Top Shaming Tactics by Women. 1. "Who Hurt you?" 2. " you're insecure" 3. "You're Controlling" 4. The list Goes on. Don't let women shame you. It's not a shaming tactic if you don't feel the shame. Women will always try to lower you.
Women are the only product (men are products as well) who not only do not know what their consumer (men) wants AND compound the issue by 1) continuously doing things that only WOMEN value and then get mad at men for not accepting those things, THAT MEN Don’t VALUE 2) listen to OTHER UNVALUED PRODUCTS (other single/old/bitter/slutty women) about how they should FURTHER not care about what their consumer (men) want and ONCE AGAIN act confused by the results that they get. Imagine a failing pizzeria saying “I don’t care what the customers want, they must just be INSECURE to pay the prices we charge, they just CANT HANDLE the nasty taste of our pizza. THEN they go to other FAILING pizzerias and proceed to MIMIC all the practices of those soon to be out of business stores
@@zarario4444 You perfectly demonstrated another female shaming tactic...deflection. He made an astute point, but you resorted to taking a cheap shot at men instead of just agreeing. Btw...if a woman is at fault, and she refuses to take accountability, it's not the man's job to take the blame, as you hinted.
The argument in a nut shell: I don't want the consequences of my bad decisions to be negative towards me. This sounded like a conversation I've had in SPARK during middle school
Exactly, Pearl literally destroyed her when she asked her if it’s just about choice, then why are you arguing with him, because it’s about shame. She doesn’t like the fact that men can make a choice that brings shame to women like her
Being unfaithful doesn't dictate how your grandfather was as a husband. If your grandmother was happy, you don't get to say she wasn't just because she endured something you wouldn't be able to. Different times and people.
Different people value different things. Just because her grandmother saw him as a good husband doesn't mean that she has to have to have same opinion of him. We are not required to approve of what other women tolerate. But I do agree with you. If she was happy then be happy for her, but that doesn't mean you have to be satisfied with the same things.
@@joannamonique707 The issue is that she was trying to claim her grandmother wasn't happy or shouldn't have been happy. Her grandmother, like all women, had a choice of men and this was the man she chose. She knew his flaws but was happy to be his main chick that he chose to settle down with. At the end of the day we all have choices. Her grandmother likely could have chosen a less desirable man and had loyalty, but that wasn't what she wanted. Plenty of woman nowadays who do the same thing, choose to be with a man with many options than settle for a man they consider average. Both options are reasonable just so long as you can live with the consequences. We can't get everything. Many decisions are a give and take, want a top 20% guy? Then expect him to have side chicks. That's just the game.
@JustPearl;yThings....I swear Pearl's attitude and how she maintains frame nd laughs negative push back is crazy inspiring...keep at it. great video 🔥🔥🙌🙌
We live in a feminized society and this podcast just proved it, she literally just argued that shaming should not exist. Hence why there's fat phobia, homophobia and all other phobias cuz we live in a woman -centered world
Ultimately, it all comes back to money. Women own the majority of consumer debt and make more purchasing decisions, so they are the targets of most marketing campaigns. If men spent more frivolously, the marketing would follow the money.
Kudos to Ricco and Pearl for keeping the information and stats specific, yet keeping the truths "in-general". Unlike the ladies on the other side of the table that kept acting oblivious, and relating and responding to the statements as if they were on the witness stand defending their own personal experiences. My head starting to hurt. Great show tho.
They do that because they know what they’re saying is true and 9 times out of 10 the examples they used are them and facing the fact that people and especially men view their behavior as a net negative is unbearable because they’re embarrassed that they’re low key being called out. It’s a dead give away when you get defensive at a generalized statement, it’s because the generalized statement is you.
She don’t care about no statistics or studies bro 😂 she only asked to try to invalidate Pearls argument. Most Women don’t care about facts or whether they make sense or not they just want to win the argument by any means necessary…
Loni is bitter and doesn’t want to take responsibility for her choices. I wish they had another black women on the panel that didn’t have as much trauma to balance things out. Because she doesn’t represent women like me at all.
@@duanewoodson9804 The only black woman willing to show her face on the show. The woman with the low body count. The woman that agrees women shouldn’t be whores.
