Goals do not appear from nowhere. The trap behind the idea of 'life goals' is that we wait for something to happen, some mission or quest to appear in front of us, but while we wait, we forgive ourselves for being completely useless. We avoid studying, trying to be more talkative with strangers, taking on projects that we aren't that passionate about, and for all that we have that hidden excuse up in our heads "When time comes, I will show how powerful and motivated I am by achieving what I truly call my life goals". And over time, something just doesn't feel right, nothing appears, we start to give up, feel hopeless, directionless. But when you come to think of it, the many different tasks that you avoided might have been a path to series of engaging, truly meaningful goals that you strive for. The trap is basically, we want our goals to appear infront of us, but they don't, because we don't engage in solving our little goals, that might have been the true path to finding our passion.
This actually makes much more sense that anything I have ever heard. I have been doing the same things for a while now, and everybody I talk to keeps telling me that I look like I'm dead inside , I look ambitionless or that I'm not like the person I was before
After reading this I will try to change the way I behave and try to create meaningful friendships in order to push me forward. I have not been able to be genuinely happy for a while now. I hope that keeping the promises I make to myself and creating new relationships will give me a positive view on my life and my situation. Thank you so very much.
You know that thing that happens when you tell your parents a joke or ask them a simple question and it turns into a full-blown, 30 minute, moral lecture? I have to imagine that that happens in the Peterson household far too often lol. Jordan's son: "Dad I saw a snake today!" Jordan: "You know, snakes are the symbolic representation of the archetype of the unknown. You see recordings of this in biblical literature dating back to......"
Tim Westchester that's exactly what its like for people when they tell me or my dad anything. I got inherited it from that doofus so im sure Dr. Peterson's kids are just as bad lmao
Everyone over 50 has parents who are really old, or dead. I am over 50 and both of my parents are deceased. Parents are supposed to teach their children, and that involves talking to them. Your comment upset me.
It's not like I don't do what I need to My apartment is clean and organized I have 3.8 GPA and will soon be graduating in less than a year I just feel like I have no direction, purpose, or motivation It's a problem that I've been facing for the last 3-4 years of my life, and I started to seek professional help recently Don't even know why I'm writing this truthfully I guess it helps me
littlebighead15 Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me. Whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for Me will find it. What does a man profit if he gains the whole world but loses his soul?
After 4 years of a university, I went to a trade school. Became something specific that could support me. I'm a total wreck right now but that trade school was one of the best things I've ever done.
Watch \listen\speak to GARYVEE I honestly think this video was NOT in the least helpful it was sugar coated & not really realistic\worth any FULL attention
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littlebighead15 I am 36 and feel the same...I've achieved some things and failed at some things but never truly found my perpouse or goal in life...listening to Peterson is like getting the guidance I never had from my self absorbed father, who only serves to remind me how pointless my life seems...I am in the process of gaining real meaning again in my life and I will continue to learn from this mans teaching in order to steadily improve those things in me and my life that I can, and hopefully my perpouse will make itself clear in time
I am the same way everytime people ask me what do you want to do with your life my answer I don't know they asked me what's your dream job my answer is I don't know. Why is it that everyone has dreams and goals they want to achieve and yet I have no idea what I want to do. Is it that I don't care or maybe that life right now is good enough I have never really thought of the future nor I have thought of a need to fulfill everything I want I can get. I think that's the reason for our general attitude towards life why work towards something greater when you are perfectly satisfied
Step 1: Clean your room & fix immediate problems in your life until you feel a sense of order and stability Step 2: Look around you, inside your sphere of influence, and change things that need improving Step 3: By creating that rythm and stability you will widen your perception and will be able to see things that will lead you to your goal, your vision. Then follow it.
I've been sober for about 5 months now but I've been having intense cravings these last few days and just going through a rough time. I was having cravings just like 15 minutes ago and then I watched this and I realized that I needed to vacuum a small portion of my room that had cat litter on it. I did so and for now the cravings have subsided and I feel some peace.
Sober myself for 2 months now. I do find it crazy and perhaps you relate as well to a feeling of seeing how out of control your life had become and how *now* you are actually equipped to order your life - even the small bits. Correction, *especially* the small bits. I really do think a small part of our addictive impulses can be removed by a dramatic character transformation where we start ordering our lives. Almost like the subconscious begins to take note of "wow this guy is engaging with the world now."
Justin S: Not only do I feel like I can control my world a bit more now I feel like I have to. I've become much more responsible since I've been sober partly because I feel like I have no other choice but to be more responsible. Responsibility helps bring me meaning, which is something so strange to my mind that it's almost hard to comprehend. But I realized over these last four months that freedom and responsibility are intimately connected, which is something Peterson does a great job of hammering into our heads.
