Raising 2 kids with special needs and one without it was always a juggling act. Much of the time felt like walking on egg shells to keep things calm, it is very stressful. Adding to the stress is the lack of understanding from other people who don’t have a clue. All the very best with your day, you both do a wonderful job catering to a variety of needs and personalities.
These people( mainly women) who continue to attack you for your parenting style, your weight etc are not happy in their lives. You only have to read in the groups they've created to see it's the same ones doing it and they put you down to make themselves feel better. These people are parents and it's scary to think they are raising children. They are insecure, sad people..scary thing is they are mothers setting an example for their children with their vile behaviour. By mentioning them You are feeding into their sad lives. Rise above them and let them say whatever they want. They seriously aren't worth your time.
Just wanted to say I think you are doing an amazing job with parenting. I always say go with your gut if it doesn’t feel right say so. I have never understood trolls. If you don’t like people don’t watch their channel some of these trolls are vial and seem hellbent on bringing people down just for making a living online. Think you are doing a good job. They are your children and you are doing what is best for them. Sending you lots of love 💕
You are a caring, sensitive human being created in God's image. Life on or off social media is not a competition. Its your life, not theirs. At the end of the day, every human being will stand before God at some point to be held accountable for their actions. Don't you worry for a second Zoe about the way others treat you. Their day will come.
Is there a designated place ( perhaps a spot in a particular closet, his bed where a curtain could be drawn around) where Joseph could go on his own when he is so upset? When he is there, the rest of the family knows to leave him alone and to respect his privacy. He can come out when he feels he is ready to join the family. This is a technique that a friend’s son, who has similar issues, uses and it is quite successful. It is not a punishment place but a comforting place. I wish you the best; it isn’t easy.
My grand daughter teaches kids with autism, she said one small thing can set them off down word. I think a lot of what they teach the kids is how to manage their emotions. Zoey when I look back with raising my kids you always question yourself. I know there are things I should have done differently but they are grown now all of them are good people. I have grand kids from the age of 23 to 10 I sure enjoy my grandkids. All of them keep me young even when they talk about things I have no idea what they are talking about, lol
Some days things just go wonky. Joseph is a child, & he will get control of his emotions as he matures. His family will always be a big part of the repetitive training it will take. And you don't get it right every day! Mean comments are no help!!
I got the stupidest comments on my RU-vid video, I did a little tour of my military quarter and I called the downstairs toilet a bathroom because at the end of the day, a bathroom is a bathroom to me and somebody took it upon themselves to have a go at me! 😂 Honestly, these people amuse me more than anything! Keep being you because, for the one person who disapproves, 25 other people adore you and your family 🤍
Hi Zoe and Ben. You’ve probably done this. For example - one of my grandaughters was having a terrible emotional upset. I couldn’t calm her down. I got her favourite stuffy, which at that time was her ‘baby monkey’ and I talked to baby monkey about Ocea. And then baby monkey talked to her ( my voice obviously 😉). She loved it and calmed down almost right away after a long period of crying and upset. I’ve tryed it a few times now with other kids. It has been very effective. I am interested to know if you have tryed it, and if so, how did it work! Just curious. You guys are great parents. None of us will ever understand the haters. I’m sure if you met any one of them in person it would be easier to let go. You are correct. It has much more to do with them than with you.
Zoe I know what you are saying I am an overthinker and I can't help it. where my husband's not.its so hard but listening to you has helped me a bit so thank you. I love Agnes in the park being a cat was so cute smile on my face.And Joseph blesses him.He is doing well so I am sending him some hugs.you are a fantastic family.lovely vlog as always. 🎃🎃🎃🎃🎃
Great advice! ❤ Loved your wee chat Zoe, so true what you said, no justification needed. Until we are walking through situations ourselves we don’t really know how we will react or the choices we will make. We can only do the best we can with the knowledge we have at that time,in any given situation in life.
Zoe I feel for you , If I lived closer I would give you a cuddle 🤗🤗🤗. There are so many nasty people out there. You wear your heart on your sleeve You and Ben are the best Such a beautiful family Try not to let the idiot’s get you down ❤❤❤
Hope Joseph is doing ok now. I think you are both really great parents to all your kids, the younger ones and older and at the end of the day, it's your family so you know best. Hope you enjoy rest of your weekend ❤
When I worked as a substitute teacher we were often thrown into special education settings with some of the most challenging students with no training. I can imagine there will be people in similar circumstances who will appreciate any advice you can offer from your experience.
