모든 가족이 완벽할순 없으나, 결혼을 하고 아이를 낳았을땐 부모로서의 책임이 부여될거라는건 당연히 알았을텐데, 책임을 제대로 수행하지 않는건 문제가 되죠. 그리고 그게 '못'하는게 아니라, '안'하는거면 더더욱 잘못한거 맞구요. '가정'이 중심이 아니라 '나'를 중심으로 살고싶으면 결혼하면 안되는거임.
@@dada-kz9il 님같은 생각으로 살면 아무도 결혼 같은거 못하죠. 아빠 정조국은 가장으로써 나름 책임감을 가지고 일을 하고 있고 엄마도 마찬가지에요. 아이들이 겪는 자그마한 부정적 심리변화까지 부모의 행동이 원인이다, 부모가 잘못이다 라고 탓할수는 없습니다. 가정일에 소홀한 아빠, 남편을 무시하는 아내, 폭력이나 도박같은 불운했던 가정환경을 그 자식한테도 물려주는 부모가 세상에 얼마나 많은데요. 부모도 사람입니다. 엄마 아빠 이전에 한 인간입니다.주변을 보면 엄마로써? 아빠로써? 완벽한 사람은 하나도 없어요~ 정조국씨나 김성은씨가 아이를 학대한것도, 훈육을 강하게 한것도 방치하지도 않았습니다. 그냥 첫째가 겪는 당연한 성장통일 뿐입니다. 주변 가정을 돌아보시고 본인의 가정을 돌아보세요. 본인의 가족 구성원은 위치에 맞게 각각 완벽한 사람들인가요? 조금 부족하면 그사람들은 결혼도, 아이도 낳지 말아야하는건가요? 그렇게 따지면 부모로써 돈도 잘 벌고 건강관리도 잘해서 자기 아이 끝까지 책임져야하고 경제활동도 잘하고 엄마로써 따뜻해야하며 자녀들한테도 어른스러운 부모 모습만 보여줘야하는데 그게 댁네 가정은 가능합니까? 정조국이나 김성은이 사회의 모범인거죠. 대면대면하고 사이안좋은 부부들이 얼마나 많고 아이때문에 참고 사는 부부들이 얼마나 많은데요.
"You've raised him well." Nah, that boy raised himself well. If the parents raised him well, he would never seen himself as a villain for things he didn't do. I think the parent is the one who needs counseling here, to see their mistakes and fix it. Not having a complete parent figure really affecting the children. I wish more parents realized this.
You're wrong, his mother raised him well, he does what he does for his mother and she always thanks him, obviously not much but it's enough to show that she raised him well Her husband is away because of work and she has to take care of the 3, including the two little ones It's very easy to judge someone based on 20 minutes of video
@@yeyosilver7067 nope. Still believe the parent has nothing to do with his character. The parents (or the mom) indeed help him to stay alive and have a so called good life but such empathetic character won't developed by having burden to please every adults in his life. He learned this himself.
Who are you to judge another person's parenting style? Just because you watched a 20 min youtube clip on someone's life suddenly you understand all of their family dynamics and formed your expert opinion? Go raise your own family and provide for them and worry about your own children.