Woah that's interesting. So it's like that part of your brain was like "there's too much chaos, we can't handle this shit let's just drink and forget about it for a bit". But actually cleaning that up created more order out of that choas and slightly more personal power over your circumstances, so there was no need for that mechanism anymore.
look into "microhabits" as this is what you start training yourself in when you do things like this. A big habit is really just lots of little habits strung together, doing the little habits when they are little is easy, and you keep compounding on them till suddenly, you're doing "it" (whatever your seemingly large thing was) Look at "The Willpower Instinct" by Kelly McGonigal - brilliant book, I can't recommend it enough.
Don't you stop and give in now William, because you've come to the right place. Peterson lectures will change your life for the better. Pursue your purpose and listen to your good conscience. Everything will straighten out if you go against chaos in your life. And remember that 'he who has a why, can bare any how!'
Past few months I've been overly stressing about my purpose in life, but I think we get too caught up in people who say they've _always_ been passionate about a certain thing, and _always_ knew they were meant to pursue it, and that puts us off guard since many of us, myself included, don't feel that way towards anything. In this scenario, I think it's up to us to make our own purpose. Which is hard, because how do you know it's the right thing to do? I've always been way too concerned with getting things right the first time, but sometimes you just gotta let life happen. What looks like craziness to me now is just my story unfolding.
If you are looking for your purpose in life. Instead of asking what am I called to do in this life? Rather ask who am I called to serve? The answer is very simple Look for a category of people who are not your family but you have natural love for. Then observe them and see what they are problems are, you will notice how you are drawn to take action
Society: You should follow your own dreams and passions. Don’t let others decide your goals Me: I don’t have any Edit: I made this comment a year ago. A year later, I finally found my passion.. I would always put away my dreams aside because I was afraid that I would fail someday. Now, not anymore. I hope you’ll find your dreams/passions too
Part of me wishes my parents or teachers etc would have decided my goals for me when I was younger, cuz now I'm struggling to find a passion for anything
He's spot on with this one. If you can't find a mountain to climb, look around you. Your messy room is full of mini mountains. Look at yourself, make it your goal to fix yourself up. Strive to take a sword to the little demons and in the process, you'll become better at wielding the sword, so when the time comes you'll be ready to take up the bigger challenges (which you'll probably find amongst all the smaller ones anyway). If you haven't found a purpose or passion already, it's because you're either distracted by sin or you're too weak to wield that sword. So get out there and start swinging.
Here's some specific ways swinging the sword will help you find a purpose: By removing mindless distraction you'll become bored, and you'll itch for something to grasp you. By focusing on self-improvement, you'll find out more about yourself, and therefore what kind of future (kind of career, kind of spouse etc.) will be worth aiming for. By practising creating order in your room, and limiting the "I don't care" circuit in your brain, you'll become better at almost everything else that requires care, like work, relationships, health, and chasing the things that grasp you.
Been stuck on the “clean your room” phase for three years now. I have a super clean house, but still utterly directionless in life and no idea where I wanna be even in two years
I cant think of anyone more qualified to speak on such matters! His mastery of history, theology and language make him a very impactful critic of both politics and society... I would argue.
"He has every right to be as high self esteemed as Ben Shapiro" I think that's kind of the point though. Shapiro can't possess this level of wisdom, because he's not humble enough. To be fair, he's basically a kid, so who knows what the future holds. He's smart and fairly quick-witted, but I think you need humility for true wisdom to manifest. But I don't know anything, so I'm probably wrong. ;)
The only comparison between JP and Ben Shapiro that's warranted is that they both speak the truth in public, in a time when many do not. They are both valuable, and yet thankfully both very different.
Oscar Alexander : I find him quite basic. Often , he thinks he's wise & profound, & doesn't stop to consider that he may be wrong, or in the WRONG path. Not really truly wise.
Not so humble when talking about young people who mistake the classical definition of socialism with the newly developing definition of 21st century socialism. He's far too quick to lump anyone who wants fairness in the world with those in the lunatic left that attacked him at Toronto University. If you see the unfairness in the essential takeover of capitalism by the corrupt corporate monopolistic elites, Jordan will label you stupid and immature and say its impossible to quantify who's more good, which is almost deliberately ignoring how these corrupt elites have altered everything to benefit themselves. Peterson even admits he's not even informed on the 2008 crash and what exactly happened, but then he'll criticize any and all protest movements, as though any protest movements is nothing more than "ridiculous uninformed children." Peterson clearly has a lot of important lessons people should listen to, but if you actually listen to Peterson a lot, you start to see where he's hyper critical of people who don't entirely deserve it, and even Peterson himself has a lot to learn about corporate malfeasance and corruption.
Two days back I cleaned up my motorbike. I washed it, dried it and polished it. It was long overdue. There has to be some subconscious association between physically cleaning something and cleaning your mind. Because after doing that I felt peaceful all day. Maybe even cleansed. The interesting thing is I had not known about the existence of Dr. Peterson let alone hear his lectures until yesterday.
So it seems like he is saying create a to do list of anything and everything that needs to be done and start knocking things off of that list. Don't procrastinate. Take action immediately. Clean your room.
