J's Foster Parents Go to Court | F Word S2Ep4

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If you missed season 1, watch here: • Queer Couple's Journey... The F Word follows the heartwarming story of one queer couple fostering a child in Oakland, CA. Nicole and Kristan head to court to hear whether the judge will rule to terminate J's birth parents' right as parents.
CREDITS
Directed by
Nicole Opper
Produced by
Kristan Cassady
Nicole Opper
Written by
Kristan Cassady
Laura Green
Nicole Opper
Co-Producer
Natalie Teter
Director of Photography
Mario Furloni
Tijana Petrovic
Mike Seely
Additional Camera
Alix Blair
Jen Gilomen
Lou Nakasako
Nicole Opper
Sound
Lauretta Molitor
Emile Bokaer
Additional Sound
Anton Herbert
Max Hirtenstein
Editor
Laura Green
Composer
Diana Sailer
Animation
Sam Berliner
Laura Green
Production Assistants
Eden Polich
Michelle Yau
Adoption and Foster Care Consultants
Nia Clark
Angela Tucker
Legal
Justine Jacobs
Additional Funding Provided by
Dave Thomas Foundation
Chicken & Egg Pictures
Seed & Spark Supporters
Special Thanks
Dependency Advocacy Center
First Place for Youth
Foster America
Thanks
Santa Clara University
Tim Rose
Mike Whalen
Preeti Mishra
AnnaLisa Chung
Claudia Miller
Carrie Lozano
Elizabeth Lo
Karim Ahmad
Kristina Motwani
Nels Bangerter
Rodrigo Reyes
Eugene Yi
Emily Cohen Ibañez
David Feliz Sutcliffe
Débora Souza Silva
Contessa Gayles
Jen Bradwell
Kate McLean
Rhonda Roorda
Daniel Chien
Claire Weissbluth
Katie Patterson
Samantha Cooper
Thank you to our participants:
Noel Anaya
Elisha Mitchell
Katarina Kabick
Lawrence Newsome
Sherry Lachman
Angela Tucker
Avery Klein-Cloud
Artrese Morrison, Alice Jordan, and DJ
Mike and Betty Opper
Ann Poppe and Richard Opper
The Cassady Family
Collier Meyerson
Sharon Anderson
Jaclene Camacho
David Shuster
Victoria Ruiz
Linda Jordan
Ellie DeJong
Mario Montemayor
Judge Elizabeth Lee
Melissa Kertz
Sandy DeLeon
Emilio Perdomo
Zoe Pappis
Marguerite Mackenzie
Rabbi Dev Noily
Shulamit Wise Fairman
Hiba Ahmed
Tracy Hanna & Family
Don Romesburg, David Jon Mould & Family
Sheena Haskin & Family
Additional Music
The Peacock
Writer and composer: Abdelrahman Elrayah
Additional Photos courtesy of
Kyle Glenn
Debbie Lee
Additional Footage courtesy of
Ben Fee
Footage from “Off and Running” courtesy of
Nicole Opper
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@msgib6079 5 лет назад

I am an adoptive mom. One of the quotes that I enjoy most is from Jody Landers. “A child born to another woman calls me Mommy. The magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me.” I love watching your vlog because you totally understand.

@Aya-sb6fy 5 лет назад

J and the dog were just toooo cute😩😭

@Participant 5 лет назад

Righttttt ❤️

@Amber-xm2vx 5 лет назад

That montage of J and the puppy was soooo cute. I think it was also needed as the stories in this series can be emotionally heavy.

@sarahsemprit9509 5 лет назад

I signed over my rights to my 2 children due to substance abuse. I knew my family would be better for them than I was at the time. I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd child, clean and sober, and with hope that one day I can be in my other babies life.

@cathleenmckay389 5 лет назад

Sending love and prayers to you❤️ I had my first born when I was incarcerated(substance abuse), and I fought so hard for reunification. When my son was 14 months old, I chose to fight for him to stay with his Foster family. He was 20 months old when I relinquished my rights and that was the hardest day of my life, but the best day in his❤️ Sacrificing Motherhood for the well being of your children, that's huge. Some would call us failures, but only we know our story. I pray for the day to see my little love again, but I have had to accept if I don't. Recovery gave me a life that I love, but it's really hard to face how much I let addiction to rob me of.

