We started with putting our child on the toilet from the time she could sit up. Pay attention to times of the day that they poop and also check for signs of pooping (like the grunting), and run to the toilet.
So happy I dabbled in elimination communication with my little one. At 18M we obviously aren’t potty trained but we aren’t scared of 💩 directly in the toilet a few times a week if we’ve got the timing right! Not sure if I’ll be doing it for my second, though so this is really helpful for that!
We started this since birth and poop in the potty consistently since 14 weeks. Our baby absolutely hates soiling a diaper (we had about two accidents per month until 6 months while asleep and then a bout of stomach flu where he couldn't make it to the potty and man... The distress of pooping in the diaper was noticeable)
We've been doing EC since baby was 4 months old. We didn't bring potty with us when we would run errands on the weekends or during the week to appointments but he'd still use potty in the morning. But occasionally he'd need the potty every now & then when we were out. Because we didn't have the potty on these trips this became an issue. EC says, if you can't catch them all dont stress. But letting them go in the diaper when they need potty is not healthy for them. There needs to be a disclaimer.
Another video I wish I had seen when toilet training my first child several years ago. The potential problems you describe at the beginning are EXACTLY what happend to my little one and eventually we had no choice but to use medication via a suppository to help her clear all the compacted waste AND then redevelop her confidence in going to the toilet after such a negative experience....
You poor thing 😞 my daughter isn't old enough for toilet training yet but I couldn't imagine the pain and distress of that for child and parents. Hope things are better now and they are even stronger from it ❤️
That sounds like a traumatic experience for you both. I hope it wasn't too difficult for her to over come her fear of using the toilet. It can be a very stressful experience for everyone.
@@TheLucy1014 It was very stresfull at the time- especially as it peaked during the first lockdown! But we were very fortunate in that we focused on creating a more positive overall experience for her following this and she quickly got over her fear- proving again how resilient kids can be because I myself, 3 years later, still think about it when she goes to the toilet!! A lot of what we did is covered in this video so definitely recommend rewatching when you are ready to toilet train!
@@EmmaHubbard Thankfully Emma she was so resilient and surprsingly recovered quickly from the experience to have a healthy relationship with going to the toilet! The first few times she went after this experience, as well as all the things you mentioned, we gave her a chocolate. Although we try to avoid bribery and chocolate as an incentive in general, in this case it was instrumental in turning a negative association into a positive one.
I put our baby on the toilet while holding her or I sit behind her on the toilet for support at 5months old and she is now just over a year old and she has no problem going on. But this is good information.
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We just started with a small potty on the floor, which was accessible at all times. This made the transfer to the big toilet so much easier! My daughter was just going to the toilet before she went to class 1 at four years old, before that she couldn't hold it long enough so she had a diaper at night and when we want out. We took our time and there wasn't a lot of pressure.
Hi Emma! I watch all your videos even if the topic is not timely for me now. But this one soon enough will be. My second child is 1y5m old and toilet training is ahead of us. So I try to gather as much information as I can. 😊 my daughter when she was potty trained, refused to poop in toilet, she would just run into corner and poop there in her pants. If I catched her doing that I would bring her to toilet and put her on the seat and she would poop there. No problem, but she would not ask to go poop, as she would ask to go to pee. And we would talk every time, that if poop, then toilet. And about after 2 weeks of pooping in corner she just started to ask to poop in toilet. I don't know, something clicked I guess.
Thank you Emma! I love your videos. I am in the process with my first child and one thing that has helped me with my kid is to hug her while she is pooping. I have a small tool to seat right next to her. That haves her a sense of comfort and safety. Other thing is to celebrate loudly when she finish, and that works to motivate her too. And finally, she loves to see it disappear when pull off the chain (of course, we close the cover). We as parents, can express excitement and estimulate curiosity to make it a great experience too!! By the way, thanks for promote progressive training.
Do you have any tips for if your anxiety about poop/bathrooms is affecting your toddler? I have a 1.5 year old and we haven't started potty training but I can already see my anxieties affecting her when I do diaper changes vs my husband.
Hey Emma, once again this video comes at exactly the right time. So many great tips, thank you! 😊 What is your opinion of potties? My gut feeling says to avoid them and head straight to the toilet (we have a family seat) once he's ready. A potty somehow seems like an unnecessary detour. But I'm not sure?
I was wondering the same thing, my nieces got trained partly via a potty. They seemed to like it because in the start, they need to be fast, and they can get on it themselves without waiting for an adult, so there were few accidents. My sisters in law did it in kind of a parallel thing, they could go on the toilet or on the potty, whichever they chose at that moment, and it seemed to work fine.
