Kids or No Kids? | Career vs. Motherhood 

Freezing your eggs is not so easy for the average person. It’s expensive and then maintaining the eggs until u use them.

People talk about freezing eggs like it’s a guarantee to even have a child. It’s not. Let’s be real, we women have a window to have kids, and it doesn’t last a lifetime. At the end of the day, priorities should be in line. I’d tell women in mid 20s to early/mid 30s who know they want a family to put more focus on finding a good man and settling down instead of career. Don’t spend long hours in the office. Get out and meet men. Life is short. You can always build a career but you can’t always have kids.🤷🏾‍♀️

These two beautiful women were the absolute crushes of men my age and younger. However this was a missed opportunity for these ladies. I think prioritizing career over children especially if you want children will always come back to haunt you. I believe choosing the right man early in life and working hard you can still have a great fulfilling life with children. You chosing a career over family doesn't give anyone fulfillment. I wish people would just be honest and tell the young sisters you cannot have it all. Men are being honest with themselves with saying building yourself takes time and more than likely you won't be young with money. You sisters have a platform to educate young women and tell them hey career is good but family... not being a BM but a family is better. Men prioritize their careers to take care of their family, what are you prioritizing your career for if there is no family or might night ever be one. You both are beautiful and probably have plenty of men coming after you but not one man measured up enough to say hey let me build a life with this man? You think it will get any easier with even more time?

There's a reality many women just aren't willing to face: fair or not, men want younger women to marry. They want families. Women who fall out of the childbearing window aren't good candidates for marriage if you want to have kids. It's also really draining to have kids. It's the type of work that is best done when younger. So if a woman wishes to put career over family she can. She just needs to face the very harsh reality that men who want families will likely not be interested in them. Throw in the fact that women generally don't "date down" and the pool of men is very small. And more likely than not, the men she's going to want if she's a high earning woman, will likely not want her. It's simply biological reality. No amount of social engineering will change that.

you'll be 50 when kids are 10. that's the only thing about having kids late. you'll be alot older during those phases that require alot of energy

The wall is undefeated for a reason 2 perfect examples right here 🤣🤣🤣

In life there are trade-offs and compromises, Julissa and Rocsi chose career over starting a family. You have to live with the decisions you made. The chances of you finding long-term relationship at your age is very slim

I appreciate these open minded honest conversations 🙌🏽

I love how honest this conversation is! I’m 25 & married, and finally this year I feel ready to have a baby. And I think it’s okay for women to have a baby whenever they want or if they don’t want kids that’s okay too. My aunts tell me I’m too young & I don’t care. No one has the right to tell you when you should have a baby, do it when you want to & feel ready💕

I’m sorry but biological age is more than a mindset. Having children past 35 is not only more difficult but more dangerous. Freeze your eggs if you can afford it. The sooner you do it, the better chances you have.

Lmaooooo check in on the juevos😂😂😂

Man, this is sad. Women actually think this way. I stopped at freezing eggs, smh.

Teach younger women a career is great but marriage & motherhood is even greater nature doesn't care about your feelings and most of these woman can't afford to freeze their eggs balance is key to life

It’s so nice to see you guys are friends.

I say do what makes you happy, there is no right or wrong. Loved this video

IVF cost like $10K+ per attempt (not covered by insurance) regardless of success or failure and it fails most of the time. I think on average when it succeeds it takes at least four tries. Should also add that cost to use a surrogate ranges from $100,000 to $150,000.

Feminism has told women to submit to a career instead of a man... This is where it leads. Best of luck, ladies. I truly hope the career gives you all the fulfillment you were looking for because at this point, biological children are not very likely to happen.

Thank you ladies for giving horrible advice to the next generation of ladies. Just like you, they can also have fun, “legs wide open” in their 20s and 30s just as long as they freeze their eggs in their 40s. Love it. As long as they stay on the streets, everyone’s happy.

You ladies will be wonderful and powerful mother's! God can make the impossible possible.

I think you can have it all if you want. don't waste your time being in a long committed relationship with the wrong person..... when you are with the right person, you can also have the career you want. I really NEEDED this episode ladies. #Wishing you both many blessings and prosperity.

