I feel ya about the weapon situation.. I was dating a beauty in Manila who was staying with me in my condo, when one day i walked out of the shower and was staring at a large butcher knife. She had discovered the code to open my phone and hacked into it while i was in the shower and saw some old messages from other women, and went ballistic. She even stole my passport and other items and hid them from me. I alerted the the condo security and they helped me retrieve my passport from her., and when she went to visit her daughter, i packed my bag and left for the airport, never to return,, She was able to stay rent free in my condo for 2 months, as i had prepaid my lease. I now have a much better situation in Cebu, LOL.
I have a similar story of an absolutely crazy Filipina and she was the one seeing other people. I'm just glad to be free of it. Man, there's great dating here with phenomenal women but there's also super crazy dating out here too.
I just saw a filipina woman who was selling live on fb his ex hubby belongings for dirt cheap prices. Ex found another girl. He left ex wifey dozens of almost unused designer clothes, expensive gadgets etc
@@CarefreeChrisshe was a freeloader. Lesson learned. Never let anyone move in with you on the 1st date. Thats a total red flag. And I suggest try dating someone who has a career or is somehow making a living.
I think it’s interesting a lot of guys struggle in Manila. I never had any problems still don’t. I think it’s just a lot of guys have no game. Walk up to a girl, talk repeat guaranteed you will get dates. I go to Cebu every few months etc. find it way better in Manila.
IME Manila girls are status seekers and that’s what you are to them. Cebuland is different in that status isn’t the main course, so to speak…it’s on the Menu but not on the front page.
I admit I have zero game which is why I prefer online. I know several guys who've been here for months and haven't dated once. It's a different dynamic in the city for sure
City girls tend not to prefer foreigners as this entails a lot of juggling cultures. Being very financially independent, these women have more choices and more career focus and always not wanting to be tied down and having a family.
Everything in due time. 😉 Just Relax and Enjoy the Special Moments in the Philippines 🇵🇭 When you least expect it, you will find someone or they will find you for life's adventures. 👍🏼
The main problem is that alot Filipino women got the memo that their desired and foreign man are thirsty. What I did was got situated first settled down found my way around. Appreciated the culture then started dating. Never put the horse before carriage this is why alot of men are failing stop being so thirsty for a women they will come In due time.
@Lawrencerice facts man well said I be in Phillipines in April I told 4 women I will meet them at pacific locations they haven't faked yet they know I'm a cool guy but show no signs of being thirsty.
Besides the memo they got, too many Expats are fishing at the same watering hole. The best places to meet people are off the radar. There are over 2,000 inhabited islands in the Philippines and for some reason many Expats frequent Manila, Cebu, Angeles, and Dumaguete ....aka.....Dramaguete. The only place that I want to see a westerner (and I am from the USA) is the airport..............that's it. No problem meeting the ladies if U avoid western saturated places.
Great delivery ..you’ll generally find your level with dating. Guys simply need to make the most of their attributes, it’s easy to find Filipina…finding the right one..that’s harder.
I think you nailed it, Chris. I'd describe province dating as more like dating in high school. It may take more than a couple.dates to even get a kiss or.a hug, and there is the very real possibility of a brother/sister/aunt/uncle coming along as a chaperone on the first few dates.
if your in Cebu, look-up the Palm Grass hotel (well out of your bubbles and in the middle of small tier colleges) - great way to meet girls not used to being around foreigners - keep in mind they're a younger set though (probably average around 20)
Great job big C , beautiful location and some solid tips . It’s a shame how the USA has so many men scared to death of speaking to women. You always know your one nut job away from , visiting H.R. , being fired , getting demoted , her making a huge scene, facing legal charges , etc. ……… can’t wait to escape 🎉
Out of all the suggestions you made about how to find a date. I think the community service project would be the best. You would be out there amongst the people building a relationship first. It seems like the attraction would happen more organically. I am not a fan of dating sites myself. So many horror stories about scammers and women out there just looking to get their hands on your money. If I had to suggest something. It would be simply to take a walk down the street. Not in the cities but just outside or maybe in a smaller town. The last time I was there walking down the street it seemed like everybody wanted to say hi and ask questions.