@sarahsemprit9509 5 лет назад

@@cathleenmckay389 God bless you!!! It was the hardest decision I ever had to make, but today I still see pictures of them. They're so beautiful and healthy and happy. My addiction and my bad choices robbed me of my kids for now, but they'll be back one day. My God is a God of restoration and healing. I'm sending light and love your way beautiful!

@nooneanonymous3340 5 лет назад

Oh gee. I've teared up reading this. I don't even have a kid, nor do I think I want one. Can't imagine how hard that must have been for you- to have to give them up. But good for you! Best of luck. ❤❤

@sarahsemprit9509 5 лет назад

@@nooneanonymous3340 it was hard, but it was for their best interests

@joanneerickson8000 5 лет назад

Cathleen McKa

@RubixCube747 5 лет назад

The baby and the dog are going to grow up together. It's great cause you always have someone to turn to. Open adoption is a great way to keep the family involved of the child or children you adopt especially when they're a different ethnicity. One of my friends said that he felt like he had that connection to the history of his ethnicity and his parents birth country cause of it...tbh he said it in a completely different way but this way is pc friendly 😂

@vindelanda 5 лет назад

This is such an incredible series! I am so impressed by the nuanced perspectives featured, as well as how reflective and compassionate the foster moms are. I’ve learned so much!

@chynalani87 5 лет назад

This has been such a touching series, I lost my son to the child services system when he was 2 months old. It was hard work, and I experienced a lot of pain and resentment towards the case workers and foster carers. Since being reunified I was able to appreciate the hard work and the fact they had opened their heart and home to my son which I do ever greatful for

@kateyork4071 5 лет назад

As someone who was adopted and has reconnected with birth parents,I have a huge respect for you❤️❤️. I'm lucky enough to know both my mother and father and have a great relationship with both. My mom actually moved from across the country to be back with me. Now she lives with me and gets to see her grandkids grow everyday. Something she missed out on with me. So kudos to you its not easy what your doing and I gotta say J is probably in the best place possible. I mean a boy and his puppy ❤️❤️ bffs

@RebelwheelsNYCShow 5 лет назад

it's a shame that in ways the system can sometimes pit good people (foster parents) against good people (the biological parents). I think that's really beautiful and touching though that Nicole and Kristan are making a conscious effort to have an open adoption

@mrs.viscusie6491 5 лет назад

Oh thanks and congratulations

@rebekahbridges-tervydis5054 5 лет назад

I’m so sorry about Rocky’s passing. But, he got you through getting Jay. Having a pet for even the littlest children (well, the RIGHT pet) is such a blessing. Pets teach us so much more than we realize. When things aren’t going right for which ever one in the family, you know the unconditional love of your dog is never ending. You ladies are amazing. Thank you for being so in tune with each step and allowing us to come along. I wish you the best in the future. God loves the noble ness of your journey and your choice to share that with the world.

@debbieomi 5 лет назад

Those baby and his puppy photos were fabulous! You are making some hard hitting points in this series and I hope many are opening their eyes (and losing their prejudices and judgements).

@prestonmatthews725 5 лет назад

Omg. You guys are goals 2.0. You guys are awesome. I couldn't help but get emotional seeing J walking. The care you guys give to him and the support you have for each other. You guys are living my dream. As always thank you for sharing. ❤

@SolsticeSteph 5 лет назад

Did you seriously just walk out of a parking lot encounter with a dog?! I love it. That’s just too cute. I am so sorry about Rocky though. What a sweet dog Rocky was.

@MadisonGee206 5 лет назад

Oh. My. God. The baby-puppy love was the absolute best 😭 This is the only series I consistently watch on RU-vid. I look forward to it and love being updated. Thank you for sharing 💕 and I’m sorry you lost your other dog, RIP pups.

@rubyyw3230 5 лет назад

I am a senior age person who was in foster care till I became an adult. I enjoy watching you all going through this journey. This brings up a variety of emotions and memories.

@isabellac5669 5 лет назад

Ruby Y W Your perspectives on these issues are so important to be heard! Much 💜✨

@Leaher 5 лет назад

That is the woman that Shane Dawson adopted one of his dogs from. Such a crazy small world!