Confidence comes from within & letting all the nasty comments just go over your head. You are who you are. You are doing a great job. Don't react to things nasty people say
We're always learning. If you're doing your best, you're loving, kind and honest, as you are, everything will work out. Try to let go of the ignorant, needy people who make negative comments. As you said they are the ones with the problem. Have a wonderful Halloween party❤😊
All very true Zoe. We are our own worst critics. Also sometimes we are products of criticism in early life that stops us accepting ourselves. You are unique and although we'll always slip back to self critical we all need to try to accept who we are. We can only be ourselves noone else. I overthink too 🫤xx Glad Joseph is it better... Great Halloween fun
Your a lovely big family Zoe & Ben and your children are all so lovely too you carry on being as you are loving and caring parents take care love Tracy xxx
It’s so hard for children with additional needs self regulate their emotions 😔 My Son finds it very difficult 😢Bless Joseph 💙 You are all so supportive to his individual needs 🫶🏻 Sometimes they just need time like you said 😍. Too funny Ben, if it isn’t Oreo meowing 🐈⬛ it’s the birds 🦅 🤣 I totally get it Zoe 💖 I’m finding it difficult with changes with teenagers and not having them home all the time 🤦🏻♀️ I just want them home and to stop growing 🤷🏻♀️ Some people can be so mean as they are unhappy with their lives 😤 I’m sorry but that’s their problem! It’s no fair to criticise and be nasty about others. Especially Children 😡 That really infuriates me 😠 They are innocent. It’s horrible Zoe you have to deal with this crap 😢 Your such a lovely family 🥰 The positive comments will always out way the negatives 👍 You should never have to justify yourself! Always be you as your an amazing family 💖💙 Decorations look fabulous 🕷️🎃👻 Nice to top up each year on decorations 🥰 I do that with Christmas decorations 🫶🏻 I’m glad you had a great Halloween party 🥳 I hope your having the best time at landmark 🥰 Thank you for sharing 😘
Being a parent can test anyone we have to go through the bad times to appreciate the good times it's human nature. You are doing the best you can Ben & Zoe don't let the negative comments get you down ❤xx
Zoe Ben yous are the most lovely parents in everyway don't ever feel u have to justify yourself if the world was more like yous and your bautiful family it would be a better place to live in ,lv ur videos keep being yous ,yous are smashing social media Joseph is remarkable and will mature in years parenting don't come with a book of instructions we all learn along the way I'm a grandma to 7 and still learning lol 😂 ur fantastic parents ❤
Zoe im like you , you could just do with having your own time with a friend and a cup of coffee , i dont do enough , im same what to make everyone happy , having just like you having the crafts things and the nice walks grandchild all have a walking stick , Zoe, you also my have a touch of autism, your doing ok , but just try have some early morning walks now winter and dark weather is here , youll get your house work done because youll come home happy and mire energy, take care have you coffee and a biscuit ,go on 2 biscuits ha ha , bless you all xxx😘
Ben and Zoe its so frightening to see you trying to get help with Joseph you need to stand back and see that Joseph needs you to step in his shoes and get professional help you cant do this alone get help ok its not easy but it needs you both to help
Zoe, the people who make hateful comments are usually living pretty sad lives and some are just plain mean. But this is no criticism, just a suggestion… I would not highlight the haters at any time on your channel. They are waiting to hear that they have gotten under your skin. Block the negative comments, get rid of them, and just keep doing the good things that you do for your large family each and every day.
So my daughter is autistic and she is 17,she is doing her level 2 in health and social care but finds college and being around others overwhelming.My 4 year old grandson is also autistic but a lot different to my daughter.I find that if they are existed about a party or Christmas etc,they can get very overwhelmed and anything can tip them over the edge .For example my daughter and grandson love Christmas but carnt cope with all the excitement and melt down and it's trying to find them a way to regulate. We are all learning,just take each day at a time xxx
Hi zoe & ben & family. Ive just come across your channel & i think you are a nice family. Don't worry about people that only want to be nasty towards you & your children x
I dont care how many bathrooms you have kids will be kids and they will sometimes want to use a certain bathroo. As parents you cant solve all problems. Your children r so caring for one another and helpful.
