Inside the mind of the INTJ 

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"My surroundings are boring but I gotta fake reactions so that I look normal in the eyes of other people." ~INTJ Edit- Boring not in a narcissistic way but boring as in finding it difficult to mingle with people and situations. It's always disappointing to people when I don't react in the way they expect me to be. And it's considered weird and sometimes abnormal and sociopathic, right? We can't be straightforward as well because the truth always hurts to people and we know that very well. But we are also mostly the ones to tell someone bad news and that makes us look like a person with less emotions and weird. I also know when to say sorry but because I'm often right people get annoyed. My surroundings are always predictable so I know when to fake just to look "normal" because that's what the society wants you to be, isn't it?? SO, IF YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO GOT IRRITATED BY MY COMMENT, THEN JUST IGNORE IT. NO NEED TO RETORT. I GET IT!

I think INTJ women have additional internal struggles because we often are viewed as more "masculine," so many of us feel the need to overcompensate by going out of our way to be nice. It gets exhausting sometimes.

At the core of every Intj is an extremely lazy individual. We want to optimize our lives so greatly to the point where we don’t have to ever worry or think. We’d rather put in an insane amount of planning and energy into something now so that it pays dividend for us in the future.

It's funny because INTJ's are mostly described as these supervillain robots, but in reality I've come to know they're actually really kind, intelligent people whom I get along with very well.

It's worth pointing out that INTJs are the most likely of all types to get interested in the MBTI. We want (perhaps even NEED) to understand everything...including ourselves. Our Fi makes our emotions and inner workings somewhat enigmatic to us, but then we hear someone else explain it and the light clicks on. To a personality type that is not used to being understood, by themselves or others, it can be illuminating--and somewhat creepy--to hear someone explain the way their mind works.

"An INTJ has two choices, become the villian, or become the guide." Heard it from somewhere, and I'm holding onto it ever since. (Ik it's highly stereotype but it's a thing for sure.)

"They are happy about the future of mankind, as long as they are the ones in charge." I couldn't agree more. Give me the power, I will create a global Utopia.

'I'm surrounded by idiots' -Me.

INTJ: “I could listen to you talk (and repeatedly pause the video to deconstruct and consider the implications) for hours” 👏👏👏👏

INTJs: Assemble!

When you said that INTJs despise having to react to something in a specific way. That is so true. When I was little I despised birthdays simply because there would be presents and I would feel pressure to be happy and excited about presents I didn't know if I would be excited about and that gave me so much stress I decided to not have birthday parties. Even now I only enjoy receiving gifts if I can be authentic. If I hate the gift I wanna say it and have the person not be upset. I have to really trust the person for them to give me a gift.

Least female friendly apartment, sure, unless the female in question is INTJ. 😉

As an INTJ, I always think about how to achieve my dreams in the most righteous way possible. But when I try to work over something, I always observe what happens around me. Through my observations, I always come up to the same conclusion - everything we do for this thing called life is fake, dictated by the society. Freedom is not real because since you were a newborn, the society has embedded unto you a certain way of thinking and behaving. Heck, I think I'm not an INTJ because I'm an INTJ. Becoming an INTJ has been influences by things I've learned and experienced. That means I am an INTJ because the society made me to become one. I dont know if that makes sense but yeah.

Feelings are controlling and irrational. They don't follow reality, nor morality. You cannot see what's real if you're angry, sad, happy or scared. They create illusions. But I realize, there is no mind without heart. If you didn't feel, you wouldn't care to think. There is a time and place for opening your heart. We usually do it in a comfortable environment. That is why we value home so much. You are more likely to catch your irrationality when you are alone. I've chosen to live for morality. What I've noticed is the ignorance of people. Choosing to step into peoples lives constantly is dangerous, every action you choose in your life is out of control, you're bound to affect someone negatively. The one thing I'm still unsure of. Is it better for people to live blissful ignorant, or hopelessly aware?

See, it's a very simple answer, if you're confused whether you're an INTJ or not. :- You're different, so much different. You feel like An alien, people think you're, but also you have a confidence that you can do something great other than just being a thinking statue all the time. Keep improving.

*I've never thought about writing my name on the moon before........*

Oh yes. Female INTJ here. I especially resonated with the technology part. I see technology as being wonderful but I always foresee it being used badly. So am I a technophile or a technophobe? *L*

"Happy with the future of mankind, as long as they're in charge" Basically, yeah.

