Jo Confronts Mum and Teenage Daughter's Relationship | Jo Frost: Nanny on Tour 

TheInvisibleGiraffe agreed. Sierra doesn’t seem like an unpleasant kid, just somebody who’s shutting down a bit because she’s hurting.

Yup. And I say to my parents, “If getting to the root of the problem is a waste of your time, don’t have kids.”

Agreed, I love Jo! Wish I could think more like her.

When the children have bad behaviours is never their fault, it's their parents, that's why jo knew there was something up with her relationship with her mom

Well if a kid hasn’t got a good relationship with their parent , there not going to want to help out because they don’t feel that the parent has the right to expect that , which is an easily understood thing . Parents just need to care more about their older kids , and realise that while they’re not little anymore they’re still not adults . Not so long ago when kids grew up they didn’t grow up overnight , and theyd try to stay a child for as long as possible . Now it’s like , as soon as they turn 11 or so they get told to grow up and stop behaving like a child . And well as soon as your 13 hope of more childhood is almost nil , all attention goes to the exams and being an adult and getting ready to get a job in a few years . It’s horrible .

Lorena Cortes I found it sad when the last time she loved her daughter was in July was sad 😢

That was my thought to

Exactly, because you don’t listen and never talk.

I noticed that too. The practical act changed what was possible.

Can Jo have her own children? Cuz she'd be like the best mom ever! She's so loving and patient.

I loved that too. Practical support as well as emotional support.

Jo seems to be a really understanding and smart women😊✨

AND she started rocking the kid while continuing to talk the issue out. she really is a superhero.

Devyn is that sarcasm

Some people age well and she's one of them.

Ken 😂😂😂😂lmao

Yes, very!

K I’m like really confused are y’all saying she looks younger or older 😂

I had a similar situation but my mum had to over compensate and underlying there was always a disconnect between us and I’m seeing it significantly in my aunt and cousin. My aunt means well but she’s just treating her more property than a daughter because that all she was given when she was younger, instructions and restrictions and is treated unfairly in comparison to her brothers. The difference between me and my mum is my environment, we live in a council estate - you guys call them projects I think - next to the city centre in Glasgow so it forced my mum to loosen up like everyone else. My cousins live in the countryside in the middle of nowhere so unless they’re are at high school or in a field they’re trapped in the house.

How can you not say “I love you” to your child? That’s bull!

Same my mom always told me I love you in the morning and when she put me to bed. One day she told me ''well you know,I had to wait til I was 40 for my mother to tell me she loves me'' so she did the opposite with us. Tells us everyday. Now that i'm an adult, she stills sends me a text on mondays wishing me a good week and an ILY

Alexfolledemoi With my kids, not only am I going to say I love you, I’ll say “I value you, I’m glad you’re in my life, I appreciate and support everything you do, and I will always accept you no matter who you are.” I might not say that exactly; it’s a lot of words, but I want them to know I’ll love them for being themselves, not for being who I think they should be.

My grandpa’s parents were like that, they never showed love to him so when he had my mom and aunt he tried his best to show love but didn’t know how to. When I was born that was when he learn how to show love.

Veronique Q and it's for the same reason this girl said. Moms always on the phone or watching tv or talking about what she wants to talk about, not listening to what the daughter wants to talk about, and ignoring the daughter when she is talking. My mom is exactly like that and I stopped even bothering to try and talk to her when I was about the same age as this girl. She either wants to talk to me about something that I don't care about, or complain about my grandmother, or want me to do something around the house or she wants money. And I listen to her, but she ignores me when I'm talking. It's annoying and frustrating.

They do, usually. It’s just a very odd age and an age where being independent is paramount, so it feels very foreign to attempt to start the conversation. It’s difficult on both ends, you’re becoming an adult and your parents and you are trying to handle that and change with it. For me, I had a hard time dealing with it and talking to my parents about it, but now that I’m an adult it all makes a lot more sense and is much more comfortable. You start seeing your parents as whole people, not just mom and dad.

