I dated a Christian guy and I married him he was my second husband. I'm not going to say exactly what treatment I received from him but it was bad. Just because a guy is a Christian doesn't mean he's a good guy.
I 100% agree with that. I've known a lot of people who claim to be christian but aren't actually living out what it means to be a christian. So sorry that happened to you.
Nastasia Grace so then what do you do with that? A person may not live out what it means to be a Christian throughout their life, the fervency of their faith can fluctuate. How do you pick a partner who is currently living out faith, but may someday change? It seems like marrying a Christian isn’t a guarantee for a good situation. What’s the point of passing up a non Christian man for a Christian man who could lead you and your household in faith..when just because he could doesn’t mean he will. Doesn’t seem like there’s much difference between a non Christian and a Christian man.
@@scasey1960 What type of question is that, yes, some if not most Christians married for sex read Corinthians 7 and shes reconciled with her first husband what does the bible say about that
After two enormous heartbreaks I want to say to anyone searching, it is NOT worth it. When God says He knows best He ISNT kidding. If you like a non-believer, talk to them about God! Bring them to church with you! Share your REASONS for the hope you have within you! Give it your best, -platonic- effort. Do NOT date a non-believer if you don’t want to eventually reach the point where you realize you have to let go of the person you’re in love with. Letting go of love is like losing an organ. Don’t put yourself in that position.
If you are a strong bible-based Christian and you seek to live in God’s way, then trust me that dating a non-believer will NOT work. I tried and it failed twice in the end. There’s just a conflict between values and life point of view that will eventually shatter the relationship one way or another. You must find someone who loves Jesus just like you do.
I’ve been single for 10 months now, and the last relationship I was in he said he was a Christian but he wasn’t. My heart got broken and it was awful. Now my standards are so much higher and I want to actually be with someone that is a Christian. Of course I get lonely sometimes but it’s still much better now than it was in that relationship. I love your videos! I think we are very similar especially when you say you give your heart. God bless you!
I called myself a Christian & truly believed but at the same time I didn't really think about my future partner's faith & i fell very deeply in love with a muslim guy who was my absolute best friend & i still love him. I only woke up when it came to thinking of children. I spent 5 years in a relationship with him, not married though & breaking up has been the most excruciating pain I have ever felt and it will live with me forever. It feels as if i am going through a divorce. Please save yourself from the pain it's not worth it.
A got out of a relationship with my ex because he was disrespectful of my religion and relationship with Christ. In fact on our first date he asked me what my religion was and he said he wasn't a Christian and asked if it was going to be a problem. My first Instinct was to say yes, but I paused and said no and later I saw that it was a major issue in our relationship. I say all this to say I agree you shouldn't get involved with someone who isn't on the same path as you. Keep in mind some people are only supposed to be in your life for a season to teach you something. Remember to make it a point to be kind to someone today y'all be blessed.
You guys value different things, even if you try your best to respect their belief that rship can't honor God if both parties aren't serving Him. It can cause arguments or a sad marriage. Sometimes it works, but only if someone changes/settles--you become a Christian or they abandon their belief n that's not what either of you would want.
@@thecia4493 I am open and willing to become a Christian, the only reason why I consider myself an atheist is the fact I don't have any respect for my local churches.
And how do you atone for the sin that you led yourself into by dating one and misusing a non believer and breaking their heart? You start your journey to Christ but what happens to the non believer because of your wrongful actions is of no consequence to you?
