The fact that the dad came in. Taeha saw him first. Instead of hugging him, the dad asked him to stay silent to surprise the rest. And afterwards, when he finally got away from the kids, Taeha had to hug him first. Sometimes it’s so sad to be the eldest and a boy. Taeha may be so incredibly mature but it’s sad to see him have to fall in line behind his mom when his siblings are first in line. I wish they show him more love and affection and not take his maturity for granted. I cried watching this not because it was sweet, but because it was sad. And to see everyone praising Taeha from being such a wonderful child yet not pointing out how ignored he was. It’s sad to be taken for granted.
Yes, especially the last part! Taeha deserves just as much as affection as his siblings. Although I know his parents love him, I can’t help but feel sadden by the thought that he holds himself back because he feels like he has to be the strong one.
Ikr I was thinking this! As an older child of many younger children it gets tough at times esp when I was younger and closer in age to Taeha. I understand that Mothers will need the help from the oldest/older ones and even Fathers and that's ok. But it because of how much older Taeha is than his younger siblings and his maturity I really wish his parents would take time to be with him one on one and thank him. Like his parents plus him, or Taeha + Mom alone, or Appa + Taeha alone. I can gurantee it would help him out sm, I just really hope he is feeling ok because I know it can be really hard being the oldest or one of the older ones that has to step up to the plate and mature early to pick up after the kids to help out the Mom
Taeha is literally the goat. he's so mature, caring and loving. The fact a 12 year old told his mom good job for all the things she does and how he helps his mom out and is caring to his siblings. The fact he misses his dad a lot but let his 2 younger siblings have him all to themselves and give his mom time with his dad and then hug his dad. Bruh, why is this kid so nice. I want a boyfriend like him, but 7 years older, lolllll. His personality is literally 11/10. He's so selfless, bro
He reminds me of Naeun lokkinh after Gunhoo and Jinwoo. They get more responsibility to look after the others and forget that they themselves are kids too
the eldest has to act more mature than he should when he's still so young,,,,i rlly feel bad for him, he deserves the same amount of affection and care as the younger ones,,,
@@sissyrayself7508 yes and i agree with tht he seems to be such a nice big bro but as an older sibling myself, in some situations u rlly do feel the distance of affection,, and we kinda see tht here too
Young children needs to have alot of love attention he is old enough to not have those love attention plus there is 2 baby he and his mother needs to take care of those young two babies
Si pero de todas maneras deben esforzarse por quitarle tanta responsabilidad el esta ahí para comportarse como un niño, no para sentir que es la mano derecha de la madre, y en cuanto al papá opino que debería demostrarle más agradecimiento y amor, pues, el niño ocupa su lugar cuando no está,pero, lo único que vi es que son los 4. El papá La mamá Y los dos menores Y se olvidan por completo del mayor y no es justo con el, los hijos son de los papas no del niño, el solo es el hermano mayor
Her eldest son is the reason why she is still sane, she gotta discipline the kids a little bit more. And the daughter needs to learn that sharing is caring, don’t want her to grow up being a jealous and possessive person
I used to be like that as well.. I never let my sister get close to my dad or I would get mad. Since my dad used to work far away(he quit) so he only comes home once in 2 month but I still love him. When we go out I would always cling onto my dad's leg all the time and one time I accidentally hug stranger's leg. But now as I grew up I'm not like that anymore ever since I got a phone, friends... So sometimes my dad would feel lonely cuz I'm in my room all the time and I do feel bad so now I try to get close to my dad whenever I had time and spend time together while he's still here.. My dad once told me he misses the old me when I was little rather than me now that barely talk 2 sentences in one day
I hope the dad and the mother would spend time to yhe eldest child. The way he didnt come to his dad even though he miss him after seeing his sisters and brother already come to their dad makes my heart hurt. He is still 12 years old, i hope they would shower him with love too and teach the daughter slowly to help taeha and be more considerate
See I get what your saying but then as a middle child in a similar position to her she probably liked playing with the baby just like her brother but have been called boisterous or say like the old one would rather play with the baby. And in her position she wants that attentions because she has always had to share it and her mum spends a lot of time with the baby and her brother too. So like while I get the brothers position you have to understand she is also a much younger child than the brother. There are things each child in a big family give up and have to deal with. As a middle child she’ll always have to deal with being forgotten about, less attention, and have that feeling of always being second or third in priority your neither the first or last for your parents. The older much like the parents often adopt a more responsible role to lift the burden on their parents and have pressure. The youngest has the burden of living up to expectations and the parents who raise them being older than the ones who raised there siblings. Not saying that she shouldn’t help but it’s not something u should expect her to do so early especially when she has to deal with and organize her emotions of feeling a sense of loss and abandonment due to the her parents and brother spending more time with her younger sibling. It took me a while to process how I felt when my little sister and then brother was born. It’s not something that will go away but she needs some time to understand and to accept the new reality she is in
everytime the eldest child is helping her and people start to praise him she says "he likes to do it", he likes to help with the other kids, he likes to help her in the kitchen...maybe he doesn't like it, but now is something that he's so used to it because he knows the mother needs help with the other siblings and the house, so now it's a part of his personality...not saying anything bad about the mother because i know how much she actually needs the help, but i wish they would show him a little more love! he's a great brother and such an amazing son.
