Is Your Mind in a Negative Loop? - Escape Rumination | Eckhart Tolle 

Two brothers who's father was an alcoholic, who beat his wife and children and regularly drank the food and rent money. One brother grew up to be an alcoholic who beat his wife and children while the other brother grew up to be the kindness and most loving husband and father anyone could ever wish to have. When each brothers were asked why they felt they turned out to be the man they were, both brothers gave exactly the same answer "WHAT DID YOU EXPECT ME TO BECOME WITH A, FATHER LIKE I HAD?". Its not so much what happens to us but the effect we allow it to have on us that determines who we are today, and its never to late to let go of the old story that supports our right to be a victim and justifies the unhappiness we feel and pass on to others ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 🙏🙏🙏🙏

"No human can act beyond their conditioning in the absence of awareness. If there is awareness they can transcend their conditioning."

"Unconscious human beings virtually have no free will". This is profound.

Anyone else have an awakening during this video? Get a glimpse of the victim identity even for a nano second? So powerful. Everytime I listen to him something heals in me or I see something I didn't know existed inside the mind.

That last part hit me hard. My family (parents, brother) is toxic. My mother especially is like the unpredictable volcano. This video helps me see this differently, because she suffered a lot in her childhood, but refused to face her own traumas and acted them out on us. She continued to suffer because both of us kids turned out highly dysfunctional, and my brother eventually committed suicide. So my parents now have to live with the grief of a death of a child. I believe I am the first in my family line (that I know of) who is really trying to change their perspective. Everyone else didn't even consider that because it never occurred to them that this was something they might want to do. I can see that they are totally unconscious, and they (and my brother) had to live with the consequences of their own actions. Videos like this help me see things through a more neutral lens.

How incredibly blessed we are to be able to listen to Eckhart Tolle. Lots of us have had a traumatic time growing up. So its such a wonderful blessing to find that we can go beyond feeling a victim. At 80 years old I feel so thankful that I can let go of so many negative thoughts.

I was struggling with bad rumination for over a year about my ex girlfriend. Every minute, everyday my mind would not stop thinking about my ex. I used to be only able to sleep for 1 hour or sometimes none and would have to work 8+ hours the next day completely exhausted mentally and physically. I did and tried everything from therapy, antidepressants, micro dosing, hypnotherapy, meditation, breath work, ice bath, quitting alcohol, the lot. For me meditation and breath work helped me a lot but also acceptance was a big part and stop telling myself that I'm a victim because at the end of the day it's in the past and the past isn't useful to me. I wouldnt make anyone go through rumination it's like a song repeating over and over again in your mind and it won't turn off

" Remember one thing: when the negative moments come, just remain watchful; don’t get identified with them. They come, and they come with a great force… and when they are coming with great force it is an indication that soon they will die. Before they die, they come with great force; it is their last effort to catch hold of you. It is just as the night becomes very dark just before it is going to end, just before the dawn is going to happen…. Or just as a dying man becomes very alive in the last moments. For months or years he may have been ill and weak but in the moment of death, for a few moments before, he becomes bright, alert, alive, as if all disease has disappeared. It is the last effort, the last bout of life energy, the last effort to catch hold, mm? That’s what is happening to you. Your negative moods will become deeper and deeper; now you have to be very very alert not to get distracted by them. Let them come - watch. A cloud comes and goes; you are the witness. Don’t repress, and don’t be dragged down by it; don’t be overpowered by it either… and soon it will disappear."

Hearing that eckhart tole had a father with anger issues gives me more hope than ever

If we deny negativity, we will remain ignorant. If we run away from negativity, we will remain ignorant. If we fight negativity, we will remain ignorant. If we face negativity with a willingness to see it for what it really is, a Teacher, we will move forward into Presence. 🙏💖😊🌈

'They still need to suffer the consequences of their unconsciousness'. The ego part of me needed to hear that :)

Eckhart Tolle is a life saving angel. I pray that he lives a very long, healthy and peaceful life.

Oh my gosh, this is a perfect description of myself! Back in 1993 I was denigrated severely by the Air Force officers in ROTC Field Training camp on the evaluations. It ruined my self esteem. Later I was able to see flaws in the system. I then focused on finding fault with the ROTC system as much as possible to invalidate my negative evaluations and repair my self-esteem. I later applied this obsession to everything else, stewing over transgressions and slights that others did to me in the past, in order to feed my sense of grievance. It eventually ran on autopilot, becoming part of my personality. If I spend too much alone time, my brain randomly dredges up some past grievance to stew over. Even while driving to the grocery store. I now believe that my chronic anger creates negative energy in the universe and it causes bad things to happen to me. :( Trying to combat this addiction takes a lot of effort, and feels unnatural.

