Jordan Peterson: Why Do Nice Guys Nice Finish Last? (MUST WATCH) 

95TurboSol middle ground is the hardest to achieve. I tell the truth way more than is necessary and the women in my life hate it. Telling the truth (including personal feelings) all the time is an extreme to be avoided.

@@Iranianjunkie definitely true, that's where the ethical part comes in, sometimes it's better to not say anything or if you do tell the truth, the way you tell it can either be in the other person's interest and benefit or be an excuse to be hateful and hurt someone, I knew a kid that would say he was being good by telling people mean things because those things were true, this is just an excuse to be evil, ethical truth is doing what uplifts others and makes them better.

95TurboSol 4 Gates of speech in a Buddhist tradition. is it true? is is necessary? is it beneficial? is it kind?

"niceness holds the idea of being untruthful to protect feelings, not telling people what you want, avoiding all conflict even when it's necessary" I was certainly a victim of that. No More Mr. Nice Guy though and when I have some negative feelings or thoughts I don't betray myself and tell whats on my mind. You have to watch words and find balance though but because I value myself much more than before I am always ready for things to leave.

Couldn't agree more. It's also important to remember that sometimes you don't have to say anything especially if it is pointless. But if you must speak, speak the TRUTH.

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LoL try some licking and finger play. Jk

That's nice

C C - According to the "experts" , if she married you then you are NOT a nice guy!

@@enniswhalen2428 What does that mean?

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🎉 *AMEN!* 👍🎉

The very first night I met my current girlfriend (of 1 year so far), I basically raped her. We were having fun, we got to the bed and she sat up and firmly said "No!" when I took her clothes off. It was this awkward moment where I had to decide whether I respected her "no", let her put her clothes back on and probably leave or ignore it and jump on her and go to town. I decided to go to town. She ended up spending the night, we went out again a couple nights later and ended up becoming a couple. We are about a year in now. That moment has burned into my memory because she could have basically accused me of rape and sorta been correct if she wanted to. But had I been a nice guy and let her leave I doubt I would have seen her ever again. So this issue of how a male is supposed to engage sexually is extremely difficult since many women sort of want to be forced. Thats whats keeping them interested to some extent. Very complicated.

@@auditoryproductions1831 I think it depends on the type of woman you're attracted too. Like you said very complex but definitely be careful with it. I'm currently dating this girl (About a month in) Who is absolutely against this type of thinking as far as the idea of "Wanting to be forced" into (Not specifically in a sexual standpoint but just in general with a relationship). Multiple variables to consider..... Depending on the type of woman, relative mindset (such as does she like you like, does she like parties/ the bottom line characteristics that define what makes her a person) , age, etc. I think its important to understand that not all woman have the same or even a similar mindset of how they would like to be pursued, captured, or "engaged" how you say by their physical/emotional long term partner. I think the issue or discussion of Mr. Nice guy and that to assertiveness in the way you approach women, can be an entirely different discussion. Peterson covers it as a whole how to differentiate the differences in your nature (In who you or such as introvert or extrovert for example) and how to open up to the other sides (your opposite) so you have a wider spectrum and broaden your "tool kit" as Jordan referred to. And in doing so allows you to apply yourself in different areas in your life INCLUDING your long term partner. Let me know if this helps in any way of if I need to clarify, i usually don't do this sort of thing.

​@@auditoryproductions1831Do you realize that you're giving some really dangerous, harmful advice? I'm glad for your girlfriend that apparently she's the kind of girl who 'likes to be forced' because if I had been in her place, I'm pretty sure it would have led to live long damage for me and a lawsuit for you.

I’m 35+ and just realizing this…

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I'm so happy you came to this realization.

same man, like already feeling so lost in life

Nicely put man💪🏻

story of my life, just realizing that i never knew what I wanted and always just did things to please others. that might be the reason for some of my misery...

