This interview is very misleading, especially in reference to life in Canada. It's free health care, but citizens are heavily taxed. She also failed to mention the long wait times, etc. Apartments do not come fully furnished in Toronto. Child benefit is also calculated on the parent's income. Its also misleading to say if you lose you full time job, you get paid $1,600 the next day [every month]. E.I is calculated based on the number of months you contributed to it and how much you contributed, and it's not forever either, it usually for a few months or period depending on how long you were enployed for..
I think she's trying to sell her product, which is the travel agency I think she's running. I've been here longer than she's been, always been a resident, and I've NEVER received any benefits because not everyone really qualifies. If you make more, you won't qualify for anything, not even tax returns.😂
@geraldinemaduka4771 No wonder. I have been here for a long time as well [over 20 years], and this new wave of "japa" is causing confusion and creating unrealistic expectations. You see alot of these "japa" generation posting on social media, I just got to Canada 6 months ago and I bought a house but what they fail to disclose is they are in a remote location in PEI or Nova Scotia [not GTA] or they came in to the country with plenty of cash. Now, everyone in Nigeria thinks, "Canada is so easy." Better than Nigeria, for sure, but not easy. You get taxed for the air you breathe in Canada.
@@frankwhyte3267 The same thing with those ignoramus Japa in the UK. One even said he bought a house witthing 15 months he arrived which is impossible except if you brought in cash. You need a six years credit history and have a permanent resident card (ILR) before you can get a mortgage.
Their marriage was most likely in trouble before they left Nigeria. They probably stayed together because of cultural societal pressure (while in Naija). But decided to do the inevitable and part ways once in Canada. She looks happy, free and living life on her own terms. That is very revolutionary for an African woman and that’s why she’s getting so much criticism in the comments section. Bless her.
My sister you're wrong about the issue of children. I am a doctor here in UK and I can tell you that 1 in every 3 Briton is on antidepressant because of their individualist and lonely lifestyle. Compare this to our communal and social network due to family structure. I was also a doctor for 11 yrs in naija before I left so I can comfortably make that comparison. You don't give birth just for them to take care of you financially but you need them around you as a support system when you're are lonely and frail. Western culture has not favoured them but they're too proud to admit that
In addition, having children also has its economic ramifications. Countries like Korea and Japan are really getting concerned about dropping birth rates because of this.
SHE IS JUST A JOKER. SHE IS ALREADY ON SOME SPEED. CHECK HER EYEZ WELLA. WHO TELL HER KIDS ARE FOR RETIREMENT PLANS. LIES..I SEE SENIOR CITIZENS EVERYDAY WITH MILLIONS OF $ IN THEIR 401K AND SAVINGS. WHENEVER THEIR KIDS VISIT THEM AT THE HOME CARE/ASSITANT LIVING they get so happy and those moments are unforgetable .. 4yrs she don turn adviser.. She love kids, she dont want kids, she got divorced 4yrs ago, she already dated many guys in 4yrs. Aunty na only GBOLA you like jare.. She just no want any commitment jare
@@ucheiwuajoku1037 Neither does remaining single guarantee happiness, but children brings with it another dynamics to life in general. Life need to be changing its navigatory course for it to be interesting
Honestly madam, you need to have a rethink over a child bearing issue, I nd my wife has being looking for the fruit of the womb for a long time and still hasn't and will never give up. You see those your nephew and nice can't do for you at old age your children will, I remembered when my mother and mother inlaw of blessed memories, was very sick, it was the children all through, families just visit once in a while and they'll gathered when they passed away. I hope you read this sha
Shade, I loved everything have seen about you in this interview and I can tell you that you have a very good smile, smart and sound friendly. I wish am your close friend. Very free minded lady to the world. And your point on children, I totally agree with you and I loved your genuinety about it. Am from the UK and a Nigerian saying stay blessed and be safe.❤
I like her. She's a nonconformist. She's happy in her own skin. She does not seek approval from anyone. She's not the typical Nigerian who follows the crowd. And she has a personality that will take her far in life. I too do not want kids. I live in the UK and nobody cares if you have kids or not.