Hi @MsLauroraBorealis personally I prefer to go straight to using a normal toilet with a family style toilet seat and a 2 - step foot stool. In this video I go into more detail about why this is my preference: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dozUWmgtkig.html Hopefully this makes it easier for you to make this decision. Just a note, if you do decide to use a potty then it's best to place it in the bathroom if there is room. This will help your child learn that this is where you go to poop or wee and also give them an opportunity to get use to the smells and sounds.
We started with potty since birth literally. With small babies potty is a great thing because it's tiny and accessible autonomously without needing to climb a toilet. It all depends when you start.
I watched all the videos coz actually they are the most informative in youtube as a new parent, but most of all to see that monstera thrive from the baby plant it was to the size it is now
Emma I honestly love your content but for me this thumbnail was simply shocking 😢 obviously we all can relate with the issue presented but for me it's just not okay to use an image of a crying girl on the toilet anywhere on the internet. I know you probably got that as a stock photo but I reckon we all should care about children's rights and their feelings. I'm pretty sure this girl didn't chose to be in this situation and I hope you understand where I come from. Still love your videos and hope you take this as constructive criticism ❤
I had a question my daughter is 22 months and I’m currently trying to potty train her. She is doing an amazing job about telling us that she needs to go to the bathroom but as soon as she gets to the bathroom she sits and nothing happens she then stands up and pees almost instantly after or like 5 mins (I never had this issue with my 1st daughter) so I was trying to see what I can do to help her to set her up for success because I also don’t want to force her.
Unfortunately my daughter (4 years) developed severe constipation due to fear of pooping , im going to use this to help me get her used to using the toilet
Thank you for another great & informative video. I am having issues with getting the toilet essentials list . I click it but it won’t work ?? Sorry to bother you about it.. but I would love to get the list :) Happy Easter btw 😁🐣
It can be extremely uncomfortable for your little ones if it does happen. Just good to be aware on how you may be able to reduce the likelihood of it happening if your little one is fearful of doing the first poop!
Do you have any tips for when this happens before reaching toilet training age? We have had it with our son since he was 8 months old, and have only been able to resolve it with medications, which doesn't seem a good long-term solution.
Hi, love this video but have a problem. Can you give any advice on the following. Living in Europe our toilet is not in our bathroom but is separate and a very tiny space. I can’t change my toddler in there we hardly fit in the space together standing. Would love your input ❤
I don't know if this is helpful, but my kid's autistic, and at that time she was still non-verbal (started talking at four y.o) and we didn't have a diagnosis yet so we pushed through, but rewards worked great on her. And in general, I always tries to think of it like this "my kid takes longer to learn new things, so I need to start teaching them sooner". You want them to counquer these things as soon as possible, and it might take more than twice as long to get there, so I'd start asap, but with baby steps. And make sure to not let bad habits/tick stick, divert that asap, those bad tics get harder and harder to get rid of the more times they repeat it. We got her off dipers between 1.5 and 2 yo, there were some relapses, but it's different for everyone.
My toddler is not potty trained he is 26 months and he had a stomach virus wirh diahrea then he became constipayed and then I noticed he is stool withholding I’m at a loss of ehat to do Dr just tells me to give him laxatives .. I’ve changed his diet and he is rarely pooping normally he tells me he wants to poop but he holds it in .. please help
@@rachelels elimination communication, look up.. go diaper free. How did we as a society do potty training before diapers were really pushed in the 60s. A baby lets us know when they're tired, hungry & when they have to go! Its developmentally important to pay attention to all of babies q's
@@TalytaB oh I’m aware of elimination communication i was jw if anyone had any other tips. I saw a video of a mom who had her kid potty trained by 6 months. People in the comments were dragging her but some people from foreign lower income countries praised her n said they potty train their kids by 1 bc the cost of diapers are too high to keep having them in diapers. My goal is to have my little one potty trained by a year. I’ believe it’s possible. Imho i think some people have gotten lazy bc when i was in college 12 years ago i worked pt at a pre school n was always amazed that there were big toddlers like 3 years old going on 4 still wearing diapers. I think kids would rather not have pee n poop filled diapers but i also think they adapt.
We are at the point where our LO, almost 3yo, will happily pee in the toilet and she's not wearing a diaper throughout the day, so she's familiar with all things toilet, but she refuses to try pooping on the toilet. She'll ask for a diaper. She refuses to sit on the toilet while pooping even while still having a diaper on for the familiarity, so I'm not sure how else to convince her to try it... Any ideas?