I loved this episode. I love them! They’re such great hosts. Such an interesting subject!

You have to prioritize wanting to get married like you do for your careers.. The hard part for y'all is that both of y'all are 1# high earning women so naturally you want a man making either the same or more and that's where the hard part comes..

Yes Mija WAIT! Because kids are not an accessory and be careful who you have them with!!! They’re worth the wait the husband and the baby and it’s a team effort so never forget that!

The ignorance and misogyny in the comments is loud . Let's not put societal limits to when people can create a family. It's 2021, there so many options to build a family . Women get judged for having big dreams & get penalised for having grand aspirations. Career can be such an integral part of someone's life & they don't have to compromise. Based on studies, women are more economically impacted due to the time implications of having a kid. People can find love at any age. Settling just for marriage & kids doesn't guarantee happiness, a healthy relationship with your partner and kids should be deemed more important. We can't keep feeding these limiting beliefs. You can have it all just maybe not all at the same time. There is no one right way to live life, there are too many nuances to just create blanket statements about women focusing on career. Men simply cannot be the spokesperson for women issues. Having a healthy partnership should be the goal so we can create more stable homes for kids. Women shouldn't rush kids or building a family because of societal pressures. Statements like focusing on career instead of building a family is not fulfilling is only based on your perspective. Inner purpose can be fulfilling . Women have only started exercising the power of choice and full autonomy over their lives & bodies recently . Also realise you don't know these women fully, deeply and wholly to judge whether they had a missed opportunity. So many experiences in life like trauma, the past, health etc can impact ones decision to create a family. As a society, we need to hold more grace and compassion for people to change their mind. If you don't want a family at 30 then change your mind at 40, it is still ok. Every decision has an impact. I hope women who choose to wait to have kids beyond the biological clock research on other options and remain flexible in creating a family in a non-traditional way. Due to the biological clock, if it is a factor I hope more research goes into the alternatives & embracing creation of a family in ways you didn't think of before. Regardless, women get judged for everything. If you didn't want a career, there would be backlash. I hope women continuously choose themselves and prioritise their joy. Judgement will always come & I hope women embrace alternative methods but don't limit yourself on when to create a family and find love. This response isn't in no way to debunk the whole biological clock reality, it is to show that we cannot make life altering decisions based on fear. Adopting a kid or surrogacy isn't less valuable over carrying your own child. All life is precious. Life is not linear enough to assume that all women can easily find a good man in their early life . So many people have the partner, kids and thriving career hence proof you can have it all. Just not always at the same time or the way you want it. Sending love to these women, I hope they receive all the things they desire and the continuously show up for themselves in a society that is so ready to chew them up. I pray more men broaden their minds & heal from patriarchal mindsets. I pray that science continuous to make breakthroughs so many more options are available and affordable. You can pursue a career for yourself & to push boundaries in various fields. Also understand that for ambitious, career driven and focused women, the dating pool shrinks because most men like the idea of a strong and independent woman but can't handle the reality of such a woman. To my sister's, YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL. I hope you take charge and define what "having it all" means to you. We are all different. I hope you surround yourself with men who support that vision you have for yourself. Don't take others people's truth to be your own. You get to define everything for yourself. ❤️ If at any point, having kids is more valuable to you than a career, that too is beautiful. Pursue this fully. You are not less valuable for choosing that path . Always do what makes you happy ☺️ Motherhood is truly a divine experience. I hope all people who desire to experience this, get to live out their dreams. This world is nothing without mothers. If you got kids early, your journey is equally valuable. All paths have their pros and cons. I hope women struggling with fertility and relationships find more safe spaces online to be vulnerable without judgement. Women don't only exist to birth and marry. These same men deemed you worthy in your 20s when you are young, had so called crushes but at 40 deem you as "waste" or "expired goods". So I hope women find men who celebrate them at any age :) Aging is a normal human reality but for women it is another parameter to be judged on. Lowering your standards for men will never be a solution to attaining happy and healthy long term relationships.

I love seeing you and Rocsi together!! I definitely would love to see these real convos more on your channel…keep them coming!