@@Maxxomatik Or most of it. ;)

Mario Rumrich i was like that freshman year but thankfully I met some girls that made me more aware of it and than I went onto the otherside of the spectrum were I was just in everything for selfish intentions to try to figure out wut it is that I want. Than I went back to old humble self

Me

I think I've fluctuated in agreeableness through my life. Both on the extreme ends of agreeable and disagreeable as you would've guessed, both have major weaknesses

I'm in highschool and I'm starting to worry about that too :v

Sameeee lmaoo

Better now at the tender formative age of 20, were you're on the cusp of manhood, than in the twilight of your years, past your prime riddled with shame and regret.

@@andrewforte3852 You’re not wrong. I’m thankful information like this is available to people who would like to learn from it.

good. you don't want to waste your time on bullshit. build yourself

would you bet on it?

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@@anaranjadisimo lol. Not a lot of money, no.

a gift perhaps, as long as you're not female

@@anaranjadisimolol. No I wouldn’t bet the farm on it.

4 years late

You’re not the only one going through mental struggles bro, stay strong

Life means struggle, we have to find ways to be happy. Good times, bad times part and parcel of life. Everyone goes through it.

Passive, Passive Aggressive, Assertive and Aggressive........The best is to be assertive without being overly assertive which =aggressive......Passive= total push over ....Passive Aggressive= is an angry pushover who instead of confrontation will hide their anger towards that person and instead go vandalize their car.The person might not even realize they somehow made the passive aggressive person mad because they hid their anger and instead of confrontation, damaged their car for revenge.... Assertive person= someone who will confront and explain why they are mad at a co-worker, instead of hiding their anger then vandalizing their car later.They won't get aggressive but will defend themselves if the other person gets too aggressive....Aggressive person= Gets mad, attacks co-worker and gets fired.

@@peace.love.laughter1014 you are correct but most of society does not know how to verbalize that properly and also most of society does not handle people being strong. It gets preached all the time. But hardly anyone does it or accepts it if they are confronted by it.

@@peace.love.laughter1014 that’s men and women

100% i used to be the nice guy. Got tired of that cuz i always ended up blowing up like a super nova, got me no where, instead i let out the rage instantly, which was also no good but i kept on the path adjusting as i went and now, im more towards the assertive side coming down from aggressive to a good balance. I think its EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to stay nice, thats what holds the world together, just dont let people walk all over you, it takes self control but man is it worth it

It’s just so artificial feeling especially with women because they enjoy the conflict and typically desire getting the last word over actually having a rational argument.

Castle that’s what you do when you’re smart

He is very analytical and thoughtful, because of that he has developed an agile and intelligent mind.

Critical Analysis. Rene Decartes, "Cogito Ergo Sum".

Because that’s what people actually are; certain percentages of energy, which are quantifiable. Helps to have great insight on each emotion in depth. Thank you to Jordon Peterson for the amazing perspectives.

mo farah won all his races. just saying

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The thing about been successful is working toward it and not going the other way round

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LMAO!!! Well put!!

More than necessary lol

As he was saying it I saw your comment🤣

More than necessary

More than _absolutely_ necessary too XD

I was just thinking that. I'd sign up for every class he offered even if it was totally unrelated to my major

You will miss every single class, trust me... my professor gives more information than him and he didn’t stop talking for 2 hours in our class... he got Phd in Psychology, his thesis is about Human Communication in Social environment and Parenting (sort of), then he make 2 more thesis after that for Certain award, he won both... and now teaching us...

@@HafeezBlackLeg Not to be an ass and to claim your proff isn't great, but Jordan Peterson is literary the most cited psychologist of all time and he has a few Phd's as well.

True.He won't feed you communist , brainwashed bullshit.

Not one

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I hear what he's saying but i don't know how to practically apply it to my life

​@@joem13yearsago73go read christians scholars. Wake up early eat correct foods to produce healthy body and don't curse become morally righteousness and read the bible and first thing you do is worship God in the morning as you wake up. And get the woman you need.

@@IsraelCountryCube forgot this: /s

That's intense.

Fun quote. Which book?

Please don't malign Kant but quoting him to celebrate this misogynist. He literally said and implied that women are more agreeable and then goes on to say that "agreeable people don't know what they want," and that they're essentially losers.

woah, never heard that one before. I like it.

