my sense of very low self worth. What surprises me is that I'm very close to my siblings as an adult and even during childhood I really needed the idea of them being my "friends" to survive.
Started reading home coming today and had a meltdown of grief that over poured me knowing the truth of my dis function of my family patterns. Love your book recommendations!
The most transformative aspect of my inner child work was when I started to witness aspects of my inner child reflected within the inner child expressions of my parents, grandparents and great grand-parents. The trippiest never-ending Russian doll 🙃
I started doing inner child work as a mother of a 7 year old boy, it was both amazing and terrifying. I’m going to purchase the parenting books you’ve suggested. I don’t always show up as my most ideal mother self (I am also a single parent) but being informed has been so helpful. I’m wondering if you have videos about traumas that we pick up in adulthood? I’ve struggled with relationship traumas since I was 16, and recently at 28 had a realization that I needed to look deeper into it (which led me into inner child work) Now, a few years later, I feel like I’d like to be working toward relationship again but from all the trauma in my late teens and especially my 20’s I find myself retreating from the forward movement to the comfort of my own space.
Very powerful, thanks for sharing some of your story and healing your family too. Many of the videos on this channel are about adult trauma - some of the relationship ones especially, check them out.
I just started reading the book 'It didn't start with you' by Mark Wolynn. After just starting to read this book, I thought ,,wow, it's a must-have in the bookshelf!" The topic is family trauma and how it can affect generations and the DNA. It isn't always easy to read, I struggle with the biological explanations, but it's worth it. I gain some more informations, reflections, and a deeper understanding as well as compassion. And also impulses for my own inner work.
What an amazing video and concept. Thank you so much. I have trouble in active imagination, like when I do visualization meditations to find the root of an emotion, sometimes it's just nothing! For example I want to work on feeling jealousy towards someone, I don't know why I have this intense jealousy mixed with rage... I try to find which part of me is related to this emotion. But I don't get a clear memory or picture from childhood. What should I do to help with this process?
Screenshotted, and I see what I can do. In the meantime - just keep going. I'm not sure how many times you've sat down for formal active imagination, but I wouldn't worry if you're under 20 formal sets. It takes time to gain the discernment skills, but it does build.
I was hoping for the crucial difference in approach (maybe example?) of how to work with todler and teenager on sadness, depression, feeling „dead inside”. Sadly, I didn’t understand what’s the difference. Also: can you make a video about Basic Perinatal Matrices (BMP - Stan Grof concept), and how to move through them? How the heck break through 2, into 3, and fight our way into 4? Maybe something need to be said about Rebirthing? After reading Stan Grof „The Ultimate Journey” it gave me clear understanding that I’ve been stuck in second BPM my whole life. Just wondering what do you can share about moving through these matrices.
I'll see what I can go about the BPM conversation, and I'm sorry to hear of some recent difficulties. Have you read both of the inner child books yet? They answer your question throughout, especially Homecoming by John Bradshaw (each age is addressed independently, highly recommended)
Yes, I've read Homecoming by Bradshaw and it's a phenomenal book. Escpecially with all the exercises and meditations in there. Bought it because you recommended it many many videos ago. I've found some answers to my question there. My critique was mostly about this videos content, because I want you to become a better creator. Before I watched it, I was hopefull and excited for specific examples in difference in approach. To me that's the thing it was lacking in. Cheers mate, all the best and thanks for considering BPM conversation. @@jordanthornton
Yes, I've read Homecoming by Bradshaw and it's a phenomenal book. Escpecially with all the exercises and meditations in there. Bought is because you recommended it many many videos ago. I've found some answers to my question there. My critique was mostly about this video content, because I want you to become a better creator. Before I watched your take on the topic I was excited and hopefull for specific difference in approach, to remind myself about book's message. Cheers mate, all the best, and thanks for cinsidering BPM coversation. @@jordanthornton
@@jordanthornton Yes, I've read Homecoming by Bradshaw and it's a phenomenal book. Escpecially with all the exercises and meditations in there. Bought is because you recommended it many many videos ago. I've found some answers to my question there. My critique was mostly about this video content, because I want you to become a better creator. Before I watched your take on the topic I was excited and hopefull for specific difference in approach, to remind myself about book's message. Cheers mate, all the best, and thanks for cinsidering BPM coversation.
I see your answering questions and I’ve always had this question about active imagination. It involves my shadow self, I’ve integrated my shadow self so much in my life to the point where I most of the time hear his voice and imagine him. It’s a good thing yes I know but I feel like I’ve made him so conscious in my life he is all I see in my active imagination. Maybe perhaps I’m doing something wrong or I’m overthinking things what would you say about this. I want to be able to see other characters and things in my unconscious during active imagination not just the shadow. I do not know if I phrased everything right but anywho thank you for taking the time to read the question
My best generalised guidance is that our 'shadow self' is never a singular figure - there is an entire shadow territory, which means that it's never just a singular voice (you describe 'him') - so this is likely to be just one part. You'll get a lot of value from my shadow work playlist and recent video on active imagination too - get the books also, they'll really clarify things. Hope this helps.