I’ve never used dating apps in the Phil’s and don’t have problem getting dates wherever, BGC, Cebu, Duma, CDO, Baguio, etc. I am just authentic, friendly and low key. I talk to any Filipina I’m interested in. This is not the west.
I gather from this video that you and Jo are not together anymore (I must have missed that video). Good luck for the future. I will be in the Philippines in 1 week for a holiday and to meet a woman I am chatting to online.
Depends what you want. If you want someone uneducated (which I know a lot of guys do) who hasn't been on an escalator let alone a plane then a province girl is the way to go definitely. But bear in mind that once the initial lust phase wears off, and it will no matter how hot you think she is at first sight, then the fact you'll be having zero conversation/ conversation the way you would with a 5 year old might actually get old after a while. And also if she's from the province you're going to be the extended family's meal ticket for life so you need to be cool with that. Personally I went for girls that had uni degrees and good jobs. Of course I am 32 and in shape not 72 and on borrowed time so again it all depends.
A good Filipina dates to determine whether to marry. If you're dating around, you're a Chickboy. Go to Angeles or Thailand. 65/24 here. We met 4 years ago online and are inseparable. Btw, I got all my hair.
Big Chris… it was a pleasure meeting you yesterday! You are a very nice welcoming person. Thank you for inviting me to sit down and speak with you and your friends.
I'm married now but I once had 3 hours at Ayalla at the same time.Not planned.Its strange you can try really hard and not get a date for 2 days but then some days you could have 6 dates It's more fun in the Philippines
It takes time to know someone specially if looking for long term relationship. Rush relationship tends to end quickly. Speaking as Filipino myself, if a Filipina specially a province girl agrees to leave in quickly with a man you just met .. its a red flag.
I guess taking time to get to know the person and never rush into a relationship or living together. There are a lot of independent Filipinas out there who are also looking for someone to be in a long-term relationship. For me, online dating apps are a good way of meeting other people.
You look like someone I met in Makati. No worries. Really appreciate your comments both on the video and the live the other week. Hope all is great there where you are:)
Chris , what I noticed in earlier videos is a loss of understanding that YOURE the prize (without saying it, of course). You had a Grateful Gus "Im not worthy" vibe with that ex that just doesnt do you any favors. NEVER tell a woman youre lucky to have her. You can be a polite guy who says Thank You and such without lowering your stock value in her eyes. Also, I think you had to put in work over time to "win" her? Dont do that. If a woman isnt on board in the first month of hanging out, move on.
I’ve learned so much in the past year. Between RU-vid, dating, living in a foreign country and just about myself. I’m not the same person I was even in December. Morphing and shaping into something new all the time now. At heart I’m still a loving man who wants to help people and see them smile. Here’s to the rest of the year. Thanks for your comment as well as intently watching my videos. Hope you’re good there
Not my experience. I have had women approach me at the mall in Manila and give me their phone number. I've had Starbucks baristas write their number on my cup. I have 30-40 matches currently on Tinder with no lack of women who want to date, meet up.
Hi Chris. David here in southern Shikoku, Japan. I’ve been hearing recently dating in the Philippines has been changing a lot even within the past 5+ years particularly in locations more popular with expats. As you said, Filipinas are getting approached regularly now by foreigners, so my impression is they are becoming much more selective and perhaps disinterested in some cases. I’ve been hearing it’s not as easy now to meet Filipinas like it was. Dating in the countryside here in the Japan countryside is very tough from my experience. Most single women tend to leave for the big cities after university. The ones that remain tend to marry very young and start families. I mainly meet married women with children. I’m over 50 and single women here are predominantly High School girls or women in their early 20s. Too young for me to consider seriously. In fact, I never meet a single woman here in their mid-late 30s, 40s or 50s. I often meet grandmothers walking their dogs while I’m out walking... lol.