@msteaguer1908 5 лет назад

I worked in the reunification program of 8 counties- 8 family courts and 8 CPS offices, different agencies and of course the parents and their children. I let the parents know I am their cheerleader on the side cheering them on as they follow a path that is positively habitual for them.

@TheLicktysplitz 5 лет назад

Congratulations! Sorry for the loss of your puppy. I have literally have done the same thing a home doesn't feel like a home without a dog to me and they never replace AR ones that have passed they just make the grieving process a lot easier. you guys are so sweet and so thoughtful and empathetic and sympathetic I just want you guys to be careful please. I am very happy to see that there is so many birth families that reunify and do the work I personally as a foster parent in my state have never met anybody that has done that I've only unfortunately met the ones that will drive you crazy .when you try to make a connection with the child's birth family please scope them out by yourselves first and really get to know them because as sad as it is there are parents that do not care and their families do not care I don't know if it's just a major narcissistic situation but they genuinely don't care about those kids some of them some of them will continue to hurt those poor babies. I hope that's not the case for your little one and that you can make a good connection and if not feel good about yourselves and knowing that you tried. I can see why they would be hurt or jealous because you're missing Precious Moments and somebody else is experiencing them but they need to be hurt and jealous with themselves I still feel like that kind of not taking full responsibility they should be happy that there are loving people with a safe home and stability taking care of their children while they find their own stability and help themselves .it's not a you against me it's about kids not being in a good or safe situation and being able to be in a safe situation until a better situation happens whether reunification or adoption.

@jillcunningham7277 5 лет назад

Tears running down my face, feeling so thankful for the family you two are creating. Just the BEST!

@elijahh2220 5 лет назад

"We did exactly what we said we weren't going to do." 😂😂😂 Those two are adorable together, and the pics you got of them are fantastic!!

@JessicaNiles 5 лет назад

I had to go back and pause on every dog and baby photo because you killed me with those and I wanted to die all over again. omg.

@phoenixmoon3 5 лет назад

YAYAYAYAYA!! So happy for you guys! This is not a one sided issue and open adoption, while it is a lot more taxing on your emotions, makes the child in the center of it feel connected to everybody at the same time in different ways. I am so proud to know this story. Thank you for sharing this with us. Congratulations Ladies, and thank you SoulPancake for all the good things you do.

@Participant 5 лет назад

Thank YOU for watching and engaging

@lindseypalmer5969 2 года назад

Seeing the baby and the puppy together is so cute!

@ComedianBobFarrell 5 лет назад

We adopted a girl through foster care that was postox.

@isabellac5669 5 лет назад

I wish her everything a child needs, and much love and care to you!

@KerriCz 5 лет назад

J and the puppy are sooo cute!! This series is a pretty phenomenal look at the foster care/adoption system. It really looks at all the different and complicated perspectives involved. Bravo!

@shugabear8929 5 лет назад

My husband and I are foster parents. We have a beautiful little girl we adopted and will begin the process for our son in the next couple of weeks. My son has siblings that are also in foster care and parental rights have been terminated. I think it’s super important for my son to have a relationship with his siblings even though they don’t actually know about him yet. I have some ppl that are involved with the case guardian ad litem, social worker, CASA worker etc;) that are supportive of this and some that tell me to “leave well enough alone” I’m struggling with knowing what’s best for HIM. This process is so much more involved then ppl think

@jackie8357 5 лет назад

Such a good series! See so many sides of the story. Your new doggie with his best buddy baby is adorable. Thank you for taking us with you and being so vulnerable

@miznikki2u 5 лет назад

This made me cry! I am so happy that J is in a loving home and has a buddy in your new puppy💕

@educatedbrowngirl 5 лет назад

Baby J is soooooo cute. Bless his little heart. He is such a sweet baby

@NorthernFella 5 лет назад

You have me in tears every time because I can see little J thriving and now he has a little buddy as well :-)

@kdpeters06 5 лет назад

Baby J is so beautiful. You two are so blessed. Please continue to love him and let him know how special he is.

