Its Not Your Fit, Its Your Body 

lets all get ripped and wear nothing

I've never seen a man talk so openly about standards of beauty and feeling comfortable in one's own body, despite their perniciousness. A lot more people need to see this.

I’m 5’10 and 130, Japanese. I’ve been working in fashion all my life and there was something interesting an old French lady once told me. The idea of the runway was to show clothing pieces for prince and princess back in the 1800s. They would have models who were built like the 15 years old ish kids to best tailor the clothes for balls. The fashion industry itself was simply just not ready/made for modern 1st world countries and their lifestyles. I don’t have any opinions on this but I thought it was very interesting.

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” - Carl R. Rogers

Never underestimate the power of a good tailor and or seamstress.

That's exactly the reason why i got into sewing. Nothing really fits me off the rack so i'm going to make all my clothes for myself

another interesting thing about the fashion industry for women is how a lot of clothes actually don’t take boobs into account. a lot of the high-fashion trends are completely inaccessible to me because they offer no support or bra coverage in that area. you’d think that the designer would leave more room but i actually struggle to find clothes that aren’t uncomfortably tight around my chest region. it’s like every aspect of fashion is made to make us feel like there is something wrong with us

Don’t forget folks, there’s fashion and then there’s style !

5’2 here with child bearing hips in spite of being thinner than average. The one thing the fitness diet couture never tells you is that you can’t change your bone structure.

As a pretty large dude who works maintenance, I’d like to give my two cents on fashion. For me, ive found that work-wear is unironically the best stuff to look for in regard to both fit and functionality. Duluth long line tees, carhartt cargos, and hiking boots. A lot of the work wear brands, make clothes for men with average or large bodies. Its still hard to find stuff for when im of work tho. I havent bought a pair of jeans in like 3 years because every pair of jeans is made for men who have no ass or thighs, and thick af so I cant fit in em smh.

Omg I’ve always had this problem, as a women I read this comments and relate; the tight armpits, the tight uncomfortable shoulders in a size S and when I size up the waist leaves a weird awkward gap or the piece loses its shape and looks like a potato sack. It’s a tricky thing to have a masculine frame and try feminine clothing, it always made me feel like a freak or less of a woman. I thought men were lucky that their clothes fit and design were made for their broad shoulders and wide Ribcages since that’s quite literally the average male frame, but not even guys escape the thin frame ideal of the industry.

I’m a short, overweight woman with a very defined hourglass shape. Clothes are not made to look good on me, so I’m learning to sew so that clothing can actually fit. I’m healthy, strong, and comfortable with my curves, but am tired of looking frumpy since my waistline isn’t visible in clothes

For “making this video pretty quickly” this is insane probably better than 95% of the other fashion content on RU-vid. Keep on with the great work your channel is definitely one of the best fashion channels on RU-vid and way underrated

The way fashion is centered around skinny people is insane. I was a bit overweight a like 2 years back (1,78m and around 93Kg) and therefore wore a lot of oversized stuff. I felt fairly good in that stuff and had fun with it but the moment I lost about 20Kg and got a lot skinnier the options I had just EXPLODED and I saw that (aside from me now needing belts for nearly all old pants) my old clothes just suddenly worked a lot better because even the XL oversized tees I have were basically cut for very tall skinny people.

As a skinny guy that has always been envious of muscular and lean guys for being able to fill up their clothes, this video really widened my point of view. I'm 183cm and 62 kg so I'm borderline underweight. Most clothes should "fit me" but I have a birth defect called pectus excavatum that gives me a sunken chest and pot belly. I always felt that most clothes that are slim or fitting never work for me. But then baggy or wide fits can sometimes drown me out. Maybe like you said, loving this body will be the first step.

This was a great video and I love how you brought attention to the fact that it's okay to change your body, but shouldn't be forced. Also mentioning that there's no one-of-a-kind clothing or styles. You always find something new and better

I‘m a 5'10" and 185lbs “gymbro” so it’s very hard to find clothes that fit. My waist is relatively thin but shoulders and quads are a problem most of the time. I wear heritage fashion and Japanese Americana. Big recommendation to all my gymbros. Works well with a traditionally masculine wide frame. Don’t hide your muscles and don’t show them off too much, find a balance.

