One of the simplest ways to increase your perceived charisma is…
to PAUSE!
Studies demonstrate that charismatic people are supportive, sensitive, nurturing, and considerate. Not only that, they also exude a mysterious, almost intangible quality that’s a unique combination of quiet confidence, credibility and presence.
When they enter a room, people look.
When they talk, people want to listen.
And the best part about charisma is that you can develop it.
One simple way to develop charisma through your presence and perceived confidence starts with how you communicate.
Next time you’re interacting with someone, see if you can pause for 2-3 seconds before responding.
I call it the 3SP - 3 Second Pause.
Of course, you’ll still want to maintain eye contact so they know you’re paying attention, and you want to have an engaged look on your face - a blank stare will probably raise some eyebrows and might even prompt an “are you ok??”… You can even take a small breath before you speak so you ‘audience’ knows something’s coming…
This is a particularly useful skill when in interviews, on panels or when presenting in public and answering questions.
Have you ever seen anyone use this and what did you think?
Or have you used it? How did you find it? 👇
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-House, R. J., & Howell, J. M. (1992). Personality and charismatic leadership. The Leadership Quarterly, 3(2), 81-108.
-De Cremer, D., & Van Knippenberg, D. (2002). How do leaders promote cooperation? The effects of charisma and procedural fairness. Journal of Applied Psychology, 87(5), 858.
-Tskhay, K. O., Zhu, R., Zou, C., & Rule, N. O. (2018). Charisma in everyday life: Conceptualization and validation of the General Charisma Inventory. Journal of personality and social psychology, 114(1), 131.
#shorts
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