I'm in awe of Taeha - what an amazing young man. Please Dad spend some one on one time with him, show him how much you respect him for stepping into your role. He is so mature, stepping back to let the young ones take all of Dad's attention when I'm sure he was longing for a hugs too.
Bruh why did I cry at when the oldest say “it’s okay” to the mom. OMG but like really someone needs to talk to him and ask him if he is okay. it brings tears to my eyes seeing him be basically the 3rd parent and he is only 12. Cant be just be a regular 12 year old the moms needs to stop depending on him so much .
I would consider him the second parent, their dad isn't home much sadly because of their work unless it's off season... I feel for the kid. It's not easy. The dad is the aunt or grandparent at this point.
After watching this, I’m sure the mom will love and appreciate the eldest son a whole lot more, she got to see what she might’ve missed out on when she’s busy taking care of the other two
둘째가 아빠 왔을때 혼자 안겨서 엄마도 못안게하고 침대에서도 아빠랑 둘이서만 자려고 하고 유치원에서도 선생님들한테 그런다고 하니 가볍게 넘길 문제는 아닌거같음... 동생의 나 불편해 이 말 뜻 알아차리고 아무 말 없이 바로 자리 비켜주고 엄마 옆으로 가서 수고했다고 말해주는 첫째 속도 헤아려 주세요ㅠㅠ 저였으면 성질나서 동생이고 뭐고 잘 밤에 시끄럽게 짜증 엄청 냈을거에요...ㅋㅋ.......
그것도 있지만 엄마가 애들 앞에서 아빠 비난을 안 하는 덕이 더 큼. 아빠가 없어서 힘들다 아빠가 가정에 헌신을 안 한다 이런 식으로 불평하지 않고 아빠가 밖에 나가있을 수 밖에 없다는 식으로 정당화해주고 엄마가 아빠를 좋아하는 티를 많이 내니까 애들이 아빠를 미워하지 않는거임
I’m literally crying Taeha is such a great brother and he helps his mum so so much but I think they should give him a little more attention he’s doing so so much and he deserves to get attention, hugs and kisses as much as his younger siblings do.
@@user-mo7wv6zd5n 엄마 아빠한테 짐이 되고 싶지 않아서 그러는거예요 자기도 떼쓰고 싶고 철없이 굴고 싶은데 이미 그러는 동생들이 많으니까 자기까지 엄마를 힘들게 할 수는 없다는 생각에 의젓하게 굴 수 밖에 없는거예요 엄마 아빠는 그걸 모르고 얘는 원래 의젓한 애구나 원래 이런 애구나 당연한거구나 해버리면 그때부터 엄청난 심리적 부담감이 몰려오죠..알아서 저렇게 하는게 아니라 자기 욕망 꾹꾹 참아가며 엄마아빠 위하는 마음으로 해내는겁니다
모두들 첫째가 듬직하다 잘 키웠다 하지만 아들은 대단하면서도 할 수밖에 없는 상황 속에서 열심히 살아가고 있을 것 같다. 당장 편집되고 영상 속 모습만으로 이렇게 얘기하는 것이 무례할 수도 있지만 그저 첫째가 엄마와 두 동생 사이에서 너무 많은 스트레스를 받지 않고, 가끔 자신도 들여다볼 수 있는 시간이 있기를... 어린 나이에 너무 많은 배려를 하다 보면 겉에서 티는 나지 않아도 본인도 모르게 안에서 무슨 일이 일어나는지 잘 알 수 없으니 말이다... 이 예쁜 가족이 항상 행복하기를 바랍니다:)
와,,, 첫째 진짜 잘 자랐고 멋지다,, 그리고 태하 꼭 안아주고 태하랑만도 시간 많이 보내주셔야 할것 같아요,, 저 나이면 태하도 엄마아빠한테 달려가고 껴안고 울고 할 수 있는 나이인데 저렇게 의젓한거 보니까 마음미 뭉클하네요 😢 아무래도 어린동생들 때문에 맘껏 안아달라고도 못하고 눈치보는게 보이네요
대체적으로 어린 자식한테 엄격하게 훈육하든 안하든 올곧게 성실하게 자라는 애들이 있는데 이런 아이들은 아빠든 엄마든 부모를 진심으로 존경하고 사랑하는 거임 내가 이런 아빠 엄마에게서 태어난게 너무나 자랑스럽고 감사하다고 느끼면 애한테 잔소리 안해도 알아서 잘 큰다 다시말해서 부모가 잘살아야하는겨 그게 교육임
아......진짜 이게맞는말이네요 진짜 전그래서 결혼하면 애낳을건데 그래서 결혼부터 절대 신중하게 하고싶고 그래서더욱 비혼주의가 될것만같아요 좋은 모습을 보여줘야하는데 영향을 좋게 주지못할까봐. 내적으로 고민이 있는분들은 다 그런걸 풀고 결혼을하고애를낳고.. 하시는걸 강추해요 아니면 어두운부분이 전달되니까 그건 참 싫어요..