Yeah, but real life is a little more complicated than reorganizing the items in your room. How about lack of purpose or depression, career choices, life goals etc. No disrespect to Petterson, but he assumes a pretty low standard and level of functioning. The practical stuff is easy once you know what to do, what if you don't know what to do or your motivational machinery is broken and you numb and careless.
How you take care of your environment is a direct result of how you feel about yourself and life. Disarray is a very strong indication that someone is in need of help. It is liberating to construct an environment that is free of clutter and chaos. If you notice, the most productive and goal oriented people are ones that have structure and organization around them. We have all seen movies where a writer begins his journey with fresh pens, pencils, and paper around him/her. This is the beginning of reaching the ultimate goal of producing a book. I hope I have made some sense here!
I'm not arguing whether it's a good idea to clean your room or not. I just think it's a pretty trivial issue when it comes to your life and your purpose and so on.
Listening to him is like a father giving you actual life lesson At this point my eyes started tearing because i realised my father would never try to talk to me like that. Even though some peoples have a situation worse than mine sometimes i wish he never appeared in my life
My girlfriend took this advise too literally lol so now she's always keeping the house tidy and clean but it didn't really improved her life or anything in terms of making better decisions or working towards an improved tomorrow. What happened was she procrastinated on the other things she should be doing by cleaning the house instead (but at least we got a clean house haha)
Once Bucko started cleaning his room, he then began cleaning others' rooms free of charge, he always got praise and he would be happy to receive this praise, he is motivated. Although he always is slightly discouraged when the homeowner sees him before the cleanup and says "What the fuck? Who the fuck are you?!" Eventually Bucko would still clean the house even being threatened with a shotgun. He was doing good for humanity. Cleaning other's houses became his vocation, his dreams and goals realized when he was in the middle of his 50th house, an apartment actually. Bucko found a corpse, still hanging from the ceiling, the chair under still up. The apartment was teeming with literal heaps of trash, all the essentials would be buried under. Bucko thought, "What a sad way to die. This place already smells and yet why did his neighbors ignore the apartment? People are so busy with their lives that they forget that they're throwing out the small things they could've made better." At his 73rd house, it was a hospitable lady. The lady was alone, but she was warm and lovely. Bucko would notice her hand visibly shaking while carrying the cup of tea she prepared for Bucko. He reminisced of his caring mother. They talked and talked about how her life stories, how she met her husband, how they had 4 kids, how she lost two of them in a war, while two of her children live on with their lives but didn't give a damn at all about her, about how her husband died and only one of their children they had showed up at the funeral. After cleaning, Bucko would say his goodbyes, and the lady would thank him. Bucko now had grown to like the eccentric path he's taken, the relationships and memories he has made.
there should be a room cleaner simulator playable with VR glasses. I played gothic 2 where in a cathedral monks were sweeping rooms which you can do too. nothing as relaxing as watching hot guys with long sticks sweeping floors.
I am kind of in a rut. Most days I was cleaning up things around me to distract myself. Now I am doing home workouts after such a long gap of not doing any exercise. After watching this, I feel hopeful that I'll find meaning in my life again. Something that gets me out of bed each day or purpose. So this video has been really healing to watch. Thank you!
I remember watching this video 5 years ago and thinking that this makes so much sense. It was my go to video when feeling purposeless. But unfortunately, this doesn't work. It just turns you into an automaton that looks like he has everything figured out (clean and tidy house, groomed, nice clothes, decent job, etc), but you are just daily ticking off boxes on your to-do list that consists of tasks that you "should" be doing. But no sense of purpose, meaning, no actual goals arise. It reminds me of a post I've seen on some ADHD-dedicated page on instagram: "Living with ADHD is like constantly completing side quests without ever touching main story". The only difference here is that people watching this video have no idea what the main story is.
I heard it once that " How you do anything is how you do everything" If you feel reluctant to cleaning up your room how do you expect to clean up your life? I have read about this Indian sage by the name of Pawhari Baba. He used to give all his love , his dedication , his attention ,his heart and sole to cleaning his one piece of utensil that he owned. His ideal was to give the same amount of attention and dedication to cleaning his utensil that he gives to preaching his philosophy to his disciples.
Anyone else feel like they follow all the advice they hear and still don't know? I see people commenting "find the things that drain your soul and your purpose will emerge". Or start by doing small things in your life such as making your bed in the morning to become more motivated, and it just doesn't happen. Anyone else feel like no matter how much soul searching they do, there's just nothing there? I've tried going out of my comfort zone, tried new things, and nothing is there. Maybe some of us are just meant to have this kind of fate. Maybe there is no secret
I'm 22 and I don't know what to do with my life. I feel that I'm reasonable enough to make good decisions even though my mind is clouded right now, but at the same time, I'm afraid of taking risks and most of all I'm scared of falling in the common trap of living a boring/common and stressful life if it makes sense and if it matters... I graduated college almost one year ago and it seems that my life has been going in no direction ever since. I had better expectations regarding my future but I forgot that my fate is mostly in my hands and I am the one who can change my life... easier said than done even though I have some kind of moral and financial support from my family. One cause might be my depression, even tho I'm not sure I have one because I sometimes feel really good when I distract myself with other things. I am not honest with myself and I hide my bad habits inside my mind, trying to bury them deep. One other cause might be my vision about that world... I see no purpose in most of things and I feel like there's no real meaning in this Universe and I feel that people give it a meaning just so they can keep going... I'm afraid that the nature of this Universe is really dark and our existence means nothing to it. I'm a mess... I beg myself to see things clearly and put my life in order. This comment is more like a page in my diary and I'm more than pleased to share it with whoever might read it... I feel a bit releaved.