@brendagallagher5409 5 лет назад

omg the dogs tail was wagging to the beat of the music in the montage ❤️

@JudithBisson 5 лет назад

The three of you make me smile... wait I should say 4 now🇨🇦❤️

@bleuberry9636 5 лет назад

This was an excellent episode. Thank you. We’re in Canada and for us the TPR happened 2 years before we adopted our kids - as adoption directly from care is common here. Basically we only came into the picture 2 years after the decision had already been made to find them an adoptive home and we didn’t have to face that particular situation as it had already been decided. So the details of how everything works are a little different in our experience here but the heart of it is the same. We also have an open adoption, which has been really helpful for our kids... although part of that is being careful to guard their hearts as (like Mario said) sometimes the reasons for termination are more complicated than temporary circumstances. We still want to keep that connection as much as is safely possible, and to be very clear that there are no “good guys” vs “bad guys” in all of this. I like to say that love is good math: love always multiples - it never divides. Open adoption expands our definition of family to include adoptive family, birth family, and foster family... our “family” is so much bigger now than it ever was before. Loving this series. Thank you!

@rebeccaturner9511 5 лет назад

Such a lovely video. Jay is so lucky to have you both.

@leewhy6238 5 лет назад

The both of you are such good people. The world needs more people like you

@jammatardif 5 лет назад

Thank you for sharing your journey. Sending loads and loads of love to all of you ❤️

@colleenr.6364 5 лет назад

I'm so sorry for your loss :( - I understand that need to 'fill the hole' that a beloved pet leaves. I'm glad you've got a new puppo to love and cherish, one that can grow up with J. And, of course, congratulations on the adoption (assuming it's all finalized at this point)!

@jacklynbustamante5613 5 лет назад

I am so sorry for your loss in Rocky. That is so sad, I am glad Jay will have his pictures with him forever. My heart goes out to these two wonderful women and Jay. Your new doggy is adorable and I can’t wait to hear an update on this family❤️

@nicawaters-fleming4172 5 лет назад

I so appreciate this incredible series. Thank you for sharing your journey.

@toboroboproductions 5 лет назад

I'm beyond happy for them :")

@ilovemymike100 5 лет назад

Best friends forever! The photos melted my heart!

@chikatoo 5 лет назад

Love this!! And the puppy ❤️

@angieee.266 5 лет назад

I was adopted at 6 years old and in the foster care system at 4. I'm 23 now and about 3 years ago reconnected with my birth mom. Let's just say its a shame that 17 years later shes still the same person and never once tried fighting for her kids, 8 in total. I give props to these parents for never giving up on their babies and to the parents who take in children who aren't even theirs 💜

@lmp8932 5 лет назад

This is a very interesting and informative series, thank you form making and living it.

@mariearmstrong1258 5 лет назад

Those pictures are priceless!!!!

@bajoobiecuzican 5 лет назад

This was a beautifuly done story with a lot of heart.

@MrAhutson 5 лет назад

So awesome....my partner and i had our son thru artificial insemination he graduates next year. With him going off to college to play football opening my home to being a foster parent has been on my mind and heart

@Participant 5 лет назад

So beautiful! We hope that journey goes well!

@sandrajerome-severe3953 4 года назад

Thank you again. Yes I do feel bad for the parent of those 4 kids.

@amygilmore9291 5 лет назад

I love following these beautiful stories

@deniagarrett7698 5 лет назад

Thank you so much for sharing your story.

@isabellac5669 5 лет назад

Ive ALWAYS wanted to be a Foster Mom! I'm very aware of all sides of these painful issues, which are hard fought realities! Children of ALL ages need Positive, Healthy, Stable & Loving homes; stability is vastly important! There's no doubt that most children truly want that ultimate bond with their biological parent(s), which makes reunification a very necessary & hopeful possibility! As of right now, a truly good home, must never discount any loving, caring, and wanting foster family; LBGTQ, Single Parent, Certain Disability Factors or having less income! **Over 400 thousand children are in need of care! Let's all assure we NEVER Give Innocent Children to abusive homes, and speak up for positive changes in the entire system!

@hollyfisher8811 5 лет назад

This is totally "Parenting Goals" of both Human & Fur~Kiddos☺🐶❤:)

@momoredel2295 5 лет назад

Why is that baby so adorable?!! I can’t understand🥰

@johngonzalez4298 5 лет назад

Great video 🙏🏻

@jadaelieforever 5 лет назад

i hope you guys i learning how to care for natural hair....would love to see you guys watch and try to do the tutorial lolll

@marcykeeley7709 5 лет назад

Maybe I'm being a jerk but it's striking to me that the birth parents don't seem to consider at all the fact that their little kid with someone for 5 years (a lifetime for a small child)and that it might be more traumatic to take them back after all that time then to just leave them where they are and try to form a relationship from there. I guess I'm just saying it seems a little more about their needs than what's best for the kids

@colleenr.6364 5 лет назад

I don't think you're a jerk- I think it's a case by case thing. Some people just can't think of people other than themselves.