I no longer have my parents alive but I've lived with my grandparents 99.9% of my life, they basically raised me so they are kinda like my parents. The thing is, I've rarely had any sincere conversations with them especially about natural things like getting period or anything like that, there are a lot of taboo topics we don't discuss and even though I am 23 now we still don't sit down and talk about anything really because they still think that I am younger so therefor I shouldn't have an opinion on anything, I am dumb and they are always right and I am always wrong because they are older, there is such a huge generation gap between us that we will never find a common language and we will never be able to sit down and talk about anything sadly. Literally the only things we do talk about: I come to her with a problem I want to discuss and my grandma either completely ignores me, either starts yelling either starts speaking over me, either she goes on a rant about how messy my room is (it isn't, she just hates the fact that I have books on my dresser in my room and that I have pictures on my wall because I like drawing because it's calming but I am too old for drawing and being an artist is not a real job anyways) either she rambles about how I never help her out around the house and how I should do more, the thing is: I'd love to help out more but I am not allowed to cook because my grandpa is a picky eater so she just wants me to sit and watch her cook so I can "learn" (I know how to cook btw I am just not allowed to), either she asks me to go help her with something and I come around and she is like: "please wait" and then I wait for an hour or so before she makes her mind on what I should do so I get bored of standing around staring at the wall and I leave and I then don't want to help out, or I work like crazy busting my butt helping her out only to be told that "oh other kids do more, you should do more and I work around house every day so it's not a big deal" when a simple thank you would mean a ton and would actually motivate me more instead of me helping her only to be told that it's not good enough, not enough and that it's not a big deal over and over. My mom would always say thank you for helping me out, sing when we worked and would compliment me a lot even if I just vaccumed a few rooms, she would be happy that I helped and thankful and would praise me and those things actually made me want to come around and ask her if she needs help and I'd be happy to help her out no matter what it was she needed help with.

t z I agree.. all parents should be there no matter what at that age..

I have to either beg my parents to talk to them or wait till my stepmom goes to bed so I can talk to just my mom

I hope you're doing okay

sockie jenkinson yes, I’m doing great. My mom is not.

@@SuperFosterMom I'm glad to hear!

Same, I'm 19 and I got over having a relationship with my parents since I was 12/13. I just didn't feel close to them and in fact felt awkward even talking to them. I spent most of my life in my room avoiding them and now we barely talk. I dont care for a relationship with them.

MorningStar sorry to hear that. I hope you’ve found mentor ship and guidance in others. How do you think that kind of relationship can be avoided? How can parents meet their children’s young adult needs? Is closeness necessary?

Yeah, parents have all their own way of showing love. Sometimes maybe words means more than actions, and sometimes opposite :-) You've found out that your mom does this because she loves you and that's so healthy!

My mother is the same. It's not enough for some. It's not enough for me. I feel like my mother's a stranger sometimes.

Wimsem - Tekenen & Knutselen same

Before my mom died she didn't like hugging either, we never really said I love you to each other or hugged each other (she had some huge alcoholism issues but when she was sober and clean she was the best mom ever) but we did show love to each other by giving each other plush toys or random small gifts or just laying on sofa and talking about something completely random and watching tv together, it was thanks to her that I started collecting plush toys among a few other things :)

Every person has a ''love language'', this is a well researched thing. Some people express and perceive love through words, some through touch, some through gifts, there are a couple of other ones, I've forgotten. Some have a couple of those. And it's very subconscious. To me, telling someone ''I love you'' every day makes the words lose meaning. Even if I still do love that person, saying it suddenly stops meaning anything. But with touch I express my love completely. Just touching someone's hand t me can mean the world. Someone touching mine can mean that too. Meanwhile someone saying the words to me just doesn't do anything, doesn't make me feel loved. It's great when people's love languages match, then people understand each other. But if they don't match, people often think the other person't doesn't love them simply because they don't perceive their love language as love language.

