It's the Best Time To Be A Single Asian Man Dating 

It's improved, but it still has a long way to go. As long as Western media keeps pushing negative Asian male stereotypes, it will continue to hold us back. Asians need more solidarity like some other minority groups.

As a Hispanic/Latino male I’m happy to see my fellow Asian brothers dating life become hugely improved. I’ve always felt that Asian men got the short end of the stick when it comes to the media representation and dating. I hope one day we live in a society where race won’t matter when it comes to dating.

Latinas always gave me muuuuch more love than any other race

I'm 46 year old Asian male. In HS I was pretty much invisible. I hit the gym when I started college, my confidence and self worth improved. The window opened up for me with different races (majority Latina). Looking back, it's more the confidence and personality that attributed to my change. Being Asian was a secondary thing to the girls. Even at 46 I still get looks from girls much younger than me.

I have no doubt that dating for asian males is way better than it ever has been in the past 15 years but at the sametime... it still has a ways to go as well

CMB data isn't typical. Most users are Asian, with 80% being Asian males, so naturally, they get the majority of the likes. Instead of looking at total likes by race, the ratio of being liked back or likes per person might give a clearer picture. But I do agree, dating life is improving for Asian males.

The reason asian men do very on CB is because its a serious dating app, and asian on average where 25% more likely to put down ''looking for a serious relationship'', they also spent 18% more time on the app than any other group. So, in essence CB is a more traditional dating service, the women on CB (unlike tinder) are actually looking for a relationship rather than a hookup. And asian men are looking for the same more than any other group. so asian men do much better there, which is great!

I'm a 52 year old asian dude and you young dudes have it easy compared to when I was young. Even an old dude like me is doing pretty good in dating nowadays. Don't slack off. Get out there.

As a black man, I saw shout out to the Asian wave. Much deserved!!

I’m not even Asian, yet I’m hooked. You guys are very naturally entertaining and I’ve always been interested in other cultures, but the Asian cultures were ones that I didn’t hear a lot of information on. Almost like a mystery. Keep the videos coming please. 👍

As an Asian-American, I use to feel underrated when it comes to this type of stuff, but now looking back I’m actually glad that I was over seen, and it doesn’t bother me anymore. I just do me and my own thing. Keeping it 💯 #iykyk

I do admit that there is an element of risk-averseness in Asian parenting, because part of filial piety requires making parents feel secure, which discourages risk taking as it may make parents feel insecure, and in case of failure, make them feel ashamed

east asian men moving up, south asian men stuck at the bottom

It has happened to Asians, the same thing that happened to Latinos in the past with the “Latin Lover” stereotype. In the case of Asians, it is largely driven by Kpop and Kdrama. I just think this romanticization is kind of dangerous, and this applies to any ethnic group.

i know that one race of women who always gave love to the asian dudes were black women. I remember David Choe once said the same thing, saying how in the dating pool the LEAST desirable to date in each gender was Asian males and Black females, respectively.

I actively avoided dating apps for years and tried to meet women irl. After years of fruitlessness, I signed up for Coffee Meets Bagel and within a year I met my now wife.

I am asian american and been married to my latina wife for 23 years. We recently went to mexico for mission trip and many asking my wife how it was married to a korean, so much more interest than it was 10 years ago.

Im no social scientist but the youth culture was definitely the most favorable to asians and asian males in late 2021 and especially early to mid 2022. That was the real rise of asian masculinity imo, without the signs of insecurity and pretense of asian americans beforehand. After that the old culture kind of flared back, around when andrew tate blew up. I think its still that way but I see signs of it washing away recently. All I can say is the more redpill-ish and netflix emo vintage style people and social cultures are, the more hostile to asian guys. While the more "tiktok" like and generally the less alternate & nerdy the social atmosphere is, the more favorable to asian guys. A strong pattern I've seen.

Coffee Meets Bagels isn't representative at all of dating apps in USA. Asian guys get a lot of matches there because 50%+ of their userbase is Asian.

As a White German Male no Matter what the girls think, you are my asian Brothers🔥🤝

I think like most forms of racism, we need to have two thoughts in our head at the same time: 1) Yes, things have gotten better for Asian men on the dating scene 2) It's still not perfect and we still have a long way to go We need to be able to appreciate the progress we've made while still trying to push to make the world even better. 60 years ago interracial marriage of all kinds was explicitly illegal in the US; getting interracial marriage legalized was a huge step forward, but wasn't as if people woke up the next day and everything was fixed and there was no more racism in America. One step at a time. We've taken several steps forward for Asian men, but we're done climbing yet, at the same time.

