Kingbetweeners Contribute🤴🏽| Red Flags That Men Should Look Out For In Women |Epd 81 

I don't know why you guys are screaming my name on the passive aggressive part🤷🏾‍♀️. I've just realized I am walking red flag😂😭

Hey inbetweeners, a kingbetweener here. First is to give the TMI ladies their flowers 💐, their content is quite informative, and educative to the men on the femal perspective, which can be rare but exceptionally instrumental in terms of helping us understand the female p.o.v and grow in healthy ways. Since the topic is red flags, I'd like to weigh in on the condescending red flag; I've come to respect how closely men attach love to respect. For example, its an uphill task to find men saying they love what another has done but would rather say, 'Respect!' Thus there's a big way in which men who are respected feel that seive into them feeling loved. That being said, constant disrespect is a red flag and even deal breaker for me. Reson being, even when there's criticism to be given, I am a huge beliver that can feedback can be deseminated without dismantling someone's dignity. That most times means 95% honey & 5% salt. It's safe to say beyond the common love languages at the very top for me is gentleness. In conversation and beyond, gentleness and respect should always prevail. Lastly, the best way I've figured to attract the best sort of partner you desire, is for to mould yourself into the best type of partner you could be. 😊 Cheers.

the man who will marry Lydia will find Gold, mark this comment.

Man, I wish more women had done the self work like Lydia, she usually seems super self aware and not biased towards her own gender, love it!

Can George Ndirangu be on TMI guest list this year please

Here now, after seeing Murugi's car and I am dancing for joy. Girl!!! That machine is life. Congratulations! Love the consistency. I'm here for 2023 greatness. Halafu consider a meet and greet this year huku mashinani. Nanyuki may be? Embu? 😭😭😂 Lazima nijitetee. Halafu, Georgie Ndirangu!!! Forgive me for all the exclamations 😂 but aki dude is needed here. His perspective on life is gold especially career, relationships and just being a good human being. He teaches us balance in work and social life. I didn't think it could be done. Please consider him 🙏🙏🙏 Halafu, Lyd, thank you for collaborating with Tuli Brands. I got some really nice dresses from them. Love it. Your plugs are fantastic kwanza the romper from Rencia Boutique. 💙 💙 💙 💙💙 All love ladies, all love from me to you!

I love love love Lydia's hair and makeup in this episode,so stunning 😍

"does she wanna change you, or does she wanna adjust you slightly..." i'm dead!😂

Lyd we said there's no whispering to Murugi on the show. 😂😂you tell us all we want to hear.

At home + eating biryani + drinking a cold Heineken zero beer + WATCHING TMI = the PERFECT Wednesday evening. Just bliss 🥰

Truth be told Murugi,struggles make you develop thick skin in life,right from thinking doing and living life.

"Struggle Olympics" got me, lyd you are a comedian

As a guy,These has to be my best episode.

Lyd saying, "struggle olympics" 😭 I've laughed a lot watching today's episode! Thank you, ladies.

Listening to this I realized, like Murugi, that I have some serious Red Flags and I don't even know how these men have been dealing with me...😂😂 this made me realize that we honestly need to display some level of grace coz I too need grace and to be understood. However, setting my boundaries and standards is important coz there's only so much that I can handle.

As a beb who can be passive aggressive, I have learned through self introspection that it's due to childhood trauma. The trauma of not being heard or considered, so the only way you can express your self is through tu little little aggressive things

The way Murugi humbles herself and looks down when Lydia talks about a red flag that Murugi relates with is so funny

First of all..looking great ladies,the consistency in this podcast 👏🏽👏🏽we are here for it. Also..i believe as a GROWN adult,one should have the discernment to decipher what is shareable and what is not esp when it comes to your friends,as much as we love “mushene” there are some lines you just can’t cross esp if it was told to you in total confidentiality.

"Does she want to change you or does she want to adjust you slightly" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 please!! 😂😂😂

Best episode ever...i not only learnt that i am a walking red flag but also that i am an emotional abuser coz am the queen of silence treatement😂🤭

I have AVOIDED watching this episode but since i have exhausted the next 2, today is the day. Not even halfway through and let me just say, i have been TAGGED, DRAAAGED and definitely attacked 😭🤣 Aggressively taking notes.

The way shawties got me confused on the Happy new year vibe though!!!!🤣

Never felt so understood like this before👑. Your mental health is as important as you're physical health

When Lyd said is this your gorilla 🤣🤣..I loved this episode ladies!

Ladies you look beautiful and the quality of the video is great,so is the editing and lighting 😍😍

Oh! Susan😂😂I give silent treatment.But this year I am trying my best to communicate than snob somebody who has disappointed me.I love you Lyd and Murugi you guys give us really good content..I have never missed an episode ever...Keep winning.Lyd your make up is on point 😘😘🥰🥰.We love to see women thriving At least we have people like you to look up to.

