Is It Okay To Have A Preference Of Race? Interracial Couples Agree Or Disagree | Spectrum 

I think the issue with race preference comes in when you bash another race over the one you prefer.

“Do couples with a age gap think alike?” PLEASE AND THANK YOU

I would've liked it if there were older couples as well. Everyone here was in the same age range.

The guy upfront seems poetic in everything he does. Movement and speech😂

"This isn't Build-A-Bear, this is a human!"

I think Jubilee should release an extended video of these kinds of episodes where we get to hear everyone's answers, maybe on a Jubilee uncut channel

As a black woman married to a Latino husband I've never felt like i betrayed my race idc about how they feel😂🤷🏾‍♀️

I love how a lot of these couples decided to wear similar outfits so we could remember who is dating who: like matching jean jackets, or gray shirts/brown pants. It’s cute. Thanks to all these awesome couples who shared their experiences. Y’all are all beautiful people as individuals and cute couples. Love is love. 💗💗💗

Can we start adding context for the participants in these videos instead of jumping straight in? Stating everyone’s race, how long they’ve been dating, who’s dating whom, etc. would’ve been nice

This episode was weirdly edited. Some people talked basically in every question and some people almost didn’t speak at all. Also it was too short, showing just two anwsers to one question is weird, like we are here to listen to different opinions. Making this video 2-3 minutes longer wouldn’t hurt anyone.

*I think you guys should redo this with better questions, making it longer, and not all just young couples ! Would love to see how couples married in the 60s, 70s, 80s, etc have different experiences than newer couples :)*

This topic is so broad that I feel that their should be an unedited version of this episode to hear what everyone said

I would NEVER be with someone soley based on race. If we vibe, are attracted to each other, love each other and respect each others cultures we are fine

It's interesting to me that it was mostly people in the black community that feel like they're betraying their own race, but no one else felt that way.

could you do a middle ground episode with pro-interracially dating people and anti-interracially dating people?

*many people just have perverted fetishes about certain ‘races’*

I think many people do, even without saying it. Online dating is probably where that's most evident

I kept waiting for Alexander’s partner to share her thoughts! She was the only one who didn’t share an experience, which is fine but I was hoping to hear everyone.

And I know exactly why when they asked the question “do you sometimes feel like you betrayed your own race” all the black people agreed.

I honestly think it’s so messed up the idea that you’re “betraying your race” by dating someone who’s a different race than you. In my opinion it just completely ties into the idea of segregation that people of different races should be separated. I was shocked to see how many people agreed tbh

Jubilee, please release the "uncut" version of this for those of us who wouldn't mind a longer video! There was probably so much more stated that we didn't get to see.

I feel like this video had the potential to be better, I was kinda disappointed that some of the answers from the other side weren’t shown or covered as much like for two of the questions they only showed the perspectives of those on the agree side and not those on the disagree side. It would’ve been better to have a balance especially if its like a huge range of responses.

Unrelated but I love Alexander’s hair and style 👌🏽

I really enjoyed this one, made my eyes a bit watery aha, wish this one was longer, but being a mixed person and being in an interracial relationship is so different, it’s definitely one of the most challenging things but I would never want to change it I love my partner and we have grown so much because we are so different I think it’s in a way it’s a blessing, truely shows you how far someone is willing to go to understand and support you.

This convo should've been 30 minutes longer. I want to hear all of their perspectives.

It's sad seeing so many black people feeling like they are betraying their race by being in an interracial relationship. We need to end that stereotype and let people feel comfortable being who they want to be and loving who they want to love.

I’m in a interracial relationship my girlfriend is black and I’m Mexican she’s the love of my life

We're getting nothing from these discussions if they're edited this much.

I see they avoided questions about preference.