@@sansan-vi1ku 아니 이 댓글을 보고 어떻게 사고가 평생 불만 가득에 남편 탓만 하다 이혼당할게 선하다는 말이 나와요? 말 진짜 함부로 하시네 이 사람. 이 많은 사람들이 공감했다는 걸 생각해보세요. 정조국씨, 이 가정의 아버지가 가져야할 마음가짐 맞죠. 아이가 하나도 아니고 여럿 키우는데, 부인이 힘들겠구나. 내가 어떻게든 가족들을 다 제주도로 부르든 서울로 올라오든지 해야겠다 이런 식으로 생각을 해야죠. 모든 걸 남편탓으로 일관하는게 아니라, 남편이 너무 오랫동안 집을 비우니 한창 어리광부리고 사고뭉치처럼 친구들과 장난치며 돌아다녀도 부족할 나이에, 아빠가 없으니 내가 동생들을 돌봐야하고, 엄마의 얘기도 들어줘야하고 이런 사고를 12살 자리가 하고 있는게 문제 잖아요. 그리고 정조국씨도 물론 본인 나름의 최선의 방법이라고 생각하고 장난이었을 수 있지만, 그 잠깐 보는 찰나에도 시간 왜이렇게 안가냐는 식의 반응에 빨리 제주도로 내려가서 혼자 보내고 싶어하는데 이것도 좋아보이진 않고요. 최선을 다하는 아빠라면 아이들이 먼저 알아요. 떨어져있어도 정말 어떤식으로 채워주려고 노력을 한다든지, 그 짧게 함께 있는 시간동안이라도 아빠로서의 역할에 최선을 다하면 아이가 더 잘 알겠죠. 그리고 그런 아이는 아빠의 자리가 비어있단 표현보다는 아빠랑 더 자주 오래 있고 싶어요라든지 빈 자리보단 아빠에 대한 애정이 담긴 표현을 써요.
I found disturbing things in this video and to point it out: 1. They should do this privately (what would the son feel seeing all their reactions?? It would make him feel more responsible for what they feel and he would just blame himself more for being a burden. This can’t be helped because he is considerate like that, and you can’t just tell him to not think that way because no, it won’t work and that’s not how it works) and continue the therapy for their son. 2. Commenting “You’ve raised him well” for feeling that way and being considerate like that, no. He developed that on his own because of all the thing he’s experiencing and him being considerate does him no good. It just makes him more apologetic for things he has no control over. Nevertheless, I admire the son for letting it all out especially because this is on national television. He is so mature for his age and I’m not happy with it because it should not be case. I am rooting for him and I would just like to acknowledge how strong he was all this time.
Yes, thank you so much for making those distinctions!!! I really wish this could have been handled better on the show because the conclusions that they came to were not ideal.
they took him there so he could express how he feels because he's parents are getting worried plus the parents just wanted to know what their kid feels because he doesn't show his feelings and its different in korea they broadcast this shit instead of making it private
I couldn’t agree with you more ! It will also lead to some trust issues, in the future for the boy. He put trust in him and opened his heart. Little did he know that they will make every detail public.
I don't think any of the parents raised him well, instead he raised himself well to the point that he learned to supress his emotions to lessen the burden of the people he love. Children don't need to think of these kinds of things, he needs to experience life in a much comfortable and fun way. It breaks my heart that even uncontrollable things make him feel sorry. He's not being heard in his own home, in his own family. Definitely, this will take a toll in his young mind but I hope he's being filled with love, attention, and care now because he deserves all of that.
the really disturbing part for me is that when he references himself through the character during play therapy he associates his loneliness and fear and lack of support with him having done something wrong - being guilty of something and thus somehow deserving of being in that position. he's obviously a very intelligent and mature child but he is still a child and so of course he still thinks that every situation has a clear cut cause. it breaks my heart to think that he thinks he deserves to be so stressed and overworked and responsibility laden when really the problem is that his parents are too selfish and/or uncaring to realize that they're offloading parental and adult burdens onto a child. his behavior across the board also shows that he's operating from a position of fawning to every adult in his life. he has learned / been taught to think that it's his responsibility to lessen the burdens and take on the responsibilities of all the adults around him who are failing to take care of him and his needs. even with his teachers, he thinks about their perspective alone and what he can do to support and help them, rather than even acknowledging - let alone prioritizing - the fact that the onus is on the adults in his life to help and understand and support him. outwardly he comes across as a kid that's coping well and working hard but the position he's been forced into is obviously taking a huge toll on him and has had a hugely detrimental affect on his view of himself / his role in relationships / his self identity etc., at an age where those things can be established in ways that become life long. it's great to see that he was brought to a psychological counselor but i really really hope that the results of this can be a wake up call that his parents use to turn this situation around before it's too late.
