If your a mamas boy that means you trust and admire a woman fine But if the female feels like the third wheel in a weird three way relationship She's got to love mom too or its not gonna work Love is a living thing like a plant stop taking care of it every day and it will die How ever mom should always love her son so son better be watering his ( plant ) woman with love because its up to you to make her want to stay
You do realize every man that has dated before would also be considered someone else's "leftovers" by your definition. Viewing people like this is utterly disgusting which makes you disgusting. If a dude is enmeshed with his mom he should not be dating in the first place. He should be seeking therapy and distance himself from his mother for however long it takes to fix his problematic relationship with his mother. That distance will help both him and his mother to reflect on their relationship and fix the problems in it.
Well, firstly, and I believe that this is clear in the video, I'm not saying that it is wrong for a woman to put herself first and leave a man who is not available. Back to your question. For me, when someone does what is right for them, as in the case of a woman leaving a man who is not available, they are not being selfish. They are simply listening to themselves. The challenge is that due to the conditioning that someone has received, they can believe that putting others first is the right thing to do while putting themselves first is the wrong thing and is 'selfish'. At the root, it's usually about someone feeling comfortable with their needs and knowing they deserve to meet them.