I really liked this dialogue. I love the traditional women mindset. I haven’t researched if there is a correlation for this, but I believe individuals who were raised in a two parent household look to have that same family dynamic in this day and time. This society thinks being a baby momma or baby daddy is more of an achievement than being married. This is no shade to what I’m about to say. Please read this in a positive light. Looking objectively at these beautiful ladies situation. Kevin Samuels talks about this all the time. How successful career driven women have chosen to postpone marriage and pregnancy for careers, I.e securing the bag. How the modern day women thinks. These are two gorgeous women. Time isn’t on anyone’s side. We all get older. We men are visual, sexual creatures. Men choose a women for looks. Women chose men for security, and money. I tend to want to know how a women thinks after I get pass the “looks” as well. Some men don’t. The real question to ask themselves what are the trade offs? It was said that successful women look to have a man that is financially well off more than them. And let’s be serious most women have this imaginary man their looking for. With their long list of requirements. Their needs to be a trade off somewhere. Only 10% of men make over 100k. And only the top 1% make over 400k. I still see some of my favorite model and actresses from when I was a teenager either single, or divorced. And age is catching up with them.

Rocsi's prime was 18-24. She had ample time to lock down a quality man. The fact that she wasted 16-22 years and now resorts to freezing her 40 year old eggs means its over

This was such a great episode I loved it. Then again you 2 are so candid I love you both❤️

Rocsi! So nice to see her again ❤️ This is a real conversation, i love that women are prioritizing their wants and dreams before starting a family for the sake of meeting societal expectations. As a woman you are all you need to complete you. Everything else is just the cherry on top of the cherry 😉

If you did not lock that man down during your teens, twenties or even thirties, why would you succeed when you’re nearing 50? You choose that career and forfeited motherhood. You can’t have both, you have been lied to. 40 to 80 is a long way to go. Enjoy your career, girlfriends, wine, and the occasional hookup with that man that does not want you as a wife.

Allyson Felix didn’t let nobody stop her from having her baby either

The teenager in me is excited right now!!!! Love you girls….grew up watching both of you.

My all time 2 favs please do more videos together do a series anything por favor

Really enjoyed this conversation ❤️

Rocsi spittin facts!! Love this interview! Lemme go follow her YT! 🖤💫

When I tell you my girl crush dreams came true during this interview!! 😍😍 obsessed & admire these 2 sooooo much!!!! ❤️❤️

What career i haven’t seen you guys in any movies, tv shows or anything major recently so what career???

I’m glad I found your channel Julissa! As a 38 year old professional Latina working abroad, I can relate with your conversation. I am like you though, I’m traditional and I’m not settling! Ain’t nothing to be embarrassed about and no shame. I believe it will happen when it happens primero Dios.

Great conversation ladies. There's noting wrong with growing up in a traditional way.

As they say in that toxic man-o-sphere, "The 'Wall' is undefeated."😔🥶🤦‍♂️

Why are some men bother by this though? How does this affect any men in any way if woman waits to have kids or can't conceive children. Even if that same woman is interested in you ; you guys have options right and don't have to deal with her. So what is the problem men? I really will like to understand from a males perspective without a rude or crude response .

Yall TWO are literally my FAVORITE!

Freezing eggs and blaming men mindset is why y’all are single and childless with all your beauty. Beyoncé is more successful yet she has a husband and a family.Why is that??

I didn't know you two knew each other. Great video 🎥

Sorry ladies; you chose your career; the game is over.

I panicked over turning 40. I had already had given birth to 6 babies plus fostered 2 more so not that issue, but 40 hit hard. Everyone said your 40s were the best years ever. My husband died suddenly when I was 41, which nearly destroyed me and I'll still never be ok again. My mom died when I was 42. My best friend died when I was 43 and I needed a full hysterectomy when I was 44. 40s are wonderful??? They lied. The 40s are hell on earth. With career vs children...you can have both. I wanted a career in law and a large family. You learn how to juggle, like people have done since the beginning of time.

what's their body count I wonder

But a 40 year old woman can still have a lot of energy to raise a baby, I was 37 when my babies were born (twins) and I’m raising them, it’s exhausting at night because I work during the day but I have a man and nanny so it’s a team effort. You can’t and shouldn’t do it alone. Whether it’s one or more kids… us women, we can be very strong! It’s the love we have for those little ones that give us that strength and courage. Plus when you’re 40 or so you should be more mature and a lot more stable in all aspects which will help you be a better mom than what you would have been at 23.