You're exactly right; that's what broke me the most. When he was describing why the villain doesn't have any support and made that parallel to himself, my heart truly shattered for him and I immediately went to that thought about him feeling like he did something wrong. I hope the adults in his life understand that now and know how to shift him away from feeling that way. He deserves to have his needs, wants, opinions, and preferences understood and catered to rather than to have to feel guilty about asking for anything or expressing his preferences.
Absolutely, and it's often common when one parent is away due to conflict or away from work. But I think the mom also shows signs of fawning to some degree. Dad is sort of the distance person in the romantic relationship and mom tends to be the once chasing affection. So maybe the kid is seeing that he has to unburden the mom by not chasing affection from her since she herself is chasing it also.
The most disturbing part was in earlier episodes the father expressed wanting a fourth kid. Exactly how out of touch is he that he thinks having a fourth kid is ok when he isn't even home to help his wife with the 3 kids he have at the moment? I hope he change his mind after this episode.
Tbh I am in this situation now as a 25 Yr with a 14 Yr old sister and 6 Yr old brother.. I have looked after my bro since he was 9 months and my sister since she was 4... even when I have expressed my feelings, it kind of goes one ear and they learn for a while then everything goes back to the how it is.. I don't have enough money to move out due to the fact I don't work a lot since I help out in the house a lot I lash out at times, get stressed and depressed. I have always battled education doing all this. Recently I have thought about counselling too.. sometimes I just break out crying and nothing happened. Life has been draining for me and it hasn't even started, In order to live my own life I know I need more money to live my own life 🥴... Anyways its sad the boy has to go through things like this.. I totally feel him in all ways 💔
@@LB-zd5yh I'm sorry to hear your situation. If it's possible try to work as a freelancer and save up whatever you can. Enough to move out and possibly search for a place where roommates are required to cut cost... That's what I did. Hope your situation gets better soon
아... 내 남편도 좀 회피형에 개인주의 성향인데... 착실하고 능력이 좋아도 사람 참 외롭게만듬. 지금은 참는다고해도 남편의 사랑이 식은 느낌이 언젠가 확 드는 날에는 배신감 느껴져서 관계에 큰 금이 갈 수 있음. 부부가 떨어져살면 그렇게 됨. 특히 이런 남편은 혼자 잘 지내기때문에 아내 불만은 점점 커질것임.
태하가 왜 미안하다고 하는 줄 알아요? 분노가 있는데.그걸 표현 할 수 없어서 그.분노가 자기 자신에게.가는.거예요 분노를 부모에게 쏟는.철 없는 스타일이.아니라 그렇게.못하다보니. 자기.스스로에게 쏟는 거고 그 분노가 미안함이라고 부모에게 용인될 감정으로 표현하는 거예요 태하 지금 분노가 있어요 근데 사회적으로 용인 될 감정인 미안함이라는 감정으로 스스로에게 분노 표출 중..그 미안함이 죄책감으로 표출..자기를 나쁜 애로...그래서 심리검사에서 악당이라고 한거고.. . 애어른....
김유라님이 말씀하신 게 맞는 것 같아요. 태하가 악당이 물건을 많이 훔쳐서 부하를 잃고 혼자서 도망을 다니는데 죄가 많아서 아무도 자신을 도와줄 수 있는 사람이 없다고 했잖아요 이것은 부모가 자신을 전혀 돌보아주지 않고 자신은 심리적으로 방치되고 있는 공허한 심리에 대해 스스로 이유를 붙여줘야 하니까 "나는 나쁜 아이"라고 이름 붙이고 그러니까 아무도 나를 도와주지 않는거지.합리화하는 거라고 생각해요
They definitely needed this as a family because they can finally see the pressure they are putting on their son and now they can fix what needs to be fixed
The dad is a football coach/ex-footballer. I think the story was he couldn't come home as often because of COVID19 restrictions and his wife has been practically a single mom. I'm glad they had a pro athlete married couple and showed their son's counseling session. People often see the glamor and glory of pro athletes or gush over the footballers' kids on TROS but have no idea the sacrifices they and their families have to make.
This kid goes to his mom before she sleeps and tells her you've worked hard today, you did well. He is parenting his parents at 12. They need to cut this pattern.