Lyd your sense of humor is 10/10. You both deliver such great content❤

The constant thing I've had in this episode is laughter😂😂

Am a red flag..I understand why I am single now😅 working on this babe on therapy 🥰

since we've been told to chile..I'll only say that I'm glad to understand the concerns kingbetweeners have expressed, so profound and enlightening...ladies y'all looking sooo glamorous and the make up is 😘

"Is this the buffoon u want to be with?"😂😂😂😂😂😂 Let's all embrace therapy

My girls’ make up is GIVING today! Looking great ladies ❤

The episode was fantastic💖 I enjoyed it Lydia's hair wins the award today😍

But Lydia is funny,,,her sense of humor is amazing ❤

Murugi looks stunning 😍😍😍

Damnnnnn! I felt so tagged hereeeeee...Go good when men speak out, now I know how women could be toxic too!

I was watching on my laptop and I quickly had to grab my phone to comment. Females who tell their men their friends secrets is a red flag even in friendships!! THATS A NO from me. It shows you don’t respect your friends.👐🏾 Lol and when the relationship ends on a bad note watch those secrets fly out🤣

Naah I've rewatched that cow part multiple times because 😂😂😂😂😂 i'm in tears

The buffoon! 🤣🤣🤣 Oh my goodness - that just made my day. Today's has been so funny - love it!

39:00 about this part…..what if you just need some time to find away to communicate more effectively other than just lashing out…..what if you want to find the right words to communicate what he or she has done wrong and how that has affected you……see the problem with telling your partner that you need time to process your emotions is that they’ll get used to the fact that every time they do something wrong…..or when your going through something or in a bad mood…..they’ll automatically feel like they need to give you space so that you can sort all that internal turmoil alone…..and sometimes that isn’t the case😅sometimes you need they to just hold your hand through it…..I hope I’m making sense😅for me personally when I’m angry or sad I just have a lot of unfiltered , messy noise going on in my head and I wouldn’t like to expose my partner to all that darkness💔

Huby's 6 month silent treatment is a hot chillie red flag!! That's a defunct relationship/a gone case, i doubt i can stand that narcissistic abuse

Thank you. It is critical for us to talk about challenges, explore solutions, and find resources. I really enjoy your content, even the stuff I am not on board with. May you continue to have success because we all benefit.

😂😂😂😂Lydia's mood in this episode was at tops. Hilarious video. Love it.

🤣🤣🤣 couldn't wait for today's episode!! I feel tagged. Its crazy that I've never thought of myself having a red flag. Always ready to learn from my TMI besties📚🥂

This episode has made me check myself honestly most of the time we always concentrate on the flaws of others, I've been tagged in more than 2 characters thankyou for this I'm working on myself.

Murugi,herding cows is not necessarily abt the manual labor aspect of it but can be seen thru the lens of a bonding experience btn ya hubby & ya son. It's great for kids to see/experience how their parents grew up,so outdoorsy stuff shldn't be aligned or perceived with negative connotation. Positive experiences open up childrens' minds.

Hey ladies. Another Kingbetweener and a fellow RU-vidr here. 🥂🥂 Yeah, I think a woman telling her homegirl's secrets to her man is a red flag because it kind of shows she's got loose lips. A lot of men like to feel like their woman is their fortress and their safe place and that what we share with her or what goes on between us stays between us. But when she's sharing other people's confidential matters it can easily make us thinks she's divulging our personal matters as well to third parties and that's not cool. Yeah, so for me it's a red flag. People need to be able to trust you if they open up to you about private matters. Love the podcast by the way.

Giiiiirrrrll 😍 both of you are stunning...completely tagged, a walking red flag for sure

Great episode. As one who grew up in the city, I get not seeing where cows can come in, but so glad that my old man introduced us all to both the city and farm worlds. There're the siblings that fell in love with farm life and though they work in the city, they have a "small farm" to escape to and breathe every so often. My dad has a much blissful retirement as he has his goat/cow or two to wake up to and animals can be therapeutic. I'm with the Ozband. Introduce kids to as many worlds as you can. Let them have a feel and decide if they're into it or nah. They might surprise you. 🙂

Drag us by the edges, drag us🤣🤣. One thing about TMI is the consistency💜

it's hilarious that y'all spent the first 20 mins talking about your own red flags 😂 i love y'all

Weeeeh,the way I have been tagged,Mungu tu.2023,we are working on ourselves. You ladies look so lovely.