Same goes here. And my family wants to help. But the bad things is, I'm far way to be saved. I don't want to be listen anymore, since when the depression hit me in the first time, they never take me seriously. I've been in up and downs, being employed and unemployed. I'm 26 and still lost, while my peers are getting married, having a nice house, nice car and decent job. The facts that our life is consist of rat race cycle is bothering me. Get the job, pay the taxes, go vote, getting married, die in old age seems boring to me.
Hey, you are not alone. Most of us here are raised with stories of heroes fighting Demon Lords and saving the world. Then we look at ourselves and despair. The dissonance between fantasy and reality make a lot of people lost and afraid.
This is gonna be a mood killer. So, i'm 27 and i still don't know my passion, i don't have goals, or motivation. I don't have specific things that i'm good at. And even though i know it's a stupid thought sometimes i can't help but think maybe i would've become somebody if my parents decided what i should be, or even better if i was born in a rich family and given high expectation to be a successor someday, i would probably had alot of pressure but at least i would have purpose. Unlike now depressed with no goals.
I'm older than you and honestly all I want to do is relax and play video games. If work isn't busy then I play Xbox. I know most people can't understand this but I love it. I've sat and thought for hours about what I want out of life, and it always comes back to chilling with my games. Better than TV because I'm actually controlling what's happening on the screen!
This may be it for me. I'm 34. No goals no aspirations no dreams. They all died at 21 with my fiancee. I gave up. I let my life become a mess, unorganized, uncontrolled, madness. I'm struggling now to find out who I should be for myself and my family of 5. I live in chaos. My room is a mess, my house is a mess, my kids are learning from my mess.... and I'm struggling to become the man I know I can be. I have to tame my room, which is a jungle. Then I have to tame my living room and kitchen.. then the yard.... then I can show not only the kids but myself that I can be the master of my destiny. Then... I truly believe I can find the path but its not mine to find yet. I'm not disciplined enough. I'll revisit this comment in a year. Setting a google event.
I needed this so badly…I’m autistic and I don’t drive and my family is going through harsh times and I’ve been there for them both emotionally and physically so much that I lost sight of my goals and felt aimless for years. It gets hard making time for myself but this is a good way to look at problems. Just keep chipping at them and keep patting yourself on the back to push through. Sometimes we need to be our own hero.
2:48 "You have to look around you. Within your sphere of influence, the direct sphere of influence and fix the things that announce themselves as in need of repair"
The feeble mind looks to myths and subjectivity to invigorate a duty bound life. The enlightened and all knowing mind eats a bullet. Have fun straddling.
@@amaljith007aj there's no obvious purpouse to anything. Either you tell yourself and try to manifest a cool story (out of vanity). Or you commit suicide. Or you bite the bullet and go wherever life takes you until you die. Thats my take. I'd argue we don't even really have any control other choosing either option, if your life has lead you to 1,2, or 3, there's no prestige or shame to it the same way there's no prestige or shame for a plant to grow at a certain spot. It just is, if that doesn't feel like enough "reason" you'll have to bite the bullet anyway. Or suicide. Or live your dream life. But weather you choose one or the other depends on your life circumstances until then. That's how i see it anyway. And on and on and on.
That was exactly the mindset I had when I moved out of my parent's house for college. I was afraid I was going to fail to live on my own so I did my best at taking care of everything, even if I didn't particularly want to or even if I was tired. The fear was greater than the laziness. But then the first semester started and it kept going and eventually lockdown happened and the laziness kinda took over because I was not that afraid anymore of living alone. I'm trying to fix things up again and I think it might work if I just keep watching these videos to set my mindset right again. I need a goal to aim at so that I can build a purpose, a reason to actually get out of bed, a mission. And doing as little as cleaning up my room is enough to put some confidence and energy in me to get some momentum for the rest of the work ahead.
This is from the 2nd video from his Biblical Series. The full lecture is even higher in information density than the first one and I enjoyed it a lot (link is in the description). For more information and live tickets look here: jordanbpeterson.com/bible-series/ If you don't know what he meant by Future Authoring Program: bit.ly/selfAuth (Bite-sized Philosophy affiliate link)
JP's patreon is nearly at 40k a month. It would be extremely petty to shut this channel down over a few cents of add revenue. One could also argue that these short clips help his exposure and maybe he should be paying this channel!