I feel like Asian American men are the least likely to have children due to having an incredibly difficult time finding a partner in the past. Now these single, childless Asian men who focused on themselves and made money, are sought after by the women(now with kids and baggage) who turned them down way back when. I’m a single mom magnet and while I appreciate the advances, I don’t want kids or step kids. I’ve no problem with casual though. I want to thank the women who’ve ignored me and rejected me in the past for allowing me to be the best possible version of myself with even more room to grow.

As a black Jamaican woman, I can say us Jamaican women have been riding for asian men from jump

Said myboyfriend (now husband) is Asian, people lost their minds negatively… now some of those same people are like “does he have a brother?“ brahhh 👀 😅😂

I'm enjoying being "undesirable and underrated" lots of peace and more money in the bank 😂

It's about time, my brother's been getting disrespected one too many time's!

This is why I never sweat the game, I knew time for Asian men to shine would eventually come thru. Right now our light skin Asians are getting love, soon it'll be the southeast dark guys too.

I can't help but be intrigued by the impressive shoe and basketball collections in the background. That's cool. 😊 It's great to see Asian men receiving the recognition they deserve.😊

I think the main reason is just that people are more progressive and less racist nowadays and asian men benefit the most from that

All thanks to Korean Wave😂

You guys are right on dating landscape is changing for Asian men

At the end of the day do you really want to date a woman who gets her views of the cultures from just media?

You guys should check out walking vlogs of Seoul on youtube such as Hongdae night walk. You'll see so many white girls and foreigners with korean guys and not vice versa. Tables are definitely starting to change

As an Asian man, growing up, dating was easy for me. Dated all kinds of women, white, latina, black, asian, European... 90% of people still to this day, mistake me for Japanese...I'm like bruh, I'm full filipino 😂.

That shade on suburban Ohio is uncalled for, when there are whole suburbs filled with Asian Americans here, mostly Indian, but still.

No post on Zhilei Zhang, as boxing fan and a fan of your show have been really hoping for one.

I've seen so many women tune into physical 100 and walk away changed.

When I was in school, I was basically invisible. Glad to see the scene is changing for the younger generation. 😎😎🎉🎉

For sure. Asian guys killing it rn

The bestest it's ever been bro. Got laid from several different European woman during my trips to both Europe and South East Asia. It was the best time of my life. Go travel my asian brothers you might get lucky like I did.

Watching the local news in a town with significant Asian population, half are black, half are white (or hispanic), not a single Asian news person. If not for the internet, Asian men would still be seen as "hey hot stuff" Dong.

Every year has been great. Attractive men have their own race. Stay fit and get your game up.boys. remember you are the prize.

Shout out to Korean Wave!

Thank you kpop, kdrama, Steven yuen, Simi Liu and many others in the early days. But these 4 folks stand out the most initially. Glad there's alot more Asian figures in Hollywood media than who we started with

Black women rank Asian men over black men is something that surprises me.

I think you're making a spurious correlation between media representation and dating outcomes. I'm not saying it's not an influence, but having more Asian male faces in Hollywood doesn't necessarily mean women IRL will suddenly be more open-minded if they weren't already considering Asian men as potential suitors before. Did some cursory research on CMB, and apparently it's only available in metropolitan cities like SF, Boston, and NYC? Not sure you can really extrapolate the data to dating patterns in other American cities, especially in more rural areas with very few Asians. If I had to guess, I would assume most non-Asian women would be open to the idea of dating an Asian guy, but the biggest barrier pertains to Asian men being more reserved in terms of making sexual advances. Since women generally don't approach or make the first move, they occupy the passive role of vetting their incoming options. Asian men are probably shooting their shot at a fraction of men of other races.

I think it has something to do with the apps' algorithms being racist against Asian men, and I think that was gradually corrected, and after Hollywood released Crazy Rich Asians and other films favorable to Asian men, it definitely helped for Asian men, and with the increasing popularity of Kpop music, that also boosted the appeal for Asian men.

The Hongdae fboys love them meme stock matches 😂

I'm still enjoying my passport bro lifestyle. It's better overseas. Trust me.