Trying on a CCP leather jacket and realizing it will never fit me because of my wide shoulders and short height really pushed me to learn how to make clothes and, ultimately years later, created my own brand. Your point really is important : clothes are only fabric around a body. And designing means choosing what types of body you will be able to dress with your pattern making.

One solution that I will share with everyone here: get yourself a tailor. I follow fashion houses that I like, I copy some stuff and details, I design usually shirts using those references and then I ask my tailor to make them using my measurements. What I would like to do in the future is learn pattern making and sewing, just to see if I can make my own clothes.

i was always very insecure about my body, since im very skinny. But because i got more into fashion, i learned not to be insecure about my body type anymore.

I was in Harajuku last fall and I actually found a blazer that fit me at one of the second-hand stores. It was way in the corner and was unironically dusty since literally nobody had probably touched it since it got put there, but yeah even in that hallowed ground of fashion in Japan second-hand can come in clutch

I'm currently eating bugs rn, so hyped to watch this!

for me, the problem is more w/ height than weight. i’m 103 lbs (mostly fat), but i’m only 5’2. most clothes just aren’t ever made to fit short people, which to me is ridiculous because there’s huge potential for a petite sizing market. and as a woman, pants that actually fit are especially hard to find. we shouldn’t have to deal with frumpy, long clothes or get everything tailored. but clothes just fit better on tall people, i guess…

thank you for talking about how the body positive movement put all the weight (no pun intended) on the individual. Liberal movements usually fail to question structural aspects of a problem. It's the same with mental health, where people seem to gloss over the way gender, sexuality, race and class plays into your mental state.

I love your content man I just want you to know how much of a good influence you’ve been on me so far. Keep up the great work king

Re: fashion clothes are engineered for slimmer fit / slimmer people … so in short fashion despite its battlecry of self expression, love your own, etc etc… it still all boils down to: A) catering to a select few and B) fitting to their mould. oh the irony 😢 But Amazing video again👌❤️

Man, this video touched me so much. I've been thinking about these issues all my life, and I'm trying to love my body before I go to any route, like you said. I lost weight a couple of times in my life, but it was always for something, never for myself, you know. Nowadays, I've come to terms with the fact that, first of all, be healthy, accept your structure, and go from there. It's nice to see people who are understanding of these types of issues.

Its very true that you just gotta accept what looks good for you. Stop trying to chase certain looks that you wish you could pull off but just won’t because of your body type. That’s going to be the source of your insecurity. Be open to styles that DO look good for you and just gotta be honest with yourself. Having an open mind can really help you overcome a lot of insecurity by simply being able to give up on things that don’t work for things that do

Loved this video just always really dope to hear you talk and spread positivity that isn't toxic in the fashion community

feel like i'm the only girl watching this lol but interesting!!! i have been thinking about this too, and its been very confronting to realize i am not the ideal body type of the fashion industry. Was almost afraid I was the only one struggling, but its nice to know i am not alone

Probably one of the greatest breakdowns related to body compisition in fashion on YT. Great video, keep it up.

I am really glad as a “mid-size” US size L-2X depending on the brand that I found sewing and historical fashion. The historical sewing community on RU-vid has helped me improve my relationship with my body so much. When I sew my own clothes I get to just go by my own measurements and I don’t have to worry about wether or not the person who designed it had my unique proportions in mind. I am in eating disorder recovery and I highly recommend looking into sewing if my story sounds similar to yours. And if you’re looking for content I think Abby Cox is a great place to start for femme fashion especially.

This was a great video, great analogies and the bit about the individualization of responsibility. It’s insane how people (on socials etc.) will attack anyone who criticizes a CEO or designer even when it’s deserved. And as someone 5’11” - I concur with all you said almost down to the exact sizing. Thank goodness I’m a 10.5 and nothing more, because otherwise I know it could get crazy looking for even basic shoes. As a 32, even, it’s insane to try and find certain pants (shoes) too or other pieces, especially Japanese because 70-80% of the pairs you’ll find will be 27-29. Can find everything in a small or a 7-9, even European designers. Ironically Rick’s frequently elastic waistbands are good pants…but everyone does NOT have $1,000-$600 for pants.