초5가 부모한테 뭘 그렇게 미안해 해야 하냐,, 어린나이에 너무 안쓰럽다,, 그리고 정조국 김성은씨, 본인들이 태하 잘 키운 거라는 오해하지 마세요. 태하는 타고 태어난 기질 자체가 선하고 책임감 강한 아이입니다. 이제부터라도 현명하게 양육하여 저 아이의 짐을 덜고, 웃으며 살게해 주세요.
I’m glad they took him so he could express how he feels. I think people sometimes forget that just because kids are young they don’t feel stress. They are young and emotions can be extremely overwhelming that even goes for adults. He is such a sweetheart! From here on out I hope things will be better for him. Fighting! 💕
정조국씨 아이셋 아빠답게 사셨으면 좋겠어요. 엄마아빠 믿고 세상에 나온 귀한 아들입니다. 5가족 중에 태하가 가장 힘들어보이고 정조국씨가 가장 편안해 보여요. 잘못되었죠 아빠가 보살펴야죠. 한가족이 한지붕안에서 복작거라고 사는거가 1번이에요. 뭐가 더 중요하나요. 지금이라도 반성하시고 꼭 개선하시길요.
The part when he said he’s taking hot shower when he’s stressed and frustrated is a sign of loneliness and depression.. you take hot shower because the warmth of it reminds it of hugs so he try to confort himself
저도 딱 이 생각했어요 만약 제가 저 상황의 태하 부모라면 상담으로 이제라도 문제의 심각성을 깨달았으면 태하를 위해서 방송 출연 당장 중단할 것 같네요 그렇잖아도 힘든애 수많은 카메라와 사람들이 나를 지켜보고 있으면 정말 숨이 턱턱 막힐 것 같네요 오롯한 내 공간 잠시라도 혼자 쉴 수 있는 시간이 저 상황에서 가능이나 할까요? 글 쓰다보니 너무 화가 나네요
김성은이 태하 잘 키운거 아님. 태하는 기질적으로 내면이 강한 아이라 잘 커온거임. 아빠는 지 하고싶은일 하고싶어서 얼굴도 안비춰, 엄마는 남편이 개좋아서 남편 일 밀어준다고 괜찮다고만 해, 태하한테 의지해 욕심으로 첫째랑 나이차이 많이나는 둘째 셋째 낳아, 넷째도 낳고싶어해 셋째까지 낳았는데 아빠는 은퇴해도 여전히 제주도에 있어, 엄마는 바빠 애들은 태하가 다봐..ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 총체적 난국이다 태하가 왜 동생들 아빠 역할을 해야하고 김성은한테 남편 역할을 해줘야해?
I want to hug him. I know exactly how he feels. It's tough being the oldest and feeling that responsibility of being the other parent and someone your mom can lean on when your dad works far away.
