Is He Playing Games With You? - 7 Signs 

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“When you’re important to another person, that person will always find a way to make time. No excuses. No lies. And no broken promises.” - This quote is exactly the point that you’re driving home in this video. But you break it down so beautifully with clear and concise examples. Thank you Bern!

7 signs : 1) playing hot and cold. 2) confused with wat he wnts with u and with life in general. 3) confuses happiness with temporary pleasure 4) ambiguous with wat he wants, no long term vision with you. 5) his intensity & his words do not match. 6) he dsnt address the inconsistent behavior nor the disrespectful behavior. 7) does the bare minimum to keep you .

I can say that woman should listen her feelings. How she feel with him...so that's her reality. If she feel confused, uncertain etc...so it's definitely not love from him. Love never let space for doubt.❤

Interesting… My wife was more than a treasure to me, I wish death never took her away from me 💔. I wonder what’s in the heart of men this days, it’s best to remain single if you aren’t ready for marriage/relationship than making a woman feel worthless. Great video 👍

These signs showed up in my marriage. It's not just about beginning relationships, it's about when you do go the distance with someone who is supposed to be a man but doesn't plan anything for his family

Yep, hot and cold. Intermittent reinforcement through inconsistency. Creates anxiety.

Based on my personal experience, INCONSISTENCY is one of the most obvious signs, aside from AMBIGUITY; and also most often, the words do not match the actions. Women who had failed relationships must not jump to the next man who is available, for emotional support. They must pray to God for guidance.

My rule in dating is i don't give second chances and i am celibate until after our wedding ! I tell them on the first date. They call me tough but this is how i keep my sanity and protect myself mentally emotionally physically and spiritually. Ladies you are worth more then rubies and diamonds. Do not allow dusties lower your value by playing games with you. Weed out the bad so you can enjoy your fruitful harvest at the end. Good luck to you single ladies and i wish you to meet your King by the end of 2021.👸🏻👸🏽👸👸🏼👸🏾

INCONSISTENT ACTIONS ARE CONSISTENT ANSWERS!!!

I dealt with a guy that did everyone of these signs for a few years. It was truly a rollercoaster ride. So glad I got off the ride and my mental and emotional health are still good. You must know your worth in order to get out of this unstable trap. Most of the time when the guy shows these signs he is in a relationship and he is trying to have you as his side chic.

This is happening to me,I'm friend zoning him now.

This man is so honest and is talking about real things..💚 Thank you.

I broke up with my ex because he treated me like a yoyo. He was nice. Cooked for me, gave me attention, slept at my house everyday but I had a feeling he was using me + was unsure because when I asked why he loved me, he became defensive + couldn't answer the question. His words never meet his actions. Before I moved, we spoke about getting an apt, he bailed + wouldn't speak about it, show up to the showings, or spoke about his financial obligations...but I found it weird he was at my apt everyday when he didnt want us to move in together. He wants me committed to him but has told me he can do what he wants. Ladies, he's 54. These males dont grow up. Dont allow any man to waste your time, use your gifts or use your body. Jesus said, don't throw your pearls to swine.

I didn’t know that because of my past trauma I was attracting these Narcs. Now I know all these years later. It’s so hurtful but I have to mentally move on.

This is exactly how I feel right now. Like his yo-yo.” I’m ready 2 burst. I really don’t think this guy knows what he wants. I just know I’m not sticking around much longer. I’ve played this game way 2 long..

The guy I was dating or “Seeing” told me on our first conversation that he doesn’t plan things and I had no idea that, that was a red flag. It went right over my head.

The person I'm dealing with now goes hot and cold on me, I'm sick of it and the sad part he'll be 51 in 4 months. Men say we're confusing! It's funny how we have all these videos for women on how to do this or that for men! This used to be men jumping through hoops for us, now we suppose to jump through hoops for them? I guess I'll just stay single.

I had a guy disappear the weekend of my bday. He knew it was my bday. Had been texting me almost daily for 3 months. That weekend falls off the face of the map. 4 days later tells me his cell phone battery quit working. Never apologized or said Happy bday. That was the end for me.

Oh gosh yes, I dated that guy. Such a lesson.

