😂😂😂 I love the way people say Zulu is wise. He sure is but has gone through his share of relationship pain definitely to be able to give such advice. It's just life.
Benji I am forced to comment after I couldn't hold back to the too much wisdom you're imparting in us as women. Thank you and may The most High God bless you. We need Benjamins as men.
Ladies also ghost when a man is not defining the relationship we are afraid to invest our emotions too much and then head nowhere we prefer to quit now that being a lady you cant explain you leaving because they are not opening up & this ghosting thing is inhuman someone mature should communicate.
Sometimes I ghost not because I was fake or anything but it is the realization of lack of mutual effort and clarity is obscured from the woman. So I save myself from the emotional breakdown because I would have well articulated my intentions and clarified them but still they seem not to be reaching the right ears. On the other side I'm generally an overthinker so a woman who can't communicate clearly put's me in an emotional rollercoaster so to avoid this I pull back because I expect the same clarity from here be it rejection or acceptance.
I think the chemistry between two people who shared sex, secrets and alot ...its just hard to know what really eats them up... relationships are different... ✌ all we need is be wise and respect ourselves
Some of what Benjamin reveals about men is very difficult for women to accept, but unfortunately that is how some men think. Women take this opportunity to learn. As he says, play your role as a goalkeeper very well so you are not left holding the loss of the team
Coz men have several options to juggle if you start playing too hard to get he will drop you and focus on the other options at this point the guy is not looking for a girl to marry
I had an ex who literally disguised himself to be what I said I was looking for. Upon parting ways, the true him came out....let me say he wasn't who he claimed to be, the animal came of the cage. 🤓🤓🤓🤓 So, don't give off your cards.
I think men ghost sometimes to keep the door open. He wont come out with it and tell a girl he is leaving for such such a reason so he can come back if whatever hes leaving her for dosent work out.
Me Zulu I envie you my request from you is to organize a women conference a special single ladies who are looking forward into a permanent relationship
Why would a man worth his salt ask how many men a girl has slept with? It does not matter unless it has an influence in your relationship like if there are children
Some ghost you to seek attention to remind you they still exist after you severally ignore them 😂😂😂...so they waiting for you to notice and say something.
There are men who prey on single mothers and have bad intentions when it comes to their children. So, keeping a child a secret in the very beginning might not be a bad thing. That way child predators will be less likely to pursue someone who doesn’t appear to be a good target.
Hi peace Where did you get this from? How can you hide a child because you are afraid the man can have bad intentions toward the child? Doesn't make sense to me. I don't know what type of men you been dealing but that is nonsense.
thanks benjamin. you have just answered my long time question. Joyce have this topic " why do they leave and then few months later come back?" after the complex damage already done
Think about it. If he cares so much about ur past then is he the real one for u? Iwould have a problem if u are dwelling on my past if it is negative. Gods grace abounds and it is God u looking at when i now change to a better version. He also has my future. Man can go sit down if he is perturbed by my x life.
What if this man just realised you probably aren't interested or he feels his energy is not being reciprocated, always replying to messages late (even when online) and perhaps even being blueticks? Why should I not just pick up my pride and go?
Any woman who does that is not healthy enough for a relationship and they should work on themselves but instead of ghosting you can break up with her respectfully but firmly don't let her try to trap you with fake ptomises of change ghosting is not the answer
When God says " no sex bfore marriage" it's because he knows there's unwanted pregnancies as one of the consequences. God's rules are there to protect us as a society and as a nation but majority have never understood it.
Why not pay attention to the spiritual side because before the run something must have happened in the spirit and it could on either side. Also spiritual spouses will definitely make one run or even kill.
That is another topic altogether. I watched one past TK i will look for it and try to share but if u have a partner in the spirit u never marry in physical. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nyNQoDA2WDA.html
Benjamin has explained well. Let me add you some more reasons as I know them based on experience in therapy and marriage as well. Men leave with self reasons 1. Not compatible 2. Not ready to settle 3. His X coming back 4. Low sperms count 5. Ghosts of the past-Fear 6. His parents/siblings pressure 7. Mum's boy 8. Living a lie 9. Age factor-inferiority complex 10. Sickness Men leave, caused by the woman 1. She wants to settle he is not ready 2. He discovers that she slept with his brother or best friend or relative 3. She has refused to change her attitude, particular recurrent trait etc 4. Not improving on bed delivery 5. Keeps referring on his X in comparison to the incumbent 6. Discovers that she is after what he has not who he is 7. Dressing and grooming styles he doesn't like 8. Drinking/Clubbing habits 9. Weak Morals not ready to change 10. Hard to change or improve in future If you need any specific item expounded, please ask I will respond with details.
Mama yao OK. Is it 7 of men or seven of women? Cheating or separation could be caused by one or several of these reasons especially when addressed severally but no change
Ooh, OK. It is one of the major causes by the way. Often it is the boy who refuses to grow out of the mama and take responsibility as an independent person. He never focuses to his own destiny but relies on his mother to shape it, sadly
Ghosting doesn't have to be a relationship partner also friends in a period of two years I got ghosted by some guy we were getting to know each other he vanished I never bothered him again then this year my two female friends ghosted me one just vanished after I had posted a video on my whatsaap and I I never tagged she just overreacted and came back and texted me on FB asking if we could go out for lunch I never responded to her text and she unfriended me on FB my second female friend she was more like my bff ghosted me and came back calling me telling me her boyfriend cheated on her and she was depressed and then the last person was a guy I met online in a span of two years I ghosted by 4 people whom I cared for the most that made me learn a lesson that I should stop caring for people that much some people do not deserve my love and kindness
Say that again. It happened to me. The first question was...do you still love?.Really...thats being a narcissist. Always wanna make someone feel guilty. I dont play those kind of games with the dead. My heart was already at peace that you are left me😁😁😁😁. To Benjie our therapist...big up!!!!!
Tell that to God because he is the one causing conception. A lot of married women washed out their fetus when they were single and now their wombs cant bare a child ...so u tell me about should or shouldnt. Jesus loves childrenhe didnt single out the ones born in wedlock from one night stands...
