From the documentary Punk Jews, Kal Holczler returns to his home in the ultra-orthodox village of New Square, New York to confront his parents and engage them to join his fight against sexual abuse of children in their community.
Abusers are in all communities. They thrive in communities like this where they know they can keep their secrets. This man has great courage to go back and fight for victims.
This is the result of repression and secrecy without accountability its the same in the catholic church and for basically and fundamentally the same reasons.
So true. Key to secrecy seems to be a disposition about ignoring reality in favour of ideals and concepts. Notions that seem to provide orientation and security in a complex world. Yet ... this creates lots and lots harmful taboos. I do know similar stories from the pietist/puritan Protestant world, Jehova's Witnesses, ... The mechanisms of abuse additionally always include power and ignorance. On the wider societal field this also explains why the ratio of gender nonconforming children becoming victims is extraordinarily high. It's so important to break the silence. To expose the mechanisms in different communities ... that finger pointing to specific community becomes rather pointless. Yet, the courage it takes to get the voice of victims heard and the violence that may (and does occur) when abuse is in danger to be exposed ... is very different in different communities. It get more difficult the more hierarchies are accepted as "natural" and yet are informed by random immutable traits (like skin color, sex, gender, age, ...). A huge thank you to Kal Holczler, who is fighting abuse within certain parts of the Jewish community. (And the case of Malka Leifer shows: Training just women is not enough ...)
But they have it easier in some religious groups, some groups like scouts, brownies and some jobs, such as teaching. It’s disgusting, yet the bird app wants everyone to be nice to them and change the name of them 😤😤😤🤮🤮🤮
I was happy to see that she is willing to open her home up for this important meeting, to give families a way to deal with this. She is sticking her neck out. I can't imagine what it was like for Kal, or for his mother to find out such a thing happened to her son.
You can see the look of shame and regret on his mother's face that she allowed that to happen to her son. At the same time you can see how much respect she has for him and the look of pride that she has for the man that he has become. Keep up the great work!!
She had no idea about what was happening to him! She looks shocked and defensive to me! But I have no idea how she's feeling because I'm not her. Still, she did not allow anything! She simply did not know. If anything, blames herself for not knowing like so many mothers do...
What about physical abuse? I’m almost 60 years old and was physically and emotionally abused in a orthodox family. Everything was dealt in-house and no one believed me including my aunt and uncles. It ruined my life❣️🇨🇦
Janet Wayne I just read your story and I feel So sorry for you. The disbelieve and lack of trust can be very hurtful. I send you my warm support. I believe you. Shalom from France.
@@Fumi007 What In The World?!?! How could you ever come up with that conclusion? She is not trying to take attention away from him! My goodness! She's just asking about physical and emotional abuse! That kind of abuse happened too! WOW! You have absolutely no compassion at all! She mentioned her abuse and you respond by accusing her of seeking attention! She's wanting help! Wow! Absolutely DISGUSTING!
This violation of children in this community that tries so hard to live by G-d's word is a horrible abomination. What good is it to follow mitzvos so conscientiously when the most atrocious abominations are being committed against these children?
Ur dealing with evil spirits that need to come out! Why do u think everything geting bad now we need to serve Allmighty GOD psalms 103 GOD deliveres us from satan and seats us in heaven with him!
I'm sorry to hear you say this. True, there is no excuse for allowing such a thing to happen. But when I do something wrong, it doesn't invalidate the things I do right! (Of course I would never hurt a child.) It's very hard to remind ourselves that the good side of a person (referring to the bystanders, not necessarily the abuser?) is just as real as the bad side.
@@forestmcneir3325 MISHNAH. He who gives of his seed to Molech incurs no punishment unless he delivers it to Molech and causes it to pass through the fire. If he gave it to Molech but did not cause it to pass through the fire, or the reverse, he incurs no penalty, unless he does both. Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sanhedrin 64a
The fact that communities like this seem to think they are above the law... is disgusting! You hear of it in many many fundamentalist religious sects in all religions... it’s horrible, and sad that so many victims have nowhere to turn... and in many cases don’t even realize what they have been through was wrong... this guy is doing good work ❤️ May God be with him in his journey.
Unfortunately they are above the law as the law doesn't dare get involved with these communities. The ones who suffer are the kids. All because PC ness.
Emteepa EmTrayPa - Law enforcement has a duty to protect ALL citizens. It shouldn’t matter what community they live in. This is America. If the police won’t go in there and the community won’t stand up for the innocent, then maybe some “street justice” needs to happen. I hope that girl sues her evil uncle.