Hi Larisa, the first step is continuing to let her poop in the diaper but restricting her to the bathroom and then once she does the poop, if possible, I recommend removing the diaper and flushing the poop down the toilet. That way she can see that is where it goes. Then it's important to make sure her feet are supported by a footrest and she is sitting on a reducer ring or family style toilet seat, if she does plan to use the toilet. I would also think about watching a video called "Tom's Toileting Triumph". It's a cartoon which shows a boy learning to use the toilet and going through the steps. It can be helpful for kids to "see" what happens when people sit on the toilet - which is possible in this cartoon as the toilet is see through. You could also talk to her about what exactly she is worried about.
My 2.5 will go poop and pee on the (mini) toilet every single time if he has no diaper on. The moment we put a diaper/pull up/ underwear on he freely goes in that. How do I encourage him to go on the toilet when he is wearing something Vs naked from the waste down?
I have been following your other videos of Potty training which helped mea lot. Now she is diaper all day all thanks to u Emma. ❤ but only problem is it works only if bottom is bare. If i wore her pjs/underwear she is not able to know to siton potty.Even if going to nearby park I have to put on diaper. Please try to make a video with tips to overcome diaper usage when going out in park/ mall.
It's great to hear these videos have been helpful and your little one is able to use the toilet at home. From your description I am not sure why she is not able to feel she needs to use the bathroom when she has underwear on. The first step would be talking to her that although she has underwear on they will not 'hold' the wee so she still needs to use the toilet when her body says it needs to go. Then I recommend she wears underwear when she is at home (no long pants or shorts). She will have an accident but she will see the wee doesn't stay in her undies and she still needs to go to the toilet. When she has an accident try not to get frustrated, just reinforce that the undies are not like diapers and you still need to use the toilet. I would expect that she will soon learn that she needs to go to the bathroom. Once she learns this she may be able to start wearing only undies when she is at the park/mall.
Hello mam my baby is 3months old she is on formula milk, her potty is very sticky since tomorrow, yellow colored potty not runny not too hard soft and sticky what is means? She is also having cold, may cold is reason of this type of poop?
Going to share some personal experience that could potentially help parents watching this for advice: My mom went the positive reinforcement and reward direction with me. I've had really bad IBS-C my whole life so it took 2 years to complete potty training. The IBS stomach pains were a huge deterrent in potty training (similar to the stubbornnes-induced constipation talked about in this video), making the positive reinforcement pretty necessary. If you have a toddler with an angry gastrointestinal tract, rewards can help motivate your kiddo to work through the feelings of inadequacy that make them want to give up (***flashback to 3 year old me squeezing my mom's hands really tight while I sat on the potty, crying and saying "Mommy I can't do it, it won't come out"). Anxiety makes it all so much worse. I'm 29 now but we still laugh about Mom's method: the poo sticker reward chart. Mom had a little grid on paper with about 30 boxes. I got to choose a little sticker and put it in a box on the grid when I pooped in the toilet. When all the boxes were filled up, I got a reward (new barbie dress, piece of candy, etc.). Mom simultaneously potty trained me, improved my confidence, and taught me patience in working toward a goal. Please remember that if your kiddo has that much trouble going, see your pediatrician and/or a pediatric gastroenterologist. Little ones can have big gut problems, too.
My nieces have no anxiety or any other problems, but during potty training they all had a potty sticker sheet, and if they had it full, they got to pick out a toy, which they were all very proud of. I´m very happy your mom was patient with you and got you to feel good about yourself, she sounds like a wonderful parent.
@@yvonka63 Oh I absolutely adore my mom. She is my best friend, always has been. If I'm like even just 10% as good of a mom and she is, my kids will be okay.
I went for gummy bears for pooping in the toilet. Probably not ideal, but it helped us through a hard time of poopy pants 😬 The funny thing is, he only wants gummy bears after pooping, so he usually gets one gummy bear a day, while his father empties a whole bag every three days 😅 Parenting is hard 🙈
As per usual (since 2020) your videos come at the perfect time!! Have you heard of the Oh Crap potty training method?? If so, could you please share your thoughts on that style? Love your videos! 🤍
We did elimination communication since birth. Our baby poops on the potty since turning 14 weeks. he'll fuss to let us know he needs to go and we on our hand will offer him enough opportunities throughout the day. We've had about 2 poopy accidents a month until 6 months, all while he was asleep. Start early so you won't need to do this entire circus with a toddler who has developed a good 2-4 years lasting habit of soiling themselves.