Great topic, this needs to be addressed more. fashion RU-vidrs are great and really expose great brands and outfits that fit THEM. Then some will go out and do the same thing that the industry does and promote their own brand that is made for THEM. Shop for your body type, which is something that I still struggle with

im not even into fashion but the way you articulate really pulled me in. I can telll you put effort into this and have a passion for fashion

You know, my husband has gone through the exact same things. I remember there was a time where his thighs and bum got soo big lol, and his waist was so small (just from working out! And being really healthy) he genuinely could not find clothes that fit him. It was either comedically large on the waist OR so tight around his thighs and bum. He's the same as you, he has decided to slim down, but I was ok whatever he wanted to do!

Loved this video man, I recently got into the gym and after a devious bulk none of my clothing fit me. I noticed clothing just sat weird on me; i've started to accept that I need to find a new style and welcome different cuts. shits hard, I kinda feel worse now.

In other words „your body is not giving“

I love this message. When I started dressing with my body shape and no against it, pieces really started coming together for me 😊

Body builder’s body or skinny like a male model? How about neither? Being now on my 30’s the one thing I have learned the most during my twenties is to love myself first and to not follow trends. Your body ideals should be healthy and not something that cause dysmorphia. Dress up for your body and how feel confident and comfortable. Is always ok and allowed to try new things and if you try it on, don’t like how it looks on you, is fine… there is many more options. You don’t need to look like everyone else.

The main reason as you mentioned at 5:30 skinny models are prefferred is to save material cost in development for an experimental clothing that has an unknown promise for success. By making skinny clothing less material is expensed, and time spent stitching: cheaper, reduces cost but does not celebrate diversity as you’ve well explained.

I understand you completely. I have body dysmorphia as well. I’ve been a size 28. I’ve been a size 48, I am currently at about a size 40 waist. And the only reason I ever got thin in the first place was to fit high in fashion. I love fashion, but I’m not going to kill myself in the gym anymore. Plus I’m older now and it’s different than when I was in my 20s. Now I just take pleasure in having archive pieces that I can admire.

This was incredibly validating. I'm so glad I stumbled upon your channel.

This is so important! Feeling good BEFORE you start moving towards ANY change in your body. And that no change will “Fix” everything. It makes it easier too(health)

I appreciated that you approached this in such a well informed healthy way.

the model is 6’2 and is wearing size XS

I absolutely lovvvveeee this analysis, straight to the point and amazing explanation

Love the video, good insight for people not in the industry, im a designer and i think some advice i would give to people is not only find brands that fit your body type but also learn some basic altercations if you’re really into fashion i feel like it’s something you should know, once i finished design school it was pretty cool because i can pretty much buy anything i want and make it fit to my body, weather it be a vetements pant or a size 46 dickies from the thrift (im a size 34 just for reference lol). Also you dont need a machine, some basic hand stitches you should know are the running stitch, back stitch, ladder stitch and for hemming the rolled stitch or a catch stitch

Dude we have so much in common it’s like this vid was made for me, great video thanks man. I love fashion and I used to strive for a skinny figure but made myself sick, so I started lifting for my health but I’d be lying if it wasn’t for aesthetics too. Before my second ED relapse, I didn’t lift and I became fat again and it kills me inside because I love fashion and the way clothes fit on me when I’m skinny. Now I’m just lifting and eating a lot of protein so I at least have a shot at being lean, and I think clothes would look better on me than before, skinny or fat, with the additional lean mass. I am still just trying to focus on my health first and foremost.

as a short (5'6) and skinny man I really feel this video. It's very hard to find clothes that fit, almost every piece of clothing is either too big or too long (or both), because manufacturers simply do not think or plan for people like me - they do for people of average height and regular build, and most brands do not even have XS sizes for their clothes, and even the S sizes are big. with almost every piece I buy right now, I have to consider if it fits at least decently in few places, so if its worth taking to a tailor. finding these very few pieces that fit okay at most and then taking them to a tailor to get them shortened or other mods done gets very tiring, time-consuming and expensive

Wow, Joaquin, I was just learning about David Kibbe and how diffrent body types effect how we dress and the choices of proportions and silhouettes, and this video comes in time!