It's still good here David but requires a couple of adjustments. One, if you're in an area which you see a lot of foreigners it's not a good place so just go 15 min down the road. Two, in those areas where there are a lot of foreigners try online. Check out this video where i go into what i feel are great apps for dating here in the Philippines ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KxmXKm7hyKA.htmlsi=-PK-Z7ElKlOtJd52
I was wondering what had caused the changes in you - you have split from your girlfriend? I thought Jo was a keeper. I must have missed your video on this, but I could see changes in the way you were presenting your videos. I will keep watching for now. Just be mindful you don't fall into a shallow place of thinking as your content might suffer!
I dated an 18 yr old pinay in malaysia when i was 33. Family was working there, she was a niece or who knows. turn up to a 'party' once where i met the aunty, and an 'uncle' was there. He did not like me at all. Apparently wanted to get into a rumble and though he was shorter than me he was quite stocky, plus being a westerner in a foreigne country, it felt a bit off. I left that party real quick and continued to date her as long as i could lol it didn't work out in the end
Keep in mind it is no accident foreign men are in the Philippines chasing the young ladies. The sly Filipino higher ups have gotten out the word pretty young girl's are to be had. Just be you. You are wanted, cherished, and needed in the island's. Money makes the world go round. It is what it is.
Shouldn't the disinterest of those with at least a modicum of economic stability; tell you something about the supposed interest of those who are poor?
From watching other vloggers, I thought that particular mall you referenced tended to attract more of an upscale and financially successful woman, less likely to regard a relationship with a foreigner as "life changing" @@CarefreeChris
No you're right but I don't want to say it's only poor women who are interested in us as that's just not at all accurate. There is something there though that you're pointing to that is true that I didn't really touch on which is with middle to upper class Filipinas you have to get by a potential social stigma with dating a foreigner. I intended on talking more about it but forgot. I do feel online dating is the best access to these types of women or by introduction. The girl i'm seeing now is middle class and is very very interested but also nervous about being in public because she'll be judged as a gold digger. I'll go more into this in another video and I see how I went another direction in this video.
Wow brought back memories with your weapons quote.😬 My first Filipina in Canada after about 2 years together actually pulled a kitchen knife out on me after losing her temper over some truth talk.. OMG shocked the hell out of me but I was able to wrestle the knife away before any damage was done. That night I left her since I worried my throat would get cut while sleeping. 🗡 Once the trust is gone its over.. 😤
It's takes a certain type to do a RU-vid channel for sure. Like the dating, I've enjoyed it for the most part and have learned a ton about myself along the way:)
I joined a dating app for Philippines. Its mostly single moms looking for someone to help raise their kids after a failed relationship. The other half are scammers looking to score on a sugar daddy. Nothing wrong with that I guess bec sometimes some overcome the prejudices and obstacles and make it work. I'm trying on line bec the girls are available and looking for guys to date compared to looking desperate and trying to hit on waitresses and sales ladies who probably have boyfriends already. I zeroed in on a college girl that i'm 3x her senior. I haven't met her yet. I plan to see her next year and see what happens. In the end, its about being a good match. Looks are the first thing we go for, but if they really have bad trait or personalities then its not a good outcome. It may not work out for me but its ok. Just keep moving on to the next until you get it right. What else is there?
Thanks for video big bro. I may try those other 3 dating apps you used. The one I used was Pinalove. I'm not having a hard time talking to the ladies but filtering out the scam gold diggers and train wreck daddy hunters is most of the work. The one I settled on is pretty young and I think I'm older than her mom so no idea what's going to happen.
Dont hurry in dating, know them first, you might get a bad one. You need ro move to other place, if foreign guys already in that place, thats not a good place anymore. Cebu, Dumaguete are not the place anymore.Baguio city is the cold area, Tagaytay is a nice are, Bulacan, pangasinan, Ilocos, try Luzon North and South. I dont understand why foreigners flocking in Visayas island.
The key words i have heard from my Filipina friends is "creepy" foreigners coming on to them, and most just dress shabbily, and come like a "two-week" tourist, not someone as a stable expat, or wants to "invest" in staying there. I really had no troubles, and most are very friendly, even baring language barriers, since some just speak Tagalog, and some very poor English. I could say more....Peace
Yep. Creepy guys approaching locals isn't going so well and I'm seeing it too. One of the points in this video as well as other videos it to try to let guys know stop coming to the mall to pick up women as well as just be a good dude.
