Is Screaming at Your Kids a Form of Abuse? 

If I had a dollar for every time I was screamed at, I'd be able to pay off my college tuition

When my parents yell at me, all I'm thinking is, "They have no idea how much trauma they are single-handedly causing

As soon as I turn 18 I’m moving tf out and never looking back

My dad screamed at me for “raging” when I dropped a controller while cleaning

Yelling, screaming, hollering, & snapping? Yeah very, very bad and very hurtful. Especially for sensitive people like me.

I was screamed at for everything... now I feel guilty for everything. Even when I clean I feel like I’m not good enough, cause I was motivated to keep clean by screaming.

When I was a child when my dad started yelling my sister and I would cry from it because it terrified us. As I got older it wouldn't make me cry but I would get extremely aggravated by it but never said anything back because he would yell even more. Now I'm 20 about to be 21 I'm dealing with severe anxiety from all the mental abuse from him yelling at me all the time. So yes yelling at your children isn't going to solve anything its only going to more than likely give them bad anxiety.

I was screamed at as a kid. I told my son when he visited his grandfather “that was my childhood.” I asked him if I ever screamed at him like that. He said ‘no’ and I was relieved. I still worry about repeating the same mistakes. It is abuse pure and simple. You are raising kids to leave you one day. You want them to be well trained, caring, kind, most of all, happy adults.

It's just so awkward when my mom's yelling at me like she's never done, always got more to add on to her story it's somewhat impressive to see how long she can go on

Words cut deeper than anything

My mom yells at me more than my dad, and it really hurts me, and sometimes I know that she just doesn’t want me to do some things, but sometimes it’s just plain stupid and I just want to go to my room and cry, but I don’t so I just bottle up my crying.

My parents yelled at me, my heart aches, my mental health is.... you know... I feel like I wanna die My heart burns from unhappiness

I rarely scream at people on the other side my parents are screaming at me

I’m super sensitive when it comes to crying, I cry super easily and I can make myself cry too.

My parents make the excuse "I yell at you because I love you!" ... If you really loved me, you wouldn't yell at me

My parents do both. (Hitting and yelling) The worst thing is my little brother is really disrespectful but they say he is always calms and I should learn from HIM! My brother yells back at them and ignores them.

I can confirm yelling/screaming (I can’t tell the difference anymore) does nothing. As a 17 (soon to be 18) year old I’ve been yelled at so much that when I heard my mom screaming at my sister a few months ago since she hadn’t done her science project, it activated my fight or flight response despite me being upstairs in my room on my bed and not being the target of her screaming. This resulted in a massive panic attack that caused me to start hyperventilating which ended up with me curled up, crying on the floor in the corner of the bathroom where I got to experience another 4 consecutive panic attacks like the aftershocks to an earthquake. The event even a few months off is still traumatic enough that I experience a sense of panic just thinking about it, and I can only imagine what damage this has done mentally to my sisters and I over the years. Please, for the love of god don’t ever scream or yell at your children, it’s not worth the pain and suffering you’ll cause them in the long run, at this point I’m so miserable that I can’t see how I’ll ever become a functioning member of society with the amount of anxiety I experience day to day, and mine isn’t even that bad compared to other people I know.

I'm 27 and my dad STILL yells at me every time he sees me. I don't live with him with him either. I'm sick of it.

me: sends this to my parents parents: GO AWAY YOU UNGREATFUL CHILD!

When you yell all the time, your kid tunes it out. So if you always yell and your kid is running toward a busy street, your kid is tuning it out (“oh there’s mum screaming again”). If you only yell in dangerous situations and your kid is running toward a busy street, they’ll understand they’re in a dangerous situation and hit the brakes. My roommate is constantly screaming at her one and a half year old and it drives me freaking crazy. He doesn’t respond to it anymore, so she just keeps yelling because she’s an illogical idiot and doesn’t know any other methods. She shouldn’t have a kid.