Dear doppelgaenger, tysm for existing and being knowledgeable about this stuff. I love how I can coy all these things onto me 1 to 1 frfr

i modeled for an art class for about a year and enjoyed it sm, and considered going on to pursue an actual career in modeling. i quickly realized that the requirements for most agencies were all 5’11”+ and under size 4. despite some of these agencies calling themselves inclusive lol

I have been saying this for I don't know how long.. but working out and creating a slim athletic body will become YOUR fashion statement; and then you slap something on top of it. It's your body, not your clothes. Slim athletic bodies can go topless and still look fashionable. While a dad bod(currently me) has to work so hard to look like a decent human being; so many colors, patterns and styles I have to play around with, while the hot athletic slim body can just slap on anything and look good. So yes, your body comes first then it's whatever you slap on top of it.

I haven't really seen a fashion youtube channel, just subbed. I think you ventured into a space not many channels have.

Exactly. I realized this within myself while shopping for clothes. It's not just the clothes. It's the clothes on the body.

I only recently starting to actually care about my style and what garments I wear. Didn't even reflect that my body type is of "standard", since I've always hated being skinny especially growing up. Wearing anything during the skinny jeans era just made me feel ever worse. It's great that you make content like this to open up eyes and give insight

man, this was such an amazing talk. Really appreciate it.

Me personally I’d rather be big strong and unfashionable than skinny and fashionable. I feel like the ladies prefer it too.

I love this breakdown, as I am in the same position you were in. Very broad shoulders about the 240lbs mark, big chest and bit of a gut. I am getting married and thought I might treat myself to a high end suit and no suits in my budget were anywhere near my size, and just ended up going with a Uk tailoring company instead, which saved a bit of money. They measured me up made alterations etc. for a fraction of the price. I do see both sides of the argument about models being 'skinny'. The clothes are made to be the showpiece and spectacle on the runway, and if the models have any outstanding feature (huge arms, chest, thighs or backside) it will draw attention away from the clothing. I rarely see a runway model and think they have amazing looks, I actually find myself struggling to remember what they look like after the next model has walked and as much as they are celebrated I think their job is to be unremarkable. (I dunno)

I’ve found surprising success with YSL items as someone who wouldn’t be as traditionally ideal for it. (For reference 5’11-6ft not entirely sure which and 175-180) I know I’m not super crazy size wise but from what I’ve found getting your body fat percentage down seems to help. My shoulders and quads are still sometimes something that clashes tho. I’d say look around and you might find some pieces that work for you but yeah definitely certain designers are a lot harder to find good fitting clothes in.

can we talk about his gorgeous luscious hair tho 😭

Best Camera transition from one computer to the other! AMAZING HAIR YO!

Wear clothes for the body I have, not the body I want. I have wide shoulders and solid calves no matter how thin I am. I will never be "skinny", but I can get muscular and lean at best or woman with a Dad-bod at worst. So I work with that. I watch mens fashion channels cause I like the availability of simpler looks and it just fits me better. As a petite but solidly built woman I get mens XS clothes cause it fits so much better and easier to find.

Thank you for this video. I’ve slowly realised this over the past few years but I thought it was just me and my weird body. Even as a 5’2 woman who wears a smaller size than average it’s really a gamble when buying any clothes, especially pants, because there’s no guarantee they will fit on the body well. Usually the sizes (even the smaller ones like XS) are made for absolute giants and I end up having to turn up my pants so they don’t drag on the floor and get dirty, but then it ruins the original shape of them. I don’t consider myself as having wide hips, they’re quite moderate, but I’m also not streamlined like a model, so the ass on pants (jeans especially) can be way too tight yet brands that cater to “curvy” bodies are far too big so it looks like I’m wearing a diaper. Sure, I can return stuff and get my money back but I can’t just buy 1 item, I have to make a whole day of it and specifically scour multiple brands to check if they’re affordable and carry exactly what I want. Like cmon I just want pants.

I’d enjoy when someone thinks about the chothing problem in a larger picture. I heard today a lot of things that I’ve were thinking around the last year, and being sintetized in that way… Thank you, you earned a subscriber.

Not sure why the algorithm showed me this but I'm glad it did. I know nothing about fashion but I've been wanting to be more intentional with what I wear for a while. Appreciate the perspective and especially the practical advice!

