Your voice is super soothing, I’d love to see this type of education into a podcast one day. Being able to listen to your information without the ability to put away my phone. Thank you for your knowledge brother!
I was just introduced to you through my daughter who follows you on tictok. You seem to me to be a caring, kind, compassionate young man who is passionate towards helping others. What a gift! You have been well blessed.
Mathias, thank you for a brilliant framing of irritation as a teacher-what a helpful lens-one thing I thought about when you were describing the different personality types was IFS and how different “parts” of ME sometimes feel at odds with each other… interesting to think about building that internal understanding of different parts of ourselves-all shaped by various experiences of our lives in an effort to protect us-how helpful to build that compassion and acceptance within of all those different parts AND like you say-beyond just more understanding and acceptance/agreeableness there is also the capital S self hopefully coming in with the voice of reason-letting all those parts be heard and seen, while building healthy boundaries too. Thank you ❤
I find this kind of funny because I have a friend that her knows that she is the only one that I can really talk to about my problem. The next time I ft her I was going to say "if I'm putting to much on you tell me. You need to work on your problems first and I'm here for you. I know I might seem weak but I strong. I can be here for you like you are here for me. I have your back."
Few months ago I had a falling out with a close friend over something similar to this. He’s a very driven and I am more agreeable and I found myself feeling like I was cleaning up after him when he would steamroll ppl. Came to a head when I was having heavy emotional stress (parents) and he felt like I was talking it out on him. Some things were said and that was that. We’ve talk since then but I don’t think relationship relationship will ever be the same. I said all of that to ask this question; after an irritation reaches critical mass what then? boundaries can prevent further issues but what about after the hurt has taken place? Thank you for doing what you do.
Please use examples with in-laws, joining families through marriage... I struggle in this area. My mother/best friend passed away in Feb. 2018, I grew up without a father from 5 years old and on. My husband has 2 older sisters and divorced parents, his mom is around 80% of our days and the dad is not.
Thank you so much for these videos. The way you approach difficult topics enables me to listen all the way through, sometimes more than once because it doesn’t hurt. When literally everything hurts, that’s a big deal. Thanks again.
I really connected specifically with the last section of this around boundaries. I’ve been feeling very guilty about establishing them with my mom.... as I do feel I’m all she has but this made me feel better about it.
