No because really and truly what does it tell me about my future spouse? In my opinion it tells me nothing. It doesn’t tell you if they’re not “smart or gullible” because this vaccine was taken globally so it really doesn’t show anything.
No covid vaccine has become a deal breaker for one of my family members due to the genetic fiddling it can do to people however bringing this question up is really awkward, this is why it help to have a middle person who is an outsider ask
As salaam alaikum, you guys should have done more research into the article that you presented when talking about the effects of birth control pills and attraction to spouse before you spoke about the findings to prevent the spread of misinformation. From researching the article, the study was investigating the potential effects of hormonal birth control on women’s preferences for certain traits in male partners by looking at women who were already on birth control pills whilst they were choosing their partners vs women who were regularly cycling and were not on the birth control pills before choosing their partners. The point made in the video about if a woman is on the pill she prefers a slightly more feminine man compared to when she gets off the pill she’s more into a masculine man, is referring to the idea that birth control pills simulate a “pregnant” state. So from the article it talks about women on birth control pills might be more attracted to traits associated with long-term caregiving which are seen as “feminine” traits rather than “masculine” traits which “pre-pill” women are attracted to (women on the pill). This study also suggests that this shift in preference if a woman discontinues the pill (from the time of choosing her spouse she’s on the pill and from the time of being married to her spouse she gets off the pill) and her attraction patterns revert to pre-pill “masculine preferences. The problems with this article is that it overemphasises on biological and evolutionary factors like hormonal changes and genetic compatibility as the main factor in attraction to spouse when, as you guys who made the zawaj cards which Allahumma Barik are beneficial, know that choosing a partner is more complex than that as it involves compatibility with regards to goals, level of deen, shared values, emotional and other list of factors. Human attraction and relationships are complex and cannot be solely reduced to hormonal shifts or genetic compatibility. The article exaggerates the impact of birth control on long-term satisfaction and stability as the quality of a relationship and its longevity depend on important factors such as emotional compatibility, communication and shared values. So the point made in the video about how the pills “affect the bonding and it’s inhibited” is not true. Also the article was done using a small sample size and the results of the studies have not always been consistently produced by other researchers. Also birth control pills mimic certain aspects of pregnancy such as preventing ovulation, but the pills do NOT produce the full spectrum of hormonal changes during pregnancy, but it mimics just enough to effectively prevent ovulation. And birth control pills is permissible form of contraception in Islam for family planning (I know you didn’t say that it was haram in the video I just wanted to add this from an Islamic perspective). To conclude, it can not be determined birth control pills are more likely to affect the relationship between spouses as there are a range of factors which affect the attraction between spouses and the relationship, and even the topic is still debated within the science community today so there is no solid conclusion on that and these findings should be taken with a pinch of salt. JazakAllah Khair for reading this, I may have gotten a bit carried away😂 as I am passionate about research and understanding from different perspectives, but I hope this makes sense.
Waalaikum assalaam, Every intro we make it clear that the cast is hearing the story for the first time, so anything you hear is not preplanned. However, with that said, the study supports what the brother was saying. Does that mean he’s entirely correct? No, but it is enough to point to the main argument which is… The effect of birth pills do show negative side effects and we still don’t know the extent of these negative effects . In a general sense, birth pills should always be avoided due to the risk factor. But we appreciate your feedback and comment! 😊 May Allah bless you.
Not really. It could imply a lot of other things about that person's mentality and worldview if they took the vaccine. There might also be a question of long-term health factors, including fertility.
We’re talking about the birth control pill , yes there are other methods like using protection. There are other drugs that are non hormonal but half of users still ovulate, so they are not commonly used.
Asalaam aleikum, very insightful! I'm Nigerian, and although I don't live there, even in my family two of my seven uncles married Christian women. However, I wouldn't say they "prefer" Christian women or that it's super common, rather it's accepted in our society so it happens sometimes.
There's a lot of unique takes (don't want to put a negative connotation to it) in this video that weren't expanded enough on. Some points were made without diving into the reasoning behind them, with certain statements being presented as facts or obvious when they aren't. Like for example, implying that women shouldn't refuse intimacy if they're not up for it because they're tired (in their words if she has a headache), or that birth control is like trying to change Allah's creation. I listen to podcasts to understand different viewpoints and learn, but when making unconventional claims, it would be helpful to provide more justification for more benefit to be gained. As someone that took birth control due to necessity (endometriosis, the pain was interfering with my daily life), I agree that it's scary how big of an influence hormones have on us. Not just in attraction, in mood and personality too. But for me it was the opposite direction of change. I was shocked to realize that the effects of my hormonal imbalance were things I had always assumed were just "part of me." The depression and intense mood swings weren't a product of me becoming older and "more mature" since 13, it was my hormones. I became a much calmer, albeit less "feeling", person. Even now a year or two after coming off of birth control, my hormonal imbalance is a LOT better and I'm not depressed anymore. I'm just writing this to say that while BC is of course risky, it can lead to positive change for some people and the root issue of all of this is hormones and how easily just a small change can affect us.
1. Intimacy point was about the wife controlling it completely and that was made clear. We could have gone deeper into that topic but that would be an entirely new episode 😂. 2. What was said was "playing with Allah's creation" not "changing". Taking birth control out of necessity is a very different case, and we were talking about using it in, in a general sense. What you mentioned about depression, mood swings and hormone imbalance, these are all negative side effects of this drug, and there is more to it that we do not know. I hope that helps!
