Jayson Tatum: Did my father even like me? 

really beautiful point

Exactly. All his words are from a parent perspective even when he speaks on his dad parenting style. You could tel NOW he understands growing up in Lou his parents had to be that way.

Agreed.

Who’s deuce?

@@JimmyStruthers1000 his son

God bless! You just put such a positive spin on this!

Respect.

I read your comment before I watched the video and I was like this can't be the saddest interview but it really is

Do that. Be a good father.

Your comment made me feel better about the interview!

yes and jaysom is in that position to be a great father and provide an amazing life because of Jayson's teachings. Jaysom's mom was also "tough" on him. amazing things happen when you push your child to excel

Sounds like Tatum is doing the same thing with Duece by being his son’s best friend since his father wasn’t his the way he wanted him to be.

I agree with what you’re saying but…. He is who he is today, because of his father. He wouldn’t be in the NBA today, without his father guidance. He needed someone to be rough on him. He is a wonderful father to his son, due to his own experiences with his father. His father just wanted to bring the best out of JT. What if he had an absentee father? Would JT be in the position he is today? That’s just his dad’s way of parenting, and getting the best out of his son. No one is perfect at parenting, we just learn from our parents and try to implement it in a better way. His dad knew what to say to make Jayson ball out, and it worked.

@@woodylucas that’s a damn ignorant statement. He pinned his son to a locker like a cliche bully and told jayson he wasn’t gonna make it. There’s a line he crossed he’s a father first not a coach

@@97NikeSb You sound silly that was nowhere close to a ignorant statement.

please explain to me how is ur father torturing you related to having a defensive coach ?? wtf u talking about ?

@@bokaboka4675 😭

Holding his son against the wall and humiliating him in front of others, telling him he's not going to be anything had nothing to do with being hard. It was brutality and abuse.

@@bokaboka4675 honestly I’d explain it to you but I don’t really want to so just try and change perspectives to figure out what he means

He’s playing better now with the new coach!! Soooo

Having a need to dominate other athletes is probably never healthy, but that's the path of a professional athlete. I think they're all a little psycho

There’s a fine line

@@Musicdudeyoutub So many all time greats who didn’t get humiliated by their dad every day though. The antics just aren’t needed. Tough yes, tyrant though? Michael Jordan can attest to that not being needed

Exactly. Lot's of pro athlete's parents try to justify their actions be looking at the end result. Problem is there's no way to know what would have happened had they not been abusive. It's a scumbag move. My dad acted similarly with my siblings and I. Problem is none of us went pro and half of us don't even talk to him now. And the ones that do aren't even really close with him.

Exactly. Mfs are saying he did it to make Jayson tough and that the end result worked, but no amount of bs will justify crossing that line and going beyond what's necessary. That's not the way to raise your children, regardless of whatever goal or achievement you got in mind for them. The ends don't justify the means, especially in a parental relationship. His dad is just one lucky mf that had a talented enough son to at least make it seem like his bullshit methods weren't all that bad.

My dad is very rough on me but I turned out well.

His dad was rough, but at least he was somewhat around lol. It's actually not an excuse, its a real cycle of pain

🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️ don’t do it to your kids then

@lionstruth8937Tatum isn’t an isolated example. That type of teaching can have negative effects

That last sentence!

Don’t watch the Sage Steele interview then. He cries 😔 it’s really sad. I cried too

your experience proves that they will never go away? lol

He and his dad will never have a close relationship, Jayson is just being honorable and respectful 🙏🏽

And Justin gave Jayson something he never had . Each generation is supposed be better than the next

@@antem1983 good point

Especially when it comes at the expense of a father son relationship. Causing your child that trauma is never okay.

False. You can NOT reach greatness without a hard hand. Joe Jackson and Michael Jackson, CL Franklin and Aretha Franklin, Richard Williams and Serena/Venus, Earl Woods and Tiger Woods. Phil and Shaq, James Jordan & Michael Jordan. All great. All ruthlessly strict demanding fathers. You need insanity to become great and each of those BLACK FATHERS gave it to their son. These type videos try to tear down black fathers. Ain't falling for it. You shouldn't either.

@@DrAlexanderHamilton ???? parenting styles derived from trying to survive under slavery is what caused this trauma in the first place. success does not negate poor mental health. You don't need to be insane to be great