I’m a US citizen for 16 years, you don’t know anything about US benefits for unemployed and disabled people. If one is unemployed or disabled, there are free insurance, food stamps, and monetary benefits what you need to do is to get information and apply with proof and benefits will follows.
she said the husband wanted them to stay with in-law a bit longer...very easy of her to say he enjoys freebies and not paying rent. She herself said she wasn't doing any job, I assume the husband too wasn't doing any job then, there was no end in sight for COVID at that time, even if they went to Canada with 6 billion naira, it's unwise to start depleting your funds while nothing is coming in, especially when you have a chance to take rent out of the way. I agree with her that COVID took its toll on their relationship but on the surface, it looks like they are not on the same page with the willingness to delay gratification. Now that they are separated, she said herself that she has dated a lot of Nigerians in Canada now(thats a lot of Nigerians in 4 years) and her conclusion still suggests that Nigerian men are not good. I hope she feels better with herself now and have the peace she desires
At least you get sense to calculate. Many dimwitt here na the femine route they are happy about. She left her husband not even 4yrs ans has dated many in that short time? Was she fully in the marriage before it ended ? She dont need a long time only a good time. Her ex not really the problem if you critically analyze . Good for her to do whatever she loves but no de try convince women say na best way. About the job, dont forget after few months she started getting the $1600 aid monthly so no say $ na hin be issue for sepration i guess..She don say she be black sheep. She will be alright. Few eyinbos wey i know wey swear den no go have kids decade ago don all born picken now.
@@FactsUncompromized exactly she say she be black sheep, that her parents did not expect her to get married in the first place, they were also not surprised when her marriage packed up. They need to ask that man questions around the "not having/wanting a child" matter to get the true picture of this story
@@oba_idan Sure Oba. We go wait for the hubby to reply in days ahead lol. Abi na black sheep wey be Animashaun. 3yrs she don date many Nigerians..She no hurt after the seperation? Is she a nympho? She wana go to Mexico and Bahamas once she make alot of money in her old age? Who know no what western women go there for ? She forget to add Cartegena join. Lol
Great Interview, but I would have asked her if she suffering from any medical issues or childhood trauma that is stopping her to wanting to have kids, because so many people that fall within this "I don't want to have kids" category are usually plagued with deep underlying medical/psychological issue and they make the gullible ones think that it was a personal choice. I only making this statement so as to prevent an innocent girl child or male child somewhere from taking a decision that might lead to painful irreversible outcome in years to come. Please let there be another interview that can confirm that she lacks non of these issues and it was her choice as people mask a lot.
Canada is a capitalistic society with mixed market economy so also is the USA. When people describe the USA as capitalistic, it really shows some level of misunderstanding of these economies. The USA has a large welfare system that supports disabled people, those living at or below poverty line, the old and unemployed. Pregnant women at a certain level of income get free care and support until child birth in USA and children from birth to 5 or so get welfare but you must fit into the category. Your income determines a lot and I think it should be so as the ones that have should not participate in these welfare systems. It is meant for the have nots. You must be a legal resident or United States citizen to enjoy these. Some cities are sanctuary cities so they support illegal immigrants as well. Like you rightly said, what you put in is what you get. The expectation that all fingers must be equal is unrealistic and will never be as all fingers are not equal. USA is fast paced whereas Canada is not. Gun violence is higher in USA than Canada. Education is free from Head-start to High school in the public school system in the USA. It is a choice to go to private school. The secret is living in a good school district, taxes will be higher but well worth it for the services provided at the public school in that district. Every country has some challenge with their public school system but you must know how to navigate it. To each their own but I love The United States of America.
Madam your mindset about kids is wrong. There are a lot of seniors in Canada are in pains because of kids and some that have were abandoned by their children.