You had to have such a horrible experience in order to find your path. Your calling is to help and defend the children. Hope you know that there is something greater giving you guidance, strength and courage. You are not alone.
child sexual/physical/emotional abuse is soul-killing. it's imperative for the victims to get justice before they can regain their lives. thank you, kal. my prayers for your healing and the healing of all victims.
Kal is such a gentle, lovely man. His cousin is sweet. I’m so sorry this happened to them but happy for them that they have the courage to expose evil people. I hope they both find immense happiness in their lives.
God made us sexual creatures - male and female - and sexual abuse is NEVER acceptable. Hiding abuse behind a religious veneer is the most despicable act of treachery to another fellow human being. I honour Kal for not only talking about it but doing something in his community. I am so glad his parents are now supporting him. I pray for continued courage for all who stand up for righteousness.
@@volz519 lol they will probably claim the Elders Protocols of Zion as their source, I dont believe that there is really anything that promotes pedophilia in the Talmud, because that would also mean the Christian bible promotes it to
@@dogguy8603 The Bible and the Talmud have absolutely nothing to do with each other and do not come from the same source. Your reasoning is so strange. You litterally pulled that put of thin air!
God bless this man for his courage ... why aren’t the authorities called into this this needs to be broughtout into the open and stop the sexual abuse of your children !
Your special man and I take my hat to you for standing up and helping I wish I could help in some way but am blind and live in UK. I hope God will help you get all that is needed for helping the children etc
Tessa, I hope someone was there to help you. Nebach, even if the abuser may have been abused, it's no excuse. They should get help, instead of causing suffering.
Being Brave to be a Good Leader for child abuse is who we all need. Thank You for telling what happened to you dear Kal. I am a survivor too. My baby sitter teenager neighbor took me over to my mom's ironing board. Some day I am going to protest by walking down a street holding a banner that I will make with other survivors. Yeah... You lead the way !!! We need You !!!
As a child abuse survivor, I realize that it is difficult for people to understand the emotional baggage that victims must deal with as they attempt to come to terms with such a traumatic childhood experience.
J. Alexander Maximilian- New Square is no more of a disgusting place than any other place. Bad things happen in all places, and all communities. The point of the video is that this guy is making a difference for the future.
Mr. Holczler is extremely courageous and very driven. Bringing justice and, hopefully, closure to himself and others is a big thing. I thought his conversation with his mother was brave. His mother seems to have stepped up to the plate to help and that required a shift in perception, I think she is to be applauded. Lot of lying going on. Congratulations to Kal. What you are doing is very important.
No she is not ... she is passive and was passive probably her husband is and was a kind of the macho of the family ... and she was submissive ... what else could it be ... she did not see the signs??? probably she turn her head the other side many do ... Brave and admirable are those mothers who confront and battle for their child less than that is unacceptable
@@margotward8736 tbh when you don't have a thing in your awareness, it isn't in your awareness. The mind in a pure state, is of a level of consciousness that is innocent like a child. The thinking is pure, and there can be no assumptions of anything unsafe, impure etc. It has been not conditioned in a perverse way, so literally cannot suspect wrong doings of this nature. It doesn't matter if the person is an adult, or child - what is active in the psyche, is what it is, and so if it is of a pure state, it cannot be seeing things as impure, unsafe etc. There is so much trust and love. I have experienced this, coming of a pure state of being, in whole love, trust etc, as an adult, and coming into contact with those who are perverse in their mind is various ways. Even to have their view, pressed upon my awareness that was of a pure state, and treated how I was treated, was deeply disturbing. I didn't know people could be or think however, or that various things would come to pass, just because I was so trusting and in my heart etc So I totally understand how she was believing she was safe, her children were safe, and she be unable to imagine various things. She could not, as it wasn't an active thing in her mind, psyche, etc. That's how brains are. And, when she did learn of the things, she did take action, after discussion etc.
So sad that this happened to him and is continuing to happen. I am a survivor is sexual abuse and it’s far too common. He is also very pleasing to look at
Amazing courage. Overcoming the pain and the shame of what happened to him, and then helping others who are dealing with the same issues, that is quite remarkable. God's shalom be with Kal.
All too commmon in all groups. However where people are powerless, often have no money or are uneducated and particularly where women live under patriachal societies it is harder to stop this.