My man has the cleanest transitions

I genuinely cried the first time I did a trial fitting for a 17th century doublet that I got made to my measurements, because it fit my back, and didn't have tension on the front of my armpits and pull weird while reaching forwards All my medium to large shirts have torn out armpits and have had to get into wearing 2xl and 3xl shirts just so I can feel comfy not accidentally showing damn near every trait of my body in clothes that should fit a 5"10 dude who rows 1.5 his BW This video is fucking dope and I just FEEL this man

"having the confidence in yourself to feel good on how you look day to day before starting loosing weight", this is so true, i lost 23kg last year and that was after going to a therapist, you gotta love yourself to take care of yourself

on a journey on finding myself, ive noticed ive gained weight recently and it finally caught up to me. I used to be really skinny and I was much happier w my body and overall mindset, my clothes dont really fit that good on me anymore id get frustrated getting a good piece ive been waiting for and it just dosent fit really good... I love fashion, id love to go back to having that same and newer body and mindset. really love this video. thanks.

Honestly one thing thats relly helped me gain a healthier perspective on body size was working in China. In the UK I'm a size M (6'1" , 180lb ) but in China I'm at least a 2XL. At first I was like "nooo..." but over time I just lerned that... this stuff is all kind of relative and maybe I was spending far too much time and emotional labour on making sure the scales read a certain weight and that I didn't go over a certain clothes size and that sometimes I was refusing to buy a size up out of some weird social conditioning. Anyway, after a few months of accepting my new size was either XXL or XXXL depending how lose I wanted the cut, I stopped looking at size labels and started looking at how the pieces actually sat on my body and I'm happier than ever with my wardrobe. But yeah, it sucks that even as a tall, slim, gym toned guy, my 32" waist makes me "too fat" for high fashion.

I've actually found myself in a similar circumstance in regards to the muscle mass or fashion dichotomy. I've always had an athletic frame with broad shoulders and chest but I enjoyed endurance sports growing up (Cross Country, Tennis, Soccer etc.), and maintained around 10% body fat with lower muscle mass at all times. I never really had to think about clothing cuts/"fits"-- I would just buy a medium and it always "worked." I put on a bit of excess fat in my late 20s during the slim-fit fad and everything looked like shite on me. It hit my confidence pretty bad and woke me up to the concept of clothing "fits." I am almost down to 10% body fat again. However, this last year due to a knee injury I've had to lower my cardio and have increased weight training. Without really trying my delts, chest and biceps have gotten much bigger. I actually don't like it at all. Its impossible to find anything that fits anymore. I hate tight short sleeves, I don't like shirts that hug the chest and stomach. Everything is either too tight and too short, or its too baggy, ill-fitting and frumpy looking. I think I want to lose the muscle mass. I'm sick of having to "worry" much less think about "fit" all the time and how it never seems to work. And I don't even care very much about fashion.

I am happy you started off the video like that because that is how I am feeling. I am a big guy but it’s hard to find a style and this point I am just wearing all black. While I cut

This video hit home, I'm also a chunky boi (6'1, around 100kg, 36-38 waist and only feel comfortable with XXL, gym goer but with more of a powerlifter body composition than a body building one). This has put me off from fashion for years and i'd just wear whatever, until recently when i stopped caring about clothe sizes (i would feel bad for buying XXL, so i would go for a L or XL and then not using the piece because obviously it wouldn't fit as desired and i'd always be self conscious about my belly). I'm now on a journey of trying to accept my body and finding clothes that actually fit me and that are flattering to my body type. This has led to just accept that I won't ever have a YSL silhouette (a style that I really like), but as you said, that's the sad reality of things. It's hard because I don't really love baggy clothes but sometimes they just fit and feel better. I also stopped caring about fashion trends, and I'm more focused on finding long lasting high quality pieces that are versatile and that i can mix and match with other things. But of course those types of clothing pieces are more expensive and that limits my options. It's hard out here for us, so thank your shedding light on this issue.

this is why my biggest involvement in fashion is sneakers and hats, even though i'm still pushing the higher limits on those, nobody's telling me its a matter of willpower to have size 9 feet