I'm ENFP with INTJ partner. He keeps me on balance, he is very calm, down to earth, rational, methodical. A very good listener. He gives me the stability I need, never had any reason to doubt his commitment and devotion. On the other end, I keep him lively and open to possibilities. I'm passionate, a free spirit, talkative, adventurous and curious. I make sure he has a social life as well, although I also have a need to retire from social life, so I'm not too pushy. I'm true and sincere, the open-book type with hidden chapters he always loves to explore. We share many hobbies, we love to discuss about anything, and he told me I "opened his eyes and expanded his world". Thanks to me he is more in touch with his emotions, while thank to him I find a safe place when my emotions take over. I really saw a transformation in both of us during the years; we both became more stable, lovely, health and overall better people. We have our differences but our communication and chemistry is so good, they are not a problem for us. His pet name for me is "my little ray of sunshine" and I absolutely love it. Best relationship ever, can't wait to spend my life with him.

im Enfp my bf is intj even he looks cold and doesnt really like to talk about feelings,i see (and observe) that he has sensitive soul and lovely heart and i respect tht he wants to have a guard about feelings on outside and wanna live his feelings inside and i respect him when he wants space.i see who is he in his eyes and i have intj friend beside my boyfriend.i love intjs as an enfp. yes they are complicating but worth to know.dont judge them on the outside as robots,they are wonderful❤

I think we INTJs need to project our will into the environment/external world

I can't agree more with this video being an INTJ myself. It feels nice to be recognised as a personality type rather than a weirdo.

Me as an intj reminding my self to smile so I don’t scare others off

Into a mind of INTJ ..You don't want that trust me 😂

Yes, one of my weaknesses used to be “not knowing how to jumpstart my big ideas”. But, at 40 now, I’ve learned to be my own “motive power”. I create the vision, put together the plans, gather the resources (human or capital), and start and get going. What comes across as “procrastination” is really a high level, “unconscious processing & gathering” of information. We run “tests” for possible flaws in our mind way before we even disclose our plan to others. Once the plan is revealed, trust me, it’s perfecto. I guarantee it. Although, we don’t make “B plans”, but if our current plan runs into a wall, we automatically recognize the “variables” at play and we did consider those too and no worries, HER IS A NEW PLAN. Wow, you say! How do you do that? Well, I ask myself the same question. Those who know me either fear me or have reverence for me, not that it’s even necessary. It’s something I’ve noticed. I will always have the last laugh, if you mess with me. WE ALWAYS HAVE THE LAST LAUGH because we know and shit coming across the Atlantic Ocean. 😂🤣. It’s kinda “uncanny”. My mind makes its own plans to save me and help me without my conscious involvement. It’s like having an “omniscient/omnipotent” mentor/bodyguard. I always feel safe no matter what is going on around me.

This explains my need for world domination. It also makes sense you have an INTJ friend being an ENTP.

Hi INTJ gang, female here Long story short of my experience grown up like this: “bookworm weirdo who tries to correct and teach everyone the right way to do things just to realize they are surrounded by idiots” All my life I've been feeling quite bad for thinking of myself as superiorly intellectual lol, but it is really nice to know it's not as bad as I thought and of course, as well as fictional characters (which I love), THERE'S A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE ME It's comforting And yes we are lazy (I read some other comments saying this) I rather work with my mind than doing stuff involving humans

"The project he's been working on, every day, for years...." >_> I'll finish it eventually...

Another spot on video, continues to fuel my fond for the INTJs. Being the chaos that I am, I'm fascinated with their ways of setting order to their environment. I also find them quite gentle and caring despite the bluntness (I'm INTP)

'If they're gonna put effort in, they want it to be worth it' THANK YOU. Seriously, I don't have the time and energy. If I do, I'm gonna make damn well sure that it works perfectly on the first try. -INTJ

The intuition part is quite accurate. When I work in a group project, I formulate everything but somehow, I don't really know how... It sounds like a cumbersome job to some of the people in the group or sometimes they enter the state of utter bewilderment. When in reality they hadn't been listening to the actual plan with any signs of seriousness. After systematically planning I don't ever double doubt myself. The only time I double doubt myself after planning is when others are questioning my way of thinking and repeatedly stating that, "Planning is unnecessary." Even if we have got ample time in our hands! (It's because they don't tend to think analytically. In my opinion obviously.) Which isn't really helpful, it builds a lack of coordination within the group. So in such cases, I start making prompt decisions. Nonetheless, my precise initiation does what it's meant to do and I find it to be absolutely delightful! I love to see other people's faces when I prove them wrong and then they also realize that I was right the whole time! Thanks for reading this far! Have a fabulous day fellow INTJ.

(INFP) An ex-partner of mine was INTJ. We shared this dynamic of otherworldly foresight/accomplishment. She would devise a plan to the end but struggle to execute it when things didn't go as such. I on the other hand, could not decide my way out of a wet paper bag... It's as if I would help her off of the ground by the hand and she would begin walking forward holding onto it.

