Do You Really Need Independence or Is It a Trap? 

Kris, this gave me all of the feels. I felt so connected with you in your childhood trauma of having to be independent as a survival mechanism. I felt so connected with you in your statement about not being able to delegate at work. I felt so connected with you in your realization that we need to let ourselves be dependent. THIS is why we need our generation here on RU-vid. To find our tribe. To connect and know we are not anomalies. And to support each other. ❤

I, also learned early on that I could only depend on myself, learning more and more to open and trust that others can show up for me❤ It has truly been a defense mechanism. So insightful, thank you 🙏🏽😊

I have this belief that our cultural idea of rugged individualism has been incredibly harmful to people and communities. Humans are massively social beings and yet through our own trauma and cultural identities we have rejected it. I’m on the journey to build more connections, but just like you, it came later. Life has a way of showing you how you might need to change. Btw: loved the shift in location as the story changed. Excellent.

Hi Kris. This talk has me thinking deeply. I haven’t fully formulated my thoughts, and will come back to comment when I have. Thank you for giving me this to toss around. It’s definitely a topic of value. ❤

Great thoughts! I’m someone who kinda fluctuates being independent and dependent depending on the situation. I think they are both important in their own ways, and a balance is worth striving for. Enjoyed this video, thank you!

Gosh Kris, I got emotional when you read the lyrics of Paul Simon. I often felt I could relate to those lyrics and when I listened to this song so many times over the years I felt like he understood. However like you I’m getting the concept of help and people needing people. I was the type and still working on this btw to be the first to offer help and also promptly shut people down and out when they offer their help to me. This video really resonated with me. Your flower girl story made me laugh out loud😂 and I got to see the whole jumper (in a different color) It’s so cute! I also love the changes in “scenery” your words of wisdom are captivating however with the changes in scenery make it even more captivating.

As a very independent child also, I "grew up" very fast, and listening to your vid Kris (thank you), what comes to me is the seemingly importance of keeping control to feel safe. So being independent means as much as possible not having any unwanted scary change because people around me don't have my best interests at heart. Well, they didn't back then (in the 70's). So now, I equate the ability to be able to be dependent is that my core is filled with self-love, wisdom, resilience, a strong intuitive sense...to know I'm going to be ok, and hopefully even more than ok, as I have myself to fall back on. Mmmm maybe that's an oxymoron, that I am not letting myself go fully, to full back on others? What popped up then is my inner knowing of a higher intelligence, some call this God, or Source. This is also my-self, as Source/God is within me. Thank you for this opportunity to process.

Totally insignificant in light of the depth of this video, but my autistic brain picks up on visual details like an eagle…and I feel compelled to mention them. 🧠😀. That said, I have that same Woozoo fan! My gosh that little thing has been a lifesaver this summer in my bedroom, the hottest room of my home. Okay..I promise I’ll share deeper thoughts shortly! ❤