"No human can act beyond their conditioning, in the absence of awareness."

I went back and listened for a second time and boom huge healing! Large chunk of pain released. "They had virtually no free will" listen to that over and over until conscious shiws it you as an absolute. Healing through the light of consciousness to you all!

This came at perfect timing for me! Undergoing changes after being in very dark phases throughout my day after also losing my job. Alot of stuff going on with family & housing aswell! Its coming all directions 😂 but not adapting a victim mentality, but staying present in optimism & the facts

Bravo to anyone putting in the effort to become more enlightened. Letting go of the “victim role” and not identifying with the ego. “No one can act beyond their level of consciousness .” Knowing this can be very useful in allowing life to be our biggest teacher. Thank you Eckhart …🙏🏽💯

I wrote my bad thoughts, put them in brackets and wrote 'this is what my ego thinks. I am not my ego. Nothing can hurt real me'. I felt a relief but it was for short time. This video is so helpful to me. Thank you, mr Tolle!

None of them came across a conscious person or teaching to help them become conscious enough to not perpetrate or do what they did. We have been blessed enough in this life to come across a teaching to help us become more conscious, they did not.

I was just on the phone asking my partner how to escape a negative thought loop 🤯 Thank you Universe and Eckhart 🥰🙏🏻

Great explanation. I would add that the first step before this would be to let go of the judgement. Allow yourself to just feel what IS, without labeling it. The frustration is a sign that there is resistance to simply allowing the energy to flow. The thoughts are just tools of awareness letting you know that damage still exists. These thoughts are a beautiful gift showing us the truth of what currently IS. As you allow the energy to flow without judgement, it flows out and diminishes until the root is gone. This is the power of the soul at work. Loving thoughts to all those currently in this process, wish you well in your discoveries.

A top tip I got from Lisa Cairns - say to yourself "I accept" whenever you catch yourself disagreeing with reality! Very powerful.

Growing up my father had quite frequent outbursts of anger too which was very hard for me to experience. I didn’t understand where his strong emotions came from and a lot of it transferred onto me. I’m just so glad that I awakened and was able to overcome all those difficult emotions from childhood. Maybe it was all set up just for me to awaken who knows…

Mr. Now always keeps amazing us.

decades of ruminating, resentment, hidden anger..........thank you for the guidance Eckhart.

For the longest time I desired and even sought out the accountability of others, those who harmed and/or mistreated me when I was a child (helpless). I ended up in AA/NA, and recovery in 1987. I've had to unpack and sort out a ton of baggage and conditioning. As difficult as it was/is, I came, am coming to accept, that in most cases those who were most harmful towards me, largely parents, did the best they could, in consideration of where they had come from and had themselves experienced. It seemed like a cop-out to me, but truth is I also, behaved inappropriately a lot when using and abusing substances, self and others. The truth for me is, I'm just as capable of being inhumane as anyone I encountered in my life's journey and once, I was made aware of my parent's upbringings and life experiences, I had to see I'd may have behaved even worse had I carried either of their yokes. Though I continue to feel pain and sorrow, I'm able to direct that towards the suffering my parents endured as their life progressed and ended. It's liberating to have very little attachment to how they behaved towards myself and sibling, and to feel only Love towards them and sorrow that they have long since moved to another plane of existence. I sincerely hope they found peace, love and contentment, and that we will meet again on the other side. "Resentment is the number one offender" of reason's those of us in recovery resume to abuse self and others.

I pray that 2023 gets immensely enormously astronomically better (on every level, in every possible, pleasant, healthy way). So far it's mostly just been filled with grief terror pain heartbreak and suicidal depression...

No one is egoless. Awareness of how the ego can misguide or deceive you has to be there before you can seek to change your mindset. Self will, will always bring negative consequences, even if this is not immediately apparent.

prayer for an open heart, a mended heart, a healed heart, a restored heart, and a mind at peace. for removal of any and all obstacles and blockages that may be in the way of self-love and twin-flame love.

Yes .. we still need to suffer the consequences of our unconsciousness in order to grow in consciousness.. the way forward - Thankyou as always Eckhardt 🙏💓🌸

Eckhart, always mentions problems I have, it's like he knows me.

Do not conform to the patterns of this world but, be transformed by the renewal of your mind

‘No human can act beyond their conditioning in the absence of awareness’ great quote.