18:43 omg I'm crying, he just a 12yo boy but already mature by circumstances, he need to take care of his siblings so he can help her mother and comfort her fr, I'm a fan of him start now😭😭
The eldest is mature, he understands that the mom needs to care more to the 2nd and youngest. Mostly eldest voices it out and tell their parents that their jealous of what they see through the 2nd and youngest. Glad he understands well
보는데 맘이 짠하다. 난 내 딸 같으면 제주도에서 같이 살라고 한다. 인생이 너무 짧아. 근데 돌아보면 같이 있지 못한 시간은 두고두고 후회가 남아. 돌이킬 수가 없어. 언젠가 아빠의 빈자리를 애들은 무엇인가로 되갚으려고 할텐데. 큰 태하 대견하지만 맘이 아프다. 두 부부 보니 맘이 왜 아프고 아련하지.
As the oldest child and having two younger siblings, I can totally relate to taeha. I mean we have to take care of our siblings and we don't get attention at all. :((
I just feel too bad for the boy. I can literally feel that empty space in his heart...the pressure of being reliable and responsible. I have lived my life being in the same situation. Playing the same role. And believe me, when we grow up, it hurts more. And for the mom, I kinda find her immature to think that "that like doing that". He might be okay with doing that and maybe even like it a bit, but he is just 12! He deserves to get the affection & attention just like his other siblings.
I’m the eldest out of 4 kids and I resonate with Taeha so much, being one of the parents when you’re still a kid yourself. I hope he doesn’t grow up to resent his parents like I did, and I hope his parents express their gratitude for him cause it isn’t so easy being selfless . He’s the glue of the family 🥺💛
That's what I kept thinking. As much praise he gets for being mature, he should still be able to have a childhood. His mom was able to see how much he does so I truly hope his efforts are recognized ❤️😭
제가 태하 입장으로 어린시절을 보내고 성인이되고 이제는 제 일을 하고 있어요 ㅎㅎ 중고등학생때도 동생위주로 제 생각이 돌아가고 유치원데리러가고 초등학생이 유모차끌고 소아과 가고 문화센타 엄마역할로 가기도 하고 ㅎㅎ 엄마 아빠 역할을 제가 할려고 노력했었어요 그래야 엄마아빠가 좋아하고 덜 힘드실꺼니까요 지금은 동생들 가끔이라도 용돈 줄려고 제가 쓸 돈 줄이고, 후에 책임지고 막내 용돈도 챙겨줘야하지 않을까 고민한답니다 둘째 입시 막내 고등학교 성적까지.. 부모님들이 강조하지 않지만 스스로 그렇게 생각하게 되더라구요 물론 저희 셋 사이가 너무 좋아요 언니 누나 하면서 전화도 하고 데이트도하고 동생들끼리는 2살 차이라 서로 카페도가고 벚꽃놀이도 가는 좋은 남매사이에요 셋이 서로 밤에 데리러 가겠다고 싸우기도 하고요 하지만 조금은 벅찰때도 있어요 제 미래에는 제걱정과 동생들까지의 걱정도 있거든요 내가 동생들까지 책임져야지 열심히 살아야지 돈 모아야지 필요한게 있으면 사주어야지. 양보 배려 몸에 배여서 사회에서 늘 양보하게 되더라고요 .스스로의 주관이 사라진것 같아요 ㅎㅎ..주변에 힘든친구 조금은 동생같은 친구 를 챙겨줘야한다는 강박감이있어요 그러면 안되는데 그친구도 어엿한 성인이도 스스로 할 힘이 있는데도 불구하고 제가 달래줘야 마음이 편하더라고요 무거운거,힘든거 옆사람보다 제가 해야 마음이 편하고 집에 일이 생기면 제가 중심이 될려고 애써요 윗사람들 한테 잘보일려고 하는듯한 제 모습에 한번식 헛웃음이 나올 때도 있고요 우리큰딸 우리 첫째,늘 고마워 라는 말이 이제는 마냥 좋진 않고 버거워지기 시작하는 26살이 되었네요 조금은 벗어나서 제 주관 스스로 어릴때 시절을 탓하지 않고 살고 싶어서 주저리주저리 썻네요ㅎㅎ 태하야 너무 애쓰지마 부모님의 역할은 부모님만 할 수 있는 부분이 있더라 너도 아직 아가야 힘들면 힘들다 이야기 할줄 아는 아이가 되길 바라