I sent this to my mom after she yelled at me 😭 she didn’t watch it. Probably never will. She will never understand what yelling can REALLY do. She’s always mad at me getting mad at her, but I only get mad because she yells at me, just not yelling at your kid can not make them angry at you! That simple! Also I’m super sensitive so I cry over everything 😖

Wow genuinely in tears at how accurate this is. I am overcome with so much sadness

I was born with a loud voice my moms always screaming to shut up she curses and whenever my sister curses at me she says its not cursing her yelling is abuse bc the yelling can cause Depression Terror Crying Anxiety Deaf Death Suicide Suffocation Loneliness And more

Is screaming at your kids a form of abuse? Yes it is. It's called emotional abuse. My mom would scream at me for not meeting certain demands and expectations she put on me growing up and I have anxiety and depression because of it.

My family make me cry because they fight with me and yell at me . I am trying to stay calm but It hurts I know they love me but I don't feel it . Thanks mom for give me anxiety

Screaming solves nothing!

I scream at my dad because he screams at me

This is the reason why I never talk to anyone. I'm scared I will say the wrong thing and get yelled at... Not only is it embarrassing but it also makes you think that they don't love you

I feel like I’m in defense mode and my parents don't even need to be yelling at me

I’m 14 and it causes me and my 18 year old sister so much stress in us when our mom yells at us all the time. There’s not a day she doesn’t go off yelling at us, and she doesn’t understand. She actually actually caused me to feel suicidal at one just because all of the yelling and the realization that I won’t get to make a single mom and daughter conversation without her getting mad at something. She won’t even listen or look at me when I’m ever talking. And I’ve been struggling so much trying to do better on school.

I'm sending this to my mom so she stops yelling at me. It's slowly become more and more of a problem, because now I don't get enough sleep, I come home crying regularly, I'm scared of the person who should be supporting me, and I've been considering moving in with my dad. But to everyone else who's dealt with worse, I'm hoping and praying it gets better.

I could accidently do something then my Mum will scream at m, every day there is screaming and arguing in my household. It makes me feel so... ugh i can't describe it. She started yelling one time (well today) and I yelled "WELL YOU WERE YOU WERE YELLING FIRST!" (Because she said "DON'T YELL AT ME!") And she slapped me.

I'm fourteen and I'm sobbing over my parents yelling at me when I was twelve it's not okay.

I can't even control my life anymore. I do so great in school and my parent's used to praise me for it, but I guess they got bored of that and now they are literally taking away all of my fun time and just making me work after coming home from an entire day of school.. I feel like I can't defend myself because every time I try to she just grounds me or threatens me with "the weapon of ass destruction", or just a stick she spanks me with..I feel so alone and when I said I hated myself she said "Good!" All that did was make me feel like I can't talk to anyone..

I remember freezing when my mom yelled at me. I didn’t cry. I just stood there. and this is why I’m still like this. just thinking about that time makes me tear up

i'm 14 and often me and my dad have arguments. this video solved all my questions as to why i'm so afraid of my dad, on a more psychological level.

My momma always yelling at me and ion even do nun I mean early in the morning she does it like wtf I do it's not my fault u born me in this world and don't like me

Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

EXACTLY! Today my mom called me a lazy a** and yelled at me "I'm sick of your bullsh**!" For a very, VERY silly reason. It's a long story so I don't really want to explain it. I was mortified and bawled my eyes out and my mom yelled at me some more for being a "drama queen". :T

My mom has been yelling at me since I remember, so 4. For the smallest things, for being lazy, sick, not doing things, hitting myself, crying etc She has hit me physically as well to the point that if someone pulls my hair I don't feel it. On top of that, I have a alcoholic dad who also yells and put me in depression for a year, and its coming back. AND we are also poor. I don't know if I'm in the wrong or not, I don't know anymore and I honestly just want help from someone, anyone.

When my parents is yelling at me this is what I think “ I don’t understand what they are talking about,I need food!!!” Also “are they abusing me and not my brother???