I 100% agree with you!! Dating is a tough topic when it comes to dating a Christian or not. I believe that you truly know your ready to date if you love god more than you can and could ever love someone else and that should be the same for the person you want to date!! Thank you for this advice, it really has helped me with figuring out what I want in a guy and it’s helped me reassure that my expectations for a husband one day are not too high! I have learned that you should never settle for less than your expectations, because they are never too high!!💘
From my personal experiences in life... (and being a few... or quite a few years older... lol). No is the only answer here. I walked away from my faith for many years. I was in several relationships with non believers... None of them worked out. I got my relationship with the Lord back on track... Met a girl who claimed to be a “Christian”. The Lord warned me not to get involved. I did it anyhow... Free will and all... I will leave it at this... There was red flags right from the beginning... I ended up breaking every promise I made to myself... And let my Lord down. Just because someone says they’re a Christian means nothing. Actions say everything. I can’t stress how important it is to stay true to the Word, and to yourself. I wouldn’t wish on anyone what I’ve been through... Both the heartache and being chastened by the Lord. (Proverbs 3:12 comes to mind). Thankfully the Lord removed me from the situation. And I learned a valuable lesson.
I am very confused. I like a boy who likes me back and we both want to date soon. I am a Christian and he isn’t. His family goes to church and he is super respectful of my faith. Not only that but he said my faith fascinates him and he asks me often to help him learn about God. We’re doing a devotional together now and he told me he wants to buy a Bible. I pray for him all the time and I pray that God will show me what He wants me to do. My heart tells me to be with this guy but how do I know if that’s God talking or my heart deceiving? I understand the unequally yoked thing but if he is on the path to finding God, should I still completely rule out dating him?
The fact that he is interested and respectful of your faith is great. If God wants the relationship to work out, you will feel a peace in your heart and will make a way!
i feel the same. It hurts to let go of someone that is in one way or another encouraging you to grow closer to God. I'm currently struggling with my own relationship with a non-believer. He is my best friend and he encourages my beliefs and faith. Even told me to never put him in between God and me. I'm so lost and I don't know what to do. He is willing to learn but I don't know what to do in terms of obedience and walking right.
The Bible can also be used to say the opposite, that a believing spouse can take an unbelieving spouse. 1 Corinthians 7:8-15. He also said that men shouldn't have long hair, and I have long hair... but its still in there and says.
1 Corinthians 7:8-15 KJV I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. [9] But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. [10] And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: [11] But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. [12] But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. [13] And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. [14] For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. [15] But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
You're taking it out of context. It is saying that if you're already married to a non-believer then it is better for you to stay than to divorce because God can redeem that marriage and bring the person to Him. However, it is better to prepare for a marriage that honors God without the risk of that person never coming to Christ. As for the long hair, during that time men having long hair and women having short hair was considered a sign of prostitution so it was saying in that time you should not take part in prostitution and you shouldn't allow people to speculate that you take part in it.
@@NastasiaGrace I think its about the clearest context to be found in the Bible. I understand what you're saying about dating/marriage. Why wouldn't a Christian want to date/marry someone that shares their beliefs and can have actual conversations about Jesus with. As a hypothetical, let's say I'm in a relationship and I come to Christ and the church but my partner doesn't. This is probably the best dating example for what Paul said. There shouldn't be any reason to need to break up with them. As far as what God commands, I don't think Jesus would say a Christian absolutely cannot date a non-Christian. What would be the condemnation?
I'm 22 and someone on facebook wants to meet up with me "date" in person but I don't think he believes in God. I think I just got butterflies and totally have forgotten God. I've been praying for a Godly man and I don't think this is the guy for me. I think I'm just worried that I won't find anyone. He always says to me he's serious.
My bf told me to choose between having to bow before idols once / twice a year ( he is a Buddhist) which will be only during festivals and while he doesn’t mind I still follow Christianity the rest of the time
I have a really important question...I’m dating someone who I’m pretty sure dosnt follow Jesus but I do. I’m always trying to build a deeper relationship with him. My boyfriend and I are absolutely in love with each other we want to get married someday and I couldn’t imagine a more perfect relationship. I understand I shouldn’t marry someone who is not a Christian so I’m just wondering your thoughts on this.