자꾸 큰애한테만 무거운 짐 지운다 하는데 ..지나친 오지랖입니다~ 다 알아서 하리라 생각합니다. 예전에 다른 육아예능에서 봤는데, 태하가 혼자일때인가..둘째 까지만 있을태 김성은씨가 거의 초등학교 들어갈 나이의 아들 밥 직접 떠먹여줬어요.. 그만큼 첫째 한테도 엄청 잘했었고 사랑 마니 받았어요.., 동생들이랑 나이 차이도 꽤있기에 어느 정도 이해하고 받아들일거예요. 경제적 여유도 있으니 잘 밀어줄거고.. 악플좀 ㄴㄴ
첫째로 태어났기에 자연스레(?) 저러는 것도 있을 것같아요. 저도 장녀인데 엄마가 힘든 거 많이 봐서 전 엄마에게 미안함 + 죄책감이 큰데 (도움이 못돼서) 동생은 그런 감정 거의 없더라구요. 같은 환경에서 같은 이야기를 듣고 자랐는데 말이죠! 장녀 장남 콤플렉스 같기도 하고ㅠㅠ
16:27 when his mom was saying that she doesn’t know what she would do without taeha and he patted her back like “it’s okay”.. i just hope he’s really okay and that when he’s older he doesn’t feel a disconnect to the family you can tell he missed his dad but the little girl was honestly so disrespectful and it’s really not funny like she’s so young and is already acting like that :(
Brb crying for the oldest child, he doesn't get enough T-T. They need to teach the girl "sharing is caring", at that age it can be seen as cute but not in teenagers.
Yea I didn't see it as cute honestly and I don't want to be mean but damn she is rude. And I mean she is a kid still but she shouldn't be like that. I was so mad.
Tae-ha is the blessing of God to this Family!!! i'm in awe when he said "Good job, good job today"!!! He is a man in the form of a 12-year-old child!!!
Taeha is such an amazing son most of us at 12 weren’t like that she is so blessed 😩😩💜💜Poor mother she has to carry 3 children, one is already hard and by herself. They need the father to be there and take care of them. Time flies too fast and if not enough spent together in order to watch them grow up they can regret it later. She is so tired but so strong 💪
As the oldest child I can relate to the eldest having to be more mature and take more responsibility but I think he genuinely likes being a big brother and he enjoys spending time and taking care of everyone plus we see a fraction of what really goes on here, dont think you know everything there is to the family
정조국. 가족들 모두 희생하는데 그걸 느끼지도 알고싶어하지도 않는데... 정조국 개인적으론 편하겠지만 아빠로선 완전 빵점. 김성은은 본인 선택이지만 태하는 무슨 죄..우울증에 참고 또 참고 불쌍. 그나이에 누릴것을 못누리네. 짐이 너무 무거워. 엄마 아빠가 생각이없고 무개념. 부모가 첨이라는걸로 변명 안됨. 그냥 생각이 없고 걍 개인주의.
Watching Taeha really made me get choked up; I remember being in such a similar position with being the eldest child that everyone depended on and put a lot of pressure on and how it made me into a person that has a lot to work on nowadays. Taeha seems to have an amazing head on his shoulders at such a young age and I hope that he gets all of the love, support, and time from both of his parents that he needs in order to follow his dream. I especially hope that he never has to give up on his dream for the sake of his family; he has such a bright future ahead and he deserves the best.