@ginasreview1030 5 лет назад

I'm so BEYOND happy & emotional with J & the puppy! Ohmahgwaaaash! :"] ♡♥

@lauriedettelback2927 5 лет назад

My son is 21 and he recently connected with his birth father 16 years after I adopted him and his brother out of foster care. His birth father was rightfully proud he has been sober 6 years and we had a great visit. Birth mom has also contacted my son but she is still a meth addict. She did not even know who my son was when he ran into her. He came home after this unexpected run in and just sobbed. He apparently told his birth mother off and how I am his real mom. She claims they took her rights illegally but I was at the 26 and was put in as the defacto parent leading to adoption 6 months later here in CA. She and I even talked at the 26 and she claimed this was what she wanted and that Jesus came to her in a dream and told her she was just the vessel to give birth to my sons but I was the real mom. I have no desire to ever see her and I think it would be hard for her. My sons know their birth families but have also recognized the struggles they have gone through. Hey! I got baby pictures which is something I never thought I would have!

@iliveinmyhead 5 лет назад

I love you guys so much

@laurakichler7107 5 лет назад

You parents are amazing! I plan to adopt someday as well.

@FunnyCoolMonkey264 5 лет назад

oh my heart. I"m a queer woman in my mid 20s. not ready for kids anytime soon, but once that time comes, I know adoption is the path for me.

@jillianlea9690 5 лет назад

Reunification is a great goal

@rochellenathav 4 года назад

I'm adopted from birth and my parents love me like no other🥰...#itworks

@mrs.viscusie6491 5 лет назад

How are you guys able to show his face?

@JessicaNiles 5 лет назад

Because they clearly officially adopted him! And this isn't real time. ;)

@mrs.viscusie6491 5 лет назад

Ok thanks congratulations

@shayla-jean.saunders 5 лет назад

J is just to cute

@marydalton5851 5 лет назад

They can grow up together 💞

@stephanmcbride8264 5 лет назад

An I the only one experiencing audio pronlems

@nataliecangini9750 5 лет назад

What about the millions of children who die every year while in cps's care due to neglect or sexual abuse ?! The sistem is a disaster and needs to be changed asap. Those children are tomorrow's future and deserve the best care to have a chance of becoming the best possible adults of the future.

@theindianknowledge3892 3 года назад

I like your video so much how do you join__?

@theindianknowledge3892 3 года назад

I'm from India

@grettaarmitage4675 5 лет назад

#ABoyandHisDog Aww so sweet, love your channel!!

@katwilliams6602 5 лет назад

What is J’s actual name ? Anyone please I’m just curious

@TheKateCupcakes 5 лет назад

They adopted the dog from Bella Vita Rescue! That’s the same woman that RU-vidr Shane Dawson adopted his dog from!

@finkletricks 5 лет назад

R r r r r r r ROASTED

@CorieCupcakes 5 лет назад

this series is what i show the pro-choice/life people

@kerriemorrice654 2 года назад

Stop stealing children. If give your. It OK. But if not. Your better say sorry for all your sin in Jesus name amen

@elizabethg8497 5 лет назад

I'm a little disappointed in how scripted and unnatural parts of this really important story was to me. When the acting took away from the authenticity and vulnerability it was off-putting. Especially when the fostering mom is so stressed or vain to make the dog interaction look good. The dog pawed all over his head and the baby looked so bewildered. Mama on the right..is like OMG was she sees this all happening and is forced to step in to put the babies needs before her own? Or maybe she was told to do a certain thing that was stressful and akward. No matter the why.. I'm just sad because I was so hyped to feel as though I could get to know a two moms (or insert however they express their relationship pronouns etc.) fostering and adopting a child together. As a 35 year old lesbian who has always wanted to foster, I really needed some one I felt like I could relate to and I didn't. I feel this way while also having the perspective that in the end someone participating in the creation of this series, really friggin cares about these interconnected unrepresented real life people. So. Respect and honest feedback intented.