My problem is when the "preference " comes from a place of self hatred

Chris didnt seem to care much about Grace and her feelings as well. If he isnt proud to be with her then let her be with someone who is proud to be with her. It brings a lot of pain and insecurities on her if she has to deal with trying to live up to what he wants

I’m Latina with VERY fair skin and my boyfriend is black. The amount of stares we get at school or people asking if we’re serious w each other or even the daily “why didn’t u date a mexicano boy or a black girl” comes off as extremely disrespectful. My ex (who is white) and I together never got stared at or questioned and it really disappoints me how people my age view interracial couples

I'm obviously white lol and my lady is black. We share a beautiful daughter together and we teach her to embrace both sides, not just one.

Omg they should’ve asked “I’m afraid for possible social stigma my future mixed child could endure” that would’ve been interesting. Like asking about long term situations

"Being a white person, I'm inherently ignorant" - Cringe af. That's not true.

This was underwhelming, we didn't get to hear everyone's 2 cents on each subject...

The question that should be asked is what causes that preference? It’s usually some unconscious stereotype or life circumstance you apply to that type of person that may or may not be true.

It’s so heartbreaking to hear about mixed raced children who don’t feel like they fit in or belong to a certain community. I recommend you guys have your own community. There’s nothing wrong with being both. You don’t have to choose. As a mother of a mixed race child, I encourage her to be proud of both of her heritages and embrace being biracial.

I agree with Grace so much. Everyone is amazing but when I first met my husband we had conversations about our race and what that would mean for our children and I also felt how she does about it.

HEY!! JUBILEEE!!! WE DONT MIND LONG EPISODES!! If you guys feel like there’s more relevant answers that should be in it, make it 20+ min if you have to! We’ll still watch 💛

I think everyone has their choice! but I find it a bit problematic for those rappers who talk about black women in their songs but only date white women and leave black women for "snack"

I think people need to understand the difference between having a preference and fetishing

Yes it is okay to have preferences of race, it's okay to have preferences of looks color height body shape personality education level and anything, what is not okay is to treat others any less or discriminate them or bully them or take away their rights because of race but getting attracted to someone is a total different thing and people should stop talking everything personally, I can prefer a race or have a type it doesn't make me racist or bad person but treating a person differently only for their race does.

This actually made me so sad! Relationships are complicated enough, something as insignificant as skin pigment shouldn’t make it more complicated. I swear humans really suck with this whole racism thing.

It’s okay to have a preference towards your own race, it’s not racist if it isn’t based on racial attitudes towards other races. But I think it’s very easy to fetishize other races and base a preference off of that.

When it came to betraying race I find it interesting how every black person whet to the agreeable side.

There was a facebook survey done in Indonesia. The participants were asked the race of their preferred mate. The survey was divided between city and rural area. A whooping 76% of a Indonesian women in the city preferred White men if they can get it, most of them specify from either UK or Australia, while 53% from rural area also preferred White men. For Indonesia men, 83% preferred to marry Indonesian women, with Arab women came second. In rural area, all 100% participants preferred Indonesian Women.

I've never seen a spectrum episode with so much laughter 😃. It's great! 🙏

taylar mocking her bf mocking his asian mom is hilarious *AHHHH*

Being mixed is really hard because I feel like I can’t completely relate to my black culture, especially being raised by my white mom and white step dad I really don’t know how to fit in

It’s no coincidence that all the black people were on the side saying that they feel like they disgrace their own race. It’s sad that we can’t just love each other for who we are love is love right

I love this episode! They touched on so many rlly important things and I liked listening to what they were saying and why. ❤️

I’d like to to see this topic done with older couples

I just feel like there was so much more that everyone said and I know it would have been a long episode, but I would have loved to hear it all. This is such a diverse group of interracial couples and all of their experiences are so different and I just wanted to hear more. This is a great episode tho!

It was Interesting that all of the black and half black partners feel like they betrayed their own race and all the black partners also felt like an outsider with their partners family!! 😕

A thing that I've learned growing up. Don't feel uncomfortable if someone has a different view then even if it comes to something political or something more extreme. Become uncomfortable when they dismiss your perspective and listens to tell you that you are wrong. There is big difference from the two.

I’m mixed race (Chinese and Haitian) and my boyfriend is Puerto Rican. I’ve learned and progressed so much by just hearing another view point on life and we get excited talking about how we will raise our future little ones. Loved this episode!