I've been yelling at my toddler less and less. This video is more motivation to keep heading in that direction! Thank you!!

I know I'm probably _very_ late to this, but I'm so glad to know that I'm not alone in feeling traumatized from being yelled at/hearing it happen to people close to you. As for me, I've never actually been yelled at but, rather, my siblings were once upon a time and we're all still healing. I honestly don't know if the scars and pain will ever go away but I've been feeling a little bit better day by day.

I have a story. But let me give some background first. My mother is narcissistic, neglectful, abusive. She's always ready to be angry. My dad is understanding, easy, but often tired and just done with constant chatter. He's away at work most of the day until later evening. About a year ago, I was basically in charge of social interaction since my dad was at work, my mom taking a bath. All of a sudden, the phone rings. As I stand up to get it, the doorbell goes off. I run for the phone, then to the monitor which lets us unlock the door from inside. Then a knock on the door. I'm being bombarded by tasks. By the time I get to the door to open it, theres just a package from my grandmother. She left within seconds after knocking. Apparently my mom got a phone call about how they left a package since I "took too much time" getting the door. She came out, furious, yelling at me about why I didn't get the door. I explained to her what happened, which made her even more mad. She then proceeded to tell me how it was "common sense" to get the door, in a loud aggressive voice. I tried not to cry but I almost did. Just as she started turning away, I mumbled "So you think I'm dumb?" I was confused, angry, wanting her to just apologize. Never have I ever gotten an apology from her for anything. She kept walking, got dressed, and came out again. She said no. Still angry, I asked her again, telling her that if I couldn't get the door clearly I have no common sense. That got her. She dragged me to the middle of the living room and shouted at my behavior. I acted childishly, yes, but I would not tolerate the way she treats me. So, still situating myself, I screamed at her. At this moment was when she should have stopped and apologized. She should have apologized much earlier, really. But she instead yelled back at me. And there we were. For half an hour, us two going back and forth in the living room. Her, yelling aggressively. Me, tears streaming down my face, wailing and screaming at her. Today I have severe depression, and I'm hardly comfortable around her anymore

My mom brags about being a calm, collected parent and not hitting me, saying that “kids shouldn’t be afraid of their parents”. I completely agree, mom! I was terrified of her though

i wish i had the courage to explain to my parents that when they yell at me it hurts more then they think 😞

My mother is always yelling at my sister and it scares me so mich because her room is next to mine (she has no problem with it, she provocates it every day) I know I have no right to be scared but I can't help it

32, unemployed, haven't been able to hold down a job for years, never had a girlfriend (I've had sex though). I suffered physical and verbal abuse from my parents. To this day I still suffer verbal abuse from my folks. Don't shout or hit your kids people. You can ruin their lives.

I remember the moment that I was being a smart aleck to my mother and then saying please don't yell at me and hiding, I was terrified

Explains why I over apologize, have anger issues myself, and expect to be bashed for mistakes. Thx dad

My father is always very angry and wants everything so perfect and when a small problem arises he would face it with yelling at me or my brother. i am sick of it. Like yesterday my dad physically grabbed my brotuers arm and forces him to show his belly button to everyone. Then he started yelling in the car and didnt stop Then he threatened to spank my brother I had a big talk with my dad anout it but he is not budging and he is really proud he is not hitting us.

if i had a penny for every time my mom yelled at me i would literally be a billionaire

My mums continuously Shouted and screamed at me from a very young age- to the point now, no matter what she does, if she even speaks to me in an annoyed tone I will scream at her. I just get so angry and she has always put me down as well. I’m just constantly filled with anger and sadness- not to mention our family’s broken into 1million pieces, while I’m only 12 and both of my siblings are gonna move out very soon, my older brother already has, and I’ll be alone, but it doesn’t matter tbh because it’s not like we talk anyway.