Do you feel that Chris, in this video, is dressed shabbily or nicely for the purposes of approaching Filipinas? Any suggestions as to how to avoid coming across as a creep?
There are no set rules for "dating"...whatever that means. Everything in life is relative and subjective. Sure, you may find down-to-earth real females in rural areas but on the other hand, you'd have a better chance hooking up with sophisticated well-to-do independent real women in an urban setting. That is true everywhere else and not only in PH. It really depends on your preference and style. Nothing is written in stone. To say otherwise is just preaching BS. A friend always quips that whenever he feels the urge, he just rents instead of getting stuck with owning one indefinitely. It could be just a jest on his part but such pragmatism makes a lot of sense. I think that "actively" looking for and being dead set on having a "relationship" per se is akin to looking for trouble. But that's just me. Is the "dates and weapons being pulled out" statement a euphemism for foreplay? 😁 BTW, very noticeable video noise on this one.
I’m not sure what that was actually. Hopefully it was just something I did in the video edit and not my actual microphones. Let me know if you hear that going forward. I really appreciate it.
I would say if you’re only in the fun Tinder is probably your best bet. As far as what cities, I think you’d be fine in Manila, Angeles City or maybe Cebu City
I think it’s better to meet a woman online as long as you are wise to scamming and dishonesty. Especially if you are not living in the Philippines and you only go to to the Philippines for short trips. Just my opinion. The girls in the big city are more picky than in the province. But, there is a lot more gossip in the province because Foreigners stick out like a sore thumb in the province. Pros and cons each type of location. A Filipina that has had foreigner boyfriends may have been turned into monster by being spoiled too much.
Great info Chris,much appreciated as always🙌 Unfortunately the usual comments from guys that don't get out the house often🤣 Keep up the good work buddy
I love reading in the comments from guys saying how easy it is to get dates. Most expats I've talked to in Manila and Cebu during six visits, they leading with their wallets, even if they don't realise they are. Thanks Chris for your honesty.
@@ntech1507 if you were around us, it wouldn’t really be a surprise. It really wasn’t a good fit for either one of us and know we’re both so much better off
@CarefreeChris okay I see I thought you both were a good fit. Based on the your RU-vid lives I was watching and your vidoes. In person it's different. I would suggest if you so get someone else go for a younger woman like 22 and up. Unless you find a dime that in her 30s
@@ntech1507 for sure. Right now I’m focusing more on my creativity and not so much on relationships. If one comes along, great. If not, no worries. I’m not so much on the hunt.
I'm not sure who you're talking about as I've dated several Filipinas now. I'm currently casually dating a couple of girls in the city. I'm happy to report no breakups recently though. Thanks for watching and hope you're good there:)
It was easy for me to meet Filipinas in person at the malls, but online was 10x better. Why? Because you can filter by AGE and education and can filter out all the single moms or whatever preference you want to avoid in life. I would avoid trying to date multiples because Filipinas are extremely jealous and most are only wanting to date 1 guy and expecting you to be looking for serious relationship and only dating them.
Whoa, Wait?! "Weapons being pulled out"? Great overview on the dating scene, getting out of your bubble, etc.., but what happened with the weapons bro? Lol
True they do have high paying job compared to other Filipinos but some of them might realize they're $500 bucks a month is still small salary compared to an expat making 5 grand a month 😂
It might be a while as I just left Cebu city for I’m not sure how long. What you can do if you’re not already is reach out in the community group to see who wants to get together. There’s a group of really friendly guys there.