Yes def giving bitter energy, her face looked bitter the entire time. The other woman off camera too, like why they have these women representing blank women, it’s giving old, tired, and resentful.
Pearl: “If everyone gets a choice, then why are you still arguing with him?” Ladies and gentlemen that was the killshot of this whole conversation, if she truly believed what she said, then she would have no problem with me asking about the body count, getting an honest response, and then making their CHOICE. The reason she has a problem with it though, it’s because she is being disingenuous, she understands that there is a stigma that comes with having a high body count, that’s what she refuses to be honest about. It was never about choice, it was always about shame. Pearl literally killed her entire argument with that question, and actually made it look even worse for the women that are you against being truthful about the body count, that just means they want the ability to lie about their body count and avoid shame. Otherwise, they would be truthful and let them out and make a choice.
I remember an episode of The Good Doctor where a woman was supposed to go through surgery and this woman told them to not use anesthesia. Why? She used to have an opioid addiction and didn’t want any of that near her to prevent relapse. Her reasoning? She has a husband and daughter who she doesn’t want to see her descend into such a state. She was willing to stay awake and conscious while they cut her open to keep her family together. She accepted that her habits actively shaped her life and she was willing to go through that pain to keep that habit away. Why then would Loni say your habits don’t define you? If you sleep around, you’re a H03. Man or woman.
Its crazy how it became so normal and accepted to dismiss what men values and preferences. Its really sad. It makes me want to stand on my ground even more. Being called selfish, insecure etc just because of my standards
Pearl have the ladies on RU-vid shook🤣🤣🤣 the men are loving it!💯 Rico was making great points. Pearl get you some fighting lessons under your belt because one of these days the ladies are going to take the facts beyond just being offended.
I've never met or seen a woman on camera champion having a high body count and also be happily married Sidenote you can tell by how argumentative and bothered this Lani lady is by every topic she's ran through also she made everything personal
That’s the thing that came off, and it’s funny because the guy actually made this point, that you don’t need to know her exact body count, just a conversation logging up with them will tell you, we have over an hour of this woman talking, and a lot of people in the comments came to the same conclusion, she has clearly been ran through
They wouldn't say it but the comment section can. Lani was mad the whole episode and being passive aggressive towards Rico and the guest. She kept taking everything personal because most of everything that they discussed actually related to her. Ya'll come on these panels and want to say that the people you don't agree with are childish and/or stupid for having their viewpoint but they are extending wayyyyyy more grace than society does concerning the topics. If you were a single mother and homeless then you need to tell the people (that care) ways to prevent situations like that rather than trying to promote it as a badge or a homage to you for being "strong".
She definitely has a high body count. You can see the pain and hear it after the 50 bodycount/debt comparison. Signs of being RAN-THRU 💯% 304 Alert ⚠️ 📢 #SheBelongsToTheStreets
Loni keeps saying that men are selfish and insecure because they don’t want a woman who has a relatively high body count, not realizing those are the exact same reasons said women have high body counts. A secure woman doesn’t need constant validation that men she’s attracted to will sleep with her. An unselfish woman would not give away the thing that her future husband values the most to have her bills paid or live a luxury lifestyle in the short-term. Loni and the other woman didn’t really seem to care about why this dynamic is important to marriage minded men because they are so dead-set on their extreme application of “judgement-free”. While I appreciate their attempt to be consistent, they are blurring the lines between “judgement-free” and “consequence-free”, and that’s where the big disconnect in this conversation was. I wish they would’ve slowed down the conversation when Rico tried to make this point against her obscure example. They tried to discredit it as a “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” type of thinking when it wasn’t.
