@@louisejoel Um, no... But the main reason I'm sleep-deprived is that I go to bed late, take forever to actually fall asleep and then have to wake up rather early.
Same here. I've gotten used to being called boring because I don't open up right away...but then, it's usually an extrovert saying it. "You don't need to be so quiet so the time." "I'm not intentionally quiet. It just takes a little bit for me to open up." "Don't you trust me? Aren't we friends?" Hm. I should stop before I go too far. xD
@@wolfseddais it’s mostly because I don’t have the energy to, so I just agree that way I’m not pushed more. I haven’t been lucky enough to be adopted by an extrovert tho :(
Who cares what they think? If anyone says anything to me about how quiet I am, I just smile and wave and say something like I'm happy just listening, or Once I start talking, I forget to shut up or just admit I'm socially awkward Lol They usually go away after that.
.....I literally asked my husband to leave the house for a weekend, or let me go spend a weekend by myself. We've been together for 16 years, so he gets that it's not personal. This is the only time I've asked for this. Im going to study, clean, make some food for me and my dog and watch a movie 😊.
@@Vegoonery my husband is social and I have social anxiety. And when he's somewhere talking to people when we on vacations. Or even neighbors he makes it a point to tell me. I don't care who he talks to. He just like to put it in my face how more social he is than I am. He talks to people and I don't. I will only talk to people if they talk to me first.
I’m loving this new female character you’ve been featuring lately, definitely want her to be a regular! I kinda ship her and Chuck though, not gonna lie - they’d be perfect together 😂
"I have the perfect night planned out...so don't interfere." 0:21 I'm so dead because that's me described in one line. It's as if we introverts know that the most chill date we can ever have is with ourselves.
"I like my relationships like I like my microwavable mac'n'cheese: probably not healthy for me, but way too practical to quit, and very hot, but with some frozen pieces still in the middle there." I can totally relate to that.
Well. If someone proposes in public to a highly introverted person they have just proven they don’t know their partner at all. Red flag. I would not say yes to such a person. Also this proposing in public thing is very odd. Why involve a bunch of random strangers? Another thing that is sooo odd to me is hiding an engagement ring in food and serving it to the person. Do they want them to lose their teeth or do they hope they will choke to death? Seems very aggressive to me.
I'm extroverted and I'd say no too, but I suspect for different reasons. 1. Nobody is peer pressuring me into marraige. 2 (I can't stress enough that this is the main reason) you can't consummate an engagement in a restaurant.
This is soo me every time I watch a TV show/drama and they propose in public I'm like why you don't know if they are going to say yes so pls do I. Private for the love of god
I figured it out. I, an INFJ, married an INTJ. He's the only human that can sit with me for three hours in total silence without either of us asking if we're okay. It's glorious. Oh, and we carve out alone time separately every night.
I relate do many of these. When I was in university dorm, my roommates always said at the end of the weekends , sadly "We have to go home :(" , feeling bad for me staying alone for the weekend, but those weekends were the best for me. The moments when I was alone in the dorm room or when I could call a friend and not feel stressed If i disturb or the need to be careful what to say.... I don't know why people feel sorry for us, those who can find comfort and happiness in our rooms and in our small group of 2, maximum 3. I am glad that after all these years I can understand and accept that I am this way, an introvert.
Sad confession here: my ex proposed on one knee in a restaurant. I didn't know what to say so I said yes to not embarrass him. I tried to break it off several times but was unsuccessful. After it was announced he and family took the reins. Then I bought a last minute wedding dress. It was so last minute that only my mother could alter it. Then somehow I made it to the altar. 7 years later I was divorced. Longest years of my life. Wrong person???🤔
@@patriciarose2342 Sensing an "ex" theme. Been there done that, learned to say "hell no" after too many trials by fire. Learned it the hard way. At this point in my life it's on them after I explicitly tell everyone in my life, never surprise me in a public way. If they do, then it's over.