I'm an INTJ architect currently learning how to implement augmented reality into urban areas...so it checks out.

As a pianist and an INTJ the music student part is on point. I have been like that for all my life, finding the best and most efficience way to learn and practice when I don't even know that I am doing it, just feel normal to find the best way to learn.The worst thing I never want to hear from my mentor is "just keep practicing and you will be good."

Your presentation is the best and most concise one on RU-vid for INTJ which I happen to be. Well done Sir

This, my man, is the best ever INTJ description I've ever seen.... You just said everything on point. And that guitar point drove it home for me. It was almost like somebody took what I'm thinking of how to explain why I'm like I am and just vocalised it to perfection. Big thumbs up. 👍👍🤘

“The least female-friendly apartment,” that is, unless she’s an INTJ herself! 😆 Using Fe to mock-compliment narcissists (to troll them, if they’re being assholes)is a LOT of fun! It’s a productive way of using this much-maligned tool w/o ever feeling gross about it. 👌

You nailed us down pretty well here!

INTJs should read "The Fountainhead" by Ahn Rand. Howard Roark, the main character, is (in my opinion) the embodiment and success of an INTJ.

As an INTJ, I can say life for me it's not about perfection, it's all about excellence. Everything for me is like an experiment that is constantly improving. Thanks for another amazing video, Nathan! ❤

I think we can all take a lesson from ants (efficiency being priority) and have less emotional baggage. Man to I wish I had an INTJ partner in crime.

When I first discovered MBTI as a teenager about a decade ago, my result would be INTP, however as I grew older I've been moving further towards INTJ. It seems to have settled however, as I took the test again a couple of days ago having next to no changes since last time, at 51% judging. These days, I'm frankly not certain whether I can classify myself as either or; I see myself a lot in both.

Six monitors? I have three and am planning on a fourth. Might have to rethink that. FYI, best explanation of an INTJ by a non-INTJ.

“Style is the gateway to substance.” Exactly, no truer words were ever spoken about an INTJ, whether male or female. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I have been retaking the Myers Briggs test every 2 years for 12 years. I started as a logician and as I got older I shifted firmly to intj. Personalities aren't always constant we are shaped by our experiences.

As a female INTJ i thought that home sounded awesome!

This was pleasant. Please do content on INTJ females, the rare unicorns

"They're happy for the future of mankind as long they're the ones in charge" so accurate 😂

I love intjs, I have a ton of intj friends and my dad is intj. I'm an enfp and it's like we even each other out like enfp is chaos and intj is organization. So like enfp can bring intj out of their shell and have fun. And intj can help enfp be more structured and organized.

„This is the least female friendly apartment“ xD

INTJ here. When you said that some types want to be the chaos, I shivered. Not even kidding.

I'm an INTP and your description of your friend's apartment makes me wanna date him. I'm not even going to try to speak to whether it's "generally" female friendly- I mean some women would want to change it and like a challenge so I don't know about an absolute like that- but THIS female's eyes would light up at the idea of not having to stop gaming to take a 💩 😂🤣

I totally get it." style is the gateway to substance" reminds me of those Scriptures that say " be all things to all men(2 Corinthians 9:22). And Colossians 4:6 "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt".... We can't be hard on people.

"What is the socially acceptable thing to say?" INTJ

as an INFP with an INTJ partner, your videos, such as this one, give me an insight into my partner's worldview that is simply invaluable. I feel like our relationship has gotten better once I came to understand some of his traits better, too. So thank you!

Elon musk has INTJ personality type. It makes sense.

As an intj i constantly find the agreeable personality trait in people to be excessively annoying. Agreeable people are not willing to become better or challenge things in ways that would doubtlessly improve them. They in general are just inefficient people who simply will not work for improvement. Furthermore i truly enjoy intellectual challenges and trying to have an argument with a hyper agreeable person is a painful experience. Even if they are intelligent they are unwilling to let it show and their pure lack of self is something that i sincerely disrespect.

as an INFP, i often have rly good chemistry with INTJs and admire them for their logic and ambition, but sometimes they can be dismissive or even condescending without realizing, and it can hurt. Ex: my mom is an INTJ and although we get along usually, sometimes she doesn't get my interests. I feel like INTJs can be both very progressive but also adverse to new perspectives, if they're convinced their way is right. Which makes sense, considering their Ni. In general though, i really like them! Their teritiary Fi seems to always be present in the background, which is nice-esp compared to their ENTJ counterparts. I think that INTJs and INFPs are actually better suited for each other than INFPs and ENTJs, or INTJs and ENFPs, because you're not trying to mash two opposites together. The INFPs Ne compliments the INTJ Ni, they have in common the Fi function, and they both value their individuality. stereotypical infp rant over lmfao