@@huniebeee EC is not about holding a baby on the toilet all day. You start by offering it to them at every diaper change, when they wake up from the naps, or when you take them out after a long time in a car seat/stroller, etc... Much like you as an adult don't go to the toilet all the time. Later you figure our their cues and it saves so much time. Daycares adapt. Each baby that poops on the potty means less shitty diapers for them to change so they'll accommodate that if you got an established routine /system as a parent. Potty training is an investment one needs to make at some point in life and doing EC means that you invest this time from the beginning on. Waiting until they're older is not anyhow less work.
@Lyta Monique ah yes let's ask overworked and underpaid daycare workers to make sure your special baby is held over the toilet because that makes any difference. I have worked in several daycares across two states. We don't do that 😂
I've done almost all of my babies diaper changes in the bathroom since the day he was born. Happy to hear it might help him be more comfortable in the future.
Hi Emma. My daughter is 2 years old. She says when she wants to go pee and Poty but she won’t like yo seat on poty seat to do poty and pee. She like to stand and do pee. I tried everything but it’s not happening. What I need to do can you please suggest
Hi Emma, my son had a constipation in age of 1 from that time he is scared to poop so he holds he run and poop in the diaper by crying i tried to confort him explain everything still he holds and does poop after 3 days so its hard. he is 2 now still does the same. but after pooping he imitates how to sit to poop and to push but not doing in the pot at the actual time. Please help me😢
Such a helpful video! We are hoping to start potty training in the next 6 months if my daughter is able. Can I ask - do you recommend potties as a transition or are we best to just use the bathroom/toilet when at home? Thank you! Xx
Hi Hannah! My preference is to go straight to using the family style toilet seat with a two-step foot stool. I n this video I go into a bit more detail why this is my preference: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dozUWmgtkig.html I hope that helps!
My child always uses their potty when I use mine. Even if its just for fun. Am going to start changing her in the bathroom though, thank you. Slow and steady ❤
Watching this while my 2 kids have a viral diarrhea, I am so happy my younger still has diapers, even with two years now. Potty Training would have been horrible and it would have infected us parents too!
It sounds like all countries don't use the little floor potties we use here in the US. We started my granddaughter at 12 mos. by just sitting on it for a few seconds, then she started using it at 15 mos. old. She's now 23 mos.
Funny thing.... My First Son used to always remind me when he needed a stool because he didn't like his legs to dangle we had a stool in the bathroom but he would often run in there and sit down without it and then call for me to put it underneath him because he couldn't poop without it. I will say though the best way to potty train is to do elimination communication early and never diaper train in the first place. Babies have sphincter control from birth and they are naturally inclined to not soil themselves. If they have another option they will take it very quickly. We essentially diaper train before we potty train. We train babies to soil themselves for 2 years and they become comfortable with it. That's about the time we try to untrain it. Pretty silly 😅
Oh lord this is exactly what happened to me. I was never properly potty trained ever in my life and I often dread going to the toilet to poop so I made a habit of holding it in. What you described what medically happens in the colon is an eye opener for me as it was exactly what I experienced. I poop once or twice a week only as a result. I’m now 30+ years old and have just recently started pooping every other day. It is only now my probably stretched out colon has started healing from decades of holding on to the habit of holding it in that started in my early years of life. I will do everything in my power to make sure this doesn’t happen to my little one. Thank you for this video.
Hi Emma, please suggest me that what age is best to start potty training?? I am thinking to start at around 7 months(when my baby will learn to sit up) is this age is okay for toilet training??
We have a seperate bathroom and toilet…not enough room in the toilet to do a lie down poop nappy change…would you be recommending we move poop changes from the bathroom into the toilet and just do standing bum wipes (not always the easiest with the 21month old but doable)…
Really nice tips, thanks! Emma, what do you think about elimination communication methode ? My baby is very young, 10 months old, but he loves wearing no diaper at all!!
Everyone i know that implements it, including myself see the benefit. Although it is a commitment. But if you're breastfeeding then you'll be together 24/7 anyway so go for it. I would say, EC is all like if you can't catch them all then don't worry. I fell into this and didn't bring the potty with me when we'd leave the house (or I would & didnt use it)...causing baby to hold poo. So now we're definitely going all in. No mindset of, oh if he goes in his diaper oh well..now moving forward its going to be a part of our lives all 👏🏼 the 👏🏼 time👏🏼
These are great tips! I'm not worried about my son being scared of the toilet. It's his favorite play place in the house. If we forget to close the bathroom door, he's in there playing with the toilet brush, putting his hands in the toilet, and trying to flush. I sure hope all that time being a hot mess helps with potty training. Great idea about diaper changes, we'll start doing that.