Strolled in Ayala with my girlfriend and didn't actually See a ton of Foreigners there My advice to increase your chances is to avoid the Expat Hotspots like Cebu and Dumaguete There are some real Filipino Beauties in Mindinano and Leyte Davao that haven't seen a ton Of foreigners walking around Just take your time on the dating Sites and don't expect to hook Up with a 9 or 10 if you're in Your 50s or 60s Give yourself some time to Work on your game Don't Rush into anything quickly You will eventually find The one you are looking for
@CarefreeChris yes, i would almost define it as cities = for the lazy and desperate westerners. Why on earth do people fly half around the globe... to visit a city to try to find a wife/gf. If going to travrl that far, then should take that extra steps to actually go where the "gold is" = provinces. Cities is almost always much worse qualities. Regardless of country. A ph city girl may be much better than a us city girl. Byt its still a city gitl, with the HIGH odds of had plenty of x-bf, non-virgin, emotional baggage, more materialism, less traditional values, much higher chance of divorces/breakups, etc. So if going to fly half the world... then taking a few extra steps to meet the quality of quality is best:) It is all about %ridk vs reward. City girls will always be much higher risk than a province girl. (%risk assesment vs %reward). The worst of the worat would be a capitol city. Same rule applies globally. Capitols is almost always the worst. I guess can get a full card of worse... if goes into a brothel with bargirls in a capitol ;) Anyway, agree with you:) 3 million girls in a big city does not give any REAL advantage vs enough in provinces. Not enough hours to filter through all those city girls. Only disadvantage of the province girls... is that is more travel timr. So can only check through a few a week;) Are enough provinces to visit. So if 1 fail in 1 province, then most likely need to visit a different province instead. If give a good vibe of oneself in the village, then maybe some other cute girls there will "ask permission" from the initial girl if she can contact you;) So mostly just win-win i think. If i go to Philippines i would make a plan to systematicly visit provinces;) But my goal would be to find a good wife, a woman that i have good chemistry with. I have no problem communicating. But i will learn some Bisaya+ before i visit:) But unsure if i will use the Bisaya to communicate. OR keep it a secret, and thereby use the language-skill as a superpower to secretly listen to what they may talk about (when they think i do not understand;) Its very revealing and great way to filter out bad apples... when you have that secret superpower:)
I totally disagree with you having lived right where you are standing. You can't play down meeting a Filipina anywhere!!! Online dating apps or cold approach in public especially Ayala Mall business area or IT Park is all fair game.
@@CarefreeChris It's reported in America 6 out of 10 couples met online. Online is the way to go worldwide. I have hovered around Ayala Mall Business quite frequently and I never over stepped my boundaries or the boundaries of a woman in that atmosphere if per say the opportunity to be social presented itself to me. Online is easier.
@@stevenlawrence5733 About the same amount of divorces of which 80% was initiated by women 😂 After two divorces and several situation ships I am now MGTOW and that's way better (also for my bank account ;-)
7:17 like avoiding chicks with sticks and weapons obviously 😎✌🏽 On a serious note, well thought out and presented topic dude. Now, you really have to start signing out with .. and I quote: YippeeKiyay MFers! or Mabuhay MFers!
Sorry, but that is comical 😂 if a person can find a date here within a couple days if not a couple hours there are some seriously wrong with the persons game. Best of luck from here on out.
Problem is, many people watching videos/RU-vids like this, THINK that Cebu, Duma, Iloilo, BGC, and davao are good places to live, meet people and have fun, and some success can be had, however better places should be looked at. RU-vidrs are FULL OF IT. 99% dont have game, nor ever will. Thats not to say you cant find "someone" in PI, but far and away one of the best places to meet girls from EVERY SINGLE PROVENCE in the PI is represented in ANGELES CITY. It has more expat history than any other place in PI- why is that important? It bings the right girls, not only to work in bars, restaurants and hotels but also their siblings. American culture- whether you want to believe it or run away from it- Pinay are in LOVE WITH AMERICA. No place in PI exudes American culture like Clark/Angeles.- this brings pinays from every Provence in PI. For example 1 girl might work in a bar, while she as 2 more that DONT. Clark is HUGE, has some of the biggest casinos and businesses in PI. Even having water 1 hour away, Angeles has more to offer than even places like Manila- in all the Philippines. For 30 years ive been all over the PI and never heard of any male having issues with finding any girl in Angeles.
get your point, but for me "game" means just being approachable, sincere, and genuine to where men can not be dorks, or pervs and carry on meaningful conversations and behavior.@@CarefreeChris
no worries brother. I think we're after the same thing which is saying the message of a more respectful foreigner for this country. They like us here. Let's not rune it.