@@johnyoutube4073 Nah, I'm an academic myself so I'm sorry that white men with low prospects are so haunted by the fact that a man.is standing up against the rampant misogyny in society.

Benjamin Bovard I will clean my room today

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Or else daddy Jordan will be mad and use the belt

@@davute9546 😂😂😂

More power to you!!!

He is not.

@@michaelwright8896 he used to be smart and a respected psychologist but now he’s just a propaganda mouthpiece for the extreme right

@@samuelzev4076 What makes you say that? What exactly did JP say to make you think that way about him?

@@leoracham some of his claims on topics that he’s not an expert on like climate science tend to be wrong. Even climatologists who are republicans or hold conservative values say that he’s wrong.

@@samuelzev4076 About climatology you could say that. But it doesn't disavow him from having great insights on many other topics. Specially about giving people a purpose of they own.

Finally...

Good job! Wish you the best

What job?

first job at 26??!

I'm 43. I fell into a career of sorts at your age, but I'm only just slowing down the drinking heavily and staying up late. I've no idea how I made it this far, but I'm hanging in there.

Ok. Now put your stop watch on ... and measure how long it takes to put it into successful practice.

@@marteenez4987 😂😂😂😂

Very true

Amen

in 12 minutes he taught us things we weren't taught in 12 years of school.

Should I feel sad I feel he's talking ABOUT me in some parts? :)

You and me both partner

😐

R u kidding me? I was 5 yo when I was 24. Then I moved as a minority to a white upstate community in NY. Sh**t I’m not gonna tell you what came out of there

@@headmase SAME

Sean Jackson me too hahaha

Same

Got me too. Not complaining at all.

This is 12 solid minutes of value, and JP does not skip a beat. I'm glad it was posted as a clip. This is a life-changer if you are not blind and deaf, like so many commenters unfortunately appear to be. It's like people can't see the Red Pill held before them because they want to ignore it and stay in the warm cozy fart smell of their own little Matrix lives. They are not ready to wake up and would rather fight to hold on to the erroneous mental habits that are not serving them well at all. Blame culture and the lies people have been told, I guess?

was

me to i'm trying to become an asshole now because that's what girls like.

Same here, research codependent and empath so you can dig in more. I would recommend looking for an experienced therapist/ counselor to help you understand more about yourself. I'm going thru the same and every week I find something new about me and my many bad habits.

@@frederic6998 Girls dont like assholes except as someone they'd like to conquer into not being an asshole. They also like guys who CAN be assholes. "Nice and doting to me but tough and cruel to everyone else" or "passive/neutral most of the time but can turn aggressive in a second" are the most popular personality trope in female-targeted stories lol

@@samel986 you think this issue is something to see a therapist for?

@@samtheman6188 Yes, because it is more complicated then we think. It is best to talk to a professional that will be able to go over your actions and help you change your bad habits with good ones. Our system created those bad habits to protect us and make us feel good because some how we didn't get enough approval/ afermation so our system creates weird ways to get that high of feeling good from random things and people. Some of us will shop till they drop and some of us go out of our way to make others feel good because in the process we feel happy and complete. Think of it as being proactive for the sake of you sanity and future. You don't want to enter a relationship before getting your character straightened out a bit so you learn how to create boundaries and make a habit of saying no to everyone. I'm 32 and still working on bad habits created over the years from a very bad childhood experience. Praying for you. God bless.

That's kindness. Be kind. Don't be Nice.

@@Dark-wc4pu nice adjective \ ˈnīs \ nicer; nicest Definition of nice (Entry 1 of 3) 1 : POLITE, KIND a very nice person

I like where your head is at but I feel like life is an endless competition for limited resources.