I can also tell how he is feeling there. I am also the eldest child of my family. But the thing is ,I live with my grandparents. I have to live with them since my parents are working person. And I had to take the responsibility if my brother does anything. Even I have see my uncle's daughter. I also feel tried, angry and sad. But they don't try understand it. Since my childhood I have became like this I can't do anything
저렇게 아빠가 철없고 일을 이유로 가정에 무관심하면 지친 어머니는 아이들에게 집착하거나 필요 이상의 독립심을 요구하기 마련입니다. 그리고 그런 환경 탓에 태하에게서 벌써 회피성 애착 증세가 보이네요. 거부형 회피성 애착이 성인이 되어서도 고착이 되면 가장 친밀한 대상에게 받아야할 당연한 지지와 사랑을 기대할 수 없게 되고 기본적인 인간관계에 진심이 들어갈 수 없게 됩니다. 지나친 독립심과 상처를 거부하려는 마음에 친밀한 관계를 시작하기도 전에 회피하게 되어 가족을 꾸리기도 힘들어지고요. 정신차리세요. 두분과 비슷한 부모 밑에서 자라다보면 평생을 가짜 독립심에 얽매여 살 수 있습니다. 의지가 되지 않는 부모의 그늘을 지우고 안정형이 되기까지 뼈를 깎는 노력을 하거나 평생 그렇게 고독에 휩싸여 지내겠죠. 진정한 독립이란 남의 도움이나 관심을 무조건 거부하는 게 아니라 건강한 상호작용에 뿌리를 두어야 한다는 당연한 사실을 부모가 전혀 알려주지 않았기에 태하처럼 모든 걸 혼자 감내하는 것을 정답으로 여기게 되는 겁니다. 아직 태하는 어리지만 양육 패턴이 달라지지 않으면 결과는 심각할 수 있습니다. 사람이 힘들 땐 당연히 누군가에게 의지해도 된다는 것과 인생은 홀로 살 수 있는 게 아니라는 아주 당연한 이치를 부모가 알려주지 않았기에 남에게 의지하고 또 남의 의지를 받아줄 수 있는 사람이 되기까지 엄청난 박탈감과 고통을 겪을 수 밖엔 없습니다. 혹은 전혀 그런 변화를 기대하지 못한 채로 평생을 살 수도 있고요. 정조국씨가 제주도에서 얻는 것이 과연 얼마나 큰 것인지는 모르겠으나 절대적인 시간으로 아이들에게 사랑을 보여줄 수 없다면 짧은 시간이나마 누워있지 말고 최선을 다하세요. 본인들이 원해 낳은 것 아닙니까?
태하가 진짜 대단한거다. 저렇게 속 깊고 빨리 철든 아이일수록 마음의 병이 더 잘 생기더라. 본인이 그걸 애써 괜찮다하며 감추고 지내다가 자신이 이게 힘든 감정인지도 모르게 되는 순간이 올 수 있음 그러다 갑자기 터져버리면 그땐 아무도, 본인조차도 제어를 할 수가 없게되는거지.. 앞으로는 태하만의 공간도 생기고 그 공간안에서 가족과도 함께 행복하게 잘 지낼 수 있길. 부모가 태하한테 진심으로 잘해야할듯..ㅜ 태하는 정말 멋진 사람이야..
idk but doesn't this kind of public filming kinda broke the patient & therapist ethics code of conduct? The patient, or even more severe in this case, should believe that everything that he said is confidential & that he will not be judged by anyone so he could be more open about his feelings.
@@PIXYTEEZGLOW yeah but still, idk how he'd feel seeing his deepest feeling directly judged by the panel. I mean it's straying apart from the purpose of a counseling is to be heard without bias and judgement. So to have a panel directly commenting his session still doesn't sit well with me
@@happygirl-qe7ei I totally get where you're coming from, but the Dr is talking to him as he would any other patient, without a bias. The kid, at the time, was not hearing the panel's comments. He was receiving normal counseling. All I hope is that they continued to take him to counseling after this so he can continue to have an outlet and learn to express himself to his parents.
제가 저렇게 유약하게 살다가 독재주의에 못이겨 본가에서 피신하고 독립해서 열심히 그리고 "자유롭게" 선량하게 건강하게 "센스있게" 살고 있습니다. 그집은 감옥이에요. 최악은 숨을 어떻게 쉬어야 하는 지 잊어버렸었어요. 심장이 너무 세게 뛰어서 꿈에서 자꾸 나오고.. 일 주일에 알바 세 탕 뛰면서 보증금 모아 나욌어요 유치원생 때 부터 기억 다 나요... 그 땐 몰랐으니까 그런가 하고 흘러감에 다 맡겼죠 어른들이 그러고 사람들이 그래요. 부모가 저 잘 키웠다고. 근데 전 내본질을 제가 지킨 거예요. 저 아이도 스스로를 지켜내는 중 인거예요
@@Frost-wb7sh 그런데 아이가 왜 동생 귀저기와 씻기는 일을 본인이 해야한다고 생각하는건가요? 방송이라 설마 연기한다는건가요? 풀시터든 뭐든 사람을 써서 부족해서 아이에게 육아를 전가시킨다면 부족한만큼 사람을 더 써야죠. 12살짜리가 동생을 본인이 키워야 한다는 생각과 부담을 가지고 있는게 정상은 아니지않나요?