And I'm so grateful. Whatever challenge I'm facing when I listen to him it's revealed what the cause is at a deeper level.

Thank you mr.Tolle for your most wonderful and penetrating insight. How true! I personally have found through the years that the difficult part is that, in order to be free, you must go through fire....your own fire! You have to pay dearly, observe your situation and endure little by little, step by step...so to be able to accept, negate your situation!

I become as unconscious as the one committing the acts of betrayal then I listen to those who are enlightened and calm returns where negativity filled my ego. Bless you all.

Eckhart has his CONCEALED CARRY VEST ON 😁👌💪THE GURU IS PACKING HEAT!!!

I love Eckhart, but I kept waiting for him to address the original issue that the person brought up -- about how to exit a negative loop, or "rumination", as it says in the title of this video

Eckart Tolle is a beautiful soul!

Wish my sons could understand and accept this instead of unknowingly holding on to the past that project the egoic mind strongly.

I've been listening for years, this is one of your best ever. Very wise. Thank you 😊

Thank you Eckhart. I feel sorry for the people who felt like they needed to treat me badly. I always wondered why they did because I didn't give them any reason to. Not understanding why was a big part of my frustration but your explanation really helped me to understand. I'm very grateful that I don't have the desire to hurt people. I can't imagine how I would deal with that. Now I can think about them and hope that they find their way.

Minus the "word victim" or "victimization" what's left? I never ever felt like "a victim" within the dysfunctional background of family. Understanding *why* they all hate me was key. Being a threat to their substance abused egos, poof! Understanding I have been a *victim" has actually helped me to recover! Using the word victim as if one is "feeling bad for themselves" is ridiculous. Real emotions. Real recovery from *understanding the reality of what's happened to us* and then accepting and the goodness gifted to us as real creators is what and how I moved forward. Again, *understanding and accepting I truly was a victim of circumstances is when I healed on levels beyond my imagination.*

Such healing can come to so many listening to your insightful and soothing words. Thank you Eckhart Tolle

I've learned of Eckhart through Damien Echols. Both are great examples of what the human mind is capable of. Thanks for this!

One of the most eye-opening videos I’ve ever watched. Thank you!

If people don’t suffer the consequences of their actions how will they ever become aware/enlightened/awakened or whatever other term people like to use. This made perfect sense and was very powerful. Thanks for sharing

This one is heavy 😢😢😢

Thank you for this, Eckhart! You always come through at the exact right time. 💖

A helpful reminder just now, thank you. & a big heartfelt thank you to the querent for having the courage to ask.

For me, what has worked is showing compassion for the other person, and realizing that the hurt they inflicted on you is the hurt they are carrying around in their lives. Ekhart brilliantly summarized that when he said ‘one cannot act beyond his consciousness’. Also, try to reframe as often as possible with gratitude. Think about the things you’re grateful for in the situation. Perhaps the experience has shed some light in your own shadow. Be grateful for the role that this person played in your life as well. 🙏🏾

Thank you ,Eckhart 🙏I would love to watch the remaining of the this seminar .

I am learning so much more about how our lives are being experienced in a more awakened way recently. This is a very powerful post

Thank you, Eckhart. This video found me right when I was needing it!

Thank you, Eckhart. This is the answer to so many questions.

this was perfect timing.....! Thank you👃

Unconscious Conditioning 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥that’s a tee shirt … the good thing is that in awareness we are blessed and reborn in every second to become aware and conscious 😇🧡🌹

Thankyou Eckhardt That loop of mine has decades of situations involving sociopaths and bullies. I try to forgive myself for having allowed them into my life.

I'm from Brazil, and it's very interesting that this video came up today. Last Sunday, January 8, very bad things happened in our capital, Brasília. A very large group of former president Bolsonaro supporters invaded and destroyed three buildings, which were home to the Executive, Legislative and Judiciary Powers. This was an extreme example of what you have just described about group ego. In an attempt to prove their side was the right side, these mobsters acted like animals, no awareness present at all. Our nation is facing a dangerous polarization, and the ones who lost the election are acting insanely. I really fear the way things are going.

Thank you very much, for this teaching. I’ve learned a lot from you.🌸🙏

Amazing, Simular story. Thank you for the enlightment and helping with self awareness.

Endlessly grateful ❤️🙏

Thank you so much ❤ perfect time reached me ❤

Thank you Eckhart 😊

Ignore all thought. Not just the ones you like about yourself or dislike about yourself. It's of no use to anyone.

Needed to hear this. Perfect timing. ❤

When mind is telling all bad. Start thinking something which makes good.