@@WooghaWhoogashwoogha Thinking like that is how one ends up with no one liking them

Couldn't agree more. Competition is for frightened animals, humans prosper so to us competition should just be for entertainment. Besides, it's observed that even in great apes there are examples where the nicest one is the leader. There are two paths to power, you get people to do what you want by making them scared of you, or you get them to do what you want because they like you. Interestingly, with the gorillas being studied, the ones that got their power from being liked held their power a lot longer on average than the ones that used tyranny. The ones that where liked where protected by the whole tribe, even the females, and rarely challenged even after they got older and weaker. While the tyrants where often challenge, rarely protected and taken down by their own as soon as they showed physical weakness. So this idea that you can't be nice and also on top is a myth that's very prevalent in cultures that have taken capitalism and individually too far. Being part of a large group is one of the main reason humans have gotten as far as we have, neanderthals all died because they where too aggressive to form large groups so they where easily overrun by a superior force. Being nice is integral to successful corporation so it's essential for long term human survival.

with 22 you lost nothing, you lost with 33 or 44.

I was 26 and I consider myself lucky as hell

@@quantumratio4311 i'm 34 technically I lose

@@anonyfamous42 Look I'm 23 and while stagnating at 33 is not pleasant idea, I know hoe fast a human can turn things around. Exercise, mindset, etc. You'll run around and act like a 25 year old till you're 40-50.

@@yohanathandowns9057 I'm 21 .. I lived my life for other people..but I'm changing myself now

I need it

Woah

Nice 😂

don't leave it long enough to become a dragon.

@@mininananana in Jordan Peterson's class, I think it's 2017 playlist, might be 28 hours so... take your time. NVM go watch 2016 personality class.

Exactly . My cousin just asked for my charger and I said no just saying when for the first time I said no

@@o_0264 most of the time you get to the other side completely, its important to look for balance, however, I havent figure how to do it properly hehehe

@@christianbadillalee2473 yeah I wasn't great at first but now I look for the balance and it actually makes you and people realize your worth it'd just take time

kindly suggest some things, im too agreeable

@@EducationSabKeLiye Say “no” more. Watch more Jordan Peterson videos on the subject.

Hmm. I think we need to stop putting all the blame on schools and universities. The rest of society also is playing a role...

@@jeffmoser4575 pointing out a fact that describes the fashion in which many (not all) teachers carry out their style of teaching during their lectures in schools or universities isn't an act of blame or whatsoever. It comes down to the individual. And if the individual is too absorbed into the conventional approach system of learning set out as by the general educational authorities the results end up in teachers feeding as much data as possible to pupils and students according to a standard guideline while focusing less or not at all to shaping their mind in ways they can become autonomous thinkers before actually acquiring content to fill up their minds. The difference between these goals is that on one hand the aim is to know as much as one can (not saying it's worthless) and on the other the aim is to know how to link and create connections between the things we know. What I'm saying it is pretty rare to have someone feeding you new information and at the same time applying that knowledge to a wider range of potential aspect of one's life, ranging from rational, to philosophical, personal, self developmental levels that actually leaves students think about even after the lecture's ended. Let alone leaving with the thought of 'wow I would like to try to apply such knowledge right away'

oOSilverZackOo K

@@LazyRare hahaha nice one

@@oOSilverZackOo I tried my best

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The problem with being nice is you can be deceived by a disagreeable person who is smart and understands the nature of an agreeable person

Love

If you start having respect for yourself and stand up for yourself, you basically stop being nice and start being kind.

@@MultiRibrob true

Why do I see so many disagreeable people? It's just annoying at this point

Tad Labrie you got this dude !

Thanks for sharing your views Tad.

Im in my mid 40's stopped drinking at 27 if you kick the hooch you'll remember when you're 40 the day some Irish guy on RU-vid suggested something you already know yourself. You can do it, and you'll prosper, you'll learn how to manage the unmanageable, everything will start to go from a squiggly mess into something which is tidy and clear... Kick the beer and loose the fear...

Lose the booze lose the anxiety

With alcoholism and other addictive habits, your in the devil's domain. I suggest you look into Ethiopian Orthodox Christianity for the emotional and spiritual healing you've always been searching for.

''Third Man is a blessing, too . . MAN **

Don't forget the other 49 states

This* and to*

its someone who teaches you how to create or do and not someone telling how things are

Not to be confused with Man Nice.

