Someone once said to me that all addictions are "avoidance of uncomfortable feelings". That was eye opening for me! So once you quit the addiction, the process of learning to face uncomfortable feelings is still, well, uncomfortable! And long. And feelings of loneliness or existential angst is still a part of the human experience.
I have a 17 yr old stepson and a husband and l am just glad I don’t have little ones of my own. I think this life itself is tough and finding ways to cope with all sorts of depression. One day at a time is the best way. I know what I do love, my me time. 💆🏻♀️. I also think getting out to get some sun when it’s out shining bright helps as well.
Thank you so much for naming that - it actually makes me feel less alone to hear that you feel that way because I've been feeling it this week as well!!!
At around the 29:50 mark when you said you enjoy your yoga, that reminds of a couple who was childfree before they changed their minds. I remember years ago I watched a video about a married couple who was childfree and the wife was able to enjoy her yoga in peace without any distractions at all whatsoever! Later on close to the ending of their documentary video they both decided to change their minds and procreated and now have a daughter. So therefore when the former childfree to now mom was trying to do her yoga she wasn't able to concentrate on her yoga and meditations because her young daughter kept on distracting her with lots and lots of questions. Even though it's their decision to change their minds to go from childfree to now parents and I wholeheartedly respect their decision to now become parents, and they profess to truly be sincerely happy as new parents for bringing their daughter into this world. The mom can't concentrate on her yoga and meditations and the husband can't concentrate on his hobbies that he was able to do before deciding to become a parent.
oh god yes, before I had kids I thought my corporate job that demanded very long hours was hard. now with kids I realize that was basically life on easy mode, I just didn’t know it then 😂
Veronica you are so right ...as a couple at times we have had horrendous stress but never shared with friends who have kids as there is underlying lack of sympathy as we dint have kids and our life is easy
Thank you for doing that podcast. You are really brave 🙏! I believe and know from first front seat (excuse my english if it is not correct) that LIFE IS HARD, BUT CHILDFREE IS EASIER and this is why i choose it…DA 😊 I myself ride on the struggle bus you mentioned, i believe most of us are. But as you said we are doing the best we can with what we have or don’t have.
My Cousin Vinny! My mom watched it all the time and loves it! I later watched it as an adult (I thought it was boring as a kid) and absolutely loved it Also, Legal Eagle rated the movie and its' understanding of the legal process. It was a fun watch from that perspective
I really appreciate you both for always being truly authentic with every podcast topic it’s really a breath of fresh air in this world of seemingly doom and gloom when it comes to the child free lifestyle thank you for always giving us value and insight on the child free life it’s been very helpful on my own journey of deciding to be child free myself knowing it’s an option is so nice to hear despite the pressure from social norms of my family and friends.
@@HowlingFantods Kindly not assume others have the same anxiety as you. Maybe if u have existential anxiety then you should not force another person, aka your own kid, to be born to then also have the same anxiety, since u don't seem to have a solution to this anxiety.
@@HowlingFantods u could have formed a "family" aka a group of people together with you without making another human, yet u did, and thanks to you, this person also can have anxiety of all types