Lancel Logan if you ask a question like that you cant really have listened to peterson properly,hes not in it for the money he wants to ease peoples suffering he wants his words to reach as many people as possible
Lancel Logan Yes, I asked him for permission if this is OK and he tweeted out my channel a few months ago which helped me to get started. He also Tweets out some of the clips sometimes, which is great! That said, I am not in contact with him, which means every mistake and wrong description is on me. As for revenue, people are hugely overestimating what this channel makes (not advertiser friendly, demonetization and way too short clips), so it ends up being a fun low wage side job, which is perfectly fine with me. I try to help him out with getting people's interest for the full lectures, advertising for his ticket sale and the research fund, Patreon etc. I think it is working out very well for everyone, there are some big clips out there which really boost the view count of his original lectures and I get a much wider audience. I recently became a Self Authoring Program affiliate and who knows what kind of opportunities will pop up to help him out and contribute. I really try hard to do this the right way.
I think Jordans response still prompts the reaction of "holy shit cleaning my room? That's the meaning of life? Chaos order bla bla bla? That's so limiting and boring!!!" In my experience, I was so oblivious to the obsessive amounts of self critical overthinking, complicating every idea into a catastrophic and overwhelming sensation that I couldn't interact with people or be a valuable member of society. I had such a foggy view of what I wanted out of life, since I kept telling myself how much easier it would be to just submit to my personality temperament and resist making any meaningful changes. It wasn't until I literally started cleaning my room on a regular basis that the mental fog started disappearing. I noticed my mood, which isn't by itself a good measure of how meaningful your life is, getting better which let me see opportunities instead of obstacles. It all sounds so vague and probably myopic, but the truth is that as humans, we cannot and will not ever understand the scope of this complex world. We are limited creatures who must create order in the context of our tiny chaotic lives in order to not only biologically clear the brain fog, but to find meaning despite a strong argument for the legitamacy of nihilism.
I have given up some common addictions, but then realized so many other things too are escapist, the easier way out of the instant, turns out is the harder way to live
you speak words for days on my own behalf, thank you for taking the time to jot down your thoughts as previously I was unable to conform to harsh true realities. Simple actions such as "cleaning your room" provides more insight than solitude brooding. It sounds outlandish and far fetched but everyone who struggles with self doubt and guilty thinking should simply, clean your room.
I know people make memes out of his 'clean your room' thing but its honestly such a good advice! I've noticed your environment really affects your mood. If my room is messy and dirty I feel depressed and feel like doing nothing.. but once I clean it up and open the windows to get some fresh air, I suddenly feel so much better!
Same here. And you know, another thing struck me that he didn't expand on, the limitation things. So OT is limitations, NT is the goal. But maybe you are in need of limitations too so you can grow. That's what he says about children all the time. Like I swim in bad habbits, be it internet, substance abuse, and things I know I shouldn't do and that take up so much time. Just trying to limit myself doesn't work though because I just keep going bad, or doing other bad stuff since I have no goal or nothing to replace it with. I'm not sure whether I should start by fixing things and not care so much about the limitations, or whether it would be smart to try and apply both at the same time, limit myself and do some room-cleaning.
Industrellectual Maybe you should try avoiding the places you do those things as much as possible. And, at the same time, start facing your dragons in other places instead. When I was younger I used to have to have problem sleeping at night. That was because I would stay in my bed reading or playing videogames. It seems to me, personally, that your brain connect certain places with certain activities. Everytime I laid in my bed I would get the urge to play videogames or read. Once I started using my bed to sleep, and only to sleep, I stopped having this problem. For example, a friend of mine used to have difficult concentrating on studying so he found a library and decided to go there whenever he needed to do it. He said now it feels natural to study there. I , personally, think that It's because he only studies there so his brain connects that place with that activity. So you either avoid the places you created bad habits or ,if you can't stop going to those places, you try making it as hard as possible to do the bad habit while creating a new one(In this case creating the habit of facing your dragon to find a goal. For a short period of time make it your goal to find a goal. I mean you already want to find a goal otherwise you wouldn't have seen this video so you already halfway there) .It's a lot more complicated with substance abuse depending on the substance. I'm no psychologist though so take this with a grain of salt.
This video is amazing. Truth is you can’t start with the end in mind, maybe just vaguely, you have to start in the middle. And you don’t know what needs to be done until you start doing it.
It's funny that I literally searched for "I have no goals", found this video and realized that it's so true. 1. A friend of mine once was together with someone and they got more and more stress. With the increasing stress and discussions they had with each other, their appartment tended to be more and more messy. One day they reached a point where they didn't even bring out the trash. It basically displayed their current relationship status which was over shortly after. 2. When I feel bad and look around, I basically can see that based on how my room looks. Sometimes it looks very bad and then I can also feel that I am equally messy inside. It's quiet interesting - I won't tell anyone tho because then they come with "broo you feeling bad today??" 😂😂
Just live your life one day at a time, in an honest, true and kind way. You will be doing better than 99% of people. Eventually you will find your vocation and then you can pursue it.