@@amolvikramsingh3885 hory shet

@@CellGames2006 Hahaha this is awesome mate .D

I would buy three

@@amolvikramsingh3885 WOW! rofl.

@@amolvikramsingh3885 Haha Lobsterman

Lol @ your youtube name... "sky high!"

Did you agree that you were agreeable?

hhhh me too

david stewart that’s basically a group of betas with one alpha

I had a great dad, but I am glad you said this.

yes and no; there is a core to all of us unchanged; however how you curb your actions depends

I'm 23 now, and I'm so pissed off I just found out about this guy 40 minutes ago... I haven't been able to stop watching his videos...

I bet his kids will disagree after puberty

Lee Smith ... lol .. no Lee , you would have been saying 'yeah,yeah,yeah.. I've heard it all before dad!'

I'm an introverted, self-conscious nice guy... It is fucking awful, especially when I'm so self-aware of it.

I was hurt being the nice guy then I learned. After that it was full speed ahead in my dating life and started getting action. Sad but true.

No, it was not

There’s nothing wrong with being a nice person. People like nice people. As long as you are able to realize when someone is trying to take your kindness for weakness and you don’t allow that to happen or allow yourself to be pushed around then you can be a nice person and still be successful in life. But you should as be nice just because that’s your personality. If you’re nice to people solely because you’re trying to get something from them (like being nice to women purely in hopes of having sex with them) then you’re not actually nice you’re just fake and a lot more people than you realize can see right through that.

@ T C - Oh no you don't ! You have to be YOU ! I'll bet that the "next" guy beats the crap out of her. Just don't laugh when it happens. . .because you ARE nice person .

I can feel you brother✌🏻🍀

Are you saying "the wrong person" isn't making a mistake? It sounds like you're blaming the nice person (who did nothing to hurt, harm, or degrade others) for something you should blame the other person for. There's a term for it: victim-blaming.

Thelonestar Pelican: Well to be fair, a) if you have a bad actor, they won’t care about being or consider themselves to be in the wrong, and so you’ll still have to protect yourself if you want to avoid harm. On top of that, b) if you do not take steps to correct “mistakes”, you aren’t a contributor to the solution of said problem and so you are (arguably) a part of it. You may not be responsible for such people, but you can’t wash your hands of accountability.

@@fetchstixRHD To a) if a person's too powerless to defend themselves (phys or psych), it's unjust to blame them for something out of their control. b) is still victim-blaming. Your distinction between victimblaming and accountability is artificial. Both are practically the same thing, or at least one is the direct result of another. Inability to resist an aggressor or to change one's self = / = deliberate effort to hurt others. So the victim-blaming charge still stands.

This is because sometimes many of us ain’t emotionally prepared , that’s why we experience shock or trauma , but that doesn’t mean you are incapable or weak at all it means you are learning so keep up and believe in yourself more , Unless you wanna speed up the process and have an expertise of an analysis that can make you instantly figure out people’s behavior..

So everyone has accepted that hitting them with a truck at least once is acceptable!! ;)

@@michaellynn9763 Well it's going to happen, isn't it... as long as you learn once told that it's not a desirable way to manage a dispute, then you're on the right track.

@@michaellynn9763 you have totally missed his dry sense of humor. I love dry humor, but it totally goes over some people's heads, particularly the pc brigade.

@@evazemek4231 Nono, quite the opposite: that’s exactly what my comment is referring to.

@@evazemek4231 the proper criticism is that he spilled out the joke and made the humor wet

Tbh none of us received it as kids.

Same here, brother.

Any of you had narcissistic parents?

@@yusufibnyusuf3058 yup, now I'm 19 and they always talk about how much better they were when they were my age even though everything was different back then

Nabel Pauzi : me too

Amazing! I hope you are still working on it, and if you have given up on it, I hope you'll pick it back up!

@@HereTakeAFlower thanks

Hell yea bro

Good for you man

💯💯

Learned that the hard way, still haven't recovered 13 years later.