I've been going through these videos and it feels so good to know there's people who understand what we are

INTJ is by far my favorite type! As an INFJ, firstly I began looking into them out of curiosity; "what would I be like if Thinking dominated instead of Feeling?". And the more I read about them, the more similaires I see between us. My dear friend who is more like an older brother to me is an INTP and I think him being such a big part of my life shaped me into being more logical or at least made me value rationality a lot; perhaps, that's the reason why even as a Feeling type, I still find INTJ-s pretty relatable with the main difference them being rather discreet in comparison (which I respect). Too bad this type is perceived as villainous when they are just more honest, straightforward and aren't afraid to question "the norms". But anyway, thanks to all the admirable INTJ-s, you're amazing! (even though I don't have to tell you that for you to know it, lmao)

Female INTJ here struggling with “delivery” of criticism. I often am called aggressive or condescending when in my eyes I am telling the truth in the most professional way possible. I also have no regard for “structure,” especially a work hierarchy. I hyper-focus on problem solving; certainly if it’s in my benefit or in the benefit of something I am passionate about.

So well said!!

Very good description!! This was great. I feel understood for the first time :D. Its funny when people want to say they dont see me as Ni dom (all that Se aspirational distracts them) because literally EVERYTHING I do in my life is BECAUSE of my Ni and in service of manifesting everything I am working on. The companies I am working on have 40+ year projections, everything I am doing is leading up to something that is connected to something else I am doing. I saw a meme once calling INTJ's collectors.. but one of the things about us it said was: "Will low key become a billionaire building a company no one has even heard of" and seriously..... its true.

"Knocking him down won the first fight. I wanted to win all the next ones, too. So they'd leave me alone." ~ Ender Wiggin

I have really enjoyed your videos since you started making appearances on this channel. Looking forward to the next one.

I've taken tests at least 5 time over the last 8 years, all results say INTJ. I have some of the qualities described in this video, but, holy crap! the computer guy? No way! Not me. I see computer and AI technology and most definitely, our dependence on it as placing our civilization in a very dangerous place. I also like to drink beer, tell dirty jokes, and cuss like a sailor when I'm not engaged in my nerdy hobbies.

0:00 - 0:43 The conclusion before going further (“… as long as they’re in charge”) had me spilling my tea; I don’t do that. Never did. That’s how hard that truth hit.

Everyone here has spoken out all my thoughts.. The video has satisfied my curiosity immensely. I'll continue delving into this personality type as often as I can ~

Loving to hear your ideas! Please keep up! :)

U should do a video about personality pairs ones that pair well and onse that are polar opposite

As an INTJ and a musician, what you said about learning an instrument (and basically any skill I try to learn) is really really true. It finally made sense to me.

"Style is the gateway to substance." That was very good, I will incorporate this into my thought processes from now on.

Most of the time I feel bored or rarely ever feel any positive emotions. So I just spend time playing video games or reading to entertain myself. I just can’t seem to feel emotions except negative ones.

3:30 I fear no man but that thing.. it scares me

I just started a job...and it gave me so much anxiety that the managers didn't want me to learn the way the systems work first and wanted me to be thrown into completing these assessments/the actual work and then she got upset that I didn't present it correctly and called me out in front of my co-worker and the "customer"..when I wasn't shown or trained how to do it...I explained to her that I really need manuals to read through, things explained in steps, so that I can be alone to process it, complete it and do it. Very frustrating to work with people that are not into following processes to train someone and just throw you into the work. I survived and nailed the last 2 of the 6 that I had to do...but it still frustrates me. I like clear systems.

I agree about the style/substance speech. I've reached that point. I spent 2 years not worrying about clothes and going to work dressing the same clothes but I understood that I can influence people better with the right clothes in this visual world. I can't deny it. Some people will believe me better if I look like someone reliable. But I have to admit that it's tiring to keep that. Most of times I'm just lazy and t-shirt and blue jeans and flats, ponytail wash face and go. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Let's make it practical.

INTJs ... i.e. The problem solvers who are content to let others figure out the details. I mean, we already gave you the end solution, now you go make it happen because I have other things to think about ... in this corner ... by myself.

I fundamentally reject that style & substance are equal. For some reason I will never comprehend, a great many people think theses things are equal. Yes, at times, to not be a total failure in life, we are required to display the completely arbitrary and meaningless styles society requires. That does NOT mean we believe it. I just means the ignorant masses do.