47 year old INFP here. Single. And I have no desire to be in a relationship. My friends find this very odd. I don't understand why the world thinks everyone is meant to be part of a pair. I relate to this video!
I agree! I am happier now than I have been in any relationship. I have not been in a relationship for going on 12 years now and VERY happy. To me, being in a relationship has proven to be far lonelier than being "alone".
Dude right! This video was me in a nutshell. I’m single because I just don’t put any effort into having relationships. All of the friends I have have been because they forced their way in😅. Like, you have to come to me, and even then I have to like you enough to spend time as opposed to just hanging out alone in my bed all day.
Im 30 n never had a boyfriend i don't have the time/energy.. My friends n family worry about me my friends try to connect me with guys n m like girl m not even worried m happy n enjoying my single life is it a sin to be single
🤣 "Maybe you should book a weekend getaway for you and the boys so I can have some time to myself" . That´s literally me! I have said that to my husband so often (only difference with don´t have boys but two girls). My perfect vacation is staying home alone while my family is vacationing elsewhere 😃 People always ask if I miss them and if I don´t feel lonely. The answer is no and no. 😘
@@thirstwithoutborders995 There's nothing wrong with an AirBnB. Yet, you don't know in advance if it's really quiet and if the mattress is ok. My husband regulary goes hiking/ skiing / camping with the kids for about 4 days, and I have the house to myself. I don't need to pack stuff and to drive. I can sleep long, go for walks ir go to my favorite lake to swim and eat the best fries in the world there. Some days ago my husband asked me about my favorite holidays and I told him it's either a wellness hotel with pools, sauna and an own room for myself or me being alone at home.
I don't think she meant their children-- in the context of a man and "the boys," it usually means him and his friends (like "the girls" would refer to a woman's friends). She's literally tell him to go spend the weekend with his friends instead of her. There's no children involved.
Yes! I kept telling my sons dad to go see his friends or the one brother that lives out of state (his other two live with their parents still). He went once to each but I don’t think his friend or brother really like him so it’s unfortunately not something I can really get him to do. It was most definitely nice while he was gone though & our son was at the grandparents (dads parents bc they live about 5mins away) and I had to work,plus he’s there weekends anyways so that’s how I have my work schedule set up.
I'm an INFP married to an ESTJ (for 27 years). I can honestly say that watching your 16 personality videos have helped me understand my husband....it's seriously helped us so much!! And also, you are so spot on with this video---love this new character! It's me!
@@nathalie_desrosiers It is painful. That combo is my parents. But they're still together and happy at least half the time. It helps that I'm an INFP so my ESTJ mom can't say my INFP dad is just crazy (she used to). She's still accepting that people are different, not better or worse.
I am an INFP and my older sister is ESTJ! I feel like we are quite close and she's comfortable to tell me about her day and herself. Do you know Overcooked? That coop game about chefs that people said will ruin friendships and relationships with the constant yelling and swearing? Nope, that never happened with us. My sister and i played Overcooked and i'd say those gameplay hours were calm. She's in charge of splitting the tasks between us, "I'll do A and B, and you can do C and D. How's that sound?" "Are you struggling doing that task? let's switch, imma do C and you can do my A task." And i'm the one who calms the atmosphere down so we can have space to focus, "it's okay if you died, i can hold on for another 30 seconds (the respawn cooldown time)." "It's okay to fail this stage now, there's always the restart button."
“Yawning-because I’m tired all the time even when I get a full night’s rest.” So true. To those of us with sleep conditions it’s very hard to socialize. We literally just don’t have the energy to be extroverts.
Accurate! I've always felt like there was something wrong with me or I was doing relationships wrong so it's really encouraging to see someone be really confident about it and it not be seen as a bad thing, just different. Thank you!!