There’s definitely a difference between having a race preference and straight up dissing people of the race that you don’t prefer or saying “I would NEVER date someone of this particular race”. A lot of people do that and then call it a ‘preference’ when they’re just being disrespectful

We need an uncut version or a longer one

I feel like race preference is ok, as long as 1. It’s not a fetish 2. You dont limit yourself to just that race.

It reminds me of the trend when some Arabs on social media shamed Arab women for their skin color, saying that it's better to date white women rather than the "ugly" Arab women. And some men/ women insult the opposite gender from their same race. so preferences are fine as long as it's not out of self-hatred or sexism.

I think it's normal to be attracted to a race but I don't think it's normal to have a preference of race you don't like, does it makes sense?

This is very interesting to hear everyone’s side. I’m not use to hearing these topics bc I’ve grown up in a community where everyone is mixed. But Thankyou for the education 👍🏽

As a mixed person with 2 mixed parents and 3 mixed grandparents it would be super duper interesting to get my family to play this but also really weird. I really wish my great grandparents were still alive to get their hot takes on being mixed or in an interracial relationship as that would have been so different 80+ years ago

the problem is when people use their preferences to exclude people. like i prefer older guys but i’m not gonna turn down every guy that’s younger than me.

Thank you Jubilee for having Ivan & I! It was so amazing and insightful to hear everyone’s different experiences, and to share our journeys with one another on a platform like this, is such a blessing. I learned so much during our conversation and I can’t wait to learn even more! Thanks for watching everybody♥️ Love, Kédo Rebelle

I HATE when black dudes say that they dont like black girls bc theyre “too ghetto” i translate that into him not liking his own mama. I understand maybe you havent found someone in that race that you like, but you dont have to stereotype black women like that. Ive heard/seen this too many times its honest appaling😬 When i tell you in my school EVERY mixed person i see, theyre parents are BMWW ( not saying anything wrong with that)

omg! alexander was in my summer college course, well spoken! great video w some interesting questions/points

"Interracial relationships can be a fetish, and that's okay if it's love too." At the end of the day, if both parties consent to being fetishized, it's their business and I would be happy for them. Personally as an Asian person, I am just so tired. I am so tired of being stereotyped and fetishized as a "submissive Asian bottom" or just as a Korean. I am more than my race or ethnicity. If the first thing they notice is my race and they make a big deal about how much they love "kpop" and "kbbq", they have already imbued me with their preconceived ideas about Koreans. Just like, piss off.

Lots of black tops/turtlenecks with gold necklaces

Have they done a video on international/intercultural relationships yet? As someone who's been in one, I'd really love to see that!

I think it's perfectly fine to have a preference. I'm mixed-race and my preference has always been white men since I could remember. But, I don't hate other races of men; I respect them; value them.

I feel like I’m betraying my race by dating outside my race sometimes too (white bf), especially because of certain looks we might get from poc. But, that will never change my feelings towards my boyfriend. I’d date any race regardless of how my race may feel about it. If I’m being treated well and if I am happy, that’s all that matters!

Dang, 13 minutes was not enough. I could have listened to their opinions and stories for hours! 🥰

I definitely would like to see a part two or a longer episode there was way more that could’ve been said

if you feel like you're losing respect from your community for dating outside your race, what does that say about your community?

Preferences are perfectly fine, but when you diminish and talk down on your own race, it becomes an issue. Preferences are often rooted in stereotypes and you perpetuate those stereotypes when you constantly devalue the people within your own race.

I am proud of being mixed race I don’t have a racial preference either I will date Any race religion ethnicity gender etc just as long as the person is nice

that was a great episode! proud of u, jubilee!

This was very telling. I’m interested. I need more!

I feel like these videos could be twice as long and we’d all happily watch

I don’t understand why it seems that they don’t take racism towards Asians seriously. They all just start laughing like it’s no big deal.