The current generation of young Asian men are richer, taller, and better looking ...than my generation... the bar is higher still given K pop's influencers. I just hope they are smarter, wiser, and better negotiators than my generation.

Shout out to yall for putting Indians in there with Asians lol. I’m not Indian but it’s nice to see 💪

It has gotten better for me on CMB, but honestly it is a mixture of many things. For one i am older so i feel i am more desirable because most likely one has their shit together by now. The other thing is online is the norm now so most people have to use the app. Finally dating in general is toxic filled with uncommitted. So yes overall more matches, but better matches? Probably not. Better for asian representation? Probably but not only due to asian representation (the pull part) but also because toxic dating culture (the push part)

I've been active on the asian subreddit since I was 14 when everything I heard about dating as an asian men was terrible with all the Lu's and Trans making it worst for us to get not just Asian girls but girls of all races. Safe to say 10 years later, dating hasn't been hard at all as long as you strive to make the best version of yourself. For gen Z, dating is just as hard as men of other races imo.

Yes. It rising and getting better!

As a BM, I've yet to have any such luck. Don't blow it fella's!😮

As a Vietnamese/Chinese American Asian Man 1st generation in US in his late 30s, I have recently married my American/American that sounds like a white woman in her early 30s. I do agree that I've seems a lot positive Asian male representation on the screen more often vs 10 years ago. It is day and night different. Over my dating career, I did have a lot more "luck" with black women, than latin, asian then white.

you make these videos every week

Gentlemen, you forgot two excellent, handsome, intelligent and very articulate role models: Andrew & David Fung!

Is this a re upload?

Go for latinas and hispanic girls. Love em mayne

It seems to me like certain Eastern Europe countries were always more accepting of Asian dudes. I visited Poland around 9 years ago. This was before the rise of KPop in the Western audience. I received more attention than usual from Polish women. I was in Poland because a friend invited me on his trip there to visit his Polish wife's family. Her best friend was also getting married so I got to attend the wedding. Many of the single Polish girls were pulling me to dance with them. They wanted me to drink Vodka with them too.

It just keeps getting better and better. Imagine how invisible Asian men were from the 1920s-1980s compared to now! Interracial marriage wasn't even allowed for the majority of that time period.

Nothing to do with stereotypes, but with physical attraction. Musclinity, height, face, eye colors are things that are more important to women than men.

It's definitely easier for Asian guys these days but it depends on where you are. In Canada, it wasn't too much of a problem for me. I'm a bit taller than most Asian guys and mostly looked really fit in my younger years. Had dates and stares from beautiful women. Don't walk around with achip on your shoulder. Just go out and be confident and don't take dating too seriously.

I have a question Fungbros , do you think us Asian guys are losers who cry about Asian women’s Choices??? I think we should stop talking about yellow fever or Asian women and whatever , remember communities fall short when people don’t appreciate each other or talk down on each. Like the African American community, the women talk bad about the men and the men talk bad about the women. We are so fortified so people want in the community more so.

I disagree with #2 also isn't coffee meets bagel are mostly Asian men? And catered towards Asian men dating? During my time as a single Asian man my luck was not the best, and this was about 2 years ago, also I think it's more Koreans that women are interested. What also blows my mind is when Asian women say they won't date Asian men because it's like dating their "brother"

Shoutout to my Asian brothas fr

Now Asian men have become the number one most desired men. I also noticed that Asian men who are in relationships with non Asian women are much happier and have healthier relationships.

Yes Queen's, NY has a lot of Asians especially on Elmhurst, astoria , Woodside, maspeth etc.

There's a difference between being diligent and being a nerd. They are mutually exclusive things. Being nerd doesn't guarantee any measure of financial security. But being hardworking does. And security leads to success. And success leads to confidence. And projecting real confidence is key in dating for dudes.

It's gotten a bit better but still needs a lot of improvements.