Men or so called Men these days play to many games and these are Men who are over 40 and 50yrs old. It's crazy!

Yeah like he refuses to deal with any real feelings and when you call him out he ghosts you for a few days.

Yes helpful as always. I just ghost these types of boys. Waste of time! Know your worth ladies xx Inconsistency is frustrating but not necessary As women we need a lot more videos on boundaries xx

All I want is pure love. If they can't be honest with their selves, better say they just wanna have fun. But who wants to say it when they just wanna play or fool you? Being broken hearted is difficult especially your intentions are pure. Thanks for this helpful content, Bern🙏🏵️🌸🌻 I wish everyone peace and love❤️

Great video...im just realizing this...and i remove my self from this situation. Because i deserve better and to be treated like a Queen..so im definitely going to wait on the lord to send me the right King and he will be appreciate and have a good Queen on his side always no matter what.

Extremely great timing! Dodged a bullet. Thank you for sharing ❤

Bern Thank you so much for explaining all the points with examples and so warmly and kindly ✨ I am grateful to see this video and have more clarity regarding what’s happening and what’s perceived by my emotionally biased mind .. but also sad and disappointed that it happens so much every where or anywhere and the individuals who have these characteristics are consistently continuing to do so in their 50’s May the universe protect our genuine and sincere hearts and efforts always. it’s not about landing a partner.. sometimes it’s just a lot of trauma to process and we’re better off without any emotional and mental damage.

I've been married to a man for 14 years who does all of this💔

I am a 56 year old lady. I look after myself and have been single for over twenty years….I would rather stay alone than be with a wrong person…..I am sure i will meet my king one day. Thank you for the education…..

Yes I know a friend who he would ring late at night but non commital. He lived a long way away so he went nuts when she said I will fly down to see you. He didn't want that. All the excuses too busy and covid is still around. Then he ghosted her.

this has to be the best.. most practical advice on this subject that I'veseen

Amazing information - just from seeing this I know I am on the right track - I just won’t accept less - thankyou

I just went through this over the last few days. Thank you fir this video. It helps a lot.

Brilliantly delivered, so very helpful

I wish I had seen this before my now ex relationship of four years. He seemed very straightforward and did not play hot or cold but in hindsight it is clear that there were more subtle ways he played games. Ex: when after dating for a couple months I asked him what he thought about monogamy - he managed to deflect the question and not address our relationship status. It was awkward but I did not want to seem needy. I wish now I could accept that he was not stepping up. Another ex: he declared that he had gotten off of the dating app that we met on. What he failed to mention, and I found out later, was that he did not get off of other dating apps (which I was not on). I am a much more direct person when it comes to communication so from now on when someone deflects or I do not feel at liberty to ask a follow up question I will know that something is very off. Please do yourself a favor and do the same.

I’m so thankful I watched this. It put my relationship into perspective that’s for sure. I need to check out your longer video on this for sure.

Great video. I could have used this video 35 years ago. But, would I have listened then? Live and learn. No man is worth your sanity!!

Thanks for the confirmation it’s greatly appreciated

FANTASTIC! Perfectly delivered. Thank you!

I am so glad i found you tonight. Nailing it

Great advice! All 7 apply to my situation.

Super amazing advice!!! This has been my story for years. I can now see clearly.

I've been married for 26 years to a man who is very narcissistic and still does this kind of crap. Everything Bernardo has said is spot-on! Ladies leave before it's too late. He has mentally super glued my ass into position I'm trying to get out of now!!

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is amazing and very helpful!

Glad I stumbled upon you and this video. Thank you so much! ❤️

Another great video! Thank you!

Giving something & taking it away I call it dangling a carrot.

Sad 2 say but these games are intentional. People know what they are doing trust me. Even if a guy doesn't know why hes doing it..he still knows hes doing it. I got caught in the trap of thinking he didn't know what he was doing, hes just emotionally unaware, hes just been hurt...yadda yadda yadda. Dont do that 2 yourself. There can also be 2much compassion for some1 is what I've learned. At the end of the day it wasn't any of those things. He just played games. The 1 thing I do know is that it had nothing 2 do with me. Thanks 4 the video

Very informative video . Thank you

Thank you! You’re really talented at explaining this!