My sister talks what you know. i am in US for 20 years. If you do not have insurance or a citizen and you are sick, your hospital bill will be covered by the hospital, all you need to apply is called Charity care it is for low income to help cover your bill and even if you do not have Charity care, the hospital will never denied you medical care. All this shoting is not what it look like in the media. You can never compare Canada with USA.
Giving children pressure extended the pressure as well to other siblings just because of you have both of them together as a parent they should do what you want not what they want God help us as in African children
Oga Daddy Freeze, you did not scrutinised this her story well. You allowed your personal relationship to becloud your journalistic instincts. You shouod have pressed further on the reason she denied her husband sex for six months while sleeping in the same room, on the same bed. The excuse of a two year old in the next room does not make sense. Are you saying parents don't have sex because of babies sleeping in adjacent rooms? Not the same room, but room separated by a wall. Even if the two year old is awake, what will he know they are doing? In nigeria couples living in single rooms seperate their bed space with only a curtain, while the children sleep on the floor, and action still takes place between husband and wife. Most likely, this aunty got to Canada and started forming feminist with newly found privileges. Why would the man refuse to leave his brothers house to start living alone with his wife?
This lady didn't tell the true story about her not wanting a child and the reason for all the naija men way done leave her. But has she no gbench for 6month she ves. Which man would be happy to be gbenching woman way no want child na to just they gbench. And if the grandmother no born him mama how she go fit come they blame person for gbench.
Cap!! I like how some Naija people keep saying they can never move to the US because of gun violence. Like those of us here are constantly dodging bullets on the street while commuting (na matrix?). Free health care that you're placed on a waiting list for certain treatments (some die while waiting). You will never be denied care in the US. Yes, you will pay but you have care anytime, anyday. And with good health insurrance, you're covered. Hospitals even refer special cases from Canada to US hospitals. The US is the best country you can ever immigrate to. Just talk say you no like am because them no give you visa or make am easy to enter. lol
Canada has amazing 'enjoyment/nightlife' as well. Depends on who and where you know. The lady is obviously still relatively new in Canada, also most Nigerian men don't deal with Nigerian women a lot.
The facts about free health care and support for children is true but she is wrong in other areas. She was given $1600 because it was during covid which canada is paying dearly for it right now.
Money is god, Broken marriages in the pursuit of so called happiness ( whoever told these pple that marriage is meant to make you happy), loneliness, suddenly no interest in having children, Children owned and indoctrinated by the government etc. May God not let us loose our basic humanity on the alter of living in Canada... And for all you lovers of the lady, based on vibes ,you don't have to love her lifestyle choices too, they can be mutually exclusive... be wise..
This lady should speak on what she aware off, ( if you wake up in Australia snake) That's rubbish talk, I leave in Australia for 4 years now, and I have only see snake 5 times. Twice it was crossing the road, other Twice back of my work place which is mountain. The indigenous people slept outside, they are on the field all day, why is it that snakes are not biten them. The truth is, there is a law that you don't kill Snake. If you see Snake call snake catcher. My dear Australia is far better than Canada as a Nigeria person, it's just that their visa is difficult. AUSTRALIA IS A HOME. if you want sun NT, snow Tasmania, cold with wind Melbourne and Sydney, queit life ACT Canberra Rain in Gold Coast. Church life in Adelaide Party it to Sydney and Melbourne. NT is full of black people and half cast, Job full, you do anything
I attended a grandma birthday and family get together,in that room where mama said her prayers and cut the cake where also 71 people who are all her children and grandchildren.imagine all that came from one woman.u could see the joy in her face.my dear sister you are very wrong on that ur children mind set.not having kids is the main selfishness my sister.
The dangerous thing about ladies like this will drag many young ladies down with dem.but the funny tin there is that those ladies that dey are dragging down with Dem will never go and find out or research to ask those old single lonely rich ladies if it was worth it.
That’s a lieeee. In the U.S, you don’t have a job, you get free healthcare with Medicaid or Medicare (for older people). You pay insurance if you are working and that also depends on how much you are making yearly. The less you make,the less healthcare insurance you pay, the more you make, the more healthcare insurance you pay!