BF TE did u call me?

BF TE she is an goddess not just an angel

Lydia Jordan vlogs did u call me again or am I just hearing my name?

She isn't just a show personality. She really knows what she is doing and cares. I didn't have parents so I've learned a lot from her.

Not true at all. You really shouldn't go around accusing people you don't know that they are lying. I may fall short often but I don't lie and I don't tolerate lying from others either. I have a great moral compass, thank you.

@@aprilsmith8605 it's a bit sad that you're so desperately trying to defend yourself under every comment...

Gabsy Jammine but she has a point why judge someone you don’t know? obviously she doesn’t know the whole story unless she’s been through it she has no right to judge anyone.

@@meetmewherethestarscollide because neglectful parents do that?

NO, because the music to your dancing uses words like, "bit##es" "wh##s" and worse!! NOBODY will call attention to your dancing with that kind of music.

Linda V exactly smh agreed

Then start showing her, self absorbed women😒 problems don't go away just by ignoring your own kid.

ann l Women? I hope your not generalising a Gender because of one Female. I correct you *Woman

Linda V alright there virgin mary

To be fair why did the mom have to find out how her daughter felt through her BEHAVIOR. It’s called communication. Unless her daughter attempted to tell her mom about it, she didn’t even try to communicate the problem..

Hahaha u crazy. In a gd way x

INTPerspective I wish she would have said what month is was then so we had a perspective. But I bet it’s been some time.

July is not a disease. It's a month, the girl's just saying that she doesn't remember the last time her mom told her that she loves her.

I told her often. I lost my dad suddenly and too young.

@@aprilsmith8605 same but my mom died when I was very young as well.

Krystine the Dragoness same. I went thru the same thing ever since my brother was born to this day now that we're both adults. My mother nor my father made any attempt to give me their attention or time when they could have managed to do that. Ive seen the eldest child gets the toughest deal of all the children. Just sucks man

Krystine the Dragoness it was the other way around for me I have many sever and life threatening constant pain enduring illnesses and I felt so bad because At the my three year old sister basically didn’t have a mom or a dad and I will always and always be so grateful that she doesn’t resent me for it and I took so much life away from so many of my family members . I took so much attention away from her and my brothers

Couldn’t agree more. I feel this

@@gabbyaviles2302 No love, you didn't take anything. You had your needs that had to be met, just as your siblings had theirs. It wasn't your responsibility to make sure theirs were met, or theirs to make sure yours were. Parents of kids with disabilities do have many plates to juggle and it's no wonder sometimes some of them fall, but that's why we should have a society that provides support for parents like yours, who need some extra hands to keep everything in the air. But you didn't take anything from anyone. You can't take 'life' away as if you, yourself, are not life :-) Kudos to your sister for realizing that.

Gotcha. I’ll remember that.

You Offended? You’d be surprised how addicted to phones parents/adults are.

I’m sorry but that’s not completely true, while I’m a teen and I’m on my phone quite a lot... I can put my phone away when my phone rings or when there’s a notification. My parents can’t put their phone away. So when we’re having a conversation, their attention span is much shorter;)

Iemand I think it’s because they didn’t grow up with it so they don’t know how to balance it.

Even before smartphones. My mom talked on the house phone for HOURS daily

I agree, my dad and I never show the 'obvious' signs of affection you just know it's there

People also don’t think about how everyone needs a certain type of love and shows love in their own way not just in dating relationships but in parent child relationships and friendships as well.

Thank you! Her and I love each other very much!

The 5 love languages. Helps a LOT to understand which one you speak and which one your loved ones speak.

D.J Reid she really does!

D.J Reid IKR

Wow she does .. lol

Haha true!

I thought so too! :D

I never stopped

Saying I love you is just words, you back it up with actions and it’s the actions that count

Yep, same here. She's only in her 50's though. She done a lot of damage with the way she was. Now I just couldn't care less if we spoke ever again. I deal with her for my kids

Drew Omg spot on! Or maybe Kristen Wiig and Hailee Steinfeld!