Dude wants to give me body dysmorphia

I rarely watch videos on fashion (it doesn't really interest me much), but this one was good! Not much people really talk about fitting clothes on muscular body. When it comes to goals and insecurities etc, I think we'll always be somewhat insecure more or less. The goal always moves with you. Get somewhat skinny -> is this enough or should I get skinnier? Bulk up to get strong -> am I strong enough yet or should I keep going? I think there's really no true answer to any of that. I personally think that as long as your goal is not really dangerous for your health and well being, then go ahead even if someone would think you're too large or too skinny etc. Just remember to think if you actually want to achieve that goal and is it worth it. My approach to clothing is this: I want to look good MYSELF, even if the clothes don't fit quite as neatly (although I train more for strength than looks but it's a nice side-effect). When clothes fit a skinny man well, it's because there's less man under the clothing ;)

As of right now im working out quite a lot (up to 5 times a week). With this in mind i obviously have the target of getting more muscle and so on. Along the way i obviously thought about my clothing and style because it does make me think when i put away my 4th pair of pants in the last year or so because it doenst fit me. So this really gave me a new way of thinking about my body and it made me really happy to see that there are other people who are even deeper in the fashion thing that have the same problems as me. Thanks for your opinion!

Ok so I 100% agree, the industry is fucked and it is a bummer to try to find things to wear, but as someone who wears a 44-46 inch waist I can say there are brands you can wear that are definitely elevated depending on the aesthetic you want to achieve. Obviously there are some great workwear brands, Rosa Rugosa is personally my favorite in terms of cut. Byborre makes some great clothes that I fit into, bode makes xxl, Harago makes some amazing shirts in different sizing, 18 east makes some amazing clothes overall in in larger sizes, kid super is doing almost all of their collections in xxl, obviously most of these wouldn't be considered strictly "High Fashion" but they make fantastic clothes that let you look good as a big boi. I still want to lose weight obviously but I refuse to look like shit in the meantime.

The skinny bias in fashion has been detrimental to my health. I have been into high fashion since I was like 8 so skinny has been engrained as the ideal body type. Now i’m 21 and am a recovering anorexic, currently at 110lb as a 5’10 guy. There is a lot of shame I feel for being so skinny and wanting to be skinnier, this isn’t what society expects of a man, I should want to be big and strong but ive fallen obsessed to seeing my bones. It is a mental illness, there is so much dissonance in my perception of my body, I know I am unhealthily thin and most all ppl would find how thin I am unattractive. Even I look in the mirror sometimes and am disgusted at my emaciated body but its so hard to stop because loosing weight is something ive become a master a controlling, a constant in my life when other thing feel out of my control. Mens clothes usually dont fit me so i have to wear women’s clothes and even Brandy Melville jeans didn’t fit me at one point. This being said, please be careful if you are tying to lean into the ideal skinny body type, I took it too far and now its extremely hard to come back from.

Love your unique angle. I just subscribed. I am 5’2”, 97 lbs. Very fortunate to have a slender built. I don’t dress to look taller as I have never thought that taller was better. I dress my frame. Yes some styling I like requires a much taller frame and I focus on balance and proportions. So much fun! Looking forward to binge watching your content,

I’ve been feeling a lot better about my body lately as a tall overweight girl, I kinda had an idea that clothes don’t fit me as well because I’m not really the “norm” when it comes to female bodies, this video just helped me understand that better c: I’m learning how to sow and make patterns so I can make my own clothes that look good on me, I’m done feeling like I can’t wear certain things because I don’t have the body for them. Life’s way too short for that.

Thanks for this video dude. With me being an athlete ive always had bigger thighs, so ive always been insecure in how i look and fit and pants/jeans. If you could make a video just talking ab pants for people with bigger legs that would be sick

I did do the weight loss thing before giving up on fashion but that backfired so badly and I’m now fatter than I was when I started. Long term calorie deficit did not work for me because of the massive backlash I faced from my body afterward - I was insatiable for months. It’s tough but it was a lesson. Now I just appreciate fashion on other people - my own clothes are boring at best hehe.