As the oldest child, I just want to shout out to all parents or parents-to-be. Give birth to children only when you have the resources(time and money) to spend on them. Your oldest child is still your child, being older by a year or ten years don’t mean that your oldest child is responsible for the rest of the younger children. The oldest child did not choose to have other siblings, nor did he or she contribute to this decision. They are not liable for the the younger siblings, they are also children and need your love and attention. Why is the oldest child always forced to grow up and take care of their parents’ responsibilities?
Those are the exact words i told my therapist when i was vending as the oldest child who has practically raised her brother i understood from the first minute what he was feeling
Some parents shouldn't be parents at all for real. I'm the middle child and being the only child who was close to my dad, my mum and dad would often use me as their messenger since they hated each other. What I really hated was the both of them talking shit about each other cus it seem like it became my fault when they couldn't compromise. Like as a child, you naturally would want your parents to get along since that's what you see from your friends and all. I actually thought it would be far better if they divorce and separate.. at least my mental health wouldn't be suffering now
Wow. Such a mature child for his age! I feel his pain being the older sibling, helping out around the house and taking care of our younger siblings is brought upon us, and it really does take a toll. HE RAISED HIMSELF WELL!
Is this really okay? Counseling a child and showing it to the world. Will it not affect him negatively? Like having trust issues on the adults in the future? As far as i know, counseling were supposed to be held private. Only between the patient and the councelor.
I really feel for him, he doesn't get the attention he needs and deserves. Especially with younger siblings it makes it harder for him to fit in🥺😢. I hope he is more understood and recieves the love and attention he wants, he's so kind and loving such a responsible older sibling♥️♥️. He has had to grow up so fast and also with a father who is not always around, and he needs him.
It's tough for the footballers' kids. I'm glad they featured a footballer's family because most people only see the big bucks, press conferences and matches but not the sacrifices they and their families have to make. Not sure if you've watched Return of Superman but they had footballers' kids as cast members and the heart-wrenching part is watching them having to part with their dads or the toddlers not recognizing them when they come home from a long trip.
@@mxgirl918 Yeh I watch return of superman, been watching it for a few years, and yeh I've seen footballer's kids, I see how hard it is. Like with the 5 kids (Sian, Seola, Sua, Jaesi and Jae-ah) when they had to drop their dad off at the airport and they all bawled their eyes out, and I cried so much with them. But yeh, I understand what you mean and how hard it is raising kids as a busy person. I just wish this father showed more affection to his eldest son, because other football parents show so much love to all their kids when they come home yk. Seeing this dad half hug his 12 year old, who was reaching out for a hug, broke my heart.
@@maymunaraj8511 I remember a few of the TROS dads saying that they hoped joining the show would make them more used to openly giving affection because men from their generation were often not raised by openly affectionate fathers (which is an Asian cultural thing, same thing happened with my own dad). Yeah I noticed the hug thing too and I felt for the kid. Hopefully JJG will find a way to emotionally bond with his son.
제가 좀 저런타입인데, 저희부부는 정관수술했습니다. 주말에만 아빠를 볼수있는 환경에서.. 아이를 더 낳아서 골고루 사랑이아닌, 결핍을 나눠준다는 생각이 내린 결정이에요. 후회1도없이 한 아이에게 오롯이 사랑주고 삽니다. 아이도 동생싫다고합니다. 저또한 하나로 행복해요.. 아이가 둘이라면...절대 힘들거고 행복하지 못할거에요. 저는 제 자신에 그릇을 알아서요..