@@Seitex2004 you're flat out wrong. I'm not talking about good. I'm talking about great. Greatness takes insanity and unless you're great at something, you wouldn't know. I am great. What I have achieved giving my background is flat out astonishing and I had similar parenting and every other great person I've met have similar stories...and it's not just black people. Indians, Asians, Nigerians, and many Carribean parents are notoriously hard on their children as you have to be to prepare them for a ruthless world. Children that grow up soft are not prepared for what this ruthless world will throw at them. Yale Law professor Amy Chua, an Asian America wrote the same thing about how hard she was on her children and how great they became great. I can't remember the name of the book about all the top folks on Wall Street and in silicone valley, but they all came from households with ruthless parenting. Steve Jobs of Apple, Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook, Elon Musk of PAYPAL MAFIA/Tesla/Space X, Larry Ellison of Oracle, Marc Benioff of Salesfore. All great. All had strict overbearing ruthless parenting. Jayson Tatutm would not be in the NBA if his father wasn't that ruthless. Michael Jackson admitted he would have never become the King of Pop without the ruthless parenting of Joe Jackson. Serena & Venus have always said that they wouldn't be at the top of the tennis world without Richard Williams' ruthless parenting. Michael Jordan talked about his father and older brother making him play in the cold rain and how he wouldn't be where he is at the top of the basketball and sports world without ruthless parenting. Tiger Woods has talked ad nausem about how harsh Earl Woods was on him as a child. ALL GOATS. Oh and just google the parenting stories of Roger Feder, Nadal, Djokoviv, Naomi Osaka and Coco Gauf. I could go on and on. All came from ruthless parenting. You might be less strict on your children and they might end up good, but they will never be GREAT. For a greater understanding on this topic, please read "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" by Amy Chua, which is about ruthless parenting. p.s. look at the next video titled "Jayson Tatum: Coach K's "soft a$$ St. Louis kid" tantrum." Coach K at Duke was equally ruthless, but Jayson Tatum was adequately prepared to handle Coach K b/c of how hard his father was on it. Great parenting.

Not many people reach those heights without trauma. Trauma motivates people

Facts!! Instead of repeating the cycle of abuse

Interesting never knew that bout Ichiro,serena and venus Williams father good example as well,it can also backfire todd & marv marinavich come to mind

Yeah but look at steph curry, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Lewis Hamilton. There is no valid reason why your own child should ever feel like you literally do not even like them as a person. That’s just dumb and people like that die alone

On some joe jackson shit

Similar for Nyjah Huston

Would you choose the path if you received EVERYTHING YOU WANTED IN LIFE BECAUSE OF IT.

exactly like they're missing the point..

@@Seitex2004 I agree with you.

it was justified

@@Seitex2004 what point

@Lions Truth No, his father is an abuser. Simple

Seen it happen with my cousin recently too. Pushing him hard pushed him away

100% wholeheartedly agree

Wrong, his dad was unhappy with himself living through his son, they aren't close Jayson is being a respectful son that's all

@Lions Truth My father suffered a stroke that made him unable to work since I was 16 and my brother was diagnosed with an inoperable tumour when I was 21. I've been supporting my family, with two people with special needs, since I was 17 and now I'm 34 yo. I understand trauma from both sides, the one who is the caretaker and the one suffering. That said, I would never judge someone's life based on my life experience, I would never resent someone more fortunate or diminish their own painful experience. Jason was clearly traumatized as a child by the feeling that his father's love wasn't unconditional. That's his own story, I'm not in any place to diminish it or take anything away from his experience. You might want to consider you don't know who you're talking to, online and off. So stay kind and generous, you don't know the pain each of us goes through.

@@lionstruth8937 Trauma is trauma, no matter how minor or extreme. No need to trivialize Tatum's experience just because he didn't become a male gigolo.

@@lionstruth8937 No lies told there.

​@lionstruth8937 yea for Miami game 7 baby let's go

Agreed- happens way too often and if the child is successful it's DESPITE that kind of treatment, not because of it.

Trauma passed down

While this may be true in this instance. This is not relegated to black parents. We have a bad habit of believing all trauma based behavior only resides in the black community. Again, not to excuse any behavior because another community may do it also, but the fact is this behavior occurs very often outside of our community as well.

@@Dharp06 you're right about that

white parents can too

Exactly. His dad needed to throw the bal at his ass when they quit after game 4

Yeah it is if most black had a dad like him we all be Successful

People are sleeping on Tatum hard. It's going to be funny when all the people praise the dude after shitting on him during the finals

The truth has set Jayson free, he and his father will never be close, but Jayson will always show respect 🙏🏽

@@jon8004 ill take short term humiliation over life long mediocrity. nothing about jaysons dad suggests a bad character. in their situation it seems there were simply high expectations of jayson and zero tolerance for mediocrity. The reality is jayson has turned out a great guy and a great player. all things considered, I can say his parents did a great job. this is obviously in context of the low level of parenting is tatums general culture.

@@andynosretep007 right !! Like jayson says himself. He had no other backup plan. It was be in the NBA, or nothing.

@@jon8004 you soft asf

@@andynosretep007 Getting humiliated by your parent and getting called a bitch isn’t something you should take. Ain’t wrong with tough love, but calling your son a bitch and humiliating him and making him cry because he played bad in a basketball game ain’t it. I get his dad being hard on him and wanting Jayson to be better, but there are other ways to uplift him than humiliating him and calling him a bitch.