Idk if y’all are still together, but some of these comments are lacking in nuance. Of course, it would be easy to say a definite no or yes, but in reality, everyone’s situation is different. You don’t know if God is planning on using you to gradually draw your significant other to Christ, thus changing that person’s eternity. Some people’s spouses don’t get saved until 15 years into their marriage. MARRIAGE. For general advice, it’s always a good idea to pray and ask yourself if this person makes you be more like Christ or draws you away from Him. Then, you’ll probably know your answer.
@@titoted God wants you to be equally yoked with your significant other, trust me, christians marrying non christians is not a good idea. First of all parenting: your spouse won’t parent your child in a christian way. 2. It will be hard to know that your spouse doesn’t believe in Jesus Christ, and if they die without knowing then they’ll go to hell. 3. Having a non christian spouse will not improve your relationship with Christ, it will most likely weaken it. Your significant other should lift you up as a Christian. Don’t marry a non christian. Listen to God.
If you are a religious fanatic, you need to find someone similar. Dating someone who embraces the principles of the enlightenment, scientific method, or generally modern ideology (ie existentialism, feminism, etc.) is a non-starter.
God so loved the world that He sent his only Son to die that whoever would believe in Him wouldn’t perish in hell for eternity with no way out but have eternal life and be happy forever! Jesus died and then after 3 days He rose from the dead! Turn away from your sins. Be baptized by water in the name of Jesus Christ only and be baptized by the Holy Spirit! “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Repent so that you go to heaven and not hell. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.” Proverbs 9:10 Follow Jesus! He’s the only way to heaven. We need to trust and obey him if we want to go. Obeyyyy. Only by Gods sacrifice on the cross are we able to go to heaven. It is by His grace and mercy that we have the choice to choose eternal life or torment. Believe in His sacrifice that He is Lord who can pay for your sins. Surrender to His will by changing your life and turn away from sin to obey Gods commands. “Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.” Matthew 7:21 (Jesus said these 2 things.) He’s real and He’s coming back. God is coming back! God bless you ❤️
What about not dating a fellow Christian if they are not a virgin (unless they were raped or only had sex in a previous marriage and their husband cheated on them or died)? Not to say that holding that view is the best way and that someone else who doesn’t have the same standard as me is wrong but to hold a standard that for me and only me I won’t date someone who has done that? Like not being legalistic but just either believing that God will bring someone a virgin (if they are a virgin themselves obviously) or that that person isn’t called to be married? Because all sin is the same but do you think someone like me can have to standard still forgive someone and be Christ to them and best friends with but won’t pursue a romantic relationship with them based on that because they just have that standard. Thank you!
I can't subscribe to any religion because I think there are alot of issues surrounding religion I just think all religions create separatation because people think there more superior than others they put themselves up on a pedestal
It's all messed up. Religion segregates people and that's why relationships between people with different religions doesn't works. Religion is not about God, religion is about values and costumes. The day you realize that God has nothing to do with religion you will love people as they are. Close yourself in your church eligion club will only worst the problem. When Jesus said love one another he was not telling you to love the people in your church (Jesus did not create Christianity either). My brother and my sister are those who are human like me not those who attend church once a week. People should judge the character, personality and the chemistry with the person they want to date, dating someone based on their beliefs is dumb and a big mistake. You never know if in 5 or 10 years you or your partner will change of beliefs. You might be a Christian today but in 10 years you decide it was all a lie and you decide to be part of another religion and that will lead to 1) divorce and 2) for you to seek a person with same beliefs in your new religion. I was a Christian for 12 years and I had this mentality until I really understood what Jesus really taught and what faith is about. If a person treats you fairly and with respect, with romance and above all became your best friend I do not see any problem. No one has 100% same beliefs whether it is in religion, money , about politics and so many topics. Love people do not select them as if you were on a clothing store. I find very hard to date a church girls since they are too much fundamentalist and zealous about a outdated book and church rules. If you do this, you did not understand yet what means to follow Jesus. Christianity had it all wrong about Jesus.
if he believes in and follows Jesus then he's a christian. if he does not believe in and follow Jesus then he is not a christian. you can't be a christian and not follow Jesus.