I hated how my heart would race and my stomach would cramp when my father yelled at me. And im sure if he heard me say that he would go on a long rant about how he was beat all the time as a kid and yelling pales in comparison. Im convinced being yelled at over every little thing made me a quiet and timid high inhibition person. And thats the reason i can never look people in the eyes and im still a virgin at age 20. Your childhood really does shape who you are.

he was just doing it and i’m really thinking about sending it to him

When my dad gets angry, it's so terrifying. When I was like 8 or 9 years old, my sister and I were doing something dumb. Our staircase had like a shelf-counter next to it and we were both walking on it and our dad saw us doing it. He ran up the stairs and started going absolutely crazy. I was crying in my bed while he was screaming at us and I hid under my blanket, and while I was on my bed he lifted one end of the bed up and crashed it down onto the floor like several times. Also when he gets ticked off while driving he starts speeding and one time we almost hit a truck. I don't think this is abuse but it was really scary and he still continues to scream at us and slam doors all of the time. My mom screams at us a lot too but I don't really consider it abuse except sometimes she slaps us or pinches us. But that's normal.

i don’t even know what i’m doing wrong at this point. i feel like every single day i get yelled at for something. what makes it even worse is that my mom acts like nothing happened and then when i’m upset she thinks i’m moody.

My parents always scream at me !

I have been being yelled at for all my life yelling and cussing I am 13 I watched this video because I just got grounded because I drank milk and my mom could not have a coffee. When my mom yells at me I get super scared, it also doesn’t help with school.

I am at my breaking point. I think the screaming that I do is because of years of them not listening to me. So i figure if i say it louder, they would eventually hear me. I don't like getting to that point. If they would just listen the first time, there wouldn't be any yelling. For three years, I have asked my family that after 9:00 at night to please allow me my down time, so I can get to bed and be ready to wake up at 4:30, that way I can leave for the 5:30 train, I get home around 7:00 at night. All I ask is for my son to let me look at his homework, so I can see if he needs help with anything. I don't have much time to play games. I am exhausted from working all day. So at first I ask nicely, I ask a second time. I assume they can;t hear me, so I start to talk louder and louder. It's awful! I feel terrible. I think the thing that triggers me the most are the conversations that they want to have late at night. It's not trying to avoid them, I don't know how to get them to understand how getting less 6 hours of sleep a night is not ideal for me. I'm exhausted in the morning.

I wakeup to my mom yelling at me I eat while she’s yelling at me I study while she’s yelling she always yell at me when am with my friends or cousins

My dad says I'm just lazy and useless and I don't do anything and he's installing an app to watch me 24/7 like thanks for the mental abuse

I am watching this as my mom is screaming at me to clean my room. I asked her why I had to clean it and she screamed YES

Thank you for being a kind and positive masculine voice for parents. What I went through was awful, it makes me happy to think that someone is doing something about it in such an easy accessible way as this.

My father yelled at me since I was 5 year old, harsh as it sounds, dont think it did any good.

Sticks and Stones can brake my bones but words can cut through me deeper than anything

My mom yelled at me since I was little (she hit me too) .. now I'm 13 and I have social anxiety and also I'm always stressed and when my mom hears that I haven't been talking to people at school and when I have a lot of stress she's so surprised smh She has even asked what the hell is wrong with me why am I so unsocializing (cause teachers are annoyed by my social anxiety and the call her) and she yells even more at me and then she says "just talk to people it's not hard what's wrong with you". I've always wondered why I have social anxiety and a lot of stress and now I know

my parents often yell at me (not because i'm in danger but because i don't always listen to what they say) n it hurt me. because of that i deal with anxiety, stress, and whenever someone raises their voice i cry. yelling at your kids in an angry way isn't helpful to them at all (in my opinion). i'm still grateful for what my parents do for me, just not the fact that they're traumatizing me with their yelling. i do know it must be frustrating when your child doesn't listen, though. there's something for both my parents and i to work on.