We are in the same boat. I get told by a lot of people that the way I think is wrong or that I'm childish. I get asked if I have trauma etc.. blah blah but I've come to accept and love myself no matter what people say. God loves me too, soo yeah I know I'm awesome.❤😋. Stay strong
Can confirm. My husband proposed to me alone in our living room. I wondered why he was being so formal about it. But at least we were completely alone. Any audience would have been mortifying.
I don't even know how to express how freaking AMAZING this female introvert character is and how well represented I feel ✨✨🌟🌟🙌🙌🙌🙌😂😂😂😂😂😂 Please make it a returning character. It's so unbelievably good. Great job FJ! Making introverts around the world feel less weird ✨✨✨🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌😂😂😂😂
"If you ever propose to me in somewhere more public than our living room, I will say no." Very true. And you left out the fact that it cannot be a family gathering in the living room. But seriously, public proposals might be great for certain people, but not even all extroverts like that idea because it takes away the option to say "no" or "I'm not sure if I'm ready yet, let me think about it" for most people, and can lead to a yes followed by getting the ring thrown back at you a hour later when you're alone or suddenly being ghosted as she runs away with the rock on her hand. Or you can date an INTJ who will just say no outright on the principle of the matter of trying to force her into a position to be manipulated, because that doesn't work on us. Basically, if you're doing it in public, you need to be super confident that you know your girl and that she'll enjoy the attention rather than see it as forcing her hand.
I am an INTJ and flat out told my (INFJ) boyfriend that if he ever proposed to me, to not make it an elaborate thing or do it in front of a bunch of people. When he did pop the question, we were alone in the car because there were too many people loitering where he had originally wanted to do it. 😆
I was a bit annoyed with my husband for deciding to take a van load of people to make sure he had witnesses…they weren’t right there, but I knew they were around. Definitely made it less romantic. Oh well. Been married almost 18 years.
I was pretty disappointed with my proposal, we are both introverts, but I wanted it semi-public in some pretty outdoor space. Not for attention, just for atmosphere. The living room just wasn't it.
Rofl these are hilarious. INFJ married to INTP for almost 15 years now. Sometimes our dates consist of going for coffee and us both reading our phones in silence. He is also the only person I’ve ever spent all night talking to on the phone when we were dating. That’s when I knew he was the one.
Whoa. He stayed on the phone with you all night? My husband and I are both INTPs, and we don't really talk on the phone. The one exception was back in 2009, while we were dating, he once read me a book over the phone while I was sick with H1N1. Neither of us enjoy being on the phone. LOL
😯 you talk on the phone? I have a deal with myself that we only talk on the phone with family members and real closies who are in another city. Everyone else can txt, email or make time to see me in person. You must have really felt at home.
@@boruverse1774 im infj and hate talking on the phone 🤣 once i had to work in a call center. Hell totally. Only for 2 months it was so bad. But with my guy i love to videocall 4,5, 6 hrs i dont notice the time. Well...i much prefer to see him in person. Were from different countries and hes been with his mom whos sick. But once hes back here im gonna be so happy 😍😅 i understand hes introvert but he seems to have a lot of characteristics that are the opposite of me. Im so intrigued. Maybe i can convince him to do the mbti test hahah
This makes me feel so seen for always enjoying it when my hubby is out for the day or the evening 😂 my favourite one was the - "I've planned the perfect night, lit some candles, picked out a romcom - so you can do whatever you want, I'll be in my room" - this is literally my marriage 😂
After a rather awkward Sunday afternoon of an extrovert guy trying everything he can to get me to 'relax and open up'.... I wish I came with an Introvert Girlfriend Owner's Manual, so I can just hand it to guys and not have to try to 'explain' myself. 🤦♀️ ---INFJ
Maybe get them to read up on INFJ’s. It’s not a manual, but at least they might get an idea what’s going on in your head. Barring that, the closet idea sounds like a solid Plan B.