You can't just expect the media to improve your image. You have to work on yourself: fitness, fashion, finances, personality, etc. Once you look the complete opposite of the media stereotype of an Asian male, women can finally tell you apart and give you some attention

It's wild how muchedia Influences things. I swear if all the rooms and super hero movies pushed short guys.they would be popular with women within 5 years

Good to know! As Asian guys' popularity increases I hope there will be more and more oportunities for their--and everyone else's--dating and marriage statistics to even out--hopefully trans-racially to strengthen the human genome and of course eliminate "racial" tensions in the long run. BTW, even though China happens to be viewed unfavorably or mostly unfavorably due to clashes of perceived nartional interests (77%), As of Feb 2024 Japan is currently viewed favorably or mostly favorably by 83% of Americans. For South Korea, 72%; Taiwan, 77%; and even Vietnam--whom we fought and lost a war with and which continues to be viewed negatively by many Vietnamese Americans--was still rated more favorably than unfavorably (43% to 39%). Anyway, note that given the popularity of Taiwan--as well as other Asian "allied" countries--most Americans are not basing their opinions on what has often been portrayed falsely as "Asian hate." Yes, race hatred does exist towards all races on a certain scale--including hatred of whites--but I would posit that "racial" hatred or prejudice is lower in the U.S. than in many Asian countries themselves.

Hold on...The shift is related to the change in generation. 10 years removed, you have a lot. of people getting married...travelling....eventually, people discover other things than dating and usually, they stop using apps for one reason or another. The people using aps today have grown up with KPOP (and other content that exposes asian cultures to non-asians as a normal thing)..they are more comfortable with the asian culture..because women don't like us because we are asian..they didn't like us because of the culture they did not understand...that's why there was so much difficulty. Dudes..as a genx asian..I have so much wisdom to give 8). If you're interested, I would love to come on a podcast.

miami we get love, look at kid trunkz the rapper , his gf is latina, he was on fresh and fit years ago

Compared to the early 2000's it's a night and day difference. But it's still difficult. Asian guy with another race used to be very rare. Today, I wouldn't use the word common but you see it a lot more. I think it's because of kpop/anime/kdrama/asian influencers/youtubers.

Hmm, coffee meets bagel? 3:40 I have some of these apps and I have a lot of matches but I don't pay attention to these apps anyway.. most are bots or AI.

I think MMA particularly Onechampionship helps the positive athletic perspective as well.

Look how cool Jensen Huang is! He's a rock star in Taiwan! He signed some girl's chest. I wish I could be that cool.

Let's thank our lucky starts for Kdramas and 옥택연.

I think Asian men are handsome. Always have.

Good on y’all.

I swear it still sucks being Asian... I'm literally invisible everywhere i go

I agree! Its def getting better esp bc kpop making us asians look better 😂

everybody needs to say thank you to K-pop

WE UP!! 🗣🗣🗣

How do you know that CMB isnt faking their data?

One day they say yes, the next day they say no. It is best to ignore the idea of "Asian" or "xyz" and look and be your best.

Thank you K-Dramas and K-Pop for making me desirable.

I’m a 45 year old Latina dating my first Asian 💛

It makes me feel better for my son as he is a second generation Asian American. The trend is positive, but surveys are surveys, in reality I'm still not seeing a lot of Asian guy and non-Asian girl couples out there.

Oddly enough, there are more Asian players in hockey than one might expect. Jason Robertson (half Filipino) is one of the elite players in the NHL right now.

The fact that Asians have international music and people can dance to it is phenomenal. Think about black and latinos - they all have music that is well received. The advantage we have is that whites, blacks and latinos all dance to K pop ❤

Dating as a Dutch-Indonesian in the Netherlands is easy for Dutch(Netherlands)-Indonesians 😁

You guys are cool but tou don’t think these kind of topics make Asian men look so insecure and desperate?

And of course this video was sponsored by a dating app... I'm not trying to be black-pilled or pessimistic, but it's pretty obvious that we're just another market they want to capture. They know a lot of Asian guys earn more than their counterparts in other races, and that we don't do so well in dating. We're the perfect target. Take these statistics with a grain of salt. A lot of these findings are likely fluffed up to make the grass look greener for us on their app. They're just selling hope.

CMB , That is right. Alot of Likes! Mainly from FAKE PROFILES ! You been warned

so asian guys are number 1 in relatioship material, but we still last on tinder, but i'll take it, being top in one and bottom in another is better than bottom in both :P

I wouldn't know since I left California for Tokyo a few years ago, but CMB just wasn't for me when I tried it a few years before I left. Though I do feel like as an Asian American there's a lot less awareness outside of America because of the low representation in Hollywood. I've been on dates where a Japanese girl was surprised of my English, as if I was lying that its my native language. Now there's a reluctancy to cultural differences (assuming language isn't an issue), but at least there's a little more openness since they're used to Asian faces. Though sometimes I feel like I have "English-speaking privilege".