I’m convinced that they play the “I don’t understand” card whenever they know that it will contradict their stance. The ladies have NO SOLUTION, but are challenging Rico and Pearl to give them the SOLUTION, then they find a problem with the solution
I love love loved this episode. I'm glad Rico stood on his square... Thank ya'll for this truth. I'm sorry but our sisters look so outclassed in these conversations with Pearl. Pearl argues along the lines of a factual and logical basis. The sisters argue based upon feelings and at times make things up in order to support a dysfunctional community with respect to promiscuity. As Pearl puts it, body count matters to men for many reason, the most important reason is "it just does". This idea that men should not care when they do is insane. Constantly, sisters respond by saying that it just shouldn't matter but refuse to acknowledge that men and women are different and then find out why it's matterd to men. A women that sleeps with many men repulses men. The fact that Loni ignored when Pearl said the study was done by the CDC and she didn't responds shows you the disingenuous nature of Loni and women like her regarding this discussion.
When I know that woman has a high body count….it definitely repulses me. It’s cool that women are free and earn their own living, but I’ll never be able to normalize it. I’m not having my kids with a worldly woman.
“The fact that Loni ignored…shows you the disingenuous nature…”, And for this reason my friend, the healing these broken women need - takes so long to begin! 🤦🏽♂️
@rmak2950 sadly, my friend.(1) I've come to learn that women like loni are abundant and (2) women generally do not care what men think when it comes to intersexual dynamics. This is why this conversation goes nowhere.
Sheesh she even got upset at pearl laughing wtf. She knows how to keep it light hearted and not take it personal, loni and Marie are being so combative and difficult and dismissive. Def helped me see how being delusional and argumentative ppl can see black women as. All the complaining and no solutions and then when pearl brings some up then that’s a problem too. Like it’s like they needed a white board to stay on point and give proper definitions. You can tell they are all on diff levels of understanding. Like you can’t be in a class with these types of responses. Then to bring up diff stats too like in text form on the screen and for these women to see bc this was crazy. I can’t believe I watched this entire thing, I have so much anxiety omg … they need a definition for generalizations and stereotypes. And no one is just gna stop loni, like what world are you living in? Just accept the facts! She saying the same thing over and over and it’s like wtf lady like why did they put these ppl together. Bring pearl back. Did some of these ppl go to school? Like they just talking with no facts or academic findings. Why does she think ppl lying about numbers or does she really mean herself? The rebuttals were so weak omg
Kiki said: "Society doesn't like hoes." Theres two ways to respond to that 1. Don't be a hoe. 2. Lie about being a hoe. Which one do these women default to as if the other option doesn't exist?
SHM. So much deflection, lack of accountability, gas lighting, 'the 1 exceptions' and even when Rico give Marie her the solution and facts she still won't accept. Her own words: " I agree but,,,," then Annie contradicts herself about the lying aspect. How sad.
Great show! This shit was funny as hell!! 😂😂😂 The hate is so clear from the other two women towards what Pearl was saying. Most women hate being put in a category even when it’s 💯 TRUE, distain taking accountability for their actions and have the biggest problem accepting reality. Just my factual observational opinion! 😉
Loni you cant destigmatize a man's nature. Let's say that he doesn't know your body count. For most chicks, their mentality and actions will tell on them. The more bodies you have, the more you have been impacted emotionally and mentally by guys. Far too often, this leads to broken, combative, masculine chicks, neither of which are appealing to most guys, especially the top guys that most chicks be wanting. So rather or not you tell your exact number, you tell on yourself and it hurts your potential prospects as well as any guy who gets with you.
The funniest and saddest part of what you said, most women don't understand. Depending on the guy, we'll sniff that out within a week of "getting to know them".
They want to claim that it's just a number while they proceed to complain about all the baggage and trauma they've accumulated from the guys that did them wrong throughout their lifetime. The self denial is in overdrive.
She blew it wide open, when she said most men don't know the real body count of their wives. Then..to cover her *ss, she comes back with "maybe they didn't ask". Well...more like, they DID and were LIED to. (I still can't believe she described her V on a podcast) Real class, there. 304 talk, right there!
On multiple platforms, most of these women just end up looking like idiots next to Pearl. They’re so busy trying to be “right”, their ability to make a reasonable argument goes right out the window.
You can not make a 304 into a house wife. Nothing increases in value with time and use. This woman is the poster child for not being held accountable. Her decision making skills are so skewed she don't even believe herself.
48:20 Hilarious! 😂 Pearl was dropping the invisible mic! 🖐🎤 Also,I knew loni was going to be a problem when she introduced herself with the magic hands wave.