He basically says that you need to put some order in your life(clean your room), fix bad things and you will get to a point where you stop fixing what's bad and start to actually make a vision of what you want to do, you start to make progress on making good things instead of fixings bad things
Your comment made me fully understand what he means by cleaning your room. Clean your room so it's not messy. Now it's clean, but it's kinda ugly; rearrange stuff until it looks nice.
Mom taught me to fear the other side of this cleaning thing more than chaos. Our house, in time, became immaculate. You couldn't really sit on the sofa. If you read a magazine - you'd better do something with it even if you're gunna be right back. Came to feel an unease even living in Moms house. To a large degree, she didn't keep it clean as much as it ran her life and obstructed the lives of others.
All the religious connections aside, it's good advice. At 35y of age I've just started doing this and I have less anxiety over how much of a loser I am. I just do small stuff, but a little bit more every day and even if I'm still a loser I know I'm doing something to improve.
Love watching Jordans talks. The man has so much Charisma and seems really genuine. I always come away with an "I can do it" attitude after watching him talk. Everyone can learn so much from this guy!
This is a really enlightened answer to the question. The lack of having a goal is more likely a symptom of other issues, there's no way to answer the question for someone directly.
One big aspect of getting to know yourself and finding out what to do in life is in my opinion to socialize. With all the technology this point is really getting lost in our generation I think. As an example: I’m a student, 10th semester into my bachelor, so not particularly the most achieving kind mainly because I’m having a hard time studying classes I don’t like. I’m getting over that right now with the philosophy to take responsibility for yourself, but that another point. Anyway I got fired from the perfect student job, home office with a good pay, because the firm has some financial troubles. Last week after studying 12 hours and working out for 1 and a half, I just went to sit in the park and relax by myself for an hour before bed. I went on to text some people I haven’t seen in a bit and one of them was sitting in a bar, 5 minutes from my home. So I went there, talked a bit and one guy I worked with 2 years ago walks out of the bar. We chat a bit and it turns out he’s working there, in this cute bar with beautiful waitresses just next to my flat. I tell him what’s going on, he offers me to talk to his boss. End of the story: I’ll be working in that bar, starting next week, one week after getting fired and still earning my salary for this month from last job. Moral of the story: my room is clean, I found in good job in less than a week, maybe I got lucky, but people of action are favoured by the goddess of luck. So don’t google what to do, get out there and actually socialize, you will meet people who help you figure out what’s good without even knowing that they did so. And enjoy the journey!
It is remarkable how at the beginning of the video he starts to answer the guy's question by going on what seems like a tangent, about biblical moral prohibitions and how to raise children, and yet this just naturally flows into his explanation afterward for _why_ to 'clean your room'. I say this regardless of the content itself; it is deliberately conceptually arranged so as to build to that answer, but in some ways the answer by itself would not stand on its own. In this case it would, but the rest is his justification, and cutting that out would easily lead to the question of "why is this the right way to think about it", which means he should have just said it anyway. This behavior was originally infuriating to me - in his first talk with Sam Harris it took him such a long time to get to the point, I lost him, and I feared he simply Could Not Spit It Out. I do still think he could be more compact of delivery, but when you get into the right mode of listening to him, the signal-to-noise is already so high it's like everything he says is novel information. And here's the other thing: Peterson is (deliberately or not) training a long attention span. Bite-Sized Philosophy, and all the other curator channels who have sprung up to cut out the gems of his content, are providing a valuable service in extracting those bits and are doing a fine job. But even within these snippets we get a well-structured point like this one, where to understand the answer you have to hold in your mind all these key abstractions that go together and add up to the last one. And Peterson _knew_ this sequence was his line of attack immediately after the guy was done asking his question! That means he was listening and composing his answer at the same time, _and_ it was tailored to the right context. I just shudder to think how compactly he might communicate to someone he doesn't think he has to teach first.
Thanks. I knew how to do that, and asterisks for bold and dashes for strikethrough; sometimes they don't seem loud enough for me. To me, slashes are gesturing with both hands. Though I understand slashes are in a sense "taken" :D I switched em. Topical discussion still encouraged.
he is vague at times. It's almost as if he thinks he got it all figured out. Don't get me wrong, but he has this framework through which he sees reality that comes from his psychological background and sees human behavior patterns unfold over large numbers and spill into politics, social issues and what not. I have a huge respect for that. Yet at times, he seems so vague and unable to deliver a clear answer to certain issues/ questions. One example that comes to mind is when he is asked about religion and he goes off a tanget of "what do you mean by this and that". I get it that divinity and god are very poorly defined concepts and that imho, most people don't have sophisticated definitions for those labels and don't even know what the heck it is they believe in , but come on.... give me a break! When he starts talking about the logos and divinity it's just buzz territory and it's also what happened on Sam's podcast when the truth concept came up. he sometimes clutters up issues or redefinea concepts behind labels. Many times i find his psychological wisdom quite enlightening and liberating in the sense that he is able to put into words things that i have always thought or felt and that most people around me wouldn't understand if i tried to explain them. Yet at times... my reaction is of the wtf kind, which only tells me that it is impossible and counter productice to agree with someone on everything. I guess that's to be expected.