Sade I love your smile, confident and beautiful soul, I respect your opinion but if you reconsider, kindly have at least 1 child for your nephew and niece to play with too.
A father killed a famous gangster that has been terrorizing and traumatizing his son,and the son ask the father saying "dad what have u done"the father replied him saying ("son when u grow up and have a child,and u look into there eye's the day dey were born,you will know that you are ready to die for Dem".)
nne you need kids for yourself all these your big grammar will not help you tomorrow . tomorrow is what you don't know people have done this your stuff before and regretted it . please get married and have kids God bless you
Na so i talk ooh. She will go see millionaires in $ in savings and 401k den de happy when kids visit them..Well, she said she will make money and be going to bahamas and mexico ... lol
This woman isn't a happy person forget the front she is putting up here. I don't think she is far from taking drugs to keep up with loneliness. If the whole truth is told you might discover that it's her husband who actually left and not otherwise.
Good for you, if that’s what you want fine, don’t drag women with you unless the ones that want to follow this routes . But when your friends and family are enjoying their kids company, kindly don’t forget you made your own decision. The western world is really changing our reasoning. I pity your old age, my aunt that are in the UK, thier kids had married and moved out . Now they’re lonely and looking for who to talk to over the phone for hours. Enjoy your youthful years but do not complain in your old age. 😊
Every single time Women have told me they are not interested in Kids, years later, they are either desperately searching for Kids, or I find out they were dealing with some deep personal issues or flaws (selfishness being number 1).
if she was abroad all she needs is money and she'll have all those people around her... Naaa. so wrong! And it's also not always selfish to live your life through your kids cos living your life through them isn't always forced, you can influence them and then they pick up those values or investments you've made and then decide to build on your legacy. It's beautiful when this works out. The truth is children might have their own dreams or choose to build on what their parents have started. Let's think about what our world would look like if there was no mechanism to build on the legacy of others, parents or not. Actually not having kids could be considered selfish, and that's because you have the potential to have them but decide not to. I personally think it is a choice you make either way and as long as you properly thought through that decision and can live with it, you're entitled to that choice.
She's said a lot of nice things but this not wanting kids issue sha.😊 If everyone thinks like this, a lot of things will go wrong with human existence. Her choice🤷
I think she's hiding something. It's likely she was once pregnant, aborted it and something went wrong so she can't conceive again. I listened to her yesterday.
I know its her perspective and opinion, but regarding hard facts about OHIP, Jobs availability and opportunities, some of the information she's giving is quite wrong
No matter the owner of the house, I must nack ooooo, I can't stay for four days without nacking.... am too active to stay too long without nacking 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Daddy freeze good morning Sir. Na you suppose be my biological father i dont just know why God brought me to this world through another man and i told God before i was born that i want to come to this world through daddy freeze
My dear sister u wake up every morning from ur bed without are reason to keep pushing.or ready to die for.wjen the reality hit u,u will know that rich old single ladies have only there cats or dogs to talk too.and if dey ever decide to find love by Dem Boyz go choo Dem clean.
Oga please show love when counselling, you don't know anyone's story, at some point most of us thought getting a university degree will give us a better life, some mocked those who went to get a skill but today in Nigeria, a lot of degrees turned out to be wasted years for many. Children are lovely but they may not serve that purpose for you in old age, people die before old age, some people are unable to have them, some children die before parents, some may turn out wicked, some may not be able to be there for their parents for whatever reasons. Many old people in our communities are taken care of by other people who are not their kids because the kids may not be available when they need them even many of them can never go long terms of taking care of parents without feeling inconvenienced except the ones with empathy and not everyone is lucky to have children who have empathy. Life is unpredictable so dont talk like you have the script.
Daddy freeze, I disagree with most of the thing she saying with US, I have been leaving here in the united state for 7 years, all this medical and child care thing she talking about is available and even better than Canada, you can access medical without having a job, there is un employment far better than Canada depending on how much you making when you are working. Health insurance is absolutely free for all kids. There is a child tax credit for children you got. I never attend any school in united state and I am working with my Nigeria certificate here, I am talking about a good job without no professional certificate. In fact , I have two job, most time I turn down offers. With HND o.