I've heard Kristen Wiig a lot over the years

charlotte Alvis I know how u feel.

im so sorry for that

charlotte Alvis see that’s why lol you’re 24 and still living with them lol

Livie Gee look I know you’re probably joking, but you really didn’t need to say that. It’s kinda mean tbh

So move out, you’re not a kid anymore

hello why you here? Some of her expressions are similar and sometimes her voice

Not really

I was just thinking that!!!

Yes !!!

That is not the case here at all. I know my mistakes as a parent and have owned them, apologized and doing better. This was an edited reality tv show made to look a certain way. They show my phone in my hand while I was actually signing papers to do the show and communicating with the producers of the show etc, I didn't think they would air that. When the cameras were in my house I did not use my phone for personal reasons except to plan my sons 2nd birthday party. I didn't use it excessively and if you must know I hid in my garage where there weren't any cameras when I did use my phone. Did you ever see my daughter with her phone in her hand? Don't you find that odd that you never see a teenager on her phone, she definitely was, it just wasn't aired or shown. My daughter was referring to a situation where I was using my phone for business reasons, I worked from home and in mid email she ran downstairs and started talking to me, I nicely asked if she would just give me a few mins to carry out my thoughts so I could get the work email done,she got mad and stormed off. She then mentioned that to Jo. I'm a very good mom. I had a lot on my plate at the time. We were living in a new state with no family or friends, husband away from home working long hours, I was handling my dead dad and nanny's estate, breastfeeding, raising an almost 2 year old, 6 year old and almost 17 year old amongst other things. I was doing the best I could. No need for you to be so judgmental and make a comment about me needing to grow up and act like a mom when you don't know me or the whole story. My daughter at the time was rebellious like they often are at that age and she didn't want to follow rules. Bottom line.

@@aprilsmith8605 " I know my mistakes as a parent and have owned them, apologized and doing better" "I nicely asked if she would just give me a few mins to carry out my thoughts so I could get the work email done,she got mad and stormed off." "My daughter at the time was rebellious like they often are at that age and she didn't want to follow rules. Bottom line." "I was handling my dead dad and nanny's estate, breastfeeding, raising an almost 2 year old, 6 year old and almost 17 year old amongst other things." just seems like a lot of excuses if i'm being honest. why do the show and add more stress onto yourself? this just isn't adding up...also, why are you putting your daughter on blast in all of these comments just to make yourself look better? it isn't a good look.

Bleached White well the daughter would be over 18 when she was commenting, so I’m assuming April didn’t change one bit and her daughter left to go somewhere where she was wanted for more than babysitting. She’s just proving by making these excuses that she is not a good parent, if she was she wouldn’t have needed super nanny in the first place.

@@jadec3317 i agree. honestly it's so pathetic.

@@aprilsmith8605I admire you for your courage. This parent thing is not easy. Sending you love❤❤

Jungle Book same here

I told her often that I loved her and she knows shes loved.

@@aprilsmith8605 I highly doubt that you know what your daughter feels like, because I can hear it in her voice, and I can see it in her eyes, she does not feel that way, she even said it straight on camera, so what's going on here

April Smith you literally admitted it had been months? That’s not often

@@aprilsmith8605 What I saw was a beautiful mother and daughter who care about each other, working through the difficulties of life. Personally I wouldn't worry too much about everyone's comments...mine included. People are very quick to judge...when the reality is that if any one of us had a camera crew in our house for long enough, we would all have things that we aren't proud about. People who reach out for help should be commended. It is incredible to me that people sit behind a screen and judge. In fact it is likely those pointing fingers are more of a problem. With the exception of just a few, most of us love our children more than life and we are working every day on giving them the best possible life. Be kind, people.

Miz erie darling everyone does it. The key is moderation. I have a 2 and a 5 year old an they get their Ipads for half an hour a day. What they watch is supervised and it gives me a bit of time off.i used to think like you but the reality is, is that you will find it difficult.