This actuallly doesn't help me much, because I understand how to get rid of negative and overwhelming things, but there is still no "clarity" , or sense of purpose for doing all of the right things. knowing what not to do and doesn't necessarily help you with knowing what TO do. There are no answers that anyone else can give you. I've tried seeking, I've tried not trying to force things, but nothing works. I can know I shouldn't steal, smoke, or drink... but that doesn't help knowing what you should do in place of that.
You're right and I agree that this video might not help. All I can offer is my experience: Anything that I do becomes more meaningful the more time, thoughts and energy I invest in it. Every thousand hours I've put into my work have been an even more incredible journey than the last thousand. I truly believe that we don't find our passion by hand-picking it but rather by diving into some domain or field and then figuring out in what exact place we need to be. So I would recommend, take your pick, stick with it and always be alert when something grabs your interest.
I started cleaning my room for Jordan Peterson! It's taking me a while, but I'm finding myself straightening things and digging things up that I haven't messed with in forever. Its harder than I thought it would be too I'm on day 3 and I already feel happier though! Thanks Jordan.
@@eliezerhem Because the simplistic teachings of Christianity that is given in Finland is such shallow tale that it is no wonder that most Finnish youth are atheists. The lectures that Peterson gives and the things I've seen under certain circumstances have made me certain that me as a human don't know anything. "The only thing I know is that I know nothing" - A philosopher that I can't remember the name of. There must be something bigger than us.
I've watched a video that having a "better system" (routine) is more important than "better goals" so i guess it is okay to not have any goals as long as you have a working system that helps you :)
For the closed minded people who just got the message "just clean your room" what this guy is trying to say is if you start by cleaning your room you manifest a healthy mind by being more organised and erase chaos from your life. You have a clear mind and begin to understand having a clear mind helps you monitor you life your behaviour your finance your relationships. Monitor yourself and you'll see a clear path your goals become clear. Clean your room. It's order vs chaos.
Start with cleaning your room & move on from there to ever-greater endeavors. Admiral McRaven is even more specific, he says: "make your bed each day."
that is a brilliant answer... Cleaning up the room is like putting chaos to order. From then, we can proceed to slightly bigger chaos to be put in order
I actually used to look around my house and think, "what can I clean up today?" just to make my environment more habitable and comfortable, from cleaning the dishes, to tidying the living room and even hoovering the communal landing. Normally it was one thing per day, but if I was feeling charitable it'd be more than that, especially to relieve some of the stress on my mother. Now, though, I never think that at all, as every day that I would clean up, whatever I had cleaned would be messier or just worse off the next day, to the point I just think, "oh what's the point?" whenever I see clutter. And as inspirational as this was, I know the motivation's not going to last.
I’m freaking out because I am at the lowest point in my life in every aspect. I still got no vision and it feels so hopeless. I feel like I wasted so much time and I let myself go… I want to overcome this but it feels impossible. Wouldn’t even know where to start and how to build a base.
It's not the act of "cleaning your room" thats powerful, its the recognition that the rooms needs cleaning and that you have the power to affect change thats profound..
I think people don't understand the metaphor behind "clean up your room". While it can be followed as a word-for-word advice, what it really means is "remove disorder from your daily lives".
This is absolutely right! You can take action today and strive to improve a little bit more tomorrow. This small daily progress can make a significant difference between today and tomorrow. It's one of the lessons we learned from our life coach, Lisa Haisha, during her Soul Blaze class, and it has truly led to positive shifts in our lives. Thank you for sharing this, Mr. Jordan.
I just came up with an idea, how about a Telegram group where each person defines their goals for the week, at each week's end that person will be asked if he had completed his goal (or goals) and he will be required to answer. If the answer is negative there will be a discussion about that person, not tyrannizing him but helping him.. The group could also be broken to private conversations of people who are more comfortable with each other alone rather than the whole group. I'm not sure how to implement that fully but I think starting with a group of like-minded people will be great, please let me know what you think about this.. I'll post it on some other of JP's videos in case it gets swallowed in the comments
@@studyathomes Hey, this is the group link: t.me/joinchat/Feb_XRSwJHOLBGg3znNhlQ right now I added a bot but I'm not sure how to program it and I'm quite busy so for now I'm hoping it will be a discussion group of like-minded people
@@delta7312 Hey Dimitris I posted the group link a comment above, you're welcome to join! I apologize though, it's not currently what I visioned it to be
Once i cleaned my room , i found myself to be productive before that I couldn’t focus and had to suffice with going to cafe or library . And then i tried to make my room more desirable to be in then i found myself to be more confident and i have no clue why ! Suddenly i am better of study and work on my desk rather than a library which was basically impossible few month a go , i am in less conflict and distracted much less which was impossible before and above all that i am more reliable !! I can rely on myself when i accept a responsibility and you can’t possibly think how good it feels
I'm actually 17 and I think I could achieve almost anything but....I just don't have any idea of what to do ....this feels awful...I don't want to live a life and realise in the end that it wasn't the one I wanted to live.....