You're always on point! Geesh where were you 10 years ago for me to hear this :-)? an immense thank you for this content.

💯 thank you 🙏🏻 Every singe point resonated with me 💞

Brilliant !!

Bern you are absolutely spot on in this video. I care deeply for a man who has dealt with me in this manner for almost one year now. I know very little about him. I ask questions, direct questions. I sent him a letter telling him of the inconsistency behavior. I felt like you were speaking directly tome in this video. I recently told him we should be friends. I thought since it's almost been a year, he would try to fight for our connection. But no, he never does. Thank you for this video. ❤

You're an amazing coach number # 1

Thanks so much. Super helpful!

Wow, I was really played! Humility and embarrassed at this is why I have not been with a man since. 8 years single now. Loved a narcissist who didn't care about me, just played me. Ouch

Always wise words full of common sense and support. Thanks.

Thank you for these reminders .:)

Did he ask you to be his girlfriend? No? He’s playing games with you.

Impressive :-) Thanks a lot. Love your coaching cause i have improved tremendously in the last 8 months. I will support you to reach the one million followers and more. Thanks again.

Thank you. i needed that knowledge

Thank you for helping!

Well said, excellent, no consistent commitment then its best to be alone, do what one desires without wasting another's time

Thank you so much for this advice

Thanks a lot. Yes your message was perfect and clear.😊

This is list is accurate and thorough! Thank you!

Your advice is the best I have ever received 🙏🏽❤️

He did everything right The consistency We were talking all the time on text, phone, video He was Planning dates Talking about being my boyfriend, he was all in bla bla bla What he wanted was aligned But then after we’ve been intimate … Ghosted So was he a player or just an avoidant who changed his mind?

Thank you for a very good video.

Amazing video! I wish you the best!

Yes very helpful video. Thank you so much sir. Great job 👍🏻❤

you are amazing ♥ thank you for all you do. I really find your videos informative and helpful

Thank you you helped me so much eye opening

Your videos are so valuable, insightful🙏🏻 I wish I would’ve come across this info years ago. It would’ve opened my eyes and saved me from heartache after heartache. Never too late I guess…

Thank you for your precious videos 🙏💕

Fantastic advice spot on .

What Bern is describing in the beginning here is called intermittent relationship, it's very addictive

Thank You!

This Video is of high value.

You are fantastic !❤️

Ive heard your videos before and started listening again I just wanted to leave a comment to say you are an excellent communicator in every way. I dont know your own story how you know so much. I do want to wish you a wonderful holiday and many blessings to you and your family. 🙏❤️💫

Thank you for this video

Great refesher coarse ladies !! We often dpnt do what we know is true he reminds us and i like his energy

This cliche line 'lets just flow with no expectations' is what got me here and when i go easy he be like 'why are you distant' like what donyou want really?

Thank you so much!

Spot on!

This is what I have been going through for last 7 months!

Omg this is exactly what my friends needed to hear 💞💛💞😂💞😂

I've always learned from the give-and-take of a new relationship. My most recent guy is 72, we've been "friends" for 17 years. We started out as "more than friends," where he gave me humor, candor, and pretty good sex. Now he gives criticism, cynicism and a cold attitude about sex. But the taking is even better: money, shelter and nursing care. Pfft! I'm done with this, all of it!

Thanks a lot. Your truly the best.

Thank you for this video I learn a lot Real True

Thank you for sharing

This is good it really helps to know this

And men say women are complicated 🙄 🤣 I' ve always been forward, even more as i' ve gotten older. This guy does know his stuff.

Great video.I knew someone who acted like this all the time I wasted years of my life waiting for him to make up his mind about me nedless to say he was a lair and had a relationship somewhere else.I was 21 so I was quite innocent but I learnt a lot now I cut them off if they start playing this kind of games.I learned my lesson.

He was to busy or not feeling well and never had any time....So confusing 😕 never initiated contact but would text back immediately. Promised to call and never did I ended this now he doesn't have to worry about me...

Spot on.

Great video

I love this channel