I have never disagreed with a comment so much in my life. When the main panel said that Taeha was too old to give kisses to his dad that blew me. He is only 12 yrs old and like the rest of the kids, he hasn't seen his dad for 2 months it's not like he doesn't feel any less happy to see his dad like the other kids. Till this day and age me and my brother still give kisses to my mom and dad on the cheek and receive them to and we are 19 and 20 yrs old. The culture and upbringing for kids in Korea are all about growing up fast and taking care of the rest of the family as a substitute for the parents and I think that is very unfair. He's 12 for gods sakes he should be surrounded by loss of affection and love at that age, yes its great that he is such a responsible older brother but at the same time all 3 children should be given the same amount of attention his little sister no matter how old she is you can tell that is "her way or no way". They need to discipline her on equality and sharing, her older brother has every right to express himself at that age and want his father's attention as well that's what a normal child will want he shouldn't be worried about other responsibilities of yielding to his siblings just because he's the oldest 24/7.
@@lemonstrangler Well it is personal preference based on your own cultural and home environment so I am not one to judge. It just surprises me to see since I've been raised since I was a small baby by a family that gives hugs and kisses on the cheek or forhead as a way to show affection and that they love/care about you.
honestly it’s crazy to see how mature their eldest son is, i am honestly so sorry for him i wish they’d spent more time with him as well, it’s especially hard if you have younger siblings:( i hope he continues to grow up well
I would like a son like taeha but I would like him to have a greater bond with their dad than Taeha .You can see how the neglectance of fatherly love is affecting him .This boy has had to grow up 3x faster to be that male figure when his dad is gone. This is not bashing the father as he is working hard to make money for his family
@@whiteg1815 exactly but from the same personal experience I've watched it all happen to my brother and they tend to shut people out, it's not good mentally
Its hard being the eldest. I'm an adult and I know I'm their daughter. But the dynamic between my siblings is difficult sometimes. I resent my parents for making me their "mom" and I resent my siblings for not helping my position. My siblings resent me because I am not their parent and I feel that when I try to ask them for something. I try my best to be their sister... but it's so hard when I've been given this position where I can't satisfy both groups. And I feel like leaving and moving out was probably the best for everyone. Being in the picture only brings toxicity...even if my parents have show their appreciatiom towards me. Its a hard life 🥲
@@lizbetcruz172 as the youngest of 4 kids. I Appreciate my older sisters especially the oldest because even today I needed to do school shopping and my mom didn’t pick up or anything but she sent me money ,she also took me on a huge shopping spree. My mom and my sisters relationship is not the best because my mum is hardheaded but ive always looked up to her and felt the need to reach her expectations. She got me my first phone aswell and the only person who cared about my mental health . I’ve seen how hard oldest siblings get it and especially with POC families. I don’t think people appreciate their oldest sibling enough .She literally feels like my mum especially with the huge age gap As soon as my sister turned 18 she moved out 2 hours away and refused help from my mom so my mom couldn’t say I told you so .Honestly my mom had high demands like all of my siblings one by one want to run away and so do I
사람들 오지랖은 ㅋㅋ 첫째가 엄마아빠 사이 좋은거 보면서 크고 사랑받아 커서 저렇게 엄마 위하고 동생들 사랑해주는거지 댓글만 보면 첫째 잘못되는 줄 알겠네 ㅋㅋㅋ첫째들의 책임감은 사실 첫 아기에 대한 부모의 관심과 사랑을 온전히 듬뿍 받아서 생기는거고 둘째는 확실히 첫째를 키워본 부모들이 첫째만큼 아이의 일거수일투족에 관심을 안주니까 자연스럽게 더 애정을 갈구하고 애정결핍처럼 보이죠... 여튼 사랑넘치는 가정 부러워요♥
I disagree with Jang Hoon. Maybe it's the society, culture and mentality Asians are raised in which looks at physical affection by sons towards their parents as awkward and uncomfortable but honestly, that just ruins our relationship with our parents. There is no shame whatsoever in being able to openly hug, kiss and say I love you to our parents. Instead, we should encourage that even more especially today with all that is going on. I really enjoy watching variety shows but often end up disagreeing with the patriarchal, misogynist and traditional views. Also, I can see Taeha growing up to be a responsible and understanding person. He just needs more love and affection
@A Sprocket Being physically affectionate with one's family has NOTHING to do with inappropriately touching people. Teach your children about boundaries and respect, rather than deprive them of affection, weirdo.
@A Sprocket You’re absolutely ridiculous because that’s the shit that happens as a result of doing shit like that most of the time from what I’ve noticed. You’re doing the biggest disservice to your son if you think like this. Teach your sons how to respect people & don’t blame it on being affectionate. People who say shit like that just don’t want to admit they failed as parents because they didn’t teach their sons to respect females.
Es verdad es hay donde el hijo empieza a aislarse y después se preguntan por qué no comparte con la familia, puede llegar a sentir incluso que no es parte de la familia, cuanto más lo veo, más me indignó, me da frustración ver al hermano mayor