@@hamed-es3wzIt's just a message from a random guy you will never meet but I really wish you to find your passion or something that keeps pushing you forward. Wish you all the best
I love Jordan and have watched almost all his videos. Occasionally I make the people around me roll their eyes when I say his name because I think he has an endless amount of wonderful approaches the life’s most common problems. This however was the most vague answer I’ve ever heard from him. I clean all the freaking time and it doesn’t help me figure out what I want to do one bloody bit.
He did. He said if you dont know the „big goal“, start fixing small things around you, bring structure to the chaos. Even they are small things, as you are doing that, you will start gaining confidence and start having visions what you can achive.
@@IYAk319 The man was essentially askig for guidence on ways to figure out what he wanted to do in life. He essentially got told "clean your room" or "fix some things today". Both of those answers are dissmisive, the man may already be cleaning his room, and may already have an organised life. You can be a perfctly organised person and still have no clue wht it is you want to do.. in the same way a completelt messy person knows exactly what they wnt to do. That man may actually be tired of material things or the rat race of society, and that is why he coukd be lost. No amount of room cleaining fixes those kinds of states. The only real option here wa to investigate further why the man felt lost, to discover if he is seeking societal paths or some other path.
I commented 5 months ago What have changed in these 5 months I am doing well with that business which I wasn’t doing much so what ever you are doing pls put 100 per cent effort one day you will like what you are doing early it was not motivating but now yes I am feeling goof
i have been setting small goals for my adhd self. Right now I am cleaning up the craft corners of my home...........which will take a while! My 'snakes' are cleaning out my sewing drawer, my knitting drawer, my jewellery making corner, my bookmaking shelf, and it goes on and on. This WILL BE either one very long job or or an infinite series of mini jobs. Could sure do with some snake venom to make the job easier!!!!!
I'm 21 years old and about to graduate this year. I major in computer science and even though I'm doing pretty good at it, I did an internship last year for 12 months in a startup company, but I felt like this is not the kind of life that I want to do for the rest of my life. Even though I'm about to graduate in a couple of months from now, I don't feel any joy like most of my friends. Only fear that I'm going to spend the rest of my life doing something that doesn't make me feel alive till I retire and continue living a sad life. I'm so confused right now and I'm so scared of having this conversation with my parents who will probably be big mad and disappointed at me
Every time I think of what I really wanted to be, I always remember that I used to dream of joining the army and become a soldier to protect people, but that dream slowly fades away when I came to the realization that I could never grow above 160cm which is below the minimum requirement to joining any army branch in my country (the absolute minimal is 162cm). Pursuing a career in the army used to be everything I ever wanted, but because of my genetics, I know it will never happen. My older sister suggested me to go to college instead and choose computer science as my major cause I use my computer a lot and she and I thought that it would easily become my passion, but after 3 years in college I started to regret choosing this path, but at the same time I'm so scared of my parents reaction if I tell them this and I've ghosted them for quite a while now
For me, life needs to be worth it. Striving to move forward to achieve excellence, order, general healthy habits, sound relationships, etc. All of this has to be worth it. Let’s face it life is pain. No matter how you live your life, you will die. People will forget you even existed. I don’t care about money, house, marriage, etc. It has to mean more than looking or being successful in the eyes of humanity
I shaved the little balls from my pillow off and it's been one of the best things I've done to improve my room. I'm not joking, it improved the state of my room.
I can confirm the clean room. I don't clean my room on a regular basis and I procrastinate cleaning until I get fed up with it. But once I do and everything is in order, I feel better about myself over all. Like life isn't so chaotic because everything is in order.
If you're here. I'd like to share something. I am 31. Never worked. I've fallen extremely ill and lost my entire 20s, family, dreams, education, and friends. I've been rehab and got clean from drink. I'm now all alone and after 10+ years I have now got to the point of wanting to learn to drive. Next I want to get a job helping young teens not make my mistakes. I can't help my illness.....but I let that rule me and time passed me by. I couldn't have done alot, but I could have done something. I'll do it now. Something in me snapped. I hope it does to you too. I don't need a job that pays me lots. I need a job that makes me happy to be out of this bed.
I can feel u brother!!! I am 20. Finished my grade 12 at 2022 and I am still wondering what to do!!! By that more than a 1 yrs have passed away just like that! My friends hv gone for abroad for college and I'm still wonedring what to do cause of my parents nt letting me to go for abroad studies in Canada cause my parents fear about me and loves me soo much and says it's not worth now going there I live in Kuwait, and I am, still confused not ambitious to do anything! is it worth studying and do work there later? Or do here in Kuwait and be here with my parents.