I'm 38... and with the way the world is right now, I'm glad I don't have children at this moment. It's a dark dark infectious life to live.

Such a great video! Loved the topic and the transparency from both of you.

I love Julissa's voice !!!

I love how open and honest you are. I'm so glad I found this channel.

I really enjoyed this conversation! Love you both!!

In a nutshell, choose your carreer first so that one day you could afford to freez your eggs and keep it there 20 years, until having no choice but to stop maintaining it. Good luck with that

Nuttin but CAP on this right here…..The choice to have either a kid/Family was never a man”s .it was always yours…(The MAN holds the choice to replace you on that DREAM JOB!) The victim mentality because of sacrifices is strong. Even with the cool ones.

Rocsi that fine ass Aunti everybody tryna kick it with..sad to say but I see both these woman being single for the rest of their lives..unless they humble themselves. Being pretty isn’t everything

Definitely something that's been on my mind the older I get! But yeah, it's a lot of work and I wouldn't want to do it alone. Also this world is so crazy and scary?? SO much to think about. Loved the conversation!

Lol Julissa did not like any of the guys comments telling them the truth🤣🤣

Julissa, as a Puerto Rican woman who grew up there and then moved to the United States, I have some constructive feedback if you're interested, since we have a similar cultural background, similar look, and similar mannerisms. Us Latinas were targeted back when birth control was invented because we were believed to be genetically undesirable and stupid, and part of the propaganda was getting us to believe that our aspirations outside of family were worth the cost of not having your own family. We were used as guinea pigs and many women were duped into not reproducing under the guise of "empowerment". Honor the hard work your ancestors left to create us, these beautiful magnificent creatures, and leave a legacy. Don't be fooled--They are slowly trying to knock us out of the reproductive pool. Having kids IS the counter-culture thing to do nowadays and it's one of the bravest things you can do to stand against forces that don't want you having kids. Don't settle. You're beautiful and fun. You could be married within a year realistically if you really wanted to. Just don't let the propaganda of "it's okay to not have children and focus on your career" get in the way of the success of your genes. Honor of your ancestors who went through hell to create you.

That was really good convo 👍🏽💕 and it’ll make him want you more after a child if you’re married to him 💕and he’s a good guy.

This video is honestly sad. And then rocsi named celebrities to make a point... Celebrities are not good examples and you named women who are horrible examples for a vast majority of women. I hope no woman takes advice from successful women who are still unhappy with their lives. These women also defaulted to the usual trope of blaming men.

Your so beautiful julissa. Wow both of you were amazing on 106 and park. Will watch this video now

The wall remains undefeated.

Gotta love that women love to use the “super traditional” argument when it benefits them. We gotta get married, I’m super traditional. You gotta stop working and be a stay at home Mom. Oh, no, that’s the old way of thinking. Nice [+]

Good conversation

Selfish to have kids at an old age ... you chose career you can't fight age

You two will never have kids. Just accept it. Take your own advice and stop stressing over societal pressures. You two don’t want to have kids. You want the fun part of being parents. Just enjoy being uncles and aunts. [+]

Hello Gorgeous? Why can't you have BOTH?? Have you ever heard a Man say "Kids or career" #MerylStreep did it. Career. Happy Married for over 40 years and have 4 KIDS!

It really sucks for those who can’t afford $10-15K right now but want to do it.

If you don’t do something about it now, y’all will be having a sad conversation 19 years from now with no kids! Get you a damn man and get married or regret no having kids at 50!

Right

Let's revisit this in 6yrs when all the media jobs dry up and all you have is money and a empty home to come home to

20 years too late. Youre not men, you cannot build your value. You have to preserve it.

The problem of freezing eggs its the statistical speaking the odds are very slim, also if you dont freeze your eggs when you are young, it very difficult that works when you are 38 or older.