i really want to send this to my emotional abusive mom

My dad yells at me from my emotion of crying and he smacks me that this day 4/18/2020 my dad did this part and I was trying to breath but I couldn’t I kept trying to breath but my mom never stoped him from scaring me that bad so he kept yelling at me I tried to not look into his eyes because I was so scared he would hit me again when I went to my room they didn’t bother speaking to me so I could calm down but before I was going to my room I told him if he wanted me to die from this fear I had and my mom said to never speak like that but my dad said nothing and they told me to leave the room. I’m pretty glad I found this video made more sense why I’m very emotional when I get yelled at thanks a lot for this kind of things

I have been watching so many videos about abuse for some time now just to know if my parents are abusing me and they are I am 15 I self harm and I need help i just wanna leave but I can’t I live in the Middle Easton one listens and 5 minuets ago my dad cursed at me and yelled at me for taking out the charger I wanna be free help me

My mother is the main reason why I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It wasn’t my phone, no not at all. She yells at me over anything. I stay on my phone because it’s a thing to cope with and get away from my problems. Yesterday I broke down in a restaurant and my mom told me I make everyone feel miserable. She called me selfish and dreadful. I physically flinch when she threatens me or screams as me, or even preforms an outburst. No one understands. My dad’s the only one. My best friend can’t comprehend what it’s like to have a mother hover over you 24/7 and keep you in some cage, the key being thrown away. “Everyone wants to be supported, everyone wants to be loved” my friend says. Yeah, I know that dumb ass. Thing is my friend acts as if her life is shit when she has everything. A loving, patient mother, friends that understand. A supportive mother. It’s all I ask in life. Not once has my mother said “I’m so proud of you!” In a genuine tons. I just want to make my mother feel proud of me. I want to meet her expectations as long as me meets mine. Is that too much to ask?

Who else here to comfort yourself after your parents yelled at you again, to know that you don't deserve to be yelled at.

i yell at my mom after sometimes being yelled at and shut down by her. the amount of frustration bottling up is insane. and when it explodes it cannot stop. for some people, it’s crying or panicking. but for me it’s frustration which leads to me screaming at her face. it’s so toxic. luckily i have only done this a few times, not much really. have to learn to stabilize my emotions because it is so toxic for me and others

my dad yelled at me and my sibling throughout our entire lives and he still does. needless to say, we both have issues. we both struggle with depression and anxiety and i personally have a hard time connecting with others, displaying emotions, and physical affection. so yeah, i think it fucks you up

I‘m sitting here, trying to do some therapy on my own, and I was caught in feelings of anxiety until I found this video. The animations gave me a good laugh and I kinda feel a little better. Thanks for the video: - )

My parents don't yell at me but my granny does, I just cry and cry because I've been holding in my sadness for so long when she yells at me, I wish she knew how much my heart breaks

I get screamed at everyday that im used to it. Even, its weird not to be screamed at. Im thinking about running away or something.

I've been yelled at by everybody regularly my whole life, but mostly my mom and first stepdad. I have been wrestling with anxiety and depression for 16 years now, as a result, mostly. I have watched other people go through the same thing. I'm an adult, almost thirty years old and yelling still afects me badly when I'm not prepared. It makes me angry, nervous, butthurt, humiliated, etc. When I complain, people just tell me to suck it up, largely because I'm male.They also blame me, too. I hate the way people are. People just want to mess you up for themselves, and then go on their merry way.

Freshman year i failed a class that i actually tried in, and i knew as soon as i told my stepdad (who ive known since i was 5) id be dead. He grew up with a very strict and harsh dad who would often yell and hit them. My dad sees this a the right way to discipline me, but im not nearly mentally as strong as he was. I told my dad i failed the class first semester and he flipped on me and called me worthless and berated me to the point where my mom had to step in. About a month later i had what i thought was a heart attack but turned out to be a panic attack. Id been a pretty happy kid and never really had one. For the next 6-7 months, i took CBD oil without my dads knowledge (my mom knew/bought it for me) to treat my anxiety which was pretty severe for the next 5-6 months. Im a sophomore now and my dad will still bring it up and make fun of me for it, but i cant do anything because he is 6'2" and im at most 5'5". It brings back the anxiety that has been better everytime he brings it up, and ever since that night, i havent been the same. Ive begged for therapy, but we just cant afford it, or atleast my mom cant. My dad doesn't know how to solve problems without calling people pieces of shit, and it has really had a huge affect on me and i dont wish this upon any kid.