I’m an INTP in a new relationship with another introvert. Several weeks in, and I am still explaining myself in minute detail with supporting arguments and scientific evidence as is appropriate. Give me this dudes number. I will explain you too. We should just go ahead and write the manual. The trick is giving it to them at the right time. I would say after the first kiss. That way they can get that romantic fantasy off their chest. Then you can shove a 50 page textbook into it and say “read this by Monday, then we’ll talk.”
0:50 I felt so identified with the "I'm fine. No, really that's not a code for anything, I just have a perpetually disappointed looking face." I don't know where the stereotype that women say that they're fine when they aren't comes from, but in my case I'm very open with my emotions and a lot of times, as a quiet and unfriendly resting face girl, boyfriends would think that I'm mad when I really am not
Yeah.. I never really got that whole "if she says she's fine, then she's not fine" thing. A lot of my female friends say it's correct for them tho🤷🏾♀️. If you ask me how I am, I am most likely to just tell you the truth: "I'm really happy today, I got a new tab!" or "I am very tired at the moment, I didn't sleep last night."
I don't do the "I'm fine" thing, except if I'm upset about something that's none of the inquiring person's business, or we're in public and I want to discuss it in private. This happens once every few years or so. But then the person usually doesn't get the hint, and they say "well, clearly you're NOT fine." Then I get angry, or I get frustrated that they keep asking me about it and start crying. By then I'm not even upset about whatever the first thing was, I'm upset about this friend or relative giving me a hard time, and meanwhile they are still sitting there like "Wow, she is so sad about XYZ situation. Have a hug, poor girl."
1:20 😄 That's funny and true. I was actually proposed to (some years back) but before that happened, months before we were talking and I was saying how I didn't want to be proposed in front of anyone. It’s my moment and I want to feel free to be me in it. I dont want to be bothered with other people. The proposal went well.
Man, that chick's got a deep voice. 😁 I can never eat pasta in my room, though. If I spill spaghetti sauce on my white bedspread, it's game over!😂 I love the white board she uses at the end, and the acronym was spot on!🤭💜
My perfect introvert/introvert relationship: Can we agree on 4 days on, 3 days off, overtime as needed, and saying stuff like, "Love you lots, babe, see ya next week for Taco Tuesday"?? 😁
@@BeckyPhelps 🤣 I saw the partial reply "It's part of .." and thought, she's going to say a 7-step plan or something..."care plan." Girl, you kill me!! Yeah, the second part...if you figure out how to thread that needle, let me know 😂😂🙌
@@StephanieJeanne Not feeling optimistic about the second part, but I'm not in the dating pool at the moment either 😂. I worked in healthcare for years and thought it was a good analogy lol! I wish I could organize it into specific steps, but everything is kind of mushed together like different colors of Play-Doh...so....my care plan gives the overall aesthetic of "brown" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 (Not an artist, obviously)
The idea to send her partner away for the weekend so she has time for herself 😂😂 Being married to an introvert for me this is impossible to happen, my husband doesn't even have a group of friends to go on a trip with. I've been trying for 8 years now to convince him to visit his best friend for a few days who lives abroad. He always finds reasons why he can't leave. They only talk to each other on the phone when I call his friend from my phone and then give it to my husband. Then they can talk for hours and laugh a lot and really enjoy the chat. Both of them think last time they met in person was about 3 years ago (it was 10 years ago).
@@CrokusTheDerg one reason is that we have children and they are not in an age yet where I can just leave them on their own for several days. The other reason is that we can't afford it. I can somehow manage during the year to put aside the money for one ticket as a big, big gift for his birthday, but two tickets are out of my reach. I haven't visited my best friend for 8 years, because I can't afford it. We live in Greece, the financial crisis has left us with a much lower living standard.