Murugis new ride is 🔥 🔥 love love love

Tagged on all the points. Getting therapy ASAP

Lyd’s sense of humor is so nice😂🫶🏽

You two are couple goals😍. Love the connection between you two, and how you both know each others' red flags😂

I didn't know that I have been seriously passive aggresive untill today. All I knew is that I would not communicate my feelings clearly. My other red flag according to other people is that am too principled. 🤦🏻🙊 Thanks Lydia and Murungi.

"Adjust you slightly" Murugi? I'm on the floor🤣🤣🤣

I was away for a while my phone had issues but I have repaired it and I missed many episodes but am back to watch all but now am back ...♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

Murugi saying Cows reminds me of Sustas and the way Danni hated the fact that her boyfriend was always speaking about cows🤣🤣🤣🤣 and she hated cows so it is hilarious

I was literally just told, for the upteenth time, that I make him feel stupid...in the meantime in my head...."but that is so stupid!" We cannot argue over the same thing multiple times, with you presenting the same , ahem, stupid argument, and expecting a different result...Bottom line, I cannot repeat myself a hundred times. I am neither your school teacher nor your mother!

Murugi's earrings 🥰 🔥❤

Ooh my gosh ..... Am a victim of silence treatment ... Red flag I thought it was maturity 🤣🤣 shock on me

It is Murugi and the cows for me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The church also gives free counselling. I feel tagged on the critical part n wanting to change the man. What if the change is on the positive side? What if you want to improve the man in terms of his career and aspirations? I was that girl last year pushing my man to be the best version of himself, but it never yielded any fruit. This year, I am more relaxed. I'm not grooming a grown man. If he sees the need to change n improve himself, he will do it. And i agree with Lydia on this one. It's tiring in the long run.

“My Ethan!!!!” 😂😂. Actually a good topic would be “how to navigate dating/marrying someone from a different social/financial class”

The energy here is giving ..brilliant amazing gorg babes with fantastic content .....murugi and mukami good job👍

Murugi's reactions🤣😂😂

Murugi decided to bring out the comedian in her😂😂

'The sky isn't green'is sending me😭😭😭😭

For me sharing gossip with my hubby is a no go zone..I have learnt some life lessons here..its a no for me.

Mid week check in It's definitely Tmi 😊😊❤

Murugi’s dress is giving 🥰🥰 it’s giving yummy mummy, rich aunty, happy wife❤

I feel tagged on all of these, a waving red flag over here 🤣🤣🤣

Strong solid mennnnnnnnnn I feel you Lydia

Lyd is STUNNING!….looks happier and well restrd

Murugi would have made an amazing lawyer because what are these rebuttals 😂😂🙆🏾‍♀️

I swear Murugi is a whole duvet!Red duvet 🤦🏾😹😹

Am here seriously waiting to hear my red flags 🚩 then boom struggle olympics 😂 not the baboon and gorilla chilling 😂giving me stand up comedy 😂😂😂karibu 🤏i loose sight on the importance of the topic ,,,,vibe back to back❤️🥰

0:06 Awesome make up...looking beautiful ladies❤

19min in... Struggle Olympics 😭😭😭😭😭😂😂

Struggling Olympic got me screaming

My Ethan😂😂😂

Not the whispering agaiiiinnnn, haha, just kidding. Love you guys

It's definitely TMI😄.We appreciate the King betweeners 😂😂😂 even on this #WCW❤️.

" I don't care what he's saying"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🚩🚩🚩🚩

It's struggle Olympics for me 😂😂

Always funny and real at the same time. Lv u guys.

Murugi heading cows isn't a struggle especially for boys. See it's no coincidence that alot of ladies in today's world complain of the fact that most of today's guys are soft both mentally and physically. It does a boy very well to be out there being hands on rather than being sheltered through and through. Did you know that the average child under 12 today only spends less than 2hours outside,that's a very scary statistic because theres just a certain type of mental strength( that Lydia was talking about) that being hands on with nature does that can't be substituted for anything else.

Don't patience and listening kinda go hand in hand. People who are patience with people are amazing listeners too. Am learning to be a good listener. Like be truly present when listening to people. Enjoyed this ....I like your honesty

I was just like "Talk to me directly please ladies"😂😂😂. Best episode so far. I purpose to do better aki

“Thank God my ass is big” 😂😂 we love a self aware queen 😂

and then she realizes she got red flags🙊, its Murugi being defensive for me🤣🤣🤣🤣

Wueh Murugi, full disclosure 😄

I need therapy so bad 🙆‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Lyd is so funny and Murugi's laughter😂

Who was in charge of volume because the shouting that was done in this video🤣🤣🤣🤣I'm I the drama 🤭

yes we are here gals love love love you two.

This episode is epic,aki the facial expressions 😂😂hawa madem watanimaliza 😂😂

I loved this episode 😌