I think you guys are doing an amazing job, I have a daughter with ASD and know only too well how hard it is to navigate, your love and learning each day is enough, thank you for your fab videos xxx
Morning Ben , his week as been over excited to much all at once , with Autism there very emotional, it's a matter of little at a time , get a note book and write Joseph's bad days and what's going on at a time , also food can set him of , Luke sugar rush , but he also needs chill time where not to much noise around him , bless him , but over powering things noise and being unsure they have to plan things in there head more then anybody else when they have autism, and hurting his fingers is a big matter for him , ok all of you have a bring weekend , X X they come on.trolls because there fed up in there lives , maybe it's a depression moment , over your head Zoe , if you didn't have a mobile when you know about it then , some many have ADHD, so don't get down Zoe , and you do need to keep some family life to your safe , your not losing your head Zoe bless you , you haven't woke up yet , xxx 👍😘
I have a son who has ASD and he has melt downs even now and he is 11 but I remember when he was a lot younger and it was horrendous sometimes so I feel for u I do. Am no expert but just being a parent sometimes it's trying to rule out things that could be or maybe a trigger or has trigger him to have the melt down to get to the root of it But sometime u can't.always help him and it's something that can't always be explained to why he.is having the.melt down but don't try and talk to him.when he is in that state because you won't get anywhere stay carm and let him have his moment. But there is no right way or wrong way sending lots of love.
Zoe - I totally understand how you are feeling and feel for you - yes yes care less - who cares about these sad individuals who spit venom- saddos - normal people are happyos - Zoe just a tip don’t let them know how they affect you - it eggs them on - just go blah blah blah xXx
Your the same age as my daughter and she's been through a lot but now she's only got one of her 6 children still at home. She has quite lucky that she hasn't had too much trouble with them except the elder son. But having just one child that was a nightmare can feel be just bad enough. Xx
You have come so far from when i first started watching your channel when you had Florence (which is my middle name) by leaps and bounds... there is a channel called mama bear to many, she just had her 15th child...she gets terrible comments too, maybe you could chat with her on how she handles all that, it might help. I did confront a channel that seems to have it in for you, i won't name it, dont want to give them publicity, but I was reasonsble and explained if you don't like it dont watch its not your business, then they came back with, oh so you condone people putting their kids on vlogs for peodifiles to watch the kids, I told her sick people will make anything bad, doesnt matter what you do, then she changed to oh well they film poor kids without consent and i said do you actually watch the channel? they do not film the kids that dont want to be filmed and I said if you dont like them dont watch ...did not hear a peep back, do not give them the satisfaction of living in tiur head rent free..if you mention how much it bothers you thrn youre giving them what they want ...your attention...stick with the ones who support you and enjoy your channel....
I do not understand why people think thay know what this family needs. This family knows what is best as they are living it, not the know-it-all s who think they know jack shit. This family is wonderful. They show the world how a large family live. Unless you are living with them, shut your mouth and keep your opinions to your self. Be nice it does not hurt.
Zoe and ben. People can be such sad cruel individuals. They must lead a sad life. You and your family are a real down to earth set of individuals. Love hearing your stories. Need more cooking vlogs. You are such a great pair of family orionated people i know. Certain people need to look in their own mrror. God bless you all.
Oh Zoe, ive had so many days full of self doubt. Now in my mid 60s and on a good day i can say ******* (fill in expletive of your choice) Im old enough now to do what i want when i want and forget about the rest of them. (other days i disappear under the duvet till i can cope with the world.
Hi Zoe and Ben, I loved listening to you today, I share those same feelings with you Zoe. Human beings have become more unkind, those hateful people have always existed but social media gives them a sense of power. I actually feel quite sad for them. I know that for every 10 experiences with people, 9 are positive and heartfelt, but the one that isn’t affects me. No more though! No need to want to be anything other than yourself, we all know ourselves by now. I have teenagers and I feel their every rejection, the harsh criticisms and hateful friendships, I wish it were different but social media allows me to witness it. You are a lovely family doing great things. We will all get through this.❤xx
No one has to fit in a box( some fit nicely in cages 🤣) i think we learn as adults as much as we did as kids , the hardest bit is when we have to let our teens / young adults learn like we did - they too will no doubt hit our age and think exactly the same with their kids.. they have to learn like we do but that goes against the grain of being a parent cos we want our kids to ‘ bypass’ the hurt, pain , but we cant … they have to learn to grow too🙁xxx
It helps my daughter if I leave her alone at first. When the initial frustration is gone, I hold her a little tighter and rock her. She needs to feel herself a little to calm herself down. But yes, Meltown are not easy for the whole family Google Translator But she has Not autism,they dont now,what is it This Time we are waiting for the results from the Human genetics 
Build up, breakdown /meltdown recovery. Those are the steps Ben, platonic means something totally different. I'm not having a go, I mean it was 8:30, in the morning and the owd grey matter needs warming up 😊. Fighting over the bathroom was common in our house and there was only 3 of us. Accidents happen more so with kids over silly things. Poor lad wait til they all hit their teens and he will wish he had his own porta loo in the garden. You're doing amazingly well xx
No Zoe your so wrong you do not have to fit into a box that you feel others expect of you. Just be yourself, and be true to yourself. The blessing of getting older is you no longer give a damn what people think. You never, ever have to justify yourself to anyone. There will always be nasty spirited people in life, but the problem lay with them. Don't give them head space.