As an Introvert I agree with some of these. Plan your night or have friends over and never don't come into my room until your hangout is over. My partner hinted for months about wanting to propose in public I told him I am going to just walk away and not say a word lol, just order pizza let's play video games and propose I'm cool. I love my sweatpants and hoodies, I hate wearing formal attire for work(which is required) cause I totally look good in a suit and that just makes people want to talk to me which i hate very much, which is why i was super relieved when I was asked to work from home permanently since the pandemic.
Hey @Artist Intuiting 👋 Think he will go have a series of "Introvert boyfriends be like..." ? Haha "Darling, our anniversary is coming up. Maybe you should book a weekend gataway... (you know) for you and the boys." That was so funny! 🤣 Poor boyfriend of hers lol the perfect night for her is not with him. Ohh hoho burn lol. To FJ, nice lighting 🙂 Interesting scarf 🤔
@@BriarEstelle That line was clever wasn't it 😄 seeing the boyfriend versions would be good too lol, love these type videos …the Keanu Reeves one was brilliant lol
Re: height, I've realised the only reason I've ever thought about height is because people have commented "oh you'll need a tall guy" etc, so thinking about how we'll look together from the outside. Idgaf guys. I'm tall. I've liked shorter guys and taller guys. Who cares 🥰 I used to be ashamed of being tall because of this. Now I'm looking at those tall heels because why shouldn't I wear them with confidence?
It‘s a silly ‚tradition‘ that the woman HAS to be smaller than her man anyways. I mean what difference does it really make, aside from dancing?? And even there you could just switch parts and it‘s fine again.
I'm 5 feet tall, so I don't want the tall guys. My two longest relationships were with guys who were 5'7" and 5'3". The 5'3" guy was just right--I didn't have to stand on my tiptoes to kiss him.
"I like my relationships like my microwavable Mac and cheese,probably not healthy for me but way too practical to quit , and very hot but with some frozen pieces still in the middle there " damn it's too relatable
Lol! Frank knows me so well. Being married with 2 boys....I like hunting season, not because I like to hunt, but because they will all be gone for about a week
I genuinely do not understand why Frank is coming for me like this! He’s really speaking my entire inner monologue for everybody to hear!!! 😂😂😂 This was hilarious and like 112% accurate. Kinda scary if I’m honest lol.
I was never proposed to and never yearned to be. Spouse and I had a rational discussion, and decided to get married. Both of us were quietly happy and excited.
Why do I see NO ONE talking about “I’ve got the perfect night planned out… I’ve lit some candles and picked out the perfect movie……… So YOU can do whatever you want just don’t come in my room“ 😂😂😂
hey frank! i have some ideas for future videos: 16 personalities in their wedding 16 personalities interacting with their extroverted type, for example, INTJ interacting with ENTJ 16 personalities interacting with their ideal type, for example, ISTP interacting with ESTJ or ENTJ 16 personalities interacting as superheroes and super villains, like the hero is one type and the villain is its opposite type. for example ESTP is the villain so INFJ would be the hero 16 personalities watching anime 16 personalities playing minecraft 16 personalities interacting with each other on discord 16 personalities as spies idk how good or bad these are, but they sound like they'll be fun to watch
If it's a minecraft one, I need to see the INFP being all tentative and scared and not wanting to hurt the animals only to fast forward a couple weeks to the INFP dominating the minecraft world. #IalsodidthiswithStardewValley
This is 95% accurate. The only part that is wrong in my situation is that I like spending time with my husband. Once introverts find “their people” they like spending time with them. There are times though that I do want to watch my rom-coms and true crime alone.
As an introvert I can completely relate to this and public proposal is nightmare fuel. I also schedule time for myself seriously don't mind my bf making time for friends just like I need time for me, myself and I.
,,he didn't respond to my text message for like 30minutes so I assumed the relationship was over...and then I also realized I don't even respond to half of his text messages'' i feel attacked 😂 that's so me
"I just have a perpetually disappointed looking face" yeah I also look like that. "Yawning, because I'm tired all the time, even when I get a full nights rest" again, also me. This is just you attacking me isn't it?