The more you watch this age group of people (It's mine so I feel like I can talk about it) You honestly start to see just how uncomfortable they are with people who do not share the same views as them. They try everything to "be part of their group". If you are black you got to act black, white you got to act white, and etc. It really feels like they really aren't themselves but more or less conforming to their social stereotypes. You honestly can see how some of these people hesitate on their words because of it. Its kinda sad.

What I love about this channel is that they don't pull punches. Those were some hard hitting questions and some very personal intimate answers.

The preference part is tricky. Often we as humans like to act as though our preferences aren’t shaped by so many external factors and are wholly our own, when often they are not. Sure, “nature” plays a role, i.e. what we are naturally curious about or attracted to individually, but I would argue “nurture” is often much more persuasive, as (in my opinion) this is how we shape about 90% of our sense of self, identity and personhood. Meaning - the cultural, religious, societal and communal norms that we’re all subject to based on where we’re born and what kind of society we’re born into, are very big factors into how your personality, tastes and dislikes are formed, and those factors all look very different depending on the person. For example, I know a guy who is mixed half White Irish and half Puerto Rican, and his Puerto Rican grandma always discouraged him from dating Latina women (specifically Dominican, idk why though) and he is now married to a half white, half Latina but she isn’t Dominican. Who can truly say if it’s because of his grandma’s influence or his own desires? Especially because there’s no way of knowing if that discouragement bred more of an interest in the group she encouraged him to stay away from (to rebel against what she aimed to repel him from) or if he was positively affected by her influence and that’s why he just subconsciously never let himself develop an interest in Dominican women. Knowing he ended up not marrying a Dominican woman, I’d say the latter is likely, but I can’t speak for him nor do I know his subconscious thoughts - heck, he may not even know them!

Chris was like never on Grace’s side idk how that’s gonna work in the future

Someone tell Alex he’s not black. He’s biracial

She said "because I'm white I'm inherently ignorant" WTF😔

I think this discussion was healthy and covered a lot of topics in a shallow sense. However, I would've liked to hear more about experiences with families not approving or being ignorant towards the partner. Just because that's what I have experienced multiple times.

The guy that said, “I wanted to have a kid from every race.” Yup. I was like that too. Lol.

Please make a longer version!

Let’s be CLEAR: The editing of these segments has, by far, the most SIGNIFICANT contribution! The editorial staff/person needs to conjugate with unbiased cut and paste skillset.

I feel like they should've started this episode with at least showing us the couples together first as a simple outlook on which people are together. This all felt quite incoherent for several minutes.

Chris wants a black GF i feel sorry for that girl

ive been in many interracial relationships with black, latin, and asian. there has definitely been some tension with their family accepting me as a white guy in the black and asian cases. in the latin cases i was overwhelmingly accepted even when language was an issue. i don't think my personal experiences necessarily mean anything across the board. i was a little confused about the fetishizing and still loving thing like are we considering preferences a fetish or that is only in regards to sex? i guess at the end of the day a physical attraction preference has sexual implication. i guess i would explain it personally as the same if you like a bigger girl or skinnier girl or whatever physical characteristic you value , if they have that but also suck in other areas then it wont last. to the people in the video personally id say to grace and her partner to keep trying with family. the only way for both of you yourself and your families to evolve is through interaction. that is the way to defeat the ignorant beliefs. also to the girl that said we are inherently ignorant due to being white, screw you for that. i hope you learn not to judge people on their color. i think the question about 'did you ever accidently be racist to your partner' shows that we are all just human and make mistakes here and there, we learn and grow.

As a white British Christian very happily married to a British Pakistani Muslim, I can honestly say that race isn't an issue but religiosity in our various cultural environments has been a bit of a challenge! A mixed religious couple episode would be soooo interesting...

Being *biracial* myself, I'm going to guess the biracial guy feels more comfortable dating outside his two dominant race. I'm Japanese and German, because I was never accepted in either groups, I find that I feel much more comfortable dating "other races". Maybe that's just me though.

I have to say that my preferred race is beautiful females... Hit different

"As a white person, I'm just inherently ignorant." No, that's not how that works lol.

This is one of the best experiments I have ever seen. Awesome!!!