Awesome insight! Subscribed! Anyway thanks squad for making me feel normal and there are people having the same struggles I face daily.

Great video, love your channel. Thanks for amazing content.

Yes. I have found myself most relateable to the INTJ and have had the results come up as INTJ many times. However after learning the dynamics of the personalities I can manipulate the test to get the results I want now. Btw, I like what you said about how we try to work through things with an ultimate introverted goal of making things "better". Its kind of why I went to med school to become a psychiatrist. Haha. Thank you for this video.

Had to look up "iconoclastic".... seems pretty accurate for me lol

I'm an INTJ (29, female) and recently got my master's in public health concentrating in global health. I am a nonfiction junkie. And it includes a broad range of categories. I have read about half a dozen books on AI. When doing research for a nutrition policy group I ended up bringing in the use of algorithms and machine learning in the topic I was researching. And the effort efficiency thing is true as well. I also love my electronic gadgets. Inferior Se and polar Fe sound familiar. I often get annoyed with what I view as arbitrary social norms and have been described as blunt by some but refreshingly honest by others. My personal version of the 9th circle of hell is a crowded night club with extremely loud music and being cold.

These videos are all really accurate, why have you been hiding behind the scenes for so long!

Probably the most underrated channel I’ve come across. Not exaggerating either.

I wasn't sure whether I am an INTJ or not until I saw this video. Thank you for giving me the confidence and inspiration to make more videos on my channel as an INTJ. This is the video I never thought I needed until I watched it. *👊🕵Introverts Fist Bump*

I'm similar to your said INTJ friend but with clocks. If there's not a clock in every room, I feel I wouldn't be able to keep my tendency to hyperfocus in check. There're now 5 clocks in my bedroom after I moved from 3 different places back to one. I bought another specifically for a bathroom. The only thing stopping me from putting one in the other bathroom is the humidity as there's no window in that one. Maybe I should put the clock in the windowed bathroom in to the windowless one then move one of my clock in the bedroom into that windowed bathroom. 😅 A few more examples are with cleaning sets (detergent, fabric softener, dish soap, dish cloths, steel pot scrubbers, spray bottles filled with medical grade alcohol for cleaning) in any space near a faucet, as well as bags of essentials and stationery kits whenever I go out to minimize forgetting something if I need to switch among bags. It can get convoluted and me carrying a lot more but I rarely forget bringing my stuff and can just pull out things when needed. Many told me I'm over prepared but they ended up coming to me when they need the stuff I brought.😅

@4:47 It's not hard to have a universal way to live. What's impossible is getting the majority of people to actually understand it let alone DO it.

I’m an esfp who’s married to an intj going on 14 years, together for 20. I came across an mbti expert on RU-vid who brushed off this pairing as a fluke. I was insulted because, unlike my husband, I care about convention and what other’s think. Don’t extroverts need introverts? I feel we’re a pretty balanced couple, both empathetic to each other’s needs.

My partner is an INTJ (in an infj). He has one of the most interesting and brilliant minds I’ve ever met. I absolutely love learning his every little thought.

Intj woman here.I would say that expressing the emotions is much hard for me.I wanted to cry but I can't.Nothing make me feel better.2 months later,I've this guy and become closed to her.I know how to express the feelings easily but she betrayed me trust and feeling broken for the first time. Solutions:I decided to walk away from her and not to meet with her.If she need me,The thing I could do is stare.just state and nothing else

Thanks for the horoscope.

I really love this series, very insightful for me. Though somehow between all the types the ones that I really have a hard time understanding are the xSxJs so can't wait for that :D (infp here lol) Also I really want to know the difference between infp and isfp hmmm

"style is the gateway to substance". only facts. this will help me switch up my approach and be more effective when getting my ideas across. thank you!

Style. Is the Gateway to Substance. I love your channel.

"Style is the gateway to substance" :( sadly. still my biggest struggle.

INTJ here. Some of these comments from other INTJs are really annoying. Why do people try so hard so be a monolith? Stop trying so hard. Please.

I literally laughed out loud at parts of this, because it was so accurate. Appreciate the end, with "style is the gateway to substance". As someone who couldn't care less about style, it is an important reminder that most people don't function that way.

Yes. Very well constructed. Especially the musician part. I find I work well with a teacher that helps me build understanding of a song rather than force me to have to improvise. So, my drum instructor was the only music teacher that taught me how to play an instrument. She did it by having me copy her playing one short phrase in a song I knew until I had perfected each and then putting it all together after I had mastered all the parts. I learned to read rhythm at the same time. I learned how to play the drums faster than I learned to play any other instrument.