I'm 18, I grew up with my mother screaming at me.. so did my older brother and sister. Luckily I didn't get that trait, but whenever there's an issue my bro and sis yell, cut you off, and throw a fit.. because my mom never taught them how to handle stressful situations. She just yelled at us all of our lives. Luckily my dad was the one who taught me how to relieve stress. You either walk away, or just smile at them until they shut up.

We are at the point no return. I already associate my mom's screaming and nagging voice with anxiety, anger, fear, and general annoyance.

We had 3 crates of food and 1 was almost empty and i took it all because i was literally dying of hunger and i get yelled at for it:((

July 7, 2019- When parents yell at you. They give you attention to not do it again or why, do, did. Whatever the situation are.. I forgive my parents. It teaches you lessons.. discipline.. But you are mad at them for no reasons.. then you say you are sorry. I won't do it again I'm sorry. I love you... like you actually mean it...

Moving out at 18 got to get away from this hell I live in

My eyes are swollen crying each and every night they never listen to me i just don't wanna die i wished i was not BORN

When my mom yelled at me I would just think, “OMG shut up, big mouth.” and then I would stop doing what I was doing. I knew she still loved me and I don’t hold it against her. I really don’t think yelling is as damaging as people think as long as nothing hurtful is being yelled. My mom never yelled anything to try to hurt me. She was just frustrated that I was acting out. The yelling didn’t hurt me.

The popular 20 year-old song "Numb", released in 2003 by Linkin Park I would say easily relates to this. The screaming in this song very much describes the feelings of intense anger.

I get yelled for playing games, after a day at school, when I want to play a little, it's been not even 30 minutes, my dad yells and beats me. I am a teen of 15 years old, what should I do? I am just lost, I am also having problems at school cuz I love programming and computer stuffs and this made people call me NERD, I get bullied, I get rejected and crushed and all I want is to escape this world by playing video games but this also I am not allowed to do. I just don't know what to do, I just want to end my life😢

When my dad snaps I just shake like a cold chihuahua. He bangs the table and curses at me and I just stand there in shock looking at him in horror and just cry. The only person that can make me feel loved in my family is my brother he's always there for me. 🥺 Cant wait to move out, got about 5 more years until I can though...

Love this and the Tantrum video - you guys are doing awesome stuff being very informative and creating visuals to keep us entertained. Thank you and keep it up!

I still remember when I was first screamed at... I was so terrified that I really wanted to run, run away from home run as long as I can but i just stand there being shocked. what did I do? I forgot to clean the dishes after eating. now this is a “good” reason to scream at a sensible kid.

When I’m talking to my mom, my father screams and swears at me thinking I’m talking back. It happens everyday.

As soon as I saw the title, I knew I had to come here to say YES YES IT IS. END OF DISCUSSION. I haven't even watched the video.

Parents yell because they have run out of arguments, but their ego is too big to admit they are wrong.

I hope that I’ll be able to support myself when I turn 18 because I can’t handle this constant yelling at me.

Only if my parents knew english / let their mind be changed

My parents always yell at me mostly my dad, and if i ask him a question he yells at me and says i bug to much, if i say im hungry he yells. This does actually make me scared. :( but he still loves me and sometimes gives me chips even when i dont ask for it, and he is a really nice dad, its just that he gets mad easily.

“Even though you wouldn’t hurt your kids...”. Hmm...

Everyone expects children and teenagers to not yell at anyone, especially someone younger, and an adult yelling at another adult is never deemed okay. But people (not this video in particular, just a generalized statement) are so quick to forgive them for taking it out on the most helpless people in their lives: their children. And I will never understand it.