For the record I wasn't ignoring her. I was in the middle of a work email mid thought when she came downstairs and started talking to me. I asked her nicely to hold so I could finish my thought and email and she stormed off and then told Jo. At almost 17 years old she should be able to respect tha, understand it and be patient. At the time she was very demanding and would want things instantly. I also don't believe in giving children those things at a young age but at her age its completely normal.

So sorry to hear that. It's not because you're unlovable. A healthy parent would not behave that way. Just know you are absolutely lovable and worthy of love. You don't need his validation for that to be true. Bless.

I'm an athiest lesbian but thank you x

Thank you very much for one of the only non-judgmental caring comments. I love her dearly and always have. She now lives on her own, shes 20. She visits often and we text and/or talk almost daily.

Blanca Rosa01 that's the respectful way, but her mother is also at fault because she's too busy on her phone not to even listen to her daughter when she's talking to her. It hurts and that is the only thing that her daughter can do as a reaction

Well her daughters hardly happy is she? Material stuff means nothing

You will be blessed for being there for your family and being a good person 👏👏👏🥂

So your parents could be using you as slaves just because they raise her differently doesn’t mean that you raised any better.

Blanca Rosa01 I don't think that's the problem here.

she full on said "when you were a virgin"

I did tell my daughter I loved her, not daily due to her schedule. At the time she worked full time and did online schooling. So she was either in her bedroom or at work. My daughter was going through a rebellious time where she didn't want to follow the house rules and wanted to live her own way. She now lives on her own and is doing well for herself, she visits often and we talk several times a week.

Her and I have a close relationship

You don't understand me because its' an edited tv show. My daughter knew/knows shes loved. I told her a lot and was a very hands on mom with her.

@@aprilsmith8605 put the phone down, April.

That is a great idea!!

Lmohad so are you..funny how that works

Jo is very wise and she was very helpful. My daughter had so good points and our conversation was very good. Thanks for mentioning my busyness with the other kids not to mention mourning the loss of my dad and nanny plus other things, I was doing the best I could at the time. They don't show everything though and my daughter back then was very disrespectful and rebellious and didn't want to live by simple house rules. She was very demanding. My daughter was talking about a time I was working from home and she ran down stairs to say something to me and I was in the midst of a work email on my phone so I asked her to give me a minute or two so I could follow through with my thoughts. Its hard enough carrying on with your thoughts with the young children constantly interrupting but I expect my oldest to be respectful and wait a minute but instead she immediately stormed off and went in her room. She now lives on her own and comes over often to visit and things are good.

@@aprilsmith8605 I definitely get it. Its hard being a mom....especially to a teenager when there are younger kids and a job and bills and 1000 other things that also demand a mother's time. A mother's day is never done, so they say. I'm not a mom myself, I am a caregiver for my grandparents (and sometimes that feels like taking care of a child) and my sister is a mom to my beautiful 2 year old nephew and she's about to have her second child. I am often up at her house helping her with my nephew and I can definitely see the stress and exhaustion sometimes when my nephew is throwing a tantrum. She tells me every single time I come how very much she appreciates me helping her. I can only imagine it gets harder with more than one. More voices, more needs, more stress, but definitely more love too. Teenagers expect you to be Superwoman and get everything down NOW. They don't understand that sometimes as a mom, you're busy too....you need a minute....that you simply can't do everything at once, but you do love her and you do listen and you are doing your best to be a good mom. I'm glad things are better between you and your daughter. (I'm assuming you are the mom from this video right?) I oft times wonder as I watch Supernanny and this show, how much of these stories are actually real and how much is dramatized for the show....and if Jo's teaching really does work after she leaves. For what its worth though, you do look like a good mom.

@@CeltycSparrow Thanks for your kindness and understanding. That is all so very true what you just said. Sounds like you're doing a great job helping super sweet of you. Yes, I'm the mom from the show.