I lived 15 years in London in the Jewish community. I study their culture and religion. I truly believed that this nation was chosen by God Watching movies like this makes me so disgusted with people who think that they are better than others There is more abuse and iniquities than out side world I am really sorry for all abused kids-and women. They really can’t go anywhere to talk. Kal God bless you. Your uncle doesnt have to testify in fron of you, but he will testify one day to God.
this man tells the sad truth . wheres cnn ? abc? nbc? fox news? the news papers. ? magazines? where are you? you tell the world about catholic priests? how about Rabbi ?
jimmy: This guy is bad, but he is one rabbi. Just one. The scandal of Priests and nuns being sexually abusive to children was global, and the whole vast institution of the Catholic church. In short, it was a bigger story and was treated as such. This small group is a cult.
Way to go Mommy!! She loves her son unconditionally. Be blessed. May the wake up call send safe waves through the kehilla and into Monsey Spring Valley where my son may he rest in peace was abused.
I'm certainly not against Jews, Just against any form of sexual abuse, or abuse in any form in any community. It is good that someone cares enough to make a difference. Well done Hal.
🤔🤔🤔........ According to "biblical scripture" 😏😏😏, these white guys in this video ARE NNNNNOT THE REAL JEWS. Just sayin'...... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Abraham Shekelbergstien.......... they come from the Caucasus Mountains of Europe.... these are the Ashkenazi and the khazar Jews.... yes? With that being said, that makes them white..........Nnneeeeexxt.
So what you are saying is that a community that purports to LOVE it's children, in fact turns their back on their own babies and sacrifices them to untold abuse for a place in society? Abuse is everywhere however when it's entrenched because of stupidity, then it's child abandonment. You are very brave and I pray for you and the wonderful work you are doing.
Yes, omg how stupid can a mother be not to see the signs of child abuse you have to be incredibly stupid or incredibly scared ... but the love of a mother should prevail children are meant to be protected at all costs ,,, some mothers are not innocent are just stupid or not educated enough ... innocence if for children .... I am sorry but any woman who enters a marriage and has children should be attentive, alert and vigilant better to be safe than sorry the mind of child is precious..... I would never trust any man with my child not even his father he was aware of my decision now day U cannot trust any man around your child
Child abuse or abuse to anyone in any form should not happen but it definitely makes a huge different when the people you trust within your family believe you, stand by you and support you with all the help you need.
Kal and Ghitti, thankyou so much for your great courage in speaking about the abuse you suffered. The more people come forward, the more the issue is raised, the better the chances of protecting children within the community. You are doing great work but I urge you to involve the police. Kal, it is no wonder you developed addictions, given what you'd been through, and I am so proud of you for overcoming them. I am not Jewish but cruelty of any sort to children of any race, color or faith apalls me. Wishing you all the best in your endeavours.
Great, inspirational young man. I wish him the best and happiest life he could possibly live. His mother and women like her needs to wise up and stop burying their heads in the sand. They are disgraceful, and desperately failing in their duty to protecting their children.
Kal, you are amazing for what you are doing, you risk everything to try and protect children. Respect for your parents for supporting you. I wonder if this planet will ever be free from bad people. One thing is for sure, without people like you Kal it definitely won’t be.
I salute your courage. It's hard enough in any context but here it's particularly harder. I wish you and the other victims courage and God help them because they are on their own right because what happened to them is WRONG. It is so simple to understand and the people of any community should acknowledge that and do something about it.
You are my hero and it is true families do not want to talk about it and most do not want to hear about it it is suffering in silence bless you and all that you say and all that you do shalom
I forgave my abuser! I specifically went and asked him for forgiveness! Because I hated him- and he broke down and started to cry. And then named all of the things he’d done to me and asked for my forgiveness!
I watched this video before and my hat is off to this man. I do recall him saying "that all Jewish children should be safe." I wish he had said "all children."
As Jewish, I never heard of any child sex abuse in our community but i support Kal to speak up and confront those people that attack children, I would do the same thing
My prayer is for All humans across the world to protest, march, & demand justice for ALL abused children. All Children's Lives Matter. Abusing a child is the worst crime against humanity & it's rampant in homes, churches, schools, government & all kinds of institutions. It has been going on for thousands of years All the people demonstrating for anti-abortion & they won't even address child abuse. We will never have peace till children are free from abuse.
Your missing the point and it doesn't matter if it's one group or other ........ He is just bringing awareness and help to victims and let's be honest your not 100% sure that your community is free of abuse .........