The reason our society is so messed up is because a lot of men nowadays think being "nice" is now a sin. Really, THAT'S why our society is messed up. C'mon man, it's way way way way deeper than that.

Being nice takes a lot of strength. It's basically like being charitable: If you have a 100$ need 85$ for yourself, you can spend 15$. If you have a 1000$, need to spend 85$, you have 915$ you can spend. How charitable can you be with 15$ and ho charitable can you be with 915$?

Bro, understand his perspective. He is a youtuber who is trying to build up a career on youtube. If he didn't put this kind of 'clickbait' title, he would risk loosing views. Like this, he risked only couple of mean comments, which also help him on youtube. I think that the title is great for young men who are in their 20's and 30's because it attracts them. The video itself reveals something much deeper than that, and I really enjoy this. But, if he made a title like: "Jordan Peterson talking about assertiveness, the and cons of being too agreeable" not everyone could understand ;)

As a french guy whose understanding of the english language is far from perfect, I'm always happy to read such comments because they make me understand things that I didn't understand when watching the video.

Pierrot L'asticot You write very well though.

If you think about it, everyone has always felt like that. Everytime anyone is alive they're at the pinnacle of technology saying the same thing ;-)

@@bigsteve6729 I'm glad everyone can appreciate it as well as I do :]

That's crazy

I agree. I used to dream about this future as a child in the 80s. Now that we finally have it. RU-vid and podcasts have changed my life.

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I love listening to him for this exact reason. I’m also glad that someone else has pointed his ability out! Rarely does someone speak continuously without having to reconsider their thoughts before speaking.

He talks continuously without a break. I listen continuously without a break

While it's nice, I feel like sometimes he goes onto crazy tangents and it'S sometimes hard to follow where he's going. And even sometimes he doesn't go back to where he was before the tangent began.

And that's why many women hate him so much. That level of self-assuredness is so alien to them that he MUST be a misogynistic monster. After all, who has that much confidence unless they are repressing the nearest female?

@@michaellynn9763 At least in this instance he uses pauses correctly to conjure a new idea. The pauses give him a brief moment to breath, let the thoughts sink in, and also give himself time to word his next thought. Even if they're brief, they make a bigger impact than "uh".

Unfortunately, not only they receive nothing in return (that most genuinely nice people never seek for) but also they don't even get a descent treatment, they can even be punished for it (which ultimately feels awful and destroys their confidence on people) have been there, know the feeling. Just sad tbh

@@josejaimeceja3979 being nice is nice, even with the consequences it might bring, maybe you focus on the negative impacts rather than what it will felt and felted inside. Bittersweet, I'm still into the warmer thing.

I would agree more with @jose. The worst kind are those that go a step further and even punish or humiliate you for your kindness. I don’t think it’s because he has seen it in another way. I’ve experienced it and it doesn’t feel good.

its true;)

Nice guys don't finish last, they finish in a tissue.

Must be a place full of narcissists, sort of a motto for them.

Lots of fights will happen if the world ran out of nice peoples

C’est vrai.

@@buddiesfast what do mean ? France is really diverse and all those clichés aren't accurate at all. I'm French and I haven't even heard this expression once in my life so it's not a motto lol. The French are kinda like the Americans (USA) with different law structures but same mentality imo. I mean, they both contain citizens who think their country could replace the world alone (not all) 🙂🙃. And btw, don't attack the french canadians, they are too cutie

@@Nomatterwhat69 moto of narcissists. I did not specifically accredited to the french,. As an American, I believe the only one ruling should be Christ, not any nation, and there is a great divide in our country on this matter.

I had struggled great part of my life knowing I was one of those "not socially acceptable" kids. Dunno why, my younger brothers succeded in those terms, but now I have a 5 and a 1 year-old kids and am very concerned about that, always trying to make them good but secure people so they grow up in society.