Many ladies that took this ur feminine route are all regreting it my sister go and find out,ur nanny go deal with u at ur old age bcos u have to kids they are scared off.nne advice from me to you,evyif u don't want to get married,get a good guy from good records to get u pregnant even if it one child it worth living for.
@@ademolajayeola9846 her marriage did not work because of COVID pressure according to her. She wanted them to move to a place of their own when both of them did not have a job(according to her). Now that the marriage is over, she said she has dated several Nigerian in Canada in less than or about 4 years. Her assessment of that experience is that all Nigerian men are the same(hahahaha)..... but our darling sister here sees herself in Shade...I wish her all the best
weather going to adopt a child or you have your own child because there is a disadvantage because you're going to get on it you better go and take care of yourself in the old age
I'm really shocked how some people would say that they don't want to have children. What kind of mindset is that. My sister is not now . Is about when you are very old. Loneliness is real.
You needed a simple life. Why didn't you go to ibadan or jos,or even Abuja. I live in los angles . Here is not simple a n d easy everything is on the high pace.. cost of leaving here is expensive especially rent.
It's very rude to call her names. People want different things in life. Not everyone wants children. This is one of the reasons why Nigerian women want to die in abusive marriages, in the name of being a married woman. So sad
@@yvonnec2425 Will you STFU. WE NO TELL HER NOT TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS OOH. Well, she divorced 3yrs and dated many men we stopped her? She wan go cartegena and bahmas when she makes alot of money well know why.. Abeg shift alot of people like her that swore they wont ever have kids decade ago. Now don all born 4 or 5 kids a decade later.
@@yvonnec2425 She mentioned abusive? Na una online advisers. Na. Every marriage de end due to abuse? Make una de use your number 6 sometimes . People like you no get home or it is about to pafuka if not already.
Because she dont wana change diaper. SHE WANA SLEEP AT A SPECIFIC TIME..SHE DOESNT WANT ANYONE TO DISTURB HER SLEEP. SHE DONT WANT TO COOK FOR ANYONE. SHE PREFERS ARE ROBOT CLEANER.SUMMARY OF THESE NA SELFISHNESS.
@@FactsUncompromized We are all selfish. People who want children are selfish because children make them happy. I live in the UK and I don't want children because children do not make me happy. Do what makes you happy.
@@destiny2560 You are thick. I am a NP n a tax consultant..I will leave a fortune for my kids . Take care to me, mean visits etc . Does it have to be financial ..I see how my clients feel happy when their children visits them in home care/assisted living. The ones without visits or known family are many times misrable.
@36:00, It is ENTITLEMENT mindset that causes people to want to ''jeun omo'' i.e. they have the children and send them to school with intent to eat from them for life.
You are wrong oga. Jẹun ọmọ really means that your child will be successful in your lifetime and also look out for you when you are frail. It is also that you are able to taste some or part of their success. There are many successful parents wey dey jẹun ọmọ. It doesnt mean you will be relying solely on your children and be a liability. The world is created to function in cycles, that is what goes around comes around. Parents do get responsible for their children for 20/25 years. So it ain't out of place to contribute to their lives every other day in their old and last days. It's part of what makes us humans and social beings.
@@I.T.Wonder-cq1zh you are entitled and already have a wrong mindset due to your upbringing, in Africa. If you had grown up in a country like the USA, or Canada or the UK, you wouldn't be thinking like that because the government works and cares for every single citizen.
Please lady stay on the topic you are familiar with, I give her another 5 years in the so called Canada her vocabulary go change. Those Free stuff you are getting ain't free anyways, it's an insurance and all advance countries do have them, also the moment you go up on income you'll be stripped of those benefits... That's why we said every poor people are Democrats but the moment you are rich you become a Republican Please give this lady another 5-10 years and let's see if she'll have the same vocabulary