😂😂 this is total foolishness there is no rush but if you choose to make your career 1st above everything else then you end up not having kids in your 40s. If you can't make your man/husband first then your career will be your baby. If you waste your 20s “having fun” then you have passed up a lot of opportunities to have a husband and kids by your 40s. Welcome to equality ladies.

You both are still absolutely gorgeous. I believe your time for motherhood and marriage will be coming soon. You both have lived full lives. I think when you realize your life is full. Meaning even after your child grows up and your an empty nester. Can you handle reclaiming your life and still enjoying yourself too. While they enjoy theirs too. Then you know you're ready to take that step. That goes for women and men. Your kids are your contribution to society. Are you going to raise someone who can help and thrive? Or are you going to half step as a parent. I am glad i didn't consider it in my early 20s. I was partying and enjoying myself. In my 30s i feel more prepared. I know myself and my family history much better. So i say fuck the pressure you know when you're ready and serious for kids.

I wonder if when they are 60 and childless without a husband if they will regret going for career first ? I’m not saying it will happen for sure, but if it does I wonder whether they will regret it or not.

Great conversation!!! Thank you so much for sharing Julissa! ❤️

These 2 will most likely live into their 90's and it looks like they will not have any branches from their family tree that will be traced back to them. I have never seem a grave stone engraved with, " I wish I could have worked more"

My 106th and park queens 👑💝🤗

Image if you would have settle down 10 years ago and gotten married. All those mamories and milestones from your husband and children. Ten years of memories. That is what I told my wife she is now a nurse practitioner and I just got out of the military and pursuing an engineering mayor with our son. 13 years of amazing memories growth and milestone. Dont waste your time and settle down

Rocsi looks hella good for 40🌸❣

Great video for “Cat Food” ad placement 😂😂😂😂

Love this topic very important ❤️

Alpha widows who have hit the wall making perfect reaction content for the red pill manosphere….

I'm 29 with two kids. I had my first baby at 21. it is hard but I would not do it any other way. I enjoy growing up with them and by the time I am 40 my last born would be 15. I'm not trying to be 40 something and potty training nobody. I am juggling my businesses raising my boy and law school. I have the energy for all that. I am still with their father but I don't really care for marriage even though he is pressuring me. We don't live together and I'm okay with the arrangement. Having kids young is not a bad thing at the end of the day but it's also not for everybody

Growing up, I would see how my family (females only) would treat each other base on how many kids they had. As I got older, it became reality that "you are not a real woman until you have kids". Some women might say it, but your body language says it all. As much as they downplay it doesn't matter, it does. That's why we are here talking about it, right?

Julissa your a doll love ya vioce

Very real convo

I love you both.

Beautiful inspiring woman 💜🙏

sorry ladies but NO kids for you !!

Jullissa jewelry is always so pretty

IDK they were friends, love that. I've always favored Rocsi XOXO

I must be the minority in this comment section. I disagree with a lot of what people are saying. I can care less about having kids!!! Everyone in my circle (which is a lot of people) tell me if I don’t hurry up and get married, then I won’t find an attractive woman my age. Well, here’s proof; both these women are extremely attractive, career minded and without kids. No one should pressure you on this subject. A lot of people enter unsuccessful marriages and have kids because of pressure from peers and family because of age or because that’s how they did it. Don’t be a conformist, live your life and be happy. Being single is not a disease. You can actually prioritize a lot of goals being single than you could if you were married or with kids. Many peoples lives I look at or those who demand I get married or have kids lifestyle is not convincing me enough to have it. Many of their lives suck. There lives are stressed, financial burdens, and it seems non peaceful; And I mean this sincerely!!! Very few people I see have the lifestyle I would desire. And most of them waited until they were established to have the lifestyle they desired. I’m cool with having my own money and life. Maybe one day when it makes sense for my life.

Lovely ladies

red piII community gonna have fun with this one lol smh

Rocsi & julissa looks good for there age. But I believe that they’re still looking for a high value man with high income. & most men don’t make that & the ones that do I dating women half their age

God bless 🙏🏽♥️♥️

Julissa putting Rocsi on blast at "With them legs and them toes out!" Rocsi DOES have great toes/feet! Julissa never showed her feet on 106th and Park.