@@LautaroTessi worrying about it is half the job IMHO. Keep it up. I believe in you :)

@@LautaroTessi i'd say similarly i too struggled as a child growing up as one of those "not socially acceptable" kid who was trying to be accepted. then i realized that's not who i am at all, i actually don't care at all about whether i'm accepted or not and now I live with a clear conscience and do what I want regardless of acceptance, and have never been more free. Frankly i see all the ways society has been doing things wrong all this time and don't want to be a part of it by association anymore.

by golly. my daughter had some realllly terrible 2s and 3s. worth every white hair and give a damn because she is a great playmate now. my son is her yang, naturally very passive and giving and helpful and generous. don't get me wrong, not playing favorites. they are both very sweet, smart and have good hearts. my daughter is naturally just more stubborn, gritty, overly assertive (reactively, not in a predatory antisocial way) and talkative. he has started to advocate for himself a little bit but it's huge for him. but it's crazy that it's harder to get someone to stand up for themselves than it is to get someone to be considerate. but you take strengths and weaknesses and realize they can be one in the same. jordan is so right about being in touch with your shadow side. it will save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run on either end of the spectrum.

I'd say by the age of 5 or 6 is better

You mean you want to be a lying con artist?

@@boffeycn yikes

@@unfortunate7803 Correct. If you want a realistic approach first read this en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_Guys_Finish_First Then the book and watch the docus. I had heard of Peterson but just considered him another psychologist until a video of a talk he gave at the Oxford Union came up on my "recommended" list. It was about AGW & ACC and was so full of lies and bs I looked into JP and found he has a history of dishonesty and misrepresentation. I also ascertained that he makes a tremendous amount of money from telling a certain demographic what they want to hear. As he is doing here.

@DroopyWorm Wrong. He knows how to lie and make money out of doing so,

@DroopyWorm Everybody "knows things." He invents bs and lies to keep his paying, braying fanbois happy and paying him. And he is a proven liar. He was just another psychologist with a bit of a reputation of being wilfully controversial until he realised a lot of money could be made from telling a certain demographic what they want to hear. He hasn't looked back since and his wealth continues to increase .

every son wishes to have a drug addict as a father? do you have some science to back that up?

@@TheBrainScratcher Woah now, I think that is both an unfair implication and an unfair critique of Jordan Peterson.

@@heisenberg9494 Has he recovered yet? Or spoken in public?

@@TheBrainScratcher Even if he is/was drug adict, that doesnt mean his character isnt real. And btw, 90% of drug adicts in that age talk stories and educate joung ones what not to do and to be aware of consequences that every action brings. He probably learned his lesson on the hard way. Wisdom comes with lessons learned trough mistakes and situations you put yourself into.

@@TheBrainScratcher lmao he is and never was a drug addict, reacting negatively to prescribed medication doesn't make you a drug addict, but bitter boys like you clearly have a bone to pick with your own deadbeat fathers and hate to see others take on an amazing father figure and share how much they have changed for the better

I know exactly what ur talking about and it happens to me i wanna save myselff

@@derbawah Of course

@@avuyilecakwebe6880 Well said and I can relate to these things.

@@niravthacker6596 Long as you're aware of it before entering the big bad world.

Be you life screws us all.

I am in that phase of change and choice now

maybe you were never really a nice guy just lacked maturity so most women aren't into that

Exactly

So I guess my problem is that when I am in equal position I get extremely disagreeable, but whenever someone has leverage on me(eg, my boss at work) I get extremely agreeable. This makes me feel like I am bullied and exploited everywhere I go. I think im starting to develep some paranoid states.

@@hal7112wym?

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No!! A place for everything, And everything a place!!

@Dynah Dixon stay pure my young one

Classic… Order vs Chaos

Husband: Last time I looked for this, it was in that place. Wife: That has changed

Be proud of things you gave earned, and aspired to. Being young, straight, white and even conservative, has nothing (or little) to do with you…it’s all inherited. Goodie. Now make yourself into a man.

He never said to be proud of yourself. You need accomplishments not this false "self esteem"

How you learn from Jordan ? It was a classroom program or online one??

But your name is Belinda....

I think he taught us that the only way to handle the pressure and anxiety of being deeply and profoundly selfish is to load up on benzodiazepines until your career collapses and you go to rehab where the kind people are.

