Thanks for having me on your channel boo!!💕This was such an interesting and layered topic to discuss! Honestly I could have gone for HOURS! The topic of bodyshaming can be an emotional one but I’m glad this was a vibe 🥂Can’t wait for more episodes of #KouchWithKamsi 🎉❤
Skinny shaming is literally everyday. Especially from relatives! Africans associate being big with having money. Others trying to make you feel good by saying “ oh wow your going to look young when your older it’s a privilege” but naa I don’t take it as a complement, even guys who you want look at you with a “aww” rather than I want you. So now I go where I feel wanted my boyfriend really helped with that.
Ikr, I get compared to kids 15 years younger than me especially from relatives like "you are struggling weight with your little cousin". People politely sugar coat it saying "You are small" and I'm like 5"8 definitely not small. No one sees me without asking if I'm on a diet or starving myself or say things like "ahh, don't touch her oh she's going to break"
@@kamsinnamani aww thanks😊, but I’m just happy that talks like that don’t get to me as easily as they might to others and I also have good support system (immediate family and friends)
I'm a plus size and I will tell you body shaming is literally a very bad thing, is it the fact that guys approach you and say all sort of things and in your head you think you're loved, only for you to realize that they are just after the body, the big boobs and all, or is it the fashion world, if you're a plus size you spend extra to get what you wear, it's just crazy how you will be passing and the only thing someone says to greet you is Hey Orobo 😥 but then, I'm still a work in progress, working to love my body always and always stay positive regardless of people's comment.
Love love this topic. Have you guys everr met a petite/small sized woman/lady, we go through the worst everyday, from being approached by your kid brother's age mate, to Okada men calling you their size, to getting unnecessary applause when you do things your age should do and questioned if you are truly truly your age. Well done Kamsi!
I’m petite too n I agree People underestimate me, even before letting me try n then I have to put a lot more effort on what I do, to prove that I can actually do it. I don’t thing a day has ever gone by that someone does not body shame me
I absolutely love this conversation. And yes skinny shaming is a thing here in Nigeria. Try being a size 4 in Nigeria, HELL!! Heck buying clothes from here is a struggle.
I loved this conversation. I’ve been a big girl all my life and it’s crazy how I have never felt to be smaller by myself but everyone around me kinda wants me to be. I mean, when it comes to some things I’d obviously wish I was skinnier or had a flatter tummy or anything but I never feel or dwell on it too much. Being bigger is not a crime!! It’s my body fr and it affects you in no way!!! Stop carrying my weight on your head!😂🫶
Smiles….I can relate to the guest totally stating she doesn’t feel any kinda way way with her body, I am Fat and I go into a room and all attention falls to me, it has to be with carriage and mindset!!!! Most importantly just take are of yourself
I used to be a size 6/8 for a very long time in my life and when I gained some weight, my Uncle saw me at a family function and said; "Ehen, now you have personality and people will take you more seriously especially appearing in court" I didn't understand it. So when I was a size 8, I didn't have a personality? lmao
I can relate so much to this because I am 6ft tall and I am a little bit on the big side, and I know how people mistake me for some adult, lol I'm just 22. I grew up super skinny cause I was always working out and eating less just so I wouldn't be called Orobo cause I was already being called Ogololo. Fast forward to uni days, where I ended up dating this guy that was body shaming me. Lol I added weight just to prove I could be thick and hot. And the idiot still complained. Moral of the story is that I've learned to make choices for my body that isn't influenced by anybody. I love that I added weight cause damn I look good. I still struggle with some things that come with the flesh like rolls and stretch marks but I am gradually growing to love it and I encourage myself everyday and remind myself that I am amazing!
Body shaming a skinny person as oppose to a "plus size" person is a very debatable topic and will not receive the same outcome. Honestly, I do not think it's the same but it was quite lovely that you brought it up because i never thought about it like that. It goes to show how we all view stuff like this. Keep up the new series. Love it, your Caribbean follower.
My sister is skinny and I’m fat so I’ve seen the effects on both sides. Some days it hurts more for me, other days it hurts more for her and I comfort her. No one should be shamed for their body regardless tbh. However, in society I get a lot more negative stereotypes for being fat like “lazy”.
I was body shamed as a teenager for being skinny... thats also another kind of trauma... from people asking if you're healthy to other nicknames... but yo! I just had a really fast metabolism. Now that I'm an adult and have a good amount of weight that period is still traumatic🤣
I honestly think that fat shaming and skinny shaming are equally bad. As a former skinny person... skinny can almost be likened to unhealthy.. same as there is a negative connotation to fat people maybe just being lazy or whatever. At the end of the day people should just stop body shaming in general
@@GrowingWithM Yh, I agree and also from my experience, skinny = starvation. Every one assumes you don't eat well, not putting in the condition that you might be eating everything, taking every supplement, etc
I agree with you @Kamsi, I feel very insecure when people say I'm skinny because I've been trying to add weight for the longest time. Imagine me taking apetite drugs and increasing my diet and everyone I meet is telling me I'm skinny omo! e dey pain abeg! skinny shaming is a real thing as well
I watch all your videos and I never comment. This is such a beautiful video. It made me so emotional cause I've been skinny shamed a lotttt. Some might say it's not the same as being plus sized but it's the same to me and like Anjola said, it's my body and no one has the right to talk about it any how. Gaining weight is veryy difficult for me and I'm just going to end this long comment by saying I love you kamsi🤗 and I love you Anjola even tho I don't know you well❤️
On God I knew there was something different about this video.. I flipped my phone every which way😭😭.. I just couldn't figure it out until someone in the comment section stated that Kamsi is wearing Colour😅.. like a barbie doll, make up always on flick!