First have to cut off from the collective ego. Then trash 🗑️ the victim identity. It's really a prison.

This talk is absolutely amazing! It is a must for those who have chosen a different narrative to our personal stories. Practicing this truly opens a new path to our Spiritual evolutionary growth. Otherwise, we tend to stay stuck in that horrible, revolving door of victimhood. Love and Light.

So true on the group ego...I am a citizen of this beautiful planet and of this universe...thank you Eckhart!!🙏🌌🌍💚

This was really powerfully. I feel like I kind of have the opposite problem. I’ve forgiven the person who hurt me but it’s been really hard to watch them suffer the consequences of their behavior towards me and it dampers my spirits. But I guess I need to feel gratitude that they have the opportunity to raise their consciousness from gaining self awareness of how their actions led to them suffering these consequences. Especially since their abuse behavior stems from an entitlement that they felt due to a victim mindset.

I was ready to hear this. If I had heard this a few months ago, I wouldn't have gotten it. I started thinking about how my self-absorbing thoughts were an ego issue. Your further comments make the concept solid. (Thank you, Eckhart)

Thank you Eckhart

AHA! The relation of free will to consciousness, so simple so true.

Thank you for this, Eckhart! 😘

Very Enlightening and Informative. Thank You for taking the time to make this video.

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment know. I wish you great success, health, love and happiness! ✨

Thank you teacher.

Thanks, Eckhart.

That’s a valuable insight, I’ve had a lot of difficulties with abusive family and partners. I used to be unconscious to how I would go into victim mode and start defending myself until I realised I needed to accept my vulnerability just as it was when things seemingly didn’t go my way instead of acting like the perpetrators would. Something about not engaging in the same energy when the thoughts or memories appear, I am still working on how to separate this, act from my wiser self and not absorb it. Possibly a lot of people who went through difficult childhood and abuse have this issue as forgiving and understanding doesn’t always stop the abuser from thinking about what they did in some way and then the cycle repeats, as we can pick up on those thoughts as one consciousness.

Good stuff. I guess I am still struggling to understand though. I have known for some time that “they do not know what they do”, that they are how they are because of their conditioning, etc. part of me can’t blame, but part cannot seem to get over the hurt they have caused and how difficult it has made my life. Why do I have to suffer because of their unconsciousness, etc. the logic of understanding that it’s not their fault and the emotions of being so hurt can’t seem to integrate.

Thank you. Very insightful.

Very interesting - belonging to group also has group ego which needs enemies to sustain and survive! Quite insightful - victim consciousness is also ego. I think all neediness, until we arrive at ' enoughness ' is egoic because it emerges from sense of lack. Isn't it?

This talk was helpful. Thank you. 🌺

Watching this right now and after having had a big fight with my mom who abused me as a child I can't tell you How relieved I feel To actually be able to feel like I can actually start to forgive. I'm usually not patient and listening to the whole thing of things like this because it triggers the heck out of me. I'm but from beginning to end and right towards the end I just wanted to hear more because I felt myself understanding now unconscious I've been for most of my life and it's what true but I am now beginning to awaken and become aware of how unconscious I've been living. Thank you Eckhart

First thing to end suffering, don’t identify with anything. 🙏🌸🙏

I was married to a volcanic man who called me names & accused me of things I wouldn't dream of doing. He exploited me on every level. Was he unconscious? Yes. He still didn't have to be abusive & destroy my trust. He should've left if he was unhappy.

Wonderful food for thought 💚

He sounds like Pooh bear. ❤

omg I felt like I was writing that letter to Eckhart

Thank you for your beautiful explanations, it means a lot to learn from you.

Gratitude

Amazing thank you for your wisdom ❤ 🙏

I like that ending thought that humans are doing the best that they can at that moment in time that something occurs (when they may do damage to another from their unconscious self). Until consciousness arrives from the deep “I” instead of the surfaces”I”. I think you said that doesn’t mean they should not or won’t experience some form of punishment. Ultimately forgiveness is the 🔑 key! One who is operating from the surface “I” will receive punishment by the very nature of what drives that behavior from within. Not feeling enough, etc. Thank you Eckhart! I know that I am only paraphrasing what you said but this is what I got from what you said. ♥️🦋♥️

Thank you gorgeous man❤

Thank you, for your wisdom words .Greetings from Slovakia .

Thank you for the Great Video.

thx you i so needed to hear that as i saw myself going into victim consciousness, yet now i see what it was

Thank you.

It's a shame there are so many negative comments to one another from people trying to be Tolle, with their own "stories." I have never seen this on an ET video