그니까요... 너무 타인의 입장만 보고 본인의 힘듬은 돌보질 못하는 것 같아요..ㅠㅠ 그래서 아이들에게 쉽게 착하구나 어른스럽구나 이런 말도 하면 안좋다고 하더라고요.. 첫째 아들은 특히 너가 엄마를 잘 지키고 보살펴야해 하기도 하고 엄마도 아들이 든든하니 의지하게 되기도 하고요... 너무 많이 배려하는 아이는 점점 솔직한 마음을 내뱉는 법을 모르게 되는 것 같아요.. 어른이 돼서 변하려고 하면 정말 힘들답니다.. 조금씩 자신의 마음을 이야기 하고 누군가가 들어주는 게 필요할 것 같아요ㅎㅎ
전 저런 상황은 아니지만 아이가 아이 같지 않은 성격을 가졌었고 거의 자발적 아싸처럼 살았는데 3학년때까지 친구들이랑 얘기해 본 적이 없어요 . 성격이 변한 계기가 있긴 했는데 4학년때부터 전학을 갔다는 거.. 이전 학교에서 왕따를 당하고 그런 건 아니었는데 걍 뭔가 첨부터 그 이미지니까 저 스스로 나중가서도 얘기를 안 하게 되더라구요. 그만큼 환경이 중요한 거 같아요. 그 이미지에 날 맞추려해서... 지금도 친척들 보면 똑같아요. 완전 다른 사람인데 이미 내 이미지를 그렇게 아는 사람들한테 갑자기 달라질 수도 없고ㅋㅋ 암튼 제 말은 아이는 프레임에 갖히게 살게 하면 안 된다는 거 였습니다ㅜ
아 저 때 제가 무슨 생각인지는 모르겠다만 내가 의젓했던 것만 같았고 그러다 보니 다른 또래 애들이 노는 게 유치해보이는? 그래서 안 어울렸던 거 같아요. 이유는 정확히 뭔지 모르겠다만 그랬던 거 같아요... 그래도 다행히 그 후부턴 사회생활도 잘 하고 살고 있습니다. 다만 지금도 누구에게나 항상 절 희생하는 쪽으로 살고 있어서 그런 부분은 고쳐지질 않습니다. 누구에게 욕 먹은 적 한 번도 없고 이미지도 누구에게나 항상 좋았고 한 번 맺은 관계는 항상 오래 가는 편입니다만 그래도 뭔가 저도 저 맘대로 살아보고 싶단 생각을 요새 많이 하게 되네요. 물론 안 할 거지만..
후... 마지막까지 보니 딱 제 모습하고 똑같네요. 부모님이 많이 관대하고 프리하신 편이라 억눌리면서 살진 않았는데 당시 집이 힘들어서 부모님이 맞벌이 하시고 제가 동생을 돌봤던 거로 기억합니다. 매번 학원에서 동생하고 절 돌봐주시니까 6시까지 둘이서만 놀고... 아마 거기서 많이 어두워졌고 책임감이란 걸 짊어지게 되면서 성격이 이렇게 고착화 된 거 같아요. 아이는 아이답게 컸어야 했는데... 그리고 성격이 변한 계기는 아마 4학년때 축구부 활동 하면서 친구도 많아지고 성격이 훅 변해버리더라구요. 성인이 돼서야 찾아봤는데 걷거나 뛰는 운동을 많이 하면 세로토닌이란 호르몬이 나와서 웃음이 많아지고 긍정적으로 생각하려는 게 많아진다고 하더라구요. 아마 그 영향을 받았던 거 같아요 ㅋㅋㅋ 그리고 여담이지만 머리 회전도 급격하게 좋아졌는데 이 게 다 연관이 있다고 들었습니다 ㅋㅋ 지금 코시국이라 애가 더 어두워질 수 밖에 없는 거 같습니다. 전 애들 만나서 축구라도 할 수 있었지... 저 아이도 놀 수 있는 환경이 만들어져야 할텐데 말이죠 ㅠ
I aint even going to lie when I first watched the dad come home after two months in the other video my heart ached for this boy. His siblings are younger and cling onto his father, the only moment we saw was a split second hug AFTER his mother got her first hug. It was like he wanted to hug but felt these feelings and let go because we don't want to burden our parents with these feelings we felt. This is something I can personally understand. I'm so grateful that this boy had the chance to go to therapy and I'm so grateful for this therapist.
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