I was skinny shamed when I was a teenager "skeleton gboma" was a popular name I was called. If I had an argument with someone they would say " abeg oo I nor go touch before you die for my hand" or " if I blow you breeze with my mouth you go just fall" even my dad *God rest his soul* wanted to fatten me up because people think he doesn't feed me. Skinny shaming is just as painful as fat shaming. They should see me now all thick and beautiful.
Same goes for “short” like people make you feel less of a human because you are short like it’s your fault. In my opinion fat and skinny is slightly better compared to short or overly tall people because you really can not do anything about it.
Well, permit me to disagree with Angela a bit. I’m on the bigger side and I will only agree that Nigeria is fat phobic if we were still in 2012. I honestly can’t remember the last time I was body shammed rather I Intimidate people now although I am literally the sweetest person. Skinny girls just hate me so much, it amazes me but I’m used to that now. It’s just confidence and how I carry myself. And every guy wants to do stuff for me. In my head I’m the sexiest person alive and I don’t care if I’m delusional about it. this has been the most paramount part of my aura and I own every room I walk into effortlessly. My conclusion is, if you see yourself as that girl that radiates confidence in all ramifications, Everyone will treat you accordingly. That’s just fact. A guy ones told me that there are just few people in the world like me. So I owned it. ❤️
Kamsi is just one of those people that I know will definitely be an amazing Girl mom. One can just see that God ordained her with the ability to raise very healthy girls, emotionally, mentally and physically.
On the Kouch with Kamsi!! Lovee it. ❤❤ This conversation was everything!! Coming from a family where everyone is bigger than me, I realised in this life, literally just do what makes you happy. When I’m skinny it’s “bonga fish” when I add weight, it’s “what are you eating, you’re eating too much” You can’t please everyone, so might as well please only yourself.❤
This is really a Thing we sleep on!!! Bring it on Babes. I’m in Lagos, I wish you can have a meet and greet with Girlies in Lagos! So we can actually just have a round table conversation ♥️
It’s the fact that I literally finished watching this before the previous video. But I definitely enjoyed this conversation mostly because I could relate to Angela a lot. It’s really important to not let what people say create a reaction that can typically ruin your day. Your attitude is a result of a reaction someone’s trying to get from you, and I think the older I get the more I realize just how irrelevant someone else’s opinions are. That being said I hope people learn to read whoever they are talking to and know how to approach them with questions especially when it has to do with weight loss or weight gain. Amazing video Kam and yes!! Looking for a was to the new series 🥹🧡
Hmmm this particular topic is a very hot one . Skinny shaming is associated with suffering n hunger 🥺and I really hate it when people talk about others body 😔.
That’s really true kamsi sometime ago I was going through a lot of things and I lost so much weight and I usually feel really bad when people tell me. And I was trying my best to eat really well. So your right I think it’s the same feeling too when fat people are told that their fat.
nice video, your quest is quite cool😉 and reasonable not like those crazy friends of yours from the video "TYPES of men you shouldnot date in your 20's"
I also think it doesn’t depend on what the person actually looks like, it depends on how they see themselves. The love for big women is only on Nigerian social media. They have a warped view of how a body should look. When they see how a big person looks in person they start to act one kind of way. Speaking from experience
Skinny shamming is 💯 a thing, for someone who has been on a smaller size most of my life and find it difficult to gain weight it’s really annoying when People make silly comments like omg your so skinny😅 I’m like use any word but that word skinny hits as hard as the word fat, like you think I don’t know I’m skinny???it’s even more annoying when your actively trying to gain weight but I’ve been trying to let people’s words have power over me, like I’m skinny okayyyy tell me something else I don’t know
Skinny shaming is a thing o... I get skinny shamed at least 4 out of the 7 days in a week and the toll it takes on me everytime is out of this world. People need to learn how to talk cos haba!
This is a great conversation! I’m also in the big size and I so much hate that people try to make you feel good about your body this minute and call you fat the next! It’s So crazy Plus being a plus size make older people more attracted to you and I hate it, like I’m your daughters age mate sir 😢
Yeahhhh that part of talking to yourself like your best friend… I’m learning that cos sisssss my inner voice is so critical of me. I don’t understand where that false sense of perfection came from but I’m learning to be my best friend. Andddddd not making someone my “heaven”, knowing that I deserve all the love because I simply deserve it and not that they are doing me a favour. Yeahhhhh, I can check you and you still be irrelevant. I love the hashtag…. #onthecouchwithkamsi ❤❤❤ Thank you for the lessons. Your friend is really sweeet and beautiful ❤❤❤
this episode is so interesting and so realistic, and honestly no one should be talking about a persons body unprovoked... and I literally loved this conversation...And by the way kamsi please film a makeup tutorial for us
The level of respect I have for Angelaaa. I’ll be so ready to fight. Before he finishes his statement I’d have slapped the silliness out of him. Ahhh if I was there I’d have helped you slap him 😒
I was told I looked like maltina bottle then or they’ll draw a funny shape on the floor to explain how I look I cried a lot then But now I’ll take it as a compliment Because you notice I have a nice shape
I don't think it's about it's origin though. It really is just a word made to describe something that was turned into a bad word. Fat literally can be measured and isn't about what you see with your eyes; so a person can look slender but after tests is discovered to be fat (overweight).