Everytime I see y’all collaborate with other creators in the space the quality goes up. No offense to most of the content on this channel, but only the guest are able to articulate their ideas clearly. The real reason why this channel hasn’t grown as it should’ve is due to this. No matter how many viral moments, you get staying power from replicating success. That comes from having a succinct message that can be articulated no matter the circumstance.
Not kinda, it is. If you assume a woman is losing her virginity in high school, so thats 15, she got 10 bodies in the span of 4-5 years. As a woman thats not good. The goal is to keep that number low if not zero.
Wow that lady Lanie spent the entire discussion being salty. Having a different opinion is one thing, but she took things way too personally. Sending her healing energy and peace.
Once Loni said “I’m not feminine” the conversation should have been over. I think these conversations need to include women who WANT to be married and want to improve. Women like Loni, don’t want to improve and don’t want to be called out for her shortcomings. She wants to be accepted, good or bad.
At this point these wonderful conversations go in circles with no accountability or middle ground. Let's just see where single women and single men end up in 10 years from now.
Telling men to accept 304s is like telling women to accept a man, for example, that has a drug problem that keeps relapsing to just trust he won’t keep doing it again and shaming her because she doesn’t want to accept him and then tell her not to shame him for being a drug addict.
Bodycount matters because most men care about it, every man wants what's special. so if you've slept about & giving your body to alot of men it doesn't become special anymore, gold would lose value if everyone had it, its the same logic.
It was simultaneously good and frustrating discussion. When Loni didn't agree that habits inform identity I had to tap out. Well adjusted adults accept consequences for their actions unfortunately modern women aren't
Education, income, proffession, place of birth, age, purse brand, ring diamond, clothes size or body count you name it. People flash things when they're proud. People lie or withhold information when they're ashamed. Common since. I don't hear woman say my purse's brand doesn't matter when they have an expensive purse. 😜
She hinted at that when she talked about her kids, she said men still tell her she has a tight p*ssy, that could only happen if you’re still out here getting fucked by random dudes
More Pearl please!!!!…. but also the episodes would be cut down in half cuz she was stating facts the whole episode and didn’t get in her feelings 🖤 lol
Shout out to Rico and Pearl... they were fighting the other two women intentionally trying to derail the conversation and act like they don't understand the whole show
All of her points are to shame men for pointing out poor decisions. She also tends to compare herself to the worst case scenario to make herself feel better.
These women like thugs and bad boys. Those men are usually incarcerated a lot. That’s why that’s the problem in women’s eyes, instead of the obvious reality that all those other things are factors.
Everyone has a choice...so you can't get mad at a anyone for not wanting you bc of ur body count. But the main question was why do women lie, and the answer is bc they're ashamed or shamed by society. Which makes sense, bc again those were your decisions so you lie to "put your best foot forward". That's why ppl need to communicate and ask the tough questions before having sex.
That was the exact moment in the conversation, that she let the cat out of the bag. She even tried to say later that she’s not there to be combative, but that’s what she was the entire time she was talking, and she gave it away why she was so combative, because she felt personally attacked. I think both of those women have skeletons in their closet that made the logic that pearly and Rico were talking about, sting a little bit more at a personal Level
“ Lani“ was taking the general conversation too personal. When a man marries a woman, we pretty much telling the world, out of all these women on earth, I picked/choose you.! No one wants to go to the supermarket and picked up spoiled fruits or veggies .
She's going to a tribe that wasn't a part of Western society, a tribe that moved differently than other tribes in North America, to try to make a point. Nice try, but mostly everyone who lived in NA in the 1700s practice monogamy. Amongst Native American tribes, the chiefs and best hunters and best warriors had multiple wives and concubines, but the women didnt have multiple men.
It's interesting to see how certain women cannot face men's views, even when a woman like Pearl bring to the table. There's no way that solutions can be found without accountability and responsibility. Denial, contradiction or acting like an ostrich won't change the truth. Big up to Pearl and Rico 💪🏾✊🏾
I remember when my best friend was talking to a girl years ago. We were all 18, she had 20 bodies. 20 bodies at 18!!!! We were like ain’t no way in hell