Everybody is my enemy.

I can relate

@@kanjifreak420 No one is your enemy IF YOU ARE STRONG!

@@kanjifreak420 Going to extremes doesn't solve any problems, it's finding a healthy middle ground.

@@kanjifreak420 To the man who only has a hammer, everything he encounters begins to look like a nail

Yes should not hang with bad people, that put you in conflict with no other choice. I think nice guys are so nice, when think being nice get far in life, so they are usually so nice to their girlfriend, but dont understand that girls can also take andvantages of their niceness, so they should learn to stick up for themselves and beat anybody hard up to the blood, that try take andvantage of your life.

All nice guys should get into martial arts. That's a start but unfortunately we will always remain nice guys. I've tried.

@@ianpollard4501 have a purpose you're willing to die for. Then train yourself to be effective towards that purpose. Don't be measure yoruself by the opinions of others, but rather by how effective you are at accomplishing your purpose.

Why we need the dislike button

bad boys are highschool bullys

Because they're too scared to go first.

Rudina Obydi to a certain extent, but not really

what if i tried to go first, but no one cared about what i thought? now i’m here

@@dopplervocals one time i tried done first, accidentally do wrong things to others.. so embarrasing for me Thats why i like to done last..

I want to finish last but my girlfriend's vagina makes that hard.

Time to stop that. Because if you look around there’s no one that gives a damn about you or me. Everyone is thinking of themselves. We need to learn to prioritize ourselves.

feel free to fullfill a few of mine :P , but in all honesty take care of yourself & make sure you know what you want & work towards it, you can help others at the same time but always work towards your goal, no matter how slowly it may seem to progress.

blackdeath4eternity You should pretty much come first always. I remember something that happened at work. Two colleagues where talking about work. Colleague1 saw colleague 2 eat fresh gum. So colleague 1 asked politely for a gum. Colleague 2 immediately said no with a straight face and raised voice, it was her last one and she wanted to also have gum in the afternoon after lunch. Said no sorry, no regrets, continued talking about work like it was no big deal. So ask yourself what you would have done in a situation like that.

@@xSunnyDaysx Iol if i had a piece i would have given it, but i also only chew one piece a day at most unless theres something going on lol , if it was something that i cared about at all though yeah i would have kept it & said sorry but no. & sometimes helping others is helping me so im still putting me first :P

There's nothing wrong with that, but you need to determine who's worth helping. And if it's something you're really uncomfortable with, then don't do it.

Is start with Dale Carnegie. It sure helped me.

Join a MDMA trial...

@@jasonf8910 Yeah I've been looking in to it. Unfortunately not many going on.

@@dude9291 You might have better luck finding an "authentic relating" course.

I didnt learn to socialize till I was already out of high school. Even then I often struggle and have to be very conscious of myself, but Im glad I had people teach me at all so late in the game.

Just what I was thinking.

Lmaoo

Semi-click bait as the meaning you can derive from the content, in correlation to the title, is somewhat similar

It's the kind of clickbait you click to friends ...

how is it clickbait ?

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It is theoretically still possible☠

some people in politcs didnt got this advice,likely hit others that they dont agree with a truck

Just Another Shitty RU-vid Channel that sentence doesn't make a lot of sense but sure buddy, hahaha, that is so true!

MrInkblots ?

I m actually a nice person until u pissed me off

Lol but how about men?

@@arvinguevarra8416 a man above 30 if keep educate emselfs will become very successful

Unnnnnd travel the world

Brooooooo this is so true hahahhahahaha

That's really unfortunate... It doesn't speak for his intellect, it speaks for the staggering vacuum

@@potaterjim Thank God we have someone to fill it. That's why he's so popular; it's not so much for his intellect as for the fact that he just talks to people in a way they can understand and he actually helps them as opposed to all of history's supposed great philosophers who always talk in high English and grasp at random theories that no one but a small elite group can claim to understand, these being modern day Intellectuals who for the most part are just a group of extremely arrogant and intellectually lazy Left leaning academics

father to many? alimony saviour.