Sensory tent and sensory lamps can be calming as they are for austic children mainly and help alot apparently ❤ hugs for Joseph ❤ Does your takeaway deliver? Most do and it's easier ❤
I’ve never commented before, just wanted to say your Fantastic Parents, your children are immaculate , have wonderful manners, so well presented, you take them to school, do homeschool , lots of clubs and raise them amazingly, DONT let the haters get you down it says more about them than you, I’m a single mum to 2 daughters 25 & 22 been on my own since they were babies, it’s not easy , we can only do our best, that’s all we can do, keep smiling and keep being You ❤,
Please don’t let the miserable humans change the wonderful people that you are. You are spot on Zoe that it’s about them and their own issues. It’s sad that people can be that way but unfortunately they are out there. Just remember all of the people around the world who have grown to love your family and your content. I personally think the idiots that wasted the valuable time of family services should have been punished. Sorry, but I’m not over that yet. I too had to learn not to justify myself that it really isn’t worth my time and those were miserable people that I knew. 🙄 Sending the family hugs from the USA ♥️🥰♥️
Ben and Zoe it is hard when are children have meltdown . I tell my husband to let him be because he make it worse he just feels bad for him. Rude comments are not nice.hope everyone has a fun party.love you guys.❤❤
Haters are gonna hate. They truly do live sad little lives. Your family is so real and down to earth and your vlogs are a breath of fresh air. I've watched y'all for a long time now from across the pond in the US of A and I thoroughly enjoy your family. Keep doing you I hope the idiots move on to another hobby soon.
Put your mind on christmas. You love it and your whole family does. Remember the fun you have with shopping and decorateing. Dont let these downers get you down
Thank you Zoe for your video it’s encouraging to know that there are people out there like me who worry about what people think. I found your video helpful and you are a great family 35:10 7pm!
I know what you are saying Zoe they are just very spiteful. They remind me of children who haven’t been brought up in a happy, loving home and they lash out at people who do. I believe it’s called jealousy so ignore them and realize they are just people who didn’t have a voice and now they are lashing out. Personally I think they need group therapy where they can release all that suppressed hurt and support each other.
Some people can be so jealous that’s what I put it down to, you and Ben are fantastic parents your children are a credit to you . Please don’t let them get to you some of us love the things you share. But it is good to have a moan at least you can rant to the camera 😂😂😂 Don’t stop being you Zoe try your hardest to ignore these idiots xxx
hi sullivan i hope joseph all right and has a better day and i hope his finger ok he such a loverly boy and allway wants to help people and i hope all of you injoy your holloween party and for get your trouble and just in joy the party they will all look great in there costume well i look forward in seeing more great vlog
Zoe I see it that people who are rude and leave rude comments are jealous of you and Ben and the family zoe your a lovely person a great wife to Ben and a great mum to all the kids I only had one son who lives at home after a relationship who got 3 grown up children .I was 18 when I had him and was all fingers thumbs when he came out of hospital with him when he was a teen and went out I told him what time he came in .so long you've let grown rules out to the older teenagers and young adults I left my so notes jf I went out and he came in from school to tell him when I'came home and where I was and he did the same to me he can tell me anything even now .zoe I'm 70 and still feel 15 in the head so long the kidstell you where they are going and come home when they say zoe you won't be doing a bad job love fran xxxxx
They must be so unhappy in there own life’s so be so vile I know it must be difficult to ignore but I think a knowledging them makes them worse they are getting your attention your amazing just remember that ❤️
Great vlog, nice chat with you zoe, it's good to get it all out, just a shame about the nasty comments, just don't watch, simple, Ben and joseph did a good job with the decs, nice stuff out shopping zoe xxx ❤😘
Aah bless Joseph he sounds just like my mates kids they just recently been told they got adhd etc so yeah that's fun lol for her to.try to work with em every day aspecially morning is a nightmare 😂but she's gettin through that's the main thing your decor is fab 😂❤your fab parents ❤️ 💙 all the kids are adorable in there own way I love the spinny thing lol
Don't ever forget you guys are truly amazing and real. Quite often if at home when Quinton has a meltdown he hids under a big thick throw on sofa so its dark and uses one of his flashy lights he stares at it and shakes it around for ages really helps regulate himself. He is opposite to joseph with hugs though he needs tight squeeze hugs and to be held he needs to rub or gently nip or pinch my skin. Really helps him. Meltdowns make him sweat like crazy.
Hi Zoey your doing fine so don't let anyone bring you down they are more to be pitted don't know if I have spelt that right get on with your life Zoey how you want to live it ❤x