Even if the bit at the end had a definite joking tone I have the same issue (haven’t been diagnosed but it’s to the point that I know it’s not normal), I mainly hangout with my girlfriend so she knows the extent of it better than anyone else and has always been nice and said it doesn’t bother her but I know to some extent it must and she’s just trying to protect my feelings, thought the video was great and I really hope it’s not something you feel insecure about cuz I’m here with you!❤

Sewing machines are an essential household tool. When I finally caved and bought a cheap one, and learned to do some minor alterations, I felt so liberated. I could buy anything in a size up, break it down, and make little tweaks to the fabric to make it fit my size and shape perfectly. Way easier than making new garments from scratch and way cheaper than a tailor. I've since started making my own patterns and bespoke clothes for myself as a craft, which has been so fun and enriching, and it all started there. I know other people here have discussed the process of making your own clothes for the first time, but if you can start by deconstructing or replicating what you already have, you will start to understand fabric behavior and sewing techniques so much more and have a leg up when you want to design your own. Find that one piece that does fit you perfectly and learn to make it yourself.

I’m 6’4 and 245. I used to be 270 and my goal is 220. Only until recently I’ve been able to dress slightly how I want. Its crazy how limited fashion is at my older size and even now it is still limited.

Really interesting perspective on this, It's always a different outcome and thought process with people and the issue of finding clothes. I'm 5'11 240 lbs, and I have really broad shoulders and thick thunder thighs Lol. I've been underweight, overweight, and healthy weight for my height, but still, the same issues persisted when finding clothes. All my height is in my torso so I have to find large and tall shirts and elastic pants when my waist isn't that wide. I have that "strong man" build that mostly is about strength and not aesthetics. No matter how much I have tried to lower my body fat %, I'll never be lanky or skinny. A pretty tough reality when you like fashion, sports, and skateboarding, all things that favor skinny people. So learn to sew, measurements are king, and pick that style and silhouette that fits you as he said in the video. I would like to just add something else to your point of "love yourself before working on your body thinking it'll fix your insecurities." this also means be healthy! Have healthy organs, muscles, and nutrition. I know a lot of people that focused on fitting body norms for aesthetics and sports while lacking in those 3 things. After they realized it wasn't healthy, they learned how to improve their body healthwise and they felt so much better with their body in looks and in how they felt mentally and physically. At the end of the day, you can't reroll your character, become a good person, love yourself, and throw fire fits :).

love your transistion from laptop vid to recording

wtf the algorithm showed me your hair video (how to take care of it i guess was the title) and your sarcasm was so over the top I couldn't watch it till the end. Now this video showed up and you seem like a completely different person. Subbed, and thanks for the inspiring words.

As a prominently pear shaped girl I stand by every word. I genuenly like myself on a bit thicker side, maybe m-ish (I’m of average height so it’s not that small of a difference) but I know for sure that most of y2k inspo pics are not made for me. And the difference between me and this ideal body type is not drastic, yet it’s still super stiff. Can’t win

Honestly that skinny bias is the reason i started making my own clothes. Ive got child bearing hips and a curvy frame even at my skinniest. The body measurements turned into patterns, the patterns turned into fabric cutouts and the cut outs turned into new clothes or more tailored favorites

liking your content a lot more recently

Something thats quite annoying too is the different size systems. I usually wear eu xl and 36’, but whenever i buy something from lets japan with 1/2/3/4/5 sizing i will never know if it will fit since even the same brand will have different sizes depending on the season and year. Its just really annoying to buy clothes when you’re an XL

13:25 lol that’s simply not true. It absoluely makes sense that you start to love your body only after you like what you see in the mirror. I lost weight, got my muscles more defined and I love my body now. Can’t say the same about time when I was more fat.

Thank you so much this was very helpful! This helps me want to work out more very motivational 👏🏻❤

The cool thing about different body types is, if you can't pull off something because of your body, chances are that the person that could pull that off can't pull off what you're currently wearing. Despite the fasion industry's obvious bias, I believe our differences make us stronger. If you're having trouble finding fits that work for you, keep experimenting and don't give up!

As an avid gym goer with a built upper body, 29 inch waist and thicc legs I may look very good with my clothes off but most of fashion is unfortunately just not made for my body type. The baggy pants and boxy top trend is a godsend for me but all stuff that fits closer to the body doesn't work at all

this is probably one of the best yt videos i seen in a while